I drank because I enjoyed getting wasted and I'm a pretty awkward guy in large social situations (I've gotten much better) which when I was drunk made me a lot more out going. The problem was I went from drinking 3 beers at a party to drinking a bottle of whisky to myself. Soon my fun loving buzz turned into a drunken mess that nobody wanted to be around. Then when I drank by myself I was blacking out. I drank because it was the only thing I knew how to do for fun. At 36 years old I had a 4 year old son and a pregnant wife, if I didn't stop it was going to destroy not only my life but possibly my family as well. After a very bad night of drinking I promised my wife I'd never drink again and I did. I learned over the course of a year to have fun other ways. I started riding BMX and downhill mountaining biking, started 3d printing and building replica props and models, I play a ton of video games and I recently started indoor rock climbing. I'm 6 years sober now and drinking actually sounds boring to me. My point is that sometimes people (like myself) drink because that's their only hobby and then they get hooked. It's a reason for drinking that I almost never hear people talk about and I think is an important topic for people to think about. Good luck to anyone trying to kick the habit no matter what your reason.
I hear you. My experience has been leaning on alcohol to deal with life problems and then drinking BECAME my hobby; it pushed my other interests aside. The bright side is that by drying out I have rediscovered my TRUE passions. I am embracing the things in my life that matter and are not destructive
So true bro and congrats on the sobriety, I fuckin love mountain biking too. Fuck alcohol and opioids, abusing that filth destroyed who I was and damn near took my soul. I was an angry person that had a dark cloud around me everytime I got drunk or high, which was every single day for years on end.
MTB helped me quit coke actually. It was the one sport that gave me a better feeling than drugs and although I've stopped biking for now, I've never felt the need to go back to cocaine since.
I Drank Because of feeling Anxious,BOREDOM,Fear of the Future,depression,intrusive unwanted thoughts and O.C.D. One more reason worth mentioning is past traumatic experiences. Thank You Sober Leon.
I haven't joined your program yet but since i started watching your videos i haven't drunk a single drop of alcohol 😁 i was a heavy drinker especially since i lost my brother in march, i haven't have a single day without alcohol now i am almost 7 days of of alcohol and i feel amazing i love walking up in the morning with a clear head and i will continue to be sober.... Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I found you on TH-cam by accident. I’m a drinker and have been wanting to stop. Everything you say about how people view alcohol is 💯 true. You make a lot of sense. I’m going to continue watching your videos man. Keep them coming. God Bless brother.
They need to market advertising that shows the emergency rooms, car crashes, fights, broken families, unemployment, suicides, rapes, domestic abuse, self harm, liver disease, comas....
In my 30s now I remember saying pretty much that to a teacher when I was 14 and she was well impressed she also loved her red wine, we put pictures of smokers lungs on fag packets and now hide the tobacco but the alcohol is in your face
I drank Whiskey to feel more Manly and Masculine. Because I felt I did not meet the subconscious criteria for being a "Real" man. I don't know how to fight. I get frightened easily...I COULDN'T GET DATES WITH WOMEN...I'm kind of Timid. So I felt Whiskey brought me and my character closer to being an Authentic manly man. Hence the hangovers...the wasting of money...the wasted time...and the poor choices made. Wow...what an "authentic" man I Became...NOT! The marketing and the Images associated with alcohol is a load of crap. It is a marketing trick. It is a lie.
@@barbarahermannster May Good GOD Bless You BLH!!! I Believe Being a Manly Man Means Practicing Love Compassion and Wisdom. But I got addicted to alcohol so that affected my judgment. I was also going through a existential crisis which I'm still going through. Thank You For Your Uplifting Kind Words of Affirmation. I Truly Appreciate Them. 🙏☺💓
Mine was socially I needed it but the disasters while out drinking were getting worse I had to quit by changing my social life and learning to live my life without alcohol, if I’m anxious socially without drink then I just have to tough it out and learn relaxing techniques, socialise with people I’m relaxed around without alcohol and learn new hobbies away from alcohol!
I have watched your videos nightly and these have drummed into my brain a new perspective.Alcohol is poison!! I am now 4 months without ethanol. I have learned to pace myself doing everything in a mindful way to avoid stress and triggers. I take each day as a new beginning and breathe in each present moment. Every area of my life has improved and I am now actually starting to ENJOY it!! I have to keep going! Bless you dear Leon and keep going everyone! You will find out how wonderful life can be!❤❤❤
Everything you say is true. I quit ethanol. I try to watch a video of yours every night. I walk and work out. I keep a journal of my worries and triumphs.
Just joined your channel and I'm not at all offended, in the days where, well, almost everyone is. I used to say its only beer and liquor. Not true. People say weed is the gateway. It's not. It's alcohol. I used to make fun of "hard drug" users but then went onto go do coke or meth to stay up because alcohol had me up all night and what I made fun of and swore not to do, I went on to do and it kept me productive just to let my true love, (alcohol), that let me down, keep me up, so that I could then see "her" all over again. Living hell. Wish me luck. Thanks.
Love this, but I think you miss the main reason why most people drink. When I was a drinker, I was full aware that alcohol wasn't helping me relax, wasn't helping me be social, was heavily marketed to me, was unhealthy, was poisonous, was a waste of money, etc. The number one reason I drank knowing all of this was because we humans hate being BORED. I considered a night without drinking to be BORING, and boredom is terrifying - that's why solitary confinement is a form of torture. When I poured a drink, I felt like I was having fun. To quit drinking, you need to understand that when you feel bored / lonely and reach for a drink, it's the worst way to solve that problem because you're not actually having fun, you're using a fix of a drug to trick your brain that you're not bored, but in reality you're just sitting there poisoning yourself. There are literally a million other things you can do if you feel bored or restless. Go to the gym lol. Learn a new skill, go for a walk, meet new people, pick up a hobby like drawing or painting, even just go to bed at 8pm if you want to and wake up early!
Yep exactly!! Went to AA and listened and listened to all these people, and kept thinking 🤔 man I've had a great life nothing has gone bad 4 me no trauma I can hide behind if that's what happens. I started really thinking why do I drink ( 6 to 12 beers ) a nite . Bordem!! I did want to stop drinking because it's no secret that it does fk with ur health. So I just stopped 1 day and substituted it for other things , takes some discipline and planning. It is empowering and I physically feel 1k better. Become strong and stay strong
Very good! I just recently used that after I said to myself that I really need to try and quit and my higher self said there is no try..you either do or you do not do...and I did not do....tonight I'm drinking carbonated water..
I can relate to the analogy point, as people often either say just drink at weekends or even say why you stopped and look at you oddly. Glad to be sober. Best to ignore them and do what is right for yourself.
I cannot lie, I liked the buzz. Period. For 40 years, near daily I liked it. I've got no horror stories, I functioned well during all of it. 3 years without a drink now. Glad I quit when I did, might not have been able to if I kept at it. It was time. I don't miss it. Health and mobility is much better now.
I prayed amd stopped rhank you the lord has set me free and today thanks to the lord i left it 1year and 6 months today and not longing for it no more .
I've been watching your videos for about a week and a half now and man you ARE ONTO SOMETHING HERE! This approach to becoming a non-drinker has been absolutely resonating with me! I am not the problem, alcohol that toxic drug ethanol is the problem along with society's wide acceptance of it, is the problem! Not only that, but the fact that society and men (in general) use it as a yardstick for masculinity and social acceptance IS the problem. Alcohol does absolutely nothing for me and has no benefit to me. It is nothing but a destructive toxic drug that destroys the body, finances, relationships and I don't need it anymore.....34 days non-drinker....Leon, I AM ALL IN!
"buying into an illusion that someone else has created because they want to profit from your addiction" That really resonates and makes it all the more apparent why alcohol is often referred to as the demon drink.
This video def deserves more views, this was a great help all I had to do all of these years is the way I see ethanol, Im 5 days sober and I wanna continue like this till I die, thank you so much Leon.
Great video! I am going on 5 weeks sober now, no alcohol. A couple of weekends ago, I met up with some friends who drink. I don't think it would be wise to recommend this to just anyone who is quitting drinking, but I bought a six pack of NA beer, which I have never really done before. To be honest, it put me in the party without breaking my promise to myself. I didn't feel like the odd man out and I stayed sober. It made me realize that maybe I don't need to be drunk to get the social wheels turning.
Good for you. Once you realize you don’t need alcohol to be social you are unstoppable. I’ve been in bars and even bought alcohol for events and I just have not had the craving to drink it. I’m my best when sober and I’ll let the people who can handle it do it but I know I can’t handle it and that’s completely OK.
Good choice. Now there are are NA beers that actually taste good. They bring back the enjoyable feelings of relaxing with a beer but no alcohol downside. Be aware that many Advisors that help people to give up alcohol disapprove of NA beers for this reason - it brings back the feelings of drinking. Also, NA beer is usually 0.5% alcohol, not zero, which means you'd have to drink TEN of them to equal one Sam Adams 12 oz bottle. Good luck with that.
Alcohol has been destroying my life very slowly. I’ve missed work too many times. When I got in trouble in one job I changed jobs. It’s getting horrible. My reputation at work is horrible. I’ve never linked alcohol to it till I saw your video yesterday. I never saw alcohol as a problem. I thought it was fun and I drank almost every day. I never saw the problem because I only have 2 drinks a day. I’ve never tried to stop because I didn’t think it was a problem. I’m done drinking forever. Never will I have another sip of alcohol
Watched a few of your videos now. You are correct. A person can decide on their possible future. It's about control. A person can decide to drink or not to drink alcohol. Your videos highlight the consequences of that decision. Job done. Thank you. My decision is made.
Drinking is a lifestyle. Alcoholism is a lifestyle. And it starts the moment you see your parents drink as a child. You are then predisposed to be sick, overweight, and overall live a shorter and less productive life. Thanks for the video Leon.
I'm an AA and this actually helps me somewhat. I like the idea of seeing alcohol as a drug. I can see this potentially working for someone who has no desire to believe in a higher power. Maybe I can send a struggling newcomer your way if AA is not working for them.
Thank you Leon ,yes the problem is the drug. I went to AA ,and managed to stay without alc 5 months. They said , if somebody controls drinking and goes home always after 4 beers we lift the hat. So in their genre alcohol is not the problem but youare the problem and you have to be always there in the meetings.
Excellent points. I love the first principles approach. I think that under the hood, people who drink excessively are in some kind of pain (usually emotional) and are self-medicating. As you say, they must realise that alcohol isn't helping, they've been deceived by corporations selling a lie and they will have to dig down and find the real problem. It's never easy, but addressing the root cause of pain and no longer envisioning themselves as someone who needs alcohol to treat that cause, gives a real chance of escaping this slippery slope. Thank you for helping those in pain with your message!
I don't drink much in social situations. I am too busy interacting with other people. Being alone and bored was a problem. The trick for me is to simply keep busy.
I think i want to quit drinking outside of maybe some holidays and vacations and stuff. Very moderate moving forward. This helps my perspective. Thank you.
Just want to express my gratitude on the courageous, amazing work and service you are doing for a huge community all over the world Mr. Sylvester! Thank you! You’re literally making world a better place! Isn’t it strange that in many countries a drug is defined juridically rather than pharmacologically / toxicologically? These are the first official marketing messages and “truths” coming from authority! Insanity! Kids should be taught in school that alcohol is a drug despite whether it is legal or not.
I started drinking in my teen years to help me cope or even escape my real life … fast forward to now I’m in my late 20’s and alcohol has ruined so many things for me I totaled 2 cars I caused my parents so much heart ache and worry I got myself into legal problems and I would black out and try to commit suicide. I’m a mom now and I still have my struggle with it being a non drinker I’ve had to learn to be ok with the funny looks and the comments whenever I turn down a drink.
I am 3 months sober, I am not sure this would have inspired me to get sober at all tbh… not when you are in the depths, but I would agree it is a good view point while sober to take for long term success
Haven't had a drink since summer. Made it thru the summer, fall, school events with parents, the holidays , no drink. New years, nothing. House empty, kids in school, the wife at work. No cravings. No desire. No rehab, no health club, no adult community, . No need to look for anything to preoccupy myself, no need to stay busy . I substitute drinking and time with nothing. I'm ok with it. I'll figure out what I want to do , become, etc, one day when I'm ready. Right now the house is empty and quiet, cleaned. 6 hrs till school let's out. what to do......
This is great content as it appeals to my intellect. I've had many variations of relationship with alcohol. Currently, it started up again in response to a divorce. After some months, it's time to get off it. I put on some pounds, all in the belly (gross) and became generally, "soft." Enough. I decided that this weekend will be no more beers, forever. I intend to feel good for the years I have left. Again, great framing of the issue.
It is a type of personality that becomes addicted. It is also genetic. My ex husband was an alcoholic who died prematurely after I left. It is also the disease of denial. My eldest son is now an alcoholic much to my despair and is looking for a liver transplant. The worst thing is the terrible damage they cause to their families and other people. They ruin people's lives. I am a normal person whose whole life has been damaged by it. It is WHAT THEY DO TO OTHER PEOPLE.
Leon, I never EVER comment on anything out here, but this video is so good I have to respond. Thank you for this and all of the videos you share. You provide such powerful information and I learn so much with each video. I appreciate you!
Great video. I loved the thought that we’ve all bought into a hype regarding alcohol and that the mainstream isn’t that alcohol is a toxic chemical, it’s that the individual is bad. Great video!
Thank you for your content it's so true. Alcohol takes things away it doesn't solve anything your going through and when we realize this that's the start of new and better life
Hm. I don't know where I stand in all this. I think I don't drink dangerously much, but enough to perhaps be concerned. I drink beer mostly. I rarely drink whisky, if I do I can last on a bottle for a month. I'm slightly overweight, but still fit. I honestly drink out of habit and taste. I drink more when I'm stressed. It's more comfort feeding than anything imo. If I don't drink beer I drink tea... lots and lots of it. It varies too. I can drink 4 pints a day or 4 pints a week... or nothing for a month. I never drink to get drunk, I hate getting drunk... and I hate hangovers ugh. So I don't go that far. But still... I might be drinking a little too much. It's expensive. The only thing I don't like about beer is that it can bloat me in combination with certain foods... so then I don't drink usually. I feel i can control it mostly. I managed to switch to non alcoholic beer which worked for a while (like a year)... until they stopped selling at my nearest store. So yeah for me it's honestly more just habit and association with the drinking I did in the past... plus I truly enjoy the taste. I'm trying to figure out for myself if it is causing issues for me. I'm more concerned about fast food tbh. Good video btw!
Very Good !!! Bravo 👏 awesome !! Exactly! I was in a bad situation for years . What happened to me was that I never admitted that I am alcoholic because I knew it will dragged me to become one forever as that’s my destiny if I believe . I understand that it runs in my family in my gens . I always felt bad for people who believes that about themselves. May people know that they are Gods creations and they have Values and worth and big purpose in life . This revolution helped me to be transformed and have a mind and heart change . You are worthy !!. Get up people !!! God has a plan for your life! ❤️
Alcohol marketing is SO powerful especially in the US where I live. I was in high school when Jersey Shore came out and wow does that show glorify drunkenness! I would invite friends over just so we could get drunk while watching the show. Total idiots we were thinking it was cool to act like The Situation. Ironic the dude's name was Situation bc he adopted both a serious addiction to alcohol as well as pain killers and I think he even got in trouble with the IRS after the show ended. Never believe the facade that is advertised on your TV or social media feeds.
I was homeless sleeping in my car couldn't even park in my bother house or my mom house none of us had a good relationship it became normal to get in the back seat of the car it wasn't a big car it was pretty bad you would think you would save money always moving every day and nite to stay safe
I’m in AA. I plan to stay because of the spiritual growth I have achieved due to the 12 steps. However….The fact that Alcohol is a POISON for EVERYONE is rarely, if ever, discussed. We are told that we are wired differently and that WE have an ‘allergy to alcohol’.
Longest I went was a month 30 days by thinking that maybe I'd been a tissue or organ recipient of a friend (Poweii) and drinking would be disrespectful to his memory. Honestly, because drinking feels great and I marvel at the chemistry behind pronoun, the distillation, mathematics (percentages, etc.)
I feel habit is my main problem. Smoke an drink by habit. On my days off from work. I won’t start drinking till 5. Yet when I get off work at 3. I start drinking. Habit. Sucks.
If you're a very heavy drinker and quit cold turkey you can end up in the hospital. Talk to your doctor about it and don't be afraid to be honest ☺️ Best of luck
I was completely sober on this recent St. Patrick Day and I couldn't help but feeling like I was missing out on the fun. My nearest bar was packed; I could tell from the amount of cars in the parking lot. Still, It was better not waking up the next day with a hangover, tired, dehydrated and all that.
Excellent video! I am currently on day # 6 no alcohol. I also find it funny that even some non drinkers have told me that there is nothing wrong with having a few drinks a week. It is totally an addiction. I will say, I do really like the taste of beer and wine but I am done with it because I know my health is more important. Worst of all, society has normalized alcohol and drinking, it is insane.
Man, i don’t have a huge drinking problem (well atleast my drinking didn’t seem to cause any problems) but i still haven’t managed my drinking as well as i wanted. I started drinking since i was 15 and where i live it was common that every weekend we would go out and get wasted. That settled a bit after teenage years but still pretty much every time i see my friends, alcohol is included. I’m 29 now and after seeing ur other video talking how alcohol is poison and this video, i feel so scammed. My latest thing with alchol was destressing with couple of beers after work. Not everyday tho, maybe 1-2 days per week. I gave a permission to get few beers if my workday was bad enough. I was so confused about my drinking. I didn’t even have a problem to say im addicted because i knew i kinda was - in my view i wasn’t and alcholic because i could easily have many days or even weeks between drinking. Not shaking or thinking alcohol constantly. But if i had a drink, only thing on my mind was if i can some how get another one. If it wasn’t feasible to get a drink, i was okay with that. But if there was any chance to get another drink, i would walk miles to get just one more beer or make everybodys life that much harder because of that (for example leave the car and make everyone use public transport even tho it was not convinient at all). ”Funniest” thing is, no one ever thought i have a problem. In Finland where i live drinking is so normalized that if you can work and binge drinking happens on weekends and preferably not alone, everything is fine. I just had a bit more affinity to alcohol than some more moderate drinkers, but absolutely no problem. After 2 weeks not drinking - i don’t still like to work but i don’t have that nagging stress that makes me want to de-stress. My body was just stressed because of the poison i think. Feels like a huge veil of lies has been lifted and it seems so silly that people drink fancy gin or fine wine just because it tastes good. Masking poison to taste of something else doesn’t make it non toxic I think you do excellent job and i hope you can reach millions of people with your message
Great concept for a service. Thanks. I'm not sure I agree with point no. 3. Many people have problems that they don't confront - issues in their past, feelings of guilt, lack of courage in pursuing their dreams, lack of satisfaction, etc, and they turn to alcohol to "patch over" those things - it only makes things worse, of course, which is why they only drink more. But still, they have underlying problems. Alcohol "allows" me not to confront my problems and I construct my life around alcohol - e.g. I invest in property now rather than invest in building my business, because due to my drinking, I'm no longer able to run a sophisticated business, but I can still take rent and maintain a veneer of success.
reminds me of a south park episode where randy is drinking and justifying it by saying he is an alchoholic and his kid is saying that its in his control. i guess we gotta start blaming only ourselves and start stopping.
All good points but I really think it has missed one of the main reasons why people drink alcohol or take any drug come to that,it feels good,it feels good to get the dopamine and serotonin release. What advice would be given to a non problem drinker(apart from health)?. I’ve been sober for 2 months but I’m struggling with the lack of buzz at the weekends,I enjoyed wine on a Friday sat night,(I know it’s a drug) but it felt good with a great series or film.
Im subscribing because i just found your videos. I started drinking around 15. By the time i was 20 i was drinking every day. Drank every day for about ten years straight. Longest i went was 3 months without a drink. Thats when quit smoking. And for about 5 years i would only go out boozing once a month. If that. I got into mountain biking and hiking. Also i ride motorcycles so spent alot of my time doing that. Still wasnt totally happy in life. Never will be i dont think. But i was content enjoying the things i enjoyed. Then had medical issue that caused me to not be able to mountaibike anymore ( for 4 years or so ) and hiking was something i wasnt able to do for long periods of time. lost my good job. And ended up with so much debt ill probably never get out of it. Especially today with the economy. So after 7 years of no smoking and barely drinking drinking. I gave up. Started smoking again and going out drinking multiple times a week. Im finally able to mountain bike again.( I believe ) and go hiking. Got a good job again after bouncing around job to job after 6 years. I only go out on a Friday or Saturday night. But want to stop doing that. But not sure i can do it. The only time i interact with people are at work or at the bar. I really dont have anyone in my life. Everyone i grew up with, friends and family have family and a life of their own. Im 44 now and really dont know a( social ) life outside going out drinking. Even if its 1 night a week. It really ruins my weekend cause i just stay in the day after lying in bed. But im going try to stop. One weekend at a time i guess. When i do work out and exercise i feel alot better. So just gotta prepare my self mentally and start. I havnt had a cigarette in year. But did pick up vaping. That going to stop also. So ill be keeping up on the videos. And will see if i can not go out next weekend. Think maybe ill binge watch Yellowstone after i work out. Wish me luck. Thanks for the videos.
Thanks man very thought provoking stuff , been drinking since I was very young . Started with sips from my old man gave me who was a wine maker and when I got a bit older we use to steal our parents wine and then I stopped then picked it up again at 18 and haven't stopped since 46 now and still drink lol . Been a drug user also but clean of that shit these days , just still on the piss almost everyday dealing with a rare disease which as destroyed me tbh . Its quite painful so I find the drink helps and not sure what else I can use to stop the pain . I use eye drops but they only help so much and I just feel like utter crap without booze . I don't think no one can help me tbh . My gf hates my drinking but she has no idea the shit I have to put up with . Dry eye disease really fcks with ya mind and takes a huge toll on ya and feeling good . It helps me escape my reality , that's why I continue to drink . I don't even like drinking now . Its just a detraction from my real issues . My old man was a real nasty drunk also , he was crazy as fuck tbh , one day he stabbed himself through the hand into the table with his pig sticker in front of me .I should of taken that as a sign back then but I chose to ignore it I guess . A pig sticker is a dagger used for hunting wild boar if ya didn't know . It has been said by many people their is no hope for me more or less . I'm kinda fcked tbh . I'm very self centered and don't give a fuck about anyone or anything more or less , I'm a skateboarding fps online gaming addict for years now , hard to brake away from my ego which controls my thoughts . I do care about my gf and friends and family tho . I just have this crazy ego that doesn't care about me personally . Its like I'm my own worst enemy . I have tried rehab and AA before . I'm a real ticking time bomb more or less . Done many stupid things over the years I'm ashamed of also . I use to be a real nice person before I started drinking . It just took hold of me and I could never brake away from it . It just became a normality for me drinking
FYI, Also have dry eye disease. Xiidra has helped me 95%, the maker Novartis has a patient assistance program, UPS delivers it monthly and it was free. It’s based on income but quite generous parameters
He missed the biggest one for people who realise all that already. Every quit drinking utube guru drank for those reasons he mentioned. For others it's trauma and escape. This is why none of the alcohol quit channels say they went through war, were wronged, were raped etc. Not a one and they don't know.
I drink because it calms my flare ups! I have chrons disease n the only time I don’t have chronic diarrhea is when I drink a couple of beers! I haven’t drank in 20 days and I hate my guts (literally) having a flare up n i really should have a drink! 🤷🏻♀️ but i don’t want it
I was a binge drinker . So once i started i couldn't stop . I would black-out. Wouldn't remember a thing. Im 7 years sober, and i now know alcohol solves nothing. The stress, and problems are still there waiting for you.
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I drank because I enjoyed getting wasted and I'm a pretty awkward guy in large social situations (I've gotten much better) which when I was drunk made me a lot more out going. The problem was I went from drinking 3 beers at a party to drinking a bottle of whisky to myself. Soon my fun loving buzz turned into a drunken mess that nobody wanted to be around. Then when I drank by myself I was blacking out. I drank because it was the only thing I knew how to do for fun. At 36 years old I had a 4 year old son and a pregnant wife, if I didn't stop it was going to destroy not only my life but possibly my family as well. After a very bad night of drinking I promised my wife I'd never drink again and I did. I learned over the course of a year to have fun other ways. I started riding BMX and downhill mountaining biking, started 3d printing and building replica props and models, I play a ton of video games and I recently started indoor rock climbing. I'm 6 years sober now and drinking actually sounds boring to me. My point is that sometimes people (like myself) drink because that's their only hobby and then they get hooked. It's a reason for drinking that I almost never hear people talk about and I think is an important topic for people to think about. Good luck to anyone trying to kick the habit no matter what your reason.
I hear you. My experience has been leaning on alcohol to deal with life problems and then drinking BECAME my hobby; it pushed my other interests aside.
The bright side is that by drying out I have rediscovered my TRUE passions. I am embracing the things in my life that matter and are not destructive
So true bro and congrats on the sobriety, I fuckin love mountain biking too. Fuck alcohol and opioids, abusing that filth destroyed who I was and damn near took my soul. I was an angry person that had a dark cloud around me everytime I got drunk or high, which was every single day for years on end.
Downhill MTB saved my life
MTB helped me quit coke actually. It was the one sport that gave me a better feeling than drugs and although I've stopped biking for now, I've never felt the need to go back to cocaine since.
What an excellent point!
I Drank Because of feeling Anxious,BOREDOM,Fear of the Future,depression,intrusive unwanted thoughts and O.C.D. One more reason worth mentioning is past traumatic experiences. Thank You Sober Leon.
Great points
@@LeonSylvester Thank You...Thank You.
Same here
@@dawsinho1718 Wow. Thank You for Your Reply.
@@damianlopez7630 no worries mate, I hope you’re doing okay :) I know what living with these thoughts and feelings is like.. it isn’t easy haha
I haven't joined your program yet but since i started watching your videos i haven't drunk a single drop of alcohol 😁 i was a heavy drinker especially since i lost my brother in march, i haven't have a single day without alcohol now i am almost 7 days of of alcohol and i feel amazing i love walking up in the morning with a clear head and i will continue to be sober.... Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hats off to you! And sorry to hear about your brother 🙏
@@LeonSylvester thank u so much ❤️
Awesome You are Sober. May Your Broth Rest In Good GOD'S Presence.
@@damianlopez7630 thank you so much
@@Sobernicki You're Welcome. Stay Blessed.
past early childhood trauma is #1. Its way easier to escape buried negative emotions than it is to unpack the truth and process the pain.
You need to start watching " Derek Prince" on you tube. How to be delivered from trauma.
Completely agree 👍
6 months no alcohol and going strong thanks to Leon's first principles approach.
I found you on TH-cam by accident. I’m a drinker and have been wanting to stop. Everything you say about how people view alcohol is 💯 true. You make a lot of sense. I’m going to continue watching your videos man. Keep them coming. God Bless brother.
I found him randomly too with simply the desire to stop, and its changed my life.
Me too 😊
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Despite what the alcohol ads say, being drunk does NOT help you make new friends or become better at flirting.
And lose tons of money to aggressive rude people
I lost so much and meet the most horrible people ever, in the cult of aa. It is snake oil, I got out after many sewer rats "12" stepped me.
@@easygoing7500 What do you mean by that ? 12 stepped you?
They need to market advertising that shows the emergency rooms, car crashes, fights, broken families, unemployment, suicides, rapes, domestic abuse, self harm, liver disease, comas....
Yes yes yes
Yes, they always show a strong, confident, sophisticated James Bond type of character drinking when reality is the opposite of all those things
@@Sobernicki //m/
Very good comment 👌
In my 30s now I remember saying pretty much that to a teacher when I was 14 and she was well impressed she also loved her red wine, we put pictures of smokers lungs on fag packets and now hide the tobacco but the alcohol is in your face
3 years of sobriety for you!! That is fantastic Leon and I am so happy for you!!
I'm trying to limit and or quit and definitely struggling.
Me Too!!! You are NOT Alone.
Me too. One day at a time! I was thinking of forcing myself to switch to beer... I can’t drink that much of beer. Much love
Me too. 😌
Me 2
I drank Whiskey to feel more Manly and Masculine. Because I felt I did not meet the subconscious criteria for being a "Real" man. I don't know how to fight. I get frightened easily...I COULDN'T GET DATES WITH WOMEN...I'm kind of Timid. So I felt Whiskey brought me and my character closer to being an Authentic manly man. Hence the hangovers...the wasting of money...the wasted time...and the poor choices made. Wow...what an "authentic" man I Became...NOT! The marketing and the Images associated with alcohol is a load of crap. It is a marketing trick. It is a lie.
You are for sure an authentic and manly man now. Very courageous stuff here.
@@barbarahermannster May Good GOD Bless You BLH!!! I Believe Being a Manly Man Means Practicing Love Compassion and Wisdom. But I got addicted to alcohol so that affected my judgment. I was also going through a existential crisis which I'm still going through. Thank You For Your Uplifting Kind Words of Affirmation. I Truly Appreciate Them. 🙏☺💓
Stay distance from cheaters liers , because they all don't care about me and wanted me to lose !
Mine was socially I needed it but the disasters while out drinking were getting worse I had to quit by changing my social life and learning to live my life without alcohol, if I’m anxious socially without drink then I just have to tough it out and learn relaxing techniques, socialise with people I’m relaxed around without alcohol and learn new hobbies away from alcohol!
This video should be shown in schools, Great job.
I have watched your videos nightly and these have drummed into my brain a new perspective.Alcohol is poison!! I am now 4 months without ethanol. I have learned to pace myself doing everything in a mindful way to avoid stress and triggers. I take each day as a new beginning and breathe in each present moment. Every area of my life has improved and I am now actually starting to ENJOY it!! I have to keep going! Bless you dear Leon and keep going everyone! You will find out how wonderful life can be!❤❤❤
Everything you say is true. I quit ethanol. I try to watch a video of yours every night. I walk and work out. I keep a journal of my worries and triumphs.
Just joined your channel and I'm not at all offended, in the days where, well, almost everyone is. I used to say its only beer and liquor. Not true. People say weed is the gateway. It's not. It's alcohol. I used to make fun of "hard drug" users but then went onto go do coke or meth to stay up because alcohol had me up all night and what I made fun of and swore not to do, I went on to do and it kept me productive just to let my true love, (alcohol), that let me down, keep me up, so that I could then see "her" all over again. Living hell. Wish me luck. Thanks.
This deserves more views. You've explained more sides to drinking than most people I've seen.
Love this, but I think you miss the main reason why most people drink.
When I was a drinker, I was full aware that alcohol wasn't helping me relax, wasn't helping me be social, was heavily marketed to me, was unhealthy, was poisonous, was a waste of money, etc. The number one reason I drank knowing all of this was because we humans hate being BORED. I considered a night without drinking to be BORING, and boredom is terrifying - that's why solitary confinement is a form of torture. When I poured a drink, I felt like I was having fun.
To quit drinking, you need to understand that when you feel bored / lonely and reach for a drink, it's the worst way to solve that problem because you're not actually having fun, you're using a fix of a drug to trick your brain that you're not bored, but in reality you're just sitting there poisoning yourself. There are literally a million other things you can do if you feel bored or restless. Go to the gym lol. Learn a new skill, go for a walk, meet new people, pick up a hobby like drawing or painting, even just go to bed at 8pm if you want to and wake up early!
Well we'll said this is me to a t
Yep exactly!! Went to AA and listened and listened to all these people, and kept thinking 🤔 man I've had a great life nothing has gone bad 4 me no trauma I can hide behind if that's what happens. I started really thinking why do I drink ( 6 to 12 beers ) a nite . Bordem!! I did want to stop drinking because it's no secret that it does fk with ur health. So I just stopped 1 day and substituted it for other things , takes some discipline and planning. It is empowering and I physically feel 1k better. Become strong and stay strong
Reason # 6 sounds like Yoda from StarWars "There is no try. You either do or you don't."
Very good!
I just recently used that after I said to myself that I really need to try and quit and my higher self said there is no try..you either do or you do not do...and I did not do....tonight I'm drinking carbonated water..
They say the same thing in drug and alcohol therapy! Lol
I can relate to the analogy point, as people often either say just drink at weekends or even say why you stopped and look at you oddly. Glad to be sober. Best to ignore them and do what is right for yourself.
I cannot lie, I liked the buzz. Period. For 40 years, near daily I liked it. I've got no horror stories, I functioned well during all of it. 3 years without a drink now. Glad I quit when I did, might not have been able to if I kept at it. It was time. I don't miss it. Health and mobility is much better now.
You and Craig Beck are amazing.
I prayed amd stopped rhank you the lord has set me free and today thanks to the lord i left it 1year and 6 months today and not longing for it no more .
I've been watching your videos for about a week and a half now and man you ARE ONTO SOMETHING HERE! This approach to becoming a non-drinker has been absolutely resonating with me! I am not the problem, alcohol that toxic drug ethanol is the problem along with society's wide acceptance of it, is the problem! Not only that, but the fact that society and men (in general) use it as a yardstick for masculinity and social acceptance IS the problem. Alcohol does absolutely nothing for me and has no benefit to me. It is nothing but a destructive toxic drug that destroys the body, finances, relationships and I don't need it anymore.....34 days non-drinker....Leon, I AM ALL IN!
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"buying into an illusion that someone else has created because they want to profit from your addiction" That really resonates and makes it all the more apparent why alcohol is often referred to as the demon drink.
Leon, for a young guy, you really are brilliant.
I was sober before but wasted lots of time to socialized with wrong people in bars . Was my mistake but won't happen again .
This video def deserves more views, this was a great help all I had to do all of these years is the way I see ethanol, Im 5 days sober and I wanna continue like this till I die, thank you so much Leon.
Great video! I am going on 5 weeks sober now, no alcohol. A couple of weekends ago, I met up with some friends who drink. I don't think it would be wise to recommend this to just anyone who is quitting drinking, but I bought a six pack of NA beer, which I have never really done before. To be honest, it put me in the party without breaking my promise to myself. I didn't feel like the odd man out and I stayed sober. It made me realize that maybe I don't need to be drunk to get the social wheels turning.
Good for you. Once you realize you don’t need alcohol to be social you are unstoppable. I’ve been in bars and even bought alcohol for events and I just have not had the craving to drink it. I’m my best when sober and I’ll let the people who can handle it do it but I know I can’t handle it and that’s completely OK.
Good choice. Now there are are NA beers that actually taste good. They bring back the enjoyable feelings of relaxing with a beer but no alcohol downside. Be aware that many Advisors that help people to give up alcohol disapprove of NA beers for this reason - it brings back the feelings of drinking. Also, NA beer is usually 0.5% alcohol, not zero, which means you'd have to drink TEN of them to equal one Sam Adams 12 oz bottle. Good luck with that.
These videos are so inspiring they help me everyday
Alcohol has been destroying my life very slowly. I’ve missed work too many times. When I got in trouble in one job I changed jobs. It’s getting horrible. My reputation at work is horrible. I’ve never linked alcohol to it till I saw your video yesterday. I never saw alcohol as a problem. I thought it was fun and I drank almost every day. I never saw the problem because I only have 2 drinks a day. I’ve never tried to stop because I didn’t think it was a problem. I’m done drinking forever. Never will I have another sip of alcohol
Watched a few of your videos now. You are correct. A person can decide on their possible future. It's about control. A person can decide to drink or not to drink alcohol. Your videos highlight the consequences of that decision. Job done. Thank you. My decision is made.
Glad you got value out of this video 🙌
Drinking is a lifestyle. Alcoholism is a lifestyle. And it starts the moment you see your parents drink as a child. You are then predisposed to be sick, overweight, and overall live a shorter and less productive life.
Thanks for the video Leon.
I've been sober for 3 years now. I feel so much better.
I'm an AA and this actually helps me somewhat. I like the idea of seeing alcohol as a drug. I can see this potentially working for someone who has no desire to believe in a higher power. Maybe I can send a struggling newcomer your way if AA is not working for them.
aa harmed me, more then helped me. Cults. do that.
Thank you Leon ,yes the problem is the drug. I went to AA ,and managed to stay without alc 5 months. They said , if somebody controls drinking and goes home always after 4 beers we lift the hat. So in their genre alcohol is not the problem but youare the problem and you have to be always there in the meetings.
Excellent points. I love the first principles approach. I think that under the hood, people who drink excessively are in some kind of pain (usually emotional) and are self-medicating. As you say, they must realise that alcohol isn't helping, they've been deceived by corporations selling a lie and they will have to dig down and find the real problem. It's never easy, but addressing the root cause of pain and no longer envisioning themselves as someone who needs alcohol to treat that cause, gives a real chance of escaping this slippery slope. Thank you for helping those in pain with your message!
hello dude Having drinks after work does not help you find true relaxation. It merely shuts up and silences the craving for a short time.
I don't drink much in social situations. I am too busy interacting with other people.
Being alone and bored was a problem. The trick for me is to simply keep busy.
Been drinking also most every night for 14 years I hate that his drug but still drinking I am not going from now on thanks great video
I think i want to quit drinking outside of maybe some holidays and vacations and stuff. Very moderate moving forward. This helps my perspective. Thank you.
Awesome stuff!
This is 💯 on point
I'm now 3 days sober from my booze and cocaine binge & $2000 hole in my pocket.
Now how are you doing?
This is amazing 🔥🔥🔥❤️🙏🏽 thank you this is helping me soooooo much
I started drinking coz I lost the vision for future. Plus childhood and teen hood traumas.
Just want to express my gratitude on the courageous, amazing work and service you are doing for a huge community all over the world Mr. Sylvester! Thank you! You’re literally making world a better place!
Isn’t it strange that in many countries a drug is defined juridically rather than pharmacologically / toxicologically? These are the first official marketing messages and “truths” coming from authority! Insanity!
Kids should be taught in school that alcohol is a drug despite whether it is legal or not.
I started drinking in my teen years to help me cope or even escape my real life … fast forward to now I’m in my late 20’s and alcohol has ruined so many things for me I totaled 2 cars I caused my parents so much heart ache and worry I got myself into legal problems and I would black out and try to commit suicide. I’m a mom now and I still have my struggle with it being a non drinker I’ve had to learn to be ok with the funny looks and the comments whenever I turn down a drink.
You've got this
Im really proud of you and stay strong. I hope yr well
Keep going
I am 3 months sober, I am not sure this would have inspired me to get sober at all tbh… not when you are in the depths, but I would agree it is a good view point while sober to take for long term success
Good luck with your Sober Clear program, you may help some people address their alcohol problems.
I am business professional , and don't need alcohol to destroy my potentials !
Haven't had a drink since summer. Made it thru the summer, fall, school events with parents, the holidays , no drink. New years, nothing. House empty, kids in school, the wife at work. No cravings. No desire. No rehab, no health club, no adult community, . No need to look for anything to preoccupy myself, no need to stay busy . I substitute drinking and time with nothing. I'm ok with it. I'll figure out what I want to do , become, etc, one day when I'm ready. Right now the house is empty and quiet, cleaned. 6 hrs till school let's out. what to do......
This is great content as it appeals to my intellect. I've had many variations of relationship with alcohol. Currently, it started up again in response to a divorce. After some months, it's time to get off it. I put on some pounds, all in the belly (gross) and became generally, "soft." Enough. I decided that this weekend will be no more beers, forever. I intend to feel good for the years I have left. Again, great framing of the issue.
Sober Leon, you are strong truth. #6 hits the hardest. Thank you for being the example of your education
Now I feel much happier than ever
It is a type of personality that becomes addicted. It is also genetic. My ex husband was an alcoholic who died prematurely after I left. It is also the disease of denial. My eldest son is now an alcoholic much to my despair and is looking for a liver transplant. The worst thing is the terrible damage they cause to their families and other people. They ruin people's lives. I am a normal person whose whole life has been damaged by it. It is WHAT THEY DO TO OTHER PEOPLE.
I recognize this.
Got it in my family one member is killing themselves with alcohol and food total denial selfish as f*ck no excuse
Great video.Thanks for posting. More people need to listen and understand these principles.Cant believe it's not been censored in the current climate.
Leon, I never EVER comment on anything out here, but this video is so good I have to respond. Thank you for this and all of the videos you share. You provide such powerful information and I learn so much with each video. I appreciate you!
Great video. I loved the thought that we’ve all bought into a hype regarding alcohol and that the mainstream isn’t that alcohol is a toxic chemical, it’s that the individual is bad. Great video!
Thank you for your content it's so true. Alcohol takes things away it doesn't solve anything your going through and when we realize this that's the start of new and better life
Thank you for this one more day no alcohol.
Hm. I don't know where I stand in all this. I think I don't drink dangerously much, but enough to perhaps be concerned. I drink beer mostly. I rarely drink whisky, if I do I can last on a bottle for a month. I'm slightly overweight, but still fit. I honestly drink out of habit and taste. I drink more when I'm stressed. It's more comfort feeding than anything imo. If I don't drink beer I drink tea... lots and lots of it. It varies too. I can drink 4 pints a day or 4 pints a week... or nothing for a month. I never drink to get drunk, I hate getting drunk... and I hate hangovers ugh. So I don't go that far. But still... I might be drinking a little too much. It's expensive. The only thing I don't like about beer is that it can bloat me in combination with certain foods... so then I don't drink usually. I feel i can control it mostly. I managed to switch to non alcoholic beer which worked for a while (like a year)... until they stopped selling at my nearest store. So yeah for me it's honestly more just habit and association with the drinking I did in the past... plus I truly enjoy the taste. I'm trying to figure out for myself if it is causing issues for me. I'm more concerned about fast food tbh.
Good video btw!
Very Good !!! Bravo 👏 awesome !!
Exactly! I was in a bad situation for years . What happened to me was that I never admitted that I am alcoholic because I knew it will dragged me to become one forever as that’s my destiny if I believe . I understand that it runs in my family in my gens . I always felt bad for people who believes that about themselves. May people know that they are Gods creations and they have Values and worth and big purpose in life . This revolution helped me to be transformed and have a mind and heart change .
You are worthy !!. Get up people !!! God has a plan for your life! ❤️
Alcohol marketing is SO powerful especially in the US where I live. I was in high school when Jersey Shore came out and wow does that show glorify drunkenness! I would invite friends over just so we could get drunk while watching the show. Total idiots we were thinking it was cool to act like The Situation. Ironic the dude's name was Situation bc he adopted both a serious addiction to alcohol as well as pain killers and I think he even got in trouble with the IRS after the show ended. Never believe the facade that is advertised on your TV or social media feeds.
You are my Hero ☺️ Thanx for this clear vision 🤓 sober 70 days and feel great 💪🏼💪🏼 groetjes Willeke
I was homeless sleeping in my car couldn't even park in my bother house or my mom house none of us had a good relationship it became normal to get in the back seat of the car it wasn't a big car it was pretty bad you would think you would save money always moving every day and nite to stay safe
I’m in AA. I plan to stay because of the spiritual growth I have achieved due to the 12 steps. However….The fact that Alcohol is a POISON for EVERYONE is rarely, if ever, discussed.
We are told that we are wired differently and that WE have an ‘allergy to alcohol’.
Longest I went was a month 30 days by thinking that maybe I'd been a tissue or organ recipient of a friend (Poweii) and drinking would be disrespectful to his memory. Honestly, because drinking feels great and I marvel at the chemistry behind pronoun, the distillation, mathematics (percentages, etc.)
I never knew my friend drank until
I seen him sober!
I feel habit is my main problem. Smoke an drink by habit. On my days off from work. I won’t start drinking till 5. Yet when I get off work at 3. I start drinking. Habit. Sucks.
There are as many paths away from alcohol as there are people addicted to alcohol. For all, recovery is a personal voyage.
Your physic is what I am showing to my company everyday !!!
My husband has been drinking and now is out of control. I will help one last time, or is on his own.
Do you suggest tapering down or cold turkey? I've heard good & bad about both.
If you're a very heavy drinker and quit cold turkey you can end up in the hospital. Talk to your doctor about it and don't be afraid to be honest ☺️ Best of luck
Been watching your videos for past few days but this one got me to subscribe. Keep up the good work ❤
I was completely sober on this recent St. Patrick Day and I couldn't help but feeling like I was missing out on the fun. My nearest bar was packed; I could tell from the amount of cars in the parking lot. Still, It was better not waking up the next day with a hangover, tired, dehydrated and all that.
Excellent video! I am currently on day # 6 no alcohol. I also find it funny that even some non drinkers have told me that there is nothing wrong with having a few drinks a week. It is totally an addiction. I will say, I do really like the taste of beer and wine but I am done with it because I know my health is more important. Worst of all, society has normalized alcohol and drinking, it is insane.
Good one and thanks I get it Your good
Fella! Alcohol makes you forget that you have any troubles! And that's heaven!
I’ve been addicted to opiates and alochol is far less physically addictive than herion
6:13-6:19 Well said, Leon!
Man, i don’t have a huge drinking problem (well atleast my drinking didn’t seem to cause any problems) but i still haven’t managed my drinking as well as i wanted.
I started drinking since i was 15 and where i live it was common that every weekend we would go out and get wasted. That settled a bit after teenage years but still pretty much every time i see my friends, alcohol is included.
I’m 29 now and after seeing ur other video talking how alcohol is poison and this video, i feel so scammed.
My latest thing with alchol was destressing with couple of beers after work. Not everyday tho, maybe 1-2 days per week. I gave a permission to get few beers if my workday was bad enough.
I was so confused about my drinking. I didn’t even have a problem to say im addicted because i knew i kinda was - in my view i wasn’t and alcholic because i could easily have many days or even weeks between drinking. Not shaking or thinking alcohol constantly. But if i had a drink, only thing on my mind was if i can some how get another one. If it wasn’t feasible to get a drink, i was okay with that. But if there was any chance to get another drink, i would walk miles to get just one more beer or make everybodys life that much harder because of that (for example leave the car and make everyone use public transport even tho it was not convinient at all).
”Funniest” thing is, no one ever thought i have a problem. In Finland where i live drinking is so normalized that if you can work and binge drinking happens on weekends and preferably not alone, everything is fine. I just had a bit more affinity to alcohol than some more moderate drinkers, but absolutely no problem.
After 2 weeks not drinking - i don’t still like to work but i don’t have that nagging stress that makes me want to de-stress. My body was just stressed because of the poison i think.
Feels like a huge veil of lies has been lifted and it seems so silly that people drink fancy gin or fine wine just because it tastes good. Masking poison to taste of something else doesn’t make it non toxic
I think you do excellent job and i hope you can reach millions of people with your message
If you drink one glass of wine every day is that bad also ?
Great concept for a service. Thanks. I'm not sure I agree with point no. 3. Many people have problems that they don't confront - issues in their past, feelings of guilt, lack of courage in pursuing their dreams, lack of satisfaction, etc, and they turn to alcohol to "patch over" those things - it only makes things worse, of course, which is why they only drink more. But still, they have underlying problems. Alcohol "allows" me not to confront my problems and I construct my life around alcohol - e.g. I invest in property now rather than invest in building my business, because due to my drinking, I'm no longer able to run a sophisticated business, but I can still take rent and maintain a veneer of success.
Amazing Leon thank you
reminds me of a south park episode where randy is drinking and justifying it by saying he is an alchoholic and his kid is saying that its in his control. i guess we gotta start blaming only ourselves and start stopping.
You are soooo right!
How true. Each point is so realistic. Many millions of people do exactly what you are discussing.
All good points but I really think it has missed one of the main reasons why people drink alcohol or take any drug come to that,it feels good,it feels good to get the dopamine and serotonin release.
What advice would be given to a non problem drinker(apart from health)?.
I’ve been sober for 2 months but I’m struggling with the lack of buzz at the weekends,I enjoyed wine on a Friday sat night,(I know it’s a drug) but it felt good with a great series or film.
Im subscribing because i just found your videos. I started drinking around 15. By the time i was 20 i was drinking every day. Drank every day for about ten years straight. Longest i went was 3 months without a drink. Thats when quit smoking. And for about 5 years i would only go out boozing once a month. If that. I got into mountain biking and hiking. Also i ride motorcycles so spent alot of my time doing that. Still wasnt totally happy in life. Never will be i dont think. But i was content enjoying the things i enjoyed. Then had medical issue that caused me to not be able to mountaibike anymore ( for 4 years or so ) and hiking was something i wasnt able to do for long periods of time. lost my good job. And ended up with so much debt ill probably never get out of it. Especially today with the economy. So after 7 years of no smoking and barely drinking drinking. I gave up. Started smoking again and going out drinking multiple times a week. Im finally able to mountain bike again.( I believe ) and go hiking. Got a good job again after bouncing around job to job after 6 years. I only go out on a Friday or Saturday night. But want to stop doing that. But not sure i can do it. The only time i interact with people are at work or at the bar. I really dont have anyone in my life. Everyone i grew up with, friends and family have family and a life of their own. Im 44 now and really dont know a( social ) life outside going out drinking. Even if its 1 night a week. It really ruins my weekend cause i just stay in the day after lying in bed. But im going try to stop. One weekend at a time i guess. When i do work out and exercise i feel alot better. So just gotta prepare my self mentally and start. I havnt had a cigarette in year. But did pick up vaping. That going to stop also. So ill be keeping up on the videos. And will see if i can not go out next weekend. Think maybe ill binge watch Yellowstone after i work out. Wish me luck. Thanks for the videos.
There's only 2 reasons why people drink alcohol. 1.To alleviate pain. 2 To feel better. That's all.
Great video
Wow! Just great!! 🙏🙏🙏
Thanks man very thought provoking stuff , been drinking since I was very young . Started with sips from my old man gave me who was a wine maker and when I got a bit older we use to steal our parents wine and then I stopped then picked it up again at 18 and haven't stopped since 46 now and still drink lol . Been a drug user also but clean of that shit these days , just still on the piss almost everyday dealing with a rare disease which as destroyed me tbh . Its quite painful so I find the drink helps and not sure what else I can use to stop the pain . I use eye drops but they only help so much and I just feel like utter crap without booze . I don't think no one can help me tbh . My gf hates my drinking but she has no idea the shit I have to put up with . Dry eye disease really fcks with ya mind and takes a huge toll on ya and feeling good . It helps me escape my reality , that's why I continue to drink . I don't even like drinking now . Its just a detraction from my real issues . My old man was a real nasty drunk also , he was crazy as fuck tbh , one day he stabbed himself through the hand into the table with his pig sticker in front of me .I should of taken that as a sign back then but I chose to ignore it I guess . A pig sticker is a dagger used for hunting wild boar if ya didn't know . It has been said by many people their is no hope for me more or less . I'm kinda fcked tbh . I'm very self centered and don't give a fuck about anyone or anything more or less , I'm a skateboarding fps online gaming addict for years now , hard to brake away from my ego which controls my thoughts . I do care about my gf and friends and family tho . I just have this crazy ego that doesn't care about me personally . Its like I'm my own worst enemy . I have tried rehab and AA before . I'm a real ticking time bomb more or less . Done many stupid things over the years I'm ashamed of also . I use to be a real nice person before I started drinking . It just took hold of me and I could never brake away from it . It just became a normality for me drinking
FYI, Also have dry eye disease. Xiidra has helped me 95%, the maker Novartis has a patient assistance program, UPS delivers it monthly and it was free. It’s based on income but quite generous parameters
That is powerful!
Your video’s are very helpful. I especially like the part alcoholism is a made up word, it’s alcohol using disorder.
He missed the biggest one for people who realise all that already.
Every quit drinking utube guru drank for those reasons he mentioned.
For others it's trauma and escape. This is why none of the alcohol quit channels say they went through war, were wronged, were raped etc. Not a one and they don't know.
I drink because it calms my flare ups! I have chrons disease n the only time I don’t have chronic diarrhea is when I drink a couple of beers! I haven’t drank in 20 days and I hate my guts (literally) having a flare up n i really should have a drink! 🤷🏻♀️ but i don’t want it
Good channel !
I was a binge drinker . So once i started i couldn't stop . I would black-out. Wouldn't remember a thing. Im 7 years sober, and i now know alcohol solves nothing. The stress, and problems are still there waiting for you.
1# Avoidance of SELF!!!!