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Masculinity is a virtue. It cannot be toxic.

It's fine with me if he does. I hate her, too.

Feminists pretending to care about men will never get old

is not cool. i was bullied it now a trauma.

Side note : She belongs to the streets!

Toxic masculinity ruined my life.

So true even those ppl that dont listen 😭

All beta seeking validation here

Guys who realize Mecheivelli's philosophy is true Masculinity.

All guys getting validation from an idealistic girl because they are failure, beta , weak , remember boys think of solution that needs strength, you may be vulnerable but don't try to seak validation and become beta 😂

Masculinity= strength

Exactly.

Yes

Thank you for making this, as a man I’m honestly tired of being a man because of this.

I am one of the most sensitive, respectful & understanding guys out there..... Proof you say? I deep wash, exfoliate & moisturize my butt every day. It´s a whole new world ladies & gentleman. All kidding aside, great video.

Yea I’m tryna start over but I wanna start over with u in my life this time…

I am dealing with this right now as yesterday i decided to open up ablut a lot but not all of the abuse and neglect that my parents put me throughout my life i wrote 28 pages. And yah im the families black shee now its not like i wasnt already being a alternative trans queer person.

I feel so sorry for the (possible) children of some of these people. Imagine finding out your parent proudly acknowledges they got joy or this twisted sense of power from making others suffer... horrible

I’m a licensed mental health clinical therapist. The fear you have is more common than you think, and I believe it to be one of the main reasons people avoid seeking therapy. With this in mind I hope what I have to say can help you and others with this fear. We are trained from the beginning of our programs of study to have unconditional positive regard with clients which is a long multiple word meaning nonjudgemental. Our training in this is multifaceted to overcome biases and mannerisms in our verbal and nonverbal communication that come across as insensitive. When I’m with clients, I’m doing mental gymnastics geared towards the best practices for my clients wellbeing. For anyone feeling judged by a therapist then my recommendation is to bring this up to their therapist as soon as you can. I know that sounds simple when in reality it can cause stress and more fears about confronting a therapist due the power dynamics at play. We all have our off days when something else instead of our client is clouding our mind which hinders our active listening resulting in nonverbal communication mistakes by the practitioner. Other factors could also be causing a client to feel judged which are directly connected to their mental health disorder symptoms. A therapist needs to be aware of any thoughts a client has feeling judged so that they can help prevent barriers within the therapeutic alliance. However, every profession has bad apples in a bunch. Also, therapist are not a one size fits all. In these cases, I hope the client continues therapy with another therapist they can feel safe with being vulnerable with during sessions. The therapist-client relationship is the single most important factor for therapeutic benefits to be achieved.

Wow, your 'friends' are jerks. I wouldn't want to spend any day let alone my birthday with hyper critical, self-absorbed a-holes

My husband is. ‘toxic”. He never cries or shows his emotions, but he never abuses me and provides and protects our family…what a fucking nightmare!

I would still prefer a traditional man to the water downed versions that are the norm these days. I’ve found that toixic is ok so long as it isn’t carried to the extreme.

EDP and Cyraxx are also being bullied. They deffo need a white knight.😅

Me too, I don't celebrate getting a year older.

There is a recent poll showing that suicide rates are high among construction workers. It's the tough guy culture that is killing them.

That letter made me cry which is something I haven’t done in a long time. It almost felt like it was written by me to me. Thank you.

You are so lovely. There are very few people like you who have such a beautiful thinking. I totally agree with you.

lollll😂😂😂

Same gurlll In fact I’m listening to her on a random shuffle playlist on my Alexa rn 😅

Yep, I was thinking about this because today is fathers day. According to my mom, my dad was abusive. He had kids with 3 different women while married to someone else (not my mom), he's also addicted to drugs and alcohol. I met him a few times growing up and it was apparent that he has anger issues. I guess I'm glad that he stayed out of our lives for the most part but I do wish I had a good dad. I've never kept in contact with my dad. I actually just cut my mom out of my life a few weeks ago because she would always date abusive men and never stood up for us when they were abusing us. She would often leave us at abusive family members houses and she never owns up to what she did. She always denies what happened to us. I couldn't pretend like nothing happened anymore. 😮‍💨

Thank you for this video. I always felt lonely in my family at the holidays, and lonely with my 1st and 2nd husbands' families... my first Christmas alone was kind of nice, no drama. I made it feel cozy, played jazz music and read a good book. Saw some Christmas lights. I hope to establish my own single traditions as time goes by. I prefer being single than trying to fit in where no one wants me or even cares. You have some great ideas, and i appreciate your enthusiasm.

I just learned what it must feel like to have some one man-splane to you

Those bullies cannot say the same if their kids will experience what they did to their peers in the past

I've been gangstalked since the late 90s. It never ends. Its basically like workplace mobbing on the outside. This kind of harassment follows the target no matter where they move. Gangstalking is basically community harassment. I've been targeted by organized hate groups and they spread false rumors that sound believable.

Thank you for this video. I was raised by a single mom in Eastern EU. There is still strong toxic masculinity. I was ridiculed by my mom for having small arms, not going to a gym and not being a man enough. I discovered that I have a depression, anxiety and ADHD. When I tried to talk about it I was discouraged to seek mental health professional. I came to a conclusion that when you are raised by a single mom then you can be more toxic man because you have not a father figure and you don’t see that men have emotions, struggles, etc. I am unlearning these toxic traits but I still catch myself with thoughts if I am man enough. I was also asked by several people if am I gay. I am not gay but it again destroyed my self-esteem and reinforced toxic thoughts. I am glad that I visited a mental health professional. You can also mask your depression with a toxic masculinity. 😢

Not an excuse, just an explanation.

Agree. Ive always been very polite bc thats how I was raised. In 7th grade a girl took my personal diary and read it without my permission, when i found out , she laughed it off. I took her journal instead of her diary without permission to read it , mind you it was her journal not a diary. She immediately snatched it out of my hands , starting scolding me and my own friends came to her defense even after knowing the whole story. Just because the girl was sensitive and I was polite and understanding. 🤷‍♀️

I had like 8 bullies that were all family members to each other , I got phone calls at home, as soon as I got off the bus , all through middle school, I wanted to quit, but I had 1 True friend and she and half the school stood up to them and they backed down .

Men lean into extreme stoicism and keeping feelings to themselves because when they do otherwise, they're accused of "trauma dumping," or "giving women emotional labor," or being "ick." I refuse to uphold this fiction that "toxic masculinity" is driven by men or benefits men.

A bully is always a bully. They don’t change

Im a Earnhardt fan i hate Taylor Swift Dale Earnhardt > Taylor Swift

All bullies are cowards.

Lost me with putting on nails and dresses I don't see what that accomplishes as far as men wearing them

That's not surprising. They've existed in companies since the dawn of time and they're called CEOs. Also TicTac seems like a weird fucking place in general. Wouldn't expect more from people on a place who literally cosplay as serial killer victims. Highly suggest people keep it out of their life.

This video is way off the mark. Looking at male problems through a feminist lens is not helpful.

U look like as such a mix of actors of movie “past lives”.And your aura remind me this movie

There's nothing like hearing a woman tell you how to be a man. How did we get to the point where women could conceivably think that they should preach to men about a subject of which they obviously have no knowledge. Feminism has absolutely poisoned the ability of many people to even think rationally.

This is true..... My dad has slut shamed me when I told him I was SAed, ignores my identity, stated that I can't change my major when I only did ONE SEMESTER of COMMUNITY college, and we have a history of abuse and I have been in multiple abusive relationships..... I need to leave my most toxic one.....

It depends. As long as they are realistic. Some people are delusional, and too far from reality. I wouldn't say "lower" standards but rather optimize them to get the best possible outcome. Becoming more open-minded, is not the same as saying: Take whatever you can get..... date someone ugly with a horrible character.

Thankyou for gathering the courage to share this! It takes a lot of strength to address these issues and be vulnerable with yourself and your inner child, in the first place. But you actually took the opportunity to share it on youtube. My therapist wants me to start writing letters to my inner child and this video has been very very relatable and insightful. Hope you heal from your trauma and get the support, love, acknowledgment and compassion you deserve! Sending hugs ❤