I’m in the process of full diagnosis and this video has me feeling a roller coaster. I could cry because I feel like I’m finally seeing/hearing from people like me. It’s exactly as comforting as it is painful. My big self hurts for our little selves. Poor littles. We were born platypus in a world made for ducks. BTW I think platypus are fantastic.✨Thank you for these videos. Stay well and be joyful. And hello from Kansas USA. 🌻
"Exactly comforting as it is painful" is a good way to describe it. I just discovered this about myself and am going to sell a diagnosis. I felt the exact same looking back at my childhood
The part about trouble making friends really hit home to me. I changed schools in elementary and it hit very hard because I wanted so badly to connect to other kids and I couldn’t “crack the code”. I remember thinking I was the problem and I ended up being able to learn to mimick the new behaviors after a while. More than ten years later that fear and shame of not being able to connect feels exactly like when I was little. Only now when I am beginning to realize I am autistic do these situations make so much sense and that it wasn’t my fault.
Your sister is such a delight. I'm looking forward to the extended talk and possibly another interview again. It's kind of reminiscent of relationship I have with my brother, who is not autistic, but is very understanding and stood by me at all times, even though I'm the older brother. I often feel like I'm a bit of a burden to him and yet he still extends a helping hand whenever I need it.
This video is so relatable! My sister keeps bringing up the weird games we played as kids- there was a lot of lining things up biggest to smallest and organising things into groups.
I really agree. The information that my wife is autistic improved our relationship 100%. I consider it very precious knowledge and cherish all the awareness that it has created. I’m so happy you both now know and also that you understand your children as I do my grand children.
Really interesting to listen to your sister! I was diagnosed 2 years ago and am just a couple of years younger than you. It's so refreshing to hear you both talk about your (autistic) childhood. Autism seems to be a taboo subject in my immediate family. I could never discuss it so openly and positively with my sister, no matter how hard I try. Your sister ia a lovely lady. Can't wait to see the next video! Thanks for this 💜
Fascinating! Wish I had the kind of relationship with my family where I could ask them these things. I remember getting called "silly" a lot and it was because I was usually doing something performative to entertain the others - a song I'd learned, a dance move, reciting a comedy bit, whatever. "You're so silly!" was a positive response, they were smiling and laughing and clapping for me. But I distinctly now remember mother saying "You're so silly" when I was expressing a troubling emotional state. I have no details but I remember thinking "No, I'm not silly this is serious, why are you not taking me seriously?"
What an amazing sister you have! You are very lucky to have someone who wants to understand you and does research and adjusts you help you. Beautiful ❤
My parents were hippies too! I think both of my parents, myself and my younger brother are not neurotypical. But I am oldest of my siblings. My little sister is much more neurotypical. In some ways she seemed like she was more mature than me. I guess because she knew how to act in social settings.
Mine was transition's how I handle it to avoid being overwhelmed is to take my time and I am good at that. Meltdowns include self biting. Part that surprised a lot of people growing up is despite it I am very smart. I am living on my own and hope to encourage others to aim high.
Would you be willing to share about what you wish your parents knew or did differently and what they did right in regards to bringing you up? I know it might be hard for a parent to hear their child share about but I have an 11 year old daughter with autism and I need to hear from more autistic women how to be the best mom I can be to her. She can't express it to me and I feel, as she is getting older, she is less attached/bonded to me. I know independence is good and a great goal. I just want to find ways to bond with her now and help her to feel loved and supported and I often feel like I am getting it all wrong for her. Thank you!
My sister and I both have adhd but in very different ways and I also have autism. This video reminds me a lot of my childhood and what a delight it was to have a sister who took such great care of me
So wonderful, thanks Ella! Your sister was incredible and this was very insightful for me and my own childhood. I also have EDS and I would love to see a video about how chronic pain affects you? I get overstimulated with my pain, especially my right shoulder recently. I am so curious to hear what you have to say on it!
Does anyone elses parents or whoever do this whenever you do something your mother instantly says “oh its your autism” oy you’re having one of those autistic obsessions” ? Sometimes i feel as if im a manifestation of autism rather than a person who happens to be autistic
This is so enlightening to watch!! To have someone elses honest opinion on your childhood is so helpful! I reckon my sisters would be able to help with my diagnosis. Hopefully
What a lovely video. Thanks for posting and wearing your heart on your sleeves. A delight. That question about what difference it has made knowing you are autistic, fabulous and relatable. X
What a fantastic video you both got lovely warm smiles and kind eyes 👏🏻👏🏻 what you are talking about rang so true with me especially she-ra and my ‘tantrums’ lovely video
you are both lovely! :D this has been really helpful. My family are the oddballs too. I was a lot like Ella as a child and I'm currently waiting for a diagnosis. thanks for the fab video!
Does the video have captions for everyone else? I’m curious to see if it’s a glitch on my app because the last several videos I’ve watched from other channels that normally have captions my app wasn’t giving me the ability to turn them on
do you think you could make a video on how to bring up to your parents and convince them to let you get an autism assessment? i really want to be tested but idk how to ask for it
I’m in the process of full diagnosis and this video has me feeling a roller coaster. I could cry because I feel like I’m finally seeing/hearing from people like me. It’s exactly as comforting as it is painful. My big self hurts for our little selves. Poor littles. We were born platypus in a world made for ducks. BTW I think platypus are fantastic.✨Thank you for these videos. Stay well and be joyful. And hello from Kansas USA. 🌻
"Exactly comforting as it is painful" is a good way to describe it. I just discovered this about myself and am going to sell a diagnosis.
I felt the exact same looking back at my childhood
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I'm feeling exactly the same way right now. Just wanted to stop by and say hello, also from Kansas! :)
The part about trouble making friends really hit home to me. I changed schools in elementary and it hit very hard because I wanted so badly to connect to other kids and I couldn’t “crack the code”. I remember thinking I was the problem and I ended up being able to learn to mimick the new behaviors after a while. More than ten years later that fear and shame of not being able to connect feels exactly like when I was little. Only now when I am beginning to realize I am autistic do these situations make so much sense and that it wasn’t my fault.
Your sister is such a delight. I'm looking forward to the extended talk and possibly another interview again.
It's kind of reminiscent of relationship I have with my brother, who is not autistic, but is very understanding and stood by me at all times, even though I'm the older brother. I often feel like I'm a bit of a burden to him and yet he still extends a helping hand whenever I need it.
This video is so relatable! My sister keeps bringing up the weird games we played as kids- there was a lot of lining things up biggest to smallest and organising things into groups.
I really agree. The information that my wife is autistic improved our relationship 100%. I consider it very precious knowledge and cherish all the awareness that it has created. I’m so happy you both now know and also that you understand your children as I do my grand children.
I had no idea you had a sister, so nice to meet her!!!
Really interesting to listen to your sister! I was diagnosed 2 years ago and am just a couple of years younger than you. It's so refreshing to hear you both talk about your (autistic) childhood. Autism seems to be a taboo subject in my immediate family. I could never discuss it so openly and positively with my sister, no matter how hard I try. Your sister ia a lovely lady. Can't wait to see the next video! Thanks for this 💜
Fascinating! Wish I had the kind of relationship with my family where I could ask them these things. I remember getting called "silly" a lot and it was because I was usually doing something performative to entertain the others - a song I'd learned, a dance move, reciting a comedy bit, whatever. "You're so silly!" was a positive response, they were smiling and laughing and clapping for me. But I distinctly now remember mother saying "You're so silly" when I was expressing a troubling emotional state. I have no details but I remember thinking "No, I'm not silly this is serious, why are you not taking me seriously?"
This is a fantastic, eye opening video! Thanks 💜
Ella, your rainbows are cool!
I could spend all day in your sister's blue room with blue light 💙
What an amazing sister you have! You are very lucky to have someone who wants to understand you and does research and adjusts you help you. Beautiful ❤
My parents were hippies too! I think both of my parents, myself and my younger brother are not neurotypical. But I am oldest of my siblings. My little sister is much more neurotypical. In some ways she seemed like she was more mature than me. I guess because she knew how to act in social settings.
I am so glad you have such a wonderful sister !
Mine was transition's how I handle it to avoid being overwhelmed is to take my time and I am good at that.
Meltdowns include self biting.
Part that surprised a lot of people growing up is despite it I am very smart. I am living on my own and hope to encourage others to aim high.
loved watching this! thank you so much for all that you're creating and sharing with the world ella
Would you be willing to share about what you wish your parents knew or did differently and what they did right in regards to bringing you up? I know it might be hard for a parent to hear their child share about but I have an 11 year old daughter with autism and I need to hear from more autistic women how to be the best mom I can be to her. She can't express it to me and I feel, as she is getting older, she is less attached/bonded to me. I know independence is good and a great goal. I just want to find ways to bond with her now and help her to feel loved and supported and I often feel like I am getting it all wrong for her. Thank you!
What you call a meltdown was also a tantrum in my home as a child. But now I call it full panic mode. When all seems lost I can freak out.
My sister and I both have adhd but in very different ways and I also have autism. This video reminds me a lot of my childhood and what a delight it was to have a sister who took such great care of me
So wonderful, thanks Ella! Your sister was incredible and this was very insightful for me and my own childhood. I also have EDS and I would love to see a video about how chronic pain affects you? I get overstimulated with my pain, especially my right shoulder recently. I am so curious to hear what you have to say on it!
What a lovely chat between the two of you. Really enjoyed it
Does anyone elses parents or whoever do this whenever you do something your mother instantly says “oh its your autism” oy you’re having one of those autistic obsessions” ?
Sometimes i feel as if im a manifestation of autism rather than a person who happens to be autistic
Omg I can't imagine if I had given my narcissistic parents the leverage of an autism diagnosis how that would have left me
good point ,mustve been hard for you
This is so enlightening to watch!! To have someone elses honest opinion on your childhood is so helpful! I reckon my sisters would be able to help with my diagnosis. Hopefully
Great to hear the chat with your sister.
I cannot express how much this channel makes sense to me 🤓 thank you ❣️
You joked about writing the book but I have to say if you wrote that book I would definitely read it 🙂 lovely to meet your sister, great video 💚
"how I screwed up, so you don't have to!" quite literally translate to the meeting and expression of my entire life. at least I feel like 🤷🏼♀️
I love the bond you two have. ❤️👍
What a lovely video. Thanks for posting and wearing your heart on your sleeves. A delight. That question about what difference it has made knowing you are autistic, fabulous and relatable. X
Your sister is a gift 💗. I'm sure my brother unconsciously has made adjustments for me but I'm worried about telling him.
What a fantastic video you both got lovely warm smiles and kind eyes 👏🏻👏🏻 what you are talking about rang so true with me especially she-ra and my ‘tantrums’ lovely video
This was so well done and so helpful, and just so much fun to watch, thank you to the both of you for sharing this part of your life with us
Brilliant conversation with your sister Ella! Really informative and engaging. You have a lovely sister relationship. ☀️
Please write the book you mentioned at 13 minutes - that would be sooo good!!
Great video
Very relatable
Your sister looks a lot like wondergirl
you are both lovely! :D this has been really helpful. My family are the oddballs too. I was a lot like Ella as a child and I'm currently waiting for a diagnosis. thanks for the fab video!
This was such an excellent video, thank you for sharing
Can you please do a video about autistic inertia!
Is it possible for someone with autism to go the opposite way with eye contact and make too much eye contact instead of too little?
yeah, i've heard some autistics mention they do that. it's still not a "convetional" amount of eye contact. either too much or not at all.
Yes a very awkward amount
Autistics tend to do the “stare” that they have no knowledge off as creepy
Yes... im guilty... The Dr said i needed go make eye contact só i took his advice.....
Went back and i made it só awkward.. CONFUSION lol
i stare
I'm really glad you and your sister became close again. I have a sister who would be able to relate to yours! lol deja vu
"Look at all these autistic fishies swimming about in here." Love that :D
Where’s the next part
Ella, write the book ❤️
Thank you
Thank you & your sister. How Cool👍🏼💛💛👍🏼
amazing; thank you for sharing
Does the video have captions for everyone else?
I’m curious to see if it’s a glitch on my app because the last several videos I’ve watched from other channels that normally have captions my app wasn’t giving me the ability to turn them on
There are auto-captions available on my end
19:30 "You can sense when someone's not relaxed around you, can't you?"
Bold of you to assume...
HANGRY 😂😝 LOL
I'd love to read the book about your mistakes lol
Mmr
do you think you could make a video on how to bring up to your parents and convince them to let you get an autism assessment? i really want to be tested but idk how to ask for it