How To Love Without Attachment | Buddhism In English
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Best statement i have heard "i need you to be happy and if that doesnt include me then thats ok" unconditional love lets go ❤
Nooo😢
@@llohe9826why not?
@@lean4real_11 guess I'm too immature to let go what I love
@@llohe9826not too much. It's natural. Don't sweat
Agreed personally love someone so much that let her be free as she wants to be, doesn’t mean that I don’t miss her terribly but to me that’s love!
_Nothing lasts forever. Attachments cause suffering. Everything is subject to change._ - *Lord Buddha*
This is the only true love :
John 3:16
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
Please take this to your mind this is a Buddhist channel if you want to share your idea please go and put your comments on a Christian channel if you want to listen to this speech listen carefully and we don't care abought your God we only follow the ideas of our holy teacher Buddha
@@DihasWijedoru-le9roall religious principles are same
What about commitment, marriage vows etc?
@@Raj-ne4us Nothing is permanent. Things change and eventually come to an end.
Love without attachment is the true sign of self-acceptance and self-love. It's only when we accept and love ourselves that we can love freely.
Well said !
But then how would this work when two people (man and woman) live together. Just my curiosity
True but with another you still need secure attachment
No one is permanent
Everyone is suffering on their own world
U can't control anyone
If you love someone in the way of attachment you get hurt, If you love someone without attachment you love your own life ❤🙏
If you love someone enough to let them go you love unconditionally and have that persons best interests at heart, it still gonna hurt if they choose another but you have to feel the pain heal it and let it go ❤
True words
@trinasikananu9723 it's not easy when you are connected deep at soul level and feel what they are going through, it's not easy when your souls are one
@@Angellove222 Yes however nothing is easy but you can become the best version of yourself which personally i have attained. I lost 3 friendships my literal life and it was too easy because i taught myself how to love unconditionally enough to let go like you said. I am very much okay and wishing them the best. 22 yo old me would cry myself to sleep. 25 yo me now is free happy and willing to love a hundred times💜
@trinasikananu9723 I am not sure you understand being so connected at a soul level!!! I am not sure you understand when you are woken in the night by the other person's feelings of worry and despair, so much that it effects your mood!! You can't detach from that!!!
Love: you need to be happy
Attachment: you need to make me happy
When you come from a childhood lacking security and emotional support you often end up looking for it in a partner as an adult, hence the attachment, looking for a partner to fill the role a parent should have filled. Wish I could have learned this lesson you teach today back when I was 20 years old. I do now know how to love without attachment. It frees both yourself and the other person.🙏
True
We learn through realisation and correcting our ways slowly by slowly. That's what my experience taught me. Not all of us were lucky to be born in a healthy family. But I think it's the way it is. For some of us it might occur that had this video been released much before we would have the love of our life still with us. But I quote again it is what it is. Learn from your mistakes and move forward. One cannot go back and change their childhood experience. Let's be sorry for that child ,let's pardon ourselves to carry forward those unmet needs to our partners and most importantly realise it embrace it and let's move on. This is how I healed and healing myself.
Same experience
Detachment to any thing or person will gv peace of mind and happiness .one could experience it by trying detachment .
Exactly my experience. My parents divorced when I was a baby and I never got that emotional support from my mother or anyone else. At 21 I met the woman who would change me, got attached and 36 years later she is dead and I've not been able to get over her death. Haven't heard from my children since the death so I lost wife and kids in one go.
- love is wishing other's happiness
- attachment is wishing your own happiness from others; wanting to be with someone forever and not let go; over-protecting, holding on, and controlling someone; being afraid of losing someone
- everyone lives in their own private world, everyone needs freedom
- you can control how you live in your life
- 3 truths in life on how to love and be compassionate: (1) no one is permanent (everything is subjective to change), (2) everyone is suffering in their own world, and (3) not everyone is under your control
Thx for the conclusion, :D
Well said !
I hurt someone because of my past and I used to think I’m in love him with completely. But I realised that I am more attached to him than in love. Right now we are in separation and because of my attachment I was trying to take control and not able to let go of the things I can’t control. This video opened my eyes. I am trying to change and be a better person. Specially when it comes to love. I want to love unconditionally and selflessly. Affirm.
Same incident I have bruh❤
God bless your soul for abundance of love and care
You and I were in the same place.now we both understand the difference between love and attachment. I'm in Pease right now Also hope you in Pease ❤
' No one in this world is permanent ' .
Nothing remains permanent.
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@@user-kx9ez9yu6e It is the true.. The truth is bitter anyway
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"No one is gonna live forever" is the most beautiful phrase in my mind, Thank you, Thera.
These are wise words. That's the holy truth. Love is freedom. Attachment is not. That's why when someone wants to control other persons, they will lose them.
People should understand this, so they won't get hurt.
Thank you so much for sharing it! 🙏
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Nicely said 🌺
@@patsiebentley111 thank you for your appreciation. 🙏
i recently broke up with someone i loved with all my heart. when we were dating, i had the mentality of love without attachment. however, the more and more i realized we wouldnt work, i started getting attached. consciously, i didnt know it wouldnt work, but my subconscious knew. it knew as soon as the first hint came to my attention, no matter how much i tried to deny it, i knew it wouldnt work. i have known them all of my life, so its hard to let them go, but i hope that soon i can set aside my anger and wish them happiness again like i used to. they truly deserve to be happy.
You will🙏🏽
♏️💟♊️4L
I’m going through the same thing
Literally happened with me ..I always feel like I have lost a part of mine in him ..I don’t know about him but I will love him forever ..
@@riyagulati2701 Can you do a back flip?
l lost both my parents this year. My dad left us in April whilst my mum left us in July. Thank you Namo Buddhaya
oh so painfull i wish you strengt
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Your parents will always be with you, just in another way. Take care
We are with you
Always God with you
I m married since 20 years and it's now through your teachings I m able to understand the true meaning of loving a person without attachment... Thank you namo buddhaya
That's really nice. How is the marriage experience?
Thank you
In this 7 years of relationship, i never got the answer for my heart breaks......thanks for changing my life for good! It means a lot❤
Beautiful explanation. I guess sometimes we confuse love with attachment without noticing. We wish for that person happiness, but at the same time we wish we were the source of that happiness selfishly.
Nicely said !
I was afraid of losing people I love and this video makes me feel much better ...Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻
It really makes sense ❤❤
Yes l get that. I have much fear of losing the few people that l love. I have a lot of difficult people around me and so l tend to hang on to those l do love. Sending peace to you and to me.
Perhaps the hardest of all is letting go of deceased loved ones (relatives, pets, friends). In order to free their Souls (and ours), we have to sever our attachments to them to break the karmic bonds that cause both you and them to continue to suffer on the Wheel, lifetime after lifetime in the earth plane. This is very hard, so repeating mantras like "I want your Soul to be free and independent" can help to let go. That is true love.
One of the most compassionate things we can do is love freely, without conditions or attachments.
It is painful to think that me or my own child will have to part one day but it is so liberating to understand that this one fact makes every day spent in love and appreciation of my child, a great gift!!!
When the time comes for either of us to journey on, it would be kind to say thank you to the soul that befriended mine while we lived together!
Thank you for your beautiful lesson Bhadanta. 🙏🏽🌸🌿🕊️
Well said
Friendship love without romance works best. Thank you for a wonderful message!
Love without attachment is the choice to love and respects others freedom. Respecting and honoring their choices. I love this message. The brief or long moments should be cherished.
The more you try to control someone’s life . , chances is very very high for you to loose that person . Love this 🙏
I came across this snippet last week "connect with everything but attach to nothing" I love it! Sending love from South Africa
His smiles embody love that he is talking about.
Let people be who they are and wish the best for them. Unconditional love to everyone whom we honor to encounter in this world. A beautiful teaching!
His words are soooo true and inspiring. This is exactly what happened in my life and I learnt now that I need to love others selflessly not thinking about my happiness cuz if u want a person just to make yourself happy you'll lose that person but because of his pure words and teachings I am learning slowly how to imply Buddhist teachings in my own life. I wish may everyone get happiness and love in their life. Thanks a lot for your meaningful lessons your smile and voice always make me calm and happy. I hope I can move on the path of Buddhist principles and make myself better and people around me happy. Namo Buddhaya 🙏🙏
This brings calmness into my mind tonight, thank you so much 🙏
in life.. we all pick our own battle. If you love someone, you would sacrifice, caring & take care the person who we love. If someday that person is gone because of breaking up or death then we have to learn to let it go. It is ok to attach to someone but at the same time we have to learn how to let thinngs go. Acceptance is the hardest to learn
I'm in my most broken state for the past months.. and your teaching's really inspire and encourage me to move through. It helps me more understand about the reality of life. Thank you so much! 🙏♥️
Nothing lasts forever.
Attachments cause suffering.
Everything is subject to change.
I lost our home and both parents due to fire incident last May. I thank my parents who raised us inculcate the meaning and value of attachment. And how powerful to love without attachment. Everything in this world are borrowed .
Don’t let your happiness depend on something may lose. - C.S. Lewis
Stay strong. You’re parents love and blessings will always be with you
@@laserqueenpg thank you 🙏❤️
Well said !
I cryed
God bless you my brother
I’m so sorry. I wish you strength and happiness . I lost my mother too. Hugs
How I wish I had explored Buddhist teachings years ago, when I looked to friends to make me happy. Thank you for these enlightening videos.
It's a wonderful blessing in disguise !
It still hurts when you love without attachment and they decide to leave, but it’s as the saying goes: ‘If you love them, let them go.’
Isn't the attachment / detachment that hurts? Love is always available. We can love someone equally whether their body is next to us or not.
It can still hurt yes but you let go much easier and are able to live them even from afar without I'll will or resentment or neediness or any other bad feelings
I love how you are smiling while saying all this. ❤
Attachment is suffering! I have gratefully learned this valuable lesson. Thank you for sharing this Truth in this video. May it reach the hearts of those who need to hear it. Love for ALL
Your words always make me feel happy ...u r so pure 🙏...thank u for teaching us the real truth of life ....Namo Buddhaya🙏
Heart touching❤
You made my eyes teary with your beautiful thoughts and reality of this life ....
Namo Budhaya🙏
I absolutely align to buddhist teachings! My heart feels safe and contempt
Three things to keep in mind :
1. Everything is subjected to change.
2. Everyone is suffering in their own world.
3. No one in this world is totally under your control.
Never listened to any videos like this and any type of religious things, but I want to say, Namo buddhaya.❤❤❤❤
Going through seperation and a divorce I have come to the realization of how true and applicable buddhhism is.Bonds bring pain and change is inevitable.This channel has become life saving ❤
He look so amazing and peaceful with out branded clothes and hair.
He grabs everyone's attention only with his smile on his face.
Love is universal. Love is blind somehow unknowingly we develop attachment with the person or people around us. Really, it's very difficult to come out of it if we develop deep attachments it's like slow poison. Thank you for your wonderful explanation between love and attachment, Namo buddhaya.
yes, i came to late across this video, my love was attachment , so now my love is gone. i feel so sad, i cant do it over again.he was the firts i lived with
To love someone, we need to know the reality of life. This line is the essence of the whole video. Thnku so much 😘
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Perfect👌🏻 just what I needed to listen to this day! Hope I can excel in my spiritual journey learning all these valuable inputs from Bhuddism and evolve as a better person each day, every passing second.! Namo Bhudaiya🙏
I got hurt and was in pain after 5 yearsofmarriagelife...
Now I got some clarity and clear mind from ur speech thanks
At the end of his videos.. when he says NAMO BUDHHAYA With so peaceful and satisfied smile on his face..provides to much satisfaction to mind and soul ❤❤
Thank you Thero for your deep wisdom about love and attachment. Navigating on the spiritual path I have come to conclusion that when it comes to pure love you wish the other person to be happy even if you are not included in their life that is the definition of unconditional love but the more awaken and spiritual you become love without attachments is the way you begin to love the others.. It's hard but also there is comfort in this truth when there is impermanence... Namo Buddhaya ❤️❤️🙏🙏
Guruji you gave rebirth to my life....keep healing all who are in depression like me...loosing loved ones will shatter our life..
I learned from this video: Restrictions vs Freedom in relationships and will be more aware of it in my life.
Thank You.
This video was much needed bec now i am learning what love is.. attachment is toxic and cause pain to both but love liberates..on my journey of healing 🙏🏼
Everything is subjected to change....
Namo Buddhaaya... 🙏🙏🙏
You have no idea how this video helped me understand love and attachment. Thank you for posting this video.
Our group of friends years ago stopped calling it falling in love and instead call it Rising in Love. This helped me and your talk describes the difference thank you!
Wow... Beautifully explained..! 🥺💓
Namo Buddha🙏🏻
I’m going to show this video to my son .. who is being controlled by his partner but doesn’t want to hurt her as she loves him too much .. he my son wants to run ( as much as he likes her company ) but she is talking to him like they have been together for 5 years ( it’s been 8 months ) he does not want to hurt her feelings.But my son is unhappy.This video of my lovely Buddha Monk ( who has helped me so so much in my life ) I will pass on hopefully it will help him. Thank you again for answering my sign and thoughts yet again .. peace and light x
It was such a pleasure to listen to you right now! Thank you for your wisdom and peace that you share.
This is beautiful, thank you. This applies to all kinds of love. It is helpful for me as a parent of adult children to let go and evolve my relationship with them, with so much love. Its been a hard transition, this is so helpful, much love 🏵️💖
Im regular viewer from Nepal ,,,and we love you ,,much more forever ,,, namobuddaya ❤🇳🇵
Sādhu, sādhu, sādhu 👏
Thank you, bhante, for all the work that you do as well as anyone else who helps put these videos together 🙏
I've only discovered this channel fairly recently but it helps to engage with the Dhamma on a daily basis and make sure I stay mindful of the Noble Eightfold Path in daily life, so I truly appreciate all the effort 🙏
Homage to the Buddha! Homage to the Dhamma! Homage to the saṅgha! 🙇🏻♀️
Wham!!! I'm feeling so safe n free after listening this... thank you✨
Thank you for these wonderful teachings. These are truths that I know in my heart but never acknowledge. I will try wholeheartedly to change myself from today onwards so that I can love without attachment.
Nothing is permanent in this world so if you understand this can live a happy life!
Your teachings always gives freshness to my soul
Thank you for this amazing piece of advice to know the difference between unconditional love and attachment.
Truly a soul stirrer and an eye opener.Namo Buddhay!
needed this strictly, cried a lot by watching this, now i feel a bit relieved
Extraordinary life time teaching n lesson.. Truly valued.. ❤
Thank you for your kind, loving, sincere words ❤️ the best way to live life is for today only as tomorrow is not promised it's a gift from the universe Buddha and our Guardian Angels to have another chance to live another day only ? So fill each day with joy happiness kindness love and positive energy, and gratitude for everything you have right now in the present moment of today only 😊
That definition of love is easily the best I’ve heard. Really applies to both romantic and platonic love
After hearing this I realised what is the true meaning of love❤
This is the true message of love
And peace
Thank u so much.
Listening to your teachings is my everyday routine ❤
You're right. This is true love. And it feels good listen to you. 🙏
My Fav Bhante🙏🏻✨ thank you for spreading love to the world.
Extraordinary... your words always make my heart feel lite ..... Thanks for the wonderful words and make me realise the reality ❤.it's so difficult to accept the separation and change in person.
Thank you bhante, this make me realize that I have to learn not to attached especially in my current situation. Nama buddhaya
This one is deep. Thank you.🙏🏼📿🙏🏼 Namo buddhaya
Thank you. All words full of truth, & compassion, & a light as bright as your smile 😊 guiding all people 2 right path. Bless you you wonderful caring person.😊
I feel Love is forever. I love someone that I've already loved in many other lives. THIS mortal life is just a moment, this is true, but souls keep in touch and reicarnate so it's possible to meet again and again
A clear explanation ❤ Namo Buddhaya...🙏
Amazing and true statement..to love without attachment..thanks for sharing..it's respecting yourself and the other person as well..to love freely without conditions..❤
TH-cam being the MVP recommending this to me. Beautiful message and something I needed to hear thank you ❤
Thanks you the way you are explaining I’m clearly about love and attachment make me peaceful and joyful in mind 🙏🙏🙏
You have such a calm smile 😊
You and this channel has changed my life for good. You have made me wise and a calm person. More and more to learn from you. You are the best reason and channel I found in TH-cam.
Thanku Bhante, teaching me the pure definition of love , Namo Boudhay
Thank you . This was very enlightening. I will keep these lessons with me :
- Love is thinking about the other person's happiness, even if it does not include you. Attachment is thinking about your own happiness.
- Other people have their own suffering to deal with just like you. As such, they can never fulfill your needs completely.
The question 1:20 "Why aren't you making me happy?" reminds me of anger and frustration. I notice thatl "Why," similar to Yoko Ono's song if the same name, is secretly an angry word. I can see how attachment leads to emotional abuse. I have felt both these in my life and I am ready to stop abusing others emotionally. Thank you so much
I have all those qualities and I am happy the way God has made me.. I love watching your programme.thanks for the videos of yours. God bless you.
This made me cry. But I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
🙏🙏🙏. Pure unconditional love 🙏🙏🙏
I have heard it is better for someone to love you more, than you love them. That would be a nice scenario for once. Being the one to get hurt all the time sucks😊
Your smiling face brings me also happiness......your words heals my pain ... thank you so much
Tqvm for Clearance of the Difference between Love n Attachment..Live our Life well with our love ones in Lots of Kindness Understanding n Freedom.. Namobudaya 🙏🙏🙏..
This is exactly what I needed to hear, in this exact moment. I have been attached to someone for so long that it's become emotionally taxing, and I don't want to live that way anymore. I will love myself and wish all the happiness in everyone else ❤
Same here friend
Is it possible to come out.. I am trying but😢😢 whenever I see this video I feel better.. but again I am going back to the same state of mind.. literally dying mentally for living without him
Wise words, thank you!
Thank you, I gained a lot from your important words.
I believe everyone needs to understands these things well; Love vs. Attachment, Attachment Process, Reality of Life, Compassion, Impermanence, Focus on one's Control, and wishing Well(Wish well for everyone's happiness).
I am so grateful that I've found out this video. My sincerity❤
I can hear this all the day
Thank you brother for sharing this video to us is really very touching words to our mind 🖐️❤️🙏
I have no words i was suffering too much thank you so much through out the video i cried alot thank you so much for showing me the right path every single word is very relatable thank you so much ❤
The best video I've ever watched
Answered my 100 questions and gave so much clarity.
Thank you so much. ❤
So, the point is to let everything flow naturally, let it go.