I wish I just had someone to talk to. I never feel like I can open up to people. Family, friends (Those who are even in my life anymore)...I'm tired of isolating myself a majority of the day.
There are 34 people who agree and or understand how you are feeling bro, you are not alone. The issue we as men have is that we don't know how to be real with one another or open up with feeling weak or like it's "gay". It's not easy to carry emotional burdens your while life without an out let and the worse thing you can do as a man is to open to a woman your in a relationship with about those feelings. Find someone you can call your brother and be real with. That is the key.
The reason that suicide rates are higher in men than in women yet depression rates are higher in women than men is because in this shitty society, us men are constantly said to be the stronger one in the situation, and 'man up'. We can't tell our real feelings or people will either criticize us or just ignore it, because everyone thinks that men always have to be 'strong'. We are constantly told to keep our emotions to ourselves, which causes depression, and leads to suicide.
Honestly I’m at a point where I’m scared to wake up each day because I feel so un-accomplished. Like a hole gets dug deeper with each waking day. Like I don’t know my purpose, I have no drive to even leave the house. I’ve cut of friends and even my wife at times. I have no contact with family either. I feel so secluded. And I feel scared because I’m becoming comfortable and content in this solitude in which I’m surrounded by sadness and pain. Idk I’m just kinda over everything. I don’t even want help sometimes. I get so stubborn and angry when close friends and family try to help me. I really want to feel good about my self. Thanks for the open ear if anybody is listening.
"I get so stubborn and angry when close friends and family try to help me." I couldn't relate more to that. I don't accept help from others and I can't help myself. What do we do? I'm stuck. I even lost the will to eat or drink.
People alwas tell me to forget about my ex and i feel like i can and shouldnt cause im gonna lose my memories with her.... Most of people cause there own depression for not trying to move forward and one of those retards is me
Flix Boi not wanting help is part of depression. I see this was six months ago you commented. I hope things have gotten better for you but if not just know there are people who love you.
@@peterfile1834 Saying "Forget about her" "She's not worth it" is the worst thing you can say to someone, if those special moments are meaningless then nothing has any meaning
Society tells men to be manly this is what can happen men have never really been allowed to cry we need to treat everyone equally I hope society keeps progressing
If you are not a doctor, earn a lot of money, and if you are not very competitive, you are worthless. To women and to people in general. You are not allowed to show your emotions, if you do, whatever people say, you will be deemed as week and worthless . People do not have sympathy for men and their personal issues and their mental health. Trust me, i am experiencing it now. If you tell them your thoughts, id you tell them you are very depressed, they tell you to snap out of it, pull yourself together, stop being lazy, get a job, etc, etc
Good points. I find these 3 to be big ones behind depression: Unsolved & suppressed emotional traumas, lack of connection with people (community) and meaningless career with no purpose & fulfillment. Unlocking the trauma will lead to more connection and seeking for more meaningful career, so that's always the starting point to me.
I Always hated my life in general, I’ve been harassed and abused by tons of people. And you know what I’m not a perfect person, I have got lots of mental issues of my own that I can’t help with. I isolate myself from everyone because I feel like I don’t belong, I dream about building a rocket ship so I can fly away from earth and live on another planet.
well at least you have a good one flying to the moon in a rocket is better than nothing at all it just means you're exercising your brain which helps with recovery :)
This makes me very sad. Someone I care very deeply for is suffering terribly. I've suggested a number of things, especially the need for male friends. I'm learning that I am powerless over another person's process, and their illness.
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Often I blame myself for everything because everyone around me seems to blame me. So I often stay isolated and alone to avoid bringing others this misfortune.
I am depressed and super self conscious about myself. Recently a girl actually led me on and broke my heart. I didn’t love her but she made me happy because she was someone I could open up to, and I actually helped her cope with her depression and made her feel better about many of her problems, yet she cast me aside like garbage for another guy. She was just a special person because I am going through the darkest time of my life and I had no one to talk to and she was there for me when I really needed someone and vice versa. Now that she’s gone I’m not sure how to cope with it, I pray every night and ask for help in this situation to help me be happy, it sometimes even turns into 1on1 talks for 30 minutes up to an hour of me sitting eyes shut with my rosary just talking to god and asking for guidance. As I pray I begin to cry every time because I know I need patience but since it’s been going on for so long I long for happiness and joy. I miss the conversations I had with her a lot. I miss it all, I miss the feeling of being somewhat happy, I miss the feeling of being a child and not caring about anything because you’re so shut from the real world :(. I wish love on all going through depression and I hope we all learn to cope and deal with depression and that we may all find purpose and happiness in our lives. :)
I'm here for you were all human and we all suffer regardless of race or wealth I'm your brother from another mother and I'm here to say you can talk to me I feel your pain open your heart to me please if you need help please talk
Sometimes I feel like I am not living and just "existing" . I workout to the point of passing out everyday, and have to sleep wearing an earbud listening to a podcast, or my thoughts creep up on me and I can't sleep. I don't know if it is depression or not but this situation is really frustrating. No alcohol or drugs though.
same here. i cannot sleep without something simulating my brain be it a podcast or a youtube video or anything. i cannot just think because i hate what i think about
My dad is experiencing alot of the symptoms and its because of my mom who is causing a toxic relationship for my dad to the point where she is telling other men she isn't married... I'm trying to help him, but he doesn't feel like doing anything. I don't know what to do other than try to help support him. He works in a different state so I can't really talk face to face. I don't know what to do other than let him talk and give him answers for stuff I barely know about. I'm currently like his Pearsonal, untrained therapist who is just trying their best to not make him completely give up.
Tell him to go do him. If he's depressed over a woman, he needs to go. She ain't respecting him and if he offs himself, I doubt she will care. She doesn't care now and won't if she destroys him in divorce. He needs to leave. You only live once, and he doesn't sound like he is enjoying life
I've been seeing therapists for my depression about 25 years now. Wish I could say they have helped but they haven't. The goal doesn't seem to be about getting my life better. Unfortunately I have become a cash cow. Let's face it..a lot of money can be made off of one sick person. Sorry but the truth is the truth.
My boyfriend is depressed and I can not be with him anymore. I can’t handle it anymore because it’s affecting me more than him now. I love him so much but it’s getting out of hand.
Don't leave him this is the time he needed you the most. He might be depressed but he have you. As in my case i have nobody. I don't know what should do. I wish i have some one. Stay strong
Living Organs! "I'm going to kill myself" A man said this no lie, "No one will miss me So it's better if I die" "My life ain't worth living Nothing's going right, Only I can stop this pain If I die here tonight" Many people tried this Because life was insane, Some are now disabled Yet many died in pain. You may want to die But body it does not, When you cut yourself Blood will start to clot. You can swallow pills Thinking that's the trick, But body wants to live It will make you sick. Think about your body Your body is a shell, Protecting many organs Who want to live as well. When you go to sleep Your organs have a goal, They want to stay alive So now they're in control. Think about your organs You have quite a few, Many die who want to live Now we're back to you. Life has many hurdles And can cause us pain, But don't give up so easy Think about the chain. Chain is linked together Father, husband, son, Mother, sister, daughter Each and everyone. Take away one link Now chain will fall apart, Circle has been broken That is just the start. Chain no longer strong So much grief they cry, If you end your life Another link may die. By Will Mckechnie
if you exercise regularly, meditate, eat a balanced diet, and have a connection with g-d, a lot of depression will fade away. this has been my formula to stay above water.
This is great. My man is depressed. At first I thought it may be cocaine but he don’t so drugs . He needs a brotherhood community! This pandemic is no joke with all of these households shelter in place
I see so many comments here of men blaming women for their problems. These men aren't going to get better until they take responsibility for their own issues and see that they might have issue with certain individuals, individuals who don't represent the whole gender. Just as women should not blame all men, men should not blame all women - or society. No one's putting down masculinity, but they are standing up to and not tolerating aggressiveness and unkindness.
As a 14 year old male, I’ve always been told to man up, or be more mature. After constantly being told that, I have an extremely hard time expressing myself. I have attempted to break out of this, but whenever I do I just end up hurting the people I love. This behavior and constant stress of messing something up or harming the people around me has caused me to bubble up my emotions. This of course, always backfires and ends up hurting them even more. All I want is my old life. I’m afraid that is no longer possible. Now I just avoid everyone, hoping that would help. I’m hurting right now and I don’t know what to do anymore. Nothing I ever do seems to work. My fears and triggers have completely taken over me, and It’s getting to the point where I just want the pain and anxiety to stop.
deserve to feel this way. And don't think you can't do anything. It's not true. You should question yourself, "is this really worth bringing myself down? Are these small things worth ruining my life?" Think about the things that made you feel this way and think about if it's really worth it making you sad. If you think about it you realize it's stupid honestly. But just know that you are strong, loved, amazing, talented, wanted, young and have a big future in front of you, and so much more! Focus on the positive things and be yourself. ❤:)
Learning specifically about "emotional intelligence" truly helped imo...ive had issues since about 8 years old...im 36 now. So researching it is a great start to healing!
I manage depression through many different ways. I never stop exercising; I do about half an hour of exercise everyday or walk for an hour. Releases endorphins and dopamine. I am doing something all the time; reading, music, or cooking (sometimes combination of things). I am socially active, although I only have a specific set of people close to me. But I meet a lot of people everyday. Faces help a lot. But the best thing is my career. Everyone should have a proper career and live like it is life. There is no better happiness than doing your duties. And families, kids, pets; everyone helps. And you can try medication when needed, but don't stick to it. Ruins us. All the best to everyone.
Father Issues....oh, yes. Didn't have a good relationship with Dad, then he died in 2015 from a brain aneurysm. Still dealing with the guilt from that. Swept it under the rug and ignored it all this time. Now I'm an alcoholic. Thanks, Dad.
Hey guys its been almost 15 years that I've been depressed and havnt spoke about my issues until now and the reason i am speaking oit is because I'm starting to have suicidal thoughts. Thoughts like if its better for everyone if I was just gone. I cry when these thoughts come to my head. I'm 26 and still feel scared ashamed and embarrassed for my actions throughout my life. I wish I was normal living a normal healthy life. I ask myself why me why me 😥. I need help and don't know where to turn. I'm sorry to bum you guys out if you read this.
Don't apologize man. I'm 29 and I'd be lying if I told you if I never felt that way from time to time. I can't tell you how often I see my friends on FB leading happy lives and it makes me feel sick because I want that so bad. I've stopped going on FB as much. Hope you're feeling better since you've posted
why should you apologize to us for feeling that way you should never feel the need to apologizes for the way you feel unless you have either mentally or physically attacked someone for that then there is no reason that you should have to apologize, all you need is acceptance that this is the way you feel right now, the keywords are right now, doesn't mean there can't be a brighter tomorrow make a list of the things or reason's why you feel the way that you do, and deal the problems one by one. Good Luck
Don't apologize, everyone deserves to be heard. I'm 21 and I've done some things in life that I regret and really have a hard time letting go. I was bullied in school and have been depressed ever since. It's getting better slowly and steadily day by day but yes there are days when I feel extremely hopeless. I've never gone out on a date so that really weighs on me. I even try because I think I'm too broken and a burden on others and that no one deserves to be with me. Seeing the perfect life of my friends online doesn't help either. I feel down that I can't achieve it that maybe I'm far to broken to ever get that life and then even I start thinking why me? I wish I could live a normal life like that. It sucks really just plain old sucks. It just feels like there's something broken and I can't fix it ever. But I try and persist out of some foolish hope that it'll be better and everything will make sense eventually, that maybe this hope isn't so foolish after all. I hope this helped! And remember there are people who love you and value you in your life I understand where you're coming from because even I think people are better off without me but I believe if you keep persisting one day you'll be better and realise your value! So best of luck and take care!
Probably afraid of being involuntarily commited. Therapists usually have one of those emergency alarms hidden under desks, like in banks. They can, and do, easily call the police to take you away the moment you indicate you want to end your life. Not saying your partner is suicidal, but a lot of mentally ill people are afraid of getting locked away. I've been in the mental hospital before and trust me it is not easy to get out. You only have two options: doctor's consent or fight for yourself in a court of law. If that is his concern, try to go with him and don't let anybody take him away.
when i went to therapy i felt it didnt work and i was wasting alot of money. it made me angry and upset instead of really doing anything for me. seemed like i was wasting an hour talking about nothing.
I struggle with feeling depressed and with anxiety...I usually can’t sleep at night...and lately I’m just angry all the time...but I do a great job at hiding that fact. I am in a position where I don’t feel like it’s ever going to get better.
There is light ahead. I'm sorry you're having difficult moments. Be gentle with yourself, treat yourself to some fresh air, a massage, or your favorite meal. You must be good to yourself. Exercise is a great way to release any hidden anger inside. I have insomnia and depression, it affects my work and it's been difficult to get by bc some days my body is weak from being fatigue. I'm not here to push spirituality but yoga and meditation has helped me tremendously. Guidance and peace to you, brother.
Growing up I never had friends or buddies, but people who neglect me and make fun of me, this would happen every day from the start of elementary to the end of middle, I’m so lonely, it irritates me when I see a group of friends hanging out every day doing everything together , knowing I will never have such a luxury they take for granted, recently I’ve been getting this pit in my stomach that I feel is getting emptier and emptier, everyday I’ve been distracting myself from the inevitability of sadness with TH-cam and video games, as a child it would be my getaway, my sanctuary,but it now just feels like a jail, I’m stuck in a loop, I think my purpose in life is to make other people happy and laugh, leading them to a treasure I will never possess. I wouldn’t say my life is a tragedy, I think it’s a comedy
What if someone (like me) needs help but they don't know where to start? I don't have money for a therapist and my family & friends don't understand. I feel lost...at the end of my rope and NO ONE seems to understand. I need help, not standard, clichéd motivational quotes. Where do I start?
Look up Jordan Peterson on depression on youtube. He helped me immensely and saved me from suicide. He says things that hit so close to the core and he himself experienced huge amounts of depresion in his family. He will also suggest what to do and where to start
This sounds like my husband right now . He’s pushing me away and I’m trying my best to be here but it’s taking a toll on me. He wants a divorce but I know that it’s his depression talking. And I don’t know how to be here for him!!! I feel helpless !
I went through depression during my school life and college life. I couldn't share my thoughts with family members because they used to mock me. It changed after I got my first job. Enjoying life with friends and colleagues is more helpful for me than sharing your thoughts with family members who don't even try to understand you.
Uhm, no, no. My ex-wife and my current GF. All the other women in my life. They've all stated they are strong, proud, brilliant WARRIORS ! WARRIORS ! They could easily take over the WORLD; if only they wanted to. That's their storyline, anyway.
@@saleenastone Of course it is. But, it gets WAY better... Current GF ? High School grad....... Moi ? Undergrad in Acctng, Mastere's in Finance. Both from top tier schools (that means top 25 in the US for the given field). Spent 33 years as a Cptl Mkts Specialist for the FRB; now in retirement I work as the Treasurer for a bank. CPA, CFA Charterholder, FRM. Portfolio is $10B in securities and anywhere from -$5B to +$10B in fed funds, depending on the day. But, no, no. She tells me all about the financial world. And that's fine, I just smile and nod. Somewhat along the lines of last month when we went to the gym. She had me show her how to do leg presses, and she had good form at 80 pounds. Should struggled mightily at 100 lbs, but managed a couple reps. She proudly stepped off the machine and said it was my turn; confident at her success. Thinking I might go to 120 or 140 or what have you. I knocked out 3 sets of 10 at 600 pounds. She huffed and suggested we were done at the gym for the day. -Kind of along the lines of her telling me all about the bling-bling.
@@ButcherBird-FW190D Interesting how the most obvious things about the differences between men and woman are even being argued. Of course there is so much cognitive dissonance today. The truth is, we have never, ever seen men or women in their power. Neither. Very important for us to understand. Men have only ever been in the shadow. Same with women. This whole thing about, "Men have been in the power forever, it's time for women." That's actually not true. Masculinity has been in their shadow expression, and when masculinity is in the shadow expression it looks like things like tyranny. The patriarchy back in the day essentially rose up and did so much damage, especially with the way that they wrote the government. It was the way that out of alignment masculinity decided to not take genuine ownership for femininity and instead decided, "You're doing what I want you to do, no matter whether it's actually in your best interests or not." There was a zero sum game started between the sexes and when the government got involved with that, for women, they really lost all power in society. That put women in the position, like what happens when somebody feels like they can't go directly for what they want, to manipulate. So right now we're dealing with the feminine shadow expression of manipulation over the course of the generations. The pendulum has swung in the opposite direction, and we cannot look back in history where it was truly centered. And it was all orchestrated by the elite, that serve Satan....(in my humble opinion of course) I believe Satan has always wanted to destroy God's people. Hence why there is so much division. Men and woman against each other, child against parent, friend against friend, race against race, nation against nation, etc. If we could get back to divine masculinity and divine femininity, there would be much success. The way I see it, life is like chess, the Queen is the most guarded piece, the most important, yet cannot stand without her King, Rooks, Bishops, Knights, or even Pawns. So what does this mean? Surely something like, the man is the head and the woman is his crown 👑. How lovely when it flows so naturally. How catastrophic when it doesn't! I have had to revolt against every indoctrinated belief there is in order to align myself with this wisdom and have an entire life to discover it. Revolting against orginazed religions, traditions, government, socialism, feminism or any of the "isms" western medicine, education, EVERYTHING, on doing so it has allowed me to step outside of it all, even myself, to the very seed of it all, only through God showing me through His eyes as the creator. I have become free to it all and to holding everyone and everything hostage to the responsibility of my happiness. This is God's grace! Ok, I'm done lol don't want to write your a book here. 📖 😅
Sick feeling like this everyday. Ive felt this way from about 8 years ago after my father passed. My partner at the time was always there but i refused to get help that i thought it would go away on its own. Im not letting this ruin my life nomore
I don't talk about my own depression often partly because I've stopped talking to all of my friends, I often think about how a lot of people say "you're not alone" and there are others like me. Though that phrase alone kind of just makes me think about how comparable I am to others. I tend to think about how every question I've ever asked has been a concept to exist long before I have. If I ask that same question to a problem that everyone else has asked before me, what is the value of this question? I often sit in deep contemplation about this, I remember many days it felt like my tears ran as hot as the blood in my veins and the first times these were in my head was when I was 9. I was crying in the mirror, thinking about how god, my parents, or science made me, it didn't matter how I was made but it was the fact I was and yet I was so imperfect, life wasn't ever easy and I'd constantly losing in some way, there was poverty, hunger, abuse, sexual assault and it all made me felt incompetent. I began to ask these questions: "This is what I am? Why? Why is it me? What does this mean?" I would also often think of myself as subhuman at this time. But I began to learn, many people ask "why me"; they'd also question their own existence "what is the meaning of life.", I saw that every thought I had was mirrored by someone else in some form, I then knew I wasn't subhuman and in fact was as human as it can get but that realization brought a new set of thoughts on how non-unique the question was and thus it must've been valueless, it made me think about the value of identity in the first place, we all ask about or identities in similar ways. It made me think about how there's truly no one who can think beyond their peers in a way that's incomprehensible and unique to them as a whole. I suppose it's a good thing we're all very much alike, maybe we evolved like this in order to stop others from completely being ahead of the curb, maybe it was done so we could understand each other much more easily or possibly to let the next generation understand the mistakes of that last so it can build from it. My perspective has changed in a way where I think we're not all too different but that at the same time sacrificed some sense of being special, maybe that's done to humble everyone and to keep the concept of superiority down to a minimum. Anyway, as for these days, I'm about 20 now turning 21 this year, ever since I hit around 14ish my emotions haven't been as vivid as they used to be. I always wondered if I'd still be alive today, so it makes me uncertain if I'd truly die by my own hand in the future. I'd have to sit and think about my future a little longer, I shall stay alone though, I find comfort in getting lost in my own thoughts these days, I don't seek death as much as I used to, as I have younger brothers and I can't just abandon them, they keep me bound to this planet.
Note: I do not want sympathy or to be consoled for my past as that doesn't really make me feel better, I simply wrote this for myself to acknowledge what has happened.
For the past few years, I’ve had ups and downs in my life. Deaths, losses, and just feeling all alone. Talking to somebody about what I’m going through is very tough. 😖😔😥
I feel you. You're definitely not alone, there are others all around the world who are just like you. If you ever feel this way again, know that you're a diamond out of many piles of dirt in this world and that you're very strong to be going through all this right now. I know you can pull through it. I'm glad that you're still alive right now, because you deserve the world. I know you can pull through it, you got this! 😊 Wishing you the best of luck in life, you deserve all of the happiness that you ever felt and will feel ❤ This message also goes for anyone else who suffers from depression.
in such machinated society filled with online fame and connections, Women getting the power and drive men to isolation and solitude . It's very easy for men to get lost, women are getting the power by the social circle,connections, relationship and ability to control men. I know women who prefer online fame and attention over dating and actual person.
I don't know for sure but I'm pretty sure I have depression. I'm only 13 though and I'm to insecure, shy, and awkward to go to my parents. I have no idea what to do. I feel worthless. I have anger issues. I have signs/symptoms of depression. My grades have dropped. I have almost killed myself. I sometimes cry myself to sleep. I just don't know what to do. Anytime something like I fall at school happens, I hear someone laugh and I get put to tears because it makes me think that no cares no one ever will. I do my best to not let myself hit rock bottom I don't want to make the few that do care sad if they even will be. The only people that care are friends and family, no one else likes me, anyone I have a crush ends up not liking me. The toxicity of the gaming community doesn't help much either.
i'm 15 and study in an international School. My best friend had to go back to Korea 4 months ago and i am now left alone. I can really feel how there is something big missing in my life. It affects everything right now, social media life, studies, thoughts. I also think i am extremely alone and insecure and i also feel awkward to tell my parents. They helped me 4 months ago, but now it is really starting to get back. I also stopped gaming, because that sometimes makes it worse. I only play cs:go with bots every now and then and try to study to have a good future.
Tell your parents, they love you more than you know. I have had depression for 20 years and it comes in waves were I feel ok and even good for a time, then I hit a snag of hopelessness. But there is very good advice on this video. Especially developing your spirituality. You can make it through this and there are friends and people who think like you and would be good friends to you. As far as the crush thing... don’t let that bother you now, as teenagers, we change so much through the years. You will find that in 6 years you will be in a totally different situation than you are now. Remember, nightmares never last, eventually you wake up and they are gone.
I would agree the gaming won’t help. It is more of an escape from the real issues. Please talk to your parents. Sit them down, make sure you are heard and ask them for help. If for some reason they cannot help, it is very important that you speak to an adult at school.
I feel you little bro. I suffered with really severe OCD when I was 13-14, and I've been going through a period of depression now, but trust me, it gets better
I get what he is saying but why does he single out father's solely as a problem as if men would not have issues with there mothers as well? Why not just say parents?
Wow, good for you. That's a very difficult first step that can take some of us years to do. You're already ahead of the curve. Remember if you don't find a psychologist that you feel comfortable with it's okay to shop around. Find the one that's right for you. Best of luck to you sir. /hugs
Everything in my life is good my parents love and support me very much but I still have days where I just stay in bed all day and not go anywhere, I had a passion for drawing but now I’ve lost interest and don’t know what to do with my life I start college next month and I feel as if I’m not ready or I don’t belong in this world like I have no purpose
I find this really relatable! Even I have a good home life now but there's just something missing like a big hole and I don't know what to do about it. I lost interest in a lot of things I did (for example guitar) and I watch TH-cam most days. So instead of watching cat videos I kind of decided one day to watch something a bit educational that could help me with music, which was music theory videos which motivated me slightly to play guitar, in a way I found a way around it maybe you can do something similar too! I hope this was helpful and hope you fell better soon!
I've been told my whole life (with few exceptions like my my mom) that as a guy, I need to man up, shut up, and stop crying. I used to be a very emotional person who has feelings, I'm just empty now, and I try my best to let myself feel things, but everytime, I am basically told, even if not verbally, "You're a man, shut up, man up, and piss off"
I feel the same way I don’t know how to show my emotions in public and crying makes me feel better I already tried to commit suicide 2 times tuff times rn
This kind of problem is EXACTLY why the whole social movement of "toxic masculinity" and male disposability is so incredibly damaging and dangerous. You're taking people who already feel bad about themselves and making them feel like those notions are somehow valid or reasonable. It's a complete disaster in terms of mental health.
No no no, toxic masculinity refers to a SUBGROUP of masculine ideals that a SUBGROUP of men follow- ideals MAY include the notion that catcalling, being homophobic or keeping up a hyper-macho personality is somehow "masculine". I've met some men- keyword, "some"- like that, and it IS toxic. Maintaining the facade of having no emotions and no vulnerability means you can't talk to anyone about how you really feel, leading to feeling alone- if that in itself isn't toxic AF, catcalling or being homophobic also hurts other men and women. These are just some examples, but as you can see, it's toxic for EVERYONE, but mostly for the perpetrator himself.
I completely agree. While I support the toxic masculinity movement on the grounds of its purpose, I am finding that when awareness is spread it does need to make sure that it does not make the innocent feel bad. For instance, if it is too generalised such as when they show a video in which all the males are being toxic, it can be harmful. That's why I believe that representing both sides of toxic masculinity (those who are toxic and those who are not) is an integral part of any campaign. It shows that there is more than one place the men can fit in.
@Chris No, you can't blame women. The term refers to men who hate women and feel that they have the right to dominate society and dominate women and be physically and emotionally abusive. Yes, these men do have psychological problems, but we can't use that to overlook or excuse their bad behavior.
@yella dart I can see why you may feel victimised however toxic masculinity works against mens mental health also. for example a man’s inability to live up to his fathers or societies expectations of him as a man. Toxic masculinity awareness is not supposed to hurt men it’s supposed to support both men abs women alike all round
@@lozc7577 I have to respectfully disagree. I suffered from debilitating shyness as a child and I was lucky enough to have teachers who encouraged my parents to sign me up for extracurricular activities that would help me overcome my issues. I felt a great sense of accomplishment by learning to be more outgoing, it was empowering and it helped me to become a happier person because I was able to now make friends. Masculinity is earned. I think the reason why so many men are aimless and depressed is because they feel no sense of purpose or power. This new societal shift where they tell people "If you're fat, don't eat better and go to the gym just embrace it" that's toxic. Men should seek to embrace masculinity as a challenge. Growth and self improvement are central to the human experience. That's why babies learn to walk, talk and stop shitting their pants.
Hey, so my brother is depressed and he was the first one to tell me and i still feel very guilty that i didn't notice that he was sad at all and i really want to help him get better but it just seems like everything i say only makes it worse so if he gets angry or sad i just don't say anything because i'm too scared that i'll just make it worse. can anyone help me with what to say to him or how to help him?
Just listen to him let him talk and love him do things with him fun stuff. motivate him to go out with you take him places. Alot of times they just need to be heard and loved
I really need the last bit: a sense of brotherhood. I am gay, but I am more masculine than my friends and I am also the only man in my department. I am too manly for the female talk and too masculine for the gay culture. Sometimes I miss my childhood straight friends, but we live in different worlds now.
I've been severely depressed and have smiling depressing. But a have had suicidal thoughts and still feel that way. I cry a lot. Everyday I feel.anxious and depressed.
In 6th grade, I remember being in our classes' boy group and being the only girl. It was a great time. Sure, some of them dislike me, and they often make perverted jokes, but when I was in their group, it felt amazing. I felt accepted. I'm 100% sure I would never feel that way if I hung out with the girls. In this school, especially in the current 7th and 8th grades, the girls are very judgemental. Most of them hate me- Last summer changed me a lot, so I don't talk to the guys anymore, well, unless they start a conversation. Out of the guys I hung out with, only 1 still invites me to their table, I wouldn't call that a good idea, though, since most of the time, I just sit there, not hearing half of their jokes- Honestly, I just want all the men struggling to know that they should never ignore their emotions and that they're the best people I've ever known But that's simply impossible, I'm too socially awkward I'm scared of how long this comment is
I’m in Chronic pain with back surgery. I can only do so Much before being useless. My wife has come heartless doesn’t want to hear about it . She in Pain also and says she is worse . I have had -3 knee replacements 8 hand operations and L4-5 back fused. . Plus diabetes. I struggle all night long to sleep feeling worthless not able to do things seems like my wife doesn’t care as long as her house looks nice for others to see I do my best sometimes I do too much I think I’m at my last line I’ve had enough she’s very abusive and hateful doesn’t even know it. I am going away to visit for a few days . I need the fresh air. And silence. I’m Not a bad person and feel I’m ready to go. .I haven’t been happy for a long time . But she blames me . I will shut the phone off . She says she needs a break from Me . I will be praying hard as God never gets tired of me Like people do . I know one thing I may turn the other cheek but I’m more of a man for doing nothing . Feeling like I. NEver did belong here . I just hope I can sleep tonight and maybe have a good dream . I don’t like it here .
I had a male friend with depression he was exactly how u described it to be doc! He was very abusive to me. I asked him did he have depression, he said he didnt need help he was always irritated and overly confident thinking he was better than everyone. I directed him to the suicide hotline and i have heard from him since..... Maybe that was God telling me to leave that alone
You honestly don't know what he's going through that's just a man's defense mechanism of not wanting to be hurt cause he's honestly been through alot the reason why he's acting like that is that he thinks he's fine when he isn't...
Some people are paid to lift up the soul's of other's. Some people do it out of compassion with no interest in reward. One of these sides is completely empty of spirit and mean's nothing to me. Another side mean's everything.
It will pass. You need to fight. I know its hard. this is going to sound dumb, but youtube alan watts, buddhism, jordan peterson. Listen to great music. sink deep into reading and watching stuff that interests you but also educates you. Work out. Write down everything. None of this will cure you. It will help get you through though. thank you for posting here and saying something Zahra.
I hope all is is well please take care of yourself don't let guilt of feeling sad get to you. You just need to keep yourself busy and love yourself slowly
My husband has been struggling for over 2 years now and won’t seek help. It’s starting to take a toll on your marriage. I don’t know how to help him. He comes from a culture with a huge stigma when it comes to mental health which I think may be making it worse.
Question!! Where should my husband and I go that actually know about male depression in Kansas? Any recommendations? The place we went keep telling him just do it without provide steps.... Can't and won't are two different things...
My husband is going through a tough time right now he’s opened up about how he is feeling depressed , I just want to be helpful but I feel helpless because when I try he gets irritated with me. Please help
He gets irritated because he's afraid that every time you give him advice and it doesn't work, he feels validated in his belief that there is no cure. Everytime he asks his loved one for help and it's something that doesn't help, he gets sad and angry that not even his beloved wife has the answers he is looking for. You should approach him from time to time and ask him how he is feeling, and just listen to what he has to say, for now. Eventually you will hopefully understand his situation better, but you still have to be honest when you respond back. Say that you don't know how to help him, but always express sympathy and love regardless. Hopefully in time when he opens up to you some more, you can make some suggestions: go out for a walk with him in the sunlight and talk. Make him a healthy meal. If you guys can afford it, suggest a counselor or therapist. I don't know what steps your husband has taken, but there are a lot: diet, exercise, therapy, meds, vitamin d pills, meditating, etc. Hope things with you and your husband are better since you wrote this. Good luck with everything, and have a nice day
My girlfriend also had depression, I wad the only one helping her to deal with it, I helped her so much that I forgot about my past and my own problems. Now I feel depressed, I feel unloved, unwanted, I feel like nobody cares about me... I've been dealing with this for almost 4 years, i've learned to deal with it, but I still feel sad sometimes.
My partner also have depression. He believes no one cares about him even tho most do, he thinks my feelings is just a joke, he tells me that I have betrayed him, he said I never cared about him when he was trying to make me feel better about myself, it feels like he’s blaming me for nothing, it’s not bad he’s telling me about his problems but it was too much pressure for me to handle to the point where I felt I wasn’t good enough for him. I feel like it isn’t gonna work out, but I don’t want to hurt his feelings. Yes, I still have feelings but the feeling that it’s not going to work out is stronger and I don’t know what to do Sorry about this
I've began feeling deppresed and pain lately. I'm embarrassed to open up to my parents. I dont want to be seen as weak or that I cant handle this. I've been trying to handle it on my own, but it keeps getting worse and worse. I have suicidal thoughts and theres times where I'll just be walking on a sidewalk and think" I should honestly just jump in." I have absolutely zero friends and I'm always by myself now. I dont lift like I used to. I dont eat the same and I dont connect with my parents as often. I only ever feel happy at work. If I'm not working, I'm not happy. I'm not even sure where I went wrong. It just hit all of a sudden. I just dont want to disappoint my parents and be seen as someone who cant handle their pain.
Everyone needs help sometimes. I know it’s hard to think that you may look weak to your family but it takes strength to ask for help. You are strong when you realize you need help. Bible says, “when I am weak, then I am powerful”
My brother is about to run away I'm depressed but my parents don't know that I'm crying my family is torn I need help but it's hard so never hurt anyone or be mean To them you don't want this to happen
My dad has become very depressed it scares me because I have no idea how to help him. How can I a kid help an adult I could tell him to see a therapist but I feel like it’ll like be talking to a wall he cant even find strength to get up and walk around I need help and/or advice please
Offer to spend time with him doing something he loves. If it's as simple as watching baseball or football watch a game with him. The smallest things can help
Endocrinologist! He needs hormone replacement therapy. He has 24/7 PMS because of high levels of estrogen/DHT as his levels of testosterone are most likely depleted.
Ringo, I'm not an expert, but I think you are the one who needs support right now. If you are a kid, teen or younger adult this is beyond what you are able to cope with. Please try to find support from counselors at school or at your college. I would also look for support from other adults in your family (for yourself), if there is someone you feel especially close or connected to. You may not be able to actually "get through" to your father. This is very scary for you and your family. My heart goes out to you.
I am 19 was recently diagnosed with major depression and anxiety derived from it even with all of these things my parents refuse to acknowledge my suffering and i'll probably end it soon I've already planned most of it out
The annoyin thing bout being a man is that ice cold feeling you get inside of you sometimes it's difficult 4 me to show emotion because it's like a deep hole that's gettin even deeper. Hard 2 describe
Darkskinbaby .__ i wish I would know the answer to this question.. the man I was dating told me he needs time and can’t keep seeing me rn and now I don’t know what to do.. I feel like i‘m abandoning him if I grant his wish, but I also don’t want to put pressure on him.. I guess there’s no right or wrong .. but you’re not alone with this question
@@justagirl8298 give him the space to be understanding. right this moment i am pushing someone away who cares for me very much. I feel so bad about myself that i dont want to burden this person. And when they try to help or cheer me up, it almost makes me feel worse. for some reason there is a big pull to isolate yourself, to hibernate, hide, not burden anyone with the misery one feels. Be supportive. Let him know you are there whenever he needs you. Be just a friend if he can't commit to you at this time. It's not you. It's what he's going through. He wishes he could be happy with you. So be there as a friend. He will trust you even more without the GF/BF pressure and you'll both be strengthened by it. Good luck.
Does anybody know of any good online discussion boards for guys with depression?? I'm 45.. I'm thinking it might be a good idea just to lay out what I'm going through and see what suggested solutions come from the general public. Thanks
I just want someone to HELP. I can’t take it anymore and I don’t know who to talk to. It’s like I know there’s something wrong inside of me but I just can’t tell you what it is
My husband this last week has become more angry and so irritable and just critical also of me. He is giving everyone else the best of him but I get someone different. Why is he mean and aggressive to me. He is a Christian also. Yet doesn't show me God. He seems so immature with all this.
I'm a 30 year old male who often locks up on my emotions bc I feel like when I open up in see my own suffering in the eyes of the person I'm talking to so I feel a magnification of my own sadness so I resist opening up and my emotions build up until late night when I don't have friends or family available to me when I truly need them I was diagnosed with depression in middle school and I'm truly suffering every time I tell someone that I'm srry it only makes me feel worse I need help
Ive been a loner most of my life because people just get on my nerves women are the worst for ignoring me ive ended up being very quiet and getting funny looks at work sometimes i just cant take anymore is this a form of depression
Just found this video after watching tons of mental health videos, i agree with Dr denney. Learning about Emotional Intelligence (EI) is great. Breaking the barrier of toxic masculinity is also important. Being conscious or mindfulness also helps.
Any advice on how to approach the conversation of suggesting therapy to a male who doesn’t want to admit he is depressed? Or advice on how to create a safe space for him to talk?
I wish I just had someone to talk to. I never feel like I can open up to people. Family, friends (Those who are even in my life anymore)...I'm tired of isolating myself a majority of the day.
You can write to me, you can be anonymous if you like.
I'm here for you too, let's be virtual friends
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@@tnt_scout6971 thanks. Google "Ameriball with gun" or just "Ameriball" if you're interested in getting one.
There are 34 people who agree and or understand how you are feeling bro, you are not alone. The issue we as men have is that we don't know how to be real with one another or open up with feeling weak or like it's "gay". It's not easy to carry emotional burdens your while life without an out let and the worse thing you can do as a man is to open to a woman your in a relationship with about those feelings. Find someone you can call your brother and be real with. That is the key.
The reason that suicide rates are higher in men than in women yet depression rates are higher in women than men is because in this shitty society, us men are constantly said to be the stronger one in the situation, and 'man up'. We can't tell our real feelings or people will either criticize us or just ignore it, because everyone thinks that men always have to be 'strong'. We are constantly told to keep our emotions to ourselves, which causes depression, and leads to suicide.
There are men counselling hotlines
But l do agree ,that men are treated differently when they try and express their emotions which is wrong
Wise words Mr Putin, I can relate to this
Men first established this role. And it’s mainly men holding themselves at such a standard
@@kungfukenny4718
Very true
@@kungfukenny4718 typical feminist philosophy.
Honestly I’m at a point where I’m scared to wake up each day because I feel so un-accomplished. Like a hole gets dug deeper with each waking day. Like I don’t know my purpose, I have no drive to even leave the house. I’ve cut of friends and even my wife at times. I have no contact with family either. I feel so secluded. And I feel scared because I’m becoming comfortable and content in this solitude in which I’m surrounded by sadness and pain. Idk I’m just kinda over everything. I don’t even want help sometimes. I get so stubborn and angry when close friends and family try to help me. I really want to feel good about my self. Thanks for the open ear if anybody is listening.
I listened man, i can relate a lot to your comment. Just know that you’re not alone
Same here...
It's a hard place to be in , if you have any family or friends that are close try and reach out for support
"I get so stubborn and angry when close friends and family try to help me."
I couldn't relate more to that. I don't accept help from others and I can't help myself. What do we do? I'm stuck. I even lost the will to eat or drink.
Zeki Koç Let your close ones to help you....
People always tell me to "get help"
Sometimes I don't even want to.
People alwas tell me to forget about my ex and i feel like i can and shouldnt cause im gonna lose my memories with her.... Most of people cause there own depression for not trying to move forward and one of those retards is me
IdiottiBiscotti it happens bro but just cut all the memmories u dont need it it Will only kill u inside
@@wizGreat thank u man i appreciate it❤️
Flix Boi not wanting help is part of depression. I see this was six months ago you commented. I hope things have gotten better for you but if not just know there are people who love you.
@@peterfile1834 Saying "Forget about her" "She's not worth it" is the worst thing you can say to someone, if those special moments are meaningless then nothing has any meaning
Seeing all of you boys in the comments makes me soo sad I wish I could help all of you, y’all deserve the world 🥺
You don't know what you are talking about
Go away.
Society tells men to be manly this is what can happen men have never really been allowed to cry we need to treat everyone equally I hope society keeps progressing
Fuck "Gender Norms".
That's what I say.
I literally could not agree more with this
If you are not a doctor, earn a lot of money, and if you are not very competitive, you are worthless. To women and to people in general.
You are not allowed to show your emotions, if you do, whatever people say, you will be deemed as week and worthless . People do not have sympathy for men and their personal issues and their mental health.
Trust me, i am experiencing it now.
If you tell them your thoughts, id you tell them you are very depressed, they tell you to snap out of it, pull yourself together, stop being lazy, get a job, etc, etc
Yeah I'm un manly because I cry all the time.
@@izil1fe Not all women think that. I promise there are females out there who have your back, me included.
Good points. I find these 3 to be big ones behind depression: Unsolved & suppressed emotional traumas, lack of connection with people (community) and meaningless career with no purpose & fulfillment. Unlocking the trauma will lead to more connection and seeking for more meaningful career, so that's always the starting point to me.
Your dead on just described everything that's got me in a deep dark hole right now....
This is helpful. Thanks
I Always hated my life in general, I’ve been harassed and abused by tons of people. And you know what I’m not a perfect person, I have got lots of mental issues of my own that I can’t help with. I isolate myself from everyone because I feel like I don’t belong, I dream about building a rocket ship so I can fly away from earth and live on another planet.
Logan Mecimore This spoke to me. I feel the same way and going through the same thing. M
I feel you man
well at least you have a good one flying to the moon in a rocket is better than nothing at all it just means you're exercising your brain which helps with recovery :)
This makes me very sad. Someone I care very deeply for is suffering terribly. I've suggested a number of things, especially the need for male friends. I'm learning that I am powerless over another person's process, and their illness.
Same 😥
This is the kind the video I need since am going through a tough time in my life 😭😭😭
I hope and prag things are better for u now
*pray
Thanks Linda X
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One day at a time my man ❤️
Often I blame myself for everything because everyone around me seems to blame me. So I often stay isolated and alone to avoid bringing others this misfortune.
More Hats same
Me too
I feel the same
Same man
I am depressed and super self conscious about myself. Recently a girl actually led me on and broke my heart. I didn’t love her but she made me happy because she was someone I could open up to, and I actually helped her cope with her depression and made her feel better about many of her problems, yet she cast me aside like garbage for another guy. She was just a special person because I am going through the darkest time of my life and I had no one to talk to and she was there for me when I really needed someone and vice versa. Now that she’s gone I’m not sure how to cope with it, I pray every night and ask for help in this situation to help me be happy, it sometimes even turns into 1on1 talks for 30 minutes up to an hour of me sitting eyes shut with my rosary just talking to god and asking for guidance. As I pray I begin to cry every time because I know I need patience but since it’s been going on for so long I long for happiness and joy. I miss the conversations I had with her a lot. I miss it all, I miss the feeling of being somewhat happy, I miss the feeling of being a child and not caring about anything because you’re so shut from the real world :(. I wish love on all going through depression and I hope we all learn to cope and deal with depression and that we may all find purpose and happiness in our lives. :)
Whatever happened happened there isn’t truly a future or a past or your expectations, just eternal now
Big Moose I’m actually doing great now. My whole life has turned around!
you broke your own heart by allowing yourself to let go of the one thing we as men live by! (pride)
next time you meet someone DO NOT let your self pride go! :)
This video needs to be one of the random videos in all men’s recommended🤦🏻♂️where you been Dr. Denney???
I need help
Hey are you doing okay?
I'm here for you were all human and we all suffer regardless of race or wealth I'm your brother from another mother and I'm here to say you can talk to me I feel your pain open your heart to me please if you need help please talk
Sometimes I feel like I am not living and just "existing" . I workout to the point of passing out everyday, and have to sleep wearing an earbud listening to a podcast, or my thoughts creep up on me and I can't sleep. I don't know if it is depression or not but this situation is really frustrating. No alcohol or drugs though.
same here. i cannot sleep without something simulating my brain be it a podcast or a youtube video or anything. i cannot just think because i hate what i think about
My dad is experiencing alot of the symptoms and its because of my mom who is causing a toxic relationship for my dad to the point where she is telling other men she isn't married... I'm trying to help him, but he doesn't feel like doing anything. I don't know what to do other than try to help support him. He works in a different state so I can't really talk face to face. I don't know what to do other than let him talk and give him answers for stuff I barely know about. I'm currently like his Pearsonal, untrained therapist who is just trying their best to not make him completely give up.
I feel you, may God give you wisdom
Tell him to go do him. If he's depressed over a woman, he needs to go. She ain't respecting him and if he offs himself, I doubt she will care. She doesn't care now and won't if she destroys him in divorce. He needs to leave. You only live once, and he doesn't sound like he is enjoying life
I've been seeing therapists for my depression about 25 years now. Wish I could say they have helped but they haven't. The goal doesn't seem to be about getting my life better. Unfortunately I have become a cash cow. Let's face it..a lot of money can be made off of one sick person. Sorry but the truth is the truth.
Endocrinologist. Get hormone treatment. Trt! Don't be fooled by the pharmaceutical giants.
I suggest hypnotherapy. It gets to the subconscious which is where a lot of healing needs to take place
Attila709 it’s either something other than depression or you’ve been hit really hard
I just live with depression
It is incredibly tough. We try our best to stay positive and be grateful for those scraps of good moments in our lives.
My boyfriend is depressed and I can not be with him anymore. I can’t handle it anymore because it’s affecting me more than him now. I love him so much but it’s getting out of hand.
Don't leave him this is the time he needed you the most. He might be depressed but he have you. As in my case i have nobody. I don't know what should do. I wish i have some one. Stay strong
What does he do that makes you want to leave him? I'm neutral curious
if you need to leave at least get him therapy
@TH-cam Virus get him therapy
Get him into therapy
All of you guys are too precious for this world😁
My brother just opened up about being depressed we as a family are trying to help him out we just don’t know how
*"We just don't know how"*
And people wonder why men don't talk about their problems, as if others can help
No wonder why I dont talk about my problems to my family nor my mom...
Living Organs!
"I'm going to kill myself"
A man said this no lie,
"No one will miss me
So it's better if I die"
"My life ain't worth living
Nothing's going right,
Only I can stop this pain
If I die here tonight"
Many people tried this
Because life was insane,
Some are now disabled
Yet many died in pain.
You may want to die
But body it does not,
When you cut yourself
Blood will start to clot.
You can swallow pills
Thinking that's the trick,
But body wants to live
It will make you sick.
Think about your body
Your body is a shell,
Protecting many organs
Who want to live as well.
When you go to sleep
Your organs have a goal,
They want to stay alive
So now they're in control.
Think about your organs
You have quite a few,
Many die who want to live
Now we're back to you.
Life has many hurdles
And can cause us pain,
But don't give up so easy
Think about the chain.
Chain is linked together
Father, husband, son,
Mother, sister, daughter
Each and everyone.
Take away one link
Now chain will fall apart,
Circle has been broken
That is just the start.
Chain no longer strong
So much grief they cry,
If you end your life
Another link may die.
By
Will Mckechnie
That was a beautiful poem, thank you for posting!
Your're welcome
So stay up for you're surroundings?
Think about it.
if you exercise regularly, meditate, eat a balanced diet, and have a connection with g-d, a lot of depression will fade away. this has been my formula to stay above water.
This just made me more depressed
Xxfaze MuntaxX lemme just tell you something you are too precious for this world😁
This is great. My man is depressed. At first I thought it may be cocaine but he don’t so drugs . He needs a brotherhood community! This pandemic is no joke with all of these households shelter in place
I see so many comments here of men blaming women for their problems. These men aren't going to get better until they take responsibility for their own issues and see that they might have issue with certain individuals, individuals who don't represent the whole gender. Just as women should not blame all men, men should not blame all women - or society. No one's putting down masculinity, but they are standing up to and not tolerating aggressiveness and unkindness.
My gf has diagnosed with depression:(
I hope your girlfriend is okay. She should seek help to see therapy and receive medication.
@@cookiestar370 thank you for your support you are the best
As a 14 year old male, I’ve always been told to man up, or be more mature. After constantly being told that, I have an extremely hard time expressing myself. I have attempted to break out of this, but whenever I do I just end up hurting the people I love. This behavior and constant stress of messing something up or harming the people around me has caused me to bubble up my emotions. This of course, always backfires and ends up hurting them even more. All I want is my old life. I’m afraid that is no longer possible. Now I just avoid everyone, hoping that would help. I’m hurting right now and I don’t know what to do anymore. Nothing I ever do seems to work. My fears and triggers have completely taken over me, and It’s getting to the point where I just want the pain and anxiety to stop.
deserve to feel this way. And don't think you can't do anything. It's not true. You should question yourself, "is this really worth bringing myself down? Are these small things worth ruining my life?" Think about the things that made you feel this way and think about if it's really worth it making you sad. If you think about it you realize it's stupid honestly. But just know that you are strong, loved, amazing, talented, wanted, young and have a big future in front of you, and so much more! Focus on the positive things and be yourself. ❤:)
Peace young guy. hang in there. Remeber you are way more than what you think you are.
Tired of life, loneliness, feeling useless all those things I feel every day and it doesn't help when family and so called "freinds" enforce it
_I've had depression for 6 years. I'm 15 now :(_
Learning specifically about "emotional intelligence" truly helped imo...ive had issues since about 8 years old...im 36 now. So researching it is a great start to healing!
May Allah heal you.
Just go to a councillor a good councillor
slozor I’m so sorry but in life we need to learn to work it out and manage it
slozor You’re not alone I been through that too
I manage depression through many different ways. I never stop exercising; I do about half an hour of exercise everyday or walk for an hour. Releases endorphins and dopamine. I am doing something all the time; reading, music, or cooking (sometimes combination of things). I am socially active, although I only have a specific set of people close to me. But I meet a lot of people everyday. Faces help a lot. But the best thing is my career. Everyone should have a proper career and live like it is life. There is no better happiness than doing your duties. And families, kids, pets; everyone helps. And you can try medication when needed, but don't stick to it. Ruins us. All the best to everyone.
Father Issues....oh, yes. Didn't have a good relationship with Dad, then he died in 2015 from a brain aneurysm. Still dealing with the guilt from that. Swept it under the rug and ignored it all this time. Now I'm an alcoholic. Thanks, Dad.
Hey guys its been almost 15 years that I've been depressed and havnt spoke about my issues until now and the reason i am speaking oit is because I'm starting to have suicidal thoughts. Thoughts like if its better for everyone if I was just gone. I cry when these thoughts come to my head. I'm 26 and still feel scared ashamed and embarrassed for my actions throughout my life. I wish I was normal living a normal healthy life. I ask myself why me why me 😥. I need help and don't know where to turn. I'm sorry to bum you guys out if you read this.
Don't apologize man. I'm 29 and I'd be lying if I told you if I never felt that way from time to time. I can't tell you how often I see my friends on FB leading happy lives and it makes me feel sick because I want that so bad. I've stopped going on FB as much. Hope you're feeling better since you've posted
why should you apologize to us for feeling that way you should never feel the need to apologizes for the way you feel unless you have either mentally or physically attacked someone for that then there is no reason that you should have to apologize, all you need is acceptance that this is the way you feel right now, the keywords are right now, doesn't mean there can't be a brighter tomorrow make a list of the things or reason's why you feel the way that you do, and deal the problems one by one. Good Luck
if you want to talk to somebody i'm right here.
Don't apologize, everyone deserves to be heard. I'm 21 and I've done some things in life that I regret and really have a hard time letting go. I was bullied in school and have been depressed ever since. It's getting better slowly and steadily day by day but yes there are days when I feel extremely hopeless. I've never gone out on a date so that really weighs on me. I even try because I think I'm too broken and a burden on others and that no one deserves to be with me. Seeing the perfect life of my friends online doesn't help either. I feel down that I can't achieve it that maybe I'm far to broken to ever get that life and then even I start thinking why me? I wish I could live a normal life like that. It sucks really just plain old sucks. It just feels like there's something broken and I can't fix it ever. But I try and persist out of some foolish hope that it'll be better and everything will make sense eventually, that maybe this hope isn't so foolish after all. I hope this helped! And remember there are people who love you and value you in your life I understand where you're coming from because even I think people are better off without me but I believe if you keep persisting one day you'll be better and realise your value! So best of luck and take care!
You are important and loved. Never apologize for standing in your truth. You have to live because your Higher Power is guiding you.
Very good advice. What if he is very skeptical of going to get professional help? How do you have that conversation?
Signed, Loving & Exhausted GF
Girl i feel u on that hope things are better now
Probably afraid of being involuntarily commited. Therapists usually have one of those emergency alarms hidden under desks, like in banks. They can, and do, easily call the police to take you away the moment you indicate you want to end your life. Not saying your partner is suicidal, but a lot of mentally ill people are afraid of getting locked away. I've been in the mental hospital before and trust me it is not easy to get out. You only have two options: doctor's consent or fight for yourself in a court of law.
If that is his concern, try to go with him and don't let anybody take him away.
when i went to therapy i felt it didnt work and i was wasting alot of money. it made me angry and upset instead of really doing anything for me. seemed like i was wasting an hour talking about nothing.
I had depression back in 2009/10 and also tried suicide. I was lost and felt unloved. I didn’t know how to talk about it at all.
Thanks for the video.
well how do you feel now? you missed that part
Are you okay? :)
I struggle with feeling depressed and with anxiety...I usually can’t sleep at night...and lately I’m just angry all the time...but I do a great job at hiding that fact. I am in a position where I don’t feel like it’s ever going to get better.
There is light ahead. I'm sorry you're having difficult moments. Be gentle with yourself, treat yourself to some fresh air, a massage, or your favorite meal. You must be good to yourself. Exercise is a great way to release any hidden anger inside. I have insomnia and depression, it affects my work and it's been difficult to get by bc some days my body is weak from being fatigue. I'm not here to push spirituality but yoga and meditation has helped me tremendously. Guidance and peace to you, brother.
If you ever need someone to talk to i'm here
Growing up I never had friends or buddies, but people who neglect me and make fun of me, this would happen every day from the start of elementary to the end of middle, I’m so lonely, it irritates me when I see a group of friends hanging out every day doing everything together , knowing I will never have such a luxury they take for granted, recently I’ve been getting this pit in my stomach that I feel is getting emptier and emptier, everyday I’ve been distracting myself from the inevitability of sadness with TH-cam and video games, as a child it would be my getaway, my sanctuary,but it now just feels like a jail, I’m stuck in a loop, I think my purpose in life is to make other people happy and laugh, leading them to a treasure I will never possess. I wouldn’t say my life is a tragedy, I think it’s a comedy
I don’t talk about my feelings unless it’s anonymous, it just feels better
@@malkncookies i felt the same mahn
I'm literally the exact same, like that perfectly describes me right now.
I feel alone 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🤦🏾♂️
Ix_KYREE_xI you are not 💙
I feel you but just know that there is someone out there and someone cares I also feel alone and I have been close to suicide try to talk to someone
What if someone (like me) needs help but they don't know where to start? I don't have money for a therapist and my family & friends don't understand. I feel lost...at the end of my rope and NO ONE seems to understand. I need help, not standard, clichéd motivational quotes. Where do I start?
Look up Jordan Peterson on depression on youtube. He helped me immensely and saved me from suicide. He says things that hit so close to the core and he himself experienced huge amounts of depresion in his family. He will also suggest what to do and where to start
This sounds like my husband right now . He’s pushing me away and I’m trying my best to be here but it’s taking a toll on me. He wants a divorce but I know that it’s his depression talking. And I don’t know how to be here for him!!! I feel helpless !
I went through depression during my school life and college life. I couldn't share my thoughts with family members because they used to mock me. It changed after I got my first job. Enjoying life with friends and colleagues is more helpful for me than sharing your thoughts with family members who don't even try to understand you.
That's great man
Men are our heroes. If they could only see with the eyes of a woman that sees them. ❤
Uhm, no, no. My ex-wife and my current GF. All the other women in my life. They've all stated they are strong, proud, brilliant WARRIORS ! WARRIORS ! They could easily take over the WORLD; if only they wanted to. That's their storyline, anyway.
@@ButcherBird-FW190D lol that's rather silly!
@@saleenastone Of course it is. But, it gets WAY better... Current GF ? High School grad....... Moi ? Undergrad in Acctng, Mastere's in Finance. Both from top tier schools (that means top 25 in the US for the given field). Spent 33 years as a Cptl Mkts Specialist for the FRB; now in retirement I work as the Treasurer for a bank. CPA, CFA Charterholder, FRM. Portfolio is $10B in securities and anywhere from -$5B to +$10B in fed funds, depending on the day. But, no, no. She tells me all about the financial world. And that's fine, I just smile and nod. Somewhat along the lines of last month when we went to the gym. She had me show her how to do leg presses, and she had good form at 80 pounds. Should struggled mightily at 100 lbs, but managed a couple reps. She proudly stepped off the machine and said it was my turn; confident at her success. Thinking I might go to 120 or 140 or what have you. I knocked out 3 sets of 10 at 600 pounds. She huffed and suggested we were done at the gym for the day. -Kind of along the lines of her telling me all about the bling-bling.
@@ButcherBird-FW190D Interesting how the most obvious things about the differences between men and woman are even being argued. Of course there is so much cognitive dissonance today. The truth is, we have never, ever seen men or women in their power. Neither. Very important for us to understand. Men have only ever been in the shadow. Same with women. This whole thing about, "Men have been in the power forever, it's time for women." That's actually not true. Masculinity has been in their shadow expression, and when masculinity is in the shadow expression it looks like things like tyranny. The patriarchy back in the day essentially rose up and did so much damage, especially with the way that they wrote the government. It was the way that out of alignment masculinity decided to not take genuine ownership for femininity and instead decided, "You're doing what I want you to do, no matter whether it's actually in your best interests or not." There was a zero sum game started between the sexes and when the government got involved with that, for women, they really lost all power in society. That put women in the position, like what happens when somebody feels like they can't go directly for what they want, to manipulate. So right now we're dealing with the feminine shadow expression of manipulation over the course of the generations. The pendulum has swung in the opposite direction, and we cannot look back in history where it was truly centered. And it was all orchestrated by the elite, that serve Satan....(in my humble opinion of course) I believe Satan has always wanted to destroy God's people. Hence why there is so much division. Men and woman against each other, child against parent, friend against friend, race against race, nation against nation, etc. If we could get back to divine masculinity and divine femininity, there would be much success. The way I see it, life is like chess, the Queen is the most guarded piece, the most important, yet cannot stand without her King, Rooks, Bishops, Knights, or even Pawns. So what does this mean? Surely something like, the man is the head and the woman is his crown 👑. How lovely when it flows so naturally. How catastrophic when it doesn't! I have had to revolt against every indoctrinated belief there is in order to align myself with this wisdom and have an entire life to discover it. Revolting against orginazed religions, traditions, government, socialism, feminism or any of the "isms" western medicine, education, EVERYTHING, on doing so it has allowed me to step outside of it all, even myself, to the very seed of it all, only through God showing me through His eyes as the creator. I have become free to it all and to holding everyone and everything hostage to the responsibility of my happiness. This is God's grace! Ok, I'm done lol don't want to write your a book here. 📖 😅
I have so much anger inside of me... and i feel lonely, i can feel so much heaviness inside of me.
I NEED HELP
Yeah I can help you it easy but
+17279165418 that my WhatsApp number
I have the anger too......I’m trying to use it on fitness, it’s not hot anger or cold, more just a slow burning crushing anger that is always there
Sick feeling like this everyday. Ive felt this way from about 8 years ago after my father passed. My partner at the time was always there but i refused to get help that i thought it would go away on its own. Im not letting this ruin my life nomore
I don't talk about my own depression often partly because I've stopped talking to all of my friends, I often think about how a lot of people say "you're not alone" and there are others like me. Though that phrase alone kind of just makes me think about how comparable I am to others. I tend to think about how every question I've ever asked has been a concept to exist long before I have. If I ask that same question to a problem that everyone else has asked before me, what is the value of this question? I often sit in deep contemplation about this, I remember many days it felt like my tears ran as hot as the blood in my veins and the first times these were in my head was when I was 9.
I was crying in the mirror, thinking about how god, my parents, or science made me, it didn't matter how I was made but it was the fact I was and yet I was so imperfect, life wasn't ever easy and I'd constantly losing in some way, there was poverty, hunger, abuse, sexual assault and it all made me felt incompetent. I began to ask these questions: "This is what I am? Why? Why is it me? What does this mean?" I would also often think of myself as subhuman at this time. But I began to learn, many people ask "why me"; they'd also question their own existence "what is the meaning of life.", I saw that every thought I had was mirrored by someone else in some form, I then knew I wasn't subhuman and in fact was as human as it can get but that realization brought a new set of thoughts on how non-unique the question was and thus it must've been valueless, it made me think about the value of identity in the first place, we all ask about or identities in similar ways. It made me think about how there's truly no one who can think beyond their peers in a way that's incomprehensible and unique to them as a whole. I suppose it's a good thing we're all very much alike, maybe we evolved like this in order to stop others from completely being ahead of the curb, maybe it was done so we could understand each other much more easily or possibly to let the next generation understand the mistakes of that last so it can build from it. My perspective has changed in a way where I think we're not all too different but that at the same time sacrificed some sense of being special, maybe that's done to humble everyone and to keep the concept of superiority down to a minimum.
Anyway, as for these days, I'm about 20 now turning 21 this year, ever since I hit around 14ish my emotions haven't been as vivid as they used to be. I always wondered if I'd still be alive today, so it makes me uncertain if I'd truly die by my own hand in the future. I'd have to sit and think about my future a little longer, I shall stay alone though, I find comfort in getting lost in my own thoughts these days, I don't seek death as much as I used to, as I have younger brothers and I can't just abandon them, they keep me bound to this planet.
Note: I do not want sympathy or to be consoled for my past as that doesn't really make me feel better, I simply wrote this for myself to acknowledge what has happened.
For the past few years, I’ve had ups and downs in my life. Deaths, losses, and just feeling all alone. Talking to somebody about what I’m going through is very tough. 😖😔😥
I feel you. You're definitely not alone, there are others all around the world who are just like you. If you ever feel this way again, know that you're a diamond out of many piles of dirt in this world and that you're very strong to be going through all this right now. I know you can pull through it. I'm glad that you're still alive right now, because you deserve the world. I know you can pull through it, you got this! 😊 Wishing you the best of luck in life, you deserve all of the happiness that you ever felt and will feel ❤
This message also goes for anyone else who suffers from depression.
@@chirone_ Thanks! I really appreciate the advice! 👍🏾🤟🏾
@@gmoney1061 No problem man 😎
Just listening to you talk makes me feel like everything will be fine and I will definitely take the info stayed in this value with high value.
So depressed I'm watching this while on vacation nuff said ....
You look depressed bruh
Im watching this on quarantine
We need to normalize men speaking openly about their feelings and emotions 🙌🏻 toxic masculinity has continually hurt men and society as a result.
in such machinated society filled with online fame and connections, Women getting the power and drive men to isolation and solitude .
It's very easy for men to get lost, women are getting the power by the social circle,connections, relationship and ability to control men.
I know women who prefer online fame and attention over dating and actual person.
This comment is so misguided.
You don’t know what ur saying
I don't know for sure but I'm pretty sure I have depression. I'm only 13 though and I'm to insecure, shy, and awkward to go to my parents. I have no idea what to do. I feel worthless. I have anger issues. I have signs/symptoms of depression. My grades have dropped. I have almost killed myself. I sometimes cry myself to sleep. I just don't know what to do. Anytime something like I fall at school happens, I hear someone laugh and I get put to tears because it makes me think that no cares no one ever will. I do my best to not let myself hit rock bottom I don't want to make the few that do care sad if they even will be. The only people that care are friends and family, no one else likes me, anyone I have a crush ends up not liking me. The toxicity of the gaming community doesn't help much either.
i'm 15 and study in an international School. My best friend had to go back to Korea 4 months ago and i am now left alone. I can really feel how there is something big missing in my life. It affects everything right now, social media life, studies, thoughts. I also think i am extremely alone and insecure and i also feel awkward to tell my parents. They helped me 4 months ago, but now it is really starting to get back. I also stopped gaming, because that sometimes makes it worse. I only play cs:go with bots every now and then and try to study to have a good future.
I hope you get professional help for this. There is a solution, don’t forget that!
Tell your parents, they love you more than you know. I have had depression for 20 years and it comes in waves were I feel ok and even good for a time, then I hit a snag of hopelessness. But there is very good advice on this video. Especially developing your spirituality. You can make it through this and there are friends and people who think like you and would be good friends to you. As far as the crush thing... don’t let that bother you now, as teenagers, we change so much through the years. You will find that in 6 years you will be in a totally different situation than you are now.
Remember, nightmares never last, eventually you wake up and they are gone.
I would agree the gaming won’t help. It is more of an escape from the real issues. Please talk to your parents. Sit them down, make sure you are heard and ask them for help. If for some reason they cannot help, it is very important that you speak to an adult at school.
I feel you little bro. I suffered with really severe OCD when I was 13-14, and I've been going through a period of depression now, but trust me, it gets better
I get what he is saying but why does he single out father's solely as a problem as if men would not have issues with there mothers as well? Why not just say parents?
Thank you. Your advice made me pick up that phone and make a call and book a meeting :) God Bless you
Wow, good for you. That's a very difficult first step that can take some of us years to do. You're already ahead of the curve. Remember if you don't find a psychologist that you feel comfortable with it's okay to shop around. Find the one that's right for you. Best of luck to you sir. /hugs
Everything in my life is good my parents love and support me very much but I still have days where I just stay in bed all day and not go anywhere, I had a passion for drawing but now I’ve lost interest and don’t know what to do with my life I start college next month and I feel as if I’m not ready or I don’t belong in this world like I have no purpose
I find this really relatable! Even I have a good home life now but there's just something missing like a big hole and I don't know what to do about it. I lost interest in a lot of things I did (for example guitar) and I watch TH-cam most days. So instead of watching cat videos I kind of decided one day to watch something a bit educational that could help me with music, which was music theory videos which motivated me slightly to play guitar, in a way I found a way around it maybe you can do something similar too! I hope this was helpful and hope you fell better soon!
I've been told my whole life (with few exceptions like my my mom) that as a guy, I need to man up, shut up, and stop crying. I used to be a very emotional person who has feelings, I'm just empty now, and I try my best to let myself feel things, but everytime, I am basically told, even if not verbally, "You're a man, shut up, man up, and piss off"
I cry at night before sleeping,makes me feel better and I dont have to show emotions in public
I do the exact same thing crying makes me feel better for a bit. Why do you think that Is?
I feel the same way I don’t know how to show my emotions in public and crying makes me feel better I already tried to commit suicide 2 times tuff times rn
Crying makes you feel better because of the release of emotions. We all need to cry at times. Let it out
This kind of problem is EXACTLY why the whole social movement of "toxic masculinity" and male disposability is so incredibly damaging and dangerous. You're taking people who already feel bad about themselves and making them feel like those notions are somehow valid or reasonable. It's a complete disaster in terms of mental health.
No no no, toxic masculinity refers to a SUBGROUP of masculine ideals that a SUBGROUP of men follow- ideals MAY include the notion that catcalling, being homophobic or keeping up a hyper-macho personality is somehow "masculine". I've met some men- keyword, "some"- like that, and it IS toxic. Maintaining the facade of having no emotions and no vulnerability means you can't talk to anyone about how you really feel, leading to feeling alone- if that in itself isn't toxic AF, catcalling or being homophobic also hurts other men and women. These are just some examples, but as you can see, it's toxic for EVERYONE, but mostly for the perpetrator himself.
I completely agree. While I support the toxic masculinity movement on the grounds of its purpose, I am finding that when awareness is spread it does need to make sure that it does not make the innocent feel bad. For instance, if it is too generalised such as when they show a video in which all the males are being toxic, it can be harmful. That's why I believe that representing both sides of toxic masculinity (those who are toxic and those who are not) is an integral part of any campaign. It shows that there is more than one place the men can fit in.
@Chris No, you can't blame women. The term refers to men who hate women and feel that they have the right to dominate society and dominate women and be physically and emotionally abusive. Yes, these men do have psychological problems, but we can't use that to overlook or excuse their bad behavior.
@yella dart
I can see why you may feel victimised however toxic masculinity works against mens mental health also.
for example a man’s inability to live up to his fathers or societies expectations of him as a man.
Toxic masculinity awareness is not supposed to hurt men it’s supposed to support both men abs women alike all round
@@lozc7577 I have to respectfully disagree. I suffered from debilitating shyness as a child and I was lucky enough to have teachers who encouraged my parents to sign me up for extracurricular activities that would help me overcome my issues. I felt a great sense of accomplishment by learning to be more outgoing, it was empowering and it helped me to become a happier person because I was able to now make friends. Masculinity is earned. I think the reason why so many men are aimless and depressed is because they feel no sense of purpose or power. This new societal shift where they tell people "If you're fat, don't eat better and go to the gym just embrace it" that's toxic. Men should seek to embrace masculinity as a challenge. Growth and self improvement are central to the human experience. That's why babies learn to walk, talk and stop shitting their pants.
Hey, so my brother is depressed and he was the first one to tell me and i still feel very guilty that i didn't notice that he was sad at all and i really want to help him get better but it just seems like everything i say only makes it worse so if he gets angry or sad i just don't say anything because i'm too scared that i'll just make it worse. can anyone help me with what to say to him or how to help him?
Just listen to him let him talk and love him do things with him fun stuff. motivate him to go out with you take him places. Alot of times they just need to be heard and loved
I really need the last bit: a sense of brotherhood. I am gay, but I am more masculine than my friends and I am also the only man in my department. I am too manly for the female talk and too masculine for the gay culture. Sometimes I miss my childhood straight friends, but we live in different worlds now.
I've been severely depressed and have smiling depressing. But a have had suicidal thoughts and still feel that way. I cry a lot. Everyday I feel.anxious and depressed.
In 6th grade, I remember being in our classes' boy group and being the only girl.
It was a great time.
Sure, some of them dislike me, and they often make perverted jokes, but when I was in their group, it felt amazing.
I felt accepted.
I'm 100% sure I would never feel that way if I hung out with the girls.
In this school, especially in the current 7th and 8th grades, the girls are very judgemental.
Most of them hate me-
Last summer changed me a lot, so I don't talk to the guys anymore, well, unless they start a conversation.
Out of the guys I hung out with, only 1 still invites me to their table, I wouldn't call that a good idea, though, since most of the time, I just sit there, not hearing half of their jokes-
Honestly, I just want all the men struggling to know that they should never ignore their emotions and that they're the best people I've ever known
But that's simply impossible, I'm too socially awkward
I'm scared of how long this comment is
Sounds pretty confusing to me
i agree I don’t know what i was thinking these 3 months ago
i think i tried to sound serious but in reality that just makes this funnier
@@iamtoohonest556 Everyone's woes are serious but you sound like your doing ok
I really didn't notice, but I really needed something like this.
I’m in Chronic pain
with back surgery. I can only do so
Much before being useless. My wife has come heartless doesn’t want to hear about it . She in
Pain also and says she is worse . I have had -3 knee replacements 8 hand operations and L4-5 back fused. . Plus diabetes. I struggle all night long to sleep feeling worthless not able to do things seems like my wife doesn’t care as long as her house looks nice for others to see I do my best sometimes I do too much I think I’m at my last line I’ve had enough she’s very abusive and hateful doesn’t even know it. I am going away to visit for a few days . I need the fresh air. And silence. I’m
Not a bad person and feel I’m ready to go. .I haven’t been happy for a long time . But she blames me . I will shut the phone off . She says she needs a break from
Me . I will be praying hard as God never gets tired of me Like people do . I know one thing I may turn the other cheek but I’m more of a man for doing nothing . Feeling like I. NEver did belong here . I just hope I can sleep tonight and maybe have a good dream . I don’t like it here .
Love from here
Thanks for sharing, very helpful
I had a male friend with depression he was exactly how u described it to be doc! He was very abusive to me. I asked him did he have depression, he said he didnt need help he was always irritated and overly confident thinking he was better than everyone. I directed him to the suicide hotline and i have heard from him since..... Maybe that was God telling me to leave that alone
God bless you.
U left him when he needed u more ....
You honestly don't know what he's going through that's just a man's defense mechanism of not wanting to be hurt cause he's honestly been through alot the reason why he's acting like that is that he thinks he's fine when he isn't...
I been having depression over 10 years I barely want to leave the house I go in my room put on my headphones my music is a escape from the world
I have been depressed for 7 years now
Basically what makes us men are also our biggest flaws: introspection, individuality, solving things on our own...
Some people are paid to lift up the soul's of other's.
Some people do it out of compassion with no interest in reward.
One of these sides is completely empty of spirit and mean's nothing to me.
Another side mean's everything.
I can't wake up from nightmares because I'm living in one.
I’m 12 years old I suffer from depression and I want to die I NEED HELP
It will pass. You need to fight. I know its hard. this is going to sound dumb, but youtube alan watts, buddhism, jordan peterson. Listen to great music. sink deep into reading and watching stuff that interests you but also educates you. Work out. Write down everything. None of this will cure you. It will help get you through though. thank you for posting here and saying something Zahra.
I hope all is is well please take care of yourself don't let guilt of feeling sad get to you. You just need to keep yourself busy and love yourself slowly
I seriously just want the helplessness to fade so I can really appreciate what my friends and family are trying so hard to prove. It’s all wrong.
My husband has been struggling for over 2 years now and won’t seek help. It’s starting to take a toll on your marriage. I don’t know how to help him. He comes from a culture with a huge stigma when it comes to mental health which I think may be making it worse.
Question!! Where should my husband and I go that actually know about male depression in Kansas? Any recommendations?
The place we went keep telling him just do it without provide steps.... Can't and won't are two different things...
Try someplace in the Kansas City area. You will not find any help for mental health issues in Kansas rural areas. It's just too backward of a state.
Watching this as I feel my boyfriend has depression but will not seek help. I need to learn to help him
My husband is going through a tough time right now he’s opened up about how he is feeling depressed , I just want to be helpful but I feel helpless because when I try he gets irritated with me. Please help
Just listen when he needs to talk. Show him that he can say anything to you. In time, suggest a therapist.
He gets irritated because he's afraid that every time you give him advice and it doesn't work, he feels validated in his belief that there is no cure. Everytime he asks his loved one for help and it's something that doesn't help, he gets sad and angry that not even his beloved wife has the answers he is looking for. You should approach him from time to time and ask him how he is feeling, and just listen to what he has to say, for now. Eventually you will hopefully understand his situation better, but you still have to be honest when you respond back. Say that you don't know how to help him, but always express sympathy and love regardless. Hopefully in time when he opens up to you some more, you can make some suggestions: go out for a walk with him in the sunlight and talk. Make him a healthy meal. If you guys can afford it, suggest a counselor or therapist. I don't know what steps your husband has taken, but there are a lot: diet, exercise, therapy, meds, vitamin d pills, meditating, etc.
Hope things with you and your husband are better since you wrote this. Good luck with everything, and have a nice day
My wife has depression, but now she is thinking I have depression.
My girlfriend also had depression, I wad the only one helping her to deal with it, I helped her so much that I forgot about my past and my own problems.
Now I feel depressed, I feel unloved, unwanted, I feel like nobody cares about me...
I've been dealing with this for almost 4 years, i've learned to deal with it, but I still feel sad sometimes.
My partner also have depression. He believes no one cares about him even tho most do, he thinks my feelings is just a joke, he tells me that I have betrayed him, he said I never cared about him when he was trying to make me feel better about myself, it feels like he’s blaming me for nothing, it’s not bad he’s telling me about his problems but it was too much pressure for me to handle to the point where I felt I wasn’t good enough for him. I feel like it isn’t gonna work out, but I don’t want to hurt his feelings. Yes, I still have feelings but the feeling that it’s not going to work out is stronger and I don’t know what to do
Sorry about this
sometimes i wanna scream until my lungs bleed
Hey man i def feel you stay safe and take care
I've began feeling deppresed and pain lately. I'm embarrassed to open up to my parents. I dont want to be seen as weak or that I cant handle this. I've been trying to handle it on my own, but it keeps getting worse and worse. I have suicidal thoughts and theres times where I'll just be walking on a sidewalk and think" I should honestly just jump in." I have absolutely zero friends and I'm always by myself now. I dont lift like I used to. I dont eat the same and I dont connect with my parents as often. I only ever feel happy at work. If I'm not working, I'm not happy. I'm not even sure where I went wrong. It just hit all of a sudden. I just dont want to disappoint my parents and be seen as someone who cant handle their pain.
Everyone needs help sometimes. I know it’s hard to think that you may look weak to your family but it takes strength to ask for help. You are strong when you realize you need help. Bible says, “when I am weak, then I am powerful”
Perfect information. Thank you!
What sucks is that, I am 12 and dealing with depression
My brother is about to run away I'm depressed but my parents don't know that I'm crying my family is torn
I need help but it's hard so never hurt anyone or be mean To them you don't want this to happen
My dad has become very depressed it scares me because I have no idea how to help him. How can I a kid help an adult I could tell him to see a therapist but I feel like it’ll like be talking to a wall he cant even find strength to get up and walk around I need help and/or advice please
Offer to spend time with him doing something he loves. If it's as simple as watching baseball or football watch a game with him. The smallest things can help
Endocrinologist! He needs hormone replacement therapy. He has 24/7 PMS because of high levels of estrogen/DHT as his levels of testosterone are most likely depleted.
Ringo, I'm not an expert, but I think you are the one who needs support right now. If you are a kid, teen or younger adult this is beyond what you are able to cope with. Please try to find support from counselors at school or at your college. I would also look for support from other adults in your family (for yourself), if there is someone you feel especially close or connected to. You may not be able to actually "get through" to your father. This is very scary for you and your family. My heart goes out to you.
Im in the exact same situation. Do you want to message on my messenger??
I am 19 was recently diagnosed with major depression and anxiety derived from it even with all of these things my parents refuse to acknowledge my suffering and i'll probably end it soon I've already planned most of it out
I hope I am not too late. Please don't give up, there's hope. There's always hope
Kinda hard to see a therapist if we must risk losing Constitutional Rights by doing so...
The annoyin thing bout being a man is that ice cold feeling you get inside of you sometimes it's difficult 4 me to show emotion because it's like a deep hole that's gettin even deeper. Hard 2 describe
Makes it hard for me to express my empathy because I'm focusing so hard on trying to figure out how I'm feeling within this abyss in my chest
Do You Leave Someone Alone Who Has Depression Not Because You Want To But Because They Told You Too ?
Darkskinbaby .__ i wish I would know the answer to this question.. the man I was dating told me he needs time and can’t keep seeing me rn and now I don’t know what to do.. I feel like i‘m abandoning him if I grant his wish, but I also don’t want to put pressure on him.. I guess there’s no right or wrong .. but you’re not alone with this question
@@justagirl8298 give him the space to be understanding. right this moment i am pushing someone away who cares for me very much. I feel so bad about myself that i dont want to burden this person. And when they try to help or cheer me up, it almost makes me feel worse. for some reason there is a big pull to isolate yourself, to hibernate, hide, not burden anyone with the misery one feels. Be supportive. Let him know you are there whenever he needs you. Be just a friend if he can't commit to you at this time. It's not you. It's what he's going through. He wishes he could be happy with you. So be there as a friend. He will trust you even more without the GF/BF pressure and you'll both be strengthened by it. Good luck.
What leads me to depression is i want my mom to be proud of me... what do i do??? Sometimes i feel useless no matter i do...
Does anybody know of any good online discussion boards for guys with depression?? I'm 45.. I'm thinking it might be a good idea just to lay out what I'm going through and see what suggested solutions come from the general public. Thanks
Its so fucked up, everything is absolutely FUCKED UP. My god do I hate people sometimes...
My father is suffering from clinical depression. At times it becomes really difficult to connect with him. I don't know how to deal with this
How do I get my adult son to get help.
I'm a gay male and want a friendship with another male who goes through similar life struggles.
I just want someone to HELP. I can’t take it anymore and I don’t know who to talk to. It’s like I know there’s something wrong inside of me but I just can’t tell you what it is
Thought the intro was Assassin's Creed 2 main theme for a moment
Appreciate the video. Been super down lately and the spiritual is what I need. havent been to church in two months almost.
My husband this last week has become more angry and so irritable and just critical also of me. He is giving everyone else the best of him but I get someone different. Why is he mean and aggressive to me. He is a Christian also. Yet doesn't show me God. He seems so immature with all this.
I'm a 30 year old male who often locks up on my emotions bc I feel like when I open up in see my own suffering in the eyes of the person I'm talking to so I feel a magnification of my own sadness so I resist opening up and my emotions build up until late night when I don't have friends or family available to me when I truly need them I was diagnosed with depression in middle school and I'm truly suffering every time I tell someone that I'm srry it only makes me feel worse I need help
Ive been a loner most of my life because people just get on my nerves women are the worst for ignoring me ive ended up being very quiet and getting funny looks at work sometimes i just cant take anymore is this a form of depression
Uh, "YEAH". It is most certainly a sign of depression.
Just found this video after watching tons of mental health videos, i agree with Dr denney. Learning about Emotional Intelligence (EI) is great. Breaking the barrier of toxic masculinity is also important. Being conscious or mindfulness also helps.
Any advice on how to approach the conversation of suggesting therapy to a male who doesn’t want to admit he is depressed? Or advice on how to create a safe space for him to talk?