This is a video which all based on my childhood traits as an autistic girl, if you watched this video I'm sure you'll love it. it was also my first TH-cam video. th-cam.com/video/W9gnMPGFtDw/w-d-xo.html
Another fab video. What’s interesting to me is that these traits span all ages (and genders) - so although we can learn to control certain aspects (e.g. masking) it’s just more evidence that autistic wiring is with us for life. Whilst that seems so obvious to say, I know some teenagers can be told they’ll grow out of it. Not true. You’ll learn to manage some traits with varying results - but the core traits remain. I stumbled upon your (superb) videos whilst I continue to explore my own autism which was diagnosed really late in life - and which I denied for 10 years after that. It’s fantastic to see young people so self-aware, articulate and knowledgeable. Hollie you are so engaging to watch and an amazing role model. Keep going!
As we get older …. We can learn. We can adapt. We can control. We can modify. However, the core traits are still there in our wiring even if their manifestation in our behaviour is less apparent or invisible.
Possible idea for a new video ..... I have an intense need for justice. I struggle massively with injustice. Of course it’s based on my own moral compass - so not always the same as the rest of the world - and certainly doesn’t make me right all the time. It’s not a trait I have seen mentioned that often but I have a feeling that this might be common in the autistic community because when we feel or think something we can be relentless and obsessive about it. Or am I alone?
this is so true! i have that and so does my son! thats why he cant get on with secondary school because it's so full of unfairness. i have always worked in fields that focus on justice too.
Literally the first point you made hit the nail on the head. Before they even wanted to look for signs of autism they just said I was a bad kid. Then it changed from bad kid to having ‘ADHD’ and being given a horrible drug called Ritalin which left me so subdued my life became so depressing. I was soon taken off of that drug by my parents then at the ripe old age of 6 I got my autism diagnosis (specifically Asperger’s syndrome). I wish I could reassure people that receiving your diagnosis is a silver bullet that’ll will solve most of your issues interacting with the world around you. Sadly this is not the case. Despite being diagnosed early in life it is still bitterly difficult. Having the knowledge I have ASD sometimes helps but often times is does not offer me much comfort. The world likes to call us ‘rigid and systematic’ when in reality they seem more rigid and systematic to me. They make all the rules and arbitrary social norms and expect us to follow them to the letter even when most of them are highly superficial and redundant in a lot of ways. There are so many different modes of being but society continually attempts to put people in nice neat boxes 📦 with pretty pink bows. Even neurotypicals feel this way but just rather keep their heads down as swimming against the current has so many struggles associated with it. Both us aspies and neurotypicals could benefit massively from just being more open and honest about the human condition and the variances and differences that lie within it. Anyways, absolutely fantastic video and please do keep up the amazing work. I love hearing all the different perspectives and honestly it’s nice to hear people on the spectrum speak about the spectrum more as I know they have the lived experience required to substantiate their arguments. Also it just shows the level of diversity and variance on said spectrum - for instance the fact you’re a female speaking on these issues is fantastic. In the literature females with autism have often been shafted because they present so much differently to boys/males. Great content, keep it coming! Look very much forward to your next video! 😊👍
Thankyou very much for this comment, I understand and agree with you completely. Means a lot that you related and enjoyed the video! Hope you enjoy the future videos :)
3:40 I have the exact same thing, but I had absolutely no idea that was part of autism. I was diagnosed with a language processing disorder instead. It’s quite comforting knowing others have this too, but at the same time it sucks and I wish none of us had it
I agree with all the examples you have given all 3 of my autistic sons (aged 11, 9, 4) have all of these traits the younger 2 are forever in trouble at school for fidgeting yet its something they can not help and need to do it frustrates me that by now with so much information out their regarding autism that mainstream teachers I still so strict about fidgeting and movement with asd children! My 9 year old finds fidgeting helps him concentrate and focus on task else he can't! He is forever going off into his own world but is still listening and can answer anything his teacher asks even if he doesn't look like he is listening! The older 2 like you struggle with English theybcan do it but they have to work hard with understanding the wording of things my 9 year old had a piece of writing the other day about a cyclist and he had to describe from the text what they were doing and he just wrote peddling very literal theybare in a bike so they are peddling he couldn't think outside the box at the environment the surroundings anything and it amuses me at times with his point blank literal answers but I get where he coming from and why he puts that his teachers on other hand get frustrated! And thank you for addressing a addictive personality I million % agree with you, my boys have gotten addicted to collecting things, leaflets where ever we went that had leaflets had to have everyone there possible and couldn't leave without getting some, my 9yr old when he was little and now my 4 Yr old collect sticks every time we are outside and see a stick they have to pick it up and it has to come home to stay even if its disgusting lol and they know every single stick so it's impossible to get rid of any! As they have got older it's things like watching a favourite TV program every day at the same time and a bigbone is PlayStation or Nintendo games I have to limit as they get so addicted to them they live breath and need the game in their lifes so I get what you mean about the addictive personality and it is great you recognise this in yourself and that's why like you saybin your video your counting calories hasn't got dangerous as you understand its an addiction and you have family to help you not make it dangerous! I truly love watching your videos and find myself agreeing out loud with you and thinking Yes! To most of the things you say as I can resignate to it with my own children and it needs discussing and putting out there so other people get it understand it and it may help them to understand a friend or family member with autism better and why they say, do or act a certain way
Thankyou for sharing this! Yes I think teachers need much more training in autism, but not just by non autistic people, they need to understand the needs of autistic children but talking to someone who’s autistic. I always struggled with zoning out at school and I found fidgeting helped me concentrate so I’d be listening to the teachers and doodling at the same time with a pen and paper! I do understand your children’s struggles as teachers do get frustrated with this! Again thanks for commenting it means a lot! Xx
1. Fidgeting 2. Problems with English 3. Constantly worrying about things 4. Sleep problems 5. Addictive personality 6. Masking I belive i have all exept 6 as i dont mask
I gain so much from watching your videos. I am not autistic, but it is so helpful to gain a better understanding of those that are. Keep going you are a true inspiration!
Your videos are so helpful - I hope they're watched by a lot of people. Please could you make a video explaining what would have helped you at Primary School?
Hollie I find reading aloud helps me to absorb information easier. Perhaps the same works with audiobooks or text to speech apps, although I do nod off and loose the spot hehe.
I am pretty sure I'm autistic and now I'm questioning if I may also have ADHD. I have identified in myself that I have an addictive personality. It's hard to stop is an understatement lol. You need to be careful if u know that about yourself about what u try because u could get in trouble. I've been lucky, I quit drinking yay me!
im trans, but i was assigned and raised as a girl since birth and this really hits home. i got diagnosed with combined type adhd in grade 9 and while i definitely have that, i definitely am autistic too and its not something most people in my family believe.
I was diagnosed with autism really quick becuase it was so obvious back then I couldn’t talk and I would rock and hum all day. Now I struggle with trying to hide it like fidgeting with my ears. And once my mum and my granny were in a store and I was screaming because the store was darker than outside and someone walked by and said a good slap would fix it and my granny chased him. And now my little brother is going for an appointment to get diagnosed. My grandma and my uncle both have autism
Thankyou! we love all your videos and learn something on them all! You're also entertaining and funny (without trying), so natural which is probably why people can relate to them! I have exactly the same with reading and so does Lucie so was really interesting hearing about that and recognising more things!
Awh Thankyou it’s nice to hear people find me funny I don’t see it personally ahah. Glad you like the videos and you can learn new things! It means a lot, thanks again.
Congrats to 1000!!! Subscribers. Amazing! I wonder if NT persons can relate to the things you say and explain in your videos. And I wonder how everything would be different if I was not autistic 🤔
Falling asleep is so difficult sometimes, especially if there is a lot of stress. How do you deal with stress, Hollie? It would be interesting to know. I think it's one of the most important and least discussed problems for us. Normal relaxation techniques do nothing for me, maybe because I have ADHD as well.. instead I have tension tension tension. Have a nice week!
I’m the same they do nothing for me either, I’m going to do a video on stress are you are absolutely right. stress is a huge problem for me I don’t deal with it well and it’s something I’d like to talk about
Pretty sure I am autistic. How would I go about getting a diagnosis? My 1 year old is currently under a paediatrician because he’s also showing traits now. I’m 27. X
I would just go to your GP and they would refer you. That’s what I did. I did a deeper video on my diagnosis and how to get referred etc. If you want to watch :)
@@holliemabbott949 thank you, I went to my gp today. They got me to do a questionnaire and I scored enough to get referred. 12 month waiting list though!!!
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This is a video which all based on my childhood traits as an autistic girl, if you watched this video I'm sure you'll love it. it was also my first TH-cam video. th-cam.com/video/W9gnMPGFtDw/w-d-xo.html
Another fab video. What’s interesting to me is that these traits span all ages (and genders) - so although we can learn to control certain aspects (e.g. masking) it’s just more evidence that autistic wiring is with us for life. Whilst that seems so obvious to say, I know some teenagers can be told they’ll grow out of it. Not true. You’ll learn to manage some traits with varying results - but the core traits remain. I stumbled upon your (superb) videos whilst I continue to explore my own autism which was diagnosed really late in life - and which I denied for 10 years after that. It’s fantastic to see young people so self-aware, articulate and knowledgeable. Hollie you are so engaging to watch and an amazing role model. Keep going!
Awh Thankyou I’m so happy you enjoyed the video! Everything you’ve mentioned is absolutely true. Thankyou for this comment 🤍
As we get older …. We can learn. We can adapt. We can control. We can modify. However, the core traits are still there in our wiring even if their manifestation in our behaviour is less apparent or invisible.
@@markmywords5509 cool screen name
I think as I got older I gained a lot more control of my surroundings so it allowed me to be myself and start to accept myself more
Possible idea for a new video ..... I have an intense need for justice. I struggle massively with injustice. Of course it’s based on my own moral compass - so not always the same as the rest of the world - and certainly doesn’t make me right all the time. It’s not a trait I have seen mentioned that often but I have a feeling that this might be common in the autistic community because when we feel or think something we can be relentless and obsessive about it. Or am I alone?
Yes I do understand what you mean, you’re not alone at all, deffo a good video idea for the future!
this is so true! i have that and so does my son! thats why he cant get on with secondary school because it's so full of unfairness.
i have always worked in fields that focus on justice too.
Definitely not alone
you have an absolutely charming personality, it was a fun watch
Literally the first point you made hit the nail on the head. Before they even wanted to look for signs of autism they just said I was a bad kid. Then it changed from bad kid to having ‘ADHD’ and being given a horrible drug called Ritalin which left me so subdued my life became so depressing. I was soon taken off of that drug by my parents then at the ripe old age of 6 I got my autism diagnosis (specifically Asperger’s syndrome). I wish I could reassure people that receiving your diagnosis is a silver bullet that’ll will solve most of your issues interacting with the world around you. Sadly this is not the case. Despite being diagnosed early in life it is still bitterly difficult. Having the knowledge I have ASD sometimes helps but often times is does not offer me much comfort.
The world likes to call us ‘rigid and systematic’ when in reality they seem more rigid and systematic to me. They make all the rules and arbitrary social norms and expect us to follow them to the letter even when most of them are highly superficial and redundant in a lot of ways. There are so many different modes of being but society continually attempts to put people in nice neat boxes 📦 with pretty pink bows. Even neurotypicals feel this way but just rather keep their heads down as swimming against the current has so many struggles associated with it. Both us aspies and neurotypicals could benefit massively from just being more open and honest about the human condition and the variances and differences that lie within it.
Anyways, absolutely fantastic video and please do keep up the amazing work. I love hearing all the different perspectives and honestly it’s nice to hear people on the spectrum speak about the spectrum more as I know they have the lived experience required to substantiate their arguments. Also it just shows the level of diversity and variance on said spectrum - for instance the fact you’re a female speaking on these issues is fantastic. In the literature females with autism have often been shafted because they present so much differently to boys/males.
Great content, keep it coming! Look very much forward to your next video! 😊👍
Thankyou very much for this comment, I understand and agree with you completely. Means a lot that you related and enjoyed the video! Hope you enjoy the future videos :)
Wow that seems so young to put u on meds, glad u got off of them.
3:40 I have the exact same thing, but I had absolutely no idea that was part of autism. I was diagnosed with a language processing disorder instead. It’s quite comforting knowing others have this too, but at the same time it sucks and I wish none of us had it
I agree with all the examples you have given all 3 of my autistic sons (aged 11, 9, 4) have all of these traits the younger 2 are forever in trouble at school for fidgeting yet its something they can not help and need to do it frustrates me that by now with so much information out their regarding autism that mainstream teachers I still so strict about fidgeting and movement with asd children! My 9 year old finds fidgeting helps him concentrate and focus on task else he can't! He is forever going off into his own world but is still listening and can answer anything his teacher asks even if he doesn't look like he is listening! The older 2 like you struggle with English theybcan do it but they have to work hard with understanding the wording of things my 9 year old had a piece of writing the other day about a cyclist and he had to describe from the text what they were doing and he just wrote peddling very literal theybare in a bike so they are peddling he couldn't think outside the box at the environment the surroundings anything and it amuses me at times with his point blank literal answers but I get where he coming from and why he puts that his teachers on other hand get frustrated! And thank you for addressing a addictive personality I million % agree with you, my boys have gotten addicted to collecting things, leaflets where ever we went that had leaflets had to have everyone there possible and couldn't leave without getting some, my 9yr old when he was little and now my 4 Yr old collect sticks every time we are outside and see a stick they have to pick it up and it has to come home to stay even if its disgusting lol and they know every single stick so it's impossible to get rid of any! As they have got older it's things like watching a favourite TV program every day at the same time and a bigbone is PlayStation or Nintendo games I have to limit as they get so addicted to them they live breath and need the game in their lifes so I get what you mean about the addictive personality and it is great you recognise this in yourself and that's why like you saybin your video your counting calories hasn't got dangerous as you understand its an addiction and you have family to help you not make it dangerous! I truly love watching your videos and find myself agreeing out loud with you and thinking Yes! To most of the things you say as I can resignate to it with my own children and it needs discussing and putting out there so other people get it understand it and it may help them to understand a friend or family member with autism better and why they say, do or act a certain way
Thankyou for sharing this! Yes I think teachers need much more training in autism, but not just by non autistic people, they need to understand the needs of autistic children but talking to someone who’s autistic. I always struggled with zoning out at school and I found fidgeting helped me concentrate so I’d be listening to the teachers and doodling at the same time with a pen and paper! I do understand your children’s struggles as teachers do get frustrated with this! Again thanks for commenting it means a lot! Xx
Could the "addiction" also be described as obsession? I have 3 boys on the spectrum also🙋♀️
1. Fidgeting
2. Problems with English
3. Constantly worrying about things
4. Sleep problems
5. Addictive personality
6. Masking
I belive i have all exept 6 as i dont mask
Thank you for writing these out!
@@GuidedByGod13 no problem
Love the video, helped allot, Iv been thinking about getting an assessment for a while I kept putting it off. Everything you said resonated with me.
I gain so much from watching your videos. I am not autistic, but it is so helpful to gain a better understanding of those that are. Keep going you are a true inspiration!
Thankyou very much!!
Your videos are so helpful - I hope they're watched by a lot of people. Please could you make a video explaining what would have helped you at Primary School?
Yes I can do that! Glad you find my videos helpful it means a lot!
Hollie I find reading aloud helps me to absorb information easier. Perhaps the same works with audiobooks or text to speech apps, although I do nod off and loose the spot hehe.
Also thanks for sharing and being so open about stuff.
Ooo I will try this! Thanks for the tips, glad you like the video
Yes reading aloud really helps me too, or if it's very very quiet it's like I can hear it in my head
I am pretty sure I'm autistic and now I'm questioning if I may also have ADHD. I have identified in myself that I have an addictive personality. It's hard to stop is an understatement lol. You need to be careful if u know that about yourself about what u try because u could get in trouble. I've been lucky, I quit drinking yay me!
im trans, but i was assigned and raised as a girl since birth and this really hits home. i got diagnosed with combined type adhd in grade 9 and while i definitely have that, i definitely am autistic too and its not something most people in my family believe.
i hope soon they believe you and i hope youre doing well
That is hard, try to embrace who u r, lean in to your strengths
I was diagnosed with autism really quick becuase it was so obvious back then I couldn’t talk and I would rock and hum all day. Now I struggle with trying to hide it like fidgeting with my ears. And once my mum and my granny were in a store and I was screaming because the store was darker than outside and someone walked by and said a good slap would fix it and my granny chased him. And now my little brother is going for an appointment to get diagnosed. My grandma and my uncle both have autism
This was interesting to read thanks for sharing! Hope you enjoy my videos.
Yeah wow unsolicited unwanted advice
Good for you for bringing awareness💜
Thankyou!
Great new video 👏👏👏❤️❤️ Combined ADHD here 💁♂️💁♂️
Thankyou v much!!
Thankyou! we love all your videos and learn something on them all! You're also entertaining and funny (without trying), so natural which is probably why people can relate to them! I have exactly the same with reading and so does Lucie so was really interesting hearing about that and recognising more things!
Awh Thankyou it’s nice to hear people find me funny I don’t see it personally ahah. Glad you like the videos and you can learn new things! It means a lot, thanks again.
Congrats to 1000!!! Subscribers. Amazing!
I wonder if NT persons can relate to the things you say and explain in your videos. And I wonder how everything would be different if I was not autistic 🤔
Falling asleep is so difficult sometimes, especially if there is a lot of stress. How do you deal with stress, Hollie? It would be interesting to know. I think it's one of the most important and least discussed problems for us. Normal relaxation techniques do nothing for me, maybe because I have ADHD as well.. instead I have tension tension tension. Have a nice week!
I’m the same they do nothing for me either, I’m going to do a video on stress are you are absolutely right. stress is a huge problem for me I don’t deal with it well and it’s something I’d like to talk about
Doing a great job. Love the videos.
Thankyou very much!
I also heard autistic people tend to have amazing hair. Sometimes weird hair or hair that looks so perfect. Why is that so?
Amazing again! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 also love the blue background xx
Thankyou very much!
Well done again Hollie another good video !
Thankyou!
You just make me laugh 😂. God I love ya ❤️
love u xx
love your videos
Nice description. Thanks for sharing
Thankyou!
Pretty sure I am autistic. How would I go about getting a diagnosis? My 1 year old is currently under a paediatrician because he’s also showing traits now. I’m 27. X
I would just go to your GP and they would refer you. That’s what I did. I did a deeper video on my diagnosis and how to get referred etc. If you want to watch :)
@@holliemabbott949 thank you, I went to my gp today. They got me to do a questionnaire and I scored enough to get referred. 12 month waiting list though!!!
@@elphix9465 could b worse
i love your outfit and your lipgloss :D good style and morning hi :3
Thankyou
Your amazing 👏 xxx
thankyou xxxx
I have ADHD and I fidget a lot but I’m not autistic