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The' Slumflower (The Slumflower)
เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 10 ต.ค. 2011
DICKMATIZED? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
Is the dick too bomb for you to use your sense? Have you found yourself roped into a 'situationship' from what was only meant to be a brief hookup? Are you hoping the sex will make him love you?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why 'being dickmatized' is of the mind - and how we can all snap out of it before we become stuck!
Available to stream on Spotify, Amazon and Apple Podcasts via theslumflowerhour.lnk.to/listen
Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions!
NEW EPISODE EVERY FRIDAY!
Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: geni.us/pocketpower
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why 'being dickmatized' is of the mind - and how we can all snap out of it before we become stuck!
Available to stream on Spotify, Amazon and Apple Podcasts via theslumflowerhour.lnk.to/listen
Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions!
NEW EPISODE EVERY FRIDAY!
Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: geni.us/pocketpower
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SPENDING HIS MONEY | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Are you dating to marry or dating for money? Do women deserve to be paid to be pregnant? Is it possible to fall in love without giving away your power to a man? These are questions that need answers and in this episode, join Chidera as she covers them! Available to stream on Spotify, Amazon and Apple Podcasts via theslumflowerhour.lnk.to/listen Join my patreon at patreon.com/theslumflower for a...
STICKING TO YOUR GUNS | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Do you struggle with putting your foot down when handling a situation with a guy? Are you often 'too nice' when you should be a little more dubious of men? Have you fallen into the mentality of making men's negligence about you? In this episode, enjoy a storytime and Chidera's real-time texting conversation with a man who is now blocked! Available to stream on Spotify, Amazon and Apple Podcasts...
SUBTLE SIGNS HE'S NOT THE ONE | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Do you feel like that man is romantically edging you? Is there a vibe that he 'kind of' likes you but is holding back? Are you at a crossroads of whether you should keep emotionally investing in him? If any of the above questions resonate with you, this quick burst of an episode might give you the answers you need...while giving you a laugh! Available to stream on Spotify, Amazon and Apple Podc...
DO LOOKS MATTER? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Do looks really matter? Should we 'dress for men'? Is it considered 'unfeminist' to use your beauty as leverage? We cover all these questions in this episode, where The Slumflower dives into beauty as a tool - and whether feminism is helping or hindering our journeys towards the lifestyles we desire... (Disclaimer: the use of weed as an example in this episode, is in no way a promotion of its u...
OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF ASKING MEN FOR STUFF | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Do you feel like you 'owe' men sex for a cocktail? Does the 'gold digger' label scare you away from being upfront about your needs? Are you playing to win or are you playing to be fair? In this episode, join Chidera as she dilutes your fears of asking men for things, and chats through the ridiculousness of male entitlement! Available to stream on Spotify, Amazon and Apple Podcasts via theslumfl...
ARE YOU A STRICT BABE? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Are you trying to find the firmness in your voice? Or are you worried you might be a bit too blunt? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through the ways we can all be a little stricter without flying off the rails - and why there's nothing scarier to a man, than a woman who is pissed off and relaxed about it... Available to stream on Spotify, Amazon and Apple Podcasts via theslumflowerho...
HOW TO EXPLOIT MEN | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Do you feel bad about dating selfishly? Does the idea of 'using' a man make you feel guilty? Is it exploitative to date men with your best interest at the forefront? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses her favourite ways to exploit men in a world where they systemically and interpersonally exploit women every single day... Available to stream on Spotify, Amazon and Apple Podca...
IS HE A BOYFRIEND OR IS HE A TRAUMA BOND? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Have you convinced yourself you're stuck with that man? Is he really the best you can do? Why do you even keep giving him chances? In this brief and funny episode, join The Slumflower as she talks through the lies we tell ourselves to cling onto these men who have passed their expiry date in our lives... Available to stream on Spotify, Amazon and Apple Podcasts via theslumflowerhour.lnk.to/list...
HAVING HIS BABIES? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Is the pressure on to start a family? Feeling broody? Or maybe even experiencing that FOMO feeling as everyone around you is starting to have babies? You are not alone! In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about why you don't need to have kids just because you want to...and the ways we can all show up in a maternal role without having to commit to parenthood *cough cough* shout out to the...
DATING AS A FIRST BORN DAUGHTER | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Are you a first born daughter who has been plagued by the perpetual sense of responsibility...even over the men you date? Has your first born daughter status evolved into a saviour complex? Do you feel like you need to be useful in order to be loved? Dear first born daughters, this one is for us! In this episode, join Chidera as she muses and reflects on her life and upbringing as a first born ...
HOW TO DATE NIGERIAN MEN | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Have you been victimised by a Nigerian man? Are you too nice to the Nigerian men you date? (YES) Is there a lack of cultural awareness that impinges upon your ability to understand Nigerian men? However you resonate (or don't) with these questions, you'll enjoy this episode full of insight, banter and cultural context from a Nigerian woman, herself! In this episode, join The Slumflower as she d...
SO YOU'RE NOT LEARNING YOUR LESSON... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Are you that friend who keeps calling your friend to complain about the same man you won't leave? Are you the friend who wishes your homegirl would get a grip and get over that man, so you can have your friend back? Or are you that woman who has exhausted all your friendships and has found herself isolated because you keep choosing men over self-respect? If any of the above resonate, this episo...
DATING WHILE NEURODIVERGENT | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Do you find your neurodivergence interfering with your dating life? Have you found your rejection sensitivity makes you more prone to rumination? Has your constant masking made you more used to tolerating discomfort around men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses how her neurodivergence influences the way she navigates men. Available to stream on Spotify, Amazon and Apple Podc...
THE PARADOX OF THE PICK-ME | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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Are pick-me women simply misunderstood? Are things 'easier' with men when you let patriarchy run its course? What can women do to avoid becoming desperate? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through all the reasons why picking men over yourself will always leave you short-changed and resentful - no matter how exceptional you think your situation is... Get tickets for my October 26th LIV...
WHEN THE LOVE BOMBING DOESN'T WORK... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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WHEN THE LOVE BOMBING DOESN'T WORK... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
FEARING MEN | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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FEARING MEN | The Slumflower Hour podcast
HOW TO MOVE ON | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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HOW TO MOVE ON | The Slumflower Hour podcast
BECOMING MORE ASSERTIVE | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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BECOMING MORE ASSERTIVE | The Slumflower Hour podcast
PROVIDER? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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PROVIDER? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
THE 'MALE LONELINESS EPIDEMIC' | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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THE 'MALE LONELINESS EPIDEMIC' | The Slumflower Hour podcast
THE EXIT PLAN | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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THE EXIT PLAN | The Slumflower Hour podcast
ALPHA MEN? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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ALPHA MEN? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
SO HE WANTS TO MARRY YOU... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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SO HE WANTS TO MARRY YOU... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
DOING IT FOR THE PLOT | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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DOING IT FOR THE PLOT | The Slumflower Hour podcast
DATING FOR LOOKS? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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DATING FOR LOOKS? | The Slumflower Hour podcast
DATING DEPRESSED MEN... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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DATING DEPRESSED MEN... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
WHEN HE FINALLY SWITCHES UP ON YOU... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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WHEN HE FINALLY SWITCHES UP ON YOU... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT MARRIED MEN... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
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WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT MARRIED MEN... | The Slumflower Hour podcast
the baby thing is mostly on white men and latinos idk i noticed that lol
Your cheeky little laugh has me giggling back
She who claims not to need men but appears to be overly obsessed with them😕
she to nasty and disgusting
29:15 same with some men attracted to black women and feeling shame
21:30 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I like how you do your makeup ❤
Being a s3x worker and holistic healer has made both my exes feel intimidated! I love yoga and dance, especially pole dance. I am very open, nudist asf, world traveler... till this day I ask myself how they never admired me doing nude yoga? can you imagine a fine ass East African goddess is shaking ass and doing splits naked and that never turned them on? can't afford to travel with me or upgrade me first class? anyways I love this dominatrix life! this my pussy I run this shit purrrr
This video made me STAND the fuck up and break up with that man. Thank you sister!!!!!
I had a guy act just like MISTER RIGHT. He did everything I liked… cons: he had a foot fetish and was still following and engaging early on into our connection (I noticed within a month) I didn’t have sex with him, and that was the eye opener I needed. He called, he texted, he planned, he brought flowers, paid a couple bills within that month and made me feel sexy. It’s unfortunate because I just don’t want to be with a man dealing with a fetish to be honest, it was to the point he started talking to his therapist about it. 😩 I’m just reminiscing because he wasn’t my Mr. Right obviously but he sure did feel like it in that moment. That connection helped me learn a lot about me and how men act when they actually do like you even if they have their own outside desires.
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If you wake up in the middle of the night thinking about something unfair happening in the world you a a true Libra!!! ❤🎉🎉🎉
🌀🔥💫✨
THE DAMAGED GOODS PODCAST😜
THE DAMAGED GOODS PODCAST
You are so right...😢
Honey this was very very helpful!!!❤❤
I ALWAYS THOUGHT VIAGRA WAS DISCOVERED WHILST LOOKING FOR A TREATMENT FOR ANGINA. MY BAD.
HATE SPEECH
I'm 1 of 250,I feel traumatized
We are a much alike sis & I really wish we were friends in real life cause I promise we would have a TIME! I’m a Virgo sun, Gemini moon & Libra Rising as well & I had to come to this level of standards & self love alone. It took me awhile but once it hit, it hit & you help me to keep this standard with your podcasts. You’re overly appreciated!
This came RIGHT ON TIME SIS! I’ll speak for myself but I have also seen as a collective, the divine feminine have been going through it in regards to sex in the air 😭
The robot acting bit is cracking me up 😂😂
3:57 😂 Who remembers “Total Recall?”
I started to date for marriage around 31. Now almost 33 and my partner has a phd, is a Leo, he pays, dresses well, has his shit together, does not drink or do drugs, he can cook very well and fix the washing machine. Also he is charming and showers me with reassurance and gifts. He is the first person I consider marriage material. The rest was just 🥱😵💫 glad I did not settle. ❤ despite the gaslighting and external pressure. 🎉
ANDREW TATE IS BANG ON
Do you always talk in ALL CAPS?! 🥸
And that's how we know the bible was written by a man 🤣
Girlll you are so funny😭😅
Scripted bs
Then why are you here?
Me listening to Chidera for the past 2 years:💃🏼💃🏼👹👹🤭🤭 Me listening to Chidera now I’m about to be 25: 😳😟🤨🙃💀🫣
I'll be turning 26 in 5 months and I wish I found chidera even earlier in my life🤭.. I wish there were women like this to listen to when I was 11/12.
@@catchabbie soo true but you know what we can be those women for our baby sisters 🫶
My husband is my husband. He is not a client. If she want to normalize sex work than good for her but it is only to justify and save reputation. Slumflower is speaking as a sex worker and nothing else. She shows her semi naked body over the internet to man for free too. She is ginal.
The way they see me, is the same way I see them so I can’t relate to this, I choose whoever I wanna fuck but he sure can’t disrespect me. I’m in control of the situation always so I don’t need to ‘control’ my urges. I just see them as a functioning dildo that I control n when I’m done with that person, i dump that one n I find a new one or refrain from sex for months on end. My body my choice. You will not shame me out of what I love , sorry x
definitely enjoyed ❤
Thank you! You lit my queen!!
The facial expressions get me every time 😅
this gave me the clarity i needed and i needed this perspective because men are actually really selfish
And the ones who aren't selfish got left in the friend zone so suck it up
@@justiceforthe3972i don’t think you understand my point but okay
@@zarinaxhazeddno one with a sane mind will understand ya point, no one wants to give time of day to discuss a radicalised point of view. I ain't gonna understand a point that some red pill knobhead has so why would I try understand yours?
@@justiceforthe3972 being the guy in the friend zone doesn't mean he's selfless/a good romantic partner either.
@@ChiddyAnn i don’t think you understand my point but okay
If a man genuinely loves a woman he will move mountains to improve her life but Chidera is never ever going to attract that type of man.
A sag with a Gemini moon😅 oh I know you’re lethal lol
Every week Chiddy reads me to filth & I love it 😂
Damn Slumflower , just be a prostitute and call it a day.
Trickster
Ginal
if a man loves you he’s going to make you have a easier life he found you in !!! I felt that 😎
That is true. A "good man" will want the best in life for a "good woman"
Here for my weekly dose of cringe
I grew up Christian and then at 18 left the church. I got into this mentality in my 20s that I was free to do what I want as long as I was safe sexually. But now, I'm like intention and abstinence or even having a sugar daddy is my thing. 😂
So you've gone from religious to sinning to now being radicalised, well done, I'm not even religious but you need to repent as soon as possible 😂
I love this! 😂💖 I, too have a financial fetish 🙈 A man can’t do anything for me right now but give me some money, we can figure the rest out later! I’m definitely subscribing 🙂↔️
Brokie
@ yup
By the hour or negotiable?
Girl, first off you’re hilarious 😂 & the way you collected me in this episode 😅 thank you I needed it
I think that when women give their body up so freely, it gives the men the effrontery to come at girls who don’t want to with the same energy. It gingers them to have the same nonsense expectations with other women.
This is the result of getting dumped and not being quite over it 🇹🇹😢💧😭
Somebody is triggered as fxxx😂😅😂
@@natashawilliams7928 you sure are😆 now get back to the kitchen😂
Trini to de bone 🦴
Realizing that a woman being absistent / controlling her sexuality is not fundamentally rooted in shame, but in power and self-preservation changed me so much. Sex is not something to be taken lightly, not because it's reserved for your husband or whatever religious BS men made up, but because the biochemistry of it can cloud your vision of a man to your own detriment!
💯 💯 💯!!!!!
well said‼️❤
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