3 Signs God is Trying to Remove Someone from Your Life
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- Knowing when to stay and when to walk away can be a challenge. In today's video, I talk about the 3 signs that God is trying to remove someone from your life.
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SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO MAKE DECISIONS THAT WILL HURT YOUR HEART BUT WILL HEAL YOUR SOUL.
Yes!
Absolutely correct!
😢I wasn't even looking anywhere for anyting in this popped up. This was from God very good psychology on the matter
@janerobles534 same for me 😢I've been praying about it and vacillating between breaking up and staying together. I love him so much, but I'm thinking that it's time I start obeying the Lord when it comes to my relationships. I'll pray for you if you pray for me about our situations 🙏🏽
Obedience can be so hard, but when I remember who I’m being obedient TO, it makes it much easier. I remind myself that God loves me, He has better plans for me than I do for myself, and as long as I’m in His hands, I know I’ll be okay. For me, it makes it easier to release the things I cling to in my heart that I know I need to let go of. I so appreciate Kris. Lysa TerKeurst is another woman worth checking out.
God has removed them all from my life,including narc family. I cried and asked God if he wanted me to cut my family off, he responded to me with saying yes my child and forgive them and love them from a distance. It is absolutely one of the best decisions I've ever made in my entire life.
I’m feeling a similar need to be alone.
@@jodinarrowpath9998 Oh dear!! That must be very hard...Hope you can keep your relationship going on healthily at least with some of them. Which is more likely: chances of one sibling (you) being right, or chances of all of your siblings being right??? I would not ask the same question about people outside your family, but hey, these are your siblings...Probably you are the youngest and you feel that they do not understand you. Please seek some kind of help, like taking councelling preferably together with your siblings. Wish you all the best.🙏
was it an audible voice?
@@projectbirdfeederman5491 huh?
My family need to be out my life cause they don't benefit me
1.Just walk away and let the healing process begin.
2.Forgive yourself for trusting them.
3.Learn a lesson from this trauma.
Life is way too precious to waste on toxic people. Make your life beautiful again 😊
Agree with you ❤😮
Well said!
Yup soooo big on forgive your self for trusting them !! I can’t believe I was blind to trust
Amen
God sees things that you don't see.
God hears things that you don't hear.
He has insight into matters and because he loves you, he protects you from giving your knowledge and wisdom to break free from individuals who want to not only hurt you but destroy you.
My life has changed completely for the better after I humbly knelt and cried saying " I am sorry Almighty Father for being stubborn trying to fix a relationship that gives me grief and stress. Your will not mine" ❤
PLEASE QUOTE THE CHAPTER AND VERSE FOR ME ON THAT
@Freddie Stranger 1 Kings 13:8 -end.
The man of God disobeyed the command not to go that way, nor to trust or eat or drink with anyone... the Man of God trusted the old prophet who lied in order to bring forth the MoGs demise.
God knew, God warned, yet naively he trusted the lying old prophet over God's first command.
We try to bring Lot with us but all it causes is strife 🙏
@@freddiestranger9783 wanting everything from a Bible is a sickness. A lot of things in life, need only commonsense.
If you don't have that, then don't ask why people dislike you.
@@ctowtf If you don't understand, please be humble in this space. You people who think your opinion is superior to everyone else's are sick.
@@TxHoneyBee My NM made my life difficult, and my sister - a devoted christian was making my life more difficult by doing all the useless things she learnt from church. I am the victim here and i have the right to say what actually hurting me ! If you do not know what i have been throught, just shut the f up and Mind your own business.
Absolutely do not let anyone project their fears,worries,and insecurities onto you.
I totally agree!
Never. Or frauds. Careful of false… friends.
Facts
Factsss
What do you mean?
This is what happened to me. I set boundaries and suddenly I was the bad guy.
I feel you Mia. I feel you so bad. Same thing to me. Im off now. Totally drained out. Im healing slowly with God. ❤
yep removed the gaslighting narcs no contact . Wolves in sheeps clothing...
I believe this will happen
They always try to make you the bad guy when you set boundaries. It happens in my family all the time. I have put them all out of my left. My daughter said by the end of the year none of my grandchildren will have anything to do with me and I will grow up a lonely woman. Just me and my dogs. I think that sounds kind of good. That means I don’t have to put up with all their crap and anger. I tell them I didn’t work 30 years to have to deal with all their dysfunctions. Sorry I need peace and they think I’m selfish.
Same here
1.Never trust anyone that tries to convince you of who they are!
2. Don't explain your own sense of character, because they'll try to mirror you.
3. Cherish your privacy. They'll want to hear every dirty detail about your life. They cannot relate, and DO NOT HAVE THE ABILITY TO EMPATHIZE. Everything you say will be held against you.
4. Don't gossip! Period!
5. Don't let anyone manipulate your time with family and friends.
6. Don't give second chances after the first sign of disrespect.
7. Don't ever accept passive aggressive comments as being a joke. They purposely try to provoke negative reactions and emotions.
8. Don't break prior arrangements, obligations or plans with friends and family to spend time with a new, love interest . They will try to isolate you from any support system.
9. Keep your friends, family and job separate from a new love interest until after they have, undeniably proven themselves to be loyal and trustworthy. They CAN and WILL turn people you love against you.
10. Be aware of how they talk about their own family and friends. Are they painting them in a negative light? Remember, their friends and family will be their flying monkeys.
11. Don't be flattered by jealousy, that's a control tactic.
12. Talking about exes should be a deal breaker. That's inappropriate, when starting a new relationship. The past should stay in the past and no one needs "validation" from a personal relationship that didn't work out, it creates insecurities and triangulation. Emotionally mature people heal and move on.
13. If you haven't healed from a prior relationship, don't date until you have rebuilt a solid sense of self and independence. Rebounds aren't fair for anyone involved and it just leads to codependency.
I've been a narc magnet my whole life and I've finally had enough of being a people pleaser.
The healing process and finding yourself again is more rewarding than trying to mold yourself into being someone's ideal of who and how you should be for them.
Brilliantly put thank you 😊
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#5. Utmost importance
amazing advice I wish I had & would have listened to BEFORE my prior relationship. Great lessons learned. Thank you :)
Me too I needed to hear rhis
God isn’t ever trying to remove someone from our lives, he’s asking us to do it
Amen
I went No Contact w my Toxic Abusive Mother and Enabling Father and Sister! I feel like I escaped from Hell. I prayed and Jesus told me,”You aren’t expected to Respect anyone who’s abusing you!” 🙏
Yeah, the enablers are just as guilty. Good catch.
@@user-qy9jg5ze5s TRUTH...!!!
Yes they had the potential to be true and virtuous and they took a wayward path.
We all have choices in life and those who take the lesser path are not entitled to burden us with their decisions.
I wondered why God has placed me with these people and then I realised: they chose this. They might have chosen differently and then things would be very different, but they did not. God can only work with what he has before him in our freedom we can walk away or not. In their freedom they have made bad choices. We don't have to live with guilt that doesn't belong to us.
You still have to forgive them
@@Celticmist-qz6ve Yes but that can be toxic, you forgive but only for yourself. Because it's toxic hanging onto the past and reliving it over and over.
So it's about letting go WHEN YOU ARE READY. Not when someone tells you to, especially if they do it in a condescending pseudo-spiritual way. It's your journey so you don't let anyone take over and decide timing and decisions.
Healing is the most important thing, you heal so you won't be a doormat and get walked on by the next person. Then you're ready to let go.
I don't take my toxic family seriously anymore. They're a joke. The joke's on them.
It's hard to break away a friendship if they are the only friend you have.but you know you have to break away from the friendship. We need to relize that Jesus is our friend
So true. But do you. Find your own joy. Walk. Talk to people when u order a coffee. Painting for me has become my therapy. But I’ve found being alone is so much more peaceful than the craziness of toxic people. Love to u
There are billions of people out there and at least one billion Christians, so God can easily find you friends.
New better friends may then enter
Be your own best friend
God is with you
When you create a space for new friends to enter your life and open yourself up to new relationships, you will find new friends with the right people. Give it over to God.
Sounds like my situation,thanks for sharing. It's better to walk alone than with bad company.
4:47 They’re poisoning your garden.
6:54 Shift in Feelings
8:06 Decision-making out of emotion
Thank You ♥️
Well I know now about this girl… she isn’t interested
Where was this confirmation three months ago and my name is Donna 😢. I
Do they literally destroy your plants? He poisoned my plant which my children gave to me. He was jealous of my children.
@@helenavanderwesthuizen9688 No, she is referring to the soul as a garden.
My last husband was physically abusive after going to Bible school to become a pastor. It took me a year to be able to leave and save myself after I ended up in the ER after back surgery he strangled me but I’m a handicap disabled person who has no way to take care of myself.
I finally put God in charge of my life and trusted in God to make a way for me. God opened up doors everywhere for me to be able to find s as place to live, food to eat and finances to pay bills. I’m not in such a good place physically and emotionally. God did it all and I live for God and put every moment in my life in His hands. Faith and trust in God saved my life in more than one way
@lisazappala4381 You are not alone. God will take care of you. Trust Him.
@@byronkerby6897 Thank you for your kind words. I’m living for God every day. Bless you
❤ you are amazing,and strength in him is Good 😊❤.
@@jernisharichard5032 All the glory to God. ❤️
Oh how unbelievably heart-wrenching. May God continue to provide for your every need!!!
Yes, if you are genuinely trusting God with your relationships, He will make it clear what you need to do. I was married to a truly abusive man who, despite my commitment to honoring my marriage vows and loving him harder & harder, became worse instead of better. One day I was lamenting in prayer, "Lord, I can't trust him." God's response to my heart: "I know you don't trust HIM. Trust *ME*." I had been putting every humanly possible effort into my relationship, but I hadn't put it 100% into God's hands in surrender to His will and plan. When I did that, God clearly and immediately began orchestrating events which created a path to my (and my children's) future safety and freedom from abuse.
@@GodTurnItAround44me too but I have zero way out .. I'm so scared bc I cannot live my life like this anymore.
@@lindsaymacklin8220 please seek a womens shelter or church they will help you
@@GodTurnItAround44 please seek family, womens shelter or church
This was exactly me. Tried for over 46 years. God set me free just over 2 years ago. Now I am still going through a very difficult financial settlement process with him but I am so filled with peace, joy and thankfulness to the Lord.
May the good Lord help me to trust Him with all my heart with my relationship really I am confused
Don't be driven by emotional distress...be driven by wisdom! I needed to be reminded of that. Thank you, Kris!
Me too. It's hard not to go down the rabbit hole of emotions and guilt. This was just what I needed to hear
I'm so thankful God removed me from an awful situation Thank you JESUS AMEN ❤
Please pray for me and my 4 yr old safe exit.. ❤
" Jesus mysteriously disappeared untill He was ready to give Himself up" Don Hargrove pastor-teacher.
47 years in marriage, separated for 9 of those years, reconciled & now regret of doing so. I’m almost ready to leave again & praying for strength & wisdom that I can only receive from my Lord & Savior Jesus Christ🙏💕
Stay strong God is most definitely with YOU and is bringing you through….. believe me
❤️
@@foresthiker6707 I don't see much abundance around, Sir, plenty of foodbanks though, this God of yours hasn't got his eye on the ball, thanks.
IF YOU WANT PEACE LEAVE.
@@andrewlilley3660 "abundant life" for those who belong to Him. You are looking at life through the eyes of an unbeliever, so of course you are not going to 'see' God at work in the world, and especially not at work in the life of a believer, if you are an unbeliever.
I want to trust you, Lord. Everything sure hurts right now for so long. Please clear things up for me.
Oh, that was my case. I left narcissist 3,5 years ago. God tried to cut him out of my life, but I let him in over and over again. But breaking up was a great blessing for me. I’ve never been so happy!
Trauma bond is the real villain. I've lost counting how many narcissists I had to deal with them and after long turmoils finally I could able to let them go. Dealing with one right now! 80% I've moved on...
Yes I prayed to God please reveal it all to me re my narc husband and he showed me everything , affairs , financial etc and he spoke to my spirit that to end this and focus on Him Thank you Lord God
I have found out if you give people a little time they will show their true colors. A person can't pretend to be a truly loving kind person but for so long. What's buried deep in the heart and soul of a man or woman will eventually have to come spewing out. It's impossible to be good and bad. You are either one or the other.
You are soo right. I found this with my best friend. She showed her true colors.
True
That's all
True
I recently went through a breakup and it was one of the best things that's ever happened to me. I didn't realize it at the time but quickly understood that when it's time to let go, God will definitely help and heal you. ❤.
How did u know to let it go?
@@Ashley-og9ti when I thought about it, I realized the cons outweighed the pros of me going back to that person. It hurts being alone but it was hurting even more when I was with the wrong person. God forced me to leave after I asked Him for a sign and He gave it to me. And I trusted in Him and never looked back.
@Chynae Barton omg I think u needed to tell me this your experience may be my sign. So familiar. I relate the being alone can be scary especially when there is so much history. It's a foreign feeling. Even if the person is great but may not be good for you. Wishing the best going forward 🙏🏾
@@Ashley-og9ti yes exactly. My person was awesome as an individual but just wasn't right for me and what I needed. And that's okay. There is a blessing in every lesson. If it's time to go, be grateful for the time you had and what they offered you at the time and then step forward. You can't see your future if you're constantly looking behind you. ❤️ Peace and blessings to you honey.
@Chynae Barton facts 💯 I saw a quote said "never be a prisoner of your past. It was just a lesson, not a life sentence." . Some people are in your life just for a season. My issue is recognizing the signs I'm like God show me the signs but give me the wisdom and discernment to see it! 😭 I love this for you 😚
Please pay attention! I lived this! This is real. Anytime you stay with someone because you feel as though they can do MORE than God, that is a sign. When you feel as though you can survive without God but not without them, that is not good. Proverbs 3:5&6 became my theme when I had to WALK AWAY. I pray that for some of you, God will close every door keeping you attached to that person til you have NO choice but to break ties!!!!!!!
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So perfectly stated ! God is a jealous God he wants us to trust him for our needs first , take our eyes off another human for our safety and needs !
I wish I had figured that out a decade sooner.
But God is good, and he will walk me through this
Amen!!!!!!
😊Thankyou for this!(1st Corinthians 15:33)Such powerful teaching!
It is easy to see flaws in others, while ignoring our own, so self-examination is critical. Sin is what makes people toxic.
yes we can do it too.
I'm in a destructive marriage where my feelings, thoughts, and needs have been neglected for far too long and my spouse has shown complete indifference toward me for almost 2 years now. I pray every day for deliverance and am just waiting for God to open the door.
I'm in a lonely marriage. My husband wants nothing to do with our marriage. He s neglected our marriage for way to long. April of 2017 is when I notic3d things started going down in my marriage. We was only married for 6 months. And ever since then he s showed me who he truly was the whole time. He fake it everything about who he really was. He shows no interest in our marriage at all. I'm injured now with my back. And have knee osteoarthritis. So I'm trusting God is working on a plan to bless me with a way out this fake marriage from the beginning
Aw I’m sorry you’re in this. Please be brave. I tried a method to get out and it worked a treat. Life is too short to be unhappy. So try this……I sat down n said to myself imagine my life without him….painful at first then bright and free. Imagine my life with him…more misery, more angst, more stress, more grief, more pain and the list went on so get out now. Don’t wait for God. He’s busy so it’s your life and you do have a choice. Good luck. Sending love and courage to you
@@sallycreitzman1953How awful to say God is busy. He knows the past, present, and future. He is always working for good for those who are His. Seeking His will & direction b4 relying on our limited human perspective is dangerous.
After 35 yrs, God set me free. It’s been almost 3 yrs, not easy, but better than the abuse & neglect.
You should leave Our Lord does not want you a relationship or marriage that is unhealthy. I had 3 children and a house and all the material things you would want. But I was married to a liar and a cheater I divorced him and never looked back. I lost my house and all the material things I had. But I have never been happier Gods love and Mercy saw me through all of it.I am now in a good place with a good man. My children are now adults and Thank me for what I did❤
Being a strong empath this is so true! I have two people now- both narcissists who I need to just let go. I needed to hear this today. Thank you. Blessings.
Me too! Damage is bad!
2 here in this season.
You better leave or you will regret it…
Me too
It's too late for me. The damage is done. I believe I'm an idiot , just a naive little girl who needs to grow up , wake up and smell the coffee. Simply because right and wrong is a priority to me. As I said , it's too late.
My biological family abused me my whole life. I found Jesus at 15yrs old, they called me a Jesus freak. I finally set boundaries for them in my 50s . So sad . When God shows you who they are the first time, believe him. Guard your heart . They almost broke my spirit & soul yes 100% bad bad company corrupts . Praise you Jesus
Hello friend how are you doing?
Happiness with another person means you are happy to see them and they are happy to see you you have a good time with them they have a good time with you you call them they call you you help them out they help you out. If any of that is not working for you and the relationship and find somebody or that works and it it fits your life in your schedule. Or you are much better off being by yourself.
Well Stated. Good Advice. Thanks for reconfirming what I thought but not so deeply
@@carolnolan9439 all I can tell you is this I am 70 years old I have been burned and I have been screwed over more times than I can count but you only have a couple of people that really will help you in my life it is one ex-wife add a sister and that is about it that's my advice to you
@@carolnolan9439 I forgot to mention my dog I had a chocolate Labrador Retriever for 12 years that's the greatest friend I ever had and there's absolutely no doubt about that including children that weren't even close to that dog at that level of love and attention
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Oh my goodness, this is so true, once I limited my time and interaction with this person My well being and joy returned. Love to all
Yesterday I went no contact with my narc family. My only regret is not doing it sooner. Literally making me physically ill. God has been dealing with me to let them go. Jesus really is my 🪨. No human is my rock. I feel confident I'm doing the right thing cause I'm finally submitting to hiw will.
Good for you! I had to cut all contact with my narc family three years ago and I have a bad day about it every now and then, but overall I'm so glad I did it and I continue to get better with each passing day. Life is good ❤ Good luck to you 🙏🏼
I got injured recently and have been off work for the past few weeks. It has given me time to truly reflect on how much I deal with at work trying to "keep the peace" all the time with a specific coworker that I work closely with and has a narcistic personality. It has been an exhausting roller coaster for the past 7 years. So while I had time, I applied for a new job and I see the door being opened for new opportunities. I've prayed about it and I really feel that everything happens for a reason and this is meant to be.
Sounds like a good move. God opening a door …
People do not like it when you set boundaries.
Sometimes it might not even be that the other person is bad company....it could just be that you and the other person have different outlooks on life, and therefore won't be able to agree with each other.
I recently let go of a very close friend and her circle of friends. Hurt me deeply. She kept denying things that happened and continually do the same thing so had to let her go.
Do you mind if I ask what type of things?
Same here, she has no self reflection , refused to take responsibly for her actions ,gaslighting me,reflecting responsibility on others after 53 years of friendship I'm done. God kept showing me how she was and is! I loved her and kept forgiving her,........ No more! I will miss her
Hmmmmm..... All 3 signs are so true! Especially the 3rd sign and I kept going back due to loneliness and guilt that I'm being too harsh and I'm not being nice but truth is, it was all because of how this person made me feel. God showed me in a dream and I still hanged on by a thread, and guess what? They came to me and blew up a little statement out of context and now it's no contact. My prayer is that God helps me to stay away for good this time. I deserve better and deserve the love I give out. Sometimes we break our own hearts or God has to allow us to really get hurt because we are not listening.
So true my friend. thank you for sharing
OMG, me too
@Jamie T keep praying and trust in God to heal you from all the words that makes you feel you aren't or weren't being nice to them. 🙏
@aamponsaaa same I am a bit ashamed and embarrassed but I moved halfway across the country, alone, no family or friends, and still let them back in. In my life in a whole different state! I was going to change my phone service but the sim card got lost in the mail and we ended up back in touch. I took it as a sign maybe I made the wrong decision but now idk. I ask for guidance but I also need wisdom and discernment. He is not a bad guy I just don't think we are for each other. Please pray for me 🙏🏾
@Ashley he's not a bad guy, yet you moved and left your friends and family to get away from him? He's not a bad guy, but he doesn't seem to be good or right for you. I'm not judging but prioritise your mental health first. And sure, I'll be praying for you. Stay blessed 🙏
Sometimes you can't remove the toxic people if they are family members, so setting boundaries are of utmost importance.
true, but toxic person hardly follows boundaries, especially narcissitic personalities, psychopaths and sociopaths. They do it all their own way and you are not allowed to talk in through or make decisions. it is a one way relationship. it is about power and control, not about love for you. If you leave, you may be in danger. Lots of people do not understand that this period is the most frightening for you and children involved. It is not about letting them go, it is about not to be hurt, lost children, home and be killed if you confront them and say the truth to reach the justice for your well being. Those who do not have that experience -coercive control - will never understand the situation. Neither a therapist or people on the system who are supposed to help you . Some may have narcissism themselves and through their decision will make your life much worse.
@@user-sb2dd7xf7j What you are describing is not plain narcissism. You are describing a socio-path/psychopath, someone with no conscience. I was referring to basic narcissism. You can set limits with a basic narcissist.
I had to go no contact with several of my blood relatives. Setting boundaries were pointless as they were never honored. What turned out to be several ended up becoming both sides of the family tree. Sometimes, that is required as the toxic person that is put on no contact will go and say things to the entire family about them that are false in which they will take sides with the toxic person. The only boundary that could be laid is just to walk away. Look at it as a favor being done for you as if someone is going to believe lies about you, then they were never truly in your corner. The people who have your back will see through the lies and stick with you. I had to do this and it is worth it and would do it again if I had to!
You can’t remove toxic family members and you can’t set boundaries with them. The only option is to walk away and avoid them, even if it requires avoiding those that take sides and are left with none. The peace of mind that comes with it makes it worthwhile!
@@ktrain2008 I have to agree with you. I am moving across the country to avoid my sister, a narcissist who feels everyone should be waiting on her in some sense of the word. I most likely won't give her my new address.
@@user-sb2dd7xf7jthis is beautiful worded ❤❤thank you so much heaps, God definitely spoke through you 😢I feel the exact same situation right now in my life and it is hard 😟😔 I pay also ❤and I feel always better about my life after spending time with God
Just Yesterday God helped me to realize that it's an uphill battle trying to stay intouch with family that doesn't give a damn. They blamed me enough for the truth that they called lies. So when I finally let them all go. I had such a relief of freedom like I had never felt before. Now I know why I was guided to see this video. Thank you!
I listen to your videos so true , my husband is a pastor, I have been married 57 years , 3 years he walked out no explanation, 10 years ago we were ministering in Bali and he patronised the homosexual brothel God is using me to witness to him the pain a d betrayal is so difficult how to move on . he is a narcissist, covert .
Jump into my arms and heal with cuddling and love.
Fast and pray for him. No one is beyond hope. Read the Word of God and keep the scriptures as your focus.
Blame
Shifts responsibilities
Lies
Deceives
Betrays
Roller coaster of emotions
Uses secrets, vulnerable data to punish
"Take every thought captive".....said the Holy Spirit.
I'm learning to walk in a constant state of repentance and forgiveness 🙏 💖☝️
GOD IS SO GOOD ☝️
Texas Nana 🤠
Psalm 91
I have always found that whenever I lost something or someone, whenever I was slandered or lied about, whenever I was ganged up on and "let go", or decided to leave because of so many reasons, that I was always, always better off and freer, happier, and glad to be gone from it or them. It's just at the beginning that the idea of being without it is a shock, but just like at the beach when a hole in the sand is filled with the ocean, so a hole in your life is quickly filled with life! Be glad not sad!
Hello friend how are you doing.?
❤❤❤ this is beautiful
If you drop social media you don't have to drop someone out of your life. It comes digital/natural when you get out of there.
100% Fact
True
Amennnn!!!!
Wdym what does social media have to do with it?
Yes!
To make a professional video to get your important message to your audience is tough enough but to incorporate different versions of yourself edited into the original video is really hard work and is a genius move.
It surely worked for me. The support you gave to yourself was just plain awesome.
Thank you for your message and the video. Well done.
Recently deleted all my " friends" numbers. I realised i was spreading myself way too thin. Everytime they would text would cause me anxiety than happiness. Thats when i realised their numbers needed to be gone. Deleted social media as I was not vibing with those people on there as well. The most liberating feeling ever. Hope one dayI get the courage to leave "home" and find myself soon away from my narc family and my enabling father so that I can allow the right people in my life to enter and I can shower and receive love and acceptance ❤
My former spouse. Finally got away from her, but significant damage was done. Thank you, Jesus.
#3 God has removed these people from your life and you keep letting them back in!
STOP vacillating between one opinion and another.
1 Kings 18:21
The longer we "ignore" the weeds the larger their root grows and they become more difficult to remove from our garden.
I do agree from Matthew 10:34-36 and 2 Corinthians 6:14-16 which covers both family ties and workplace or other relationships. 👍
Thank you for sharing this scripture 👍👍👍👍👍👍God bless you 🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏
I remember a pastor telling me to never cut people out of my life and all I was doing was creating boundaries but I became a people pleaser full of guilt and then I recreated boundaries and realized in Oder to go up you have to give up more.
Absolutely fantastic message!! God just reveal to me to let certain family members go from my space and a Friend..It was definitely a difficult decision but it was necessary I prayed about it and continued being around these people. And they continue to show there true colors. No more my peace is a requirement Thank you God for revealing this 🙏🏽❤
My name is Suzanne. I just discovered this video. I believe God led me to this. I have been praying on this very subject for weeks!! God answered through Kris. ❤
What a blessing to have found you!!! I was in a narcissistic relationship for 3 years ! My mother is a narcissistic mother my stepmother is a narcissistic person and my brother-in-law….. I have been surrounded by them my entire life!!! Your videos have brought a measure of healing to my heart🥰🥰 Both me and my father are empaths and I continually pray for my father.
Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment. I can tell your very positive person, if it's . Okay with you l'd love to be friends❤
Set boundaries for my mother ♥️
Who are they trying to remove from my life now!
Every day!!! God is trying to remove some one from life!
There's nobody left!
I can't even try to explain the hurt, shaming, judgemental, put downs I've experienced by my father through my life. The hurtful things he's said and done and keeps doing. No matter how many times I've tried to show love, he will eventually cap it off with his negative words. It has affected my life hugely. In every way. I've never measured up, yet my brother can do no wrong. I'm 70 and my dad is now 94. He was a preacher as I grew up. All I remember is harsh discipline and shaming. I'm so damaged that often for months at a time I would have horrible dreams night after night of rejection and beatings. I pray to my dear Jesus for healing for this all the time. My father never forgets anything I may have done in the past. He holds onto these things like gold and weapons. After a recent trip to see him last month I walked up to him and held his hands and said " I hate this detachment but don't know how to fix it. I told him I lov😢😢ed him and his response was " when I was 15 I snuck out of the house causing him and mom ( who is now with Jesus) to worry. He said he can't forget things like this, they're in his head." I told him I'm done and walked away. All the positive things I have done in my life he can't remember. Only my mistakes. I've been judged all my life by him. Frankly I have no idea what I will say if anything at his funeral.😢
My girlfriend has very similar story due to pregnant at 16 and her father a preacher how he put her on front row and basically forced his idea of God and God's love on her. He shamed her and she has always been affected by him. She's beat cancer been through abusive relationship 10 years, her dad would say what did you do to make him hit you. Told her to go back and do right by her husband. She lost 1 of her sons a few years ago. Which she's told me almost lost herself and took over 1 year from life just to heal. She has since met me and I'm not sure if I am the best for her. I'm proud of her love her and respect her. I pray she can heal and we can both heal from our past and grow together in christ jesus. Bless you. I'm having problems with my father also. It's tuff but all we can do is keep faith In God and try our best. Bless
My girlfriend has very similar story due to pregnant at 16 and her father a preacher how he put her on front row and basically forced his idea of God and God's love on her. He shamed her and she has always been affected by him. She's beat cancer been through abusive relationship 10 years, her dad would say what did you do to make him hit you. Told her to go back and do right by her husband. She lost 1 of her sons a few years ago. Which she's told me almost lost herself and took over 1 year from life just to heal. She has since met me and I'm not sure if I am the best for her. I'm proud of her love her and respect her. I pray she can heal and we can both heal from our past and grow together in christ jesus. Bless you. I'm having problems with my father also. It's tuff but all we can do is keep faith In God and try our best. Bless
Pray for his deliverance if he doesn’t forgive God won’t forgive him and you can’t enter heaven if God doesn’t forgive you
Amen…TY❤️ God sent me to your channel ❤️
2019 I was emotionally confused…disappointing and very sad…2020 God spoke to me to detach with love from my very toxic family and I am now healing with Jesus 🙏🏻✝️
I’m blessed for my husband, and children! I thank God everyday for saving me ❤️
Beautiful and inspiring. Thanks for sharing.
God is so good! 2021 was my year I finally decided to stop the madness and leave certain family members alone. This year it was time to cleanse my mind body and spirit and actually let go of guilt and seek out help. I’m so glad I found this channel! Gods word, this ministry, along with therapy is helping me gain strength and confidence that I made the right decision to let them go! Time for me to heal. ❤
Read ur own comment, YOU decided, YOU did. Give urself credit for ur choices not some imaginary friend.
@@ChrisFerguson-zm4gt hello. 😊 God gives confirmation and because of that all glory goes to him. Kingdom Blessings to u and ur family!
@Rhonda Geanes jesus is a myth and there is no god. Feel free to prove me wrong by providing some evidence. I mean surely u have evidence that convinced u not to mention surely theirs some evidence that the greatest most powerful being ever even exists....
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Blessings to you. It’s becoming clear u wish to throw ur venom this way. I rebuke that in JESUS mighty name. I will not let u kill my joy. Love you and Kingdom Blessings to u and ur family. 😊
Are you lonely....if you put effort into this relationship...instead of the easy way of throwing in the towel....you would feel better about yourself and so would the people in your life who are sinners that make mistakes just like you..forgive...love...and pray together for God to heal...He is LOVE....I am praying for you❤
I can absolutely relate to this. I've learned to not push for people to stay in my life. If they leave for whatever reason, then God knew that either they were bad for me or they only needed to be in my life for a season or so that God can get something to me. Good video
A problem arises when we ASSUMED that families should be there for each other. Once the parents are gone a sibling only feels obligated to their new family while ignoring their original family, even when they’re widowed and alone.
You talk so much sense and at the same time so funny. Although I’m in such emotional pain you got me laughing! Thank you. Pray for me that God would guide me out of this trauma and pain and show me where to go and what to do
Surrender to the Lord.
@@jolynmcteigue8371 yes I will, may He be my healing balm of Gilead and my Guide through life. Thankyou dear you encouraged me
I'm right there with you girl!😢😢
Maybe journaling, reading the Bible & get in a recovery group May He guide and guard you.🙏🙏👍💜
This is the third or fourth video that's telling me to RUN.
My NARC is the fruit and His Mother is the tree so I'm going to RUN! Just one problem..... He doesn't leave me alone long enough to escape. But believe me I'm going to.
Also, he hasn't left me, because I've been told that once you separate from any relationship; it's never a good idea to get back together again because it will be worse than before.
Wow Me Too Get the strength and leave Blessings for your journey away
@@crystalgeter.6294 Thanks 👍
And I hope you find your inner strength and run, don't walk.
Sounds like you should go to the grocery store and never to return. Stay safe these guys are going to far nowadays when they’ve been rejected. Love you in Christ
❤❤❤I'm favoured only God knows how much I praise Him, $130k every 4weeks! I now have a good house and can now afford anything and also support my family
Wow that's huge, how do you make that much monthly?
I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??
Can I also do it??? My life is facing lots of challenge lately.
Oh wow!! .I don't know anything about diggital invetstments. What are your strategies?
I have heard a lot of wonderful things about this woman on the news but didn't believe it until now.
Needed to hear this today. 2 years on this emotional rollercoaster. Finally said that’s enough hope im strong enough to keep him out my life now
The clarity revealed. I am guilty, of allowing narcissist back in and "vascillate", in my feelings, then a shift in my feelings. I choose today, to fully trust, in God and lean not, in my own understanding, fir a better future and a new non-toxic relationship, in God's Tim's. Thank you, Minister Kris. I appreciate you and your channel very much. I needed to hear this.
I did not know my husband was a narcissist until years of therapy after he divorced me after 30 years of marriage. I loved him deeply but could not seem to please him. Faith got me through some very bad years.
Kris, your humorous skits are appreciated in such serious subjects where we can often feel alone, guilty, and bad. Rock on, sister. I love what you bring to the table!
Thank you.
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I watched this video and had been procrastinating cutting my hair. It was dry with a lot of dead ends. I went upstairs after watching this and cut my hair! It looks soooo much better and feels better.
Thank you thank you thank you❤. I've tried for years and years to be a good daughter to my mom who is terribly nasty to me and I keep creeping back because I feel guilty. I am a single mom with bipolar and it's terrible for my mental health to have her in my life
I went through that. No one has really covered in a thorough way how to deal with user or abusive or narcissistic parents- especially when they are elderly. The Bible quite clearly says to care and honor them. it almost killed me to deal with my other for years and I was the only one willing to do it. I felt guility if I didn't and it was hell while I did.
God will heal your heart, 💖 just keep asking him to renew your 🤍 I used to be in that situation, and he gave me freedom !
@@eunicevinas4645 Thank you so much for your kindness and encouragement. I wrote that message 6 months ago when I was so broken that I was in a psychiatric hospital at the time. The sadness was just too much. In that time my two adult children who are still living with me, who are 18 and 23., were really deeply upset that I ended up there because I let this woman do this to me. They still need me to be strong for them. When I got home, I told myself that I would never ever ever allow that woman to steal from me in that way and cause my children to hurt. I made peace with how she treated me and just cut her out of my life. I've healed almost totally and learned a lot from that experience. The other day she messaged my daughter and demanded that I speak to her and apologize for being rude. Out of respect, I did that and when I did that, she said because she's such a good woman, she would accept my apology, ( for what?
I then sent her a nice message which she purposefully ignored. THAT WAS THE LAST! Not even on her deathbed will I wish her farewell.
Oh my goodness!! Thank you for this!! It could not have come at a better time in my life. Your last point of God removing someone before...and I let them back in is spot on. In fact, God finally had to yank them from my life 5 weeks ago for the 2nd time because He knew I was dragging my feet. At that moment I was at total peace, but now I'm struggling and missing the friendship. I'll keep trusting GOD and not my own feelings. Thank you again!
Yes, Keep trusting God!
Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment. I can tell your very positive person, if it's . Okay with you l'd love to be friends❤
Wow.
This video is EXACTLY the clear message I asked God to send me. So grateful for you and your divine message! ❤️ Bless you!
I have recently removed toxic people from my life that I should have years ago. I'm still recovering from carrying the guilt of doing so but the stress in my life has decreased by huge amounts. I sleep better, I'm happier and my relationship with others is improving.
Hello friend how are you doing.?
I did it now he’s with a toxic person and I don’t want to deal with him anymore thank god❤❤❤❤
Hello friend how are you doing.?
SHE IS MY MOM 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢I PRAY 🙏 FOR HER🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️✝️🙏🙏🙏
Me too girl. It’s so hard
My mom too … more and more toxic all the time. Draining. She is elderly but in a care community….but totally self absorbed and manipulative.
My Dad... It really is hard..
You just HAD to say, "donut." Doh! Sidetracked my whole line of thought.
😂😂😂
😭😭😭😭🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 when I say that NO ONE CAN DO THIS BUT GOD! I hear you ABBA!!
Well then, As a muslim woman looking for a little self help on youtube about my failing marriage... Some how I stumbled on your video and it was exactly what I was looking for. No misinterpretation, no trying to make the shoe fit. Every thing you spoke about pertains to my relationship 100% and I needed to hear this. Thanks for that, keep doing what you do.. You're making an impression and doing gods work!!
God bless you, I'm in the same situation, marriage failing, I've tried everything but it takes two and he's not interested, doesn't care about marriage or me.
Prayers
Love your ministry Kris Reece! Youre like a breath of fresh air!❤
Thank you :)
@@Kris_Reece you sound so right! You don't overtalk religion. That's good.
I had a beautiful weed kick me out during Christmas. That was her last chance. You're amazing
I am just 2 minutes in, yet the whole bad hair analogy resonates with me. I got out of an ungodly relationship, went back and forth a few times even after the breakup, then resolved to not let my ex use me anymore by not just setting boundaries but abiding by them. In a moment of weakness today, I checked my blocked calls and messages and saw his calls and that he asked if we were really done. Mind you we have been broken up a month, but it wasn't until a week ago that I decided to not go back. I felt a tinge of guilt for essentially ghosting him even though I knew any contact resulted in my going back. I hate that after looking at his message, I am tempted to see him again, but thankfully, I have not reached out to him. I hardly even thought about him before this. I hope messages like this will remind me that I need to let go AND not look back.
That’s right sister. Don’t go back. Tell the devil to GET!!!! Get the steppin behind me Satan!!!
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YES! Remember Lot's wife. Genesis 19:26; Luke 17:29-33
My Jesus 🎶
I have just enetered a clumsy marriage wherein there is no sense of boundaries, but obsessive clinginess, lies and deception disguised as 'care'.. I have already lost faith and trust and yet I am being made to feel guilty by both families for reporting a severe problem that has lead to physical and emotional harm to me - inclduing bruises and blood! There is no one on my side and I have been crying to speep every night. God please help me and all those who need such interventions, I have only love to give, where do I find someone who will graciously accept all that I have to offer without this non-sensical toxic and borderline pschotic behaviour that I have had to tolerate.. Please pray for me dear reader, I am just seeking normalcy and peace and healing.. whatever form it may take. Blessings to all reading this 😢❤❤❤
This came right at the time I needed it!!! Cutting someone out right now!! Manipulated me for the last time!! I have had to cut a out a few in my life. This was a so called friend!!
Hello friend how are you doing.?
Our loving Father has gradually revealed this evil in some outside my family and then family members. Their toxic behavior was glaring. I did try to reason with them, but did all the things you described, over and over. I've blocked them and am ignoring their minions.
Believe me wisdom is getting fed up with toxic relationships that have no value(no sincere friendship) and ungodly , this is most of all. Jesus is the foundation of our faith and that last thing we need is riffraff in dealing with such personalities and how you state it best of all is toxic relationships. Poisoning my garden or life is most of all important because of my relationship with my savour. Toxic people I definitely don't want nor accept, no more, no shaking hands, no open door here nor to my house. True that bad company corrupt s good morals.
Thank you very much
I believe this video was a confirmation from God regarding a recent decision I made. I have finally broken ties with an ex-husband of 30 years. He is and will always be a narcissist. He has poisoned my life and I have continued to take his abuse 5 years after divorcing him. I asked God to confirm that this was the right decision. Watching this video has opened my eyes and I say, "Thank God!!"
It is important to pray for our enemies, including family members we have had to let go of because it is impossible to harbor resentment towards someone we are praying for. It protects us from developing a root of bitterness.
No. Keep UR positive positive energy for your loved ones
Amen
Timely msg. I have an old friend I have tried to witness to, but lately - he just says off the wall things about God & the Bible. I get so frustrated. I think God may be telling me, its time for a break 😢
God certainly is in charge!! I really needed to hear this today for oh so many reasons he lead me to you... and what a blessing that was..reminds me of what I needed to know!! Thank you!!!!
I was always 🙏 praying during my toxic relationship with a narcissist. He finally put on my heart ! Enough is enough let him go , go no contact once and for all so I listen to God
if i've ever had even little thought to move someone from my life its clear sign to do it and i did and i've never regret
I absolutely needed this message today, it is a confirmation. And I loved your "alternate self"...funny material!
I really liked listening to this! I would be farther ahead today if I would have listened to GOD in the first place. My husband and I moved away from the hometown where my TOXIC family members and his TOXIC mother lived. We didn't tell anybody that we were moving, we actually moved to a different State and put 500 or so miles between them and us. Then COVID 19 broke out and my husband wanted me to find out if his one brother was OK. I searched for him on Facebook and contacted him, which became the beginning of opening a CAN OF WORMS. I then started wondering if my family members were OK. I told GOD that I wouldn't contact them unless HE wanted me to. About 2-3 weeks went by and I woke up one morning and GOD asked me if I was a dog, being astonished I asked, " Am I a dog"? HE replied, "Are you a dog, that you would return to vomit"?! That was HIS answer about contacting them and REGRETFULLY I didn't OBEY! It opened the door that GOD had closed and we are now working to get it back CLOSED! My advice to anyone who reads this, it is so much easier just to OBEY GOD when HE tells you something and it will ALWAYS be for your own GOOD!
I just had an epiphany. God really was looking out for me.
I just lost my wife and furbaby a month apart from Cancer, We worked hard to save both , now it all makes sense.
😮Oh my goodness!!! I needed to hear this so bad!!! 🔥Thank you!!!💜
I needed this! My sister who is not a Christian took so much advantage of me and told everyone on Facebook how much enjoyment she got out of it. And I decided no more!!😊😊😊
Videos and messages have affected my perception toward my husband of five years. What a treasure to now feel confident based on God’s Word and principles. What the enemy meant for evil, I trust God will use for His glory. Thank you, Kris! 💜🙌☝️
Hello friend how are you doing.?
Guide me Lord Jesus with this toxic woman.
I was in a relationship with a man who was exactly everything I had been praying for but for some unknown reasons we parted.I prayed to God. I even for fasted for days and the response was soo positive and made me hold on to hope for months.we broke up a week ago and it's not easy.I really don't know what God wants me to do but truth is I'm so confused because our relationship was never toxic.I loved him and he loved me too. we were a perfect match.I believe and trust in God but now I'm just rumbling and confused.
Thank you Minister Reese God bless you ❤️🙏🏾😇
My goodness! You’re an answer to a silent prayer. A prayer that only my soul had but Jesus heard. My cousin was there when my son passed away and even took me in when he died. Little did I know that I was being groomed to be controlled and treated like the help even after I tried to explain that she needed to learn to bend and learn some compassion. After three years of trying to be her friend and not just a cousin, I gave up when I allowed her to bully and shame me for the last time. I tried to talk to her about it but, I knew, after many previous attempts that I was wasting my time. I blocked her. I had to. I knew there was no reasoning with her since I had made concessions in the past to my own detriment. This type of treatment when I was trying to find my way back from loosing my son, the best thing that happened to me since I accepted Jesus, was a no brainer. I’m truly sorry that I was pushed into making this decision and I struggle not to call her, but I know it’s necessary. Your video was placed in my recommendations for a reason and I am so thankful that it was. Thank you! 😊
I put it in Gods hands !!!!! ❤🎉 I ask him to help me make the right decisions. I love you JESUS ! Help me to know what to do. Thank you Lord !
The timing of this is uncanny. Thank you!
My sentiments exactly!
Wow! My phone is psychic! This video couldn’t have come up on my TH-cam at a more appropriate time! Exactly the guidance and encouragement I truly need right now! I don’t expect it to be easy, as I’ve wavered so many times, but I am very aware that my time is limited to finally ‘do what’s necessary’, in order to allow myself the quality of life I have deprived myself of whilst this person has been in my life! Thank you so much for your video!
We are constantly being tracked on our phones. The stations that track us say they do it to find out our likes & dislikes. Some of them lie & say they don't track, but they dooooo
@@teresadvorak6145 I agree that we are definitely being tracked, in many ways! I found it quite unnerving though, just when this video came up, because I was intently thinking of a new way to deal with someone, as in, what the video is about! 🤔
The same thing happened to me. I was feeling a little guilty about not allowing my only sister back into my life even though my life has been a lot more peaceful without her negative energy in it. This video popped up in my feed, but it's not like any of the ones I typically watch.
I have to say, that's how it was 4 me 2 ❤. ☮ 💥
Right 😂
Thank you. Im going to have to watch this a few times. Pray for me. Im drinking now, I've never drank alcohol my whole life. Just pray for me please.