How to Love Yourself to the Core | Jen Oliver | TEDxWindsor
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 พ.ค. 2018
- The world is a better place each time someone disconnects from their busy, bossy mind and taps into their heart and core to ignite a deeper connection to self. There is an epidemic of low self-worth on this planet that will only be remedied with one person at a time committing to expressing unwavering gratitude, compassion and reverence within. Through the heart-core connection to self-love, we can elevate our own consciousness, deepen our connections with others and contribute to the collective respect, love and peace on earth. Jen Oliver is the Author of the International best selling book, The Love FitMama Way and creator of the FitMama Podcast, the Work IN to your workout. Through safe core fitness, self-care and mindfulness she supports moms to embrace, nurture and enjoy their motherhood journey. What she is most passionate about is spreading the message that if you love the body and life you have, you will have the body and life you love. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Isn’t it kind of self love, that we searched for this. We know we deserve more from ourselves.
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omg true 😳
Woah true
Wow its true 😊
It is. Thank you.
We all searched for this 😔
Felt
I hope you’re doing okay ❤️
Definitely did..
At least we trying to learn to love ourselves
Yessir 😪
If you searched for this or clicked on it, you already love yourself to the core. You're just not aware but now you are. You are loved
You are too
No i'm not. Im looking for instructions.
@@nicholaslievano8436.. Q
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Shut up you're making me cry
POV: this wasn't in your recommendations. We all searched for it
Sad but true
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It was on my recommendation
False
I found this in my recommendations
The irony of actually searching on how to love yourself.
Its ok people. We all are in your shoes.
Preach
Facts
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lol
It means that you're conscious about not loving yourself, and that's deep
I don't feel sad that I searched for this video, as everyone in the comments keep saying. All my life I didn't even know I was allowed to love myself. I was always comparing myself with others, always depending on other people's opinion. It is positive to search for these things, means that you WANT to change, you SEE you don't love yourself. So keep on searching :)
Well said!!!
Until you conquer it period .
Any advices?
This comment means a lot. Perception is a hard thing to change in the thick of emotions. However since we’re all here we are trying to change it. ❤️
I'm so happy you commented this
proud of everyone that took the decision to search this topic for themselves. that's self love right there.
Thank you so much❤, subscribed to you
Thanks ❤
Yeahh!!
Thank you ❤
I didn’t search for it but I’m glad it came up anyway 😅
“You is kind, You is smart, you is important”-The Help
YAS! 💜
not feeling love
LOVe
Omg grammar
You Are*
1. Focusing on the Positive (positive thoughts)
2. Being Grateful (appreciating everything that you have, not what you lack)
3. Let Go of things that do not serve you
4. Love yourself more
@@destroyingjoshua320 Ok, if that helps
But how do you love yourself? 🤔
very good question... it's simple just give yourself a credit for the things you do instead of others ..
tbh, yes thats righ but the thing is it's only easy to say but it's really hard to do
Blessings..I am so grateful for this Knowledge..It came in so well when I was going through an incident in school...I am still searching and learning new skills..Blessings.
I can't lie, I searched for this. I need self love. I need self worth inside myself . I'm working on myself 🙌🏾🥺
Your Beautiful Tiara You got this girl!🤩
You are worth all of the love in this world don’t put yourself down you deserve all the happiness that comes your way
Same gurl we all deserve love, and are worthy of everything
I do too‼️🥺
Hi Tiara , how are you doing now?
"If you love the life and body you have, you will have the life and body you love."
This is just so beautiful ♥
thank you!!
Searching for a video like this hurts. I don’t like how others made us feel so low and so unworthy. Crying while tying this. I hope we can all heal and love ourselves.
I know I'm 8 months late but i hope you heal your heart and acknowledge your worth. You deserve all in the love in this world💓
😔😔😔
I see your comments one year later .. I hope you are feeling better..
And here we go it’s my turn to ask the same question .. why people are hurting each other !!
I feel very bad, unloved and unworthy.. I hope this can be fixed soon
It makes me happy that I’m not the only one who searched “How to love yourself”
That's exactly what I typed and this is first video that came up I want to love myself
I was depending on my ex to love me but she cheated on me
So I got to love myself no one else will love me like I do
Love - its what makes a Subaru a Subaru
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@@AverageGamerNub-qf6spand me we are all strong soldiers ❤❤❤❤❤b
Man this girl is vibrant on another level.
*woman.
i'M JUST NOT SURE WHAT LEVEL SHES ON...LOL
@Kiki She really is, beautiful
“Judgement loss instead of weight loss” - I’m for that!! Great talk thank you.
thanks so much!
My fav quote on this TEDTalk! Wish someone could pin your comment
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I don’t even know what love feels like anymore.. I feel like I’m stuck in a hole of self-hate and depression.. Her words brought me to tears.. it sounds like great ideas but I still don’t know how to make myself feel better.. thank you though!
it starts with daily gratitude and appreciation that you feel in your heart and body, not just head
It will just come to you one day out of the blue. It will happen randomly and naturally.
@@wesleybrandon7573 yes
Kimi, the fact that you watched this video and it moved you to tears is a marvelous proof of self-love. Someone once told me that warm tears rolling down the cheeks are the most tender caress we can give ourselves.
Lots of love to you!
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This helped me feel better. It is hard to love yourself when you consider yourself unattractive, untalented, unintelligent and when it seems that nobody likes you and nothing you ever try works. I needed this.
if you’re your profile picture, you’re absolutely stunning! i wish you luck on your self love journey, i know it’s difficult, but please remember you are worthy and appreciated. :)
You are stunning
Look inside. You are a spiritual being, unique created in the image of God, the Universe, the Supreme Being. Remember the first commandment, love the Lord, your God with all your might, heart, soul, and emotion. If God is you and you are God because God is within you and you are in God, then love yourself. The second commandment, love your neighbor, don't be jealous, compared, envy, covet. God, the Universe blessed them. Who are you to judge God, the Universe? Cultivate your thoughts, feelings, spirit to be in alignment with the universe, the source energy, the frequencies, vibrations and everything will be revealed to you. You will not find in the physical realm like your body, possessions. Practice this everyday through meditation, law of attraction, self praise, self love, self worth, self honor, self respect.
Grow! Become talented and intelligent! No one is born like that ;)
@@marty.l so true!
Tips on what I've done to love myself a bit more
1/ Watch what you say about yourself in conversation and if you catch yourself saying bad about yourself, change that quickly by saying something good instead
2/ Record yourself by saying positive affirmations about yourself
3/ Have self-care days often even on days when you feel lazy, try to make self-care your daily ritual and even if you have a busy life, it can still be a few minutes, you don't have to take an hour or more.
4/ Vent often, say or write whatever you have in your mind
5/ Call a friend or a family member and talk to them as much as you can
6/ Meditate to positive affirmations on TH-cam for a few minutes daily or a few hours.
7/ Online shop and buy clothes for yourself and make yourself feel good
8/ Have gratitude, write everything you're grateful for, make a list of 10-20 things you're grateful for daily
9/ Hug yourself (I know this sounds weird but try it lol it works)
10/ Raise your vibrations. If you know someone who brings bad vibes. Stay away from them and try to protect your energy from them. Listen to high vibrational music or go outside to recharge your spirit.
11/ Take daily walks. And when you walk repeat positive affirmations in your head. Only repeat amazing things about yourself. Even if you don't believe it at first just make an effort, it's worth it!
12/ Manifest your happiness or your ideal life. Write everything you desire in the present tense on a piece of paper. Act like as if it's already happened. And just feel happy about it.
Hope all those things help because they've helped me a lot on my own journey! 😊
Good luck to you all 🍀 🥰
Note: I know at some point it won't be easy and you will have those days when you won't feel good enough and you'll want to give up but just remember to push through because I'm here to tell you that it worked for me. But you just have to remain positive and have patience and even when you have tough days, you can talk to a friend or a family member! And everything will be alright! 😁😀
Hope you all have a wonderful amazing spectacular magical life! ☺️☺️😊😁🥰
Thank you for this
Thank you sm for this 💕
Makes me believe its possible to fall in love with yourself all over again.
This was great. Thank u ❤
This is just what I needed. Thank you
What if you don't have friends or family to talk to
One thing I learned from reading the comments: in the most honest moments with yourself, when you know you need to love yourself but don’t exactly know how or where to start...you may feel alone but you are not. 💜
The only way to LOVE YOURSELF is to love ALL of yourself and ALL your emotions. All emotions are positive in the sense that they help you clarify your needs.
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I like to say accept yourself for who you are then you will love yourself
For whoever reads this✨: You are worthy. You are smart. You are capable. You are beautiful. You matter. You freaking rock! Now go spread your magic light💗✨🌿 This is a sign, follow your heart, be your awesome self, the world needs just you🦋 ps. small youtuber here✨💗
Thank You!
@@Farah4D12L27 love u sis
Thank you
your amazing ❤️
No. I can't
I met someone that made me realize that I need self love. It would have been nice to realize it in a different way, but I can't even get mad at her cause now I know what I really need. I'm actually really grateful to her. I accept my reality with her now and I have forgiven myself for everything.
I know this is a long process but I know it's going to make me a better person.
I feel you heavily on that.
I too wish I had been able to learn this lesson without losing her, but I have to believe that its for the best & that I’ll be able to forgive myself, move forward, and eventually thrive again like I did before.
Wish you the best, you’re worthy of the love you seek.
How are you doing right now?
I feel the same way.
Same thing happened to me like 3 weeks ago... so I really feel you. It hurts.. a lot but for me this was something that had to happen so that I realize what I lack. I would have never been able to do that in that relationship.
It doesn't have to be hard or long. Practice law of attraction.
If you can love the body and life you have, you will have the body and life you love!
OMG! I love this sentence!
That is something I have understood recently!
Ademir Alijagic Let’s keep going 🤗
If you can love the body and life u have , you will have the body and life you love😍😍😍
I am beginning my journey of self-love. I need it now more than ever. 🙏🏼
Me too yes amen to that‼️🙏🏾❤️🔥
For everyone seeing this, hope you will feel better about yourself
‘What if instead of weight loss, we did judgment loss’ Wow love that..
I wonder how many pounds of emotions we carry around ..
Mine, at the most, was 110 pounds. That's almost a whole other person!
"How to lose 30 pounds of negative emotions in just two weeks!"
The fact that I can relate when she said “no pictures today” smh, I literally never look in the mirror or take pictures anymore. 🥴 I gotta get back to loving myself without conditions.
I realized i was in a bad place when i stopped taking my morning photo before work
This!!! I agree! We got this! Keep working it’s not an overnight process to loving yourself when you have had so many things try and bring you down!
I really searched this because i'm tired of looking at the mirror or watching my reflection and hate myself even more. I'm really tired, I just want to love myself.
I'm 16 and people said that I'm too young to feel this way but I can no longer hide the hatred I feel about myself everyday. Sorry.
Edit: I feel so dramatic when I wrote this comment. It's just that my cousin drowned trying to save me in the swimming pool. He's not dead, but still hasn't woken up yet.
good morning sunshine ☀️ *insert felix deep voice*
It's okay my fellow Stay... ❤️
Is your cousin well now?
I'm here because my therapist said I had to practice more self love since I absolutely despise myself physically mentally and emotionally
I hope you can learn to love yourself for the great person you are!
Loving yourself is the way you open the door to lasting relationships.
1. Accept You’re Not Perfect
2. Work on Your Flaws
3. Celebrate Progress
4. Practice Gratitude
Everyone that looked this up is awesome. You deserve so much more!
This lady is what the world needs. She is beautiful, not only with how she looks but more important her mindset. She is perfect, for the people who read my comment and want to judge, watch this vid again..... till you get it.
1-Postive self talk only
2-being grateful
3-take time.
Bad diets also cause disregulation of the nervous system, so in truth, you need love and a good diet for healthy self esteem and self worth.
But before that, its your body. If your body is good, then you feel good. Thats real advice
I agree for myself but I know people who don’t have great diets and have just as much self esteem or more than all the organic, health food bits I know
If you don't love yourself, You won't take care of yourself and make better choices for yourself to begin with.
thank you for stating this. that’s just the facts.
@@heatherfreed2419 honestly that just sound like people are hiding what they truly feel lol. I know cuz I used to do exactly that.
Even if you don’t love you, I love you 🥺💛
You are so sweet! 💕
Be proud you searched for this. You deserve to have self love. Searching for this video is a step forward in gaining love.
damn her heart chakra open af
Priscilla Talks this is satanic
No, nathasha love. This is Naruto
Agreed
@@Leonardo12061999 agreed 😂
yesssssss
Thank you for this 🙂 I’ve gone from suicidal to loving myself. Now I’m putting that story and self love message into music and it’s been a beautiful journey so far. And it’s just started ! Love, the encouragement kid
Searching for this or clicking on it already shows how much love and care you already have for yourself. Shows the want to let that love in. Remember that all the love you’re searching for in life, you already have.
Your self worth isn't dependent on ANY circumstances or life factors. Rich or poor, overweight or thin, confident or shy, you always have worth and it's up to you to make sure you feel that no matter what!
yes, we know... but HOW?
It wasn't until I learned my self love came from the fact that I am a Divine being that I started to make big changes. Once I KNEW that, intuitively, I saw myself as beautiful...inside & out. I love how I look and accept all my flaws...but also love my mind, body and soul and do thinks to keep myself healthy.
I am so tired of feeling I am not loved. I know in my core that I am a good person. I love my family and friends. I work hard to get what I want, but still 😪.
i’m sorry.
Same!
"U have a good heart but a damaged soul and it eats u inside out"
Welcome to the club
Hey! Just wanted to say I am so proud of you! You are here and you are doing amazing!!! Self-love takes practice, it is a skill in these days! What are you currently practicing?❤️
The stock photos are unnecessary, but she's a great speaker.
And she mentions babies in my face and I just don't like them in all honesty.
no one could ever hate me more than i already hate myself..
i wanna escape. i wanna be happy. i wanna look myself in the mirror without breaking down and feeling worthless and mean nothing in this world. i will do my best to love me.
yeah we can can do this
Psalm 139..
Hop you are okay now
I do love myself that’s why I got rid of him
roaring, I just burst out laughing. Well done.
Good for you 👏❤
Good going. Proud of you
same here. The kids and I are soooo much happier and calmer without him always causing problems, blocks, high stress and tantrums, not to mention threats of suicide if he didn't get his way.
@@fionaanderson5796 I am going through this right now. No kids but same thing. Sounds like a Narcissistic partner. I don't know why kept going back to him but I see comments like this and remind myself I must get out before kids come into the picture.
To everyone reading this comment, remember that you are deserving of love and acceptance just as you are. Embrace who you are!!
We are all here for a reason. I hope everyone finds what they are looking for ❤️
The times I felt I loved myself was when I had dignity to stand up for myself against situations and people that did me wrong. Respect, dignity and selfcare are selflove
"when will it be that we need to stop [..justifying people pleasing..] looking outside ourselves for validation about our worth that we know comes from within" 👏👏👏
Self love ❤️. I am going to start connect with myself more!. Gonna Prioritise myself first! ✨
Even we haven’t seen each other, I wish you accomplish your dream, great health, and better year of life.
Let’s welcome 2021 together : )
Seriously I hate myself right now. I needed these videos to help me feel better because at this moment I am broken worse than I have ever been broken before.
Sometimes we need to feel broken to rebuild ourselves and get stronger. Sending you love and prayers ❤️
Lows=high
@Jane Kulbeth thank you so much for that, I don't know you but I love you too. This brought tears to my eyes. I really needed to hear that
@@rubabakdash746 thank you, its been a rough year for sure.
@@happinessknowledge9639 thats true, im feeling a little better now that I've gotten on medicine for my depression, and I started going to counseling so I can just get everything out thats hurting or hindering me. Its really helping.
Making a pact with myself. I am practicing self love and my self worth to become better and do better. I am manifesting and claiming the steps that Jen said to practice and I will do. I receive it! ❤️🙏🏼✨
AMAZING!
I hope you're doing good♡
"Remember a time when you felt true, deep love"
Bruh if I knew what love felt like, I wouldn't have to search up this video
😂😂😂😂😂 True story
I’m currently crying because I don’t love myself. 😟
You’re perfect the way u are. U should always love ur self and know that you’re the only one who is taking care of U. Please know your worth we all go through bad days where we feel like we’re not perfect or enough but that’s not true. U should live and enjoy every moment of ur life.
@@sham4312 thank you. 🥰
I'm here to tell you that you can improve yourself. Even if you don't feel like you can't, you can! I used to feel so trapped in my own life and then i took that one small step towards my happiness and self-love. And i won't lie to you and say that "everything is amazing all the time!" because it'll be a cold lie. And i don't want to lie to you because this self-love journey won't just happen overnight but just know that if you put the right effort into yourself and really make a conscious decision towards loving yourself, you'll be all set and you will eventually have your happiness. But you just have to have the right support. I personally don't have anybody that can give me moral support in my real life but I've relied heavily on help lines and free online therapy websites. And just venting about how awful i used to feel about myself.
I know that loving yourself isn't an easy thing. It was hard for me as well and I'm still to this day not really fully there yet but i do genuinely believe that I'm halfway there which i think is good enough for me but i still have to persevere and push through and really make it my mission in life to love myself because withiut self-love you can't really have an amazing life, so make it your goal to love yourself.
Because no one wants to be stuck in their own lives and i certainly do not want that for me as well, so i think we can help each other out to make us all feel better about ourselves. I'm always there if you ever need to talk to me or if you need some extra help or if you need anyone to vent to. I'm available. 😁 Just remember that you are worth something and never let others put you down! You are amazing! You are beautiful and you do deserve a great life❤
@@thefreehealer792 thank you so much for the kind words! You made my Sunday so much better. I have came to realize that people think we need to be perfect like the models shown on social media! That’s the thing we’re all beautiful in our own way! ❤️😊
@@thefreehealer792 Where have you found free online therapy? I truly need this. Can’t afford any I’ve seen so far. TIA if you see this.
Love yourself enough to give yourself the life you deserve
Please don't look for summary in comments, believe me watch it full please
Watch it full yall its facts in there worth knowing
Thank you
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So much passion and purpose in your TEDx talk!
Thank you that means a lot!
Sing it sister!!! We need to hear this!! More of this!!! More self-love!!!!
Teach the brain that you have value by first treating your mental peace, health, time etc like it is valuable. And love the parts of you which you may be rejecting. Care for your emotions like you would a sad child. Read Shadows Before Dawn by Teal Swan. Seriously :)
U r roght
Right
how
i need privacy in my own house or parents house wooden house where you can hear everything from anyones room...is anyone out there that can help me , i kive in fiji btw
@@michelleparis8008 is there room in the garden for a little cubby-house/tent/blanket-fort/meditation space?
Thank you
Thank you, Jen; I needed it. I searched for it. Yes, I love myself; of course, I do. It's just that sometimes I forget how to love myself the way I should. We all do that at some point in our lives. And to anyone who reads this: remember that we need to show affection to ourselves the same way we offer it to our loved one. Be safe and love yourself.
Love yourself to the core! When you do this you automatically set a standard for yourself.
"Love the life you live, live the life you love."
- Bob Marley 💚❤️💛
Shorter one to remember ✌️🌷
the most inspiring one I've ever watched on TH-cam. Thank you Jen, Thank you Tedx. The core is how we are being grateful in day-to-day activities. Thanks, God. Thanks for the chances given.
Thank you for watching and for the comments
Learn to love yourself the way you love your loved ones
You have came so far after all those ups and down. Make sure you are satisfied in the end of the day. Keep fighting and keep supporting each other. We all are fighting our own battles. Be kind and love yourself ✨
I needed this today! Thank you!
thanks for watching
this woman will make the future better
Definitely
Loving yourself is inner validation. The respect and care you'd give to a close friend, that's all I know. That just means im going to learn to love myself more in the near future
Aww her voice is so calming
“You must love your neighbor as yourself.”
Working on my self love and I can’t tell you how much this helped 💜 thank you
'To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance' according to Oscar Wilde. From this moment forward, I will love myself more, live my truths every second, forgive myself more, work on my goals more, and live the life full of learning, growth, meaning, and hope for all genuine joy and happiness. THANK YOU FOR THIS TED TALK MESSAGE!
Indeed we all searched for this and I’m proud of us!
i LOVE this woman!
Such an important, powerful message!! I wish every woman, every PERSON would watch this.
Yes!! This video is amazing! And so true! How is your self love journey going?🥰
I have had time to heal and i.have.had my alone time and with my strong faith in god has helped strengthen me. And i know its time for me to move on.🙏😊
How do you do that? Do you have a special group of friends you can just re-enter their lives? Curious.
@@wesleybrandon7573 ❤
@@wesleybrandon7573 Closer than a brother my Jesus is to me. Have a wonderful weekend 🙏
“there is no survival adaptive benefit to being your own worst enemy” as someone who’s been stuck in survival mode for years & is my own worst critic , that really stood out to me. im going to try to keep that perspective in life. thankyou 💗
So beautifully spoken & presented. Thank you! 🙏🏻🥰
I’m going to share this in my FaceBook group, “ Take Back Your Life MTL” 😊
thank you so much!
I feel like we all need to learn more and more about self-love because this isn't enough, and we deserve more self-love for ourselves
This is awesome! I never thought that I am being so hard on myself until people around me kept on noticing and telling that I should be kinder to myself and it hit me. I am eager to change for the better and I will avoid my daily negative talks that I thought would help me become numb with pain but no.
I wish such topics are so vital and necessary in all school curriculum ❤️
Thank you for sharing this. It really help every single life to live their life to the fullest
thank you!!!
You verbalised everything in my belief system and inspired me on my walk to remember and hold true to what it is i live by. Thank you 💗
Perfect speech
"love the body and life you have and you will have the body and life you love" amazing. I needed to hear this coz I have a hard time loving myself even though I m skinny it's a different kind of pressure when ur own people joke about you putting on some weight and the you will b in the acceptable range 🙄.
This was the breathiest TedX I’ve ever seen
this has been the most important message i have heard in such a trying time in my life on the pursuit to find self love. Thank you Jen Oliver
Simple, to the root, and truthful! Thank you!
Treat yourself like you would treat someone beloved
Don‘t know if someone is reading this, but if you are : You are amazing and beautiful! I believe in you! Enjoy your journey and keep your head up, from a small TH-camr who also love creat as possible you may never find again 🙏 🌟 ❤️
I hope and believe we will all get through this and one day smile at ourselves with true love
This almost made me cry. Thank you
Yourself love is the best to make people to fall in love with you all the time.
This was in my suggested videos and I needed it. Just stop dealing with someone who made me feel so horrible . They were so manipulative and I realized how many excuses I made for them bc I don’t love myself enough to separate. I needed this suggestion and these comments make me realize I’m not alone 😣
Jasmine, what does it mean to get it in your recommendations?
Thankyou jen for showing me how to weave a little bit of magic into my days by changing the way i think !!
I came here expecting another video on how to change ur environment and stuff to love yourself but was pleasantly surprised that her message was far deeper. She pretty much nailed it.