It was frustrating not knowing I was autistic growing up, because I would always have to leave a wedding to go cry in the bathroom halfway through, and I never understood why or what was making me cry, just that it was a lot. Very confusing to be happy for someone, wanting to celebrate with them, but not able to participate like everyone else.
As a female Millennial, I always thought these were all "normal" behaviors... it's been a big breakthrough in my 30s - thanks to lovely videos like this - that apparently these behaviors are actually not the norm... Potentially explains a lot of problems and strife I've had my whole life. Thank you for sharing.
I was around 11 days ago I was diagnosed (in my early 30s). I related to many of the things you mentioned in the video as things I had done then beat myself up about being rude or not engaged with people as much as I should be. Lots of work to do on my own self compassion.
You explained it so well and clearly! Awesome video and very relatable ❤️ I hope people will understand us better because it can be so painful to be misunderstood in all these ways 😢
Apparently the neurotypical folks don’t mean looking directly into someone’s eyes when they talk about eye contact - oftentimes they’re just looking at the whole face. I can’t help looking into people’s eyes when speaking with them, but I do sometimes find this incredibly overstimulating. It only ever happens with neurotypical people - with fellow neurodivergent folks it’s fine.
@@ExistenceUniversity Are you sure you're not just thinking a little too literally? 😉 there's some good heat maps of where Neurotypicals look when making "eye contact" our there, and if what you're saying were true, there would just be two blobs over the eyes of the person being looked at. But what we actually see is a large blob centered around the bridge of the nose and extending down to the mouth. If you search around in the Googles you can find these.
The touchiness is very creepy! I get it with elders, that they go in close contact, but people mine and thine age? And I love hugs, don’t get me wrong, but being forced…
It was frustrating not knowing I was autistic growing up, because I would always have to leave a wedding to go cry in the bathroom halfway through, and I never understood why or what was making me cry, just that it was a lot. Very confusing to be happy for someone, wanting to celebrate with them, but not able to participate like everyone else.
As a female Millennial, I always thought these were all "normal" behaviors... it's been a big breakthrough in my 30s - thanks to lovely videos like this - that apparently these behaviors are actually not the norm... Potentially explains a lot of problems and strife I've had my whole life. Thank you for sharing.
@@aspenfallen I’m glad the video helped! 🥰
I was around 11 days ago I was diagnosed (in my early 30s). I related to many of the things you mentioned in the video as things I had done then beat myself up about being rude or not engaged with people as much as I should be. Lots of work to do on my own self compassion.
You explained it so well and clearly! Awesome video and very relatable ❤️ I hope people will understand us better because it can be so painful to be misunderstood in all these ways 😢
Apparently the neurotypical folks don’t mean looking directly into someone’s eyes when they talk about eye contact - oftentimes they’re just looking at the whole face. I can’t help looking into people’s eyes when speaking with them, but I do sometimes find this incredibly overstimulating. It only ever happens with neurotypical people - with fellow neurodivergent folks it’s fine.
@@lost_boy even looking at their face is difficult for me sometimes - I understand completely!
That's false, eye contact means eye contact. Anyone telling you that normies don't make eye contact, that person is not likely NT
@HollywoodHRA I have the opposite I can stare down anyone and make them uncomfortable first lol
@@ExistenceUniversity Are you sure you're not just thinking a little too literally? 😉 there's some good heat maps of where Neurotypicals look when making "eye contact" our there, and if what you're saying were true, there would just be two blobs over the eyes of the person being looked at. But what we actually see is a large blob centered around the bridge of the nose and extending down to the mouth. If you search around in the Googles you can find these.
@lost_boy well I have a degree in psychology and people literally look at each other's eyes lol
Thank you for your video. (I'm autistic too.)
The touchiness is very creepy! I get it with elders, that they go in close contact, but people mine and thine age? And I love hugs, don’t get me wrong, but being forced…