Don’t let getting ghosted crush you. Friends, like money, come and go. Great when it’s there, sucks when it’s not, but with a little effort you can always get more.
When literally all your friends are doing ALL of these... EDIT: After 6 months of compete social isolation, and 4 months of letting my walls come down, I finally have a real, loyal friend. I promise you. It gets better. Just wait a little bit longer for the right people to come your way
Ghosting can also happen without a warning or signs. Personal experience... it left me devastated even until today. Getting attached to someone is a nightmare.
Or they’re just really depressed. Some people are so depressed and just feel so horrible that some can’t reply or talk. It’s not that they want to ghost you, it’s just they’re trying so hard trying to bear these horrible feelings that they don’t have enough energy to talk. Please don’t assume someone is trying to ghost you, check up on them instead and ask if everything is alright. Edit: Since some people’s brain are too stupid to think of other possibilities, yes most of the time, people are trying to ghost you, but that still doesn’t mean that it’s a bad thing to check up on your friends.
I think that’s the case when they’re not making excuses and not showing obvious signs they don’t care about you. I have a friend with major mental problems and she doesn’t always reply but I never hold it against her because she deals with so much everyday. She apologizes every time too. Now if she were making excuses and giving a certain attitude towards me, that would be a different story...
That's true, maybe I'm just a bad friend, but I think it’s very exhausting to have to talk to someone every day about useless matters just so they don’t think you stopped caring about them, I have already stopped talking to a person because I was afraid of what he was going to think after I didn't speak to him for 3 days because I was too sad to do anything, this sucks because I'm already worried about my life and having to worry about talking to my friends everyday is very energy consuming.
People who are dating others: NEVER ghost someone. You could really hurt their feelings if you don’t communicate about your own loss in interest in the relationship. Making no effort to reach out will result in a worse situation than if you at least tried. If you think they’ll take it badly, try approaching the topic more cautiously. Then again, who am I to speak on this topic? I’m just some random person on the Internet, who knows very little about dating.
You are absolutely right! I am a guy who often gets ghosted on dating apps. Especially on tinder on my matches. I always write first then I end up getting no reply at all even after 1 week of waiting. (seriously now... There are many many immature people out there who have poor communication skills or being absolutely careless, selfish or being unaware of the negative effects of ghosting)
Argh I ghosted my own crush, he actually liked me back too. I was too scared to commit to a relationship with him, running the risk of losing focus on school (Since I have zero balance with everything) I feel horrible for doing it, really.
You’re an empathetic person who is saying that we should treat one another the way we want to be treated. Lack of dating knowledge or not, you have shared something that’s true and something that couldn’t be stressed enough for those insensitive enough to do something this callous and cruel.
here are the early signs: 1. their texts are brief 2. just emoji responses 3. you always reach out 4. poor grammar and spelling 5. they’re always “busy” and cancel plans 6. something doesn’t feel right (gut feelings) 7. you haven’t been on an actual date 8. they aren’t introducing you to friends or family
I've been gosted by "Close friend of mine" and when I complained about it she always gave me bunch of crappy excuses, like I don't use my phone that much or I don't respond evenly among my relatives or whatever... I was a lonly person and I had a few friends at that time, so I was the first one who was reaching out always (so sad) Now, of course I am changed way better. Btw I have this wired instinct (gut feelings) which is mostly saying a god damn true stuff..l trust it with my whole heart.
Yeah honestly I’d rather have someone be straight up honest and just say something like “hey I don’t think our relationship is working out. If we can’t work things out I think we should end it” rather then ghosting me. And I’m being ghosting right now and it’s brought so much self hate these past few days towards myself
Anybody that's gonna just ghost you is not someone you really want in your life Got ghosted this summer and it really hurt, but I think life is better without such inconsiderate people
Same! I agree 100%. Ghosting is like shooting the other person because you are too afraid to tell them how you feel. It is mostly done out of cowardice, but ultimately it's one of the most selfish things someone can do. It really hurt me but it's happened heaps to me and I now know I'm better off without those people in my life. Happy to say, I generally respond quickly and I have NEVER (not once) ghosted anyone or felt the need to ghost anyone.
My best friend doesn’t want to play video games with me any more, she Ignores my texts and calls, she rarely is the one starting the conversation, she says see is busy but then I see her online with her other friends, I express my feelings and passion towards are relationships and sometimes it feels like i only feel this way about our friendship, she ignores me at school other then smiling and waving. This video was perfect for me right now
I'm literally in the same position as you. It really sucks but i've had a lot of time to think over my friendship with her and have realized even though I express all my worries to her, that im the only one trying in our friendship. She also always has an excuse for everything and why its not her fault instead of just saying sorry. It sucks but all you can do is move on and realize that you have other people in the world that will actually try for you. Hopefully you related to this as well, good luck! ❤
I don’t know why it happens but it just does. People change or they suck :/ idk. When my so called close friend didn’t even care that I was suicidal, that’s when I knew she didn’t give a shit about me anymore. I gave it everything I could for our friendship. She didn’t care. She blocked me everywhere. I’m glad she did. The trash took itself out. I wasted over 2 months on her after she threw me out of her life. Don’t waste your time on someone who clearly doesn’t care about you. :(
Been there done that. Took him eight months, his uncles personal recommendation, a cardiac arrest and a heart and lung bypass to realise I was the girl for him. I'm not. Buh bye.
As someone that was ghosted, it was such a horrible experience. Anxiety worsen, woken up in the middle of the night just to check on them-- then it damages new relationships.
Hmm well some points are just signs of someone's personality. Me, for example, I get socially exhausted quickly and for that I normally avoid talking to people unless they talk to me first. That doesnt mean im not invested or interested it just means I run out of "social juice" quickly and have to retreat for a while to recharge. So when someone doesnt talk to you first doesnt automatically mean they are or want to ghost you. But also depends when that started I guess x:
Id say same goes for going on dates or out. Either way, most of the time I feel uncomfortable and for me it's also rlly exhausting. It's not like that I don't like or have lost interest in you. I don't like to push myself in going out/have dates iykwim.
I admit, I did ghost my best friend that lives in Hong Kong. Sometimes I ignore her calls and messages Not that I mean anything bad, I was just either busy or just not in the mood to be on wts, even tho I'm on YT all the time I am quite busy, and most of the time, when I play my phone, I go to YT first unless there's smth important on other social medias like Instagram or Whatsapp I'm pretty introverted and tend to keep things myself, so I don't tend to tell what I'm doing or how am I to anyone, even classmate, parents and friends
True. If you're introverted or socially shy, then if you tell the person, they will understand. I guess that's why talking on the phone is a better way of getting messages across than through text. I'm old school all the way. Too much miscommunication and assumptions with these texting things lol
I'm so glad ghosting is now being associated with what it really is: cowardice and immaturity. I've called out every guy who's ghosted me and the genuinely nice ones respond and try to do something about it.
It's not always that. Some people who get ghosted are super toxic and the person who ghosted them might have gotten tired of their BS and realized it, so they ghosted so they don't have to deal with it anymore. It happens, and may be an opportunity for the one being ghosted to reflect on themselves and being a better person to any future friend or lover they make.
@@Angie_baewell it shows both parties are definitely in the wrong because you'd probably have to be equally as toxic to continue speaking and hanging around someone you deem to be a 'bad' or 'toxic' person. Just my opinion.
While a lot of these are signs, I think it's important to emphasize that sometimes the person is legitimately incredibly busy, has sacrificed their schedule to the gods of extracurriculars and things like that. Even though this is already brought up in the video, just thought I'd point it out further here. Great video as always!
@@rookiebear1124 not to be mean, but can I ask how old you are? I'm 30, and believe me.. There are times when people get too busy. Work, partners, kids, financial struggles, etc. It doesn't mean it will stay that way forever, but if I had to let all my friends go because they are busy for a while, not a lot of friends are left.
It's way, way more considerate to tell someone upfront (even through text) that you're no longer interested in seeing them (I'm talking romantically/sexually). Doing so might hurt them in the short term, but in the long run it will save them tons of heartbreak, self-doubt, insecurity, and potentially depression. It feels so bad to continually try and keep things going with someone when all you really get from them are short and shallow answers or none at all. It leaves you hanging and unsure about whether they're still interested in you. You start thinking something must be wrong with _you,_ and that _you_ must be the problem. You start doubting and hating yourself, hanging on their every word. It's awful, and it can all be avoided by just being upfront (polite, but upfront). The problem is that most people don't have the guts to step up and be direct.
That's a generalization to consider. I've always used social media to exchange ideas or challenge my own intellect. "Time to socialize" per se. Undeniably, I was a ghoster. I never felt attached to anyone online or knew to provide a commitment. It was a place to be social. This year, I came to terms with, ghosting is toxic. Some are misunderstood on how to engage correctly with the internet. Heck, I have forgotten that for others, the internet is the world!
The thing that kinda irks me is that instead of someone straight up saying, I'm sorry, but I don't really want to be friends anymore, and telling them why, they ghost. You're leading the person on by doing it to them. Not too long ago I had a falling out with one of my friends, but instead of ghosting her, I told her exactly why I didn't want to be friends anymore. Ghosting is a learned behavior, and I really don't like how some people can't just talk.
IMPORTANT MESSAGE : Yes these signs are symptoms that someone is going to ghost you .. but everytime you see these signs ,dont assume that you are going to be ghosted! It might be something else even...
For real I agree, or just say you aren't interested in a romantic relationship .. or you don't wanna talk any more. I asked my boyfriend an he said it's not that... He ended up blocking me September 11...".not in a bad way" he say... He unblocked me Oct 2 but . I'ma just take a break from talking him.
Yeah, but sometimes that just does not work. Sometimes the other person doesn't let you get out of the friendship, because they're holding you back. This affects you. So, for you own good, you have to ghost them, unless you wanna keep this toxic friendship going and want to keep hurting yourself more and more.
@@Sunset553 I feel that, very much. Like, let me tell you, if it's because these people have a negative impact on you or make you feel bad, then it's fine. Then ghosting them, isn't considered mean. This is considered doing what's best for you, if there's no other way. But if you can, gather as much confidence as you can and end the contact to those people, by talking with them, if there's a way. That's always better.
@@noa-pb6tg I can tell him why and then later if I need to ignore his messages, he’ll have an idea. I think he’s oblivious. This isn’t a dating or romantic thing. He only talks to women, but doesn’t date. It uses up what little energy I have to take his calls that are just time wasters. I’ve never talked to one person on the phone this much. I need some energy to try to take care of myself. I guess he just goes from one call to the next. For me, I’m used to a silent phone. My relative said to just block him but that’s happened to me and it’s agonizing.
I've had occasions where I'm feeling really lonely, sad, and even suicidal sometimes, so I reach out to someone to talk to. I explain my situation and that I'd like to talk regularly and maybe even spend time together, only for them to ghost me shortly afterwards. It hurts beyond words. I'll always try and find time to help someone emotionally, but no one ever does it for me.
It can happen the other way too. Said person is suicidal and we get along, I try to help only for her to disappear for days or I fear, to ghost now. A few days may seem little, but when you get into a loop and think if your friend could be harming herself while you casually watch a movie or go to the park, it's hard to live a normal life. Or if she might not come back.
I once ghosted someone, but not because of losing interest. He was a toxic friend and it was just to much for me. I still feel guilty, but I had no other option. I couldnt talk to him and he didnt even tried understanding me. It's better that I cut the ties and since then he didnt wrote me, so, at least I have one toxic friend in my life less (Sorry for my grammar. English isnt my first language)
I did exactly the same thing this year for exactly the same reason. He was my bestest friend ever for 12 years...but he started to become this toxic "stranger" that changed him into a different person that I don't like anymore. I too feel guilty and he knows he is guilty so he just stopped communicating after I ghosted him.
It also happened to me. I met her 11 years ago on school and we become best friends, but when I was in highschool I started to notice toxic behaviours on her that I didn't give importance before: she controlled my relationships with other friends, even my conversations with other people on the phone. if I had a friend that communicates a lot with me she started to say that I was replacing her, the same happened with some guy I liked (she took my phone and send her number to talk with him, and the most ironical thing is that I discovered that she had intentions to flirt with him). And the last year after some things she told me, I decided to ghost her. I saw her on highschool sometimes and now on street, but anything more.
@@coral1038 Lucky, I have to bare having my old primairy friend who is toxic in front of me in class and I have to interact with her...while I try to be the nicest possible and ignore/ghost her in my mind I'm like: *SCREEEEEEEEE-*
Me too! I have this super toxic friend, she always being clingy to me, she gets jealous when I befriend with other people, she always whined about her problems and when I gave her advice, she didn't accept it. she gossiped a lot and she drained my energy out. I honestly can't take it anymore so I ghosted her, I feel guilty too. So am I doing a right thing or not?
Some simple signs to look out for are one-word texts, increased emojis to avoid conversation, read messages without a response, a decrease in PDA, and canceling plans 👍
I’ve been ghosted 5 times for a personal experience, but I have recovered from it, remember it takes some time when you can get ghosted especially if it’s a friend or best friend or close friend, but you with recover from it!
I think someone appreciate you being consistent. You can be busy, but it don't take long to check on someone. Everyone have time for a five minute convo from time to time. It don't take much. The whole I'm busy thing is an excuse as well. Have a blessed night. Be open and honest always. Treat someone the way you want to be treated.
@Ladenna Young I don’t not check on anyone. After I’m finished with everything I check on them. Even if it’s just a little “how you doing” text and sometimes a call if I have time. I try to reach out to people when I can because I know some people who have mental health issues and I don’t want to lose anyone else so I check on them regularly.
@Nicole Diaz to be fair, I’m kinda the only person who checks their texts everyday. I last texted my friend a few days ago and haven’t received a reply but she’s good. She was in class today.
Around February, this pretty much happened with all of my friends. Everyone just slowly started to cut me off. Eventually I realized that I had no friends and that everyone had abandoned me. I managed to rekindle things with an out of state friend, but she dropped off in August and hasn't responded since. I'm really grateful cause a childhood friend and I have reconnected via texting but I'm just expecting her to leave eventually as well because I've gone almost a full year without real friends, and over half a year with only one friend at a time. It just really really hurt. I've almost gotten used to being completely isolated from everyone. I've become really snarky about it too because when people were complaining about quarantine I wanted to snap at them "at least you can still call and text people. My messages are left unread and my calls are never returned."
Wow same thing happened to me too. I even moved to another city and now i have no friends here tbh a long story. I hope you can find some real friends soon i really feel your pain. We can get through this 💖
I feel exactly the same way. :/ it’s hard even talking to my own siblings. A close friend I had for 6 years cut me out of her life 3 months ago. I didn’t even do anything wrong. She was in the wrong. I already have huge trust issues because friends have hurt me so much in the past. That made me worse. I love my current friends but there’s always that fear like “they’ll stop talking to me one day” or “they don’t really care about me...” I’ve felt lonely for so long because of those thoughts. :/ I feel like I’m too reliant on having constant communication with people. It’s hard for me to be alone with my thoughts.
I am a complete stranger but I wish to send you a lot of love and a virtual hug. Please remember these any time you feel low. I have been going through relationship and friendship challenges since childhood. Literally since age 4. Never could make friends, they were people who put up with me. I've then compounded this by not going out to do hobbies or events, volunteering due to mental health issues. All my friends leave when their time in my life is done. We learn the lessons about ourselves. I finally have learned, at age 36, that I'm highly codependent and it's as bad as having a mental illness. I'm in recovery now and it's nice to meet people at the Coda meetings who can relate and even if they judge, they don't say anything because you only speak. This may sound a bit out there, relationships are all to do with the navel and sacral chakra. Mine needs healing, my inner child needs healing. I went to healers for help and it has gotten better, helpful people are coming forward to help me. I also have a therapist. There are solutions to our problems. We need to be open to finding what's right for us. Again, another hug and loads of love from my heart to your beautiful heart. 💞💖💞💖 You just need to have a high frequency, and loads of self acceptance and love and understanding. And hopefully, you will connect with people who truly see your beauty and your light and your inherent worth. The healing begins with the heart. Start there. Heal the broken heart 💖🙏🏽😍🌞🥰🤗
All of these were me except I was going through a really bad time, my life was falling apart and I was severely depressed with crippling anxiety. I think people should know that sometimes, it’s a sign something is seriously wrong and the person is isolating themselves and they don’t want to intentionally cut ties.
I 100 percent understand and empathize with you. I have been there myself, as was my ex-boyfriend (2010-2016), and the love of my life has been guilty of the things you mentioned. We love eachother VERY much, and we keep in touch when we can, as we're both very busy people professionally. He even requests some of our songs on our favourite radio station, and not once in a blue moon, but almost daily. Unfortunately, though, we are BOTH struggling, especially himself. I won't get into the specifics, but it doesn't have anything to do with another intimate partner, or children. We will see eachother again, but now is not the time.
How about this - DON’T force yourself upon people. You never know what they’re going through and don’t hurt yourself by trying to make yourself important in someone’s life. You’re setting yourself up to get hurt and stressing the other person out, not beneficial to anyone
I swear ghosting was only when someone sees ur message and doesn’t respond pretending they haven’t seen it edit- thx for the likes and yeah I’ve been ghosted by everyone at least once or twice in this type of form. Have you been ghosted and what’s your story on it?
Ghosting is incredibly disrespectful and so are the people who are doing that. It's like when they need something from you, they text you or call you instantly, but then when they can no longer use you, they ghost you. I banished all those people from my life, there were quite a few who liked to play with me that way. I gave them enough chances to change their behavior towards me, but people don't change. It's like narcissicism, toxicity and ghosting are the real pandemics of our time. That can be quite painful for empaths.
I don’t buy that “I’m busy” excuse. Unless they’re a CEO of a Fortune 500 company that they’re obligated to be plugged in and reachable basically 18+ hours everyday, that means bull. It just means “I’m too busy for you”. Start to plan ahead when you hear this excuse.
You're so tough oof- You can never know what exactly is going on in someone life. If someone says they are busy maybe they really are. It's not because they don't seem to have a lot of work that it's not hard for them to find time, maybe they are just feeling bad mentally and they are unable to talk ?
Shuichiiw Shuichiiw oops, okay okay, I may have been a tad harsh. But if they’re saying they’re too busy to talk because they’re unable to talk to you because of some reason or other, I’m afraid that friend is practically that close to ghosting you. They basically don’t feel feel safe or comfortable with you anymore to share their lives with you. They might not mean “I’m too busy for you” but they just don’t want to talk or be with you, with no malicious intent. Just wanted to say, if you hear that excuse, just be prepared for a possible ghosting. People have periods of busyness and yes, that might *legitimately* make them unavailable for quick chats or meet ups, but really, who is that consistently busy, especially on the weekends? Maybe people who are launching new businesses or startups, and if that’s the case, of course, anyone would understand. But friends are excited to share things with their friends. Despite any busyness, friends would be excited to keep you updated with a quick snippet or share a funny moment. But, if you find yourself hearing that *they’re quite swamped* for the nth time, well, let’s just say there’s a possibility that they’re sick of you and they want out. Hmmm, I don’t know, maybe I’m taking too hard line a stance here, but this happened to me a lot so just sharing my experience I guess.
Yikes, I'm not a CEO of a fortune 500 company but I'm 100% guilty of being too busy people all the time. I'm a medical imaging student and when I'm on placement which is a 9-5 thing, it means I have to wake up early, commute to the clinic, switch my phone off (compulsory for students), go home late, then just sleep. I don't even check my phone as much and when I do, I forget to reply. Being tired all the time really makes you feel depressed, anxious all the time and stressed. So you really feel withdrawn. And believe me when I say this but there's a bunch of people who think I'm ghosting them, too bad. They'll either take it the wrong way and disappear or respect that I'm actually busy and just let me be, I've filtered out many friends who can or cannot accept my slow to no responses. It might seem like I'm cold hearted but not everyone has the energy or time, especially if you're someone who has depression.
Well how often do you need to talk to them? Some people are very needy and want to chat with me over text for hours every day which I don't have for anyone so it can seem like I'm always saying I'm busy. It's all subjective
People handle different level of busy lives. Maybe they do have some time during a busy day but using the free time to chat with ppl is draining energy for them when they probably would prefer some alone time. I know I myself a introvert is like this, and it’s unfair to say that ppl are obliged to invest their little free time on frds always, its tiring.
Thanks for the idea, I might send this to every girl I match with on tinder. I get ghosted all the time right when I write first then I don't get any replies.
Yeah I've through that twice, It's truly horrible. Just imagine someone who means so much to you suddenly doesn't want to be near you and started to avoid you. They always come up with excuses, even when I ask why did they ghost me. Finally I have to accept the truth that they doesn't want me in their life anymore
I have been ghosted before, its a very painful and unfortunate thing for sure. Don't ghost people if you want to break up, just be an adult and tell it like it is!
If you have the Guts to date someone, then you should have the Guts to break up with them. If you ghost someone who loves you then you are nothing but a coward who cant handle a relationship in the first place!
Ghosting is awful. I have been ghosted 2 times by two women who i loved and i thought they loved me. I will never recover from this and im never trusting someone again.
I’m never the one to text first and I try to avoid texting or talking to people because I’m nervous I’m going to make a fool of myself or just mess things up. Although recently, I think it’s come to a point where I 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘴𝘦 socializing. If I get a call, I won’t pick up; if I get a text, I won’t reply. I never have any intention to harm the other person but that’s just always what happens. I’m curious to know if anyone can relate to some level with this.
I used to be like you and all you need is "communication practice" or more experience at socializing. On Dating apps for example I was extremely afraid to message girls but now after a ton of texting experience, I can do it without any effort but most of the time I don't get any replies. xD In real life I don't have socializing skills but here on the internet I am literally the king of texting and writing. (I am very used to it) You won't hurt anyone (only if you are rude or insult them) so there's nothing to worry about. Someday you have to start somewhere because you don't wanna end up completely alone.
You are not alone. I am the same way. Im highly introverted, two of my friends are extroverted. I'm usually not the one who initiates a conversation through texts and i hate calls, i also do not send texts like "how are you doing." It's not my thing, but i am available to them during their tough times. I hang out with them and we all enjoy spending time together. However, recently i haven't gotten time to focus on myself and my work. So i decided to lay low, but i think they assume that I've just gotten annoyed with them, when i cancel plans. Because i want to spend my time alone and work on my stuff. I sometimes assume they think im just selfish but i do care for them and i project feelings differently. I don't know, it's a weird world to live as an introvert.
@@ibrahimyahya3362 you know you could always say them something like "by the way, if you think that I don't enjoy being with you or that I don't like you anymore, it's just that I've been taking some time for myself and to work on my projects (or whatever that might be) lately. Sorry if it looks like I stopped caring about you. Just wanted to let you know that I still care." (You could always spell things differently of course). If you worry that you might be hurting them it's best to say something. It's important to be honest with each other, so that you have a healthy relationship with your friends. Also if they are good friends, they'll understand and support you nonetheless.
There is a world of difference between ghosting and putting someone on immediate No Contact. If you are actively being hurt by any and every interaction, or are endangered by further contact, you don't have to keep contacting them. You can just stop. Speaking form experience, 10/10, would do it again.
0:51 Their texts are brief 1:16 Just Emoji Responses 1:40 You always reach out 2:11 Poor grammar and spelling 2:40 Their always busy and cancel plans 3:08 Something doesn't feel right 3:35 You havent been on an actual date 4:11 They aren't introducing you to friends or family
I think this is the most coward move from this modern era. Is so selfish and childish, people use it to manipulate others. I never do it because I know psychologically that affects people worse every day. We need to learn to avoid that stupid behavior.
I hate just how common it is now. People never fight for a relationship yet complain about not having one. Unfortunately, I always end up on the being ghosted side of things. With the exception of family, I wish I didn't need to have relationships to have overall wellbeing.
I got ghosted by a guy I really liked a couple months ago and it STILL bothers the hell out of me because I don't know why he did it. Everything was totally fine! Then all of a sudden - nothing. I deserved an explanation.
If your best friends or just regular friends with someone but lose interest in them or want to hang out with other people, never ghost them. Although it’s awkward to bring it up, your friend can take it. Just ghosting them is wrong and leaves your friend feeling like it’s their fault and constantly wondering what went wrong. As someone who was ghosted by my best friend of 8 years, I would have much rather him tell me straight to my face what he felt. When he ghosted me I was devastated for awhile and was constantly wondering what happened until I eventually had to let it go. Months later I eventually found out he just simply wanted to distance himself from me and hang out with other people bc his interests changed. While it would have definitely hurt me at first if he told me that, the process would have been much easier and kinder. Also, if you ghosted someone but feel like you made a mistake and want to be back in their life, it’s never too late to just send a text or call. Maybe that person has moved on or doesn’t want anything to do with you, or maybe they’re mad at you. But there’s a good chance they feel the same way as u and wish things didn’t end.
This is when someone will ghost you physically, but it's another story when someone wants to ghost you emotionally. 🙂 Thank you Ma'am for this video again! It means a lot to me, I sure will follow all of your future videos! 🙂
I hate when ppl ghost, bc it can cause the other person trauma that'd end up staying with them for a really long-time and they'd begin to put up more fences around them. It'd be understandable if you were busy but you can still take a second out of your life to reply back or simply let the person know whether you want to continue with the friendship/relationship.
When you're actually dealing with a narcissistic pervert friend, ghosting is the best and only solution to leave the relationship. They'll never admit their mistakes , instead they will shift the blame on you. You've warned them more than twice but it's pointless to have a conversation with them because they'll never listen to you and they are even gaslighting you. Had such a friend once and I don't regret ghosting her. I also have been ghosted more than twice because the people I thought to be my friends were just using me and I was no longer useful to them.
Exrsp have a deep conversation abt it, really know what his/her intentions and boundaries are, cus the longer you make that last, the longer it will hurt 😩😤
Happened to me in July. We'd only been talking a month. Met up once. Then absolute nothing. Unfriended me, blocked me. Zilch. Silence. Nothing. Very hurtful. At first I wondered what I'd done wrong, but it wasn't me. People who ghost are immature, cowardly, many are narcissists, some can't commit to relationships - look at their past history for that clue. Turned out to be a blessing for me, I feel I dodged a bullet too. Thank you, universe! It made me look inward, helped me realize why I attract certain men.
Happens to me on a constant basis; you can let it happen for any amount of time (shorter or longer) but the moment you call them out on it, they always go evasive, reply that you are wrong in some manner... generally make it seem like it's YOUR fault (even YOUR FAULT for "making a big deal of it")... this is emotional blackmail. If you are the one constantly spending energy, will, effort (and hopefully, nothing other than those) trying to maintain a connection to this type of people... *just let go* . They were never truly friends to begin with. Friendship is a two-way road, organic, dynamic and renewed every day by both sides. In an age of such ease to communicate, there's really no plausible excuse. Let go of these spectres and nurture love and appreciation of you. Find comfort in being by yourself, alone perhaps, *but never lonely* .
Sometimes people lost interest in others and that's ok. It's not like they necessarily say "I'll ghost this person on purpose", they just drift away. Sometimes they do come back though
I guess I ghost people every day lol! I just don’t have the energy to talk to people every single day That’s just way to much! Not to mention that I have little to no social skills 🤷♀️
Relatable! I don't dislike them, but sometimes I need to recharge my social battery. Telling people that I needed space would sound awful, and I didn't want to lie that I was busy either
When people say “I’ll tell you when...”and you literally wait for them to tell you. It really makes me feel mad. And I don’t know if I should ask them again...
In my personal experience I've been ghosted short time ago and I didn't see any of these signs. The person just seemed awkward to me, they were extremely interested in me at the beginning but as soon as they noticed it wasn't going to be easy to get what they wanted they ghosted me 🤷🏻♀️ the gut feeling was always there though
It’s almost been 1 year since my (whom I thought was my best friend) ghosted me. They did it on my birthday :( Thanks yet again for another lovely and informative video
Someone who's doing this could be really burntout, in depression or upset on something consider these things too before concluding they are going to ghost you.
My heart aches listening to theses signs. I been through three failed relationships. That's why I am loving myself more and not putting my self out there anymore until I know someone is truly into me in the meantime I am grateful for not getting myself into no more heart ache anymore.
When you get so emotionally distraught and paranoid that your friends are going to ghost you that you just ghost them first; *I am four parallel universes ahead of you.*
Hard to anticipate being left behind when you beleive things were going well... Happened to me months ago. Met a girl online, started well, talked everyday, then asked her out on an in person date...which went fairly well I felt, and then back to talking at least once a day... Then out of nowhere, I got nothing back... I figured she was busy and left it at that, sent another message to check in and apologise for a lack of response. 3 months later, still nothing... Safe to say I'm not looking forward to looking online again if it'll most likely end up like this in the end...
I hate the term ghosted. Some people are chronically ill and needs to rest a lot. i've had times where I'm too horrible to speak to anyone for over a month. i let me friends know I am not well though, but it gets annoying to explain. Also, some people are introverted, have lives, or just get busy with work, school, stress, overwhelmed or even get socially burnt out. I go through phases where I socialize for a bit but then I need a long time to recuperate. I'd rather have no friends than clingy ones. It's even harder when you have a lot of friends, way too many to keep track of, and they even start fighting eachother for you attention or try to take time away from eachother, yet won't hang out together with me in a group. I think it's also important to realize some people have hobbies goals and dreams, I know so many people that have no goals but some of us are working towards to progression, learning things, and learning skills that consume a lot of time. It's wrong to demand attention when someone is trying to cling to what may be a reason to live for them. You can always make more friends, it's very unfair to rely on just one or two people to constantly be entertaining you. Friends who respect boundaries are important to keep. It's good to keep friends with mutual understanding of different social needs and boundaries, and you can decide what kind of friends you want to have. if anyone ever 'ghosted me' even a loved one, I respect that. If they don't enjoy spending time with me...or have other things to do...why would I want to force them? That's greedy and selfish. If you care at all about them, you want what's best for them and their mental health, even if that means moving on from eachothers lives.
You explained this so perfectly 🥺 people are so quick to say I’m “ghosting” them and get kinda pissed off at me. I’ve even explained to them multiple times that I don’t always want to talk. It’s no hard feelings toward them but they never fully understand what I mean. I’ll text a friend for a few days and then not open anymore messages for weeks at a time. I’ve lost so many friends this year because of it. Definitely questioned whether or not I even want friends because nowadays with phones and social media it’s a full time commitment. It definitely takes a lot of energy.
@@nialicia Yeah! You still love your friends and care about them, but sometimes life happens, your overwhelmed, stressed, or just, idk working on lifes goals lmao xD Not every action has to mean it is a hostile one. I wish everyone would try to understand eachother and communicate before resorting to things like ghosting or making assumptions lol
Ghosting doesn't mean when that person ignores you once or only few times...to know who is ghosting exactly see the social media chats having repeating pattern of not replying and just seeing the message...if this pattern occurs more than 20 times then it's ghosting...this always worked for me and blocked these ppl out of my life....oh you can also check the same pattern for the call. And for face to face talks, observe that person how he/she is with others and compare it with yourself...if that person as mentioned in video gives only brief responses and this keeps on repeating where they are so talkative with many people...but less talkative only with you then 100% consider this as ghosting.
You might notice these things happen with increasing frequency as the relationship deteriorates while the coward still continues their façade. This has happened to me in two official relationships and two that I thought were developing into relationships in the past 5 years. 100% of the relationships I've finally opened up to have ended this way since 2018 - with a knife in the heart through the back. I have little to no trust in others anymore, it just seems foolishly idealistic to imagine it not happening in the modern social climate.
I got ghosted, 4 years ago, my partner ghosted me on the same day he would help me with carrying a new aquarium to its new place, a day later i got a short email that it was over 😒 and that after 3 years of being with me.
Eh, It's quick, and it only leaves you with confusion. it isn't the same feeling as a friend telling you that they don't wanna be friends anymore. boom.
@@puffcatco your right, it's being left wondering what you did wrong with no ability to ask them. Your left wondering if they left you on purpose or something happened, and if you know they left because you fought. There's no chance for you to work it out because they won't respond and it might as well be like a ex friend slapping you in the face saying your not friends anymore and never speaking to you again. I still think it's worse
Ghosting is cruel. It's better to tell the other person that you want to end things, explain why so that you won't leave someone broken asking herself everyday what she did wrong.
When I say “ttyl” or “I’ll call you back later” I actually mean it. But when someone says it to me I never get a call back or any messages. I’ve ghosted someone before, but I have a good reason why. I’m only a young teenager and I have a friend my age that started smoking/ vaping. Saying it like she’s cool for doing it. I really don’t want to be around people that do that. I lost interest in the friendship because she kept doing things around me that made me very uncomfortable. I started ghosting her, ignoring her texts or making up excuses when she invited me to a party. She still messages me but it’s usually just because she wants to copy my homework. :v
I appreciate the effort of phy2go and all the ways they keep us informed about ourselves, constantly helping us identify with who we are and and we maybe be able to fix that . However, I also notice the trend in phy2go videos in which our flaws are more odvious videos , while also keeping us informed to the fact that we really are “messed us”. I know this seems pessimistic , especially for a channel that I love but I don’t want to be constantly reminded through “sign” of how bad I might be . I’d like to see more videos that emphasize good behavior or transitioning from “bad to good “.
Especially for people with poor mental health (mainly anxiety, depression, and PTSD) that are in the process of ghosting you, I think it is important to reflect on your own behavior. Not to say you are doing anything wrong! For example, when my PTSD was at it's freshest and most severe, I was friends with this really nice guy who messaged me every single day. And every time I replied, it would lead into a conversation that would be at least an hour long. He was just trying to catch up with me because we had been friends in elementary school, but I quickly found myself in this situation where I felt overstimulated and overwhelmed whenever I spoke to him. Some days I would reply to his message after I woke up, talk for an hour or two, then be so exhausted by the end of the conversation that I had to go back to bed before even eating breakfast! Again, this guy wasn't doing anything wrong. He just didn't realize that I was getting overwhelmed by his actions and I didn't know how to vocalize my needs, so I ghosted him because I couldn't handle talking to him. Try to guess if there's something you can do to make them more comfortable. If not, you can carefully approach the subject by saying something like "Are you doing okay? If there's anything I can do to make you more comfortable or improve our friendship, then let me know." And make sure you mean it if you say something like that. If they ask something of you and you make it out to be ridiculous or burdensome, then they'll *definitely* ghost you and you've just ruined your chances of mending the relationship, most likely.
@@nadiaerroukrma5695 I'm here because I thought I was going to get useful information about ghosting but then this video told everyone to be anxious over things that might not even be ghosting. To provide this list without context seems to be stoking more fear than providing any sort of comfort.
ASliceofKai I get your point, and I agree to it to some extent, however, they actually do research about these topics so they might have more validity in their claims.
Thanks I'm getting the sign with this one word cold reply poor grammar n texting style stuffs, the person even acted as third party replying to me and now after many pondering, played in the hot n cold and heartaches, I finally just deleted the no. and done. Ghost before getting ghosted. This video came at very right time.
Don’t let getting ghosted crush you. Friends, like money, come and go. Great when it’s there, sucks when it’s not, but with a little effort you can always get more.
Damn dis is the most beautiful written thing I’ve seen all day GOOD JOB👏🥺
@@jannieorlandostoriess1913 0
How do I have friend that come and go when I have no friend
Thank you for your wise words 😁❤️
The first few times I was able to tell myself it's not me, but when dozens of girls end up ghosting you, the depression hits like a train.
When literally all your friends are doing ALL of these...
EDIT:
After 6 months of compete social isolation, and 4 months of letting my walls come down, I finally have a real, loyal friend. I promise you. It gets better. Just wait a little bit longer for the right people to come your way
They are not real friends then?
I don't have real friends ...
When literally every girl I talk to does this
Me after watching this video
*Alright I am dying single*
😓*Sigh*
Truth ! They are not real real friends at all
Then they're not your "friends" hun...
And if you're upset about them, remember you're too good for them😊
Ghosting can also happen without a warning or signs. Personal experience... it left me devastated even until today. Getting attached to someone is a nightmare.
Same
Been there, felt that
Hope u guys feel better soon 💜 Just know that something better is comin 🥂
“Getting attached to someone is a nightmare”
True💔
Don't get attached.
Or they’re just really depressed. Some people are so depressed and just feel so horrible that some can’t reply or talk. It’s not that they want to ghost you, it’s just they’re trying so hard trying to bear these horrible feelings that they don’t have enough energy to talk. Please don’t assume someone is trying to ghost you, check up on them instead and ask if everything is alright. Edit: Since some people’s brain are too stupid to think of other possibilities, yes most of the time, people are trying to ghost you, but that still doesn’t mean that it’s a bad thing to check up on your friends.
I think that’s the case when they’re not making excuses and not showing obvious signs they don’t care about you. I have a friend with major mental problems and she doesn’t always reply but I never hold it against her because she deals with so much everyday. She apologizes every time too. Now if she were making excuses and giving a certain attitude towards me, that would be a different story...
Exactly. I’ve lost many friends this way.
Not many can understand this. I’m glad you pointed out this fact👏🏽👏🏽
Thankyou for this 🤗
That's true, maybe I'm just a bad friend, but I think it’s very exhausting to have to talk to someone every day about useless matters just so they don’t think you stopped caring about them, I have already stopped talking to a person because I was afraid of what he was going to think after I didn't speak to him for 3 days because I was too sad to do anything, this sucks because I'm already worried about my life and having to worry about talking to my friends everyday is very energy consuming.
People who are dating others: NEVER ghost someone. You could really hurt their feelings if you don’t communicate about your own loss in interest in the relationship. Making no effort to reach out will result in a worse situation than if you at least tried. If you think they’ll take it badly, try approaching the topic more cautiously.
Then again, who am I to speak on this topic? I’m just some random person on the Internet, who knows very little about dating.
You are absolutely right! I am a guy who often gets ghosted on dating apps. Especially on tinder on my matches. I always write first then I end up getting no reply at all even after 1 week of waiting. (seriously now... There are many many immature people out there who have poor communication skills or being absolutely careless, selfish or being unaware of the negative effects of ghosting)
Nobody Reads My Comments L
Argh I ghosted my own crush, he actually liked me back too.
I was too scared to commit to a relationship with him, running the risk of losing focus on school (Since I have zero balance with everything)
I feel horrible for doing it, really.
You’re an empathetic person who is saying that we should treat one another the way we want to be treated. Lack of dating knowledge or not, you have shared something that’s true and something that couldn’t be stressed enough for those insensitive enough to do something this callous and cruel.
Same 👌
One rule: *Do not ghost. It's cruel.*
I found out it hurts just as getting hurt physically
Why not, I ghost people all the time. I find some white sheet and then scare them to the point they pee their pants.
What if you mutually ghost each other.
Agreed:(
I ghosted Bc they’ve done it to me before 😭
here are the early signs:
1. their texts are brief
2. just emoji responses
3. you always reach out
4. poor grammar and spelling
5. they’re always “busy” and cancel plans
6. something doesn’t feel right (gut feelings)
7. you haven’t been on an actual date
8. they aren’t introducing you to friends or family
Thanks! 💚
Mr. 7Reality I’m so sorry about that, try your best to stay away from negative people, and also stay safe
I've been gosted by "Close friend of mine" and when I complained about it she always gave me bunch of crappy excuses, like I don't use my phone that much or I don't respond evenly among my relatives or whatever...
I was a lonly person and I had a few friends at that time, so I was the first one who was reaching out always (so sad)
Now, of course I am changed way better.
Btw I have this wired instinct (gut feelings) which is mostly saying a god damn true stuff..l trust it with my whole heart.
Kameron Perez so talk about it with that person. What is wrong with this generation that everyone is afraid to speak up all of a sudden??
They COULD just be depressed
People do not realize the damage they're doing. Ghosting is so damn cowardly and dishonest
Tommy Gunn I know right just say you don’t wanna be friends anymore or just say you’re busy
@@simplyvibin4646 yes! I respect a girl 10 times more if they say they're not interested than one who ghosts.
My friend: I would never ignore you
Also my friend:(replies til later on)
Me:(sigh she still talks to me)
Yeah honestly I’d rather have someone be straight up honest and just say something like “hey I don’t think our relationship is working out. If we can’t work things out I think we should end it” rather then ghosting me. And I’m being ghosting right now and it’s brought so much self hate these past few days towards myself
If they just want to end things why not tell the truth? It’s really not that hard..
Anybody that's gonna just ghost you is not someone you really want in your life
Got ghosted this summer and it really hurt, but I think life is better without such inconsiderate people
100%
Facts
Same! I agree 100%. Ghosting is like shooting the other person because you are too afraid to tell them how you feel. It is mostly done out of cowardice, but ultimately it's one of the most selfish things someone can do. It really hurt me but it's happened heaps to me and I now know I'm better off without those people in my life. Happy to say, I generally respond quickly and I have NEVER (not once) ghosted anyone or felt the need to ghost anyone.
My best friend doesn’t want to play video games with me any more, she Ignores my texts and calls, she rarely is the one starting the conversation, she says see is busy but then I see her online with her other friends, I express my feelings and passion towards are relationships and sometimes it feels like i only feel this way about our friendship, she ignores me at school other then smiling and waving. This video was perfect for me right now
Oh man I'm sorry :( don't make my mistake and hang on just because of how close you once were
I’m going through the same thing right now :(
I really hope things get better for you, and I really hope that you’re doing alright
I feel the same I prefer being alone right now
I'm literally in the same position as you. It really sucks but i've had a lot of time to think over my friendship with her and have realized even though I express all my worries to her, that im the only one trying in our friendship. She also always has an excuse for everything and why its not her fault instead of just saying sorry. It sucks but all you can do is move on and realize that you have other people in the world that will actually try for you. Hopefully you related to this as well, good luck! ❤
I don’t know why it happens but it just does. People change or they suck :/ idk. When my so called close friend didn’t even care that I was suicidal, that’s when I knew she didn’t give a shit about me anymore. I gave it everything I could for our friendship. She didn’t care. She blocked me everywhere. I’m glad she did. The trash took itself out. I wasted over 2 months on her after she threw me out of her life. Don’t waste your time on someone who clearly doesn’t care about you. :(
The guy I like ghosted me too-
And now he's kinda reaching out again because he "needs" something and now I'm pulling the reverse Uno card on him
Lol
Been there done that. Took him eight months, his uncles personal recommendation, a cardiac arrest and a heart and lung bypass to realise I was the girl for him. I'm not. Buh bye.
omg nice
Yesss
LMAO 😆
As someone that was ghosted, it was such a horrible experience. Anxiety worsen, woken up in the middle of the night just to check on them-- then it damages new relationships.
I'm scared that my bf is ghosting me bc he hasn't texted me since yesterday😭
Hmm well some points are just signs of someone's personality. Me, for example, I get socially exhausted quickly and for that I normally avoid talking to people unless they talk to me first. That doesnt mean im not invested or interested it just means I run out of "social juice" quickly and have to retreat for a while to recharge. So when someone doesnt talk to you first doesnt automatically mean they are or want to ghost you. But also depends when that started I guess x:
Whereas I have enough ‘social juice’ for all the ladies ... Aiieeeee
Id say same goes for going on dates or out. Either way, most of the time I feel uncomfortable and for me it's also rlly exhausting. It's not like that I don't like or have lost interest in you. I don't like to push myself in going out/have dates iykwim.
I admit, I did ghost my best friend that lives in Hong Kong. Sometimes I ignore her calls and messages
Not that I mean anything bad, I was just either busy or just not in the mood to be on wts, even tho I'm on YT all the time
I am quite busy, and most of the time, when I play my phone, I go to YT first unless there's smth important on other social medias like Instagram or Whatsapp
I'm pretty introverted and tend to keep things myself, so I don't tend to tell what I'm doing or how am I to anyone, even classmate, parents and friends
True. If you're introverted or socially shy, then if you tell the person, they will understand. I guess that's why talking on the phone is a better way of getting messages across than through text. I'm old school all the way. Too much miscommunication and assumptions with these texting things lol
Thats really rude
I'm so glad ghosting is now being associated with what it really is: cowardice and immaturity. I've called out every guy who's ghosted me and the genuinely nice ones respond and try to do something about it.
It's not always that. Some people who get ghosted are super toxic and the person who ghosted them might have gotten tired of their BS and realized it, so they ghosted so they don't have to deal with it anymore. It happens, and may be an opportunity for the one being ghosted to reflect on themselves and being a better person to any future friend or lover they make.
@@cartooncottage2024 okay so why text the toxic person in the future? Why not let him or her go?
@@Angie_baewell it shows both parties are definitely in the wrong because you'd probably have to be equally as toxic to continue speaking and hanging around someone you deem to be a 'bad' or 'toxic' person. Just my opinion.
@@cartooncottage2024 you should still call them out on it and go out of the door without ghosting, because then they know they did shitty things.
While a lot of these are signs, I think it's important to emphasize that sometimes the person is legitimately incredibly busy, has sacrificed their schedule to the gods of extracurriculars and things like that. Even though this is already brought up in the video, just thought I'd point it out further here. Great video as always!
Nobody is ever too busy though. If you care youll find the time
@@rookiebear1124 exactly, you'll always make time and they would actually let you know that they're busy but still make an effort
When you want something or someone, you make time for it. That’s really not an excuse lol
@@rookiebear1124 not to be mean, but can I ask how old you are? I'm 30, and believe me.. There are times when people get too busy. Work, partners, kids, financial struggles, etc. It doesn't mean it will stay that way forever, but if I had to let all my friends go because they are busy for a while, not a lot of friends are left.
Thanks for sharing. Did any of these signs describe you?
Not even gonna lie- my abandonment issues brought me here
when people ghosting you caused your abandonment issues 😳
Not a fun place to be. X.x I vote you receive a big loving hug. :3
Same
Did any of these signs describe someone you know?
Psych2Go yep
It's way, way more considerate to tell someone upfront (even through text) that you're no longer interested in seeing them (I'm talking romantically/sexually). Doing so might hurt them in the short term, but in the long run it will save them tons of heartbreak, self-doubt, insecurity, and potentially depression. It feels so bad to continually try and keep things going with someone when all you really get from them are short and shallow answers or none at all. It leaves you hanging and unsure about whether they're still interested in you. You start thinking something must be wrong with _you,_ and that _you_ must be the problem. You start doubting and hating yourself, hanging on their every word. It's awful, and it can all be avoided by just being upfront (polite, but upfront). The problem is that most people don't have the guts to step up and be direct.
People who ghost others, for whatever reason are just plain ignorant and lack basic communication skills.
That's a generalization to consider. I've always used social media to exchange ideas or challenge my own intellect. "Time to socialize" per se. Undeniably, I was a ghoster. I never felt attached to anyone online or knew to provide a commitment. It was a place to be social. This year, I came to terms with, ghosting is toxic. Some are misunderstood on how to engage correctly with the internet. Heck, I have forgotten that for others, the internet is the world!
The thing that kinda irks me is that instead of someone straight up saying, I'm sorry, but I don't really want to be friends anymore, and telling them why, they ghost. You're leading the person on by doing it to them. Not too long ago I had a falling out with one of my friends, but instead of ghosting her, I told her exactly why I didn't want to be friends anymore. Ghosting is a learned behavior, and I really don't like how some people can't just talk.
Social media and phones. People have forgotten how to socialize, wherever you may go the majority will be glued to their phones.
tbh I find it less painful if they ghost me.
IMPORTANT MESSAGE : Yes these signs are symptoms that someone is going to ghost you .. but everytime you see these signs ,dont assume that you are going to be ghosted! It might be something else even...
Ghosting is so stupid just say you don’t wanna be friends anymore damn
For real I agree, or just say you aren't interested in a romantic relationship
.. or you don't wanna talk any more. I asked my boyfriend an he said it's not that... He ended up blocking me September 11...".not in a bad way" he say... He unblocked me Oct 2 but . I'ma just take a break from talking him.
That’s actually what I’m looking for. I can’t bring myself to block someone without saying anything, but I need the conversations to end.
Yeah, but sometimes that just does not work. Sometimes the other person doesn't let you get out of the friendship, because they're holding you back. This affects you. So, for you own good, you have to ghost them, unless you wanna keep this toxic friendship going and want to keep hurting yourself more and more.
@@Sunset553 I feel that, very much. Like, let me tell you, if it's because these people have a negative impact on you or make you feel bad, then it's fine. Then ghosting them, isn't considered mean. This is considered doing what's best for you, if there's no other way. But if you can, gather as much confidence as you can and end the contact to those people, by talking with them, if there's a way. That's always better.
@@noa-pb6tg I can tell him why and then later if I need to ignore his messages, he’ll have an idea. I think he’s oblivious. This isn’t a dating or romantic thing. He only talks to women, but doesn’t date. It uses up what little energy I have to take his calls that are just time wasters. I’ve never talked to one person on the phone this much. I need some energy to try to take care of myself. I guess he just goes from one call to the next. For me, I’m used to a silent phone. My relative said to just block him but that’s happened to me and it’s agonizing.
I've had occasions where I'm feeling really lonely, sad, and even suicidal sometimes, so I reach out to someone to talk to. I explain my situation and that I'd like to talk regularly and maybe even spend time together, only for them to ghost me shortly afterwards. It hurts beyond words. I'll always try and find time to help someone emotionally, but no one ever does it for me.
It can happen the other way too. Said person is suicidal and we get along, I try to help only for her to disappear for days or I fear, to ghost now. A few days may seem little, but when you get into a loop and think if your friend could be harming herself while you casually watch a movie or go to the park, it's hard to live a normal life. Or if she might not come back.
Dang, you literally described my situation. Remember, you're not alone.
I once ghosted someone, but not because of losing interest. He was a toxic friend and it was just to much for me. I still feel guilty, but I had no other option. I couldnt talk to him and he didnt even tried understanding me. It's better that I cut the ties and since then he didnt wrote me, so, at least I have one toxic friend in my life less
(Sorry for my grammar. English isnt my first language)
I did exactly the same thing this year for exactly the same reason. He was my bestest friend ever for 12 years...but he started to become this toxic "stranger" that changed him into a different person that I don't like anymore. I too feel guilty and he knows he is guilty so he just stopped communicating after I ghosted him.
rbn rbn why are you calling them stupid? People should not feel guilty for leaving toxic friendships and it’s definitely not stupid
It also happened to me. I met her 11 years ago on school and we become best friends, but when I was in highschool I started to notice toxic behaviours on her that I didn't give importance before: she controlled my relationships with other friends, even my conversations with other people on the phone. if I had a friend that communicates a lot with me she started to say that I was replacing her, the same happened with some guy I liked (she took my phone and send her number to talk with him, and the most ironical thing is that I discovered that she had intentions to flirt with him).
And the last year after some things she told me, I decided to ghost her. I saw her on highschool sometimes and now on street, but anything more.
@@coral1038 Lucky, I have to bare having my old primairy friend who is toxic in front of me in class and I have to interact with her...while I try to be the nicest possible and ignore/ghost her in my mind I'm like: *SCREEEEEEEEE-*
Me too! I have this super toxic friend, she always being clingy to me, she gets jealous when I befriend with other people, she always whined about her problems and when I gave her advice, she didn't accept it. she gossiped a lot and she drained my energy out. I honestly can't take it anymore so I ghosted her, I feel guilty too. So am I doing a right thing or not?
Some simple signs to look out for are one-word texts, increased emojis to avoid conversation, read messages without a response, a decrease in PDA, and canceling plans 👍
I’ve been ghosted 5 times for a personal experience, but I have recovered from it, remember it takes some time when you can get ghosted especially if it’s a friend or best friend or close friend, but you with recover from it!
this is what I'm feeling right now im super sad :')
It sounds like I’m going to ghost someone else. I’m just a busy person who’s only free on Sundays and after school on Tuesdays.
Sorry to say this, but they might feel ghosted anyways. At least you have good reason.
I think someone appreciate you being consistent. You can be busy, but it don't take long to check on someone. Everyone have time for a five minute convo from time to time. It don't take much. The whole I'm busy thing is an excuse as well. Have a blessed night. Be open and honest always. Treat someone the way you want to be treated.
@Ladenna Young I don’t not check on anyone. After I’m finished with everything I check on them. Even if it’s just a little “how you doing” text and sometimes a call if I have time. I try to reach out to people when I can because I know some people who have mental health issues and I don’t want to lose anyone else so I check on them regularly.
@Nicole Diaz to be fair, I’m kinda the only person who checks their texts everyday. I last texted my friend a few days ago and haven’t received a reply but she’s good. She was in class today.
@@ladennayoung2939 People tend to don't give a shit about reasons, Even if you don’t even go on the internet they think you’re ghosting them lol
Around February, this pretty much happened with all of my friends. Everyone just slowly started to cut me off. Eventually I realized that I had no friends and that everyone had abandoned me. I managed to rekindle things with an out of state friend, but she dropped off in August and hasn't responded since. I'm really grateful cause a childhood friend and I have reconnected via texting but I'm just expecting her to leave eventually as well because I've gone almost a full year without real friends, and over half a year with only one friend at a time. It just really really hurt. I've almost gotten used to being completely isolated from everyone. I've become really snarky about it too because when people were complaining about quarantine I wanted to snap at them "at least you can still call and text people. My messages are left unread and my calls are never returned."
Wow same thing happened to me too. I even moved to another city and now i have no friends here tbh a long story. I hope you can find some real friends soon i really feel your pain. We can get through this 💖
I feel exactly the same way. :/ it’s hard even talking to my own siblings. A close friend I had for 6 years cut me out of her life 3 months ago. I didn’t even do anything wrong. She was in the wrong. I already have huge trust issues because friends have hurt me so much in the past. That made me worse. I love my current friends but there’s always that fear like “they’ll stop talking to me one day” or “they don’t really care about me...” I’ve felt lonely for so long because of those thoughts. :/ I feel like I’m too reliant on having constant communication with people. It’s hard for me to be alone with my thoughts.
Almost 15 years suffering the isolation lol. I'm a very, very solitary person. I no longer enjoy been in a group anymore and tons of trust issues.
I am a complete stranger but I wish to send you a lot of love and a virtual hug. Please remember these any time you feel low. I have been going through relationship and friendship challenges since childhood. Literally since age 4. Never could make friends, they were people who put up with me. I've then compounded this by not going out to do hobbies or events, volunteering due to mental health issues.
All my friends leave when their time in my life is done. We learn the lessons about ourselves.
I finally have learned, at age 36, that I'm highly codependent and it's as bad as having a mental illness.
I'm in recovery now and it's nice to meet people at the Coda meetings who can relate and even if they judge, they don't say anything because you only speak.
This may sound a bit out there, relationships are all to do with the navel and sacral chakra. Mine needs healing, my inner child needs healing.
I went to healers for help and it has gotten better, helpful people are coming forward to help me.
I also have a therapist.
There are solutions to our problems. We need to be open to finding what's right for us.
Again, another hug and loads of love from my heart to your beautiful heart. 💞💖💞💖
You just need to have a high frequency, and loads of self acceptance and love and understanding. And hopefully, you will connect with people who truly see your beauty and your light and your inherent worth.
The healing begins with the heart. Start there. Heal the broken heart 💖🙏🏽😍🌞🥰🤗
I too have been experiencing this. So flippin tired of people being so damn fake and unaccountable
I feel like I always feel that shift of energy and kinda know when someone’s about to ghost me
Sam Elle. Hi frnd .
Same 🙂
ISH ISH yay Im glad I’m not alone
yeah
All of these were me except I was going through a really bad time, my life was falling apart and I was severely depressed with crippling anxiety. I think people should know that sometimes, it’s a sign something is seriously wrong and the person is isolating themselves and they don’t want to intentionally cut ties.
I had bad ocd really mean though
@@soniczforever5470 very sorry that happened to You, but sometimes these people don't intend to be mean. They have a lot on their plates.
I 100 percent understand and empathize with you. I have been there myself, as was my ex-boyfriend (2010-2016), and the love of my life has been guilty of the things you mentioned. We love eachother VERY much, and we keep in touch when we can, as we're both very busy people professionally. He even requests some of our songs on our favourite radio station, and not once in a blue moon, but almost daily. Unfortunately, though, we are BOTH struggling, especially himself. I won't get into the specifics, but it doesn't have anything to do with another intimate partner, or children. We will see eachother again, but now is not the time.
How about this - DON’T force yourself upon people. You never know what they’re going through and don’t hurt yourself by trying to make yourself important in someone’s life. You’re setting yourself up to get hurt and stressing the other person out, not beneficial to anyone
Stfu cause you wouldn't like if someone did you like that
I was ghosted once and it was extremely painful, but at the time I just had no idea what was happening. This video was insightful
I’m ‘bouta ghost everyone reading this:
Boo!
:D
xD
Aaaa
AHH😰
😅🤣🤣🤣
I swear ghosting was only when someone sees ur message and doesn’t respond pretending they haven’t seen it
edit- thx for the likes and yeah I’ve been ghosted by everyone at least once or twice in this type of form. Have you been ghosted and what’s your story on it?
I was left on seen multiple times with no reply
I thought this too. I refer to what they say in this video as "cutting ties"
Joseph Soto That person maybe dont know what to say🤷♀️
Has anyone ghosted you?
Ghosting is incredibly disrespectful and so are the people who are doing that. It's like when they need something from you, they text you or call you instantly, but then when they can no longer use you, they ghost you. I banished all those people from my life, there were quite a few who liked to play with me that way. I gave them enough chances to change their behavior towards me, but people don't change. It's like narcissicism, toxicity and ghosting are the real pandemics of our time. That can be quite painful for empaths.
I've been ghosted and it lead to one of the darkest times of my life.
I don’t buy that “I’m busy” excuse. Unless they’re a CEO of a Fortune 500 company that they’re obligated to be plugged in and reachable basically 18+ hours everyday, that means bull. It just means “I’m too busy for you”. Start to plan ahead when you hear this excuse.
You're so tough oof- You can never know what exactly is going on in someone life. If someone says they are busy maybe they really are. It's not because they don't seem to have a lot of work that it's not hard for them to find time, maybe they are just feeling bad mentally and they are unable to talk ?
Shuichiiw Shuichiiw oops, okay okay, I may have been a tad harsh. But if they’re saying they’re too busy to talk because they’re unable to talk to you because of some reason or other, I’m afraid that friend is practically that close to ghosting you. They basically don’t feel feel safe or comfortable with you anymore to share their lives with you. They might not mean “I’m too busy for you” but they just don’t want to talk or be with you, with no malicious intent. Just wanted to say, if you hear that excuse, just be prepared for a possible ghosting.
People have periods of busyness and yes, that might *legitimately* make them unavailable for quick chats or meet ups, but really, who is that consistently busy, especially on the weekends? Maybe people who are launching new businesses or startups, and if that’s the case, of course, anyone would understand. But friends are excited to share things with their friends. Despite any busyness, friends would be excited to keep you updated with a quick snippet or share a funny moment. But, if you find yourself hearing that *they’re quite swamped* for the nth time, well, let’s just say there’s a possibility that they’re sick of you and they want out.
Hmmm, I don’t know, maybe I’m taking too hard line a stance here, but this happened to me a lot so just sharing my experience I guess.
Yikes, I'm not a CEO of a fortune 500 company but I'm 100% guilty of being too busy people all the time. I'm a medical imaging student and when I'm on placement which is a 9-5 thing, it means I have to wake up early, commute to the clinic, switch my phone off (compulsory for students), go home late, then just sleep. I don't even check my phone as much and when I do, I forget to reply. Being tired all the time really makes you feel depressed, anxious all the time and stressed. So you really feel withdrawn.
And believe me when I say this but there's a bunch of people who think I'm ghosting them, too bad. They'll either take it the wrong way and disappear or respect that I'm actually busy and just let me be, I've filtered out many friends who can or cannot accept my slow to no responses.
It might seem like I'm cold hearted but not everyone has the energy or time, especially if you're someone who has depression.
Well how often do you need to talk to them? Some people are very needy and want to chat with me over text for hours every day which I don't have for anyone so it can seem like I'm always saying I'm busy. It's all subjective
People handle different level of busy lives. Maybe they do have some time during a busy day but using the free time to chat with ppl is draining energy for them when they probably would prefer some alone time. I know I myself a introvert is like this, and it’s unfair to say that ppl are obliged to invest their little free time on frds always, its tiring.
Imagine being on a dating app and someone sends this video to you before ghosting you ;__;
They giving you a warning
lmao
It's a good thing I don't use dating apps then. >.> Although that would be ominous and cruel to see. X.x
Thanks for the idea, I might send this to every girl I match with on tinder. I get ghosted all the time right when I write first then I don't get any replies.
Yeah I've through that twice, It's truly horrible. Just imagine someone who means so much to you suddenly doesn't want to be near you and started to avoid you. They always come up with excuses, even when I ask why did they ghost me. Finally I have to accept the truth that they doesn't want me in their life anymore
This also applies to job hunting.
YES
True
I have been ghosted before, its a very painful and unfortunate thing for sure. Don't ghost people if you want to break up, just be an adult and tell it like it is!
being ghosted literally traumatized me i had no idea it coukd affect me mentally so much
If you have the Guts to date someone, then you should have the Guts to break up with them. If you ghost someone who loves you then you are nothing but a coward who cant handle a relationship in the first place!
Ghosting is awful. I have been ghosted 2 times by two women who i loved and i thought they loved me. I will never recover from this and im never trusting someone again.
I’m never the one to text first and I try to avoid texting or talking to people because I’m nervous I’m going to make a fool of myself or just mess things up.
Although recently, I think it’s come to a point where I 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘴𝘦 socializing. If I get a call, I won’t pick up; if I get a text, I won’t reply.
I never have any intention to harm the other person but that’s just always what happens.
I’m curious to know if anyone can relate to some level with this.
I used to be like you and all you need is "communication practice" or more experience at socializing. On Dating apps for example I was extremely afraid to message girls but now after a ton of texting experience, I can do it without any effort but most of the time I don't get any replies. xD In real life I don't have socializing skills but here on the internet I am literally the king of texting and writing. (I am very used to it)
You won't hurt anyone (only if you are rude or insult them) so there's nothing to worry about. Someday you have to start somewhere because you don't wanna end up completely alone.
You are not alone. I am the same way. Im highly introverted, two of my friends are extroverted. I'm usually not the one who initiates a conversation through texts and i hate calls, i also do not send texts like "how are you doing." It's not my thing, but i am available to them during their tough times. I hang out with them and we all enjoy spending time together. However, recently i haven't gotten time to focus on myself and my work. So i decided to lay low, but i think they assume that I've just gotten annoyed with them, when i cancel plans. Because i want to spend my time alone and work on my stuff. I sometimes assume they think im just selfish but i do care for them and i project feelings differently. I don't know, it's a weird world to live as an introvert.
Yeah its just you
@@ibrahimyahya3362 you know you could always say them something like "by the way, if you think that I don't enjoy being with you or that I don't like you anymore, it's just that I've been taking some time for myself and to work on my projects (or whatever that might be) lately. Sorry if it looks like I stopped caring about you. Just wanted to let you know that I still care." (You could always spell things differently of course). If you worry that you might be hurting them it's best to say something.
It's important to be honest with each other, so that you have a healthy relationship with your friends. Also if they are good friends, they'll understand and support you nonetheless.
@@Luar77 Thank you, I really needed this.
There is a world of difference between ghosting and putting someone on immediate No Contact. If you are actively being hurt by any and every interaction, or are endangered by further contact, you don't have to keep contacting them. You can just stop.
Speaking form experience, 10/10, would do it again.
It’s their problem not yours.
Keep on being caring and awesome.
0:51 Their texts are brief
1:16 Just Emoji Responses
1:40 You always reach out
2:11 Poor grammar and spelling
2:40 Their always busy and cancel plans
3:08 Something doesn't feel right
3:35 You havent been on an actual date
4:11 They aren't introducing you to friends or family
Thanks
half of these are related :'(
btw thanks
thanks pal
I think this is the most coward move from this modern era. Is so selfish and childish, people use it to manipulate others. I never do it because I know psychologically that affects people worse every day. We need to learn to avoid that stupid behavior.
Well said facts.
I hate just how common it is now. People never fight for a relationship yet complain about not having one. Unfortunately, I always end up on the being ghosted side of things. With the exception of family, I wish I didn't need to have relationships to have overall wellbeing.
I got ghosted by a guy I really liked a couple months ago and it STILL bothers the hell out of me because I don't know why he did it. Everything was totally fine! Then all of a sudden - nothing. I deserved an explanation.
If your best friends or just regular friends with someone but lose interest in them or want to hang out with other people, never ghost them. Although it’s awkward to bring it up, your friend can take it. Just ghosting them is wrong and leaves your friend feeling like it’s their fault and constantly wondering what went wrong. As someone who was ghosted by my best friend of 8 years, I would have much rather him tell me straight to my face what he felt. When he ghosted me I was devastated for awhile and was constantly wondering what happened until I eventually had to let it go. Months later I eventually found out he just simply wanted to distance himself from me and hang out with other people bc his interests changed. While it would have definitely hurt me at first if he told me that, the process would have been much easier and kinder.
Also, if you ghosted someone but feel like you made a mistake and want to be back in their life, it’s never too late to just send a text or call. Maybe that person has moved on or doesn’t want anything to do with you, or maybe they’re mad at you. But there’s a good chance they feel the same way as u and wish things didn’t end.
Thankssss
This is when someone will ghost you physically, but it's another story when someone wants to ghost you emotionally. 🙂
Thank you Ma'am for this video again! It means a lot to me, I sure will follow all of your future videos! 🙂
I hate when ppl ghost, bc it can cause the other person trauma that'd end up staying with them for a really long-time and they'd begin to put up more fences around them. It'd be understandable if you were busy but you can still take a second out of your life to reply back or simply let the person know whether you want to continue with the friendship/relationship.
When you're actually dealing with a narcissistic pervert friend, ghosting is the best and only solution to leave the relationship. They'll never admit their mistakes , instead they will shift the blame on you. You've warned them more than twice but it's pointless to have a conversation with them because they'll never listen to you and they are even gaslighting you. Had such a friend once and I don't regret ghosting her. I also have been ghosted more than twice because the people I thought to be my friends were just using me and I was no longer useful to them.
I will never forget when a guy ghosted me but I don't hurt anymore from it.
I can't wait until it doesn't hurt anymore. I wish he would reach out and tell me why he did this!!!
Y'all post this when I need it the most tysm
My "best friend" has been ghosting me off and on and I'm scared they are gonna do it again-
Exrsp have a deep conversation abt it, really know what his/her intentions and boundaries are, cus the longer you make that last, the longer it will hurt 😩😤
IMO while it's true that people are busy, ghosting a close friend is just plain rude and you deserve better.
@@Carlos-sy7cv they definitely haven't been "busy" they blocked me and everything and tried to tell my other friends I've been bullying them
@@Carlos-sy7cv bullshit. They are not busy at all, unless they are president or CEOs
When your only here
Cuz your scared that your friend might actually ghost you
Same, some of these are sort of true for me and my best friend.
@@kodiak9079 I usually am the one who ghost on them because I feel they don't care about me. So I think I don't have friends too.
My best friend is ghosting me I think.... hurts like heck
@@kaylee1068 whenever my friend lags to reply I immediately think she's ignoring me. Lol
I'm here because I wanted to know what ghosting was. But good point
Stop wanting to possess others. Just enjoy they presence when they are here, then focus on your selflove.
No this hurts, like a lot. I hate it so much even with friends 💔 :"(
Happened to me in July. We'd only been talking a month. Met up once. Then absolute nothing. Unfriended me, blocked me. Zilch. Silence. Nothing. Very hurtful. At first I wondered what I'd done wrong, but it wasn't me. People who ghost are immature, cowardly, many are narcissists, some can't commit to relationships - look at their past history for that clue. Turned out to be a blessing for me, I feel I dodged a bullet too. Thank you, universe! It made me look inward, helped me realize why I attract certain men.
Happens to me on a constant basis; you can let it happen for any amount of time (shorter or longer) but the moment you call them out on it, they always go evasive, reply that you are wrong in some manner... generally make it seem like it's YOUR fault (even YOUR FAULT for "making a big deal of it")... this is emotional blackmail.
If you are the one constantly spending energy, will, effort (and hopefully, nothing other than those) trying to maintain a connection to this type of people... *just let go* .
They were never truly friends to begin with. Friendship is a two-way road, organic, dynamic and renewed every day by both sides. In an age of such ease to communicate, there's really no plausible excuse.
Let go of these spectres and nurture love and appreciation of you. Find comfort in being by yourself, alone perhaps, *but never lonely* .
You know what's sad ? I tend to ghost people without wanting it, like one day I just lose all contact with them or I see them years later.
WHERE WAS THIS IN MY QUARANTINE LIFE???? I HAVE BEEN GHOSTED BY MY FRIENDS SO MANY TIMES I CAN'T EVEN COUNT IT ALL!
Sometimes people lost interest in others and that's ok. It's not like they necessarily say "I'll ghost this person on purpose", they just drift away.
Sometimes they do come back though
That's a slow fade
Not ghosting
"You always reach out" that hit deep.
i have gotten ghosted so many times to the point where i dont even wanna answer peoples text messages because i dont want to get attached :/
“Yo, wassup, boo?” Sounds caring though just saying😊
Boo :)
@@Psych2go ahh !!
@@Psych2go it’s been a month and I just got the joke
I guess I ghost people every day lol! I just don’t have the energy to talk to people every single day That’s just way to much! Not to mention that I have little to no social skills 🤷♀️
Relatable! I don't dislike them, but sometimes I need to recharge my social battery. Telling people that I needed space would sound awful, and I didn't want to lie that I was busy either
You guys think it's bad that you need time? It's totally fine and normal!! Or am I the only one who feels like that 😆
I ghost people before they ghost me.
yeehaw
Me, I’ve been abandoned too many times to let that shit happen again
When people say “I’ll tell you when...”and you literally wait for them to tell you. It really makes me feel mad. And I don’t know if I should ask them again...
In my personal experience I've been ghosted short time ago and I didn't see any of these signs. The person just seemed awkward to me, they were extremely interested in me at the beginning but as soon as they noticed it wasn't going to be easy to get what they wanted they ghosted me 🤷🏻♀️ the gut feeling was always there though
Everytime I’m going through something I get a notification from this channel about something that relates.
THIS.
scary
😱 me too
I'm talking to my gf...
*What are you trying to tell me-*
@@kodiak9079 ruff in the jungle! stand alone bass dundatta!
It’s almost been 1 year since my (whom I thought was my best friend) ghosted me.
They did it on my birthday :(
Thanks yet again for another lovely and informative video
i had to go through the very same thing, I too was ghosted on my bday
Someone who's doing this could be really burntout, in depression or upset on something consider these things too before concluding they are going to ghost you.
They should be honest and say something!! Ghosting is Cruel.
My heart aches listening to theses signs. I been through three failed relationships. That's why I am loving myself more and not putting my self out there anymore until I know someone is truly into me in the meantime I am grateful for not getting myself into no more heart ache anymore.
When you get so emotionally distraught and paranoid that your friends are going to ghost you that you just ghost them first;
*I am four parallel universes ahead of you.*
many of these (except the last two) has happened to a good friend of mine... I'm concerned
The problem with this, for me, is the fact that I am most usually the ghost
If i may ask, what application that you use for the animation and video? Thanks 😊😊😊 love the animation so much
Love this! Skeleton on the couch was perfect
*perfect for Halloween, thanks!*
Hard to anticipate being left behind when you beleive things were going well...
Happened to me months ago. Met a girl online, started well, talked everyday, then asked her out on an in person date...which went fairly well I felt, and then back to talking at least once a day...
Then out of nowhere, I got nothing back... I figured she was busy and left it at that, sent another message to check in and apologise for a lack of response.
3 months later, still nothing... Safe to say I'm not looking forward to looking online again if it'll most likely end up like this in the end...
I hate the term ghosted. Some people are chronically ill and needs to rest a lot. i've had times where I'm too horrible to speak to anyone for over a month. i let me friends know I am not well though, but it gets annoying to explain.
Also, some people are introverted, have lives, or just get busy with work, school, stress, overwhelmed or even get socially burnt out.
I go through phases where I socialize for a bit but then I need a long time to recuperate. I'd rather have no friends than clingy ones. It's even harder when you have a lot of friends, way too many to keep track of, and they even start fighting eachother for you attention or try to take time away from eachother, yet won't hang out together with me in a group.
I think it's also important to realize some people have hobbies goals and dreams, I know so many people that have no goals but some of us are working towards to progression, learning things, and learning skills that consume a lot of time. It's wrong to demand attention when someone is trying to cling to what may be a reason to live for them. You can always make more friends, it's very unfair to rely on just one or two people to constantly be entertaining you.
Friends who respect boundaries are important to keep. It's good to keep friends with mutual understanding of different social needs and boundaries, and you can decide what kind of friends you want to have.
if anyone ever 'ghosted me' even a loved one, I respect that. If they don't enjoy spending time with me...or have other things to do...why would I want to force them? That's greedy and selfish. If you care at all about them, you want what's best for them and their mental health, even if that means moving on from eachothers lives.
You explained this so perfectly 🥺 people are so quick to say I’m “ghosting” them and get kinda pissed off at me. I’ve even explained to them multiple times that I don’t always want to talk. It’s no hard feelings toward them but they never fully understand what I mean. I’ll text a friend for a few days and then not open anymore messages for weeks at a time. I’ve lost so many friends this year because of it. Definitely questioned whether or not I even want friends because nowadays with phones and social media it’s a full time commitment. It definitely takes a lot of energy.
@@nialicia Yeah! You still love your friends and care about them, but sometimes life happens, your overwhelmed, stressed, or just, idk working on lifes goals lmao xD Not every action has to mean it is a hostile one. I wish everyone would try to understand eachother and communicate before resorting to things like ghosting or making assumptions lol
@@phoenixastra4429 omg it’s so refreshing to know someone has the same views. You’re great I hope you have an amazing life
@@nialicia Hey you too ;w;
I have had enough of people
I won't try to impress anyone anymore
Ghosting doesn't mean when that person ignores you once or only few times...to know who is ghosting exactly see the social media chats having repeating pattern of not replying and just seeing the message...if this pattern occurs more than 20 times then it's ghosting...this always worked for me and blocked these ppl out of my life....oh you can also check the same pattern for the call. And for face to face talks, observe that person how he/she is with others and compare it with yourself...if that person as mentioned in video gives only brief responses and this keeps on repeating where they are so talkative with many people...but less talkative only with you then 100% consider this as ghosting.
You might notice these things happen with increasing frequency as the relationship deteriorates while the coward still continues their façade. This has happened to me in two official relationships and two that I thought were developing into relationships in the past 5 years. 100% of the relationships I've finally opened up to have ended this way since 2018 - with a knife in the heart through the back. I have little to no trust in others anymore, it just seems foolishly idealistic to imagine it not happening in the modern social climate.
I got ghosted, 4 years ago, my partner ghosted me on the same day he would help me with carrying a new aquarium to its new place, a day later i got a short email that it was over 😒 and that after 3 years of being with me.
I feel like ghosting is the most painful kind of leaving.
Eh, It's quick, and it only leaves you with confusion. it isn't the same feeling as a friend telling you that they don't wanna be friends anymore.
boom.
@@puffcatco your right, it's being left wondering what you did wrong with no ability to ask them. Your left wondering if they left you on purpose or something happened, and if you know they left because you fought. There's no chance for you to work it out because they won't respond and it might as well be like a ex friend slapping you in the face saying your not friends anymore and never speaking to you again.
I still think it's worse
Ghosting is cruel. It's better to tell the other person that you want to end things, explain why so that you won't leave someone broken asking herself everyday what she did wrong.
Got ghosted 1.5 month ago... im still heartbroken it hurts so much :(
Me: “do you want the whole cake or just one piece”
Friend: “...yes”
Why is that the only thing I saw in this video XD
probably because your friend was high af
Talk about having your cake and eating it too.
Cake
ghosting always happens to me not all of them but usually just cutting ties with me. and ive just given up on makeing friends because of it.
When I say “ttyl” or “I’ll call you back later” I actually mean it. But when someone says it to me I never get a call back or any messages. I’ve ghosted someone before, but I have a good reason why. I’m only a young teenager and I have a friend my age that started smoking/ vaping. Saying it like she’s cool for doing it. I really don’t want to be around people that do that. I lost interest in the friendship because she kept doing things around me that made me very uncomfortable. I started ghosting her, ignoring her texts or making up excuses when she invited me to a party. She still messages me but it’s usually just because she wants to copy my homework. :v
Why couldn't you just tell her how you feel instead of ghosting her? You are wrong for that
@@death24314 I lost interest because I've tried multiple times before. She also tried to get me involved in her drugs twice..
@@l_ofiii7022 if you had let her know multiple times that you don't do that and she still doesn't then I can understand why you ghosted her
8 simple ways to ghost someone .. ❤️ Lesson learned... Thank you 😊
I appreciate the effort of phy2go and all the ways they keep us informed about ourselves, constantly helping us identify with who we are and and we maybe be able to fix that . However, I also notice the trend in phy2go videos in which our flaws are more odvious videos , while also keeping us informed to the fact that we really are “messed us”. I know this seems pessimistic , especially for a channel that I love but I don’t want to be constantly reminded through “sign” of how bad I might be . I’d like to see more videos that emphasize good behavior or transitioning from “bad to good “.
Especially for people with poor mental health (mainly anxiety, depression, and PTSD) that are in the process of ghosting you, I think it is important to reflect on your own behavior. Not to say you are doing anything wrong!
For example, when my PTSD was at it's freshest and most severe, I was friends with this really nice guy who messaged me every single day. And every time I replied, it would lead into a conversation that would be at least an hour long. He was just trying to catch up with me because we had been friends in elementary school, but I quickly found myself in this situation where I felt overstimulated and overwhelmed whenever I spoke to him. Some days I would reply to his message after I woke up, talk for an hour or two, then be so exhausted by the end of the conversation that I had to go back to bed before even eating breakfast!
Again, this guy wasn't doing anything wrong. He just didn't realize that I was getting overwhelmed by his actions and I didn't know how to vocalize my needs, so I ghosted him because I couldn't handle talking to him.
Try to guess if there's something you can do to make them more comfortable. If not, you can carefully approach the subject by saying something like "Are you doing okay? If there's anything I can do to make you more comfortable or improve our friendship, then let me know."
And make sure you mean it if you say something like that. If they ask something of you and you make it out to be ridiculous or burdensome, then they'll *definitely* ghost you and you've just ruined your chances of mending the relationship, most likely.
lol this whole video sounds like people who over-analyze every single text
Actually, have you ever invested on someone that wasn't that interested in you and kept being blind to it?
Why are you here then
@@nadiaerroukrma5695 I'm here because I thought I was going to get useful information about ghosting but then this video told everyone to be anxious over things that might not even be ghosting. To provide this list without context seems to be stoking more fear than providing any sort of comfort.
@@lauratude5132 yes I have. We had a conversation and I told them how I was feeling and asked them how they felt about it.
ASliceofKai I get your point, and I agree to it to some extent, however, they actually do research about these topics so they might have more validity in their claims.
Friend: I've been ghosted
Me: Welcome to my world.
I used to thinking ghosting people was haunting them on snap chat or something. And then I grew.
Thanks I'm getting the sign with this one word cold reply poor grammar n texting style stuffs, the person even acted as third party replying to me and now after many pondering, played in the hot n cold and heartaches, I finally just deleted the no. and done. Ghost before getting ghosted. This video came at very right time.