Why You Should Think Twice About Couple's Therapy

Will couples therapy help? What do you look for in a couples therapist or coach? Dr. Jenna Mountain unpacks what to look for in a counselor and we'll share the 5 signs your relationship is ready for marriage counseling.
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CHAPTERS
0:00 Is Couples Therapy the Solution?
0:50 Getting Professional Help is Always a Good Decision
1:11 Dr. Jenna Mountain Will Share How to Find the Right Therapist
2:02 James and Teri Craft Have Made it Their Mission to Help You
3:05 Should a Couple Jump Straight Into Couples Counseling?
4:55 Will I Be Traumatized Even Worse in Couples Counseling?
7:33 You Are Meant to Have Boundaries -Even in Therapy
8:56 There Are Unmistakable Signs to Know If Couple’s Therapy is Unsafe
9:54 The 5 Signs You Need to See In Your Relationship Before Couples Counseling
10:09 Sign 1 -Sobriety is Established
11:35 Sign 2 -Empathy is Present in Your Relationship
12:22 Sign 3 -The Truth is Established in Your Relationship
13:06 Sign 4 -Mental Illness, Addictions and Trauma are Managed
14:30 Sign 5 -Reconciliation is Mutually Desired
15:15 What if You’re Not Ready for Couples Therapy?
15:53 Dr Jenna Mountain Shares How To Find the Right Therapist

[@fatimaabrahams1150]

The right therapist is very important. We had one therapist who caused additional trauma. A year later we went to a second therapist. I interviewed her, and even though she was a marriage therapist, she didn't see betrayal as trauma. I didn't go back after that session. 1 years later and we're still not doing couples therapy. My partner is just not playing a long. It's sad, and I don't know what more to try. He wants the relationship, but he's not willing to do the work. He's avoidant, and prefers to just shove everything under the rug. We're both in individual therapy, which we both find helpfull, but I don't know when we'll ever be ready for couple work.

[@MarriageHealth]

So sorry to hear that. We love that you are advocating for yourself and putting in the work with your own individual counseling. Please feel free to reach out to us if you guys want additional support. www.livelifeunplugged.org/contact

[@fruity_mango6539]

My husband and I have a Christian couple mentoring us. They’ve counseled us as a couple a couple of times. They are not specifically trained in pornography addiction, betrayal trauma or emotional abuse/neglect. We had a dday 4 months ago, with my husband’s 30 year pornography addiction come to light. He’s still very emotionally immature and defensive, blame shifts, gaslights, etc. I still haven’t had a full disclosure (we’ve been together 21 years). I left the last session with them in tears. I was told a disclosure isn’t necessary and looking back won’t solve anything, and just to lay it at the cross. I was also told in front of my husband that I have control issues. Oh boy, did he sure RUN with that one!! I cried a good portion of the session, while he received all the accolades, for all the *work* he has been doing, my trauma was completely ignored. I left feeling much worse and more confused about the situation. Then he triangulated them into his argument, regarding my boundaries, to back up that I am “controlling”. Lord please help me as I navigate through this mess 😩

[@MarriageHealth]

That is extremely painful. We are so sorry to hear that you experienced that. Please feel free to reach out to us if you need help or for someone to come alongside you. www.livelifeunplugged.org/contact