The Dark Tactic I Use To Stay Sober And Quit Alcohol
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- In today's video I will be sharing the dark tactic I used to get sober after a decade of trying to quit drinking. If you are on your journey to sobriety and feeling lost than this is the video for you!
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62 and trying to stay sober for over 30 yrs. I dont keep count. Doesnt matter how many days i have. Yesterday is gone....tomorrow is not here yet. I do 1 day at a time....sometimes 1 minute at a time. I dont think about how im going to not drink this weekend . i focus on the moment im in. Can i stay sober this moment?? Yes i can. I never ever ever say im never going to drink again. Cos its dumb. No one knows. But i know i can make it 1 minute....maybe an hour....maybe the whole day. I cant beat myself up for the past. You just start putting time together. I like when asked how long i have saying today, i got today. I used keep track...mark the calender, some reason that never worked. Not a contest. Im an alcoholic, the fact i didnt drink today is something big for me.
Same here but 69 and 30plus sober and you are right.
Thanks for posting this. I read so many posts in hope of resignating with one that will help me. This one did. Sober Leon is amazing
Thanks for the comment
fuck yea bro
Live in the moment, Stoic philosophy rules.
After 13 years your videos helped switch my brain . One week down and I’m so confident about how just one week I did more than this whole year . Thank you
This is absolutely correct. There is nothing dark about this at all in reality.
This is called thinking for yourself. Not following the heard.
For some (including myself) it was really hard to break off from many so-called friends. Now, that did put me in a dark place. But, I stayed sober. 7 years now.
I finally got out of my shell. I have real friends now. Ones that who actually give a sh_t about me and I reciprocate.
The drinking culture is shit. Where I live, (Michigan) it feels like you have to have a reason why your not drinking. So, be stoic and actually enjoy life.
Peace ✌️
Nice Tom!
Well said Tom, I'm in Micigan too.
Great comment 👍
good comment and all the best from west coast BC, Canada i mean Chinada
I suffered childhood abuse and have drank every single day since my first drink at 15 ....I'm now 40 and I am so ready to stop ....
I have two way's of staying sober, the first is willpower and the second is the finical side side of thing's, i have saved over a £1000 since i stopped drinking and that is just over 100 day's ago! that in itself is one big incentive too stop drinking! There is no way i am EVER going down that path again! Great video as always mate.
Boom!
Exactly, I quit dec 5 1994 ! I must of saved a mint ! Drinking is very expensive, and I didn’t drink in bars much .
That’s awesome 😎
It is sad but true that many people think it is easier to drag you down into the gloomy black pit of despair, frustration, and alcohol than to use you as an inspiration for their climb out of the gloomy black pit.
You have to be firm about saying "Sobriety is mine and I'm not going to allow you threaten it. I'm not letting anyone or anything drag me back into that horrible, gloomy black pit of despair and frustration. "
Hi mate. I'm in Southend-on-Sea. Been watching your TH-cam posts. Great stuff. I'm on day 1 only of not drinking but I know I'm gonna do this ! I'm 54 and have been drinking, mainly weekends since the age of 16. Think I'm having some health issues now, nothing too serious but I'm fed up with just feeling crap and bloated etc. I'm ready ! Thanks mate.
Stick with it , total advantage not drinking !
Hi, I've just come across your videos and they are great 💪👌,I'm 38 and I've had a problem with drinking for 20 years, and once again i got up this morning hungover again🤦so I thought to my self thats it I'm doing this 💪and come across your videos today, finally found someone on TH-cam that no he's stuff 👌, keep them videos coming bud I need them ❤
Thanks for sharing!
Neil Woodall how it go??
5 weeks sober
Watching the show Jersey Shore season 6 exemplifies this. Watching Mike The Situation becoming sober and being the best version of himself while his roommates continue getting drunk, getting arrested, fighting at bars and having relationship drama and hangovers. I’ve been watching it thinking that I am like Mike now 😄
I read Allen Carr’s book,it could be your foundation but your doing it so much better! The logic and emotion is personable and profound. Thank you
Yes thank you for these videos. Day 12 I'm from Utah USA
I started with Carr's book also. It was a great start and these videos are a great reinforcement.
For me it was the absolute worst thing I had to ever endure. My whole life was falling apart and I didn't notice it until it was almost too late. The alcohol made me think I was invincible but it was blurring my judgement and making me do very bad things. Stuff I normally wouldn't do. I have been sober for almost 2 years. Not one drop of alcohol.
Don't be discouraged if you relapsed a few times in the past, its honestly part of the journey, it helps you assess the difference between sober and alcoholic life.... see them as test runs to help you make that final decision. Don't look at them as failures, when you look at those who is on a dark path and havent quit and relapsed once they still need to go through that learning curve, look at the fact that you have run all these experiments already and are years ahead in your quitting journey.... you have a bag of skills that you accumulated over the years and you know how to do it, its all just up to the absolute decision that you are done and content with never drinking again. Looking at past relapses as failures is just alcohols way of keeping you in the trap, see it in a different light... you needed to experiment with sober and not sober to see it for what it is, thats very hard to do when you have been drunk for decades.
Thanks your comment helped me. I relapsed so many times i lost count
Your uploads are very relatable and your approach is very fresh . I'm on the path to being alcohol free and your videos are playing a big part In this change . You have chosen a noble mission and don't ever stop , you are helping people and it's appreciated.
I've been a part of recovery groups for five years, and I love your approach, your philosophy, your presentations. You bring some really fresh, honest and on point perspectives that are difference makers. Thank you so much, Luv! Use your material all the time. Speaking as somebody who has been there makes a huge difference.
Thank you so much for making this video. For me, it’ll really resonated because I’ve relapsed several times and realized it was for this exact reason. This is the first time of heard it put that way and I know in my heart that you’re absolutely right. Thank you for being so thoughtful on how you present your material. You’ve given me hope and optimism.
3 weeks no alcohol. Finland. Starting to get used to this, like 70 % Off my anxiety has already gone away, and the shame too. Don't feel the pain In the liver area anymore. Our car still makes 280 hp with ethanol 😂 i don't.
I really needed this right now thank you for making this !
One week sober. I know it’s not much but I want to get back the 18 months I was sober
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Still going?
Tuning on from Australia. Day one for me making the decision. Watching your videos for motivation.
8 days sober. Croatia/Europe. Tnx Leon
Would love to visit Croatia!
From France, i really love your content man! Huge thanks for helping me to reset my mind before quiting!
Love this and your other videos mate. Inspired me to post my own 6 month sober video. From a fellow Brit 🇬🇧
Listening in toronto . I been drink free for years , really enjoy your channel! I know your helping many people !
Poured it all out. Thank you. I needed this.
I like to catch a buzz. However I like being in great shape better. The two things oppose each other. I made my choice and I stick with it. I will never drink again.
Thank you so much for helping me understand alcohol. You’ve really helped me change my life for the better.
Sacramento, California, Your channel has been great found it a few days ago. This channel and exercise has already convinced me to never drink again and I work in a restaurant. Thank you
Keep it up I’m about to start this method .Californian here 2
Welcome aboard!
Hi Erik, got sober in Sacramento :) lived there for 16 years. In Reno now. The smoke is terrible from the fires. Congratulations on your sobriety!
Watching from Jersey Channel Islands. Hoping to steer clear of booze very soon with your encouragement. Great stuff!
Very true and excellent advice.
Thanks so much for all of your videos. They are really helping out in a huge way making me achieve this. God bless you.
Im in USA Bud. you are a Godsend.
You are the best, Leon! From Montana
When I gave up cigarettes no one asked me why, or tried to encourage me to have one. It’s funny how alcohol is so often different. Both drugs are so potentially harmful, both are addictive, both have zero benefit, but the marketing and brainwashed are so strong, some people have such a hard time if others quit. It confuses them. Why are you quitting if you’re not off the deep end? The answer is, because it’s still having a detrimental effect on my health. Once you change your way of thinking, it’s so true - you no longer feel like you’re missing out or giving up something good. Just like when I quit cigarettes, I began to pity smokers around me, and I certainly didn’t want one anymore. Same thing with alcohol. Exactly. I’m putting it behind me and moving on as a non drinker. Not as an alcoholic forever fighting my cravings, but as a smart person who’s simply given up another nasty habit.
I'm having a harder time quitting cigarettes than the alcohol
@@patc1309 they the Allen Carr method, I wish I’d known about when I quit!
God Bless You for your great messages !!!!
I've also found that due to drinking for so many years I know what the feeling of being drunk / relaxed is like without even needing to! I can just bring up that feeling of relaxation in my mind and I don't need to touch anything 😊
Tuning in from the most alcoholic state in the union, Wisconsin. Only been sober for a week and only my fiancee so far knows that I'm committed to it. We're going to a tailgate with friends tomorrow. I might be the only person there without a drink in their hand but I'm ready for whatever comes my way.
Thanks, great vid
Tuning in from New York.
Tuning in from Bridgend, Wales.
Louisville, KY USA Hello Leon, Thank you very much for this video. I have watched several of your videos and this video - for me - is one of the best!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank You Sober Leon. Yes. So True.
Your content reached me. Thank you
Tuning in from SLC, UT, USA
Ireland 🇮🇪, thanks for the videos Leon
Love your channel. From Southern California 👊
Illinois, thanks Leon for all you do
My pleasure
I have to rise above myself and not others..praise for the attitude!
great thanks !!
comparing alcohol with bleech is actually more powerful than one might think....
I stopped smoking years ago because cigarettes are 100% poision - yet continued to drink every day.
The moment I TRULY saw alcohol as exactly the same thing as cigarettes - poison coming in various versions and fancy packaging - it clicked!!!
Wine, beer, whiskey, gin, wodka, etc - it is indeed ALL ethanol in a different presentation; being pushed on the people by companies for profit.
Hi Leon! Hope that you are well. Thank you so much for your videos and content on TH-cam; it has been a gift, Been taking alcohol since my late 20s, and I was in total denial, I am now 60 years old and I will have been a week of all alcohol since last Tuesday and I can feel the difference already.
I really needed this message about the dark tactic that I need to use to really be on this journey
Thank you so much
RJ
Me too 60 in the spring. 2 weeks Sober, feel better already!!!!
I am 63 and I haven't drank any alcohol for a little over a month. I can't say that I can tell that much of a difference - I had quit once before for a little over 100 days - but Since I usually drank mostly on the weekends that it may take six months to a year before I can tell any noticeable difference.
Thanks for the boundaries reminder. Stopped alcohol(again) ten days ago. Have rehabbed twice in the last 14 years. Subtracting those two abstinent periods means that I've been an alcoholic for 35 years.
At the age of 62 I think I'm getting wiser. It can be a long road. Don't give up.
ive been sober for a yr now and the dark tactic works many will leave and more will follow your decision based on your success and your confidence when you tell some one this is your way of life that determination and confidence will also allow you to become anything you want to be in this world thank you leon you are the best @soberleon
Good approach 👍I like your positive attitude and reasoning and I think you may catalyse my new teetotal outlook 😀
Yes very well explained. That’s the issue people always pressing
Arkansas, awesome
video man
Love your videos. 3 weeks sober after 30 yrs. Philippines 😊
I'm 62 I'll be sober 5 years June 5 wish I'd started much sooner I'm down 120 lbs feel amazing working out with weights and eating healthy keeps me on track. Saving lots of cash there's not a day where I don't feel proud of myself for stopping. Wish my wife was proud of me also, she still drinks. That is her decision I never nag her to stop.
Best decision I ever made
Anytime is a good time 🙏🤠
South Africa
Your technique is amazing and makes complete sense
25 Year drinker
I've given up a few times in the last 6 years but fell down 😢
My attempt again started yesterday and I'm gonna try harder Until i succeed.
Thanks for the videos. They really help.
Hi. I’m from Mexico 🇲🇽. Thanks for uploading.
Hello 👋
This helps a lot! Instead of thinking I'm missing out...I will think that they are missing out. On a healthy lifestyle, with less anxiety, sadness, and guilt. Thank you from PA!
Love thjis thanks man
I think this addresses one aspect of it which is how others influence your drinking but there's also the physiological aspect, that thing in your head that says you have to do it. Either way great perspective, randomly found your video on my suggestions since I've been looking for ways to stop
Good point!
Reptile brain. It feels good, do it. It's the hijacked survival part of the brain.
Watsonville California says hello!
May Allah bless you for the hard work you're doing to keep everyone sober.
Just subscribed. Day 70 for me. Thank you for your inspiration ❤
I’m watching from Florida
You are an inspiration. Thanks for helping people stay off alcohol.
23 days now free! Got to keep going! Thankyou Leon❤
congratulations 😊
Hi! I love the work you are doing! I am in Utah USA. I have attempted numerous times to quit but keep coming back. I would love to have some correspondance. I want to be done with it.
So for me idk I'm not a judgemental person ...I've been sober for 3 weeks now ..and the cravings are finally starting to lessen a bit. I DO understand FINALLY I can not EVER have not even just 1 again. I'm honest with people I tell them I don't drink ...people who know me and saw how I was as a drunk are very proud of me and new people that I let into my life recently I just don't tell them about my past ..it's not necessary to open up about it even though part of me wishes I could ...I've made that mistake with new people before and they just don't get it ...anyways back to the point . So when I go out for dinner or to hang at a friend's place or w.e it may be and I see other people drinking alcohol ...I don't really think ahhh I wish I could have that bc I know it's bad for me !! I just think ok that's their choice ...I actually think it must be nice to be able to do that and be able to keep it moderate...but that's absolutely not for me anymore. I feel so much better without alcohol tho that I'm happy to be starting this long journey ahead..good days and bad days bc I never want to go back to the dark place I was. I feel sorry for the people who are getting drunk at these places for no reason at all ! They might have their life together but ....idk do they really ? But anyways again I just think we'll that's their choice not mine I'm looking out for number 1.
The UK, the worst place to try to stop, that seems to be all everyone does here and it's annoying everything revolves around drink here
Here in the US also everything revolves around alcohol. So stupid to drink poison for fun. 15 months sober, wish I'd have quite sooner. Seems crazy now to damage my brain as alcohol is a neurotoxin.
Yeah Luke As a UK resident I hear you! Down here in London all about flash show and booze
I lived in the UK and I agree…
I live in London and can relate Luke. It's mad how alcohol is the only drug you have to explain yourself not doing.
I’m listening in Reno. Been sober for 16 years. Husband 19 years. Nice video and good information. For me I needed to ask for help. Once I had help and accountability I was able to stop. But, I had to deal with my issues of codependency. And yes, change yourself as you can’t change anyone else. That is leadership. Thanks for the video.
Tooning in from Colorado, USA
Grand Island, Nebraska-USA. I like what you said about the boundaries thing. Seeing alcohol as ethanol and feeling bad about people who drinks is fine. I call myself an alcoholic because that is what I am. But boundaries are important because if you don't have any people will cross them all the time. I have a mate who calls me constantly late at night drunk af. I used to talk to him because I was too but he knows I am sober now, and I can't talk to him like that anymore. He gets mad but I need to focus on me. This is a selfish program but I don't want alcohol to kill me.
Watching from the state of Maine in the US
Last night was rough,in a lull.just happy to be trying.went cold turkey the last time, made it six months and then you said it well I guess one wouldn't hurt, there you go Lost 5months.
What if you drink alone and no one you know drinks
Yet you get drunk everyday and no one knows...
Your body knows and it hurts all organs. Plus sitting alone drinking is not your best self or is it enjoyable. Just a waste of 6 to 8 previous hours every evening.
Im from eastern Oregon. Im 31 and severe binge drinker. I feel like Ive never been ready to give it up and surrender to the fact that i am a problem drinker. I drank 3 half gallons of whiskey in 4 days and now in withdrawal at home. I told my self 12 years ago i would never be like this. Alcohol has taken everything from me.
Thanks for all you do. Question: you don’t mention Naltrexone. Thoughts? Best to you from New England.
Watching from Botswana
From Ontario, Canada. We have similar stories.
Hi from the Pacific North West. Tapering off today, sooo needing and wanting to be done. Fell in the bushes, had terrible shakes today (thus the tapering), heart rate through the roof, stomach so upset, I puked at Starbucks, real classy for a woman almost 50 years old. Yes, it is just like chlorine and yes, as a former smoker, I do feel sorry for every smoker, so yes, why not apply the same mindset to bloody alcohol?
I have been recording myself drunkenly many times now, as a friendly reminder how that looks, I have alienated all but 2 people in my life, I don’t even have friends anymore, this is such bullshit I did to myself. I was fighting loneliness with chlorine, so to speak, and it really only made me even more lonely.
Back on your program again and listening to your videos. I will kill this version of myself and become the better version I know I can be. Thank you so much!
You’ve got this
@@LeonSylvester Quick update from me, Leon. Doing hella better after 4 weeks sober. Wow, I already forgot in what a super bad state I was! Turning everything around really rapidly, hitting the gym 5 times a week, going on lengthy speed walks for 2 hours in addition at least 5 times a week, cleaned up my diet as well. Taking my supplements. Strength is coming back and feeling tons better!!!
In some ways I am like you: either a total mess of a drunk, or a complete gym rat health nut. Currently swinging in the latter direction once again and intending to stay there for life. Strange these two polar opposites that some people display in life, no? My old man was kinda like that too, however he never truly beat smokes and booze, but was fit and in really good shape until the day he died, which was too young and unexpected. We suspect heart failure or stroke, there was no examination, though…. it was just ruled as natural…
Ramble, ramble, ramble… point being: all is good and you helped tons! Thank you and all the best to you, mate!
Exactly, the way you see it. I did it with tabaco and now i do it with alcool and thats very more easy then everybody thinks
Just focusing on ALL the positive that sobriety brings in your life and its no more a challenge.
Nice!
Hi I'm listening from South africa
Alcohol: paying to slowly ruin my life and risk killing myself
67 days AF
💯. I've stopped since the 19th August. What has helped me is taking the jokes by my friends on the chin but also knowing I'm in a better place than them. Most of them have a drinking problem like I do but have not been honest enough to themselves about it. All I can do is be an example and have as good a time as them in the pub drinking my sober and lime 😂🍹
Good advice. I quit 12+ years and your. Drinking friends will shun them. My family comes first.
0:53 "Pull yourself out of society, question what the hell is going on here, then go back into society, reintegrate yourself with this new mindset"
So well put! That's exactly what I did and I've been trying to find the words for it for ages (without waffling on for paragraphs).
EDIT: I'm from Australia, since you asked.
My parents live in a different part of the world. We haven’t seen them in three years. They are elderly. They are both alcoholics. This will probably be the last time I will see them on this side of the Great Divide. The pressure to drink will be immense. I’m not fishing for compliments, but a pep talk would be great, guys.
As an electrician and currently taking classes for my job, I can't risk abusing alcohol. Now on the weekends I might have a little bit of tequila. Stay hydrated & nutrients balanced. Milk thistle and kudzu root are good for liver health
Arizona, USA. 👋🏼
Brilliant! Joseph Liverpool
Hey Joseph!
Non drinker is far better term. So much truth here. Good work. Delusional is how ALL alcoholics act so what your saying isn't "think of them like that" it's see them for who they are. "Delusional." I wish I was told to stop drinking but nobody around me ever did. I was never a neucence and was never a "bad drunk" looking back I have so much regret I ever drank. After 4 months sober I will never go back.
It's so hard to get sober because usually your life sucks, and you have to live in that. I have nothing but regret and pain and that's my daily life. I will stop today, and maybe some things will change, but honestly I already have an extremely negative defeated mindset.
I'm 47 and I've never drank alcohol. I've never been made fun of but people get offended because I believe drinking is a sin. Oh well, I'm happy and following God!!
If I'm with friends who are smoking a joint or eating a THC gummy, they never pressure me to do likewise. They might offer me a hit just out of courtesy; but no pressure. But if I'm with friends who are drinking, the pressure tactics begin almost immediately. And the more I refuse the more upset they become. Leon already has a vid posted on how to say no to such people. My comment is an observation that drinking culture almost resembles an evangelical/fundamentalist religion. Turn off your own mind, follow the group and just "trust and obey."
Day 8 from aus and starting to feel a bit better, still hits me after 4pm which is normally when im driving home from work with a roadie between my legs, fuck booze
i've given up for ten days now, may sound nothing but it's a start, always feel amazing without it, i make £ i gym i do loads ! i'm the fun drunk that everyone wants to bring out... i drink for 2/3 days and party ! it's the crash that no one sees, the moving my life around the hangover ! i'm bsck in the gym & looking at business ! thank you leon keep going !
You've got this! Life is much better on the other side 😉
@@LeonSylvester 100% you think at the time one night or a few drinks won't hurt but if send you back two weeks, i go on two or three day binges and feel fine till the hangover kicks ! it's a never ending circle - how do i look at your program
mate?
10 days is not nothing buddy its a good start go 14 then more and start couning the weeks/months
Nice
I have 2 months today but my life right now is lonely and boring I had a urge last night but I didn't drink I think about it then I think about the next day of how I would feel and that helps. But I wish I had more people to talk too who's going through the same thing. It's hard sometimes when your lonely too.
you're not the only one