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You are doing such an amazing job literally... I appreciate so much your work ethic, as much as I love your way of thinking and how much you are supportive through your words, even if fortunately I don't give my time to negative people in general, it is still amazing to listen to you man!!
@@engiikramcherkdodaaoui9536 Thanks so much for listening, watching, commenting, supporting - and all else. Most of all though, I'm pleased to hear you're giving negative people 0 time/attention. As always, you know I got you!
I was sharing something VERY POSITIVE and MEANT TO UPLIFT PEOPLE in an old Markiplier Video comment(I DO NOT EVEN REMEMBER WHICH ONE, BUT IS IS RELATED TO THE VIDEO) AND I WAS NOT EXPECTING PEOPLE TO CALL ME NAMES AND TAKE THOSE WORDS OFFENSIVELY I FELT SO DOWN FOR A YEAR SINCE THAT ISSUE, I COULD NO LONGER THINK AS QUICK AND GREAT AS I USED TOO SINCE THAT DAY, but IT ALL CAME BACK AGAIN WHEN I JOINED A CERTAIN BELIEF (NOT CHRISTIANITY OR ANY FAMOUS RELIGION) I ENDED UP BEING WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE TOO After gaining back my powers :) THIS VIDEO IS 999MILLION% True for me ♡♡♡
Cutting toxic people out of your life doesn't mean you hate them. It means you LOVE YOURSELF enough to not go through the misery of their crap. I really needed this today.
When I was a teenager I was surrounded by frenemies that sabotaged and undermined me constantly behind my back. I wised you and expelled them out of my life. They weren’t friends! I don’t have any friends anymore but it’s better than having backstabbers in my life. Any advice on making solid, good friends?
Nice man I've never even had friends and I'm 23 thought this guy was my best mate when I was a teenager we use to all together but he use go around talking Nasyy horrible stuff behind my back legit and I would go around telling people what amazing Matt this guy was and how good he was ect and yeah I just went thsts enough and got rid off him but I have other mate that I've kinda stop hanging out with but I wouldn't really call them my friends as I'm known them since we'll since I was like 15 and he was likw 13 and he's 20 now so yeah I really only had like free friends in my whole life and these people would never do stuff with me like riding dirt bikes building cool projects like normal mates do and I live with narcissist right now that is kinda helped push my family and friends away haven't even had a root in 3 years 😭🤣 and I don't talk to anyone the only time I get to talk as when I whinge about my problems on youtube comments 🤣🤣 or talk to people on fb market legit talk about your problems hahaha trying living my nightmare
I've made a complete 360 in my life from drugs and I was homeless for a short stint in my life, now I'm working for the government in an education setting helping troubled youth all while being 100% clean. I keep telling myself, after cutting everyone out to flop my life, "It can be lonely at the top; but if you're not on top of your own world - then whose world are you living in?" Much love to everyone.
Yeah man same here as well especially now thats its 2020 , i have to change my life around for the good because in the 2010's just seemed like i was a dog chasing my own tail.
Samantha Jane hell yeah. I use to be bothered when I get unfriended from Facebook by people who I actually attempted to keep communication going on with. Now I’m at the point where I’m like “if you wanna step out of my life, there’s the door”. That goes for both real life and social media. Life is way too short to be dealing with this high school crap.
yep,Have a Friend i have helped when no one else has,i called her 1 day ,She did not know she hit talk,And she had company,and was talking about me like a Dog I have took her food when sick, Loaned her money,for propane,yet nothing never enough.about done with her
I struggled with that fact for many many years until my husband suddenly passed away...that changed my whole life and I did cut some family out! Just because you share the same DNA does not mean they are your family. Family are those you can count on and listens, they dont make you feel on the defense whenever they are around. You leave them feeling emotionally drained...its not healthy even Jesus Christ didnt tolerate betrayl. If you cannot trust them and know they speak badly of you...then they got to go, a sense of family is what you make of it..not the DNA!
@@REV-ux6ph Life is too short to tolerate that type of betrayl. No true friend tries to play in both circles( your circle) and ( the circle that talks badly of you) it never works and you are forced to make a choice but dont feel bad or shed tears over someone who pretended to care. bye bye to those who do this stuff you have to value yourself more and she crossed a boundry ..as I said even The man above does not tolerate it why should you?
@Mocha 777 TV yep the death of the love of my life opened my eyes to fake people and some were blood but truth is water is thicker than blood and "Family" should not ever involve betrayl in anyway. Family are those who are true to you not halfassed! I have dealt with life so much better when I cut them out!
For those living with toxic people/family: its next to impossible to remove them from you mind and for them to influence you. They won't respect your boundaries. They will recruit other family members and friends against you. The slander and gossip will be relentless. There is no choice, you have to get out and get away.
I recently cut out some toxic friends out of my life but what still bothers me about it is i’ve been nearly friends with the wrong friends for nearly a decade and im kinda disappointed about myself for not realizing it before and i feel like i wasted good years with them. But now i feel more lonely but inleast i feel more healthy mentally and physically:)
@THE MR MEN SHOW 1 31 year friendship here. They even owe me money but that's okay. If someone can live with such betrayal to save a few hundred bucks then good riddance.
I had what I considered a good friend group for about 10 years. Some of it was my fault, I seen the warning signs, but like the old saying goes wish I knew now what I knew then. I wouldnt say you were stupid, thats one of the first things I said to myself, but you were naive as was I. There is also good memories. The bad ones might feel like they have more wieght but that's because it took something more to make a good memory than a mistake, therefore the betrayal hits harder. Now I have almost no one, except a few folks I've met recently, they are very kind and loving. But I still feel like a stray at times, where I really don't want to come too close. I've also done alot of self reflection, like was it actually just me and not an entire group of individuals. I'm still looking inward, the net is kinda scary. The I've got a splitnter in my finger Google medical search equivalent of asking psychological advice online basically says I've got mental cancer. Idk, I really don't. I just know that one day, I had to leave all of that behind and never go back. I've never felt so degraded.
Constant negativity, feeling drained they repeat the same mistakes regardless of your advice.... cutting her off. Also, when I say I can’t hang out they guilt trip me. I guess I will just have to stop replying to their texts. That’s their only way in. I have been lying saying I’m out of town because I don’t want to hang out. My God....it’s going grey walk
Oh darling I stopped minding them and they texted saying how so mad they are and that I should respect them🤣🤯boy am not your wife and I thank the Good lord
It’s ashame it can be the very people who have been watching you for years that lowkey don’t want to see you do good. They can lie all they want but energy does NOT LIE. Remember that.
bro ive never really had a friend that stuck around in a true and genuine manor, most people i allow myself to be surrounded by basically try to control me and my feelings/thoughts. Its to a point where i almost became submitted to living that way: being told what to do in the smallest ways. But recently i cut off all of those types of relationships and im feeling much better, like i did almost 3 years ago and its WEIRD. But just wanted to say thank you for this ENTIRE video, the more i watched this the more i realized that ive allowed myself to become exactly what your describing. Its an ugly realization, but one that frees you to not only make healthy relationships again, but believe in yourself because the parasite is gone.
Good for you! Defend your boundaries s man.. and if anybody crosses that line cut them off immediately- cuz if not, they'll continue doing it to see what they can get away with in the future.
I'm going through this now. I already started stepping away weeks ago and standing up for myself. The person is noticing. I will keep moving forward. Great things ahead. Anybody going through this, keeping moving forward for yourself. Love yourself enough to walk away from toxicity.
I needed to hear something like this. I just recently cut someone out. It hurt like hell cause I believed they were really there for me and I opened up to her about things I’ve never explained to anyone, things that barely come out with out tears or pain. I feel like she she was listening and she gave me a different vibe from everybody else. We did everything together even though she would bring me down about my body, the things I like, the way I talked, Etc. But I was so blinded by the thought of someone understanding me, who would also have fun with me , I couldn’t see the harm her words were doing to me, I just thought she was joking and would never do anything to hurt me because she was someone I was so vulnerable towards. They broke me down little by little. I never thought too hard into it till the people around me pointed it out and I realized they were right. I was hurt by so many things she said pointing out my insecurities And when I was at my lowest she was thriving off me being less than. And when I started to get to my highest place in life I’ve ever been, suddenly everything I did was wrong and wasn’t okay with her. I couldn’t not understand what was going through her head cause I was happy and it felt like she didn’t want me to be. I tried everything I thought of to fix things, and see what was going on. I got so tired of it one day I even asked her if she had a problem. I decided I was done feeling put down and taken advantage of. I’m not living my life by her rules or what’s not perfect about me. We all have flaws and I’ve just came to a place in my life where I am okay with not being perfect and not doing everything by the book. And I never want to hit rock bottom like that again so I will do anything I can to help myself keep going up and keep a clear head. And if that toxic relationship was something that was holding me back from that, then I was gonna have to let it go. It was so hard for me and it hurt me so much to have lost the one person I could tell everything to without feeling judged or ashamed, the one who I thought really wanted the best for me but I didn’t need the little things she said anymore, the things she would blame me for, or her making me feel bad about my mistakes. We learn from the past, not let it beat up our future. And I would tell her and let her know how it made me feel. She acted like she was sorry but then it would happen again. Eventually a person hits there limits and I decided ima fill my life with people who bring me up, who I can have fun with and make me be a better me. I am starting to love myself and like who I am. When u like yourself it makes it easier to like everyone else and have more good days. I have to be nicer to myself and not beat myself about everything she pointed out about me. It’s okay to not be Barbie or be everyone’s favorite person, cause everyone has already see that. Be something new and something you are proud of and hope everyone else can love it just as much. With out all the toxic words and comments flooding into your mind. The fog was lifted and everything got clearer when I put this person outside of my box. Even though it hurts, Sometimes that’s just what it takes to be in a good okay place in life and get the toxic out of your life so that you can grow into the best version of whoever you wanna be and reach everything you are looking for to make your life successful and meaningful. Hardest thing I’ve learned so far.
I'm literally speechless :) the whole time I was reading your comment it felt like it literally came out of my mind... I can't believe how your situation was similar to me because I have exactly the same kind of person in my life and after two years and a half I think I'm finally capable of letting her go even though I thought could die without her but I know she's only bringing me down and I deserve better... Honestly I only wanna keep good memories and just respect the relationship we had. thank you so much for sharing your experience💙
I needed this video. I have finally decided to let go of old time friend. Toxicity holds no place in my life :) im smiling and happy whilst typing this. Releif and weight off my shoulders.
I wanted to cut a relative from my life a long time ago, the most toxic , manipulative , always wanted to make me feel like garbage , but i kept giving her chances , there where a lot of them , too much , i gave her too much credit , trusted her , and she always kept braking it , until yesterday when i finally decided to block her forever and in real life too , if i am obliged to see her i'll just pretend i dont know who she is .
I feel you. My older sibling is like that. Always has been. I'm planning on cutting contact permanently with her. I'm just working towards getting a job in another state before I do it. That's the only way I'll feel free.
I've done this too with a few people who I knew were bad for me....but, later on, I also realized that continuing to give them a chance isn't doing me any good, and constantly forgiving them could be enabling their bad behavior.
I cut people out of my life who are afraid of confrontation. Some people who I thought were close to, didn’t tell me my ex was cheating on me with someone within the social circle. I don’t respect people who won’t confront people when wrong doing is being committed right in front of them. Morals and principles matter.
When you shared that "these people are not aligned with my highest optimal living" those words just hit a cord in my heart. I stopped myself from crying, but the truth can cut like a knife. Especially when those ties are blood! 🙏 I am extremely greatful for your input and efforts made to produce this video.
I never wanted to search this either but this person in my life makes me feel like a piece of shit everytime I talk to them and im just sick of it. This video really through some insight at me. Thank you for making this
True Blue I’ve been rid of my sister since April this year my life is so much better with out her. I also 14 years ago cut my mother out. It can be done and I encourage you to do this. I’m alone in this world but at least I’m living my own life. So go for it and kick her to the curb.
True Blue I just had to cut my bipolar ex out of my life. It was making my anxiety and depression much worse and even though we agreed to be friends, she just was there for others way more than she was for me. It sucks, but I think it was the right thing to do.
I also cut out my sister and mom from my life. It’s very hard. Not because I miss them, because I don’t. I don’t at all. But because I want a mother and sister so badly. Kind and loving relationships. I’m lonely but I’m not constantly feeling the pain that I felt in their presence
It is my daughter, she has 4 almost grown children and has convinced them I am not worth knowing. This has happened just in the last 3 years, I am not a good enough...she insists we have an unhealthy relationship. This started in 2019 when I told her I was leaving the family home to her sister...
my “bestfriend” is so manipulative, unsupportive, controlling, etc. like i remember i got into a really good school and she didn’t even congratulate me all she said was how to pronounce the name of the school like girl what?!?! aren’t you supposed to be happy for me and i just found that so crazy and when i said i wanted to join the track team she was like “oh” . also she always asks me for stuff and not that i care abt money but like she spends my money and is like “i’ll pay you back” or “i feel bad for spending your money” like if you really did then you wouldn’t spend it?!?! it’s partly my fault i’m to nice to people i’m done being walked all over and also she is controlling like if i don’t do something for her she’ll get mad at me and give me attitude like she says she loves me but she doesn’t act like it. and whenever i act like myself around her she looks at me and is like “girl🤨” like that’s why i’m so insecure to be myself around people. and also ALL SHE DOES IS GOSSIP. literally she talks about everyone and about their flaws but who is she to judge?!?! she isn’t God. and to think she claims to be christian. her actions don’t show it. and let’s say we also hang out with someone else she totally forgets about me. she only hits me up when she needs something and i’m tired. i thank the Lord that we aren’t going to the same highschool. she emotionally drains me and i think i’m starting to become like her bc now i complain more then i usually did and i got it from her. i do NOT want to become like her. she is very toxic and manipulative. and she only is nice to me when i give her the stuff she wants. also when i try to vent and talk about my issues somehow the conversation goes to her? and her issues? it’s like i can’t get 2 sentences out without her saying “same” or “facts” or just changing the convo onto her issues. i’m so tired of her i’m done i really am. i am cutting her off for good. my old bestfriend warned me about her and i should have listened.
what if you have no friends because you keep getting back stabbed, used and bread-crumbed? I choose alone over fake ass friends who end up hurting you. Many of us have learned to tolerate crap from childhood and predatory fake friends smell this. I am no longer accepting crap fakeness... as I said I prefer my own company. Thanks for your video! God bless!
I’m having a hard time because this person has done good things before.. but when it’s bad it’s so bad. They make me feel terrible about myself. I am always super anxious around them. I walk on eggshells. They’ve done kind things for me.
Another EXCELLENT video talk. I learned these exact lessons you speak so wisely about years ago (I’m old lol) You are spot on, and I share this with my adult daughter and others because it is so important. We are social beings, and my life became a brighter, more hopeful life when the constant negative people I kindly moved on from were gone. I always thought but I won’t have any friends? I’ll be alone. I trusted my decision though, and into my life appeared positive, loving, kind and wise people out of nowhere!
There is nothing wrong being alone you made the best decision for yourself is to protect your well-being. Instead of dealing with any toxic people who will drain the life out of you and it can also effect your mental health, emotional and physical well being you made the right decision for yourself ❤
I never thought I'm gonna do this in my life. I'm emotionally and mentally became so drain for almost 2 years and now I have a courage to cut those people off in my life who've done this to me. They don't deserve me and I deserve better :")
I had to cut ties with an alcoholic and addict friend. He was great sober, but it was short-lived. He gaslit me, never took accountability for his past criminal history. He continually betrayed me and now he’s upset with me for bringing up his behaviors and has no remorse or empathy. I initially felt guilty but I was there for him to take to the hospital to detox several times, and to counseling appointments. I’m sad because it’s as though he didn’t appreciate my friendship.
I tried to not give up on my friend, I want him to prosper with me, but for 2 years he kept rejecting my invitation to grow together. Now that I am started to grow and became more successful on my own, he started to cling trying to let me stay (he's usually the one who gets annoyed for staying by his side) but I don't wanna stay but leave to grow. I have no choice and ended up cutting our friendship. I never knew ending our friendship would relieve me this much I kinda feel guilty, but without him on my life was such a blessing. Lesson, dicern your situation and cut them off early if you noticed they started to bring you down and that you don't enjoy each other's company anymore.
I agree. But sometime trying to set boundaries isn't enough; the relationship must be dissolved. Some people are more than happy to spit on your boundaries and mock you for them. The only answer is to be rid of such people entirely in those cases.
I learned the hard way that I need to remove toxic people(toxic family members, workers, even ex-"friends") from my life. A lot of them don't even want to admit that they're toxic at first. Sometimes it's just a good thing to let them know that this is not the right way to treat people...by walking away. They'd apologize, and go back to how they were before. Drastic times calls for drastic measures.
I have a friend that gets jealous if I just speak to or call someone a friend. Btw, I’m 47 (I’m blind) & she’s over 65 (she has severe lupus). I’ve tried everything for a year, as she fought and trashed all my friends. She never has anything good to say. She’s always a bully and ALWAYS right. I kept “glass 1/2 full”, thinking she’d adjust a little once she’s been in my apartment building for a year. It’s been over a year, and she currently has a personal protection order AGAINST her because she bullied someone (my next door neighbor, who’s in a wheelchair!) to the point of reasonable fear. She basically “broke up with me” last evening. She said I’m a bad friend because I’m struggling with severe anorexia. Really?! All eating disorders thrive on negativity about yourself. She knows that, yet she decided to end it despite that. I even apologized! For having severe anorexia! I’ve been gaslighted again, I suppose. I plan to move soon so I never have to deal with her again. It’s still hard to see a friendship fail, though.
My cousins ask me to drink with them everyday, i say no and they keep calling and texting and in person they nag and nag!!! I have my own business and i cant get to work on time bc i end up giving in and i havent had a full weeks pay bc i have them around to manipulate me, they are my roommates!!!! Im fed up of i have to ill sleep in my truck
I removed a toxic figure from my life today. A personal tragedy occurred in my life and it made me really look at the people who allegedly have my back, as well as years of isolated acts of violence and harassment. Enough was enough. Who knows how they will react, half expecting a knock on the door but feel liberated that I stood up to this particular bully. 32 years I’ve thought that I needed to show this person compassion and that I wasn’t good enough to move on, turns out I just needed to stand up for myself . I hope others can find the courage, this life is short please don’t allow these toxic people to control you. Some people just can’t be saved, look after yourselves. Great video, thank you 🙏
A few months ago I decided to just cut some people out of my life, deleted their number and blocked them. Not exactly toxic but not truly friends. I've been a loner all my life and I just can't see them in my life.
I find it funny when you had enough of their garbage, and yet the people around you consider you a "negative" person because you've had enough of the BS.
Thanks. The first "sign" hit hard, and that is what I'm going through with this so-called 'home health aid' who is causing me a great deal of hopelessness, anger, and distrust with her manipulative and controlling behavior.
Thank you. I tried to cope with toxic & negative family members and friends. for nearly 20 plus years. I'm done with them. I made a decision and I feel mentally healthier than I ever have.
Some people need to help so badly they will help you break yourself just so they can come to the rescue. They seem empathic and helpful. I love the idea of considering whether they are in alignment with your best (10/10) self. That really helps when those toxic in your life are viewed as saints by others in your life.
Thank You! I walked out of a toxic, narcissistic family three years ago having lived and born among them. I was damaged and spiritually bruised. I am healing slowly Alone. New people are coming into my life now who match my energy. I am not angry or resentful anymore on anyone now. Your advice is valuable.
I smiled when you mentioned sadhguru😊. I’m alone and have about zero people around me which is much healthier. I cut people off who disrespect me repeatedly with words and actions, idc if they’re my family members. I would talk a lot less with family members, if they ask me why, I let them know so they won’t continue this behavior with others hopefully.
So glad I found you. I kept saying, "Yes!" as you spoke. Thankfully, I've already cut ties with this person in my life. But your video just proves to me that I did the right thing.
That's my overbearing and not respecting my boundaries mom. Everyday my resentment grows and grows more to the point I will completely cut her off my life FOREVER and never take care of her at the old age. I'm not an accessory.
Thanks a million for the advice. I have a sister that loves to control my life. I have to cut ties. It's hard but she is making my life unbearable to live. I have to let her go.
a person from school called me shitbag three times and always was so toxic. to me, I play videogames with my friend he ends up joining. the rude person mostly. this rude person has ADHD. but the way he acts is by heart, it's not like every time I see him he's gonna act rude only sometimes they act impulsively. and today he was saying curse words and I have now unfriended him. I feel so much happier he was a cyberbully. who was called a "friend"
sometimes you do have to make ur point,by stepping away from people who ur unhappy around,if you feel better without them,maybe you did the right thing
The first tip breaks me in million pieces. I want to break ties with my partner rn bcos she's so manipulative and thinks of herself too much. She invalidate my mental health which makes me feel shit all the time. Idk how to cut ties with her :'(
Brother I have just done this man. It’s tough and will be to begin with but make sure you have support around you and just listen to yourself and what you need . Time will heal brother take care !
If your are my best friend and you come to me bragging that you're hanging around my foes you have to go!!! I don't care that you hang out with them, but it's disrespectful to come in my business and rub it on my face!! Periodt!!!
I finally cut my toxic cousin off today, I’m just doing what’s best for me for once, it’s going take me time to get over it, but at least I don’t have to deal with her nomore.
Wowww, thanks for a great video. 2020 has been a year of dropping toxic people for me & I'm just going to to keep the momentum going in 2021. Who else experienced the same?
Carter Folley Knowing others is wisdom. Knowing yourself is enlightenment. Don't become the slave of your emotion. Make decision. Have determination. Never cry for that person who doesn't know the value of your tears. *Accept that you are not important to some people and move on* .
Work towards changing your position, and cut them off once you move out. My parents are abusive, and I'm working towards being able to move out, so I don't have to deal with them. Wether that means rarely speaking or never Decide wether or not it's wise to tell them in advance. It might backfire And surround yourself with people that support you moving into a diverent house then that person, and who will encourage you
I needed this. I’m bi (I’m female. not open to most). I met this girl. I loved her. She loved me. We were talking for 3 months. She met my bestfriend (who’s a guy, she’s bi as well) I started meds for my depression around this time and it fucked me around. We were none stop arguing. I was always jealous and paranoid she was talking to my bestfriend and one of her other friends. She ended up dropping me. Said she loves me but we need time to work on ourself. Two days later her and my bestfriend start dating. I was shattered. It’s been a month now. I have tried to get past it as much as I can. We’re all friends now. But now she’s closer with the second guy now. She’s still dating my ‘bestfriend’. I’m always starting the convosations. I’m always checking up on her. Making sure she’s eaten. Making sure she’s ok. I bend my back for her. I stay up super late just to make sure she’s ok. She never checks up on me. She knows my life problems. But she makes me feel like shit. She doesn’t say or do certain things to make me feel bad. Just being around her. She priorities certain friends. I’m at the bottom of her list. After always making sure she’s ok. Always supporting her. Even when she had no one else. She treats me like I’m nothing. I carry all of our convos. She hardly tries. Why do I try? Because I love her and I want the best for her. She means a lot to me. But I’m at the point that my mental health is copping the brunt of it all. I still get upset about the whole situation of her leading me on and leaving me for my bestfriend. I’ve been having a low week. But after watching this. It feels like weight has been lifted off my shoulders. You don’t know me or my situation. But you just get what people go through and what they need to hear. Thank you. I’ve been wanting to cut her off. But i could never bring myself to it.
I hope everything's good at your end, stay safe out there. You didn't deserve that treatment, I would've treated you with respect and spoiled you if I was her, sucks that she didn't care at the end.
@@hunt7533 November 2021 was when we parted ways. I’ve been feeling so much better without her in my life. As shitty as that sounds. I’m not angry anymore nor am I bothered by the way she treated me. It’s literally like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders since we stopped being friends. I look back now and only wish I had of done that sooner. I only hope to find people who truely deserve me. I always stay by peoples side even if they walk all over me. I feel like I can breathe clearly again 😊
I've been having those problems lately too, where people have been ignoring my text messages and avoiding interaction in-person. It's hard looking for friendship and meeting new people. Moving on is difficult...especially when having trust issues!
I cant stand my relatives. Esp my cousin she is so jealous anything I say good she turns into a negative. She is so insecure because of her weight. The thing that hurts me the most with these women in my family is that i was in an abusive relationship that led to having a child.Later, My ex turned my son against me. All I hear from those women in my family is I gave my son away. I hate them and dont care to revisit the pain again . its been many years. I get better understanding from strangers. I'm over them I'm at a major crossroad to cut them off completely. I feel like they have something to do with suicides with sone of my cousins. They seem to be disappointed that they cant get to me. I stay away from them.Ugh I cant stand them.Lord help,me . I want to burn my emotional ties. Imagine me being at work and a coworker I dont know ask me if I know her(my cousin) ,I SAID NO. Lol Good video!
I had moved back home to save money but I’m MISERABLE here. I decided as soon as the lease is up I’m leaving and I’m cutting off my brother and I will distance myself from my mother but check up on her sometimes. My mom is very abusive as well. My brother is a TRIGGER to me as well. I want him out of my life. I’m also dealing with depression, anxiety, and I can’t sleep at night because of my toxic mother and brother.
Thanks for this video i always cried myself to sleep just for one person and i feel so relieved now my question is do u have to notify them wen u want to cut them off
I’m watching this because I’m planning on cutting a 4 year friendship. This person hates when I set boundaries, and thinks I’m being selfish to them. I am slowly trying to be more open to him on why I do some of the things he dislikes without also being toxic back, and been slowly distancing myself from him and letting things flow naturally after I did force a lot of things. I don’t think holding on to a friendship like a thread, or chipped nail is worth it anymore, and I feel bad for this idea but it might be more healthy for both of us. We had many good memories together which makes it hard for me to let go but I know I can, if I continue the effort. Many people won’t see this but that’s okay because I just wanted to let this out.
I had 1 friend I was comfortable with that I could literally talk about anything with and have no awkward silences. The bad things about is he was just toxic to other people and I realized I started to pick up on that energy and say bad things to people as a habit too. I just had to cut this person outta my life and right now I couldn't be more happier I love doing things that I love to do without the fear of being judged like exercising, meditating or playing badminton with my brother. Getting toxic people out of your life is the first step to getting happier.
My friends are online friends and i feel nothing but depressed and anxious around them now. 1 of them has made so many empty promises and the other disguises insults as jokes. I’m slowly removing them from my life and I’m scared because I’ve had this happen before and it wasn’t easy for me to do and idk how to do it again
Could you please explain what you actually do. What are the steps of cutting someone out of your life. Do you talk to them or do you ghost them? I’ve had a friend since childhood but I don’t want her in my life anymore. How do I do it?
Something a lot of u don’t understand is what if that “toxic” person had a horrible up bringing what if they try hard to be good people but can’t stop doing the things they grew up doing or seeing my wife saw the good in me even though iam the biggest asshole out there. Because my wife loved me and put effort into being with me I have made changes to my life so I’m not constantly causing issues and being more productive than destructive. If you love someone don’t just give up on them cause they aren’t the exact person u want if u put effort into it there’s a chance that the person u fell for may be the person u stay with yes u could just try to find someone else and I recommend that if they are physically violent but if they are and u want to be with them try hard to get them to change their lives my wife did and now I’m a much better person with goals and dream when just a few years ago that wasn’t the case.
He’s describing my brother. He’s been abusive and I do mean abusive to me since we were children. Recently he was being unkind and I started crying right on the spot. I was honest and told him he has been making me cry all my life and he said he didn’t care. This is a guy who sexually molested me as a little girl and who stabbed me with a fork once, breaking the skin and leaving a scar. He’s really dangerous in many ways. His emotional abuse is to the extreme.
Thank you so much for your videos . Your videos helped me get through a tragic heartbreak but by actually listening to what you say u help me day by day and just thank you for being an amazing and inspirational person 💯
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You are doing such an amazing job literally... I appreciate so much your work ethic, as much as I love your way of thinking and how much you are supportive through your words, even if fortunately I don't give my time to negative people in general, it is still amazing to listen to you man!!
@@engiikramcherkdodaaoui9536 Thanks so much for listening, watching, commenting, supporting - and all else. Most of all though, I'm pleased to hear you're giving negative people 0 time/attention. As always, you know I got you!
I was sharing something VERY POSITIVE and MEANT TO UPLIFT PEOPLE in an old Markiplier Video comment(I DO NOT EVEN REMEMBER WHICH ONE, BUT IS IS RELATED TO THE VIDEO) AND I WAS NOT EXPECTING PEOPLE TO CALL ME NAMES AND TAKE THOSE WORDS OFFENSIVELY I FELT SO DOWN FOR A YEAR SINCE THAT ISSUE, I COULD NO LONGER THINK AS QUICK AND GREAT AS I USED TOO SINCE THAT DAY, but IT ALL CAME BACK AGAIN WHEN I JOINED A CERTAIN BELIEF (NOT CHRISTIANITY OR ANY FAMOUS RELIGION) I ENDED UP BEING WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE TOO After gaining back my powers :) THIS VIDEO IS 999MILLION% True for me ♡♡♡
How do I tell him with out hurting him ?
This is such good advice.
Cutting toxic people out of your life doesn't mean you hate them. It means you LOVE YOURSELF enough to not go through the misery of their crap. I really needed this today.
When I was a teenager I was surrounded by frenemies that sabotaged and undermined me constantly behind my back. I wised you and expelled them out of my life. They weren’t friends! I don’t have any friends anymore but it’s better than having backstabbers in my life. Any advice on making solid, good friends?
❤️👏👏👏👏
Glad I got rid of the majority of my friends. Kinda lonely but much healthier mentally and physically
Quality over quantity my friend.
Same pinch
Nice man I've never even had friends and I'm 23 thought this guy was my best mate when I was a teenager we use to all together but he use go around talking Nasyy horrible stuff behind my back legit and I would go around telling people what amazing Matt this guy was and how good he was ect and yeah I just went thsts enough and got rid off him but I have other mate that I've kinda stop hanging out with but I wouldn't really call them my friends as I'm known them since we'll since I was like 15 and he was likw 13 and he's 20 now so yeah I really only had like free friends in my whole life and these people would never do stuff with me like riding dirt bikes building cool projects like normal mates do and I live with narcissist right now that is kinda helped push my family and friends away haven't even had a root in 3 years 😭🤣 and I don't talk to anyone the only time I get to talk as when I whinge about my problems on youtube comments 🤣🤣 or talk to people on fb market legit talk about your problems hahaha trying living my nightmare
o Small circles are stronger o
I've made a complete 360 in my life from drugs and I was homeless for a short stint in my life, now I'm working for the government in an education setting helping troubled youth all while being 100% clean.
I keep telling myself, after cutting everyone out to flop my life, "It can be lonely at the top; but if you're not on top of your own world - then whose world are you living in?"
Much love to everyone.
It's hard to cut the toxic people out when those are the only ones around you.
Needed that AstroMartine
Same here
When you close one 🚪 another opens
Can relate to you
No it's not. Better to be around no one than being around negative downers.
Never in my life was I expecting me to search this 💔
Same dawg
Yeah man same here as well especially now thats its 2020 , i have to change my life around for the good because in the 2010's just seemed like i was a dog chasing my own tail.
Me too, I never saw it coming.
Same bro. Some people just don't give a shit about you no matter what so it's for the best.
Yup
Love when people who are toxic also cut themselves out of my life, it’s like thanks for doing the job without me doing it for you
It happened to me recently and it was such a blessing lol
The trash taking itself out 🤣
Samantha Jane hell yeah. I use to be bothered when I get unfriended from Facebook by people who I actually attempted to keep communication going on with. Now I’m at the point where I’m like “if you wanna step out of my life, there’s the door”. That goes for both real life and social media. Life is way too short to be dealing with this high school crap.
I had that happen to me they did me a favor.
👏🏻👏🏻yes!
I am going to cut out all the toxic people from my life , and I won't tolerate abusive behavior from anyone.
Prarthi Balaji Hell yeah!! I believe in you!
@@brandoncreighton775 ^_^
it's been 5 years, have you finally removed them?
@@Enacaus Yes, It's been 5 months and I already have cut out many toxic people
@@Itsmeprarthi
how many?
It’s really hard when it’s family and they always look at you like you owe them something.
yep,Have a Friend i have helped when no one else has,i called her 1 day ,She did not know she hit talk,And she had company,and was talking about me like a Dog
I have took her food when sick, Loaned her money,for propane,yet nothing never enough.about done with her
I struggled with that fact for many many years until my husband suddenly passed away...that changed my whole life and I did cut some family out! Just because you share the same DNA does not mean they are your family. Family are those you can count on and listens, they dont make you feel on the defense whenever they are around. You leave them feeling emotionally drained...its not healthy even Jesus Christ didnt tolerate betrayl. If you cannot trust them and know they speak badly of you...then they got to go, a sense of family is what you make of it..not the DNA!
@@REV-ux6ph Life is too short to tolerate that type of betrayl. No true friend tries to play in both circles( your circle) and ( the circle that talks badly of you) it never works and you are forced to make a choice but dont feel bad or shed tears over someone who pretended to care. bye bye to those who do this stuff you have to value yourself more and she crossed a boundry ..as I said even The man above does not tolerate it why should you?
@Mocha 777 TV yep the death of the love of my life opened my eyes to fake people and some were blood but truth is water is thicker than blood and "Family" should not ever involve betrayl in anyway. Family are those who are true to you not halfassed! I have dealt with life so much better when I cut them out!
That's the problem. That's mental abuse towards us. Don't fall for it. It won't ever change.
For those living with toxic people/family: its next to impossible to remove them from you mind and for them to influence you. They won't respect your boundaries. They will recruit other family members and friends against you. The slander and gossip will be relentless. There is no choice, you have to get out and get away.
Or start over, move out etc, or just commit suicide. Thats my two choices
True FACTS!
Oh my god I can’t agree more it’s a living hell
100 subscriber's with video what-
Once you leave your toxic family your chosen family is around the corner a healthy family
I recently cut out some toxic friends out of my life but what still bothers me about it is i’ve been nearly friends with the wrong friends for nearly a decade and im kinda disappointed about myself for not realizing it before and i feel like i wasted good years with them. But now i feel more lonely but inleast i feel more healthy mentally and physically:)
I m so dumb, wasted 21 years even after they have shown signs in the first few months.
@THE MR MEN SHOW 1 31 year friendship here. They even owe me money but that's okay. If someone can live with such betrayal to save a few hundred bucks then good riddance.
I had what I considered a good friend group for about 10 years. Some of it was my fault, I seen the warning signs, but like the old saying goes wish I knew now what I knew then.
I wouldnt say you were stupid, thats one of the first things I said to myself, but you were naive as was I.
There is also good memories. The bad ones might feel like they have more wieght but that's because it took something more to make a good memory than a mistake, therefore the betrayal hits harder.
Now I have almost no one, except a few folks I've met recently, they are very kind and loving. But I still feel like a stray at times, where I really don't want to come too close.
I've also done alot of self reflection, like was it actually just me and not an entire group of individuals. I'm still looking inward, the net is kinda scary. The I've got a splitnter in my finger Google medical search equivalent of asking psychological advice online basically says I've got mental cancer.
Idk, I really don't. I just know that one day, I had to leave all of that behind and never go back. I've never felt so degraded.
Constant negativity, feeling drained they repeat the same mistakes regardless of your advice.... cutting her off. Also, when I say I can’t hang out they guilt trip me. I guess I will just have to stop replying to their texts. That’s their only way in. I have been lying saying I’m out of town because I don’t want to hang out. My God....it’s going grey walk
Oh darling I stopped minding them and they texted saying how so mad they are and that I should respect them🤣🤯boy am not your wife and I thank the Good lord
Just ignore them and don’t look back.
It’s ashame it can be the very people who have been watching you for years that lowkey don’t want to see you do good. They can lie all they want but energy does NOT LIE. Remember that.
bro ive never really had a friend that stuck around in a true and genuine manor, most people i allow myself to be surrounded by basically try to control me and my feelings/thoughts. Its to a point where i almost became submitted to living that way: being told what to do in the smallest ways. But recently i cut off all of those types of relationships and im feeling much better, like i did almost 3 years ago and its WEIRD. But just wanted to say thank you for this ENTIRE video, the more i watched this the more i realized that ive allowed myself to become exactly what your describing. Its an ugly realization, but one that frees you to not only make healthy relationships again, but believe in yourself because the parasite is gone.
Good for you! Defend your boundaries s
man.. and if anybody crosses that line cut them off immediately- cuz if not, they'll continue doing it to see what they can get away with in the future.
Stop being a beta male then
I'm going through this now. I already started stepping away weeks ago and standing up for myself. The person is noticing. I will keep moving forward. Great things ahead. Anybody going through this, keeping moving forward for yourself. Love yourself enough to walk away from
toxicity.
The person is a narcissist who needs to be blocked from ur life.
Yes my life has been sooo peaceful ever since i cut any toxic people out!
I've cut friends out when they've gossiped, not been through major health issues, there was no reciprocity.
I needed to hear something like this. I just recently cut someone out. It hurt like hell cause I believed they were really there for me and I opened up to her about things I’ve never explained to anyone, things that barely come out with out tears or pain. I feel like she she was listening and she gave me a different vibe from everybody else. We did everything together even though she would bring me down about my body, the things I like, the way I talked, Etc. But I was so blinded by the thought of someone understanding me, who would also have fun with me , I couldn’t see the harm her words were doing to me, I just thought she was joking and would never do anything to hurt me because she was someone I was so vulnerable towards. They broke me down little by little. I never thought too hard into it till the people around me pointed it out and I realized they were right. I was hurt by so many things she said pointing out my insecurities And when I was at my lowest she was thriving off me being less than. And when I started to get to my highest place in life I’ve ever been, suddenly everything I did was wrong and wasn’t okay with her. I couldn’t not understand what was going through her head cause I was happy and it felt like she didn’t want me to be. I tried everything I thought of to fix things, and see what was going on. I got so tired of it one day I even asked her if she had a problem. I decided I was done feeling put down and taken advantage of. I’m not living my life by her rules or what’s not perfect about me. We all have flaws and I’ve just came to a place in my life where I am okay with not being perfect and not doing everything by the book. And I never want to hit rock bottom like that again so I will do anything I can to help myself keep going up and keep a clear head. And if that toxic relationship was something that was holding me back from that, then I was gonna have to let it go. It was so hard for me and it hurt me so much to have lost the one person I could tell everything to without feeling judged or ashamed, the one who I thought really wanted the best for me but I didn’t need the little things she said anymore, the things she would blame me for, or her making me feel bad about my mistakes. We learn from the past, not let it beat up our future. And I would tell her and let her know how it made me feel. She acted like she was sorry but then it would happen again. Eventually a person hits there limits and I decided ima fill my life with people who bring me up, who I can have fun with and make me be a better me. I am starting to love myself and like who I am. When u like yourself it makes it easier to like everyone else and have more good days. I have to be nicer to myself and not beat myself about everything she pointed out about me. It’s okay to not be Barbie or be everyone’s favorite person, cause everyone has already see that. Be something new and something you are proud of and hope everyone else can love it just as much. With out all the toxic words and comments flooding into your mind. The fog was lifted and everything got clearer when I put this person outside of my box. Even though it hurts, Sometimes that’s just what it takes to be in a good okay place in life and get the toxic out of your life so that you can grow into the best version of whoever you wanna be and reach everything you are looking for to make your life successful and meaningful. Hardest thing I’ve learned so far.
I'm literally speechless :) the whole time I was reading your comment it felt like it literally came out of my mind... I can't believe how your situation was similar to me because I have exactly the same kind of person in my life and after two years and a half I think I'm finally capable of letting her go even though I thought could die without her but I know she's only bringing me down and I deserve better... Honestly I only wanna keep good memories and just respect the relationship we had. thank you so much for sharing your experience💙
“You are the average of the 5 people you hang around with”
That part right there really hit hard. I needed that.
I needed this video. I have finally decided to let go of old time friend. Toxicity holds no place in my life :) im smiling and happy whilst typing this. Releif and weight off my shoulders.
How will you do it? Will you talk to them about it or will you just keep saying you’re busy?
I wanted to cut a relative from my life a long time ago, the most toxic , manipulative , always wanted to make me feel like garbage , but i kept giving her chances , there where a lot of them , too much , i gave her too much credit , trusted her , and she always kept braking it , until yesterday when i finally decided to block her forever and in real life too , if i am obliged to see her i'll just pretend i dont know who she is .
I feel you. My older sibling is like that. Always has been. I'm planning on cutting contact permanently with her. I'm just working towards getting a job in another state before I do it. That's the only way I'll feel free.
@@amit_patel654 i wish you luck !
I've done this too with a few people who I knew were bad for me....but, later on, I also realized that continuing to give them a chance isn't doing me any good, and constantly forgiving them could be enabling their bad behavior.
I cut people out of my life who are afraid of confrontation. Some people who I thought were close to, didn’t tell me my ex was cheating on me with someone within the social circle. I don’t respect people who won’t confront people when wrong doing is being committed right in front of them. Morals and principles matter.
I’m aaaaaaaaalways justifying myself. I don’t know why but 🤷🏻♀️
Same here
Same
Same to me. I am just lifeless for this reason
I'm starting 2021 by cutting off passive aggressive friends. ☺😁😎
When you shared that "these people are not aligned with my highest optimal living" those words just hit a cord in my heart. I stopped myself from crying, but the truth can cut like a knife. Especially when those ties are blood! 🙏 I am extremely greatful for your input and efforts made to produce this video.
I never wanted to search this either but this person in my life makes me feel like a piece of shit everytime I talk to them and im just sick of it. This video really through some insight at me. Thank you for making this
Glad it helped. And sending you my best wishes ❤
This certainly applies to my twin sister. And my mother. I have cut my sister completely out of my life. And cut my mother out of my life too.
True Blue I’ve been rid of my sister since April this year my life is so much better with out her. I also 14 years ago cut my mother out. It can be done and I encourage you to do this. I’m alone in this world but at least I’m living my own life. So go for it and kick her to the curb.
True Blue I just had to cut my bipolar ex out of my life. It was making my anxiety and depression much worse and even though we agreed to be friends, she just was there for others way more than she was for me. It sucks, but I think it was the right thing to do.
True Blue I really struggled with it but in the end, you have to put yourself first. Always.
True Blue For sure. It definitely makes it more difficult since I still have to see her here and there due to being co-workers, but life goes on.
I also cut out my sister and mom from my life. It’s very hard. Not because I miss them, because I don’t. I don’t at all. But because I want a mother and sister so badly. Kind and loving relationships. I’m lonely but I’m not constantly feeling the pain that I felt in their presence
Yea the guy I used to like is really toxic. EVERY TIME I text him he “has to go”. I’m gonna cut him out
staywickedlyfrosty !!!!!!!
That's mean he doesn't treasure you.
Same
Naturally. He just wasn't into you but he didnt have the heart to cut you out first :(
He is a coward and is toxic. You deserve better and I hope you find someone special and wonderful who fills you with love and not doubt or pain. 💗
It is my daughter, she has 4 almost grown children and has convinced them I am not worth knowing. This has happened just in the last 3 years, I am not a good enough...she insists we have an unhealthy relationship. This started in 2019 when I told her I was leaving the family home to her sister...
my “bestfriend” is so manipulative, unsupportive, controlling, etc. like i remember i got into a really good school and she didn’t even congratulate me all she said was how to pronounce the name of the school like girl what?!?! aren’t you supposed to be happy for me and i just found that so crazy and when i said i wanted to join the track team she was like “oh” . also she always asks me for stuff and not that i care abt money but like she spends my money and is like “i’ll pay you back” or “i feel bad for spending your money” like if you really did then you wouldn’t spend it?!?! it’s partly my fault i’m to nice to people i’m done being walked all over and also she is controlling like if i don’t do something for her she’ll get mad at me and give me attitude like she says she loves me but she doesn’t act like it. and whenever i act like myself around her she looks at me and is like “girl🤨” like that’s why i’m so insecure to be myself around people. and also ALL SHE DOES IS GOSSIP. literally she talks about everyone and about their flaws but who is she to judge?!?! she isn’t God. and to think she claims to be christian. her actions don’t show it. and let’s say we also hang out with someone else she totally forgets about me. she only hits me up when she needs something and i’m tired. i thank the Lord that we aren’t going to the same highschool. she emotionally drains me and i think i’m starting to become like her bc now i complain more then i usually did and i got it from her. i do NOT want to become like her. she is very toxic and manipulative. and she only is nice to me when i give her the stuff she wants. also when i try to vent and talk about my issues somehow the conversation goes to her? and her issues? it’s like i can’t get 2 sentences out without her saying “same” or “facts” or just changing the convo onto her issues. i’m so tired of her i’m done i really am. i am cutting her off for good. my old bestfriend warned me about her and i should have listened.
My life has changed since watching your videos. I have cut out every toxic person in my life. Now I’m flourishing! Thank you so much!
It felt so good cutting a negative person out.
what if you have no friends because you keep getting back stabbed, used and bread-crumbed? I choose alone over fake ass friends who end up hurting you. Many of us have learned to tolerate crap from childhood and predatory fake friends smell this. I am no longer accepting crap fakeness... as I said I prefer my own company. Thanks for your video! God bless!
Always feeling that I need to be prepared "just in case" my family "might" visit..... no more. I want to thrive. 🌻
I’m having a hard time because this person has done good things before.. but when it’s bad it’s so bad. They make me feel terrible about myself. I am always super anxious around them. I walk on eggshells. They’ve done kind things for me.
If they make u feel like that then they are not your friends myG 💯
The only way is to lend them money and let them get away with it. Works perfect 💯💯💯
Another EXCELLENT video talk. I learned these exact lessons you speak so wisely about years ago (I’m old lol) You are spot on, and I share this with my adult daughter and others because it is so important. We are social beings, and my life became a brighter, more hopeful life when the constant negative people I kindly moved on from were gone. I always thought but I won’t have any friends? I’ll be alone. I trusted my decision though, and into my life appeared positive, loving, kind and wise people out of nowhere!
There is nothing wrong being alone you made the best decision for yourself is to protect your well-being. Instead of dealing with any toxic people who will drain the life out of you and it can also effect your mental health, emotional and physical well being you made the right decision for yourself ❤
I never thought I'm gonna do this in my life. I'm emotionally and mentally became so drain for almost 2 years and now I have a courage to cut those people off in my life who've done this to me. They don't deserve me and I deserve better :")
When you see them and you are afraid. This is a sign.
Aweee that is so sweet to say don’t like and share this video , basically take care of yourself first
I had to cut ties with an alcoholic and addict friend. He was great sober, but it was short-lived. He gaslit me, never took accountability for his past criminal history. He continually betrayed me and now he’s upset with me for bringing up his behaviors and has no remorse or empathy. I initially felt guilty but I was there for him to take to the hospital to detox several times, and to counseling appointments. I’m sad because it’s as though he didn’t appreciate my friendship.
I tried to not give up on my friend, I want him to prosper with me, but for 2 years he kept rejecting my invitation to grow together. Now that I am started to grow and became more successful on my own, he started to cling trying to let me stay (he's usually the one who gets annoyed for staying by his side) but I don't wanna stay but leave to grow. I have no choice and ended up cutting our friendship. I never knew ending our friendship would relieve me this much I kinda feel guilty, but without him on my life was such a blessing. Lesson, dicern your situation and cut them off early if you noticed they started to bring you down and that you don't enjoy each other's company anymore.
I agree. But sometime trying to set boundaries isn't enough; the relationship must be dissolved. Some people are more than happy to spit on your boundaries and mock you for them. The only answer is to be rid of such people entirely in those cases.
I learned the hard way that I need to remove toxic people(toxic family members, workers, even ex-"friends") from my life.
A lot of them don't even want to admit that they're toxic at first. Sometimes it's just a good thing to let them know that this is not the right way to treat people...by walking away.
They'd apologize, and go back to how they were before. Drastic times calls for drastic measures.
I never thought I'll have so many toxic frnds around but i do noww sooo.....
Cutting them out
I have a friend that gets jealous if I just speak to or call someone a friend. Btw, I’m 47 (I’m blind) & she’s over 65 (she has severe lupus). I’ve tried everything for a year, as she fought and trashed all my friends. She never has anything good to say. She’s always a bully and ALWAYS right. I kept “glass 1/2 full”, thinking she’d adjust a little once she’s been in my apartment building for a year. It’s been over a year, and she currently has a personal protection order AGAINST her because she bullied someone (my next door neighbor, who’s in a wheelchair!) to the point of reasonable fear. She basically “broke up with me” last evening. She said I’m a bad friend because I’m struggling with severe anorexia. Really?! All eating disorders thrive on negativity about yourself. She knows that, yet she decided to end it despite that. I even apologized! For having severe anorexia! I’ve been gaslighted again, I suppose. I plan to move soon so I never have to deal with her again. It’s still hard to see a friendship fail, though.
I moved 900 miles to get away from a toxic friend. Friend followed me and lives one block away from me.
My cousins ask me to drink with them everyday, i say no and they keep calling and texting and in person they nag and nag!!! I have my own business and i cant get to work on time bc i end up giving in and i havent had a full weeks pay bc i have them around to manipulate me, they are my roommates!!!! Im fed up of i have to ill sleep in my truck
Do what you gotta to do to unlock your full greatness bruh
I removed a toxic figure from my life today. A personal tragedy occurred in my life and it made me really look at the people who allegedly have my back, as well as years of isolated acts of violence and harassment. Enough was enough. Who knows how they will react, half expecting a knock on the door but feel liberated that I stood up to this particular bully. 32 years I’ve thought that I needed to show this person compassion and that I wasn’t good enough to move on, turns out I just needed to stand up for myself . I hope others can find the courage, this life is short please don’t allow these toxic people to control you. Some people just can’t be saved, look after yourselves. Great video, thank you 🙏
Thank you so much. You said it best... " they will aggrivate their feelings towards you because of their own insecurities and jealousy.
A few months ago I decided to just cut some people out of my life, deleted their number and blocked them. Not exactly toxic but not truly friends. I've been a loner all my life and I just can't see them in my life.
I find it funny when you had enough of their garbage, and yet the people around you consider you a "negative" person because you've had enough of the BS.
Thanks. The first "sign" hit hard, and that is what I'm going through with this so-called 'home health aid' who is causing me a great deal of hopelessness, anger, and distrust with her manipulative and controlling behavior.
Thank you.
I tried to cope with toxic & negative family members and friends. for nearly 20 plus years. I'm done with them. I made a decision and I feel mentally healthier than I ever have.
I needed this... I don't want negativity anymore
I'm such a fool, I seen and ignored the signs....
And hanged around to hear the hurtful words.
Some people need to help so badly they will help you break yourself just so they can come to the rescue. They seem empathic and helpful. I love the idea of considering whether they are in alignment with your best (10/10) self. That really helps when those toxic in your life are viewed as saints by others in your life.
Thank You! I walked out of a toxic, narcissistic family three years ago having lived and born among them. I was damaged and spiritually bruised. I am healing slowly Alone. New people are coming into my life now who match my energy. I am not angry or resentful anymore on anyone now. Your advice is valuable.
I am glad that she is now out of my life I am now free thnku for this video
I want better and I will continue to do better and be with better people instead of ppl that are stuck going no where.
Um I’m struggling with depression and it’s good to have a friend to vent to. It hurt me a bit to hear you say that ....
Here after removing toxic people 🙂
Doing this to have a GREAT 2021. Thanks brother🙏🏿
I smiled when you mentioned sadhguru😊. I’m alone and have about zero people around me which is much healthier. I cut people off who disrespect me repeatedly with words and actions, idc if they’re my family members. I would talk a lot less with family members, if they ask me why, I let them know so they won’t continue this behavior with others hopefully.
So glad I found you. I kept saying, "Yes!" as you spoke. Thankfully, I've already cut ties with this person in my life. But your video just proves to me that I did the right thing.
That's my overbearing and not respecting my boundaries mom. Everyday my resentment grows and grows more to the point I will completely cut her off my life FOREVER and never take care of her at the old age. I'm not an accessory.
Thanks a million for the advice. I have a sister that loves to control my life. I have to cut ties. It's hard but she is making my life unbearable to live. I have to let her go.
a person from school called me shitbag three times and always was so toxic. to me, I play videogames with my friend he ends up joining. the rude person mostly. this rude person has ADHD. but the way he acts is by heart, it's not like every time I see him he's gonna act rude only sometimes they act impulsively. and today he was saying curse words and I have now unfriended him. I feel so much happier he was a cyberbully. who was called a "friend"
sometimes you do have to make ur point,by stepping away from people who ur unhappy around,if you feel better without them,maybe you did the right thing
been cutting off people left and right
The first tip breaks me in million pieces. I want to break ties with my partner rn bcos she's so manipulative and thinks of herself too much. She invalidate my mental health which makes me feel shit all the time. Idk how to cut ties with her :'(
Brother I have just done this man. It’s tough and will be to begin with but make sure you have support around you and just listen to yourself and what you need . Time will heal brother take care !
If your are my best friend and you come to me bragging that you're hanging around my foes you have to go!!! I don't care that you hang out with them, but it's disrespectful to come in my business and rub it on my face!! Periodt!!!
I never commented on TH-cam. 39 M here, very manly and you made me drop some tears man. What a great video. It touched my core. Thank you
Thank you 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💛
I finally cut my toxic cousin off today, I’m just doing what’s best for me for once, it’s going take me time to get over it, but at least I don’t have to deal with her nomore.
Yes set boundaries and protect yourself from any toxic people even family who doesn't mean you any good
I have moved all toxic people out of my life. When I am around somebody, and I sense a red flag going up...I know this one is not good for me.
Wowww, thanks for a great video. 2020 has been a year of dropping toxic people for me & I'm just going to to keep the momentum going in 2021. Who else experienced the same?
How am I supposed to cut someone out when I can’t afford to move out with them
Carter Folley
Knowing others is wisdom.
Knowing yourself is enlightenment.
Don't become the slave of your emotion.
Make decision. Have determination.
Never cry for that person who doesn't know the value of your tears.
*Accept that you are not important to some people and move on* .
Work towards changing your position, and cut them off once you move out.
My parents are abusive, and I'm working towards being able to move out, so I don't have to deal with them. Wether that means rarely speaking or never
Decide wether or not it's wise to tell them in advance. It might backfire
And surround yourself with people that support you moving into a diverent house then that person, and who will encourage you
I needed this. I’m bi (I’m female. not open to most). I met this girl. I loved her. She loved me. We were talking for 3 months. She met my bestfriend (who’s a guy, she’s bi as well) I started meds for my depression around this time and it fucked me around. We were none stop arguing. I was always jealous and paranoid she was talking to my bestfriend and one of her other friends. She ended up dropping me. Said she loves me but we need time to work on ourself. Two days later her and my bestfriend start dating. I was shattered. It’s been a month now. I have tried to get past it as much as I can. We’re all friends now. But now she’s closer with the second guy now. She’s still dating my ‘bestfriend’. I’m always starting the convosations. I’m always checking up on her. Making sure she’s eaten. Making sure she’s ok. I bend my back for her. I stay up super late just to make sure she’s ok. She never checks up on me. She knows my life problems. But she makes me feel like shit. She doesn’t say or do certain things to make me feel bad. Just being around her. She priorities certain friends. I’m at the bottom of her list. After always making sure she’s ok. Always supporting her. Even when she had no one else. She treats me like I’m nothing. I carry all of our convos. She hardly tries. Why do I try? Because I love her and I want the best for her. She means a lot to me. But I’m at the point that my mental health is copping the brunt of it all. I still get upset about the whole situation of her leading me on and leaving me for my bestfriend. I’ve been having a low week. But after watching this. It feels like weight has been lifted off my shoulders. You don’t know me or my situation. But you just get what people go through and what they need to hear. Thank you. I’ve been wanting to cut her off. But i could never bring myself to it.
You’re a fool then
Don't cut her off just back off either she will pick up the ball or she won't. Love from a distance!!
I hope everything's good at your end, stay safe out there. You didn't deserve that treatment, I would've treated you with respect and spoiled you if I was her, sucks that she didn't care at the end.
@@hunt7533 November 2021 was when we parted ways. I’ve been feeling so much better without her in my life. As shitty as that sounds. I’m not angry anymore nor am I bothered by the way she treated me. It’s literally like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders since we stopped being friends. I look back now and only wish I had of done that sooner. I only hope to find people who truely deserve me. I always stay by peoples side even if they walk all over me. I feel like I can breathe clearly again 😊
I've been having those problems lately too, where people have been ignoring my text messages and avoiding interaction in-person. It's hard looking for friendship and meeting new people. Moving on is difficult...especially when having trust issues!
1) They are controlling, abusive and manipulative
Is it normal that 99% of those are around me ?
That’s pretty much how we all feel.
I cant stand my relatives. Esp my cousin she is so jealous anything I say good she turns into a negative. She is so insecure because of her weight. The thing that hurts me the most with these women in my family is that i was in an abusive relationship that led to having a child.Later, My ex turned my son against me. All I hear from those women in my family is I gave my son away. I hate them and dont care to revisit the pain again . its been many years. I get better understanding from strangers. I'm over them I'm at a major crossroad to cut them off completely. I feel like they have something to do with suicides with sone of my cousins. They seem to be disappointed that they cant get to me. I stay away from them.Ugh I cant stand them.Lord help,me . I want to burn my emotional ties. Imagine me being at work and a coworker I dont know ask me if I know her(my cousin) ,I SAID NO. Lol Good video!
I had moved back home to save money but I’m MISERABLE here. I decided as soon as the lease is up I’m leaving and I’m cutting off my brother and I will distance myself from my mother but check up on her sometimes. My mom is very abusive as well. My brother is a TRIGGER to me as well. I want him out of my life. I’m also dealing with depression, anxiety, and I can’t sleep at night because of my toxic mother and brother.
Thanks! The person I’m cutting out is really fading away, thank god! 😅
You deserve so much love omg
without action knowledge is useless,anyone can learn anything if they try hard enough but if they dont act upon it,its purely worthless
Thanks for this video i always cried myself to sleep just for one person and i feel so relieved now my question is do u have to notify them wen u want to cut them off
Cynthia namps
No need to notify them. If you notify them, they may thinking that you are threatening them.
Cynthia you just gradually gravitate away. I'm doing it with toxic people now. Be well!
I’m watching this because I’m planning on cutting a 4 year friendship. This person hates when I set boundaries, and thinks I’m being selfish to them. I am slowly trying to be more open to him on why I do some of the things he dislikes without also being toxic back, and been slowly distancing myself from him and letting things flow naturally after I did force a lot of things.
I don’t think holding on to a friendship like a thread, or chipped nail is worth it anymore, and I feel bad for this idea but it might be more healthy for both of us.
We had many good memories together which makes it hard for me to let go but I know I can, if I continue the effort. Many people won’t see this but that’s okay because I just wanted to let this out.
I'm getting away from my mother, she complains about the little things and argues every night
So many people out there unfortunately, who are just awful.... distance yourselves if you can ❤️
I had 1 friend I was comfortable with that I could literally talk about anything with and have no awkward silences. The bad things about is he was just toxic to other people and I realized I started to pick up on that energy and say bad things to people as a habit too. I just had to cut this person outta my life and right now I couldn't be more happier I love doing things that I love to do without the fear of being judged like exercising, meditating or playing badminton with my brother. Getting toxic people out of your life is the first step to getting happier.
I needed this my brother, I feel better now✌✌
It's scary how none of the people close to me are aligned with my mindset, I don't know what to do
My friends are online friends and i feel nothing but depressed and anxious around them now. 1 of them has made so many empty promises and the other disguises insults as jokes. I’m slowly removing them from my life and I’m scared because I’ve had this happen before and it wasn’t easy for me to do and idk how to do it again
Could you please explain what you actually do. What are the steps of cutting someone out of your life. Do you talk to them or do you ghost them? I’ve had a friend since childhood but I don’t want her in my life anymore. How do I do it?
Something a lot of u don’t understand is what if that “toxic” person had a horrible up bringing what if they try hard to be good people but can’t stop doing the things they grew up doing or seeing my wife saw the good in me even though iam the biggest asshole out there. Because my wife loved me and put effort into being with me I have made changes to my life so I’m not constantly causing issues and being more productive than destructive. If you love someone don’t just give up on them cause they aren’t the exact person u want if u put effort into it there’s a chance that the person u fell for may be the person u stay with yes u could just try to find someone else and I recommend that if they are physically violent but if they are and u want to be with them try hard to get them to change their lives my wife did and now I’m a much better person with goals and dream when just a few years ago that wasn’t the case.
Cutting my half sister out my life and I don't feel bad about it
Wow, listening to this I'm realizing how thankful I am for the people in my life and for my inner wisdom. Thank you.
He’s describing my brother. He’s been abusive and I do mean abusive to me since we were children. Recently he was being unkind and I started crying right on the spot. I was honest and told him he has been making me cry all my life and he said he didn’t care. This is a guy who sexually molested me as a little girl and who stabbed me with a fork once, breaking the skin and leaving a scar. He’s really dangerous in many ways. His emotional abuse is to the extreme.
I’m glad the comment section is learning to be okay with being alone
Thank you so much for your videos . Your videos helped me get through a tragic heartbreak but by actually listening to what you say u help me day by day and just thank you for being an amazing and inspirational person 💯
A pleasure to be that voice & guide at this time for you man. Keep going
I'm literally at the point that I'm wearing headphones all day.