Thanks for this direct and unapologetic episode. I’m here for it. Looking nice and put together absolutely matters! Does it get you better results with men? YES! But beyond that it also gets you better treatment in shops, at appointments, in interviews. More smiles. Better service. Every interaction is better. People go out of their way to interact with you. They’re kinder too. Can we stop fighting with the reality of the world we live in, accept this fact, and in the wise words of Slumflower “stop sleeping on our potential”?!
And notice how when she describes what she does for her looks (corset, heels, etc), the reasons are because SHE feels more confident that way. To be "beautiful" is not just checking off the boxes of todays beauty standard, it is a mindset, it is presenting yourself in a way that makes you feel your most confident and empowered. People are reading your energy, not only what you look like. Me personally, I am uncomfortable in tight clothes and dont personally like the feeling of makeup on my skin (sensory thing). So when I dress in that way, I am not confident nor comfortable. When i wear looser, more flowy outfits and focus more on hygiene and being well groomed, I feel much more comfortable and therefore exude much more beauty and confidence. Its not one size fits all, we all feel most beautiful in a way unique to us
YES BITTER TRUTH. Men respond to beauty. They themselves will admit that women who look the best and put the most effort into themselves will yield the best results with men and get the best treatment .This is the reality whether you see it as fortunately or unfortunately .
And with regards to the reparations conversation, I think that women are not understanding bc we've been taught if we are patient and "wait our turn", we'll finally get what we want. So to see someone like you that is bypassing the line and going exactly for what you desire, yeah I see why they would be upset lol.
My mother raised me like this but I let the pan African movement lull me into thinking otherwise …but it’s true, looking good yields great results in every arena
What I love most of you is that you give us the gumption. Theory doesn’t mean a thing unless you believe in your natural born right to take up space and receive. Fuck’em
And it *goes both ways* these basic men really believe they are ‘entitled’ to a woman who puts energy and time into her appearance to like them for ‘their personality’ but be unattractive as all get out. They don’t like that women who ARE desirable are starting to play with the same deck of cards and many of them don’t measure up and therefore don’t get the women they want who look the way they want. And the part that women have to realize is the men who base their entire relationship ship choice off of how the woman looks on his arm will change out that woman line they’re Leonardo DiCaprio so get yours and get gone 💁🏽♀️
I’m in relationship. This man got me messed up and you know how they piss you off and then you start looking on how ugly they really are lol. I know! The slumflower is about to get me right! 😂
You know this internalizes the belief that if you weren't naturally beautifully you won't be able to get a good mate. Like some of us weren't born light-skinned if I used this reasoning I would have to turn myself into a light-skinned woman in order to get good treatment
Men find different aspects attractive. So if the men youre into care ab skin tone and desire lighter ones, then direct your attention to others who dont care to prioritize that aspect. Im into a certain caliber of men, and i expect them to have standards, wisdom, and discernment. So my type of man wont treat women they dont find attractive bad, and they also wont entertain just anyone bc of their looks. Looks catch attention, but what rlly attracts and keeps you? But back to the point of: looks catch attention. They arent everything but as i have standards for the men im into- i expect them to have some as well. For me, i dont date men who wear skinny jeans and use 3-in-1😂 for a man? Could be he likes to see u take care of yourself, like even if u in sweats- are your teeth brushed or hair done? Is your face washed? Are u ashy? What clothes do u wear? So basically if the men u like dont like u bc of something like skin color or the way your eyes look or your skin condition- then dont like them. They arent the ones for u. Now if they arent interested bc you wear ill fitting clothes or you dress like a 304 at olive garden then it is what it is😂 we make our choices and others make theirs. the ones for u will be attracted to you bc of the way u carry yourself n take care of yourself n the way you move through your life. Now how do u wanna do that?
After this episode I really don't want to date. ...I am someone who isn't light-skinned if I started cutting myself into what men want it is just impossible.
Girl, please stop it! This video is toxic AF. There is soooo many man that would fight over your dirty panties,that would pay to smell your unwashed hair, kiss your skin with acne scars etc. Really, you will found the one and please don’t change and don’t let them girls convince u otherwise. And pls don’t ever lose your identity, don’t change your style ( like trynna wear wigs, fashio nova/ ig baddie etc.). Stay original, real men appreciate that. You want him to love u , not your flesh(!!!), not a fantasy that u are creating. Love your real hair not a freaking wig. Love your skin, fresh morning face not some milion step makeup. Good men stil exists and they will love u the way u look, plsss believe me. Take care of your hygiene of course, wear comfortable clothes, find your style etc. but don’t trynna be another copy. Dark skin is beautiful and there is huge amount of men who love your skin. But love yourself first( idk if it’s your mom who hate herself that made you feel insecure or some jealousy,, friends” trynna make u feel like u don’t deserve love, but pls block them from your life). I can recommend you Salkis Re channel If you are looking for some safe space. Love yourself pls!!!!!!
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Thanks for this direct and unapologetic episode. I’m here for it. Looking nice and put together absolutely matters! Does it get you better results with men? YES! But beyond that it also gets you better treatment in shops, at appointments, in interviews. More smiles. Better service. Every interaction is better. People go out of their way to interact with you. They’re kinder too. Can we stop fighting with the reality of the world we live in, accept this fact, and in the wise words of Slumflower “stop sleeping on our potential”?!
And notice how when she describes what she does for her looks (corset, heels, etc), the reasons are because SHE feels more confident that way. To be "beautiful" is not just checking off the boxes of todays beauty standard, it is a mindset, it is presenting yourself in a way that makes you feel your most confident and empowered. People are reading your energy, not only what you look like. Me personally, I am uncomfortable in tight clothes and dont personally like the feeling of makeup on my skin (sensory thing). So when I dress in that way, I am not confident nor comfortable. When i wear looser, more flowy outfits and focus more on hygiene and being well groomed, I feel much more comfortable and therefore exude much more beauty and confidence. Its not one size fits all, we all feel most beautiful in a way unique to us
RESULTS...I love it!!!. only your mother will love you as you are, period. Out there in the world...its DIFFERENT!..loveyaslumflower🌸
YES BITTER TRUTH. Men respond to beauty. They themselves will admit that women who look the best and put the most effort into themselves will yield the best results with men and get the best treatment .This is the reality whether you see it as fortunately or unfortunately .
Sis said I spoke at Oxford don’t try me 😂😂😂 love it!
“Dress for the life you want, cause men are the by-products”. 👏👏❤❤
Path of least resistance+path of more abundance FTW 🙌🏾 🙌🏾🙌🏾🥳🥳🥳
you are changing my mindset one video at a time and I APPRECIATE IT SO MUCH THANK YOU
Real masculine men crave the feminine period. Looks, energy, essence, spirit.
And with regards to the reparations conversation, I think that women are not understanding bc we've been taught if we are patient and "wait our turn", we'll finally get what we want. So to see someone like you that is bypassing the line and going exactly for what you desire, yeah I see why they would be upset lol.
My mother raised me like this but I let the pan African movement lull me into thinking otherwise …but it’s true, looking good yields great results in every arena
Thank you for this new episode !!!
Yeaaaaaa!! Slumflower baby🎉🎉🎉
Here for the truth period!
this is true. ive had things done for me instantly too lol.its reality.
I enjoyed that interview and was ready to be up in arms against those close-minded broads😂😂
What I love most of you is that you give us the gumption. Theory doesn’t mean a thing unless you believe in your natural born right to take up space and receive. Fuck’em
Yay! I’m here for the video drops
And it *goes both ways* these basic men really believe they are ‘entitled’ to a woman who puts energy and time into her appearance to like them for ‘their personality’ but be unattractive as all get out.
They don’t like that women who ARE desirable are starting to play with the same deck of cards and many of them don’t measure up and therefore don’t get the women they want who look the way they want.
And the part that women have to realize is the men who base their entire relationship ship choice off of how the woman looks on his arm will change out that woman line they’re Leonardo DiCaprio so get yours and get gone 💁🏽♀️
U r the queen 👑
Yes queen
I’m in relationship. This man got me messed up and you know how they piss you off and then you start looking on how ugly they really are lol. I know! The slumflower is about to get me right! 😂
You got this bestie! I believe in you
thank you can someone tell this to Ashley Dalton
5:53 I don't wanna build! Please & Please
Yes, yes it does. I got to be attracted to you before I have to love you. And yes I got to look at my man and be like “gyatt damn he fine”. So yup.
You know this internalizes the belief that if you weren't naturally beautifully you won't be able to get a good mate. Like some of us weren't born light-skinned if I used this reasoning I would have to turn myself into a light-skinned woman in order to get good treatment
I don't think you understood her points
Men find different aspects attractive. So if the men youre into care ab skin tone and desire lighter ones, then direct your attention to others who dont care to prioritize that aspect. Im into a certain caliber of men, and i expect them to have standards, wisdom, and discernment. So my type of man wont treat women they dont find attractive bad, and they also wont entertain just anyone bc of their looks. Looks catch attention, but what rlly attracts and keeps you? But back to the point of: looks catch attention. They arent everything but as i have standards for the men im into- i expect them to have some as well. For me, i dont date men who wear skinny jeans and use 3-in-1😂 for a man? Could be he likes to see u take care of yourself, like even if u in sweats- are your teeth brushed or hair done? Is your face washed? Are u ashy? What clothes do u wear? So basically if the men u like dont like u bc of something like skin color or the way your eyes look or your skin condition- then dont like them. They arent the ones for u. Now if they arent interested bc you wear ill fitting clothes or you dress like a 304 at olive garden then it is what it is😂 we make our choices and others make theirs. the ones for u will be attracted to you bc of the way u carry yourself n take care of yourself n the way you move through your life. Now how do u wanna do that?
After this episode I really don't want to date. ...I am someone who isn't light-skinned if I started cutting myself into what men want it is just impossible.
Girl, please stop it! This video is toxic AF. There is soooo many man that would fight over your dirty panties,that would pay to smell your unwashed hair, kiss your skin with acne scars etc. Really, you will found the one and please don’t change and don’t let them girls convince u otherwise. And pls don’t ever lose your identity, don’t change your style ( like trynna wear wigs, fashio nova/ ig baddie etc.). Stay original, real men appreciate that. You want him to love u , not your flesh(!!!), not a fantasy that u are creating. Love your real hair not a freaking wig. Love your skin, fresh morning face not some milion step makeup. Good men stil exists and they will love u the way u look, plsss believe me. Take care of your hygiene of course, wear comfortable clothes, find your style etc. but don’t trynna be another copy. Dark skin is beautiful and there is huge amount of men who love your skin. But love yourself first( idk if it’s your mom who hate herself that made you feel insecure or some jealousy,, friends” trynna make u feel like u don’t deserve love, but pls block them from your life). I can recommend you Salkis Re channel If you are looking for some safe space. Love yourself pls!!!!!!
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