I'm a Muslim. I was just browsing TH-cam and saw this video in my suggestions. Out of curiosity, I clicked on it. I knew these things that you speak of - I think we all do in our hearts - but you articulated them with such grace and intelligence that an old lesson registered as new and refreshing for me. Thank you, jazakallah.
@ddevvnull198, I admire you a lot for being able to love and respect the wise Rabbi. I myself owe the Jewish world an apology: When I was released from prison in 2014, my German gf left me for my younger brother. She had her superficial reasons, and I used the pain that I felt from that to justify saying the most ruthless, cold blooded things about not just Jewish people, but just about everyone, including myself. The other day, in a WM food centre, I dropped my wallet. It did not have much in it, but it had my bank card in it, and some twenties. A young man, maybe no more than twelve, approached me rather jovially, and asked for my name. He pronounced my name with impressive accuracy, and when I steeped forth to see why he was so interested in me, he had his arm extended, and my wallet in his hand. Everything was just like it was before I dropped it. His mother, a beautiful woman, then mentioned the fact that she knew I was struggling financially, and offered to pay for all of my groceries with her card. I did not decline the offer, but when I made it back to my truck I cried more then than I ever have in my life. I do not know who's responsible for the worlds atrocities; 911, The Holocaust, The Com Revolution, Vietnam, Iraq, etc, but I do now know that no matter what, I will see people with a open, loving heart & mind, and embrace them unconditionally if they are kind. Israel is not the worlds most honest nation, and we all know that, but Ultra Orthodox Jewish people who value the concept of man vs woman, right vs wrong, honesty vs deceit, life & death of us all, should not be forsaken because of something that the bad guys are pushing! I sat down, and I accumulated a list of "anti-Israel" people, and the list would shock you. Some of these people are pure scum, and will say and do anything for a fashion statement. The list includes, shock rockers (who brag about animal cruelty and child molestation), pornographers, prostitutes, and other left-wing degenerates. Why would these so called Anti Zionist people, be so sick and twisted? It may not be approved by the late, Adolf Hitler, but Israel is doing something right, for so many crooks and criminals to be advocating against it (Israel). Know what I mean. Sorry for rambling. L/R
@@ghostwriter1415 Well, I'm not pro-Zionism and I know many thoughtful people who are not fond of Israel. I am capable of demonstrating why exactly that is but that is a separate and tangential conversation. Regardless, I can still see the value of your message. It's great that you looked inward to soothe that rage. It looks like you have an internal locus of control. These days people are encouraged to develop an external LOC, which causes all kinds of problems because you're incentivizing yourself to seek outsiders' help to rationalize your irrationality. You, however, personally interrogated your fury on your own, which isn't easy. I commend you for it. Mashallah.
I come a cross of your video And definitely I’m face/ noticing In my work environment I notice toxic people Unfortunately I realize how I be emotionally disturb and I be reactive to the external environment How can I do to become stronger and not let emotions and reactive to the exterior environment people??? Thank you
At 70 I just let things go. A friend once gave me some important advice during a divorce, "When someone decides to ruin you life don't give them permission to ruin what's left of it by hanging on to the injustice". With age comes wisdom if we are lucky.
@@StellarLunar you knew it already from experience. The person that said it originally probably made the mistake of not giving them permission. It was their warning ..get it
I grew up Baptist. Never listened to a Rabbi before. But the contrast between your delivery and every Baptist church or Apostolic church I've ever attended is like night and day. I respond so much better to a conversational, scholarly approach than all the pew jumping, screaming, hellfire, and damnation preaching I grew up with. Thank you for this lesson...for showing there is another way. Really appreciated this, and I needed to hear it. Many blessings to you and yours. 🙏
why I have always had a hard time with christians I read or mention something in the bible and they say its not tru thats not in there here look right there this page here is the cultural and long standing context over histories blah blah blah You need jesus. But I have jesus here shut up heathen. Its been always something strange to me how can you say you believe in this when you don't read it but I understand this world is confusing and estrange so I'm not surprised that there are people who don't believe in anything or believe whatever
Dear Rabbi, I am neither Jewish nor a Christian. Have no idea how your video came to me. All I can say is to thank you so very much for your message. You will never know how timely it is for me as I type this. We are all in this together.
@@biblebadcopycatofcuneiform8210 There are nearly a billion videos on TH-cam. None of us will even know of, (let alone choose to watch), the vast, vast majority of them. "The Algorithm" is the mysterious force behind what we have the opportunity to see.
You know Rabbi uh ... the one thing I find with you know Jwsh videos is that the actual punchline of the title is hidden like a needle in a haystack. There's this talk ... talk ... talk ... o.m.g. Why do you do that? Just get to the point!
Thank for sharing your wisdom. My father is a narcissist whose behaviour often reveals his lack of empathy for others. He has the emotional control of a child. It probably reflects how he was treated as a child. I have paid a price for it. Now that I am older and reduced some of the effects of it, I believe that I have a good deal of emotional intelligence. Sometimes we learn how to be, by example, and sometimes we learn how not to be, by example
Growing up I had a vicious mother and an absent father. All I ever learned from that was how NOT to be. But that did give me a starting point. Once I knew what I didn't want to be, it became easier to figure out what I DID want to be. Blessing in disguise.
@@s.muller8688 If more people heard this talk by Rabbi Jacobson then maybe this "common sense" you alluded to might become a little more common and people might treat each other with a little more humility - especially online. Given my usual viewing history, I'm still not sure why TH-cam recommended this talk to me but, as Nanette said, I'm that glad it did.
@@keira_churchillyou can not and do not need to teach common sense, either one is capable of doing so or you don't. Whatever you are trying to convey has nothing to do with what i said.The willingness to change does not depend on other peoples ideas but is completely up to you. By your logic and considering the amount of philosophical literature we have gathered during the last 2500 years we should have been all hyper intellectual and intelligent in regards to the amount of time we had to understand what is right and what is wrong . The very appeal to authority which is been shown here in the comment section is part of the problem. Getting high on basic common sense is meaningless and shows how little thought has been given to that exact common sense. Regards.
@@s.muller8688 - We may be talking about different things. Maybe if you could clarify the "authority" and the appeal to it that was apparently made here then that might be helpful in clearing it up a little. Notwithstanding the logic assigned to me above, I'd hazard a guess that Humans have been "hyper-intelligent and intellectual" for the entire timeframe you set forth, at least compared with other animals anyway. I have no way to quantify that, of course, but if you do then I'll be happy to study your thesis on this subject as it could be quite interesting. As for the rights and wrongs you mentioned, I tend to treat imposing my beliefs on others to be firmly in the "wrong" category, while others such as yourself appear to take the opposite view. It'd be interesting to hear your take on that one too if it's not too inconvenient.
Found my new mentor, he is full of wisdom and practically to push me along the correct path. I don't want the wallowing in victim hood pool. I want growth out of those brushes with dark entities & spiritual development. Thankyou for these generous lectures 😊
I’m trying to figure out why in my younger life I was naturally stoic, but in middle age I can get hot-headed in certain situations. Shame floods in mere moments after, but not in time to save my dignity. Shouldn’t my emotional progress be the opposite? I’m truly baffled. I don’t think religion (or lack of it) has anything to do with it, something’s up on a simple human level. My mind understands and respects time-tested religious wisdom, but it doesn’t penetrate to an emotional level.
This is 100% true. I am a completely different person since I began this process 7 years ago. It’s saved my sanity, my relationships, my career and overall well being. I come from violence and addiction on both sides but emotional intelligence can be learned like any skill. The greatest benefit is never feeling like I’m holding something in - but that I can CHOOSE to let it go.
I liked your story of the two rabbis. The one who walked out the second time gave his friend the emotional space to see what he missed, giving him time to breath in a relaxed atmosphere. It’s not about being right it’s about sharing wisdom in a non competitive way. Deep love and respect for each other.
At the age of 71, I still feel my body trembling at words alone that are harsh. Especially online comments. So I avoid to cause any interaction that might trigger the terrifying emotions in me especially in the evenings as I might have trouble to fall asleep. It’s simple to remind my mind that it’s not about me but the body feels the storm. Thank you so very much for your talk !!! 🌸🙏🌸🙏🌸🙏🌸
I greatly needed this video this morning. Lately been thinking about the directions I'm taking in life. Thank you for correcting my steering wheel and keeping me centered in my lane. I will keep learning and growing to be a real man.
You are a special bridge between a lot of different disciplines. And you are very wise - emotionally, psychologically and mentally. And you bring it all together very beautifully. I thank you for your teaching, Rabbi. I will be following you in the future.
Both my parents were emotionally immature, my mother looked to us for that support, that was impossible because we had never been taught how not to be emotionally immature. I’m 62 and still suffer with this at times. I feel bad for my response to people, when in my heat I want to trust. ❤ thank you.
I just discovered you Rabbi a few days ago. You speak with eloquence and extreme wisdom. I have heard and seen 100's of people on YT and end up falling asleep. You my dear Sir ,wake up my senses and make each word come alive. Thank you and may you live 100 years. Bless you!
@They own you, if you're in debt. - You have your beliefs and others have theirs. As long as people aren't imposing their beliefs on others, inconveniencing one another or promoting themselves to commissioner of the thought police it's all fine with me. It's very difficult to find fault with anything the Rabbi said in this talk, and Kathryn said nothing obnoxious or imposing either as far as I can tell. My advice would be to try to be a little less evangelical with your beliefs. Live and let live.
Thank you, Rabbi! I am a 74 year-old gentile, of modest intellect and even more modest emotional development. It has taken me many years to shed my initial arrogance and to realize where I truly stand. I still have a good distance to cover. It's like peeling an onion, I guess I'll never get to the final layer. Thank you, Rabbi, for the new insights you have provided.
I hate all these self-congratulating posts dumb old people make. Literally every comment is like "I am an 81 year old man of wisdom and humility and your musings - rabbi - make me peel back my toenail like an onion. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, but I have so much to learn and I am which is what this comment is really for is to let people know I am always improving and learning even as an 81 year old diabetic asexual"
@@corncobjohnsonreal If you "hate" these posts ... don't read them. And, when/if you get older, perhaps you'll gain enough intelligence to better understand and appreciate them. Nicolas Uribe, thank you for sharing your appreciation and your growth. It can inspire others ....
ITS A STORY ALL ABOUT YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!! The story of David and Goliath, as depicted in the Bible, is often interpreted as a metaphorical battle between good and evil, with David representing the underdog ANTI HERO... HUMANITY NOT KNOWING WHO THEY ARE...fighting against a formidable opponent. When exploring this story through a Kabbalistic perspective and incorporating Neville Goddard's teachings, we can delve into a deeper understanding of its spiritual significance. In Kabbalah, the concept of God is often portrayed as an infinite and transcendent force, encompassing all of creation. The false gods mentioned in this context refer to any limited or distorted beliefs or concepts that humans may idolize or worship instead of recognizing the true divine essence within themselves and all of creation. These false gods can take various forms, such as material possessions, ego-driven desires, or societal constructs that promote separation and illusion. David, in this interpretation, symbolizes the Christ consciousness or the divine essence within every individual. He represents the recognition of one's inherent divinity and the willingness to align with and express that divinity in the world. Goliath, on the other hand, represents the false gods or illusions that obstruct the realization of one's true spiritual nature. Neville Goddard, a prominent teacher of New Thought philosophy, emphasized the power of imagination and the creative capacity of the human mind. According to his teachings, our thoughts and beliefs shape our reality, and by consciously directing our thoughts towards the realization of our desires, we can manifest them in our lives. In the context of David and Goliath, Neville Goddard's teachings can be seen as a reminder of the transformative power of our inner consciousness. David's victory over Goliath can be understood as the triumph of divine consciousness over the illusions of the world. By aligning with the truth of their divine nature and using the power of imagination, individuals can overcome their personal Goliaths, the false gods that inhibit their spiritual growth and fulfillment. This interpretation suggests that the battle between David and Goliath is not an external conflict between two individuals, but an internal struggle within each person's consciousness. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing and challenging the false gods or limiting beliefs that hinder one's spiritual evolution and the realization of their true potential. In summary, when examining the story of David and Goliath through a Kabbalistic lens and incorporating Neville Goddard's teachings, we can perceive it as a metaphorical representation of the eternal battle between the Christ consciousness within us and the false gods or illusions that separate us from our divine nature. By cultivating a deep understanding of our inherent divinity and harnessing the power of our thoughts and imagination, we can transcend limitations and manifest a life aligned with our true spiritual essence.
This talk was very healing for me. Thank you, Rabbi. I'm a 50 y.o. female who was raised Roman Catholic. I appreciate a religious leader speaking frankly about such an important and undervalued life skill such as emotional intelligence. Going to share with my friends on Facebook. ❤❤🙏🙏🙏
I saw the title of this video and wanted to know the answer. At 67 I thought that I was mature but you made me realize that I have only become mature emotionally within the last few years. I realized that I’ve been emotionally immature all my life. Terrific video.
I wish I had gotten this years ago as I have been a old stick of dynamite just waiting to be touched off most of my life. Now 67 and having listened to your lesson, this old Texas Baptist (hope you don't mind me not being Jewish) now have a tool in my toolbox to help me mitigate the little problems we all have to deal with day to day. Each time I fail in my anger or impatience I go back and listen again to this lesson and reflect on how I could of done better for myself, and others that saw me in whatever failure I'd had. I will share this with anyone I meet who may have issues like the ones I face. Thank you for this lesson of emotional intelligence. God bless.
I was raised in the evangelical baptist church and have been on a long journey to undo all the indoctrination I’ve been programmed to believe, and there is so much anger and resentment to process with the religious trauma. Your channel has been a blessing to me in this regard, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom Rabbi.
Blessings to you. Yeshua of Nazareth was Jewish. He extended Judaism to gentile. I was born March 11th in Bethlehem. I'll teach you some Aramaic. Schlama means peace. Malkuth means heaven. Hubba means love. These 3 things are God's domain. Hubba to you. P.S. my Hebrew name Jacova is the female form of Jacob. Yaacova.
Excellent information on a very important topic - and one we call all relate to. I have one idea I'd like to add that I've found helpful in my own life. I discovered that the cause of my anger and frustration with people was coming mainly from two sources: A feeling of not being in control of the situation and/or giving undue importance to something in my mind. I also realized that my happiness matters and that nothing outside of me will change. I must change my perception of what is going on around me or keep suffering needlessly. That's the greatest tragedy of human suffering...most of it is needless, not to mention useless.
Rabbi Simon, your words touched me deeply. I was raised by father who was a self hating Jew, and my mother (her memory be a blessing) taught me to stand up to anti-Semites, whereas my father said, "Never say you're a Jew!" My father escaped Germany with my Zaidie and my Aunt and Uncle. My father was always bitter. My Mother, on the other hand, would tell me, "If a goy calls you a Jew, be proud. If that same goy calls you a dirty Jew, knock him to the ground, Michael." This caused much disturbance between my parents and suffice to say there was no Shalom in the home! I grew to manhood still trying to be that little peacemaker (my mother called me her "Little Aharon"). I won't go on and on but your words have illumined some things for me, and I shall address them. Shalom and Happy Purim and Chag Matzot Sameach!
To one who gets angry or bothered by people every time I leave my door to go out in the world, it is wonderful stuff, the wisdom of a sage. I going to have to subscribe to you now.
Emotional Intelligence a very important topic that I Value. I have experience people close to me telling me "Oh get over it just have a few drinks with your friends". This is very real, the absence of empathy. Thank you for your wisdom.
I am very lucky to be married to man with high emotional intelligence and he inspires me to hone my emotional intelligence. I like how you say it's not about changing your personality, it's about harnessing your strengths and mitigating your weaknesses. I think my husband and I have done this for each other over the years - hes a little tougher because of me and I'm a little more sensitive because of him. Yes I know it's inverted from the traditional roles, but I think that's what makes our relationship work so well 13 years and going
For me on a personal level... I really never experienced life until I was able to Combined mind and heart... And everything I do... With also a tether to the universal God... Stay blessed my friend you are blessing to the world
@Tik Kiu ask a more precise question. My Hebrew name Jacova is the female form of Jacob. I was born March 11th in Bethlehem. I'll teach you some Aramaic. It's the slang of Hebrew. Schlama means peace. Malkuth means heaven. Hubba means love. Improve your reading skills.
This has been a very good topic for me. I'm a facility and property manager in a hotel. I've been trying to get my staff to understand their duties and responsibilities working in the maintenance and engineering department. I've been trying to teach them to realise and understand the importance of being able to see and capture the attention to detail of guests expectations when using our facilities. To words come to mind sympathy and empathy. This session will enable me to teach my staffs to not only perform well in their duties at work but also at home with their family. It's all about having a selfless attitude towards others and life as whole. Thank you Rabbi.
Zadrach...... What a lovely comment! I pray that you stay strong with yr love for people.... to flow to your staff and clients. God's blessing be upon you!
Do they ever get to care about tgeir needs and self, or sjould they be an endentured servant to everyone throughout their lives? Should your guests be selfless throughout their lives? Or is it always about them even within their own jobs? Where do you draw the line of selflessness when there's no barrier to someone taking advantage of that?
Exactly what engineering is going on at a hotel? I didn't realize that changing bed linen and scrubbing toilets was considered "engineering." And it's "two" not "to."
I'm a Buddhist but I can't stop watching Rabbi Jacobson's videos. So much logic and truth. I never knew that they practice cumulative learning going back hundreds of generations. The great wisdom for me is that I can learn from the mistakes of these past generations rather than learning by making each mistake myself. If there ever was a real-live Yoda, it would be this man.
This lesson spoke to me in real time. In my morning prayer today, I had asked to see myself as the Father does (as much as I can stand) and for the strength to change. This video helped me to see how I had been allowing social media trolls to lure me into emotional intelligence draining discourse. This, of course is counterproductive to spiritual growth. Thank you Rabbi Jacobson
I was raised with Catholicism, I don’t consider myself a “religious“ person, but I have studied and practiced many spiritual paths. Including Zen, Buddhism Hindu practices (through yoga and meditation), and I also enjoy listening to preachers such as Joel Osteen, or even law of attraction teachers like Abraham Hicks, or gurus like Sadhguru. For some reason, I have always had many Jewish friends and I’ve always found myself living in so-called Jewish district, I currently do in Los Angeles, California. My landlord is Jewish, my best friends are Jewish and I also lived in Jewish areas in London so I’ve always been curious about Jewish culture, however but it’s my first time listening to a Rabbi and really deriving so much presence and value. Thank you so much for your words, your mission, and for sharing your wisdom. I am really appreciating it a lot. 🙏
The mind is the Gardener n the Emotions are the flowers, Cultivated thru love both can complement each others natural abilities n grow to their full greatness. Rabbie has me captivated, hanging on every morsel of wisdom n truth he gently illustrates. He truly teaches from his Heart. Thank you for these lessons. I am so blessed to hear them. My heart has longed for such truth.
Rabbi Jacobson delivers his message so earnestly. Brilliant teacher. My wife regularly inspires me with her EI and it encourages me to improve. New subscriber!
I like that the "suspension of self". Rather than the idolatry of me, myself and I. I have found out my feelings can lie. Sometimes I have been a pathological liar to my self.
Buddhist practitioner here and I would say the Buddhists would likely applaud the intent and helpful underlying compassion in Rabbi's video. The message is universal and wise.
Thank you. You made me cry with this video, but this is a good thing. I don't allow myself to cry very often and the reason is just what you described. I have past trauma in my life which made me switch to just relying on my mind voice and masking my emotional voice. Hence, I've been struggling for a long time with mental health issues and self harm. I am a 55 yr old woman with a husband, 2 wonderful boys, but still have flashbacks to my childhood trauma, I have tried numerous therapies but still I'm stuck in mental hell. Thank you again, I will be rewatching your video again, I think it could help me understand why.
Best wishes to you, Tina 🙏🏼 So many of the best women & girls I've known deal with the same - they didn't understand how amazing they are... I have PTSD myself and know what it is to take it out on oneself with self-harm. Hope you're doing well! ✌ PS. Crying can indeed be a very healing thing. I rewatch certain movies that always make me cry when I know I need to let stuff out.
People should feel strongly even, “angry,” about atrocities such as hate crimes being committed. Sometimes passion is warranted depending on the cause.
Indeed, the quality of one's life is directly proportional to the quality of one's relationships. From birth to death, relationships are where we spend all our time [sleeping excepted]. Thank you for having the courage to speak the truth!
Someone once told me that all you need to do is 'keep a cool head' when faced with a hostile confrontation. Someone else told me that you never need to fight, if you simply 'don't meet them at that level'. I find the combination of those things works quite well. It doesn't mean that I don't get mad, it means that I can better keep myself under control.
Truth has no religion. Thank you for your enlightend talk. I do not embrace any religion but had started my journey of self awareness and improvement 3 years ago. I have found that there are universal truths that embrace all religions. This is one of those!
Have you every heard about the theory of Monotropism? It's an theory made by poeple on the spectrum and I noticed that it truly clicks with my exspirianses.
How refreshing to hear you speak about the over-valuing of a particular type of 'intelligence.' It's not really something that gets questioned or talked about enough. Thank you for this.
Useful conversation. I was extremely empathetic as a child, feeling and caring for everyone, my parents especially, myself not at all. And then when I needed to take care of myself, my parents turned on me. I’d always been bullied in our neighborhood, at school, for being quiet and kind. But I was bullied and emotionally manipulated more by my parents - and I had no other adults to defend me. My dad had no friends and my moms friends were in fear of saying anything and upsetting her. My family was back east or in Europe - I saw them only 2x in my life growing up. It was deeply gratifying to hear my uncles scold their baby siblings to get off my back, leave me be, be nice and behave appropriately towards me. Five days in a life. Eventually, because I cared about them but could not live a minute of my own life (criticized gir my looks, my weight, which chair I say in, how I sat, how I walked, every single thing imaginable - with contradictions between the two and fights between them over it. One mocking me for reading and not having any friends, the other mocking me for not reading enough and not reading the right books. Mocked for wanting king hair, so I agreed to get it cut. The other kicking me for looking even fatter in the new hair cut. Yeah - seriously. That was my dad towards me at age 13. My mom got mad bc she’d didn’t good money on that haircut. ) By 13, I was seriously suicidal. I graduated at 17, ripped up a $25000 check from MIT and an invite to attend the school (they were looking to increase the # of female students & reached out to me bc of my SAT scores) and threw it at my arguing parents, agreeing to not pursue college, my life’s ambition. I’d stay home and work as a store clerk and keep my mom company-she needed me around all the time. I really tried to care for their emotional needs. I left upon graduation to kill myself in LA so she wouldn’t be called in to identify the body. Empathy. I got hooked into another needy relationship with someone I later married and had children with. I went to college, despite his efforts to prevent it, and I began seeing a psychotherapist, because I wasn’t out of the woods. I stills cared too much about his feelings and my moms. My dad was the first one I booted from my life. The therapist worked in developing an emotional connection with my Own heart and soul. I practiced saying “I “ statements. “I feel.” I practiced this a lot. Eventually my mom and then my husband got notice. They needed to treat me with respect. Thing is - as you begin to move situational narcissists out of your center primary concern and out yourself there, they retaliate. My mom got sick. Big event in my life, she’s got a bigger one - sometimes even hospitalization. Sounds crazy by a narcissistic friend would do the same thing - ramp things up ridiculously until she can get admitted. Daughter giving birth? Mom/friend has developed some condition she swears is breast cancer - so stop taking care of yourself and take care of me. My mom did that. But I had stopped feeling her pain. I’d lost my empathy. And it was lost for my husband, who had become increasingly abusive, trying to prevent me from holding a job where I could support myself. I finally got the pattern. I had the surreal experience of watching him flip like a slideshow through each tactic designed to spark empathy - one after another. I just watched him morph, until he’d played all his hands and knew he was kaput. They he flipped out, and next day he threatens ti kill me with an ax. I took our two babies and fled. So I’ve raised my kids alone, working in the tech industry - land of Aspies. I’m on the autism spectrum myself, as is my youngest son. He’s been lecturing me tonight on being too emotional. I’ve been working with counselors/therapists when time/money iermitted - and the focus is on being self- centered. I’ve really been working on it - ti be able to react from my authentic self. It’s a survival mechanism. But my employer values empathy. We have weekly empathy training. And it’s really lovely working with kind, emotionally caring people. Im out of tech, into banking. People helping people is our company motto. But my manager got offended by me last year for -kid you not - knowing more about software design (15 years as a database admin/designer will do that). I couldn’t believe it, but 10 other women have left his team in 5 years due to bullying and sexism. He’s a little man with issues. I unwittingly stepped on his toes when I was trying to do my job, and he’s been threatening me for a year. The stress and harassment resulted in me developing a fast-growing tumor in my abdomen that my doctors think is due to his behavior. I’m upset - I don’t want to lose thousands of $$ in retirement benefits by quitting, and I love the company. So I’m angry, and feeling violent towards this mean little man. My son says my emotions need to be mastered. And do this video .. which is a blessing. It reminds me that I’ve grown up and I’m able to return to my empathetic skills. It may have been necessary for me to grow down - down into the self-centered emotional immaturity of childhood that I was denied. But I’m able to true back up into the emotional maturity of empathy and generosity of an adult now. I’ve been attending some of those empathy classes, but I’m still caught up in survival mode. I’m going to more actively get back to who I was. I liked my self back then. I just know now to care first about my needs and then I can care about others. I’m looking forward to practicing that old mindset. I used to ponder the bullies in the neighborhood-what was driving their behavior. They were Aden beaten by their parents and felt jealous, imagining I had a perfect life and must be punished for it. Some have told me as much, as they grew up and were now friends. About my little manager m, there’s nothing I can do to fix his little inferiority complex. I got him to test his new system model with 50 employees - (measure twice, cut once), and it earned a zero passing score. So I got transferred off the design team. When he delivers this thing and no one can use it, he’ll have some people to answer to. And I’ve decided to take care of my emotional health by finding another job in the company rather that get bullied and driven out. I’ll try to be better than the inevitable schadenfreude. I know that’s not every empathetic, but I’m only human.
There are few crosses deeper than highly intelligent and caring at the same time. Add to that an deep understanding of what is taking place and being alone is kinda horrible. As for narcissists, hell yeah, they are world cup at that stuff. They will own you in a minute. They have perfected the game. I think you are an empath and I think you have never been taught how to discipline yourself in how to control it - pretty common stuff as it's what we live by. I have found that the outside world can not be your brace - as much as we wish it could be. Very few people have the courage to step outside that box, stand up and be counted. Very few. That they can't support you when all you need is a gd hug is a horrible thing. but here we are. As for the boss that you are letting kill you - that is what is happening - go over his head and demand this be dealt with or else. My sweet soul, I can promise you that if you do not stick up for yourself, very few others will either. Humans are weak. People expect you to stand up and defend a line - what are they supposed to do if you do not? Draw it for you? You can and must. As for liking ourselves back then - not so much, but we had hope. We had a dream. We lacked the mental discipline to shape it into a reality and if we had that the fear would fix it anyway. You may find a good job lacking in asshats, you may not, that's why trying to deal with this asshat is important. Companies get old and tired - and their profit margin starts to show it. But sometimes there is a bright and willing young exec who sees a future and will work to take that guy's ass out in order to save the company. If you are willing to quit anyway you have nothing to lose by going over his head. If you choose to stay you have to in order to survive. Choose wisely. There will always be bullshi* - I don't care what you do, but it can be mitigated or ignored. Your heart is what needs to heal and you have to stop letting people like him near it while letting it find peace and solice. The light will come on that lets you know that in fact you are the adult in the room and that is fine. There is a spirit there and you are safe. When that happens - I don't know. If it is constant, probably not but it is a moment you can hang on to. You are not alone. In fact, I'll bet most the people here walk with you down this path. Hang onto our arms. :)
We understand your situation. I have no answer for you but I have had similar problems by parents with one way of thinking and the other with different styles. It leaves you so confused to know who to believe and where to feel love. You just grow cold and bitter. So as an adult I’ve never been honest with myself or with others. I just pretend I’m normal.
I pray you'll stay with God. It's not our fault who we are landed with in life. I try to remember that We can learn to deal with it. Life isn't about perfection. Only God is perfect.
As a Christian Church of England (CoE) you speak for me, I’m so glad I found your TH-cam channel. What you are saying is so truthful it transcends religion and cuts right to the very nub of out very being.
Rabbi, you're talking about, in many ways, introspective reciprocity. To see yourself in others and to love them as you love yourself is the truest kinship.
Hello. I'm a Christian evangelist, theologian, and apologist. I love the Jewish people and support them. The Tanakh clearly demonstrates the extreme holiness of the Lord and the extreme sinfulness of man. Jesus didn't come to take away your Jewish indentity or traditions; He came to demonstrate that you can't be saved by keeping them. In other words, we all need a Messiah or Savior. The New Jerusalem has the name of the twelve tribes forever written on it along with Jesus' twelve Jewish Apostles. Jesus fit the mold(preaching repentance) of virtually all prophets in the Holy Scriptures. John the Baptist send his disciples to question if Jesus was really the Savior because Jesus didn't fit the mold of a deliverer he made up in his mind(Matthew 11:2-6). I hope this helps someone. May the Lord bless you and save you.
I'm so pleased to have stumbled upon your message. I have long battled with controlling my emotions. You've laid out an explanation that really resonated with me. I'm looking forward to putting it into practice. Thank you!
Rabbi Simon Jacobson - you are doing an incredible job by sharing your wisdom. I must say your words have answered a lot of my questions and healed my heart. I have come across many intellectual and wise teachings but nothing satisfied my Soul as yours. I will continue to listen to you. Thank you!
Speaking as a fairly non-religious confirmed Christian with a Jewish grandfather, I found this talk enlightening and at the mid point in my life, made me want to explore this more than I previously have.
I’m so grateful to have found you. You’re the father and spiritual figure I’ve so longed for. You’re helping me heal my long pained inner child, and helping me be a better mother to my now adult sons. Very bittersweet at my age, but I’m so hopeful and grateful. ❤ Michelle Hannah
I'm not Jewish , but the Rabbi's wisdom is opening my eyes as i see myself in a lot of stuff he's saying. Great message and i'm glad he has a You tube channel .
Rabbi, I humbly thank you for AT THIS MOMENT. I feel the pain of the death of the children, adults and even the killer. I am LIVID. I am a child of light and love. I cannot sleep and I am so grateful to see this video.
Empathy is a rare gift. Step into another’s shoes. See things from their perspective. Do unto others as you would have done unto you. Love others as you would love yourself. Think before you speak/act. Then rarely will you become angry/bothered by others.
True, but there's a serious side-effect in that it seems to attract absolutely vile people who think they have the right to trample all over you and you let it happen because maybe they had a rotten childhood or whatever excuse your empathetic nature creates as an explanation for their behavior. Believe me, I have had a lifetime with a narcissist until I managed to salvage my self-esteem and walk away. Empathy has to be for those who have empathy too. Anyone who can slap you when you are sobbing and then threaten you if you dare tell anyone else about what happened deserves no empathy. By the way, he was a spoilt brat as a child. His parents were narcissistic too but they were in it together and then they found a punching bag in silly empathetic me. Never again.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. I was raised Protestant, but I consider myself now spiritually awake- plus, I think the majority of belief systems, religions, have similarities. I pray every day for peace, acceptance, and to grow spiritually. God bless.🙏
I am a born empath, with the ability to deeply analyze and reflect from a younger age than 2. I am now 60. I heard that it was rare to have memories from infancy but I've met others who remember being in the womb. I had a very high fever with pneumonia at 6 months old. My memories started when I was brought home from the hospital. No trauma, just many beautiful memories before 4 years of age, like crawling around on a quilt, to my first steps at 8 months old to my Dad, learning to eat, how to put clothes on, and observant of every beautiful sense I experienced. Being held and loved by a big family, my senses were very in tune and clear of my surroundings and the feeling of love and safety that surrounded me. I remember what I felt, how I felt and how others felt to me. This can be a blessing or a curse that can heal or kill you emotionally, depending on the life you choose. That said... Helping others and /or self sacrificing too much and too often for others, can and will drain you, especially if they are individuals who are not in touch with their emotions or aligned with their highest best self and are selfish in nature. There's So much more about our minds, bodies and spirits to rediscover, to realign with, and to restore. The Balance that will be world changing; Emotional balance. Without it, we will never grow out of destruction because we will never get out of our egos. Until we collectively reach that level of emotional maturity, we won't be able to reach the emotional frequency that we need to feel in order to Grow forward and therefore, we just continue make things worse, daily.
Empath is a term people use to feel superior. To have empathy is to have a quality, but to define yourself as an empath is to use pop psychology identity. Often to be special or superior.
Can you use your magic powers to help me? I could use some investments that will grow over 1000% in a month. Thanks in advance. I love people with superpowers. \o/
I remember things from being 2 years old when I barely spoke. Maybe I just visualized myself as a baby, but I have a feeling I actually remember some of it ❤️
@@juliekrol My recollection starts at about Age 4. BTW I just subscribed to u & your music industry Channel. That is great as I am a songwriter, I hope to benefit. Best Wishes ! GaToR
Dorothy, next time use your intuition, and pay attention to the body language of the individual.. I am sure you will find the right person. Just wait. Do not rush into new relationship, only when you know for sure that you are ready.
Thank you! What a thoughtful gift to navigate the past few years of uncertainty and fear. I do not know how the algorithm pushed this to my TH-cam home scream, but your insight brought me to tears. It was a blessing to listen to your wisdom and frankness. I truly appreciate you speaking to the greater world to make a kinder place.
thank you for your wisdom, Rabbi. Your guidance is exactly what I needed to hear today, and I was lucky enough to check out your video recommendation by chance :) I'm not Jewish but the love and guidance of elders like you are the true treasures in life!
It's very important to underscore that emotional intelligence also includes identifying untrustworthy people and not enabling bad behaviour. When to engage empathy and when that is inappropriate is a necessary discernment. Otherwise people rich in empathy are easily manipulated by narcissists.
@@allisonisis I wish you well. It's a worthwhile path to see things as they are, even though that sometimes means discovering that people are not as we believed them to be or that they actually used our good attributes to our detriment and their benefit. It's worthwhile to rediscover, reinforce, and embrace your good attributes and to learn to protect them from selfish people. This is not to inspire bitterness and division, but to see how we may have been carrying things that are not our responsibility and to hold others accountable so they can also mature.
@Lou Sialb...Jordan Peterson treats that vulnerable end of human emotions, in his lectures, and clinical Practice. The Lef.t is trying to cancel him....thanks.
I totally agree with you. However, it becomes impossible sometimes to initially know when you're dealing with a narcissist, because, covert narcissists have now evolved to trick and manipulate - to act - like empathetic, caring people who initially lovebomb their targets to hook them in emotionally. Usually, it's too late by the time the targeted person has started to suspect that they've been deceived.
I´ve got lebanese,english,irish and jewish ancestry(it comes from safardit Portugal),but since I´m 14 years,I turned atheist,but whenever I listen to a wise man sharing his wisdom,I´m ´´full´´ thankful what you say quite comes into the mind and into the heart Rabbi.Whatever religion´s someone is,it doesn´t matter or neither religion,what really matters are the the ´´matters´´ of the human beings lives that live ´´alive´´...
For decades I wouldn’t read “Proverbs” because I saw my own flaws in almost every verse; flaws that I knew I couldn’t do anything about. God says He will create in us a new heart…..my prayer over the decades is, “When will You create my new heart, I’m still as hard and angry as I always was?” So, I wait knowing He has heard my plea. I’m getting close to the end of my life I wonder why no answer. But I will never waiver, I will wait upon The Lord.
Wow. This touched me deeply. God is merciful. You talk to Him, you wait on Him. One whole long human life can be justified just for that. Please, can you do it again? Shout, cry, bend your knees and bow! Suddenly, the frontiers between people can fall and dissappear in a second. God bless you friend.
Rabbi Jacobson has wonderful insights into relationships with others and, even more importantly, with oneself. I thoroughly enjoyed his teaching and learned a lot.
When i realize that everyone is at a different level of spiritual development, i have understanding, patience and empathy for the stupid things others do, they havent learned, some are dead inside and dont see the world through the eyes of spirit. I dont need anything but this spiritual understanding to walk this earth with patients, tolerance and understanding.
I am so grateful that I came across this channel this wisdom is finally allow to be spoken out loud for the masses can hear. I am gaining a better understanding of love.
Yep. I seen the title and being at my end of line for my sanity because of narcissistic abuse for 12 years I can’t even not be provoked to the point if I don’t get a few weeks totally alone with the Lord I’m going to lose it and snap. So I was looking for information about Abraham and ran across this. I will be eagerly listening. I hope it helps me. 🙏 in Jesus name
Dear Rabboni, Thank you for your blessing and blessings in the lecture. Forgive my lack of humility but what you so beautifully describe in emotional intelligence eventually can lead to seeing the Divinity in everyone and everything, bringing emotional intelligence to absolute freedom or submission to God's Will.
Road rage is a great example. Parents at kids sporting events is another. I'm in my 50s and I've made strides. This was a tune up that shows you there is still a ways to go.
It's the TH-cam algorithm, it showed you this based on a computer's math equation formula tailored to the users interests based on search history, watch history, what you point your camera at, what words your microphone picks up, it all comes together at TH-cam HQ and then shows you content you may be interested in lmfao nah I'm kidding it's God! Jesus is king 👑👑👑
I am tremendously grateful for your wisdom, Rabbi. Twenty or so years ago, I partnered with a PhD in biology, to give a freshman (1st year) seminar course. at a very prestigious Engineering University in Colorado. Dr. Paul D Ogg, (blessed be his memory) and I developed a behavioral/consequential theory. I believe that our theory aligns positively with you, Rabbi. Our University only admitted the best/brightest, per the Admissions gate. What I, and Dr. Ogg, experienced was the admission's focus on intelligence, versus the real world view of the need to assess a few other dimensions: e. g. inclusion, diversity on all levels of human-ness... Paul D Ogg, or as I called him, "PDogg," which our students loved, and, consequentially, was the name of a porter beer, brewed in his honor, by many craft brewers in the USA after his death. We weren't as succinct, and we could have been more embracing of any theology, but you are spot on. PDogg and I witnessed great IQ freshman engaging in really low EQ behaviors, resulting in harm to themselves and ohers. Thank you, Rabbi.
Oay-Yay! Noob, Honored. I miss having Shabbat lunch at the Rabbis House, Hebrew lessons with Rabbi's "Moreh" Wife. I was fortunate enough to have a special appreciation impressed on me very early. So when it comes to engaging in any argument, I am always a gentleman, respectful, considerate, kind, honest, objective and modestly humble. Our Rabbi and Moreh always took their audience down to the lowest common denominator and then like divided that by two. And by that I mean the way we were explained words that were in other languages (whatever language that would be,, the more the better, never know from whose country's delegation would be represented at lunch this was the mid 1970's-mid 1980s) Or big SAT words described by pictures or scenes to also define words that way but it was always the repetition of it that also taught us the real power of words. The way he would sing each Torah verse in Hebrew then and with the finest command of our English language translate so eloquently. I remember 1st. understanding him at age 5-6. When he interviewed this then toddler now 55 year old 40 Something. תודה
As someone who has known you for a long time, I can attest to the fact that you are using your own methods to never get angry very effectively. If anyone can inspire us to refine our emotions and responses, it's you!
I know that I am way outside of the scope of 'perfection' when it comes to emotional intelligence. I misread emotions regularly, I appear distant. I didn't have the best of all social childhoods so it took a lot of effort to learn that "not everyone is out to get me." I still have to tell myself these things in my head multiple times when interacting with others. I'm just trying to get better.
It's great listening to you. When we achieve more emotional intelligence, it will reflect through our daily routine & when it will become our basic instinct, it will guide effortlessly through wrong temptations & trying times.
I'm a Muslim. I was just browsing TH-cam and saw this video in my suggestions. Out of curiosity, I clicked on it. I knew these things that you speak of - I think we all do in our hearts - but you articulated them with such grace and intelligence that an old lesson registered as new and refreshing for me. Thank you, jazakallah.
I am not a Jew but this is a good source of information.
@ddevvnull198, I admire you a lot for being able to love and respect the wise Rabbi. I myself owe the Jewish world an apology: When I was released from prison in 2014, my German gf left me for my younger brother. She had her superficial reasons, and I used the pain that I felt from that to justify saying the most ruthless, cold blooded things about not just Jewish people, but just about everyone, including myself.
The other day, in a WM food centre, I dropped my wallet. It did not have much in it, but it had my bank card in it, and some twenties. A young man, maybe no more than twelve, approached me rather jovially, and asked for my name. He pronounced my name with impressive accuracy, and when I steeped forth to see why he was so interested in me, he had his arm extended, and my wallet in his hand. Everything was just like it was before I dropped it. His mother, a beautiful woman, then mentioned the fact that she knew I was struggling financially, and offered to pay for all of my groceries with her card. I did not decline the offer, but when I made it back to my truck I cried more then than I ever have in my life.
I do not know who's responsible for the worlds atrocities; 911, The Holocaust, The Com Revolution, Vietnam, Iraq, etc, but I do now know that no matter what, I will see people with a open, loving heart & mind, and embrace them unconditionally if they are kind.
Israel is not the worlds most honest nation, and we all know that, but Ultra Orthodox Jewish people who value the concept of man vs woman, right vs wrong, honesty vs deceit, life & death of us all, should not be forsaken because of something that the bad guys are pushing!
I sat down, and I accumulated a list of "anti-Israel" people, and the list would shock you. Some of these people are pure scum, and will say and do anything for a fashion statement. The list includes, shock rockers (who brag about animal cruelty and child molestation), pornographers, prostitutes, and other left-wing degenerates. Why would these so called Anti Zionist people, be so sick and twisted? It may not be approved by the late, Adolf Hitler, but Israel is doing something right, for so many crooks and criminals to be advocating against it (Israel). Know what I mean.
Sorry for rambling. L/R
@@ghostwriter1415 Well, I'm not pro-Zionism and I know many thoughtful people who are not fond of Israel. I am capable of demonstrating why exactly that is but that is a separate and tangential conversation. Regardless, I can still see the value of your message. It's great that you looked inward to soothe that rage. It looks like you have an internal locus of control. These days people are encouraged to develop an external LOC, which causes all kinds of problems because you're incentivizing yourself to seek outsiders' help to rationalize your irrationality. You, however, personally interrogated your fury on your own, which isn't easy. I commend you for it. Mashallah.
I come a cross of your video
And definitely I’m face/ noticing
In my work environment I notice toxic people
Unfortunately I realize how I be emotionally disturb and I be reactive to the external environment
How can I do to become stronger and not let emotions and reactive to the exterior environment people???
Thank you
I’m a catholic but we are also all human despite different religious backgrounds and this topic is one most people struggle with.
At 70 I just let things go. A friend once gave me some important advice during a divorce, "When someone decides to ruin you life don't give them permission to ruin what's left of it by hanging on to the injustice". With age comes wisdom if we are lucky.
Great advice!
What an amazing quote. I feel like plastering that all over the walls of my life.
Thank you, I will hold on to that quote ...
@@StellarLunar you knew it already from experience. The person that said it originally probably made the mistake of not giving them permission. It was their warning ..get it
with learning comes wisdom. Unfortunately, learning does not come with age for many.
I grew up Baptist. Never listened to a Rabbi before. But the contrast between your delivery and every Baptist church or Apostolic church I've ever attended is like night and day. I respond so much better to a conversational, scholarly approach than all the pew jumping, screaming, hellfire, and damnation preaching I grew up with. Thank you for this lesson...for showing there is another way. Really appreciated this, and I needed to hear it. Many blessings to you and yours. 🙏
why I have always had a hard time with christians I read or mention something in the bible and they say its not tru thats not in there here look right there this page here is the cultural and long standing context over histories blah blah blah You need jesus. But I have jesus here shut up heathen. Its been always something strange to me how can you say you believe in this when you don't read it but I understand this world is confusing and estrange so I'm not surprised that there are people who don't believe in anything or believe whatever
Maybe stop attending radical churches then. There are plenty of radical zionistic types as well.
Same same same. Well, very similar.
Ditto!!!
Maybe you just need to go to a non Pentecostal church, like a Calvary or something.
Dear Rabbi, I am neither Jewish nor a Christian. Have no idea how your video came to me. All I can say is to thank you so very much for your message. You will never know how timely it is for me as I type this. We are all in this together.
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Yes goy, tolerate as jews fk earth
"Have no idea how your video came to me." - It didn't. You arrived at the video by clicking the link.
@@biblebadcopycatofcuneiform8210 There are nearly a billion videos on TH-cam. None of us will even know of, (let alone choose to watch), the vast, vast majority of them. "The Algorithm" is the mysterious force behind what we have the opportunity to see.
I am - thank G-d - 81 years old. You are the best teacher I've had the privilege to listen to. I pray that you go on until 120.
I concur! #Wisdom
You know Rabbi uh ... the one thing I find with you know Jwsh videos is that the actual punchline of the title is hidden like a needle in a haystack. There's this talk ... talk ... talk ... o.m.g. Why do you do that? Just get to the point!
Herb! Great name! Stay healthy out there.
It’s god or Satan for you. Jesus is King!
@@CunningOfReason 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂 you had to go there
Thank for sharing your wisdom. My father is a narcissist whose behaviour often reveals his lack of empathy for others. He has the emotional control of a child. It probably reflects how he was treated as a child. I have paid a price for it. Now that I am older and reduced some of the effects of it, I believe that I have a good deal of emotional intelligence. Sometimes we learn how to be, by example, and sometimes we learn how not to be, by example
Well said 👏
You've become self aware. Congratulations on separating yourself from the craziness and pain induced by a narc parent. God bless.
Growing up I had a vicious mother and an absent father. All I ever learned from that was how NOT to be. But that did give me a starting point. Once I knew what I didn't want to be, it became easier to figure out what I DID want to be. Blessing in disguise.
I am happy for how you dealt with this!
Once we learn how not to be, the only way forward is up :)
I'm not Jewish, but I love listening to you. You feel like family. 😊
Maybe for the benevolent, wise advice, moonbeanification.
Same! I have found his channel a few days ago and have learned so much. He is so wise and love all his positive messages ❤❤❤
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@@ramieal-hazar2438 Sometimes, it's hard not to get angry or bothered at people. I may watch this again tomorrow.
Wait. What? What the AF does his religion have to do with the message? 😂😂😂😂😂
I feel honored and incredibly grateful just to be able to listen to Rabbi Simon Jacobson. Thank you.
It's a human being with common sense, calm down your appeal to authority.
@@s.muller8688 If more people heard this talk by Rabbi Jacobson then maybe this "common sense" you alluded to might become a little more common and people might treat each other with a little more humility - especially online. Given my usual viewing history, I'm still not sure why TH-cam recommended this talk to me but, as Nanette said, I'm that glad it did.
@@keira_churchillyou can not and do not need to teach common sense, either one is capable of doing so or you don't. Whatever you are trying to convey has nothing to do with what i said.The willingness to change does not depend on other peoples ideas but is completely up to you. By your logic and considering the amount of philosophical literature we have gathered during the last 2500 years we should have been all hyper intellectual and intelligent in regards to the amount of time we had to understand what is right and what is wrong . The very appeal to authority which is been shown here in the comment section is part of the problem. Getting high on basic common sense is meaningless and shows how little thought has been given to that exact common sense. Regards.
@@s.muller8688 - We may be talking about different things. Maybe if you could clarify the "authority" and the appeal to it that was apparently made here then that might be helpful in clearing it up a little. Notwithstanding the logic assigned to me above, I'd hazard a guess that Humans have been "hyper-intelligent and intellectual" for the entire timeframe you set forth, at least compared with other animals anyway. I have no way to quantify that, of course, but if you do then I'll be happy to study your thesis on this subject as it could be quite interesting. As for the rights and wrongs you mentioned, I tend to treat imposing my beliefs on others to be firmly in the "wrong" category, while others such as yourself appear to take the opposite view. It'd be interesting to hear your take on that one too if it's not too inconvenient.
Found my new mentor, he is full of wisdom and practically to push me along the correct path. I don't want the wallowing in victim hood pool. I want growth out of those brushes with dark entities & spiritual development. Thankyou for these generous lectures 😊
I am a Pagan and find this information based and highly important for all humanity no matter their religion or beliefs. Thank You Sir
@@DAMNLUCKYESCAPE I have much love and respect for Wiccan. Have a Blessed Day.
@@DAMNLUCKYESCAPE I have the same trouble. You are Welcome 😊
Pagan. I like this. It points out at someone who is honest and deep and knows. And I respect that. Thank you.
As a nihilist, I found this advice intuitive. In fact..... ah, who cares.
I’m trying to figure out why in my younger life I was naturally stoic, but in middle age I can get hot-headed in certain situations. Shame floods in mere moments after, but not in time to save my dignity. Shouldn’t my emotional progress be the opposite? I’m truly baffled.
I don’t think religion (or lack of it) has anything to do with it, something’s up on a simple human level. My mind understands and respects time-tested religious wisdom, but it doesn’t penetrate to an emotional level.
This is 100% true. I am a completely different person since I began this process 7 years ago. It’s saved my sanity, my relationships, my career and overall well being.
I come from violence and addiction on both sides but emotional intelligence can be learned like any skill.
The greatest benefit is never feeling like I’m holding something in - but that I can CHOOSE to let it go.
I liked your story of the two rabbis. The one who walked out the second time gave his friend the emotional space to see what he missed, giving him time to breath in a relaxed atmosphere. It’s not about being right it’s about sharing wisdom in a non competitive way. Deep love and respect for each other.
Your comment just made me realize why I am struggling with a particular friend. 😊
Shara-
Breath is not a verb. Breathe is. You mean breathe.
Try this: Write-Proofread-Correct-Post.
"It's not about being right, it's about sharing wisdom in a non competitive way."
I'm taking that with me. I feel the truth of that very deeply.
@@bootstrapperwilson7687 Try this: Get the point of the video... "it's not about being right".
@@bootstrapperwilson7687 I don't think someone who uses comma splices knows how to proofread.
At the age of 71, I still feel my body trembling at words alone that are harsh. Especially online comments. So I avoid to cause any interaction that might trigger the terrifying emotions in me especially in the evenings as I might have trouble to fall asleep. It’s simple to remind my mind that it’s not about me but the body feels the storm. Thank you so very much for your talk !!! 🌸🙏🌸🙏🌸🙏🌸
I greatly needed this video this morning. Lately been thinking about the directions I'm taking in life. Thank you for correcting my steering wheel and keeping me centered in my lane. I will keep learning and growing to be a real man.
You are a special bridge between a lot of different disciplines. And you are very wise - emotionally, psychologically and mentally. And you bring it all together very beautifully.
I thank you for your teaching, Rabbi. I will be following you in the future.
Couldn't put it in a better way! 👍
Both my parents were emotionally immature, my mother looked to us for that support, that was impossible because we had never been taught how not to be emotionally immature. I’m 62 and still suffer with this at times. I feel bad for my response to people, when in my heat I want to trust. ❤ thank you.
I just discovered you Rabbi a few days ago. You speak with eloquence and extreme wisdom. I have heard and seen 100's of people on YT and end up falling asleep. You my dear Sir ,wake up my senses and make each word come alive. Thank you and may you live 100 years. Bless you!
Do you have OCD with the number 100 or something?
Thank you, Rabbi for this wonderful video. I am Catholic but l love spiritual learning. God loves us all.
@They own you, if you're in debt. - You have your beliefs and others have theirs. As long as people aren't imposing their beliefs on others, inconveniencing one another or promoting themselves to commissioner of the thought police it's all fine with me. It's very difficult to find fault with anything the Rabbi said in this talk, and Kathryn said nothing obnoxious or imposing either as far as I can tell. My advice would be to try to be a little less evangelical with your beliefs. Live and let live.
Thank you, Rabbi! I am a 74 year-old gentile, of modest intellect and even more modest emotional development. It has taken me many years to shed my initial arrogance and to realize where I truly stand. I still have a good distance to cover. It's like peeling an onion, I guess I'll never get to the final layer. Thank you, Rabbi, for the new insights you have provided.
Admirable...
I hate all these self-congratulating posts dumb old people make. Literally every comment is like "I am an 81 year old man of wisdom and humility and your musings - rabbi - make me peel back my toenail like an onion. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, but I have so much to learn and I am which is what this comment is really for is to let people know I am always improving and learning even as an 81 year old diabetic asexual"
@@corncobjohnsonreal Very good! But I'm not diabetic - so there.
@@corncobjohnsonreal If you "hate" these posts ... don't read them.
And, when/if you get older, perhaps you'll gain enough intelligence to better understand and appreciate them.
Nicolas Uribe, thank you for sharing your appreciation and your growth. It can inspire others ....
ITS A STORY ALL ABOUT YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The story of David and Goliath, as depicted in the Bible, is often interpreted as a metaphorical battle between good and evil, with David representing the underdog ANTI HERO... HUMANITY NOT KNOWING WHO THEY ARE...fighting against a formidable opponent. When exploring this story through a Kabbalistic perspective and incorporating Neville Goddard's teachings, we can delve into a deeper understanding of its spiritual significance.
In Kabbalah, the concept of God is often portrayed as an infinite and transcendent force, encompassing all of creation. The false gods mentioned in this context refer to any limited or distorted beliefs or concepts that humans may idolize or worship instead of recognizing the true divine essence within themselves and all of creation. These false gods can take various forms, such as material possessions, ego-driven desires, or societal constructs that promote separation and illusion.
David, in this interpretation, symbolizes the Christ consciousness or the divine essence within every individual. He represents the recognition of one's inherent divinity and the willingness to align with and express that divinity in the world. Goliath, on the other hand, represents the false gods or illusions that obstruct the realization of one's true spiritual nature.
Neville Goddard, a prominent teacher of New Thought philosophy, emphasized the power of imagination and the creative capacity of the human mind. According to his teachings, our thoughts and beliefs shape our reality, and by consciously directing our thoughts towards the realization of our desires, we can manifest them in our lives.
In the context of David and Goliath, Neville Goddard's teachings can be seen as a reminder of the transformative power of our inner consciousness. David's victory over Goliath can be understood as the triumph of divine consciousness over the illusions of the world. By aligning with the truth of their divine nature and using the power of imagination, individuals can overcome their personal Goliaths, the false gods that inhibit their spiritual growth and fulfillment.
This interpretation suggests that the battle between David and Goliath is not an external conflict between two individuals, but an internal struggle within each person's consciousness. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing and challenging the false gods or limiting beliefs that hinder one's spiritual evolution and the realization of their true potential.
In summary, when examining the story of David and Goliath through a Kabbalistic lens and incorporating Neville Goddard's teachings, we can perceive it as a metaphorical representation of the eternal battle between the Christ consciousness within us and the false gods or illusions that separate us from our divine nature. By cultivating a deep understanding of our inherent divinity and harnessing the power of our thoughts and imagination, we can transcend limitations and manifest a life aligned with our true spiritual essence.
Thank you Rabbi. I am starting to understand. You are so kind and gentle, just like a cuddly Grandad.
This talk was very healing for me. Thank you, Rabbi. I'm a 50 y.o. female who was raised Roman Catholic. I appreciate a religious leader speaking frankly about such an important and undervalued life skill such as emotional intelligence. Going to share with my friends on Facebook. ❤❤🙏🙏🙏
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I am a conservative Catholic. It is a pleasure to listen to you talk. You are very wise. May God bless you. Greetings from Montana.
I saw the title of this video and wanted to know the answer. At 67 I thought that I was mature but you made me realize that I have only become mature emotionally within the last few years. I realized that I’ve been emotionally immature all my life. Terrific video.
I wish I had gotten this years ago as I have been a old stick of dynamite just waiting to be touched off most of my life. Now 67 and having listened to your lesson, this old Texas Baptist (hope you don't mind me not being Jewish) now have a tool in my toolbox to help me mitigate the little problems we all have to deal with day to day. Each time I fail in my anger or impatience I go back and listen again to this lesson and reflect on how I could of done better for myself, and others that saw me in whatever failure I'd had. I will share this with anyone I meet who may have issues like the ones I face. Thank you for this lesson of emotional intelligence. God bless.
I was raised in the evangelical baptist church and have been on a long journey to undo all the indoctrination I’ve been programmed to believe, and there is so much anger and resentment to process with the religious trauma. Your channel has been a blessing to me in this regard, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom Rabbi.
Blessings to you. Yeshua of Nazareth was Jewish. He extended Judaism to gentile. I was born March 11th in Bethlehem. I'll teach you some Aramaic. Schlama means peace. Malkuth means heaven. Hubba means love. These 3 things are God's domain. Hubba to you.
P.S. my Hebrew name Jacova is the female form of Jacob. Yaacova.
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One needs to be Loved and NOT indoctrinated into Religion. May God bless.
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Your voice alone comforts me l am sometimes confused and stressed and cannot handle my emotions
Excellent information on a very important topic - and one we call all relate to. I have one idea I'd like to add that I've found helpful in my own life. I discovered that the cause of my anger and frustration with people was coming mainly from two sources: A feeling of not being in control of the situation and/or giving undue importance to something in my mind. I also realized that my happiness matters and that nothing outside of me will change. I must change my perception of what is going on around me or keep suffering needlessly.
That's the greatest tragedy of human suffering...most of it is needless, not to mention useless.
This is a really good point - thank you.
Rabbi Simon, your words touched me deeply. I was raised by father who was a self hating Jew, and my mother (her memory be a blessing) taught me to stand up to anti-Semites, whereas my father said, "Never say you're a Jew!" My father escaped Germany with my Zaidie and my Aunt and Uncle. My father was always bitter. My Mother, on the other hand, would tell me, "If a goy calls you a Jew, be proud. If that same goy calls you a dirty Jew, knock him to the ground, Michael." This caused much disturbance between my parents and suffice to say there was no Shalom in the home!
I grew to manhood still trying to be that little peacemaker (my mother called me her "Little Aharon"). I won't go on and on but your words have illumined some things for me, and I shall address them. Shalom and Happy Purim and Chag Matzot Sameach!
To one who gets angry or bothered by people every time I leave my door to go out in the world, it is wonderful stuff, the wisdom of a sage. I going to have to subscribe to you now.
“A tantrum within,” I will contemplate this. I haven’t heard it before and it is s new way to frame things.
Emotional Intelligence a very important topic that I Value. I have experience people close to me telling me "Oh get over it just have a few drinks with your friends". This is very real, the absence of empathy. Thank you for your wisdom.
Forgive them as they know not what they are doing. Surface level. Not conscious.
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I am very lucky to be married to man with high emotional intelligence and he inspires me to hone my emotional intelligence. I like how you say it's not about changing your personality, it's about harnessing your strengths and mitigating your weaknesses. I think my husband and I have done this for each other over the years - hes a little tougher because of me and I'm a little more sensitive because of him. Yes I know it's inverted from the traditional roles, but I think that's what makes our relationship work so well 13 years and going
This resonates with me as my marriage is exactly the same: 31 years and going strong precisely because of our differences. Peace ✌️
For me on a personal level... I really never experienced life until I was able to Combined mind and heart... And everything I do... With also a tether to the universal God... Stay blessed my friend you are blessing to the world
Very wise. For me I also add my gut feelings. I don't count what is called chakras.
@Tik Kiu I was born March 11th in Bethlehem. The back water of Jerusalem
@Tik Kiu burning torches and chants of Jews will not replace us is your thing.
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@Tik Kiu ask a more precise question. My Hebrew name Jacova is the female form of Jacob. I was born March 11th in Bethlehem. I'll teach you some Aramaic. It's the slang of Hebrew. Schlama means peace. Malkuth means heaven. Hubba means love. Improve your reading skills.
@Tik Kiu there's a Universal God. There's not one world Government. I'm the global deep state. A peon.. my ethos Deus. Vivitas. Rem
This has been a very good topic for me. I'm a facility and property manager in a hotel. I've been trying to get my staff to understand their duties and responsibilities working in the maintenance and engineering department. I've been trying to teach them to realise and understand the importance of being able to see and capture the attention to detail of guests expectations when using our facilities. To words come to mind sympathy and empathy. This session will enable me to teach my staffs to not only perform well in their duties at work but also at home with their family. It's all about having a selfless attitude towards others and life as whole. Thank you Rabbi.
You are wise and empathetic. Work can also be a meditation. A meditation to God and better angels. Blessings.
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What a lovely comment! I pray that you stay strong with yr love for people.... to flow to your staff and clients.
God's blessing be upon you!
Do they ever get to care about tgeir needs and self, or sjould they be an endentured servant to everyone throughout their lives?
Should your guests be selfless throughout their lives? Or is it always about them even within their own jobs?
Where do you draw the line of selflessness when there's no barrier to someone taking advantage of that?
Exactly what engineering is going on at a hotel? I didn't realize that changing bed linen and scrubbing toilets was considered "engineering." And it's "two" not "to."
@@blaineedwards8078 I know. I feel you. We are all engineers of life in some form. You have my gratitude.
What a wise man ...and soft voice ...I feel his honesty and compassion for people to grow internally for a great foundation .
We can ALL learn something important from each other. Today, I did. Thank you Rabbi Simon Jacobson!
-An atheist.
I don't know how I got here, but I appreciate Rabbi Jacobsons words of wisodom.
I'm a Buddhist but I can't stop watching Rabbi Jacobson's videos. So much logic and truth. I never knew that they practice cumulative learning going back hundreds of generations. The great wisdom for me is that I can learn from the mistakes of these past generations rather than learning by making each mistake myself. If there ever was a real-live Yoda, it would be this man.
This lesson spoke to me in real time. In my morning prayer today, I had asked to see myself as the Father does (as much as I can stand) and for the strength to change. This video helped me to see how I had been allowing social media trolls to lure me into emotional intelligence draining discourse. This, of course is counterproductive to spiritual growth. Thank you Rabbi Jacobson
I was raised with Catholicism, I don’t consider myself a “religious“ person, but I have studied and practiced many spiritual paths. Including Zen, Buddhism Hindu practices (through yoga and meditation), and I also enjoy listening to preachers such as Joel Osteen, or even law of attraction teachers like Abraham Hicks, or gurus like Sadhguru. For some reason, I have always had many Jewish friends and I’ve always found myself living in so-called Jewish district, I currently do in Los Angeles, California. My landlord is Jewish, my best friends are Jewish and I also lived in Jewish areas in London so I’ve always been curious about Jewish culture, however but it’s my first time listening to a Rabbi and really deriving so much presence and value. Thank you so much for your words, your mission, and for sharing your wisdom. I am really appreciating it a lot. 🙏
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The mind is the Gardener n the Emotions are the flowers, Cultivated thru love both can complement each others natural abilities n grow to their full greatness. Rabbie has me captivated, hanging on every morsel of wisdom n truth he gently illustrates. He truly teaches from his Heart. Thank you for these lessons. I am so blessed to hear them. My heart has longed for such truth.
Rabbi Jacobson delivers his message so earnestly. Brilliant teacher. My wife regularly inspires me with her EI and it encourages me to improve.
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I like that the "suspension of self". Rather than the idolatry of me, myself and I. I have found out my feelings can lie. Sometimes I have been a pathological liar to my self.
Buddhist practitioner here and I would say the Buddhists would likely applaud the intent and helpful underlying compassion in Rabbi's video. The message is universal and wise.
Thank you. You made me cry with this video, but this is a good thing. I don't allow myself to cry very often and the reason is just what you described. I have past trauma in my life which made me switch to just relying on my mind voice and masking my emotional voice. Hence, I've been struggling for a long time with mental health issues and self harm. I am a 55 yr old woman with a husband, 2 wonderful boys, but still have flashbacks to my childhood trauma, I have tried numerous therapies but still I'm stuck in mental hell. Thank you again, I will be rewatching your video again, I think it could help me understand why.
Best wishes to you, Tina 🙏🏼 So many of the best women & girls I've known deal with the same - they didn't understand how amazing they are... I have PTSD myself and know what it is to take it out on oneself with self-harm.
Hope you're doing well! ✌
PS. Crying can indeed be a very healing thing. I rewatch certain movies that always make me cry when I know I need to let stuff out.
The story about the gentleman leaving the room is beautiful.
Thank you Rabbi for your wisdom.
Thank you Rabbi Jacobson for sharing your teachings- they are universal and applicable to non-Jewish people like myself as well.
People should feel strongly even, “angry,” about atrocities such as hate crimes being committed. Sometimes passion is warranted depending on the cause.
Indeed, the quality of one's life is directly proportional to the quality of one's relationships. From birth to death, relationships are where we spend all our time [sleeping excepted]. Thank you for having the courage to speak the truth!
Rabbi Jacobson knows a great deal about psychology, religion and philosophy. He's my favorite Sunday school teacher.
Thank you Rabbi Simon, I am a 68 year old retired white Christian woman in USA Arkansas. I know wisdom when I hear it.
Someone once told me that all you need to do is 'keep a cool head' when faced with a hostile confrontation.
Someone else told me that you never need to fight, if you simply 'don't meet them at that level'.
I find the combination of those things works quite well.
It doesn't mean that I don't get mad, it means that I can better keep myself under control.
Truth has no religion. Thank you for your enlightend talk. I do not embrace any religion but had started my journey of self awareness and improvement 3 years ago. I have found that there are universal truths that embrace all religions. This is one of those!
As an older autistic person i feel i've learned much through your video.. thank you..
@Alfa Man no official diagnosis for 1 of my children.. but we guess yes.
Have you every heard about the theory of Monotropism? It's an theory made by poeple on the spectrum and I noticed that it truly clicks with my exspirianses.
How refreshing to hear you speak about the over-valuing of a particular type of 'intelligence.' It's not really something that gets questioned or talked about enough. Thank you for this.
Useful conversation.
I was extremely empathetic as a child, feeling and caring for everyone, my parents especially, myself not at all.
And then when I needed to take care of myself, my parents turned on me. I’d always been bullied in our neighborhood, at school, for being quiet and kind. But I was bullied and emotionally manipulated more by my parents - and I had no other adults to defend me. My dad had no friends and my moms friends were in fear of saying anything and upsetting her. My family was back east or in Europe - I saw them only 2x in my life growing up. It was deeply gratifying to hear my uncles scold their baby siblings to get off my back, leave me be, be nice and behave appropriately towards me. Five days in a life.
Eventually, because I cared about them but could not live a minute of my own life (criticized gir my looks, my weight, which chair I say in, how I sat, how I walked, every single thing imaginable - with contradictions between the two and fights between them over it. One mocking me for reading and not having any friends, the other mocking me for not reading enough and not reading the right books. Mocked for wanting king hair, so I agreed to get it cut. The other kicking me for looking even fatter in the new hair cut. Yeah - seriously. That was my dad towards me at age 13. My mom got mad bc she’d didn’t good money on that haircut. ) By 13, I was seriously suicidal. I graduated at 17, ripped up a $25000 check from MIT and an invite to attend the school (they were looking to increase the # of female students & reached out to me bc of my SAT scores) and threw it at my arguing parents, agreeing to not pursue college, my life’s ambition. I’d stay home and work as a store clerk and keep my mom company-she needed me around all the time. I really tried to care for their emotional needs.
I left upon graduation to kill myself in LA so she wouldn’t be called in to identify the body. Empathy.
I got hooked into another needy relationship with someone I later married and had children with. I went to college, despite his efforts to prevent it, and I began seeing a psychotherapist, because I wasn’t out of the woods. I stills cared too much about his feelings and my moms. My dad was the first one I booted from my life. The therapist worked in developing an emotional connection with my Own heart and soul. I practiced saying “I “ statements. “I feel.” I practiced this a lot.
Eventually my mom and then my husband got notice. They needed to treat me with respect. Thing is - as you begin to move situational narcissists out of your center primary concern and out yourself there, they retaliate. My mom got sick. Big event in my life, she’s got a bigger one - sometimes even hospitalization. Sounds crazy by a narcissistic friend would do the same thing - ramp things up ridiculously until she can get admitted. Daughter giving birth? Mom/friend has developed some condition she swears is breast cancer - so stop taking care of yourself and take care of me.
My mom did that. But I had stopped feeling her pain. I’d lost my empathy. And it was lost for my husband, who had become increasingly abusive, trying to prevent me from holding a job where I could support myself. I finally got the pattern. I had the surreal experience of watching him flip like a slideshow through each tactic designed to spark empathy - one after another. I just watched him morph, until he’d played all his hands and knew he was kaput. They he flipped out, and next day he threatens ti kill me with an ax. I took our two babies and fled.
So I’ve raised my kids alone, working in the tech industry - land of Aspies. I’m on the autism spectrum myself, as is my youngest son. He’s been lecturing me tonight on being too emotional. I’ve been working with counselors/therapists when time/money iermitted - and the focus is on being self- centered. I’ve really been working on it - ti be able to react from my authentic self. It’s a survival mechanism.
But my employer values empathy. We have weekly empathy training. And it’s really lovely working with kind, emotionally caring people. Im out of tech, into banking. People helping people is our company motto. But my manager got offended by me last year for -kid you not - knowing more about software design (15 years as a database admin/designer will do that). I couldn’t believe it, but 10 other women have left his team in 5 years due to bullying and sexism. He’s a little man with issues. I unwittingly stepped on his toes when I was trying to do my job, and he’s been threatening me for a year. The stress and harassment resulted in me developing a fast-growing tumor in my abdomen that my doctors think is due to his behavior. I’m upset - I don’t want to lose thousands of $$ in retirement benefits by quitting, and I love the company. So I’m angry, and feeling violent towards this mean little man. My son says my emotions need to be mastered.
And do this video .. which is a blessing. It reminds me that I’ve grown up and I’m able to return to my empathetic skills. It may have been necessary for me to grow down - down into the self-centered emotional immaturity of childhood that I was denied. But I’m able to true back up into the emotional maturity of empathy and generosity of an adult now. I’ve been attending some of those empathy classes, but I’m still caught up in survival mode. I’m going to more actively get back to who I was. I liked my self back then. I just know now to care first about my needs and then I can care about others. I’m looking forward to practicing that old mindset. I used to ponder the bullies in the neighborhood-what was driving their behavior. They were Aden beaten by their parents and felt jealous, imagining I had a perfect life and must be punished for it. Some have told me as much, as they grew up and were now friends.
About my little manager m, there’s nothing I can do to fix his little inferiority complex. I got him to test his new system model with 50 employees - (measure twice, cut once), and it earned a zero passing score. So I got transferred off the design team. When he delivers this thing and no one can use it, he’ll have some people to answer to. And I’ve decided to take care of my emotional health by finding another job in the company rather that get bullied and driven out. I’ll try to be better than the inevitable schadenfreude. I know that’s not every empathetic, but I’m only human.
There are few crosses deeper than highly intelligent and caring at the same time. Add to that an deep understanding of what is taking place and being alone is kinda horrible. As for narcissists, hell yeah, they are world cup at that stuff. They will own you in a minute. They have perfected the game. I think you are an empath and I think you have never been taught how to discipline yourself in how to control it - pretty common stuff as it's what we live by. I have found that the outside world can not be your brace - as much as we wish it could be. Very few people have the courage to step outside that box, stand up and be counted. Very few. That they can't support you when all you need is a gd hug is a horrible thing. but here we are. As for the boss that you are letting kill you - that is what is happening - go over his head and demand this be dealt with or else. My sweet soul, I can promise you that if you do not stick up for yourself, very few others will either. Humans are weak. People expect you to stand up and defend a line - what are they supposed to do if you do not? Draw it for you? You can and must. As for liking ourselves back then - not so much, but we had hope. We had a dream. We lacked the mental discipline to shape it into a reality and if we had that the fear would fix it anyway. You may find a good job lacking in asshats, you may not, that's why trying to deal with this asshat is important. Companies get old and tired - and their profit margin starts to show it. But sometimes there is a bright and willing young exec who sees a future and will work to take that guy's ass out in order to save the company. If you are willing to quit anyway you have nothing to lose by going over his head. If you choose to stay you have to in order to survive. Choose wisely. There will always be bullshi* - I don't care what you do, but it can be mitigated or ignored. Your heart is what needs to heal and you have to stop letting people like him near it while letting it find peace and solice. The light will come on that lets you know that in fact you are the adult in the room and that is fine. There is a spirit there and you are safe. When that happens - I don't know. If it is constant, probably not but it is a moment you can hang on to. You are not alone. In fact, I'll bet most the people here walk with you down this path. Hang onto our arms. :)
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We understand your situation. I have no answer for you but I have had similar problems by parents with one way of thinking and the other with different styles. It leaves you so confused to know who to believe and where to feel love.
You just grow cold and bitter. So as an adult I’ve never been honest with myself or with others. I just pretend I’m normal.
I bullied the bullies right back. Then they stopped.
I pray you'll stay with God. It's not our fault who we are landed with in life. I try to remember that We can learn to deal with it. Life isn't about perfection. Only God is perfect.
As a Christian Church of England (CoE) you speak for me, I’m so glad I found your TH-cam channel. What you are saying is so truthful it transcends religion and cuts right to the very nub of out very being.
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Rabbi, you're talking about, in many ways, introspective reciprocity. To see yourself in others and to love them as you love yourself is the truest kinship.
I didn't think of my tinnitis one time while listening to you--very compelling lesson. Thank you!
Hello. I'm a Christian evangelist, theologian, and apologist. I love the Jewish people and support them. The Tanakh clearly demonstrates the extreme holiness of the Lord and the extreme sinfulness of man. Jesus didn't come to take away your Jewish indentity or traditions; He came to demonstrate that you can't be saved by keeping them. In other words, we all need a Messiah or Savior. The New Jerusalem has the name of the twelve tribes forever written on it along with Jesus' twelve Jewish Apostles. Jesus fit the mold(preaching repentance) of virtually all prophets in the Holy Scriptures. John the Baptist send his disciples to question if Jesus was really the Savior because Jesus didn't fit the mold of a deliverer he made up in his mind(Matthew 11:2-6). I hope this helps someone. May the Lord bless you and save you.
I'm so pleased to have stumbled upon your message. I have long battled with controlling my emotions. You've laid out an explanation that really resonated with me. I'm looking forward to putting it into practice. Thank you!
Thank you Rabbi. Hi from Izmir Jewish comunity , Turkey.
Rabbi Simon Jacobson - you are doing an incredible job by sharing your wisdom. I must say your words have answered a lot of my questions and healed my heart. I have come across many intellectual and wise teachings but nothing satisfied my Soul as yours. I will continue to listen to you. Thank you!
Speaking as a fairly non-religious confirmed Christian with a Jewish grandfather, I found this talk enlightening and at the mid point in my life, made me want to explore this more than I previously have.
Nice to hear you raising the bar on what it means to be a fully developed human being.
I’m so grateful to have found you. You’re the father and spiritual figure I’ve so longed for. You’re helping me heal my long pained inner child, and helping me be a better mother to my now adult sons. Very bittersweet at my age, but I’m so hopeful and grateful. ❤ Michelle Hannah
I'm not Jewish , but the Rabbi's wisdom is opening my eyes as i see myself in a lot of stuff he's saying. Great message and i'm glad he has a You tube channel .
Rabbi, I humbly thank you for AT THIS MOMENT. I feel the pain of the death of the children, adults and even the killer. I am LIVID. I am a child of light and love. I cannot sleep and I am so grateful to see this video.
Empathy is a rare gift. Step into another’s shoes. See things from their perspective. Do unto others as you would have done unto you. Love others as you would love yourself. Think before you speak/act. Then rarely will you become angry/bothered by others.
True, but there's a serious side-effect in that it seems to attract absolutely vile people who think they have the right to trample all over you and you let it happen because maybe they had a rotten childhood or whatever excuse your empathetic nature creates as an explanation for their behavior. Believe me, I have had a lifetime with a narcissist until I managed to salvage my self-esteem and walk away. Empathy has to be for those who have empathy too. Anyone who can slap you when you are sobbing and then threaten you if you dare tell anyone else about what happened deserves no empathy. By the way, he was a spoilt brat as a child. His parents were narcissistic too but they were in it together and then they found a punching bag in silly empathetic me. Never again.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. I was raised Protestant, but I consider myself now spiritually awake- plus, I think the majority of belief systems, religions, have similarities. I pray every day for peace, acceptance, and to grow spiritually. God bless.🙏
I am a born empath, with the ability to deeply analyze and reflect from a younger age than 2. I am now 60.
I heard that it was rare to have memories from infancy but I've met others who remember being in the womb.
I had a very high fever with pneumonia at 6 months old.
My memories started when I was brought home from the hospital. No trauma, just many beautiful memories before 4 years of age, like crawling around on a quilt, to my first steps at 8 months old to my Dad, learning to eat, how to put clothes on, and observant of every beautiful sense I experienced.
Being held and loved by a big family, my senses were very in tune and clear of my surroundings and the feeling of love and safety that surrounded me. I remember what I felt, how I felt and how others felt to me. This can be a blessing or a curse that can heal or kill you emotionally, depending on the life you choose. That said...
Helping others and /or self sacrificing too much and too often for others, can and will drain you, especially if they are individuals who are not in touch with their emotions or aligned with their highest best self and are selfish in nature.
There's So much more about our minds, bodies and spirits to rediscover, to realign with, and to restore.
The Balance that will be world changing; Emotional balance.
Without it, we will never grow out of destruction because we will never get out of our egos.
Until we collectively reach that level of emotional maturity, we won't be able to reach the emotional frequency that we need to feel in order to Grow forward and therefore, we just continue make things worse, daily.
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Empath is a term people use to feel superior. To have empathy is to have a quality, but to define yourself as an empath is to use pop psychology identity. Often to be special or superior.
Can you use your magic powers to help me? I could use some investments that will grow over 1000% in a month. Thanks in advance. I love people with superpowers. \o/
I remember things from being 2 years old when I barely spoke. Maybe I just visualized myself as a baby, but I have a feeling I actually remember some of it ❤️
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My recollection starts at about Age 4.
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Makes me think of integrity, actualization, and spiritual development.
I'm healing from bad relationship and this message was really helpful.
You're the reason for the bad relationship.
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When God created paradise , he said : boasters are not coming.
Dorothy, next time use your intuition, and pay attention to the body language of the individual..
I am sure you will find the right person. Just wait. Do not rush into new relationship, only when you know for sure that you are ready.
Thank you! What a thoughtful gift to navigate the past few years of uncertainty and fear. I do not know how the algorithm pushed this to my TH-cam home scream, but your insight brought me to tears. It was a blessing to listen to your wisdom and frankness. I truly appreciate you speaking to the greater world to make a kinder place.
Perhaps god influenced the algorothim as he can all things.
thank you for your wisdom, Rabbi. Your guidance is exactly what I needed to hear today, and I was lucky enough to check out your video recommendation by chance :) I'm not Jewish but the love and guidance of elders like you are the true treasures in life!
I am Muslim, and I am in love with what this man delivers
Expressing gratitude for your teachings Rabbi Simon Jacobson. Thank you so much.
Dear Rabbi Simon Jacobson, You are my new brillant teacher! Thank you! And many blessings to You & family.
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It's very important to underscore that emotional intelligence also includes identifying untrustworthy people and not enabling bad behaviour. When to engage empathy and when that is inappropriate is a necessary discernment. Otherwise people rich in empathy are easily manipulated by narcissists.
Yes. I'm barely scratching the surface on this.
@@allisonisis I wish you well. It's a worthwhile path to see things as they are, even though that sometimes means discovering that people are not as we believed them to be or that they actually used our good attributes to our detriment and their benefit. It's worthwhile to rediscover, reinforce, and embrace your good attributes and to learn to protect them from selfish people. This is not to inspire bitterness and division, but to see how we may have been carrying things that are not our responsibility and to hold others accountable so they can also mature.
@Lou Sialb...Jordan Peterson treats that vulnerable end of human emotions, in his lectures, and clinical Practice. The Lef.t is trying to cancel him....thanks.
I totally agree with you. However, it becomes impossible sometimes to initially know when you're dealing with a narcissist, because, covert narcissists have now evolved to trick and manipulate - to act - like empathetic, caring people who initially lovebomb their targets to hook them in emotionally. Usually, it's too late by the time the targeted person has started to suspect that they've been deceived.
@@darrellborland119 for good reason...Jordan is as smart as a paper bag.
I´ve got lebanese,english,irish and jewish ancestry(it comes from safardit Portugal),but since I´m 14 years,I turned atheist,but whenever I listen to a wise man sharing his wisdom,I´m ´´full´´ thankful what you say quite comes into the mind and into the heart Rabbi.Whatever religion´s someone is,it doesn´t matter or neither religion,what really matters are the the ´´matters´´ of the human beings lives that live ´´alive´´...
For decades I wouldn’t read “Proverbs” because I saw my own flaws in almost every verse; flaws that I knew I couldn’t do anything about. God says He will create in us a new heart…..my prayer over the decades is, “When will You create my new heart, I’m still as hard and angry as I always was?” So, I wait knowing He has heard my plea. I’m getting close to the end of my life I wonder why no answer. But I will never waiver, I will wait upon The Lord.
Wow. This touched me deeply. God is merciful. You talk to Him, you wait on Him. One whole long human life can be justified just for that. Please, can you do it again? Shout, cry, bend your knees and bow! Suddenly, the frontiers between people can fall and dissappear in a second. God bless you friend.
Rabbi Jacobson has wonderful insights into relationships with others and, even more importantly, with oneself. I thoroughly enjoyed his teaching and learned a lot.
When i realize that everyone is at a different level of spiritual development, i have understanding, patience and empathy for the stupid things others do, they havent learned, some are dead inside and dont see the world through the eyes of spirit. I dont need anything but this spiritual understanding to walk this earth with patients, tolerance and understanding.
I am so grateful that I came across this channel this wisdom is finally allow to be spoken out loud for the masses can hear. I am gaining a better understanding of love.
You more than did the subject justice Rabbi. Thank you for explaining it so well. I will review this video a few more times.
Yep. I seen the title and being at my end of line for my sanity because of narcissistic abuse for 12 years I can’t even not be provoked to the point if I don’t get a few weeks totally alone with the Lord I’m going to lose it and snap. So I was looking for information about Abraham and ran across this. I will be eagerly listening. I hope it helps me. 🙏 in Jesus name
Dear Rabboni, Thank you for your blessing and blessings in the lecture. Forgive my lack of humility but what you so beautifully describe in emotional intelligence eventually can lead to seeing the Divinity in everyone and everything, bringing emotional intelligence to absolute freedom or submission to God's Will.
Road rage is a great example. Parents at kids sporting events is another.
I'm in my 50s and I've made strides. This was a tune up that shows you there is still a ways to go.
Thank you Rabbi! I feel like God set this up.. needed these words.
It's the TH-cam algorithm, it showed you this based on a computer's math equation formula tailored to the users interests based on search history, watch history, what you point your camera at, what words your microphone picks up, it all comes together at TH-cam HQ and then shows you content you may be interested in lmfao nah I'm kidding it's God! Jesus is king 👑👑👑
So interesting. Got one huge take away "Suspend yourself while facing others." Cheers, Rabbi Jacobson . Thanks for sharing and all the best.
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I am tremendously grateful for your wisdom, Rabbi. Twenty or so years ago, I partnered with a PhD in biology, to give a freshman (1st year) seminar course. at a very prestigious Engineering University in Colorado. Dr. Paul D Ogg, (blessed be his memory) and I developed a behavioral/consequential theory. I believe that our theory aligns positively with you, Rabbi. Our University only admitted the best/brightest, per the Admissions gate. What I, and Dr. Ogg, experienced was the admission's focus on intelligence, versus the real world view of the need to assess a few other dimensions: e. g. inclusion, diversity on all levels of human-ness... Paul D Ogg, or as I called him, "PDogg," which our students loved, and, consequentially, was the name of a porter beer, brewed in his honor, by many craft brewers in the USA after his death. We weren't as succinct, and we could have been more embracing of any theology, but you are spot on. PDogg and I witnessed great IQ freshman engaging in really low EQ behaviors, resulting in harm to themselves and ohers. Thank you, Rabbi.
Oay-Yay! Noob, Honored. I miss having Shabbat lunch at the Rabbis House, Hebrew lessons with Rabbi's "Moreh" Wife. I was fortunate enough to have a special appreciation impressed on me very early. So when it comes to engaging in any argument, I am always a gentleman, respectful, considerate, kind, honest, objective and modestly humble. Our Rabbi and Moreh always took their audience down to the lowest common denominator and then like divided that by two. And by that I mean the way we were explained words that were in other languages (whatever language that would be,, the more the better, never know from whose country's delegation would be represented at lunch this was the mid 1970's-mid 1980s) Or big SAT words described by pictures or scenes to also define words that way but it was always the repetition of it that also taught us the real power of words. The way he would sing each Torah verse in Hebrew then and with the finest command of our English language translate so eloquently. I remember 1st. understanding him at age 5-6. When he interviewed this then toddler now 55 year old 40 Something. תודה
Thank you, Rabbi. I can be more patient with my husband now. 😊
As someone who has known you for a long time, I can attest to the fact that you are using your own methods to never get angry very effectively. If anyone can inspire us to refine our emotions and responses, it's you!
I know that I am way outside of the scope of 'perfection' when it comes to emotional intelligence. I misread emotions regularly, I appear distant. I didn't have the best of all social childhoods so it took a lot of effort to learn that "not everyone is out to get me." I still have to tell myself these things in my head multiple times when interacting with others. I'm just trying to get better.
At least you're making an effort - that GREAT - and may you succeed!! .
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It's great listening to you.
When we achieve more emotional intelligence, it will reflect through our daily routine & when it will become our basic instinct, it will guide effortlessly through wrong temptations & trying times.
Thank you Rabbi Jacobson.
Thank you. At this moment a brilliant video for my development.