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It’s a definition that people like to obsess over but really it boils down to guys who are either worth your trouble or not, whatever title it is you want to give them.
I learned this lesson at 18. Always surround yourself with friends that are on a purposeful path, friends that will tell you the truth then lift you up. These friends are very rare. But they last a lifetime.
For me these are signs of fake friends :- 1> Only calls and messages you when he or she has some work from you. 2> always look down upon you. 3> jealous of you. 4> not happy with your success. 5> berates your achievement. 6> always tries to put you down. 7> gets offended when you joke with him or her but okay for them to do that. 8> fights over small things. 9> makes you feel inferior.
I used to hang around with a guy that has all these points and it's basically narcissism. Thought it would be a good idea to be friends with him again when I came back home so exchanged a few emails, but I'm glad that he didn't reply back to me when I sent the last one because I completely changed my mind.
@@SDRockman No need to send any emails also friend. These kind of people don't deserve your attention. Treat them how they treat you or else ignore them.
Biggest one for me is they catch-up but only when you are doing bad in life. If life knocked them on their ass they call you so they can feel better about themselves.
People are like junk food. For a while, you'll be Ok, but eventually, it'll catch up with you and mess you up. Quality people will enhance your life, and good food will enhance your health. Choose better.
Two things should be mentioned. 1. Learn to be a good judge of character instead of just "giving up on people" which is beta and weak. Learn to avoid clowns. 2. Avoid people who are always looking to meet or become friends with someone they think is better than the last guy. The type whos always trying to be in every circle and be friendsl with every person who appears to have status and money. Theyre leaches. They will leave you in the dust. Theyre usually self centered and egotistical as well.
That is why the planet sucks. Dog eat dog , rarely anyone trying to help each other. I want to have offspring, but it seems malicious to bring children into this world .
Excellent video, Im 50 years old I wish someone had told me this in my 20s, went through some tough times giving so called friends the benefit of the doubt!!
Ha , this right here! I'm in my twenties and I have advised myself. I realised I had no peace in this relation. Thank you for reinforcing this idea. I covered one's back but he'll never do mine. Giving him the benefit of the doubt anytime people pointed made him out to be fake.
I think a lot of people confuse friends with people they just happen to spend time with. Most people I've known in my life have definitely fallen into the second category. Am in my late forties now and while there are some people I spend time with, I have no friends. And I think there's a lot of other men my age who could say exactly the same thing.
exactly same here!! i have people that I spend time with, but ya, I don't have anyone I'd call my friend. for sure.. im 39 as well.. came to this realization last few years
The whole “let’s be friends” thing is for chicks and high school/college kids. Grown men have acquaintances and associates through work or other mutual interests. Sometimes proximity plays into it such as with neighbor buddies or guys you know from drinking beer at the local watering hole, but these guys come and go and are rarely close confidant material. Sometimes they are even legitimate bozos that need to be cut loose.
A huge factor in how I stopped drinking and going to bars. But it killed the "social networking part." I guess that's the sacrifice. I hope that isn't going to be worse. But when I was hanging out at bars I didn't learn anything that helped in life anyway. Drinking didn't make these zombies any smarter.@@BrandonLeech
I've come to the conclusion that chasing friends doesn't work and that most friendships are transactional. The less you can offer, the less people want to be around you. As for families, what do you do if you've had an abusive family and you have no social support net ?
That would be the exception . You can choose your friends but not family , but if push comes to shove and those family are screwing you up then you have to learn to make the tough calls in life sometimes
Spot on as always Rich. I thought a family friend was alright until he followed my then gf into a bathroom and SA'd her while I was talking to his wife! Was convicted for sending him to the hospital bleeding from the ears. I've been hypervigilant on vetting dudes ever since.
@@Hawkeyes319 I was charged with aggravated assault, plead guilty to assault, got a year probation. I actually just got a pardon a few years ago. I learned a lot of lessons about who I bring around the women in my circle.
Sorry to hear that man. Nowadays it be me & my gf hanging at our place with our dogs. It’s too much of a gamble inviting people into your home when they change like the wind blows
This is what I have been waiting to talk about. Yeah it can suck getting the wrong girl or messing up because you don't have a masculine frame but fake friends don't leave and are a freakn nightmare. They just stick around and sabotage the living crap out of you and don't know whats going on. This lesson was way more painful than any girl leaving me. This one messed me up the most. I lost all trust in people and still don't trust to this day. I leveled up and went hard on making money so I could surround myself with financial protection. Building my own community that I could ban people from if they tried that crap again. If you don't have a masculine frame with your friends they will give you the beta carpet treatment as well.
That kid who jumped off the boat in the Bahamas didn’t have one friend to try and stop him. Men don’t become better friends as we age for a variety of reasons so that story was a telling dose of reality
When we are young, we get taken advantage of and used by both genders. This is because we are young and naïve. But these experiences are a necessary part of life to help us become who we are now. I regret my marriage because it turned out so bad but I learned a lot. Now I consider it the price I had to pay to understand what can happen if I choose poorly. That was on me. Same goes for friends. I have to be comfortable with who I am, and understand myself well enough to recognize the difference between an acquaintance, a friend and a true friend.
I had a supposed friend of over 20 years.... Then he got married.. The end !!! Haven't seen or heard from him since... I don't know why guy's do that..
One thing school taught me early on was to never consider someone your friend til you see how they interact around other people. A good number of people live through facades or “steal” personalities of people they see on tv or who they admire. So when women come around does your friend change his persona or the way he talks or even start to drag you to make himself appear better than you? That’s a bad friend. I recall in junior high I was talking to the sisters of a kid I just met, they were at least 2 yrs older & I wasn’t acting weird or hitting on them & out of nowhere the kid sneaks up behind me & slaps me dead in the face. I thought my nose was broken. We got into a fight & a week later we made up. But then he did some other bullshit that made me question him. Pass forward to high school we changed schools & we didn’t see each other much. So recently he kept adding me on fb trying to look up in the last few yrs but seeing how he was as a kid, I don’t want to chance meeting him as an adult & finding out rather he got worse or not.
An easy way to weed out snakes in the grass is to simply observe how they treat and speak about other people. I had this one friend who was always real buddy like when I was with him but he had a habit of talking bad about other people. I then found out that he talked about me the same way when he was with the people he was talking bad about while with me! Always stirring the pot.
When you realise you are the only one instigating the dialogue, knowing deep down that if you didn’t, you’d never hear from them again. Or moving out of town and no longer round the corner and so they ditch your arse….
Sexual desire and ego management is a key determinant on weather I spend time with a person or not. People that hook up with married women, pass. People that will joke about you to get a cheap laugh in a group, kick them to the curbside. People that lie, Evan the smallest lie, kick them to the curbside.
Interesting. You are right, libido aka sexual desire is a very efficient guide to know if someone is worth spending time with or not. I ll now only hang out with people I am sexually attracted to( even though I dont interact sexually with them, cause I am homo, and most men I know are straight). Nice advice thank you.
Rich I gotta admit sth. I'm currently doing my MA in the UK, but I can definitely say I've been learning from you a lot more than some of my lecturers and other stuff I've done for my degree. First off, you're so articulate and I love your accent. Second, you're literally giving life hints a man can never find anywhere else unless he's been through all those ups and downs and got red pilled by life itself. I believe one needs to have been through a certain degree of challenges to truly see your points and put the jigsaw pieces together in their mind to see the whole picture, though. Thanks for everything man and keep it up.
I recently almost got screwed over by a fake best friend of 20 years. Guy nearly made me sign a rental lease on a car and apartment. All it took was to live with him so we could save money post college and all his negative traits/fake anxiety "muh depression" started to show. This guy is right. Put you and the VIP "friend" you want to vet out constantly in situations where their true personality is put to the test and you will see the cracks. If you have to make excuses to yourself for their idiotic behavior/mentality or low confidence personality you need to back off of them. They are not worth it. It could take them their whole life to get over the fact that they need to realize the world doesn't revolve around them.
Good Word. Thank you Rich, for sharing your Wisdom and Understanding. If you don't stand for something, you fall for anything. That is part of emotional maturity. Youcdesign your life, what's left. You set your Standards. Bad and fake friends corrupts all your hard word. Developing good character is the new focus. Intention.
A true friend is usually there when you experience most of the emotions of life. Good friends are rare. I'm 60 and now with to few and feel it's to late.
I agree 100% I let go a friend because of his questionable behavior and how he treat other people especially his own friends. I figured it’s just a matter of time before this person start treating me the same way. I absolutely had to distance myself from him
I have learnt to love my own company and never needed friends since. Some put up with people because they need that social element. Get a dog. I have 22. They never let you down.
My grandfather told me once that in your entire life you will only have one or two close got your butt no matter what those friends will have your back
I had a friend who I dont associate at all anymore, but he always had these fantasies of banging chicks, models, actresses and any P*n stars as if it was the easiest thing in the world with only $15 (broke mentality). That alone tells you his budgets in life. He constantly loses his job and will ask me for money and complain that me living abroad is not a real way of living. Im like, you are insulting my life style yet you are asking me for money? GTFOH go ask your roomates, I mean parents for money 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Rich, The luggage reference is significant to my circumstance. My wife and I went on a coastal holiday in our first year of marriage. Nice trip and very relaxed. We were taking turns going in and out of the water as we had a 6 month old. Before she went in she gave me her RayBans to hold so they wouldn't get wet. When it was my turn, I forgot they were there and didn't realise they went missing. Well she went nuclear and had a virtual break down. I was stunned and no reasoning made a difference. It was a present from her dad,never had many nice things blah blah. I knew I hadn't done anything wrong and I launched back at her. The whole trip home was quite on my end and I couldn't get past the behaviour that was displayed. Stuck with me and had contemplated leaving her then and there. Fast forward 25 years we are now separated pending divorce. Dad issues and red flags all over the place. I wasn't blind to them as I brought it to her attention regularly,but never pulled the trigger...paying for it now.
There's two things that you can do with an anchor: you can bring it up to the boat in order to move forward. Or .... you can cut it fucking loose. The power to choose is still in your hands.
Super vid! Got me questioning my friendship skills and where I stand on the spectrum you laid out. Deep thoughts, man! Might consider using your criteria as I prune my Facebook "pals" soon. 'Cause you know what's the biggest letdown? When folks around you totally drop the ball or embody those negative traits you mentioned. Appreciate ya, buddy!
A month ago i decided to don't talk to my friend anymore,, he's lazy, simp, always make bad move, doesn't listen to make him accountable toward his action, and destroy my Vehicle sparepart that i lend to him.. How can i trust him meanwhile he was like that?
Man, I’m 20 and I’m having my first experience with a friend who totally betrayed my trust and ethics as a person. He slept with my younger sister. He didn’t even confront me about it, our buddy did. He’s also now with a 16 year old who just turned 16. He’s 20.. it’s not horrible but it still disgusts me in my eyes. It’s hard to let go of a friend i’ve known so closely since 5th grade. At the same time when I look into his eyes I truly feel hate towards him. Quite conflicting. Thought he had my back for so long, only to find out he only had his own.
I started Carnivore, and I had been doing very well. My friends including my husband delight in offering me foods that tempt me. I failed myself again. But I keep trying!
Become high value and you'll attract friends. Yes, friendships are transactional for the most part. You can't create close non-transactional emotional ties with more than 2 people.
Become high value and you’ll attract more dudes (and chicks) that just see something to be gained for themselves by getting into your good graces. It doesn’t get any easier to find good people to be around the older and farther up the food chain you get.
I've never thought I had a lot of friends, but through Trial & Error it's gotten to the point where re-defining who my true friends are and the many who are acquaintances. Not hating on the latter, but perspective helps clarify who's who. What time to invest in time with a friend VS not wasting time on acquaintances. What concerns me now all the more is if a friend actually isn't for me growing / becoming more successful. When it comes to a serious step of progress is my friend FOR me even if it means he doesn't grow himself? That kind of selflessness mattera a LOT to me. Envy can happen, I value accountability and forgiveness, having a conflict to work it out, but if that friend does not care to face himself and own that character flaw, then it might mean we go our separate ways.
I am the guy who is a fantastic friend. Loyal and extremely trustworthy on all levels. I am the kind of friend I have never been able to find for myself. I have confronted my friends about stuff they would do behind my back only to be met with a ship load of lies. Kicked to the curb. Their need to do what they were doing outweighed their friendship. Bad character. Friends need to be tested early.
It's always what others "Do" with what You teach them about You that can make You the most bitter when all has been said and done. Choosing Wisdom over pleasure should speak "Volumes" that's worth the "Read". Women today are simply Easier targets to blame because they've become so Obvious in their exploits. Unfortunately culture now teaches a warped sense of Independence where EVERYONE is being encouraged from the womb the fastest way to become "The best version of Self" is by managing the advantages they Hold over others. Friends intentionally don't look to do You harm because of what they DO know about your true weaknesses. Finding those You can trust with the DETAILS of Your dreams is rare.
Ive followed RC's videos and advice for a while now, and i have yet to find fault. It is exceptionally difficult to find, "genuine people" anymore, yet alone motivated people. I think alot of men have had the drive to excell beaten from them, i find this reflected in the men i see day in, day out. I could give numerous examples, but i won't. I am finding it easier just to be by myself, as the advice about sails and anchors is good advice. Just one for Rich Cooper directly, can you please start uploading these onto Locals. You have an account, so it would be nice to see this there, then i can escape YT.
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Most of the friends that you believe you have are actually friendly acquaintances, not friends.
Or drinking buddies
I have only one friend and it's the creator of the universe
@@LeeAdrian777 - There’s always someone who’s up for getting high but, not getting their hands dirty.
It’s a definition that people like to obsess over but really it boils down to guys who are either worth your trouble or not, whatever title it is you want to give them.
True. I haven't seen most of my Facebook friends IRL for years!!
I learned this lesson at 18. Always surround yourself with friends that are on a purposeful path, friends that will tell you the truth then lift you up. These friends are very rare. But they last a lifetime.
Honest question: do you trust your girl with them?
What happens when they all leave/gone?
@@RiazKhan-el9nhfind new ones
For me these are signs of fake friends :-
1> Only calls and messages you when he or she has some work from you.
2> always look down upon you.
3> jealous of you.
4> not happy with your success.
5> berates your achievement.
6> always tries to put you down.
7> gets offended when you joke with him or her but okay for them to do that.
8> fights over small things.
9> makes you feel inferior.
I used to hang around with a guy that has all these points and it's basically narcissism.
Thought it would be a good idea to be friends with him again when I came back home so exchanged a few emails, but I'm glad that he didn't reply back to me when I sent the last one because I completely changed my mind.
@@SDRockman No need to send any emails also friend. These kind of people don't deserve your attention. Treat them how they treat you or else ignore them.
That's why I don't have friends
@@GlenroseMakgorogo same here
Biggest one for me is they catch-up but only when you are doing bad in life.
If life knocked them on their ass they call you so they can feel better about themselves.
Wasted years on the wrong types of friendship :
You are your only friend 😊
Same here. I agree completely
sad but true
Absolutely. That's where I'm at.
Best thing because no one has your best interests
Me too. I agree with you.❤
If you get two real friends your doing better than most.
People are like junk food. For a while, you'll be Ok, but eventually, it'll catch up with you and mess you up. Quality people will enhance your life, and good food will enhance your health. Choose better.
good message 👍
Word!!!
Two things should be mentioned. 1. Learn to be a good judge of character instead of just "giving up on people" which is beta and weak. Learn to avoid clowns. 2. Avoid people who are always looking to meet or become friends with someone they think is better than the last guy. The type whos always trying to be in every circle and be friendsl with every person who appears to have status and money. Theyre leaches. They will leave you in the dust. Theyre usually self centered and egotistical as well.
I can't stand hanging out with people. If not with my son, I'd rather be alone.
Best way to go !!! As a real woman this is so me !!!
Find those alike
That is why the planet sucks. Dog eat dog , rarely anyone trying to help each other. I want to have offspring, but it seems malicious to bring children into this world .
Nice Father!
Im on my own 99% of the time because most people are tiring.
Be the type of friend you want to have and it will sort itself out.
Deep
Excellent video, Im 50 years old I wish someone had told me this in my 20s, went through some tough times giving so called friends the benefit of the doubt!!
I'm 51 Dave, I know exactly how you feel.
You're not the only one, been there.
Ha , this right here! I'm in my twenties and I have advised myself. I realised I had no peace in this relation. Thank you for reinforcing this idea.
I covered one's back but he'll never do mine. Giving him the benefit of the doubt anytime people pointed made him out to be fake.
Eagles fly alone. Pigeons flock together. 🤷🏻♂️
If you are your only friend then your always the alpha.
Where Eagles fly - Sammy hagar
… & chickens too
Nice I'm gunna use that
either a seagull or an eagle
A fairweather friend will tell you what you WANT to hear but a real friend will tell you what you NEED to hear
Foul Weather friend
I think a lot of people confuse friends with people they just happen to spend time with. Most people I've known in my life have definitely fallen into the second category. Am in my late forties now and while there are some people I spend time with, I have no friends. And I think there's a lot of other men my age who could say exactly the same thing.
exactly same here!! i have people that I spend time with, but ya, I don't have anyone I'd call my friend. for sure.. im 39 as well.. came to this realization last few years
42 here .the same .
The whole “let’s be friends” thing is for chicks and high school/college kids. Grown men have acquaintances and associates through work or other mutual interests. Sometimes proximity plays into it such as with neighbor buddies or guys you know from drinking beer at the local watering hole, but these guys come and go and are rarely close confidant material. Sometimes they are even legitimate bozos that need to be cut loose.
A huge factor in how I stopped drinking and going to bars. But it killed the "social networking part." I guess that's the sacrifice. I hope that isn't going to be worse. But when I was hanging out at bars I didn't learn anything that helped in life anyway. Drinking didn't make these zombies any smarter.@@BrandonLeech
That's why I don't have friends
"God protect me from my friends, I can take care of my enemies." - Voltaire
I've come to the conclusion that chasing friends doesn't work and that most friendships are transactional. The less you can offer, the less people want to be around you. As for families, what do you do if you've had an abusive family and you have no social support net ?
I guess you have to relay on God
@@djzrobzombie2813 hasn't worked so far unfortunately.
That would be the exception . You can choose your friends but not family , but if push comes to shove and those family are screwing you up then you have to learn to make the tough calls in life sometimes
Learn to embrace being alone. Gather knowledge from different sources. Embrace what’s useful. Discard what isn’t.
… find a good supportive & safe friends
As a woman, it was great to hear from a man's perspective.
Definitely an eye opener
Don't be loyal to an underhanded friend. Once you find out leave him or her be.
If you can't find these types of dudes that have the character as described by Rich, stand alone. SIGMA MALE.
Yikes, lol
What’s up with the zealotry?
When their words don't align with their actions. Big red flag.
Spot on as always Rich. I thought a family friend was alright until he followed my then gf into a bathroom and SA'd her while I was talking to his wife! Was convicted for sending him to the hospital bleeding from the ears. I've been hypervigilant on vetting dudes ever since.
@RichCooperClips12 I'm not sure how, I tried Telegram but some guy wanted to sell cryptocurrency lol.
You got a felony for that? That's messed up.
@@Hawkeyes319 I was charged with aggravated assault, plead guilty to assault, got a year probation. I actually just got a pardon a few years ago. I learned a lot of lessons about who I bring around the women in my circle.
Sorry to hear that man. Nowadays it be me & my gf hanging at our place with our dogs. It’s too much of a gamble inviting people into your home when they change like the wind blows
This is what I have been waiting to talk about. Yeah it can suck getting the wrong girl or messing up because you don't have a masculine frame but fake friends don't leave and are a freakn nightmare. They just stick around and sabotage the living crap out of you and don't know whats going on. This lesson was way more painful than any girl leaving me. This one messed me up the most. I lost all trust in people and still don't trust to this day. I leveled up and went hard on making money so I could surround myself with financial protection. Building my own community that I could ban people from if they tried that crap again. If you don't have a masculine frame with your friends they will give you the beta carpet treatment as well.
I dont need friends.
That kid who jumped off the boat in the Bahamas didn’t have one friend to try and stop him. Men don’t become better friends as we age for a variety of reasons so that story was a telling dose of reality
When we are young, we get taken advantage of and used by both genders. This is because we are young and naïve. But these experiences are a necessary part of life to help us become who we are now. I regret my marriage because it turned out so bad but I learned a lot. Now I consider it the price I had to pay to understand what can happen if I choose poorly. That was on me. Same goes for friends. I have to be comfortable with who I am, and understand myself well enough to recognize the difference between an acquaintance, a friend and a true friend.
I had a supposed friend of over 20 years.... Then he got married.. The end !!! Haven't seen or heard from him since... I don't know why guy's do that..
BETA!
One thing school taught me early on was to never consider someone your friend til you see how they interact around other people.
A good number of people live through facades or “steal” personalities of people they see on tv or who they admire. So when women come around does your friend change his persona or the way he talks or even start to drag you to make himself appear better than you? That’s a bad friend.
I recall in junior high I was talking to the sisters of a kid I just met, they were at least 2 yrs older & I wasn’t acting weird or hitting on them & out of nowhere the kid sneaks up behind me & slaps me dead in the face. I thought my nose was broken. We got into a fight & a week later we made up. But then he did some other bullshit that made me question him. Pass forward to high school we changed schools & we didn’t see each other much. So recently he kept adding me on fb trying to look up in the last few yrs but seeing how he was as a kid, I don’t want to chance meeting him as an adult & finding out rather he got worse or not.
This is great solid video brother. All the way from Jamaica 🇯🇲 one love ❤. Continue uplifting people out here bro 👊🏽
An easy way to weed out snakes in the grass is to simply observe how they treat and speak about other people. I had this one friend who was always real buddy like when I was with him but he had a habit of talking bad about other people. I then found out that he talked about me the same way when he was with the people he was talking bad about while with me! Always stirring the pot.
When you realise you are the only one instigating the dialogue, knowing deep down that if you didn’t, you’d never hear from them again. Or moving out of town and no longer round the corner and so they ditch your arse….
Sexual desire and ego management is a key determinant on weather I spend time with a person or not. People that hook up with married women, pass. People that will joke about you to get a cheap laugh in a group, kick them to the curbside. People that lie, Evan the smallest lie, kick them to the curbside.
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Interesting.
You are right, libido aka sexual desire is a very efficient guide to know if someone is worth spending time with or not.
I ll now only hang out with people I am sexually attracted to( even though I dont interact sexually with them, cause I am homo, and most men I know are straight).
Nice advice thank you.
When the weather gets bad, you definitely want more than one anchor otherwise you will spin around in circles 😂🤣🤣💀
Rich I gotta admit sth. I'm currently doing my MA in the UK, but I can definitely say I've been learning from you a lot more than some of my lecturers and other stuff I've done for my degree. First off, you're so articulate and I love your accent. Second, you're literally giving life hints a man can never find anywhere else unless he's been through all those ups and downs and got red pilled by life itself. I believe one needs to have been through a certain degree of challenges to truly see your points and put the jigsaw pieces together in their mind to see the whole picture, though. Thanks for everything man and keep it up.
You never introduce your lady to your friends. Unless you want her to be your EX.
Some mate guarding behavior.. some fake friends behavior.. do better lol she’s probably not YOUR lady if that’s the case my g.
I recently almost got screwed over by a fake best friend of 20 years. Guy nearly made me sign a rental lease on a car and apartment. All it took was to live with him so we could save money post college and all his negative traits/fake anxiety "muh depression" started to show.
This guy is right. Put you and the VIP "friend" you want to vet out constantly in situations where their true personality is put to the test and you will see the cracks.
If you have to make excuses to yourself for their idiotic behavior/mentality or low confidence personality you need to back off of them. They are not worth it. It could take them their whole life to get over the fact that they need to realize the world doesn't revolve around them.
Thanks Rich. This video is a lot of help.
Love the name buddy.. Good on you, fellow member of CCFR
@@Skelstoolbox Thank you.
Good Word. Thank you Rich, for sharing your Wisdom and Understanding. If you don't stand for something, you fall for anything. That is part of emotional maturity. Youcdesign your life, what's left. You set your Standards. Bad and fake friends corrupts all your hard word. Developing good character is the new focus. Intention.
Facts I now have no friends
A true friend is usually there when you experience most of the emotions of life. Good friends are rare. I'm 60 and now with to few and feel it's to late.
Solid advice Rich! Been there done that with these people.
Some of the BEST videos out there... FOR REAL! THANKS Rich (the best line... " you can't trust a guy who bangs your friends mom...")
(another great line "nice shirt, does it come in men's?...")
I agree 100% I let go a friend because of his questionable behavior and how he treat other people especially his own friends. I figured it’s just a matter of time before this person start treating me the same way. I absolutely had to distance myself from him
A lot of friendships are based on the proximity of relationships. For example, you meet at the gym, but the gym is the common ground.
I have learnt to love my own company and never needed friends since. Some put up with people because they need that social element. Get a dog. I have 22. They never let you down.
They only call when they need a favor. F 'em!
Some friends you have early in life are not people you want around later in life especially if you have a family.
Rich probably your best TH-cam video to date and I've watched a lot of yours. Sound advice which has given me food for thought.
Become really successful and see how long those “friends” last
99% get jealous
Them knowing your net worth kinda jinxes it.
My grandfather told me once that in your entire life you will only have one or two close got your butt no matter what those friends will have your back
I had a friend who I dont associate at all anymore, but he always had these fantasies of banging chicks, models, actresses and any P*n stars as if it was the easiest thing in the world with only $15 (broke mentality). That alone tells you his budgets in life. He constantly loses his job and will ask me for money and complain that me living abroad is not a real way of living. Im like, you are insulting my life style yet you are asking me for money? GTFOH go ask your roomates, I mean parents for money 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Rich,
The luggage reference is significant to my circumstance. My wife and I went on a coastal holiday in our first year of marriage. Nice trip and very relaxed. We were taking turns going in and out of the water as we had a 6 month old. Before she went in she gave me her RayBans to hold so they wouldn't get wet. When it was my turn, I forgot they were there and didn't realise they went missing. Well she went nuclear and had a virtual break down. I was stunned and no reasoning made a difference. It was a present from her dad,never had many nice things blah blah.
I knew I hadn't done anything wrong and I launched back at her. The whole trip home was quite on my end and I couldn't get past the behaviour that was displayed. Stuck with me and had contemplated leaving her then and there. Fast forward 25 years we are now separated pending divorce.
Dad issues and red flags all over the place. I wasn't blind to them as I brought it to her attention regularly,but never pulled the trigger...paying for it now.
Hang around people who want the best for you....not for themselves. You best friend is also your best critic.
You chose your friends, not your relatives.
So true.
There's two things that you can do with an anchor: you can bring it up to the boat in order to move forward. Or .... you can cut it fucking loose.
The power to choose is still in your hands.
I learned this years ago and I also know u shouldn't be so quick to call people ur friend some people just wanna clip ur wings
Good to hear you speaking on this topic.
A good friend will bail you out of jail at 3 am. A great friend will be in jail with you.
Super vid! Got me questioning my friendship skills and where I stand on the spectrum you laid out. Deep thoughts, man! Might consider using your criteria as I prune my Facebook "pals" soon. 'Cause you know what's the biggest letdown? When folks around you totally drop the ball or embody those negative traits you mentioned. Appreciate ya, buddy!
Great words Rich.
And people at work aren't ur friends !
This man casts many stones.
I've had A handful of friends, some of them passed, a few of them were toxic. I'll meet more people naturally with my career in welding.
A month ago i decided to don't talk to my friend anymore,, he's lazy, simp, always make bad move, doesn't listen to make him accountable toward his action, and destroy my Vehicle sparepart that i lend to him.. How can i trust him meanwhile he was like that?
The true sign of a friend is when they threaten to teabag you when your struggling.
Hello Mr rich , I just want to say thank you for all you do and I like your channel too 😊
Man, I’m 20 and I’m having my first experience with a friend who totally betrayed my trust and ethics as a person. He slept with my younger sister. He didn’t even confront me about it, our buddy did. He’s also now with a 16 year old who just turned 16. He’s 20.. it’s not horrible but it still disgusts me in my eyes. It’s hard to let go of a friend i’ve known so closely since 5th grade. At the same time when I look into his eyes I truly feel hate towards him. Quite conflicting. Thought he had my back for so long, only to find out he only had his own.
I started Carnivore, and I had been doing very well. My friends including my husband delight in offering me foods that tempt me. I failed myself again. But I keep trying!
these dudes feel a certain way if you dont "put them on". they feel entitled to YOUR hard work. get rid of them
Man this is spot on
I get used, if someone calls me....they want something moved or fixed or a bodyguard......
Is there a Yet in Afghanistan too?
Or is he the same as the Hymalayan one?
@@populustremulus228 Spent 12 years in Afghanistan, was locked in a -15 freezer for an hr, thats how I got the name. The YETI
Become high value and you'll attract friends. Yes, friendships are transactional for the most part. You can't create close non-transactional emotional ties with more than 2 people.
Become high value and you’ll attract more dudes (and chicks) that just see something to be gained for themselves by getting into your good graces. It doesn’t get any easier to find good people to be around the older and farther up the food chain you get.
If a "so called" friend isn't taking you to a Good path then he isn't a friend fullstop.
I've never thought I had a lot of friends, but through Trial & Error it's gotten to the point where re-defining who my true friends are and the many who are acquaintances. Not hating on the latter, but perspective helps clarify who's who. What time to invest in time with a friend VS not wasting time on acquaintances. What concerns me now all the more is if a friend actually isn't for me growing / becoming more successful. When it comes to a serious step of progress is my friend FOR me even if it means he doesn't grow himself? That kind of selflessness mattera a LOT to me. Envy can happen, I value accountability and forgiveness, having a conflict to work it out, but if that friend does not care to face himself and own that character flaw, then it might mean we go our separate ways.
I am the guy who is a fantastic friend. Loyal and extremely trustworthy on all levels. I am the kind of friend I have never been able to find for myself. I have confronted my friends about stuff they would do behind my back only to be met with a ship load of lies. Kicked to the curb. Their need to do what they were doing outweighed their friendship. Bad character. Friends need to be tested early.
Biggest thing I'm learning right now is maintaining these good type of relationships. Had to learn how to put my ego in place.
Lots of wisdom. Thanks!
Move as often as possible, eat your fatty proteins and fix your damn sleep.
Easier said than done...especially on the sleep part.
@@daynird2694 It doesn't matter if it's difficult, you must do it for yourself.
@@doudou6542 ☝ ☝
1) you have friends....no applause necessary
As always on point! Thanks!
I rather have no friends than fake friends.
No such thing as friends.... everyone wants something for nothing
This is why I have zero friends LOL. (Also I just like my alone time way too much)
This was good.
I needed this thank you
Excellent video. Thank you. 👏
I made up my mind over a decade ago ..F@CK everybody else ...I'll ride alone!
There are good people,but fuck everyone else
Good video Rich!
myself! the only friend i have
Drop the anchors
I’m 45. I have one friend I see a few times a year. I could also say I have a couple buddies. Which aren’t friends, don’t get it twisted.
Friends?
I don't think you know what that word means.
This is awesome information.
Im 53 and actually no friends. None...but oddly, Im not lonely. Over the years, ive found people disappointing and disloyal.
Solid advice.
Thanks man!
It's always what others "Do" with what You teach them about You that can make You the most bitter when all has been said and done. Choosing Wisdom over pleasure should speak "Volumes" that's worth the "Read". Women today are simply Easier targets to blame because they've become so Obvious in their exploits. Unfortunately culture now teaches a warped sense of Independence where EVERYONE is being encouraged from the womb the fastest way to become "The best version of Self" is by managing the advantages they Hold over others. Friends intentionally don't look to do You harm because of what they DO know about your true weaknesses. Finding those You can trust with the DETAILS of Your dreams is rare.
Ive followed RC's videos and advice for a while now, and i have yet to find fault.
It is exceptionally difficult to find, "genuine people" anymore, yet alone motivated people. I think alot of men have had the drive to excell beaten from them, i find this reflected in the men i see day in, day out. I could give numerous examples, but i won't.
I am finding it easier just to be by myself, as the advice about sails and anchors is good advice.
Just one for Rich Cooper directly, can you please start uploading these onto Locals. You have an account, so it would be nice to see this there, then i can escape YT.
At first when hearing you I didn't like you I thought. But I kept coming back and I ask myself why and maybe it's because I want to hear the truth 😊
Best thing to just walk away from them
Hence I do not have friends.
can’t have fake friends if you don’t have friends