To anybody who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life.
I used to be bullied a great deal when I was young. The best words my grandfather gave me before he passed was, if you spend all your time worrying about what others think and do you'll never enjoy anything. I try to view my day to day situations on that fact.
@Piscesmermaid Thank you. I lost my grandfather when I was very young. He was the strongest man I had ever known. He once told me, if you don't stand for something you'll fall for anything. I was watching the movie Sucker Punch a few years back, when I heard that line in the movie. We all really do have people, moments, and daily elements, whether it be friends, family, God, the universe trying to help guide us all if we allow it. Thank you and have a great holiday.
I was bullied as a child too. As an adult I realized something similar to what your grandfather said. For me it was, “if you keep allowing other people’s actions to control your emotions, you’ll never be happy. You have got to stop this or your life will never get better.” ❤
@@mercifulmermaidtarot2630 Thank you. Inherently I believe if we choose, being bullied in our youth can take us from feeling broken to empowered. It helps give us a sort of super hero power to sort out the fakes.
Five Rules to Detach Yourself from Someone: 1- All Relationships are Transient, the more you try to keep them the faster they will leave. 2- Master your Emotions, You have power of your mind. The soul becomes dyed by the color of its thoughts. 3- Preparing Your Mind how to stay Calm if something goes wrong, Loss is a Natural way of Life. 4- Focus on what you can Control, you can’t control other people’s Emotions about you, therefore Detach yourself. Stop wasting your Energy. 5- Think of a Bigger Picture. Will this pain matter in five years from now? Life moves on so do You. Everything in Life is Transient. Life is much larger than any single person.
it's amazing how practicing negative visualisation helped me recently. I was dating someone, they went away on the business trip and gradually started pulling away. I contacted them once and decided to step back. One day I told myself that I was attaching myself too much and started developing two catastrophizing scenarios: the one which is about the reality outside of our relationship, and the other that is within our relationship. This exercise made me realise that I actually control neither scenario, whether it's external real factors or that person's decision to change his mind or communication, I had no control over that. And then I told myself "whatever it is, I will be able to survive it". little did I know that next day I would receive a break-up message, not even a call, while I myself was away on a trip! but this exercise basically saved me from becoming an emotional wreck. I was able to sever the emotional connection to that man almost instantly. And I truly felt this was the first time that I absolutely controlled my mind. It was one of the most empowering feelings in my entire life!
Oh God, i need you now.... I cant seems to let go, the more i try to control my emotions the more i keep thinking of him.. 8yrs is alot.. Its hurts deeply😢
Do you know why you can not let go? Have you analysed your mind and focused? It is nothing to do with your tougher,,,is to do why? What is it? One option is to relax your mind so you can focused on real issues,my be you are in denial,,,,go to the GYM and keep doing intense workout call F 45, for a month,,,don't drink alcohol at all go on light diets,,,and focus a beautiful things,,,dream a lots, smile a lots, dress to kill, smile pn street to all the man see the reactions, be very mannered to your answer,,,love yourself,,,don't watch the TV or news,,,stop on media for wile,,,think everyone likes you because you are beautiful 😍 😅... I am very faraway from you,,,but I love you already,,,my be you are beautiful dream....Ciao 😅😊.. Don't forget the GYM... ❤
Like you, my Son never had a Father. He skipped out and moved across the world to Australia, leaving me a baby to raise. He's now 25 years old and Stoicism helped him to be a Man too. Stand tall. Stand proud. Lean in when necessary. All the best.
Just what i needed to hear. My relationship has come to an end i should have left many months ago but let my emotions control me when i need to control whats in front of me. Thank you for this im learning that not everything needs to remain the same, i can move on i can and i will.
I needed to hear this today. Have a friend that is slowly pulling away from me and yesterday I texted them and they responded 10hrs later. I started thinking of all the scenarios to make me try to figure out why. I finally had the thought that I guess I don't mean the same to them as they do to me so I made the decision to step away from it as to not drive myself crazy thinking about it. People come and go in your life and it is what it is
Life is about seasons people come and go they serve a purpose you pour into them they pour into you. We lift each other up and then we meet others to do the same with.
It takes a lot of strength to recognize when to let go and protect your own peace. Accepting that people come and go is a tough but liberating truth. By stepping away, you’re showing respect for yourself and creating space for relationships that value and uplift you. Wishing you clarity and strength on this journey.
When I was younger, I often felt left out and judged. One of the greatest lessons my mother shared with me before she passed was, "You can't control how others see you, but you can choose how you see yourself." I remind myself of that truth every day to stay grounded.
@yehnahh, breakups are very hard in anyone’s heart. If necessary, take time out to mourn the extinguishing of a beautiful dream. Don’t sacrifice your dignity for closure. Your accepting the death of a relationship is your closure. Best wishes.
@drew9157, how are you doing after twenty years of breaking w your gf? Do you still remember her? Did you recover completely? I’m still pining for my bf after many decades of breaking up. I didn’t mourn the breakup back then and it came to haunt me many years later. Very sad. Wish you well.
As a human being we should accept the truth that nothing is permanent , if we accept then we can manage all heart breaking situations . It’s hard but fact .
Wow! This video was mind blowing, enlightening, and exactly what I needed to hear. No therapist ever came close to resolving my inner turmoil like this video. Thank you for clear message and examples.
This is great. I'm able to easily glide in and out of emotions. I don't overthink nor discount things. I take everything as it is. I also don't open up to everything.
I had serious issues with angry thoughts and outbursts most of my life. After the service I came across the writings of the Buddha. Just letting go of the past and peaceful meditations on impermanence has changed my life. Negative thoughts just vanish away now as fast as they come.
Overly attached to my 32 year old twin son's, as I allowed/volunteered myself to help them through life issues too quickly/easily. Now 1 son's GF is pregnant w/twins & they are naming 1 after her mother. To the curb I have been kicked in too many instances w/this son & his GF. Learning more very hard life lessons. Loving my children more than I loved myself has caused hellacious internal pain. Yes I would raise my children differently if I were to redo my life.
Same happened to me with cousins. Tried to be there whenever asked for theyr mother while they lived life Now that she’s passed I’m tossed to the dust bin. My side of the street is clean i did well by my aunt You’ll probably start hearing from your son when he needs help with the twins , enjoy your grandkids while you can
This resonates with me too. The pain is unbearable. It’s like grieving a death when your child is still alive. I wouldn’t wish the pain on anyone. My heart goes out to you. ❤😢
How so if you don't mind like how may you do it differently if you can let me know u can msg me privately if u don't want disclose publicly I'm just curios to learn from you so I can try do my best with my daughter who is turning 13 yrs old this year so hope I can learn from your insights but if it's not okay with you or too emotional all good for whatever reason I respect an thanks either way .
I want you to know this was right on time for me . I’ve been in this emotional cycle since I was a little girl . This has changed my perspective of things I can’t control nor the outcome of a situation.
I can look back and now understand that emotional attachment does cause us unecessary suffering, when we attach ourselves to people, situations and things go up creek then yes our emotions suffer, at the time we think we will never get over it but yes we do and become wiser , stronger and much more aware of what happened and coukd happen again if we let ourselves get attached in unhealthy ways, love these podcasts, some is common sense but all are eye openers with something to learn.
I needed to hear this. I've been trying to break ties with a friend for 4 years because of their constant negativity. Thank you so much. God bless you.
Informative video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Am practicing negative visualization. It exactly what I needed right now.its sure to strengthen my inner resilience. No matter what happens I will be okay.
I don't agree with the practice of negativity visualization. I believe we should practice detachment by knowing everything is impermanent. That's all. We are all energy and we don't want to draw negative energy towards us. Another important truth is knowing karma is real. Do good things only even a smallest good deeds.
This was pure gold my fellow stoic, Thank you so much for this, Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional, Emotional detachment, Calm inner Peace is bliss, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory power praise and smile's to the most high :-) :-) :-)
I completely agree with you! Its such a powerful reminder that while pain is part of life, we have the power to choose how we respond to it. Emotional detachment isnt about shutting off our feelings, but about gaining control over how we let them affect us. It can be difficult, but its so rewarding when we start to cultivate that inner peace. How do you personally practice emotional detachment in your life, especially when faced with difficult emotions?
@TheStoicBeacon-TGG Thank you for your reply and kindness, I love your message, Thank you :-) Absolutely tremendous, I don't emotionally react to everything, I'm calm and I'm guided by reason, Logic, Etc, Have a pleasant day my fellow Stoic, Peace, love and respect to you :-)
I agree with the perspective that emotional detachment, as Marcus Aurelius teaches, is not about shutting down emotions but about cultivating clarity and inner peace. The reminder to focus on what we can control and embrace impermanence resonates deeply. Learning to let go of outcomes we can't dictate frees us from unnecessary suffering and empowers us to build stronger emotional resilience. Thank you for sharing these timeless Stoic rules-they offer valuable insights for navigating relationships and life's challenges.
I met this girl through my work , I got her flowers brought her soup and a teddy bear when she was sick and I was having a great day minding my own business and she randomly messaged me saying she’s someone else
I love how this video blends practical advice with ancient wisdom. The Stoic rules to emotionally detach are not only effective for navigating difficult relationships but also for building long-term emotional strength. This is definitely something I’ll be implementing in my life moving forward!
It’s a pleasure to hear this practice . I need it too . I being feeling really down because a break up in a relationship, maybe its was met to be. Help me to understand things that I didn’t understand before. I had to block a person I thought he was a friend which he was not . I shouldn’t be chasing after someone who don’t stand in my friend circle. I was wrong. I need help and I need to focus on my life , I need changes
This video beautifully encapsulates the wisdom of Marcus Aurelius and the timeless principles of Stoicism. Learning to emotionally detach doesn’t mean losing compassion-it’s about finding inner peace and clarity amidst the chaos of relationships. Thank you for sharing these transformative rules to help us live with strength and purpose!
I loved how this video presented Marcus Aurelius’ stoic philosophy not just as theory, but as practical advice that can be immediately applied to our relationships. The point about understanding the impermanence of life hit home for me-once we accept that people, situations, and feelings change, we can release the unnecessary emotional weight. This mindset shift is so powerful and really helps us live in the present moment without clinging too tightly to attachments that no longer serve us.
Still watching/listening to the video, but I resonate so much with. The victim mentality and to take control of what I can control. This is really good. I will comment more as I listen more. Blessings to all tuning in.
The concept of negative visualization was eye-opening. By preparing ourselves for inevitable losses, we gain emotional strength. Such a practical, yet often overlooked, tool.
I find that people who haven’t had stable, well adjusted, emotionally mature parents capable of empathy and unconditional love struggle the most to do the things suggested in this video. If you’ve been given the foundation of healthy self esteem and self worth, you will find it easier to be more resilient when others leave/reject you. So, my question for therapists is this: how do you create that foundation first, so that you can actually apply the stoic lessons in this video? Because I don’t see how any amount of therapy can ever make up for what someone’s parents didn’t do. If you have trauma from bad parenting, would you need to work on that first and heal sufficiently before you can apply stoic principles? Any therapists have any thoughts on this?
I swear you might be me in another person's body. At 41, this is still my daily conundrum and you articulated EXACTLY how I do, to myself and others. How do you heal from CPTSD (in my case, narcissistic abuse and my dad abandoning me to appease my mother that still goes on today, as I now worry about his health fading and losing him) without any kind of resolution with your parents? How do you heal that hole in your heart and self worth and reprogram your brain to function the way someone who grew up with some semblance of secure attachment would be capable of?
I learned a lot about Advance Negative Visualization. Thanks…it’s what I need to do to help overcome emotional out bursts from others that I know will come. Nothing should shock us anymore about what Narcissists say or do.
❤ I learned a lesson the hard way, but I get it fully. I say everybody gets to be who they are. It’s not about being offended or anybody being deserving, it’s so you can see the truth 😊and be able to act on it for your own best interest
I taught myself emotional detachment after my mother died. I just had enough of grieving and turned on a new objective view on the order of death. I’m not sure exactly how I did it but I’ve gotten good at turning my emotions on and off through the use of logic. The video is correct in that our emotions control our minds if we let them. It’s not easy to turn on objective thinking but if one is able, it’s a game changer with regards to emotional stability. I love the part about a negative visualizations. I’ve always done this and people would tell me I’m wrong to be pessimistic. I ignore them bc I know I’m preparing myself and it’s not usual for me to experience disappointment.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Emotional detachment can be a powerful tool, and it’s inspiring to see how you’ve navigated through such a challenging time. Your perspective on negative visualization is particularly interesting-preparation can definitely help manage expectations.
This video beautifully captures the essence of Stoicism in relationships. The analogy of holding sand in your hand resonated deeply with me-reminding us that clinging only accelerates loss. I’m inspired to embrace impermanence and appreciate the present without the fear of future changes. Thank you for this transformative perspective!
Amazing clarity if communication! I've gone through all these experiences without realising what was really going on, until I got more mature and a litle more wiser studying all these subjects. And, the one that really hit me was the insight about the thoughts 💭 and that they create our feelings.... I was in a Monastery doing a walking meditation when i finally saw it!!!! And you just explained it so well. Thank you so much 🙏 Heartfully from Portugal 🇵🇹
Things only end if you let it end. Things only change if you let it change. You are in control. Things don’t just happen to you. I mean there are things out of your control, yes. But If you want a relationship or a friendship to last you make it last. You do your part, effort….. and water it like a plant. And it will keep going.
@ If someone abandons a relationship then it’s no longer a relationship and they were never in it to begin with. People who are serious and mature about commitment don’t just up & leave, it means their mindset was never in it for the long-run to begin with. You don’t chase this type of person & you already know this. It’s actually a blessing that they left, as I said their mindset was never fully in it, and this will clear a path for you to welcome someone who is serious/mature about commitment, someone who is in control of their feelings & intension & as I said in my previous statement, someone who will “water a plant”…. meaning put time, effort and patience to keep it going. It’s in your control and it’s in their control to come as a unity and make this happen. Things don’t just happen, you make them happen with your actions. Wherever you focus your energy on, that where it will grow.
I'm really glad this video is helping you! Stoic principles like emotional detachment can really provide clarity in difficult situations. Have you found any particular rule or practice from Stoicism that resonates with you the most when dealing with emotions?
Such a powerful and practical video! The wisdom of Marcus Aurelius truly shines through these 5 Stoic rules. 🌟 It's amazing how Stoicism can help us find clarity and strength during emotional turbulence.
Okay so boom I am an overthinker. So without realizing these principles I've been applying them. I used to leas with emotions now I lead with logic. Ive grown to understand that I have way more power and control over my life and I don't "let things happen" I can make things happen. Emotional detachment, is so much easier when you accept things logically and move along. Great video, im definitely going to be searching for more of Narcus Aurelus work. Super interested in it. Thank you.
I thank you for this video. I have to admit it surprised me a little when you talked about negative visualization, because I recently heard of the visualization in the law of attraction, and practiced it a little too, occasionally, also heard several people swear it works wonders and everything, but to be completely honest I find this stoic version of the same thing quite more realistic and most of all helpful in everyday life, because it really helps you be prepared for anything, especially those things you cannot control. So, once again thank you very much and God bless 🙏🏼 I need to hear this right now.
True When we mentally ready for everything which leave us , we can embrace the realit withput them ; when we loss people and opportunities easily. We have to under stand nothing is permanant.then nobody can manipulate us also.
This lesson is amazing. I will try very, very hard to accept it. I also know the pain of losing my soulmate will sting for the rest of my life but I will learn to not tie myself to it.
Great video, thanks. “When you release expectations, you’re free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be .” Mandy Hale
Wow, this is so uplifting, it’s important to stay inspired. I feel a deep sense of emptiness, it’s been 2months since jack left and everyday feels like an eternity without him. My mind’s been flooded with memories of our time together. It’s so painful that I’d never get to experience the little things with him again. zI’ve texted him several times telling him how much I miss and want him sadly he replied none. Guess all I can do is just hold unto the memories.
It’s ok to grieve dear It’s clear that you’re not just missing jack but a part of yourself that you shared with him. Your message to him is a testament to the love you still have for him. It’s takes courage to be that vulnerable. It’s ok to feel the pain of heartbreak but don’t loose hope. My own heart break story is one of devastation . It was sudden and brutal leaving me lost. Desperate for solace and guidance, I reached out to a spiritual counselor who was recommended by a friend for help.
“Of all the things that are, some are good, others bad, and yet others indifferent. The good are virtues and all that share in them; the bad are the vices and all that indulge them; the indifferent lie in between virtue and vice and include wealth, health, life, death, pleasure, and pain.”
Very good explanation! ❤️ Ine has to imagine every word and the content of each frace to really understand and then act. You are just yourself nobody is going to fix your life, but you alone! ❤️
You can only really love yourself focusing on yourself is paramount, the most liberating thing you can do is be comfortable joyus in yourself. Then you can trully give help and loves others who trully deserve your time attention and focus.
To anybody who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life.
Thank you🌹
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Charitable and beautiful❤
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I used to be bullied a great deal when I was young. The best words my grandfather gave me before he passed was, if you spend all your time worrying about what others think and do you'll never enjoy anything. I try to view my day to day situations on that fact.
What a wonderful piece of advice from your grandfather
@Piscesmermaid Thank you. I lost my grandfather when I was very young. He was the strongest man I had ever known. He once told me, if you don't stand for something you'll fall for anything. I was watching the movie Sucker Punch a few years back, when I heard that line in the movie. We all really do have people, moments, and daily elements, whether it be friends, family, God, the universe trying to help guide us all if we allow it. Thank you and have a great holiday.
I was bullied as a child too. As an adult I realized something similar to what your grandfather said. For me it was, “if you keep allowing other people’s actions to control your emotions, you’ll never be happy. You have got to stop this or your life will never get better.” ❤
@@mercifulmermaidtarot2630 Thank you. Inherently I believe if we choose, being bullied in our youth can take us from feeling broken to empowered. It helps give us a sort of super hero power to sort out the fakes.
Those who bully ARE the problem. It takes time to heal and every one deals with trauma differently.
Five Rules to Detach Yourself from Someone:
1- All Relationships are Transient, the more you try to keep them the faster they will leave.
2- Master your Emotions, You have power of your mind. The soul becomes dyed by the color of its thoughts.
3- Preparing Your Mind how to stay Calm if something goes wrong, Loss is a Natural way of Life.
4- Focus on what you can Control, you can’t control other people’s Emotions about you, therefore Detach yourself. Stop wasting your Energy.
5- Think of a Bigger Picture. Will this pain matter in five years from now? Life moves on so do You. Everything in Life is Transient. Life is much larger than any single person.
Thank you
Rule 3- Practise Negative Visualisation
Rule 5- Acceptance
Tales of yourself
I needed to hear thisn
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it's amazing how practicing negative visualisation helped me recently. I was dating someone, they went away on the business trip and gradually started pulling away. I contacted them once and decided to step back. One day I told myself that I was attaching myself too much and started developing two catastrophizing scenarios: the one which is about the reality outside of our relationship, and the other that is within our relationship. This exercise made me realise that I actually control neither scenario, whether it's external real factors or that person's decision to change his mind or communication, I had no control over that. And then I told myself "whatever it is, I will be able to survive it". little did I know that next day I would receive a break-up message, not even a call, while I myself was away on a trip! but this exercise basically saved me from becoming an emotional wreck. I was able to sever the emotional connection to that man almost instantly. And I truly felt this was the first time that I absolutely controlled my mind. It was one of the most empowering feelings in my entire life!
thank you
greatful
To whom ever reads this, thank you. You have shared your time with me in reading this. May the smallest smiles brighten your days.
Thank you
Detachment is PEACE and freedom.
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Absolutely True. I came late to that realisation 72 years young. Now I live happily with detachment, I have never been more freer!!!
@@Maria-s9h3n Beautiful!💃👍💛
“ Focus on what you can Control rather then what you can't ”😮
More effective 🎉
Oh God, i need you now....
I cant seems to let go, the more i try to control my emotions the more i keep thinking of him..
8yrs is alot..
Its hurts deeply😢
Do you know why you can not let go? Have you analysed your mind and focused?
It is nothing to do with your tougher,,,is to do why? What is it? One option is to relax your mind so you can focused on real issues,my be you are in denial,,,,go to the GYM and keep doing intense workout call F 45, for a month,,,don't drink alcohol at all go on light diets,,,and focus a beautiful things,,,dream a lots, smile a lots, dress to kill, smile pn street to all the man see the reactions, be very mannered to your answer,,,love yourself,,,don't watch the TV or news,,,stop on media for wile,,,think everyone likes you because you are beautiful 😍 😅...
I am very faraway from you,,,but I love you already,,,my be you are beautiful dream....Ciao 😅😊..
Don't forget the GYM...
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I never had a dad and never was taught anything about how to think and act like a man, so Marcus Aurelius is my adoptive father. Thanks for the video
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Same. Never late to learn. Glad we’re both here.
Same here I have had a very tough time for many years... Thanks to the producers of this channel...more change to come!
Like you, my Son never had a Father. He skipped out and moved across the world to Australia, leaving me a baby to raise. He's now 25 years old and Stoicism helped him to be a Man too. Stand tall. Stand proud. Lean in when necessary. All the best.
You only lose what you cling to ❤
This heartbreak has me in a chokehold.. I needed this today 💪🏾💪🏾
Glad I could help
stay busy. Stay social. You got this
@@kleindavis550it's always at night or in the shower or random times where I get random memories that hit hard
Crystal Rae checking on you you ok?
Just what i needed to hear. My relationship has come to an end i should have left many months ago but let my emotions control me when i need to control whats in front of me. Thank you for this
im learning that not everything needs to remain the same, i can move on i can and i will.
I needed to hear this today. Have a friend that is slowly pulling away from me and yesterday I texted them and they responded 10hrs later. I started thinking of all the scenarios to make me try to figure out why. I finally had the thought that I guess I don't mean the same to them as they do to me so I made the decision to step away from it as to not drive myself crazy thinking about it. People come and go in your life and it is what it is
Yes, never put someone up on a pedestal
People grow apart.
Same thing is happening to me right now ... I'm trying to detach from them but I can't
Life is about seasons people come and go they serve a purpose you pour into them they pour into you. We lift each other up and then we meet others to do the same with.
It takes a lot of strength to recognize when to let go and protect your own peace. Accepting that people come and go is a tough but liberating truth. By stepping away, you’re showing respect for yourself and creating space for relationships that value and uplift you. Wishing you clarity and strength on this journey.
When I was younger, I often felt left out and judged. One of the greatest lessons my mother shared with me before she passed was, "You can't control how others see you, but you can choose how you see yourself." I remind myself of that truth every day to stay grounded.
I like your mother's saying. Thank you for sharing.
@@hCalifornia833 thank you. I hope to inspire someone.
As an overthinker and assuming everything, I really need to watch this
Same!!! I’ve been reading a book on Overthinking!
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"Not just a video, this is truly a priceless spiritual gift. Thank you so much!"
it wont help, might just piss you off more..
Likewise!
I just broke up with my gf, a 5yr-long relationship. This video has been invaluable to help me cope with the situation.
I don't need to know why, just know in this world someone like me is going through this too. My thoughts are with you brother
@yehnahh, breakups are very hard in anyone’s heart. If necessary, take time out to mourn the extinguishing of a beautiful dream. Don’t sacrifice your dignity for closure. Your accepting the death of a relationship is your closure. Best wishes.
I had a gf for 5 yrs and then we broke up 20 years ago. I lost my mind and had to go to therapy😮. Good luck to you.
@drew9157, how are you doing after twenty years of breaking w your gf? Do you still remember her? Did you recover completely? I’m still pining for my bf after many decades of breaking up. I didn’t mourn the breakup back then and it came to haunt me many years later. Very sad. Wish you well.
"Embrace impermanence." - Learning to accept that every connection is temporary helps us find peace within ourselves.
Nice
Accept that things will end and you'll suffer less when they do
Yep. I tend to hold onto relationships and think irrationally about pain, trauma, and the chaos of life. I have to let it go. None of it is permanent.
This video really made me rethink how I approach adversity.
At 4:30, the idea of shifting focus from what we’ve lost to what we’ve learned is such a healing perspective. 💡
As a human being we should accept the truth that nothing is permanent , if we accept then we can manage all heart breaking situations . It’s hard but fact .
Wow! This video was mind blowing, enlightening, and exactly what I needed to hear. No therapist ever came close to resolving my inner turmoil like this video. Thank you for clear message and examples.
Glad it was helpful 😊🙌
This is great. I'm able to easily glide in and out of emotions. I don't overthink nor discount things. I take everything as it is. I also don't open up to everything.
I had serious issues with angry thoughts and outbursts most of my life. After the service I came across the writings of the Buddha. Just letting go of the past and peaceful meditations on impermanence has changed my life. Negative thoughts just vanish away now as fast as they come.
Overly attached to my 32 year old twin son's, as I allowed/volunteered myself to help them through life issues too quickly/easily. Now 1 son's GF is pregnant w/twins & they are naming 1 after her mother. To the curb I have been kicked in too many instances w/this son & his GF. Learning more very hard life lessons. Loving my children more than I loved myself has caused hellacious internal pain. Yes I would raise my children differently if I were to redo my life.
Same happened to me with cousins. Tried to be there whenever asked for theyr mother while they lived life Now that she’s passed I’m tossed to the dust bin. My side of the street is clean i did well by my aunt You’ll probably start hearing from your son when he needs help with the twins , enjoy your grandkids while you can
This resonates with me too. The pain is unbearable. It’s like grieving a death when your child is still alive. I wouldn’t wish the pain on anyone. My heart goes out to you. ❤😢
@@lisalomeli166Big virtual hug to you🤗💫 Let's finally take care of ourselves first & foremost from here on out💛✨️
How so if you don't mind like how may you do it differently if you can let me know u can msg me privately if u don't want disclose publicly I'm just curios to learn from you so I can try do my best with my daughter who is turning 13 yrs old this year so hope I can learn from your insights but if it's not okay with you or too emotional all good for whatever reason I respect an thanks either way .
It feels like my therapist is talking to me. Every single line resonates with me. Its as if God wants me to listen to this because I needed it badly
Thank You 👍😊
I want you to know this was right on time for me . I’ve been in this emotional cycle since I was a little girl . This has changed my perspective of things I can’t control nor the outcome of a situation.
I can look back and now understand that emotional attachment does cause us unecessary suffering, when we attach ourselves to people, situations and things go up creek then yes our emotions suffer, at the time we think we will never get over it but yes we do and become wiser , stronger and much more aware of what happened and coukd happen again if we let ourselves get attached in unhealthy ways, love these podcasts, some is common sense but all are eye openers with something to learn.
I needed to hear this. I've been trying to break ties with a friend for 4 years because of their constant negativity. Thank you so much. God bless you.
Striving to keep my emotions in a place of ''a matter of fact''.
I’m an Aquarius ♒️ so I do this so easily…I detach from anyone who doesn’t bring peace & joy & Love & fun. Mistreat me & I’m gone.
Thank You 👍😊
That's like a superpower to me.
@@YogawithAliBeale Are you Aquarius too??
I’m an Aquarius ♒️ too
Informative video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Hang in there; things will get better with time. i hope you find new happiness with someone who truly wants to be by your side.
Am practicing negative visualization. It exactly what I needed right now.its sure to strengthen my inner resilience. No matter what happens I will be okay.
I don't agree with the practice of negativity visualization. I believe we should practice detachment by knowing everything is impermanent. That's all. We are all energy and we don't want to draw negative energy towards us.
Another important truth is knowing karma is real. Do good things only even a smallest good deeds.
This was pure gold my fellow stoic, Thank you so much for this, Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional, Emotional detachment, Calm inner Peace is bliss, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory power praise and smile's to the most high :-) :-) :-)
I completely agree with you! Its such a powerful reminder that while pain is part of life, we have the power to choose how we respond to it. Emotional detachment isnt about shutting off our feelings, but about gaining control over how we let them affect us. It can be difficult, but its so rewarding when we start to cultivate that inner peace. How do you personally practice emotional detachment in your life, especially when faced with difficult emotions?
@TheStoicBeacon-TGG Thank you for your reply and kindness, I love your message, Thank you :-) Absolutely tremendous, I don't emotionally react to everything, I'm calm and I'm guided by reason, Logic, Etc, Have a pleasant day my fellow Stoic, Peace, love and respect to you :-)
I agree with the perspective that emotional detachment, as Marcus Aurelius teaches, is not about shutting down emotions but about cultivating clarity and inner peace. The reminder to focus on what we can control and embrace impermanence resonates deeply. Learning to let go of outcomes we can't dictate frees us from unnecessary suffering and empowers us to build stronger emotional resilience. Thank you for sharing these timeless Stoic rules-they offer valuable insights for navigating relationships and life's challenges.
Definitely understand about being on a emotional roller coaster never ever again Self - Love 💕💯‼️
What an excellent narrator! They turn even complex topics into something easy to understand.
Glad you think so!
I met this girl through my work , I got her flowers brought her soup and a teddy bear when she was sick and I was having a great day minding my own business and she randomly messaged me saying she’s someone else
Run 🏃
I love how this video blends practical advice with ancient wisdom. The Stoic rules to emotionally detach are not only effective for navigating difficult relationships but also for building long-term emotional strength. This is definitely something I’ll be implementing in my life moving forward!
It’s a pleasure to hear this practice . I need it too . I being feeling really down because a break up in a relationship, maybe its was met to be. Help me to understand things that I didn’t understand before. I had to block a person I thought he was a friend which he was not . I shouldn’t be chasing after someone who don’t stand in my friend circle. I was wrong. I need help and I need to focus on my life , I need changes
This video beautifully encapsulates the wisdom of Marcus Aurelius and the timeless principles of Stoicism. Learning to emotionally detach doesn’t mean losing compassion-it’s about finding inner peace and clarity amidst the chaos of relationships. Thank you for sharing these transformative rules to help us live with strength and purpose!
I loved how this video presented Marcus Aurelius’ stoic philosophy not just as theory, but as practical advice that can be immediately applied to our relationships. The point about understanding the impermanence of life hit home for me-once we accept that people, situations, and feelings change, we can release the unnecessary emotional weight. This mindset shift is so powerful and really helps us live in the present moment without clinging too tightly to attachments that no longer serve us.
Your shows are impeccable Need I say anymore Thanks for being there for us God bless you ❤😂
You are so welcome
Oh yes, i have noticed this my whole life...thank you for this... my life experiences has been shaping me to be a Stoic Master. I thank you
Thanks for sharing!!
Still watching/listening to the video, but I resonate so much with. The victim mentality and to take control of what I can control.
This is really good. I will comment more as I listen more.
Blessings to all tuning in.
The concept of negative visualization was eye-opening. By preparing ourselves for inevitable losses, we gain emotional strength. Such a practical, yet often overlooked, tool.
I LOST MY MOM...😢THIS REALLY HELPED ME
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤
Stay strong!
I’m truly sorry for your loss. Sending you my love.
Condolences ❤😅
Thank you so much for this video ❤
You are so welcome!
I find that people who haven’t had stable, well adjusted, emotionally mature parents capable of empathy and unconditional love struggle the most to do the things suggested in this video. If you’ve been given the foundation of healthy self esteem and self worth, you will find it easier to be more resilient when others leave/reject you. So, my question for therapists is this: how do you create that foundation first, so that you can actually apply the stoic lessons in this video? Because I don’t see how any amount of therapy can ever make up for what someone’s parents didn’t do. If you have trauma from bad parenting, would you need to work on that first and heal sufficiently before you can apply stoic principles? Any therapists have any thoughts on this?
I swear you might be me in another person's body. At 41, this is still my daily conundrum and you articulated EXACTLY how I do, to myself and others. How do you heal from CPTSD (in my case, narcissistic abuse and my dad abandoning me to appease my mother that still goes on today, as I now worry about his health fading and losing him) without any kind of resolution with your parents? How do you heal that hole in your heart and self worth and reprogram your brain to function the way someone who grew up with some semblance of secure attachment would be capable of?
Ditto
Uhmm, no one has had "stable, well adjusted, emotionally mature parents..etc. This is bs and the ads are worse
BS
@@BrittBarton-cf3ek It sounds like it was probably that way for you. I’m sorry you had to go through that 💔
I learned a lot about Advance Negative Visualization.
Thanks…it’s what I need to do to help overcome emotional out bursts from others that I know will come.
Nothing should shock us anymore about what Narcissists say or do.
❤ I learned a lesson the hard way, but I get it fully. I say everybody gets to be who they are. It’s not about being offended or anybody being deserving, it’s so you can see the truth 😊and be able to act on it for your own best interest
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing this wisdom!
I taught myself emotional detachment after my mother died. I just had enough of grieving and turned on a new objective view on the order of death. I’m not sure exactly how I did it but I’ve gotten good at turning my emotions on and off through the use of logic. The video is correct in that our emotions control our minds if we let them. It’s not easy to turn on objective thinking but if one is able, it’s a game changer with regards to emotional stability. I love the part about a negative visualizations. I’ve always done this and people would tell me I’m wrong to be pessimistic. I ignore them bc I know I’m preparing myself and it’s not usual for me to experience disappointment.
THANK YOU
Thank you for sharing your experience! Emotional detachment can be a powerful tool, and it’s inspiring to see how you’ve navigated through such a challenging time. Your perspective on negative visualization is particularly interesting-preparation can definitely help manage expectations.
This helped me now I choose to be strong and stop giving permission for others to control my emotions
People come and go forever.
This video beautifully captures the essence of Stoicism in relationships. The analogy of holding sand in your hand resonated deeply with me-reminding us that clinging only accelerates loss. I’m inspired to embrace impermanence and appreciate the present without the fear of future changes. Thank you for this transformative perspective!
Well said!
Amazing clarity if communication! I've gone through all these experiences without realising what was really going on, until I got more mature and a litle more wiser studying all these subjects.
And, the one that really hit me was the insight about the thoughts 💭 and that they create our feelings.... I was in a Monastery doing a walking meditation when i finally saw it!!!! And you just explained it so well. Thank you so much 🙏 Heartfully from Portugal 🇵🇹
Things only end if you let it end. Things only change if you let it change. You are in control. Things don’t just happen to you. I mean there are things out of your control, yes. But If you want a relationship or a friendship to last you make it last. You do your part, effort….. and water it like a plant. And it will keep going.
How do you mean, Quantum_Physics123? If someone abandons a relationship, you chase them down? If they have moved on, they've moved on.
@ If someone abandons a relationship then it’s no longer a relationship and they were never in it to begin with. People who are serious and mature about commitment don’t just up & leave, it means their mindset was never in it for the long-run to begin with. You don’t chase this type of person & you already know this. It’s actually a blessing that they left, as I said their mindset was never fully in it, and this will clear a path for you to welcome someone who is serious/mature about commitment, someone who is in control of their feelings & intension & as I said in my previous statement, someone who will “water a plant”…. meaning put time, effort and patience to keep it going. It’s in your control and it’s in their control to come as a unity and make this happen. Things don’t just happen, you make them happen with your actions. Wherever you focus your energy on, that where it will grow.
Thank you very much for the subject and subtitles!
It’s an an awesome analysis
Very practical and thoughtful
This may help in one’s life for sure
This is really beneficial to me. Thanks ❤
I'm really glad this video is helping you! Stoic principles like emotional detachment can really provide clarity in difficult situations. Have you found any particular rule or practice from Stoicism that resonates with you the most when dealing with emotions?
Such a powerful and practical video! The wisdom of Marcus Aurelius truly shines through these 5 Stoic rules. 🌟 It's amazing how Stoicism can help us find clarity and strength during emotional turbulence.
This is basic but completely true.
A thoughtful and practical guide for navigating the complexities of emotional detachment
This is sooo timely
Okay so boom I am an overthinker. So without realizing these principles I've been applying them. I used to leas with emotions now I lead with logic. Ive grown to understand that I have way more power and control over my life and I don't "let things happen" I can make things happen. Emotional detachment, is so much easier when you accept things logically and move along. Great video, im definitely going to be searching for more of Narcus Aurelus work. Super interested in it. Thank you.
Thank you
I thank you for this video.
I have to admit it surprised me a little when you talked about negative visualization, because I recently heard of the visualization in the law of attraction, and practiced it a little too, occasionally, also heard several people swear it works wonders and everything, but to be completely honest I find this stoic version of the same thing quite more realistic and most of all helpful in everyday life, because it really helps you be prepared for anything, especially those things you cannot control.
So, once again thank you very much and God bless 🙏🏼
I need to hear this right now.
Absolute words of wisdom. So fitting to the situation I’m in!!!!!!
Great advice. This Chanel has hampers me with philosophy. Thank you.
Glad to hear it!
Yes, this will be facts with boundaries. I have liked Marcus Aurelius for the lesson of "you are only a man".
This is on point. It takes a lot of practice
Negative Visualization is an incredible tip for me.
This was video was brilliantly helpful in a crucial time of need. Thank you ❤
Glad it was helpful 😊👍
thank you for this information, it is very helpful. praise be to god, i am so grateful for hiks blessings. amen. i trust god. amen
You are so welcome ☺
This has helped me tremendously and I’m going to listen to it everyday until the pain stops.
True
When we mentally ready for everything which leave us , we can embrace the realit withput them ; when we loss people and opportunities easily. We have to under stand nothing is permanant.then nobody can manipulate us also.
Greetings Stoic family. Glory be to GOD for another day of Life. Thank you for sharing and as always have a grace filled Stoic day
Solus Christus ❤❤
Our pleasure!
I need to watch this 100000x as much as possible. Thank you so much Stoicsm keep it up Godbless
Wow, thanks
This lesson is amazing. I will try very, very hard to accept it. I also know the pain of losing my soulmate will sting for the rest of my life but I will learn to not tie myself to it.
Best of luck!
Its takes a while it reslly hurts in the first few weeks months even years but youll get through it we can do it keep moving.
This is an amazing video
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are so welcome 😊
Great video, thanks.
“When you release expectations, you’re free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be .” Mandy Hale
Love that!
I've practiced this since childhood.
Negative visualisation is new method. Thankyou to the video creator ❤❤
You're welcome 😊
I need to emotionally detach from my emotions.
Is to depart from the living I guess 😅
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@@LeboMashupye hahaha!
Thanks
Thank you so much ❤😊
This video is a gem !!!! Super !!!! I wish it was in front of my eyes way earlier. It would make life easier ❤❤❤❤❤
thank you so much
Randomly came across this. Litterally reflects how I lived my entire life, having never read or heard about Stoicism.
Wow, this is so uplifting, it’s important to stay inspired. I feel a deep sense of emptiness, it’s been 2months since jack left and everyday feels like an eternity without him. My mind’s been flooded with memories of our time together. It’s so painful that I’d never get to experience the little things with him again. zI’ve texted him several times telling him how much I miss and want him sadly he replied none. Guess all I can do is just hold unto the memories.
It’s ok to grieve dear It’s clear that you’re not just missing jack but a part of yourself that you shared with him. Your message to him is a testament to the love you still have for him. It’s takes courage to be that vulnerable. It’s ok to feel the pain of heartbreak but don’t loose hope. My own heart break story is one of devastation . It was sudden and brutal leaving me lost. Desperate for solace and guidance, I reached out to a spiritual counselor who was recommended by a friend for help.
That sounds intriguing, I’m curious what exactly does the spiritual counselor do?
His name is Father Tosin Ayodele and he's an amazing spiritual counselor who specialize in helping people reconnect with their ex
I’m grateful for your suggestion, you have no idea how much this means to me.
“Of all the things that are, some are good, others bad, and yet others indifferent. The good are virtues and all that share in them; the bad are the vices and all that indulge them; the indifferent lie in between virtue and vice and include wealth, health, life, death, pleasure, and pain.”
This is the best of all stoic videos I have been watching..that negative visualization ❤️👏
Very good explanation! ❤️ Ine has to imagine every word and the content of each frace to really understand and then act. You are just yourself nobody is going to fix your life, but you alone! ❤️
Absolutely loved this! The clarity you brought to stoic principles makes it easy to apply them in real-life relationships. Fantastic job!
So glad!
Much needed information
You can only really love yourself focusing on yourself is paramount, the most liberating thing you can do is be comfortable joyus in yourself. Then you can trully give help and loves others who trully deserve your time attention and focus.
THANK YOU 😊
Yes I see this reaction in my thoughts about an event. Thank you💕
great
You’re welcome 😊
What a good lesson for us all.
Hi, Merry Christmas And Happy New Year's, thank you, for everything, I appreciate it. Have a good week. 😊
Happy new year ❤😊
Thank You Thank You Thank You
You are very welcome
These quotes really resonate with me! Life is all about perspective. 🌟
Absolutely!!