How to handle friends who ignore you and you feel taken advantage of
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 ก.ค. 2024
- If you feel like people are only friends with you because they want something from you, you can either drop them as friends, talk about the situation, or only call them when you have nothing better to do! A lot of times they are the type of people who put themselves first and don't really think about anyone else, or anyone else's feelings. And chances are, you aren't the only one they are treating badly. And sometimes, if your friend constantly ignores you, and you can't even get heard, a little sarcasm might help. For instance, you could say, "Um, could I get a word in edgewise, puhhhlease!!" Sometimes it take someone to point out their behavior, to see any results.
Marie Dubuque is a life coach who loves to give advice on everything from dating dilemmas and drama-filled friendships to tricky social situations and romantic relationships gone south! - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
I'm the kind that always gets ignored. It's because I'm super shy and my social skills aren't the best. I tend to think highly of my 'friends', but lately I've realised that many people don't feel the same way about me. Maybe it's me, I don't know. I often feel like a ghost...
undergroundalcoholsi you will find friends who really care about you, and it will be worth the wait. It's OK to have a lot of acquaintances and very few if any close friends.
+undergroundalcoholsi I wanna be you're friend, you look interesting
undergroundalcoholsi You are not Ignored see you are the top now :)
undergroundalcoholsi did you see what happened here you took a simple step to write the comment and you are not ignored anymore(in here). You have to take this small step in your real life.. :v
omg i didn:t even notice this! thanks for letting me know! :)
I luv how calm she speaks.
I always try my best to be there for friends and always let them know if they need me I'm there,but when I need a friend they avoid my messages and don't care about what I'm going through.
fairyp k exactly the same with me....I am done with group of friends, just trying being with friends on a one to one basis.... I have been going through a berevement, but these so called friends haven't even bothered to get in touch, text ask how I am..... that's not a true friend..... especially when I have been there for them. They can jog on......
Same here! They aren't real friends anymore.
same here
People are your friends if they can benefit from you or have a long term goal. That's mostly on peoples agenda. I just get rid of them after awhile.
This is why I don't do groups anymore. I will visit with anyone one on one but I don't allow things to grow into a group. I find them so superficial that nothing important or valuable happens in those gatherings. I feel like I have wasted my time when in groups. Thankfully, I am blessed that I no longer feel the pressure from others to be in groups. I just explain myself if they wonder why I don't show up by saying that I would rather have relationships individually and would be happy to see them by themselves.
Gwendolyn Wehage like, if you have two sisters, you'd only hang out with one at a time, because if it's more than two people at a time, it's not worth it? I know you're talking about friends, not parents, sisters, or children, but that's the problem: this doesn't make sense. If you have 3 really good friends, who are intelligent and cool people, why wouldn't they be interesting, valuable people in a group? It obviously depends but still.
Gwendolyn Wehage yes I agree with you 100% ...... Friend groups don't work with me, it always ends up sour. I'm happier being with friends on a one to one bases.
Looking back at my more social years, I agree that group outings did tend to have some kind of issues between people. I even see this with family members, but fit example I do enjoy watching a show or playing games with my brother and his girlfriend when she comes to visit. That's usually cool but it's also fun when he goes away and we just have girl talk 😂
Same
@@whitenoise3447 people often change when in a group. They take on the mentality of the group to appease them. When alone with you the same people will act completely differently. I have seen this more times than I can count.
I've just gotten so sick of people lately. No offense to anyone on here - but I am sick of people on social media especially. People act so fake. They fake like they are concerned about you but flake out on you when you need them. I'm dealing with a group of people who are like this. It seems to be just more trouble than it's worth.
Axess2084 you are not alone bro I'm dealing with the SAME stuff w/ a group of ppl too, preferably with my friends
Axess2084 yes it seems to be happening more and more.....I would move on and find new friends, and you will in time. Find much better true friends.....I have been dealing with this too. I was friends with someone for years, but she doesn't reply to my texts, I gave her too many chances, she has made new friends and went out for her birthday lunch without inviting me. I was always the one initiating, I'm done now. I have other friends, so if she can't be bothered to reply to me or even ask me how I am from time to time, she's not being a true friend. You can feel it in your gut....don't let it go on and on....move on and be with better friends.
@@jammyjay917 I hate relating to these things, I'm in a 3 friendship and they can easily drop me for eschover if I Evan stand up and say I feel left out they'll ignore me for days then I'll feel like iv done sormthing then get so paranoid and in my thoughts and I'm also dealing with them being friends still with this girl that did me wrong as she kissed my bf and I don't speak to her but my friends do im block from this girl but she hasn't blocked my friends so I feel like this girl is taking everything away from me and there's nothing I can do because if I try speak about it I'll look like im complaining and everyone will get mad at me, I feel like I only have my bf and Evan my bf can't make me feel less alone
Unfortunately, a lot of people are like this. When I come in contact with people who are this way I distance myself from them. I'd rather have no friends at all than have friends like that. Needless to say, I don't have a lot of friends at all. Quality over quantity.
Sper29 same
oh yeah
Quality over quantity
Sper29 same
Sper29 for realz...
I had a guy who I had a huge crush on who really didn't like me back because I wasn't his type and nor was I good enough in his eyes. About 4 years ago, he used me to read one of his stories that he had written for errors while flirting with me. I thought things were going to work out for us so I attempted to reach out and wish him happy birthday and sending him a holiday card as a way of saying "Thank you." He actually disappeared and stopped speaking to me. The next time I saw him, he gave me the cold shoulder when I could have used him the most friend-wise.
I have decided to just take all the toxic people out of my life and just find new friends. Not worth it to be around ignorant people.
We honestly need to start teaching children from young how to be friendly and include others. This skill has to be taught.
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Life will beat u to your knees.
And you won't let it.
Cause it ain't how hard u hit, it matters how hard u get hit and keep moving
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@@amina_.4258 yes
THey are not true friends if they want to exclude you... Narcissists do this a lot... I have stopped trying to make friends now... its horrible. You are sweet and they know you are polite and will take their shit.."avoid them"!!! Any one who is a true friend will call you and talk to you. I have the same issues!!!! you are not alone.
Lorraine: So true. Same here. I've given up hope of having a true friend. Even my old friend of 30+ years is doing the "ignore and chase me" routine, probably because I speak the truth about issues to with govt and life in general. People nowadays hate those who speak truth and have real integrity. I believe it's the spirit of the antichrist in them.
Reese Daniel I give up on friendship too. It is exhausting. Another 30 plus year friendship and always inconsistent. Now back to ignoring me because I finally stood up for myself after years of criticizing, making feel bad for not having a great career and not attending college. Also makes rude comments about me being a Christian. Calls only to jab at me or when his life is going crappy. Tired of this crap friend going in and out of my life. Never answer phones and only calls when convenient. I erased number on my phone. Let him be childish. He expects me to sit and take his crap. Oh well crap friend
My problem is I feel like my friends don't want me or need but then when they feel sad they tell me all their problems but get mad at me when I don't know what to say but when I have a problem and I ask them they blow me off and ignore my problem
+cicinrinney913 that is definitely a one-sided friendship. Just realize they are that way and probably won't change. So, you can spend less time with them or drop them completely. Either way, meet new people!
+cicinrinney913 i feel you
OMG you are exactly like me!! that happened to me before and it still happens to me completely even tho I choose not to be her friend or anything! my choice only so yeah
+Marie Dubuque Just move on and plan out your life goal. To make yourself a better person it's whatever they come and go out your life anyways. I'm a better person to move on with this situation, eventually some of your old friends will hit you up saying they missed you and all of that.
cicinrinney913 a lot of my friends joke around a lot so when I have a problem I can't have a serious conversation with them because they turn it into a joke, it sucks
there's this girl who can be so fun to be around but whenever a "popular" person is around they completely ignore me. she always gives me look slike i'm doing something wrong. it brings down my self esteem and i can't be myself around her because she never takes me seriously
same..
Holy Guacamole I have the same problem, when I hang out with this one friend alone it's super fun, but she has a ton of other friends that I don't know so every time someone who's more popular than me comes up she totally forgets about our conversation and acts like I'm not there
Could this be Narcissistic Personality :
Disorder??
I. FEEL. YOU. SO. HARD. RIGHT. NOW.
I’m having the exact same problem it’s kinda hard because I love her she’s my best friend and I really want to keep my relationship with her but now whenever she texts me I just don’t want anything to do with her really
I pray my friends don't give up on me. I really want to be life long friends with them. I love them dearly and I think the feeling is mutual. Every one is genuinely busy. I don't want to stress them out. But I question it because I want to be around them, and I feel taken for granted.
I get ignored all the time at the job. They say hello when it's convenient for them. Some of them love to defame my good name and character. I'm holding on to the job simply because it is really hard to find a new job at 54.
A good way to test your friend is first to invite him out just the two of you and If he says no , then tell him that a very special person will also be there , or a girl or sb else and see If he changes his mind .If he finally says yes , he isnt fond of you really .I know because this is what a "friend" of mine used to do .
when my best friend is with me and its just the two of us we're fine but when shes near one other girl she starts showing off and treating me like im not there . and when shes sees someone she hates she expects me to hate her to ..... and when im talking to someone she hates she starts calling me wiered and un populure. also when shes friends with one of the most populare girl she takes advantage of it and leaves me out and treat me like im a door mat ......... i had to lets that out :(
This is not your friend
My friend like that too 😣
She's VERY immature! Don't follow her. Be a good example in front of her.
She doesn't deserve you
I swear I can probably carry a conversation with this woman for hours.
Thanks this was really helpful!
I have friends that act like i'm not even alive.
Vlogging Gamer u make them know u dont damn care about it
I relate except my friends only come to my when they want something expensive (like in Roblox)
Hannah, you just haven't found the right friends. Try talking to one person at a time. If you make one really good friend who is kind and caring, you will find more. You are not ugly, you are adorable!
What about when they MAKE SURE you can't even hear their conversations and when you get their attention they act like its so awkward but when someone else talks to them they Always want to hear them.
Legit my problem rn
Yeah I know what you mean.
Marie, you have no idea how much these videos mean to me.
Thank you so, so much for your hard work on this TH-cam channel :)
I’m sorry but a friendship is pretty much 50/50. I don’t bother with people anymore who don’t receprocate my friendship anymore I have 2 time limit of mistakes or complex stuff.....and then their gone and I’m only talking about new friends there......old friends and best friends that’s different....I’ve been hurt so much by people in life and still deal with rejection issues but ......what gets me is when you invite people to parties or events and they just don’t respond....? It’s so rude and when you say you ask about that, theyact dumb or just totally ignore the question ...just cannot believe them....so I give up..and choose not to have parties or events anymore👎🏽
No I will leave, you need to value yourself , why so many people try to get along with such thing, we dont need to adapt or accept , best leave , God will bring you better people
Chane B Yeah sure
I always get ignored I have a feeling people don't like me much. It's frustrating and upsetting. I take it out on other people mostly people who are nasty to me and bully me. I use them as a psychologist punching bag.
When my friends are talking to each other .Once i talk no one is talking and it feels like they are ignoring or they forgot about me so i felt sad but after i left they started to talk again so it makes me cry somtimes
...my friend randomly began hating me and when I asked her what was wrong and what I did she totally ignored me, I tried appologizeing for what ever I did to make her hate me but she wasn't having it, so I gave her space. I havnt heard from her in 3 months. She was talking about a voice in her head that told her to kill me....so yea...the weird thing is we were so close and she was perfectly normal and then one day she just shut me out
Get off my lawn i'm feeling what you feeling right now. i really don't know why she keeps ignoring me. i did a lot like chatting her friends but still she just seen the message. she didn't say anything at all. but her bestfriend tell me not to give up but i'm having a battle with myself. i really want to give up but i don't. i don't know what to do.
this is useful my friend ignored me today.
I'm going through this with a so called friend at the moment. When he had no one to share some free time with, he would be in contact with me straight away. I have lost a lot of faith in him as a "friend". I have known him for many years. And it's only in recent years that I have begun to realise this person seems to be a user. It seems If you are of no use to him, he will not bother keeping in touch . When he was out of joint with someone, I seemed to be the one He fell back on. Whenever I do meet him, he seems to try to rub in how great his life is at the moment. He keeps telling me about this lady he met online, who he seems to be using for sex. It's like he seems to be trying to make me jealous. I have tried ignoring his "boasts" by avoiding contact with him. But I cannot build up the courage to tell him how I really feel. I'm really frustrated by this person. And do not know how to manage it. He makes me feel bad about myself and jealous about his new found lifestyle. I don't have a huge group of friends. But He seemed to be the one over the years I stayed in contact with.maybe I'm just been paranoid about it all. But how should I handle this whole situation. Some advice would be pretty helpful on this matter!
Cathal Looby think about what he brings to the friendship...really nothing, as far as I can tell. If you feel bad every time you finish talking to him and he seems to be using everyone around him, it might be time to let this person go. I know you have been friends for a long time, but honestly, that's really no reason to keep him around.
Me and my family seem to be cursed with the "being taken advantage of" friendship, and it always seems to be rich ppl who target us :((
Literally my life....
I've been used before. There have been many moments where I thought I was friends with someone or thought we were getting close only to find out they don't give a rat's ass about me. But I guess I may have taken other people for granted too without realizing it. So that makes me just as much of an asshole
my so called friends don't ever indicate contact and when I'm with them they want everything light hearted all the time I get that but when u are low and need a friend it feels even asking once is to much.
I have said is there a problem have I done something and get no no of course not. a few years ago I lost my job nye a chappy job but still made me feel a bit meahh and would have loved a hug but my friends ignored me when I said I lost my job as they wanted a good time and didn't so much as give me a hug. I don't sit being the party proper if anything I'm the one always trying to help others and hate to bother people with my problems so when I do it's a sign I need someone but they are never there
stylejunki furniture artist I get the same thing. They expect me to always have a smile on my face. Can’t even be myself but will call me depressed
amen I got a list of fake people I had to make so I don't help anymore.
If you find someone who genuinely love and appreciate you, you are truly blessed. Take a minute and tell them that you appreciate them. Don't take your good friends for granted.😊❤
Story of my life.I usually walk away
I have seen people in business that take advantage of people. Oh your my buddy as long as you are doing for me. They also will throw out crumbs to people. I have seen it in families, so called friends and even in churches.
i’ve always been really quiet and anxious around people, even some of my friends. i only really have two good friends that i feel like i can talk to about anything, but in school i feel like i’m a fucking waste of space, that i just follow people around and sometimes i wonder if most people actually just want me gone..
Same here
Truuuuue i can't stop crying cause they treat me like that
Well to be objective this goes sideways, there will always be takers and givers, leader and followers, haters and fans. The number 1 rule of friendship goes like this, Friends will be there when you need them, this goes from emotional needs to material ones. Even as a giver, when you give and expect recognition for it, you are not 100% genuine, you do this to help and also be admired for, the taker is usually a person that always needs, so he is used to not giving as he mostly does not have what to give. Ofc there are people that take advantage of you, rarely call, distrust you for no reason, badmouth you out of jealousy, stab you in the back and shit on your loyalty and these types are better kept off if stuff repeats over and over. But as adults, friendships come down mostly to interest in need, even as little kids, friendships are made when the other likes your toys or find you interesting and want to hang out, there is a need that forces people to interact both emotional and material, that cannot be overlooked. It comes down to acceptance of each good and bad parts, when someone honestly cares for your ( needs ), you will know it.
I really liked your advices. When I reached this video, I found that this video explains me. But it was more than that. God bless you, thanks for making me cry in joy and admition
Thank you. I have two best friends from Bible college in Wisconsin who drove out to visit me in CA. I love them so much and when they visited me and slept over at my house for two days, I was appalled. They did acknowledge me for awhile but were more interested in talking with each other and my mom. We do better one on one than I would with a group of three. I did so much for them and they only contacted me to stay the night while visiting CA. I was excited and said yes and even put so much into their coming over that I even stayed up cleaning and setting up and making sure they feel right at home. And when they were here, they weren’t too excited to see me (Wisconsin time difference which I understood) both girls were on the road for hours and it was 9pm CA time but 11pm their time and EXTREMELY zombie like (yet that’s not the case when I visited them and I was tired but I still was excited to see them and showed it) I showed that same excitement to them but they didn’t reciprocate it. Then the next morning we got up early to go to San Francisco and at the city, I interacted with them but they would not hear me or just stare and acknowledge and then continue having fun with each other taking pics of each other and I felt like saying something about how they were treating me like I was the air they breathe but didn’t but instead I grinned and bore it. I even treated them out to In N Out and they still ignored me when I tried talking to them more (though they did say thank you). Then the next day, we drove to Pine Grove which is close to where I live and one of my friends got carsick on the way up that she rested in the car but my other friend and I finally had alone time to just bond which were the best 15 minutes of my time with her seeing her again after her wedding in Wisconsin. Then my other friend joined and the ignoring and hardly acknowledging me happened again. We later went to Sutter Creek to get coffee and ice cream and they talked more to each other than with me. Then I drove us to get pizza at Costco in Folsom and when we got there, the other friend who was carsick at Pine Grove decided to walk with me into Costco while the married friend FaceTimed her husband in the car waiting for us. That half hour one on one time I had with my other friend went also really well until the pizza was ready and we headed home. Then at my house, my married friend said to my other friend “oh I do want to visit you again and also stay at your aunts house in Truckee she was so much fun!” And she said nothing more and I said jokingly “and what am I chopped liver?” Then my friend responded “oh don’t worry! You can also come visit us at her aunts house.” I laughed so as not to stir emotions but deep down that hurt. The whole time they were both over, it was always about them and I felt like a wall. I redecorated my room for them, let them sleep in my bed while I slept on an air mattress on the floor, I took them around my neighborhood letting them drive the golf cart, took them to SF without asking them to pay for gas, treated them to In N Out, spend so much time with them, gave them sweet compliments on their pics which they didn’t give me any compliments back but only to each other, took them hiking, bought us all pizza, welcomed them into my house and let them stay two nights til they had to be on their way, etc. I even went the extra mile and did things for them as my guests such as getting them a drink of water, washing their dishes for them, setting the table for them, making sure they had food first and I was last but they hardly acknowledge let alone show much appreciation other than a simple thank you to me at all and only do acknowledge me as a friend when it’s one on one. I usually hate being in groups of friends because this is what happens when two of your best friends are even better friends with each other and often don’t acknowledge you in the group. It hurts and as I reflected throughout my four years of college, I realized that it was always the case, one on ones with them were the best but groups were NOT and I did more than enough for them and always went the extra mile and they would say thank you and sometimes they wouldn’t but most of the times they never really acknowledge my going the extra mile for them and no I don’t expect anything in return but would appreciate gratitude and their friendship and love in return which is really not much. I was always inclusive of all in a group bc I know what it’s like to feel left out and I wanted no one to feel that, yet when it’s not reciprocated the same way in return, it hurts. This may sound like I’m getting back at my two friends but my married friend asked my other friend to be her maid of honor and didn’t ask me to be in her wedding but only had her sister in laws in her wedding and the maid of honor being my other best friend. I didn’t mind so much not being in her wedding but did hated the way I was treated bc I felt like a wall flower and so out of place that I decided to keep myself busy with her wedding by helping with decor, hair, makeup, etc but felt like I was ignored. Anyways, i was planning on having the two of my best friends in my wedding one day if I do get married but looking back at the way they treated me, I won’t! My cousin can be my maid of honor and some of my church friends the bridesmaids but neither of the other two best friends will be in my wedding; if we are still friends I will invite them God willingly but only as guests. It’s not me getting even with them but make a point that if they don’t treat me like they treat each other then why have them in my wedding? In the past, I have told them how I felt and would feel guilty bc I would think I was being selfish or hypocritical (because maybe I was doing the same things I don’t like them doing to me) or I’m always shifting blame and am making excuses for them and I’m being too sensitive even though that wasn’t the case. Yet I was always fair and had them tell me what I did to them wrong and I hardly get any feedback and instead would find myself apologizing too much to them bc I love them! And I’m crying as I’m typing this bc I really love my friends yet am hurt by the way they treat me. My other friend (the maid of honor of my best friend) got annoyed when I tried sharing how I felt and I could hear it in her voice now I just don’t trust talking to her about anything anymore but allow her to tell me how she feels and I listen and help her. I feel like a used rag only needed for something and then disregarded and/or thrown away.
I really appreciate your whole vibe and the way in which you proceed during your advice. You are so respectful and helpful and smart.
Christ's blessings to you.
I found a friend I hadn't seen for 30 years on the internet. We grew up together and roomed with when we were 18 years old. An apartment we shared when we were 18. When I messaged him after we hadn't seen each other for 30 years, we were both really glad to have reconnected. He lives in Salt Lake City and I live in So Cal. He is a trucker and came to visit me on a few of his runs. I drove to SLC and stayed a couple days with him. When he was driving long distance he called me often. Now he drives local and every time he gets a new girl friend he has almost no time to talk to me, which I understand. What bugs me now is that he never answers when I call him on his day off, and he seldom calls me. Ignoring my phone calls and messages was the last straw. I'm going to do the same thing to him now. Looks like my only friends now are some young guys I work with. They message me and call me when I'm off work.
Swaggy, yes, it hurts. But this is the kick you need to start getting to know other people. Try a sport, a club, something at school where you can get involved and get to know a whole new set of people. I know it's hard, but you can do it! And you'll be so happy you did. And down the road you just might reconnect with your friend.
I had a fake friend I was literally really nice funny and a great best friend but she had made friends with some girls she was fighting with for mouths I was happy they were friends but then they started to stop talking to me I felt alone but then thought who cares they are missing out I was also like just wait till they start fighting again he goona come running back to me and imma be like ur lost
Wow ! You literally said what I've been feeling this past few months. Thanks for being AMAZING =)
Thank you so much! You have helped me feel so much better.
tks for your advice. i've experienced this like a thousand time without finding an answer
I have had a lot of rejection in my life. It hurts being rejected and that means that a friendship could never even get off the ground. I don't think social media helps I have had a lot of rejection on social media. I have been betrayed in friendships and had manipulative people who pretend to be friends. I get lonely but what keeps me going is my Christian faith.
We shouldn't let people use and abuse us or be taken advantage of.
@Michael Ejike Thank you so much for your very kind words. Sometimes I feel totally broken. I have had so much rejection, hurt, pain over the years. I have been bullied badly. I have experienced real hatred towards me. There was one man who totally rejected me I don't mean in a romantic way just on social media. I knew him from a choir I was part of. He hurt me quite deeply. He was a Christian but he didn't seem to act like a Christian. I feel drained when I think of him. I have bad anxiety from what happened. I feel depressed sometimes and cry. I feel lonely and lost. I have my faith in God and Jesus and that helps.
I SOOOOOOOOOOOO, SOOOOOOOOOOOO, SOOOOOOOOOO agree with every word you speak !
I had a friend like this. Would ignore all my texts. I remember months would go by and I was trying really hard to get a hold of them and they just weren’t replying. It was very rare that they would reply. If we did make plans they’d always cancel last min. So annoying talking about it with them never helped. So glad we’re no longer friends.
I feel like the world hates me...this is why.Conversations I had this school year (Names are fake just for examples but this did happen to me):
Sally: So Rachel we could go to that thing!
me: "Hey um--"
Rachel: Yea! We can do this and that!"
me: 'Did you know that--"
Sally: "Here is the website!"
me: ...in mind: I am right here trying to talk to you but fine.
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Sally: Man I hate names that start with A.
Rachel: "That wasn't very nice..."
Sally: Well its true."
me: .................................
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me: "Hey you guys wanna have a sleepover?"
Sally: "Nah."
Rachel: Sally what If we had a sleepover?"
Sally: "YEAH!"
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Also, when I wanted to sit by my friends on the bus. They said there wasn't enough room. When Rachel sat alone Sally would grab me and had me sit by her. I don't understand this! Am I being used for something?
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Sally told me to shut up a lot. And soon I lost friends. I am cyber bullied and It feels like I was bullied when that happened. I am switching schools but..I am scared of getting new friends because I may be bullied / ditched like last time. What should I do? I feel so lonely and i cry a lot late at nights...I go on youtube to search it up, but the advice wouldn't work for my scenario.
Omg we are all going through the same things
Adriana Vanwardhuizen show them silence when they ask u about something
let them know u care more then th
just dont stick with them or find other friends coz they suck
I am going through too it's so saad
Sounds like you've been tramatized.😥Make a list of all the good qualities you want in a friend and do not deviate from your list. Tell yourself everyday that you are lovable and worthy of being loved and respected. Lots of love and best wishes to you.😊❤
You are so right! Thank you for the video.
you all who are watching this are amazing, you'll find someone who respects you and adores you. ❤ xx
what do u do when your best friend for years tells all your secrets and ignores u for other friends
Thank you so much, that was so helpful. And I'll definitely use these tips!
I like your videos before I even watch them because I already know it's going to be good!!
Yes my friends tooked over advantage on me thank u so much and your speech is so nice
Rachel, she probably won't. So, I would keep her on the back burner, maybe as more of an acquaintance. She probably won't ever be a lifelong friend. If you don't count on her, you won't be disappointed.
My best friend stopped talking to me but she thinks that I have other problems. What she said is true but still, the way she ignores me is bothersome.
I don't understand her, and she doesn't understand me.
I'm confused about this whole friendship.
It's hard to find new people. But it's going to be a cycle of best friends come and go. I really wish I have best friends forever. My friendships are so important. I lost one. And I don't want to lose another. 😞😞
+AC56371 just today I found out that my cousin who has been my best friend for ~8 years doesn't like me anymore and doesn't want to be friends. The worst part is I found out from another friend because he was too pussy to tell me about what he thought of me and when I asked him he told me what he thought and he has been faking our friendship for about 3 months now and in an instant 8years gone every fucking birthday and every hangout gone.
+AC56371 just don't worry about it things will get better and if the friendship is over find new friends and hold on to them but not to right or else they will slip away
+Dylan Bye that must've been hard for you. Hope everything goes well for you too. 🙏🏼 thanks.
Wow your videos are really helpful please don't stop doing them!!
My shyness is misinterpret for pride.
I’m in high school and have a job and all of my friends are always taking advantage of that because I can’t say “no” to people when they ask for favors or rides(I pay for my car and gas, *rarely invited where they are going*) I am always putting others first but the moment I need something simple(like advice or gas money that I *will pay back*) they always are busy or have no clue what I should do.
Really cures depression
Nice work :) love the way u understand the pain
This is why you dont need friends
My friend used to be my bestie but another girl has started hanging out with her and she is airing me
Same just that that was just today and now I'm depressed af. Iguess its because i hug alot and i guess I'm really clingy. And I'm scared that she hates me, bc when i smile at her she just give me a small smile and Looks away. I'm scared that she hates me or something. And when i went up to her se just asked her friend if they could leave before i could even say anything. :(
I honestly have 1 friend. And she is the only one who talks to me and actually acknowledge my existence.
It really hurts when a person you loved and trusted stops talking to you just because of a science grade. It's lonely without her though.... When you're going though some things, your best friend leaving you isn't what you need. She cares when everyone but me cries now. It really sucks... She acts like I dont exist now, and didn't even say happy birthday to me. Why does this have to happen to me at such a time? With a constant sad feeling I tell to just a teacher, it only gets worse. It never ACTUALLY gets better for me. The 'better' is just me locking myself in my bathroom and stoping my fake smile. And I cry. Just like I did the day she left me. I know I should get over this, but it's harder than it seems. I hope I dont seem selfish.
This weekend I told my “best friend” for like the 3rd time how I felt about her leaving me out and her real new best friend confronted me and said to stop and that she is getting tired of me telling her “how I feel” and yes, she put quotes on how I feel...And when we went back to school they just ignored the whole thing and continued to leave me out...😔
So helpful! Thank you!
Don't trust "people" like this.. they are NOT friends.
Its really hard to get along with friends at times because you have friends that are jealous of you or if you are good at a game event and just playing for fun and people take the game seriously than rage if you beat them leaves without a trace. I heard my friends were going to the movies they were probaly planning without me or miss planed it but I feel unwanted, making me jealous, trying to make a day without me, avoiding me or when i need them they wont care but when they need me i get piss off because i feel like i am not needed in most cases. Tomorrow is a new day refresh my mind and start thinking positive and be more cofident. Don't feel down if a friend is taking advantage to you be brave and be humble, be badass everyday.
There are also those people who give you many things or help you in many small things. And then, they act like if they have the upper hand and can treat you like dirt because they helped you. And then, they start asking for a lot of things.
I have no problem in helping people, but I don't like when people are not generous just for being generous, and because they have the plan to get the most of you. That is very manipulative. Sincerity is the key. Now, I don't accept help anymore.
pro tip: if a good friend is ignoring you, call them to the side. Tell them you have only 2 chewing gums, you are the lucky one to get it. One for your friend and one for you. Then tell them old memories like "remember we..." and then after a while tell them what you have to say to them. :-) and if he/ she starts talking to you, look at him and smile and talk back. if he is a good friend maybe you can hold hands (if you want) and stay confident. Idk if this will work for you, but it will a lil bit trust me. 💕
Get to like being with yourself and you won’t mind so much. Most of the time, it crappy conversation about tv shows or some singer that nobody will care about in two years.
True that
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This is happening to me right now I’m in a GroupChat with My idk friends Toby and Megan and they r talking trash about me when I go to sleep I always have bad thoughts in my head like they are gonna day something bad about me but when I wake up in the middle of the night I look at the messages and they didn’t but when I’m with them in a room they just treat me like I’m some sort of useless friend :( people like that can be scary to be friends with
I used to be a people pleaser until I got so sick of *allowing myself to be used* that something inside of me said *”ENOUGH!!”* I’d much rather be respected than liked anyway. What’s the saying? *Don’t make someone a priority that won’t even consider you to be an option.*
all my friends do this.. *sighs*
last year I had 2 best friends they said they would keep in touch and text me everyday so then I moved and now I'm in middle school. when I Text my friends they say they are too busy to text or call... but then I see their instagram post and they are hanging out with people that they said were mean. also on my birthday they didn't even say happy birthday but when it was another girls birthday they made a whole collage about her on insta I don't know what to do
i really need this video right now. it sound stupid but it actually really hurts: my friends play xbox a lot, and i have an xbox just my membership had ran out. so i decided to buy a year of xbox gold (£50) and now they don’t even want to talk to me. they don’t invite me to the games i own but invite me to games i don’t own and they know i don’t. it’s actually upsetting and aggravating.
Marie: I can't believe what I am hearing on your channel. It is like going to the therapist to have a serious talk about all the things that I wanted to know. In order words, I am hearing a lot of things that I have noticed about some people and it is good that you are confirming how I should behave. It also teaches me of any ways that I should change about myself too. Thanks again.
I had someone play games with me like this about 4 years ago who didn't really like me but when he wanted something then he flirted with me. Then when he didn't have anything for me to read, he didn't give me the time of day.
Really like the longer video format here....thanks again!
I struggle with having friends either I have them leave your I get ignored or feel ignored .
I feel that sometimes but I just evaluate who I'm with and i'll make my presence known
all my friends either only ask why I wasn't at church and don't ask if there's anything going on. nor talk to me when the other friends come. nor include me in events. nor talk to me for more than just 5 seconds... there's only 7 of us (technology 5) and at church I've distanced my self from a few.
I just wanna say, I love your video. You always have such great advice. :)
Jade, thank you so much for your kind words!
Thanks 🙂
Marie Dubuque thanks
lately ive been feeling like my friends are ignoring me. i tried to ask them to hang out, but a lot of them didnt respond at all. i know people get busy, but sometimes i feel they are ignoring me
Pink Guy some of my friends, i really want to keep them as friends, and i wanna see them because i havent seen them in almost a year, but i dont want to annoy them by messaging them too much.
what should i do about this situation?
+Monkey D. Goofy I'm going thru the EXACT same thing I don't know either heat to do about this situation
I really don't know anymore tbh. I made a friend in the beginning of the school year and we were really close, we would always play video games together and hang out etc. but then like a year later she started to hang out with other people, and when I tried to hang out with them too, her other friend will push me away, and she would stay quiet. Now since this is my first year of middle school and that was elementary, I don't get to see her that often, (since she can't text, I can't communicate with her often) and now I only see her in the hallways and at pe, and like we stare at each other for like 20 seconds, then I wave "hi" and she just turns the other way and completely ignores me. And when I join her in video games and she just leaves right when I join. I really don't know what I did wrong. We were really great friends and she was the best friend I ever had.. and now I just feel depressed bc I lost my best friend. And also in the video game there's a chat thing (where we chat, but now she never plays it anymore..) I saw her text her friend and she never replys me. Omg TH-cam comment section is soo my personal Expression . (BTW THIS ACCOUNT IS MY COUSINS AND I FORGOT TO SIGN OUT lol)
When friends ignore me when im trying to ask them a joke and there talking to there friends when they ignore me when i keep on trying to get there attention i just walked away like they dont even know my name and at lunch i just eat lunch by myself and when im coming home from school and started crying and talking saying there just pretending that im not there
I am so happy that I found ur channel
I also don't like it when people hint around for help from you.
I don’t understand why my group doesn’t chat to me like they used to it hurts me people don’t like they used to
Once my friend wanted to copy my homework I let her it was my bad. Now that brat stopped talking to me I'm lonely I'm sad I hate everyone at my school. They even plan party's without me they put it in the group chat it infuriates me I just leave and then when I come back in real life they plan other stuff. I'm just stuck in this position
I went through this in a class group I was working in this semester.
I rather talk on a one to one basis....most friends don't actually care unfortunately....I did go out a few times with a group of other ladies but I never liked the topic of conversation....one always talks far too much, I never enjoyed it... They don't listen to what I have to say, they go on about themselves.... respect yourself and do your own thing I think 💗
Me my cousin and 2 of our friends hangout and apparently my cousin doesn't like me and neither does one of the friends but they were to pussy to tell me and I found out after ~3months of them being rude to me and hanging out without me. The other one likes me but they all 3 will stay hangout without me. But the point is the 2 that don't like me (my cousin and my friend) won't tell me WHY they don't invite me and why they treat me like trash and why they don't like me.
Thanks what should I do?
Yep, that is how I am treated.