If a woman is playful, that's fair enough, but this 'hard to get' nonsense is just a test of whether you are a simp, or you have the autonomy and self-confidence to go do something else...or SOMEONE else 🤣
I hear ya - Storm Eagle! When it comes to dealing with women - Confidence is everything! You could basically get away with anything if you’re confident, and relaxed! And also learn to use a lot of eye contact, that way she knows - that she’s dealing with a different kind of man. You want to be able to stand out, women give out their numbers to guys all through the day… sometimes just to get rid of the nice guys approaching them - that doesn’t mean they’re going to pick up when you call or respond to your text messages. You need to learn to “build an emotional connection” within seconds of meeting her - that way, you have a much better shot at her remembering you, and picking up your phone call or replying to your text messages. Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Which is a nice red flag to tell you that she is terrible and balancing 10 guys at once which is not a bad thing to be bad at, it's just a bad thing to be doing PSA guys: for every guy out there talking to 3 girls there are 3 girls out there talking to 10 guys. Look for quality!
I’m seeing a girl now who never texted me first and it had me worried for a while. I would reach out when I had meaningful things to say or schedule dates. She always replied to me enthusiastically and with detailed responses. Turns out she was just anxious/nervous about initiating communication and started to reach out now that she’s more comfortable. It was tough feeling like the only one initiating for the first few weeks (even after amazing dates) but some people are just at different stages of comfort at different paces. Looking back it made me glad that I pushed past the feeling of doubt and I was able to lead her to a comfort level where she was okay with texting first and move past her own anxiety about it.
That is great to hear and means a lot to me. I'm in a similar situation, I am talking with a girl for a few months now, always initiating the conversation. Sometimes she seems excited to talk with me but most of the time it feels like she is very uninterested. We mainly use voice, photo and video messages to communicate . I invited her on a date multiple times with no success, sometimes she agreed but later canceled. She did mention that she is very shy and awkward so I am a bit more patient. She agreed to go watch a volleyball game with me this sunday so I will see how that goes, I hope that it turns out for me like it did for you
@@mynameisjeff9560 it seems like she’s giving you mixed signals. You are worth more than a maybe or a yes and then cancel my man. It’s okay to be patient up to a certain point but if you feel like she is disrespecting your time and efforts I can promise you there is a lady out there who will appreciate those things you have to offer, but only if you let this one go. Do you want somebody who is only sometimes excited to talk to you? It may hurt to hear and I’ve been through it as well, which makes us appreciate even more when we find someone who is always excited to see us. Good luck brother
I had the same situation, went on a great first date and she mentioned a second but she never initiated any calls or texts which I’m okay with but it was so hard to tell her interest level and when I tried two more times to schedule a second date, she would agree then later cancel so I just left it at “no problem, we’ll just do it another time” and never hit her up again. You want to date someone who wants to date you and that’s been my current mindset
Bro you’re the man in the relationship. It’s your job to initiate not hers. It’s her job to receive and reciprocate. If you initiate and she doesn’t reciprocate then you should be worried. Otherwise she’s just being feminine which is good. The man leads and sets the tone the woman follows.
@@brian3786 bruh, if she never initiates the texting, that’s a pretty bad sign. You’ll look like a moron or a simp more than half the time if it’s always only you.
In my experience, high-quality people don't play games. They don't need to. If you are a high-quality person, just enforce the "games-playing tax," by next-ing the girl. When she runs out of high-quality options (hopefully, before she hits The Wall), the light bulb will go on, and her behavior might change. 🙂
They learn eventually. Usually when their options become limited to guys who play games. That's when it starts to click in their mind how crappy it feels and they jump onto the "no games" train to "anti-hookup culture" town where they're met with all the bitter men they turned down, like Marc, who tell them that they are ran through, hit the wall, and are absolutely worthless now. Starting to understand why everyone is angry and lonely? We all have to quit this painful cycle. Men and women. It's not worth it. It's not healthy. We're social beings and we need eachother.
@@rachelsarmientotack well women do struggle, since far too mamy lack a proper father figure, that there are good men out there, and only see bad boys and nice guys, same conundrum with people only seeing victims and oppressors, forgetting about victors. Good MEN > bad BOYS > nice GUYS. Forget the children ladies, pursue adult men who actually "get it."
@@drip369 I completely agree with your reply to me. The way we're raised affects the way we see the world and the influx of fatherless families has a major negative affect on how men are perceived and treated. It's not fair to the good men out there. Your reply to Marc, however, is exactly the type of behavior I addressed that perpetuates anger and pain rather than encouraging improvement. It's fair to have and express feelings.... just maybe avoid projecting those feelings by pointing, laughing, and calling women ugly. I want to believe you're a better person than that.
In my experience, Women are very deliberate when it comes to a guy she is interested in speaking with and likes. If she wants to communicate with you, she will communicate consistently, openly, and she will initiate. She won't play text response games. If she's busy or occupied, she'll let you know..and again...she'll be specific. She'll tell you the how, where and why.
What I've come to learn with dating or talking to people and general is that no message is a message. Fellas pay attention, I've been there. Thus and what I've learned is that people prioritize others is just ain't you. So it's best to walk away and save yourself.
Don't use texting alone to figure out whether someone is into you. You can filter out the "bad texters" by getting to the point and asking them out. The women who are actually into you will spend time with you IN PERSON! Quality time in person is a bigger investment than a measly text. I've had girls text me all day, but never wanted to go out - they just enjoyed the free attention and validation through text.
💯 true. Texting should only be done long enough to arrange the face-to-face meetup. Hopefully you're not looking for a texting pen pal. Get her to put up, or shut up, as soon as you can. Anything else is a waste of your valuable time and energy.
Exactly!! Texting should only be used as a tool to arrange to meet up and if someone comes up with excuses like “But we barely know each other” or just want to keep texting or something, then you know they are just using you for attention and validation and nothing else. That’s how to test a woman’s interest when you actually ask her out after 3-5 positive messages because otherwise you are just texting buddies and nobody wants that. Texting sucks.
@@AndyKirtland11 Although I agree, people tend to actually be busy. Your best bet is too actually set a date and time. The closer the better of course. But set that date up. If she wants to get to know you more before doing that, it's ok. Just ask again in a few days. Some girls are genuinely like that, so a little patience doesn't hurt. But if she declines a second time. Change her to the game.
Let’s be honest, this advice is from Coach Corey. And while I have followed him for several years, I disagree with the notion that the phone is only for setting dates. We’re in 2022, dating is not what it used to be and technology has evolved 100 fold. If a women is only giving you attention when you’re with her, and never makes an effort to talk to you outside of a date, then you got a problem on your hands.
"It takes two to Tango" is the mindset men need to have when it comes to lukewarm responses from women. This does not only apply to texting - it applies to the whole dating "dance". When a women is into you everything is suddenly easier - your jokes are funnier, she puts herself in close proximity, and suddenly you have "game". The primary factor that determines if a women wants to tango with you is usually how attractive you are physically, followed by your body langauge/style/presence. This is assuming of course you are being authentic and are communicating your intent as a man.
I'm in this situation right now. This video helped me realize it is time to move on. She was texting me so much at first sending good morning texts and we have hung out a few times. I started investing more and I don't understand why she pulled away. I think I setup a dynamic between us that wasn't the best. I think I am the attention guy for her and am just going to leave it alone. I found myself becoming a bit obsessed and wondering what she's doing. I realized that is the energy I need to focus on changing within myself
I was in the same boat and got to realized my purpose for her was just attention, validation and an ego boots. The right thing to do is just move on and put all that energy in yourself. Find your purpose and self improve!!!!
God that's rough to be treated as someone's ego boost rather than a person. I'm not sure I subscribe to the idea that your interest in a woman who was investing time and energy with you at the time caused her to lose interest. If that's true, she has some internal struggle that she needs to work through. Push-pull relationship dynamics are entirely unfulfilling and unhealthy. I absolutely support pulling that investment back as soon as she does. That was 100% the right move for your sanity and any hope of her respect for the value of your time and attention.
Hi Courtney, usually never write here but this video resonated with me. After dating for a few months and some amazing dates, she has distanced herself. This video helped me remove the idea of questioning myself and really allowed me to continue moving forward and working hard. Cheers!
I can't imagine that even "good texting" means much. If someone wants to be with you, then she wants to _be with_ you: in your physical presence, preferably alone, possibly naked. If a woman can go ten days without spending a single moment in your presence, and she isn't in China or someplace, then she's just not that into you.
I think the "preferably alone and possibly naked" part is dependent on the dynamic and investment level of that particular relationship. And I don't think that not quite being there immediately is necessarily a sign that she's not interested. But I definitely agree that even if she's busy, casually dating, or emotionally guarded.... making an effort to spend time together is a far better indicator of interest than any level of texting.
can I explain the problem?.... girls don't just automatically know if they want to be with you. This is actually quite a long process they go through of talking to you and choosing out of a bunch of guys which is the best guy for her. She doesn't just have 1 guy, she has many guys all trying at the same time and she has to go through them all and get to know them all and eliminate the bad ones and she'll be left with a few good ones. Then she still doesn't know who she wants so this process takes a while of her talking to many guys at the same time until she finds the right one. Unfortunately in this process she will probably be bad at texting you and bad with communication and you'll notice as soon as a girl actually has decided you're the one the communication instantly becomes better because she's finally got rid of the other guys
@@GrowingDownUnder That all is true about girls who are not into you, and it's fine to pursue them casually. But girls who are into you absolutely know they want to be with you. And while girls who are into you still don't come up and ask you out, they are quite intentional about "accidentally" running into you in the hope _you_ will ask _them_ out.
@@cisium1184 No girl is automatically into you, the universe doesn't work like this. Love at first sight is a myth and doesn't exist. If a girl apparently is "into you" straight away when she first meets you then I have some very bad news it means you're probably just attractive and she wants to sleep with you. That's bad news because "lust" is not the same as "love" or even being into someone.
It's ironic but true that many women just like to have multiple guys around to feel better about themselves. This behaviour takes many shapes and forms from just being a bit flirty in conversations to full-blown dating three or four guys at once. Often women like this have deeper more serious issues. Usually, this kind of behaviour is a coping mechanism for whatever issues she may have. Nobody is perfect but we should try to surround ourselves with people who are humble enough to recognize their own faults and actively improve themselves, both for their sake and for the sake of others. And it is the wisest to avoid people who are drowning in their own problems but are too arrogant or egotistical to admit it. These people never change and always end up putting 100% of the blame on the person trying to help them! Trust me I know from experience. At the end of the day, you can't help anyone who doesn't even want to help themselves
Good video Court. Needed this. There’s also an excuse saying some women are shy to text which is completely BS if a person wanted to talk to you or text you they would do that.
The shy thing is real. But it really only applies to conversation initiation, not reciprocation. If they can't hold any sort of productive conversation, that's a problem. I'm one of those shy people. But shy people can't also expect everyone to be willing to do all the work forever. We have to work through it or hope to match up well with an extrovert who's naturally confident in leading conversation. It naturally and rightfully limits our options. If a shy girl isn't your speed, that's totally fair.
@@KoolAidSquirt She IS a simple woman like many billions. She's just also well put together, articulate, and puts forth the effort to share the truth with her audience of mostly men in a productive and compassionate way. That's how she is able to give men valid advice about women. Because she's a woman like so many others. And she's friends with women who talk about what they appreciate and are turned-off by when dealing with men. If you set her apart from other women. You invalidate her advice.
I had an experience where the girl always responded “I’m busy” texts …. And the funny thing is it was always “I’m busy” if it’s weekday or weekend. Glad CCR covered this in the video as it will help someone to move on than stick around for nothing.
I gave this very advice to a female friend yesterday. I've actually stopped texting many people just to get my mental health centered again, along with so many things I have going for me like school, martial arts classes, side hustles, etc.
Great tips! When it comes to dealing with women - Confidence is everything! You could basically get away with anything if you’re confident, and relaxed! And also learn to use a lot of eye contact, that way she knows - that she’s dealing with a different kind of man. You want to be able to stand out, women give out their numbers to guys all through the day… sometimes just to get rid of the nice guys approaching them - that doesn’t mean they’re going to pick up when you call or respond to your text messages. You need to learn to “build an emotional connection” within seconds of meeting her - that way, you have a much better shot at her remembering you, and picking up your phone call or replying to your text messages. Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
An instance that confused me was when a girl asked me out and then ghosted me the day before and day of when we were supposed to go out. I was sort of like, "If you aren't into me, why did you ask me out???"
@@HISHAM931 Her excuse was, "Sorry, I got busy." I replied saying "I wish you would have called or texted to let me know so I didn't have to sit around and wonder what was going on." It is highly likely I am going to run into her tomorrow, I may not approach her, make her make the first move and see what she says about it. With the rut I am in, I am tempted to go into monk mode for a while, just burnt out
@@bluegrasskid4835 you remind me of myself, been in a rut as well for several months. My job prevents me from meeting people, so whenever those opportunities come by with a girl, it irritates the hell out of me when things ain’t clicking or she’s deliberately trying to waste my time. I accepted that this is my reality at the moment.
Same goes for us guys. Over the Christmas holiday I met a woman at a Christmas party. We had chemistry but honestly I wasn’t all that attracted to her. Nothing against the lady but she just wasn’t my type. She blew up my phone and was very enthusiastic. We went on one date and while she had a great personality the attraction for me wasn’t there. A week after the date I asked to meet her for coffee and I was honest with her about my feelings. Sure she felt rejected but she was sincere when she thanked me for not playing game and being honest. We chat every now and then but she isn’t going to put much effort into communication when she knows it won’t lead to what she wanted. Honesty is the best policy and both men and women appreciate it.
Did happen to me. Then I thought to myself, would she be a bad texter to Mathew McConnoughey, or Usher, or some high performing athlete? After answering no to myself, I set out a plan to focus on myself and work till I'm on the level of the aforementioned people. Not there yet but I'm damn sure better than where I was and feel much better than I did when I saw her on a dating site and realized that means she'd rather have anybody else than me who is right in front of her
Don’t over complicate it. Say you send a text as an invite, she doesn’t reply. Consider it a “no” or text again a full day or 2 later. But never a 3rd time. She’s just not that interested anymore. Don’t take it personally.
As a guy I experienced it before. I respect myself and when I realized that she's really not interested, I walked away. I'm not gonna beg anyone for attention. haha
With the last person I dated, I found out she was still talking to several other people, even after telling me I was the only one. Even as the #1 option, I decided for her. If you are not their only option, leave. Someone else will value you more.
Thank God, you made a video on this because I was recently going through a situation where the girl I'm currently texting took 24 hours to respond. She later replied by apologising about it and explained about her phone being smashed onto the ground.
There's a funny area with this where I know people who are Shiite at texting. Either taking ages to respond, not opening message even or alternatively can throw a message to ME, asking something, I get back to them and they disappear 😅 But when I actually do meet up with any of them, they're a delight and we get on great. So it's really unpredictable with people
Yeah I kind of figured this out years ago. If a girl is giving you one word answers or taking forever to text back, it just means she's not interested. Sure, we are all busy, but we're not so busy that we can't make time to send a text, so if she actually wanted to talk to you she would.
Yup! Was talking to a girl, went on 2 dates and afterwards she became distant. Never texted me, always told me excuses why she couldn't go on dates, never wanted to see me in person, even for a few minutes. I didn't want to accept it but eventually I did. I talked to her about it and we amicably called it quits. I wasn't even a tiny bit of a priority to her but ok, just wished she could've just told me instead of just being quiet about it. Be smart my brothers and sisters! You're time and your own self is valuable. Don't let it go to waste with someone who doesn't put even the slightest effort in wanting to see/be with you.
This is black and white there is no grey area. The women who I’ve actually ended up dating and meeting were always available to text me back and made effort with their conversation. I go by the good old saying, If she likes you you’ll know it, if she doesn’t you’ll be confused.
One thing I’ve noticed when texting female friends, is that they’re considerably more responsive when they’re single, in the later stages of a serious relationship with a significant other, or married. When they’re seeing, or in the early stages of a serious relationship with a significant other, they’re much less responsive. Does anybody else notice that? I used to be the “needy” type, where I’d get mad if a friend (male or female, even family members of mine) didn’t return my texts. It was a feeling that I didn’t matter. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria sucks (Courtney, if you’re reading this, please research Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and do a video), but is something that can be overcome. It’s difficult, but not an impossible feat.
RSD, it's all coming together. And I know exactly what you mean. I was talking to a old high school friend of mine, who was getting married to her then BF and I think it was the day or so before the wedding. It was the most talkative she's been with me in a long time. I felt a little weird about it. Like you have a fiancee, why are you talking to me this much... So I understand completely where you're coming from.
My girlfriend and i have been together for a month now. She literally told me she was a bad texter on multiple occasions. I was super confused but decided to ask her to be my girlfriend anyways. She was extatic. After that we started calling every night and she told me she didnt want to seem desperate which is why she said she was a bad texter. So i don’t think its always a negative.
Hey Courtney , thanks always for such a gr8 advice you not only helped me indeed healed me through a lot . Heartily appreciate your words and content you create . Deeply overwhelmed and love to say that am very thankful to you . Wish you all happiness and support 💕
Thank God for this video. I appreciate your insight because a young lady I liked texted me with that exact line, and I thought she was being cute. But after days and weeks till this day I haven’t heard from her. Not to mention I called her and left her a message and still nothing. So again, I needed this insight. It’s very helpful. Thanks!
Courtney, my ex broke up with me because I told her that probably our relationship will not work out in the long run: Most of the times I texted her first. I believed not initiating contact with me was a sign of disinterested. It's really a shame. We like each other and our in person meetups was always amazing. Have she felt under pressure? I can't understand this situation properly.
I totally get what your trying to say about texting to much. thanks for bringing it to my attention. If someone wanted text me then they probably would of already done it. I apologize for any miss trust i had in you as well. And again thank you.
She's not a bad texter. She's just an asshole who lead you on and wasted your time pretending to like you because what she really likes is the attention and self gratification that attention brings. Some people are just so rotten they need to keep telling themselves they are flawless. What to do? find someone who doesn't have their heads up their ass.
There is another situation where she’s just using for attention or keeping you on the back burner because another guy came into the situation. Great vid btw!!
She MUST text you more, like you more, pursue you more, love you more. This is just the way it is. If you do any of these things more she is going to have one foot out the door and the other soon following.
Definetly helps to set some boundaries. You don’t want to loose excessive time with someone who doesn’t fulfill your true love. This is happening to me with a sub from the past. On pandemic I didn’t want to meet / escape for sex. Because I thought that seeing someone would make me crave the outside even more. So I was isolated on my hobbie, painting Minis, drawing; wathever kept my mind busy. She booty called and I said no. She felt rejected so from then I don’t feel like she likes me anymore. So now when she sms and asks how are you? And then doesn’t answer in WhatsApp, she just want to win the attention and then not giving it. I don’t play those games. I prefer investing my time improving myself. And making space for who truly is a better match. I think something like this video + what others make you feel relates how they felt, mirroring, this also happens with kids, and to develop emotionally, they need their parents to understand what they are feeling. I see you are angry, but how about we behave well and then after we can play a bit? Etc A phrase I liked a lot was: don’t fall in love for what they can become, but their habits and what they actually are. Similar to what this video says: th-cam.com/video/eQYkqUlsIq0/w-d-xo.html (Bertrand Russell a message to further generations) 2 min
I recently started seeing a girl that is a very short texter that doesn't often ask questions but does text consistently nearly every day. We are six dates deep, which I'm sure is a pretty good sign. I questioned her on it fairly early on about here texting habits and she made a point that she often feels spent at the end of her day and doesn't see much point in elaborating on anything when it can be said in one sentence. I've had prior dates that have either ended up sending whole essays over text or literally never asked a single question leaving me to be the only person making any sort of effort. There is definitely some nuance to this.
I can handle a simple fact that girl may not like me. What pisses me off is when she looks straight in your eyes and cold heartedly say she will text you when she gets home. Then she end our conversation with a wonderful kiss. Next day I'm STILL waiting for that text that never comes. Thats why I'm single. I have TRUST ISSUES. I don't know how to let those go. If a girl told me she doesn't like me or doesn't like me in that way. Then I would respect her a lot more...
someone finally said it anyone who hasn't been living under a rock knows the average woman can't go more than one hour without checking her phone (that's probably being generous). She didn't "miss" your call/text/DM. She ignored it.
I've noticed if I start with a roast/insult then I get an instant reply! Even if you leave a negative comment on her IG post! She's gonna reply 100% regardless of the thousands of "You are beautiful, etc, etc" comments. She's gonna ignore those nice comments, but a negative comment or a critique...oh boy! :D
Guys one thing I have learned over the years is : we men are the prize, always be working multiple women until you find the one that meets most of your needs and wants. These days we don’t have to settle. Be patient. There has never been such an abundance of beautiful women in all of history. Know who you are looking for. The Universe will provide 😎
Yeah I met girls who were like this and I wasn’t the priority and just an option, it is what it is I just moved on and stopped talking or seeing them, never wait around. Know your worth, dating be like this till you find someone who is really into you.
Yeah i had this happen to me, we met online and went out twice and she asked me for a third date, but then canceled day of, and then was to busy the next time i tried to reschedule, after she canceled the date she would take almost a full day to respond... im not dumb enough to think she still likes me lol most likely she met someone else... which sucks cause i thought we had a great time and i liked her, but thats life... ive found that online dating gives women so many more options to arbitrarily reject one person because the grass might seem greener with the next guy that likes their profile.
So I had a girl who told the whole office that she liked me and her coworkers came to me and told me. So they showed me a picture of her and she was cute so I gave her coworker my number since I couldn’t catch her one on one. We spoke for the first week and it was a good convo! Now she texts back but the convo is short! Why would a woman go through all that to get a man and not respond! That’s extremely bizarre behavior. Comments please?
One lesson I learned this week, even at 39, if a woman doesn't like you and you are a high value man and have women telling you that you are a good and attractive man. It's not you, it's her mindset. Her mindset is massed up. I experienced that with a girl who rejected me last year, I moved on, and by coincidence my jiu-jitsu class is near her yoga studio. And a year after her rejection, I had a confrontation with her this past Tuesday. I've seen her car around, she would parked near my jiu-jitsu academy, and there were times when I would see her and I would ignore her. What happened on Tuesday? After a year of not having any contact with her. ...This crazy chick yelled out my name twice and pretty much accused me of following her... the first time she ever saw me in person, we were communicating over ig and phone, and she accused me of weird ish. I realized then! Chick is crazy... and there's a reason why she's single at close to 34. I also realized, that she's attracted to that what she is. A toxic person. .
It really depends on who this person is irl vs online. If she's glued to her phone and all over social media posting and not texting you, then yeah, she's not. But if she's ghost mode on her phone (texts & socials) and only texts logistics, but in person she's present - then you actually have found someone who doesn't like texting (me, i am a woman and hate texting but am 100% engaged in person). If they tell you they are busy at X time or Y reason and actually end conversations full stop, they are busy - it's logic.
NO WOMAN is worth chasing and goin through all this nonsense. I’d suggest getting an older woman. Most older woman are done with texting, emailing, or mind games, they have life experiences that makes them grow mentally and emotionally. Another thing is, most older women are done with the games they played in their teens, 20s, and 30s.
So many girls have this "I'm a bad texter" on their profile. I guess they wanna lower guys' expectations for quick replies but at the same time, I'm less inclined to message her cause I know there's even a lower chance than usual to hear back from her!
A woman I've been talking to hasn't been great at actually responding, so I'm guessing this is where I'm at. I've invited her out a couple times though and she's asked for a rain check because she already had plans. Is "rain check" the new "nice" way to say no without saying no?
The rain check is to tell you that you're not choice number one as she is still exploring choice number one, until that falls through....like girls that like you. Trust me, you'll notice the difference with genuine desire from a lady. Want girls that want you. Invest in girls that invest in you.
If you have enough time to read the message/text they you have enough time to reply back something like "busy day, talk later" simple. At the speed some people text you could say that faster then it takes to put the phone back in your pocket.
No one is that busy they can't respond within a few hours. If the girl has a job where phones are not allowed to carry, extend that time span to 12 hours.
I’m pretty much “just an option” for a lot of my friends because I’m basically always the “back up friend”. On the rare occasions I’ve dated I’ve ended up in the same position for reasons that escape me.
I wish we all can be a bit more honest on how we feel. I know sometime we want to not hurt people's feelings, but to me that pure ego. IMO, be honest and respectfully direct and we can all not waste each others time guessing and doing silly stuff. Again, my $0.02.
Texting should only be used to make and confirm dates, especially in the beginning. Too many guys (and probably some girls) use texting for idle chit-chat all day & night, which can come across as you not having anything else going on.
Valid point at the end, however the one thing men in general don't understand is the fact that women can't help looking for the emotional meaning of the test, while men texting is just a way to transmit a message, rarely aware of how things might be interpreted. In most cases gets really confusing and ends up badly. Texting, not a conversation tool.
@@Void_of_Light thank you. In-person is optimal. I’m not interested in having a phone relationship unless we are long-distance but under normal circumstances, less phone, more in-person dates.
@@josesantana770 I’ve had men text meaningless stuff like, “how’s your work day?”, “what’d you eat for lunch?”, “how was your laundry?” after we’d only been on 1-2 dates. Those are super boring questions and do nothing to build/escalate attraction. I’m sure men who are successful at dating & attracting women are out there spending time with the women, not texting them about the weather.
Most people are so busy with work and multitasking, by the time they have time for you ,they fall asleep, I know this because I used to fall asleep on my wife all the time and she would get so upset with me.
Hi Courtney! Need some watch help from you. I’m looking to purchase ONE nice watch. It will be either a Cartier Santos or a Rolex Yacht-Master blue dial. I respect your taste so I’d like you to suggest which you would rather see on a man’s wrist. Thanks in advance!
I left a girl on read like 24 weeks ago because I realize she did not care about me always asked me if I had money and see never text me first I text her first.
I’ve received the “bad texter” response before 😂. I ended up dropping her and some time later she seemed shook when She saw me in public with someone new that I was talking to. 🤷🏽♂️ 😂
I had one tell me she couldn’t figure out why guys ghost her all the time. And so I talk to her a little bit. And then she said we should get together. So I told her if she was available the next day to text me. Later in the next day she texted me that maybe she’d be available sometime during the week. And I deleted her number. It’s that game that makes guys ghost her.
When you think about it a lot of the toxic dating advice that women give to other women tells women to behave as if they haver borderline or histrionic personality disorder.
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"Even if she is playing hard-to-get, do you really want to get her?". Um, no. I don't have time to be deciphering codes and solving riddles.
If a woman is playful, that's fair enough, but this 'hard to get' nonsense is just a test of whether you are a simp, or you have the autonomy and self-confidence to go do something else...or SOMEONE else 🤣
I agree! No games please!
I hear ya - Storm Eagle!
When it comes to dealing with women - Confidence is everything! You could basically get away with anything if you’re confident, and relaxed!
And also learn to use a lot of eye contact, that way she knows - that she’s dealing with a different kind of man.
You want to be able to stand out, women give out their numbers to guys all through the day…
sometimes just to get rid of the nice guys approaching them - that doesn’t mean they’re going to pick up when you call or respond to your text messages.
You need to learn to “build an emotional connection” within seconds of meeting her - that way, you have a much better shot at her remembering you, and picking up your phone call or replying to your text messages.
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
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Yep
"See what is directly in front of you and not what you want it to be" -- loved this quote. Great advice.
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This is it. Needed this very much
“Don’t waste time on people who make you an option instead of a priority.” Ugh so true! I’ve made this mistake way too many times 🤦🏼♂️
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Same here bro, we all do. Live and learn. We get better as we go.
We’ve all been there!
Yes you really do have to choose those who choose you and invest in those who invest in you
Only issue with this is that women have a lot of options. The ones that do will therefore treat most men as options. Sort of inevitable.
She told me she was going to text me when she gets home… must be homeless
Lol bro you’re funny
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Literally...laughing out loud 🤣🤣🤣💀
This has been so frequently quoted. I should start keeping a score.
give her a home 🤷🏾♂️
Everyone knows that if a woman wants to talk to or see a guy, nothing will stop her. Nothing. There will be zero excuses or reasons
That's why you got to choose girls that choose you, and invest in girls that invest in you
thats why its better to stop pursuing her
@@drip369 maybe in the next lifetime
@@paulp59 Be Chad, Tyrone, Lebron James, Leo Dicaprio, or Elon Musk.
Half the women on Hinge have “I’m a bad Texter” in their prompts.
Besides, most of them don’t need a boyfriend, they need to go to AA.
Which is a nice red flag to tell you that she is terrible and balancing 10 guys at once which is not a bad thing to be bad at, it's just a bad thing to be doing
PSA guys: for every guy out there talking to 3 girls there are 3 girls out there talking to 10 guys. Look for quality!
Which means they want attention and options, but don't expect them to respond back.
Yup.
Hahahaha swipe left
It’s sad too because they put it on their profile like it’s a proud achievement
I’m seeing a girl now who never texted me first and it had me worried for a while. I would reach out when I had meaningful things to say or schedule dates. She always replied to me enthusiastically and with detailed responses. Turns out she was just anxious/nervous about initiating communication and started to reach out now that she’s more comfortable. It was tough feeling like the only one initiating for the first few weeks (even after amazing dates) but some people are just at different stages of comfort at different paces. Looking back it made me glad that I pushed past the feeling of doubt and I was able to lead her to a comfort level where she was okay with texting first and move past her own anxiety about it.
That is great to hear and means a lot to me. I'm in a similar situation, I am talking with a girl for a few months now, always initiating the conversation. Sometimes she seems excited to talk with me but most of the time it feels like she is very uninterested. We mainly use voice, photo and video messages to communicate . I invited her on a date multiple times with no success, sometimes she agreed but later canceled. She did mention that she is very shy and awkward so I am a bit more patient. She agreed to go watch a volleyball game with me this sunday so I will see how that goes, I hope that it turns out for me like it did for you
@@mynameisjeff9560 it seems like she’s giving you mixed signals. You are worth more than a maybe or a yes and then cancel my man. It’s okay to be patient up to a certain point but if you feel like she is disrespecting your time and efforts I can promise you there is a lady out there who will appreciate those things you have to offer, but only if you let this one go. Do you want somebody who is only sometimes excited to talk to you? It may hurt to hear and I’ve been through it as well, which makes us appreciate even more when we find someone who is always excited to see us. Good luck brother
I had the same situation, went on a great first date and she mentioned a second but she never initiated any calls or texts which I’m okay with but it was so hard to tell her interest level and when I tried two more times to schedule a second date, she would agree then later cancel so I just left it at “no problem, we’ll just do it another time” and never hit her up again. You want to date someone who wants to date you and that’s been my current mindset
Bro you’re the man in the relationship. It’s your job to initiate not hers. It’s her job to receive and reciprocate. If you initiate and she doesn’t reciprocate then you should be worried. Otherwise she’s just being feminine which is good. The man leads and sets the tone the woman follows.
@@brian3786 bruh, if she never initiates the texting, that’s a pretty bad sign. You’ll look like a moron or a simp more than half the time if it’s always only you.
Girls that play hard-to-get should be hard to want. There are consequences for actions and some of those girls need to learn that lesson
In my experience, high-quality people don't play games. They don't need to.
If you are a high-quality person, just enforce the "games-playing tax," by next-ing the girl. When she runs out of high-quality options (hopefully, before she hits The Wall), the light bulb will go on, and her behavior might change. 🙂
They learn eventually. Usually when their options become limited to guys who play games. That's when it starts to click in their mind how crappy it feels and they jump onto the "no games" train to "anti-hookup culture" town where they're met with all the bitter men they turned down, like Marc, who tell them that they are ran through, hit the wall, and are absolutely worthless now.
Starting to understand why everyone is angry and lonely?
We all have to quit this painful cycle.
Men and women.
It's not worth it. It's not healthy.
We're social beings and we need eachother.
@@marcmays48 and when she hits the wall and is left alone, unwanted because she's ugly inside: wham bam point&laugh at the ma'am
@@rachelsarmientotack well women do struggle, since far too mamy lack a proper father figure, that there are good men out there, and only see bad boys and nice guys, same conundrum with people only seeing victims and oppressors, forgetting about victors. Good MEN > bad BOYS > nice GUYS. Forget the children ladies, pursue adult men who actually "get it."
@@drip369 I completely agree with your reply to me. The way we're raised affects the way we see the world and the influx of fatherless families has a major negative affect on how men are perceived and treated. It's not fair to the good men out there.
Your reply to Marc, however, is exactly the type of behavior I addressed that perpetuates anger and pain rather than encouraging improvement. It's fair to have and express feelings.... just maybe avoid projecting those feelings by pointing, laughing, and calling women ugly.
I want to believe you're a better person than that.
In my experience, Women are very deliberate when it comes to a guy she is interested in speaking with and likes. If she wants to communicate with you, she will communicate consistently, openly, and she will initiate. She won't play text response games. If she's busy or occupied, she'll let you know..and again...she'll be specific. She'll tell you the how, where and why.
thanks for sharing your experience
Agreed, 100 %
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What I've come to learn with dating or talking to people and general is that no message is a message. Fellas pay attention, I've been there. Thus and what I've learned is that people prioritize others is just ain't you. So it's best to walk away and save yourself.
Don't use texting alone to figure out whether someone is into you. You can filter out the "bad texters" by getting to the point and asking them out. The women who are actually into you will spend time with you IN PERSON! Quality time in person is a bigger investment than a measly text. I've had girls text me all day, but never wanted to go out - they just enjoyed the free attention and validation through text.
💯 true. Texting should only be done long enough to arrange the face-to-face meetup. Hopefully you're not looking for a texting pen pal. Get her to put up, or shut up, as soon as you can. Anything else is a waste of your valuable time and energy.
Exactly!! Texting should only be used as a tool to arrange to meet up and if someone comes up with excuses like “But we barely know each other” or just want to keep texting or something, then you know they are just using you for attention and validation and nothing else. That’s how to test a woman’s interest when you actually ask her out after 3-5 positive messages because otherwise you are just texting buddies and nobody wants that. Texting sucks.
💯 Big Facts. If she likes you, she'll go out with you.
@@AndyKirtland11 Although I agree, people tend to actually be busy. Your best bet is too actually set a date and time. The closer the better of course. But set that date up. If she wants to get to know you more before doing that, it's ok. Just ask again in a few days. Some girls are genuinely like that, so a little patience doesn't hurt. But if she declines a second time. Change her to the game.
Let’s be honest, this advice is from Coach Corey. And while I have followed him for several years, I disagree with the notion that the phone is only for setting dates. We’re in 2022, dating is not what it used to be and technology has evolved 100 fold. If a women is only giving you attention when you’re with her, and never makes an effort to talk to you outside of a date, then you got a problem on your hands.
"It takes two to Tango" is the mindset men need to have when it comes to lukewarm responses from women. This does not only apply to texting - it applies to the whole dating "dance". When a women is into you everything is suddenly easier - your jokes are funnier, she puts herself in close proximity, and suddenly you have "game". The primary factor that determines if a women wants to tango with you is usually how attractive you are physically, followed by your body langauge/style/presence. This is assuming of course you are being authentic and are communicating your intent as a man.
that is a big "when" but sadly chances are next to zero
no matter what you do to level up
I'm in this situation right now. This video helped me realize it is time to move on. She was texting me so much at first sending good morning texts and we have hung out a few times. I started investing more and I don't understand why she pulled away. I think I setup a dynamic between us that wasn't the best. I think I am the attention guy for her and am just going to leave it alone. I found myself becoming a bit obsessed and wondering what she's doing. I realized that is the energy I need to focus on changing within myself
Don’t drop your crown
I was in the same boat and got to realized my purpose for her was just attention, validation and an ego boots. The right thing to do is just move on and put all that energy in yourself. Find your purpose and self improve!!!!
Thanks guys!
God that's rough to be treated as someone's ego boost rather than a person. I'm not sure I subscribe to the idea that your interest in a woman who was investing time and energy with you at the time caused her to lose interest. If that's true, she has some internal struggle that she needs to work through. Push-pull relationship dynamics are entirely unfulfilling and unhealthy.
I absolutely support pulling that investment back as soon as she does. That was 100% the right move for your sanity and any hope of her respect for the value of your time and attention.
Great self-awareness and maturity, my brotha. 👊
"Playing so hard to get screams insecurity to me" 💯
Courtney spilling facts I wish I had known in my past 5 relationships and/or "talking" stages...
It's funny how we rationalize and make excuses to protect our ego. Life's way easier when you just take things at face value and focus on actions. 💯
Hi Courtney, usually never write here but this video resonated with me. After dating for a few months and some amazing dates, she has distanced herself. This video helped me remove the idea of questioning myself and really allowed me to continue moving forward and working hard. Cheers!
I can't imagine that even "good texting" means much. If someone wants to be with you, then she wants to _be with_ you: in your physical presence, preferably alone, possibly naked. If a woman can go ten days without spending a single moment in your presence, and she isn't in China or someplace, then she's just not that into you.
I think the "preferably alone and possibly naked" part is dependent on the dynamic and investment level of that particular relationship.
And I don't think that not quite being there immediately is necessarily a sign that she's not interested.
But I definitely agree that even if she's busy, casually dating, or emotionally guarded.... making an effort to spend time together is a far better indicator of interest than any level of texting.
can I explain the problem?.... girls don't just automatically know if they want to be with you. This is actually quite a long process they go through of talking to you and choosing out of a bunch of guys which is the best guy for her. She doesn't just have 1 guy, she has many guys all trying at the same time and she has to go through them all and get to know them all and eliminate the bad ones and she'll be left with a few good ones. Then she still doesn't know who she wants so this process takes a while of her talking to many guys at the same time until she finds the right one. Unfortunately in this process she will probably be bad at texting you and bad with communication and you'll notice as soon as a girl actually has decided you're the one the communication instantly becomes better because she's finally got rid of the other guys
@@GrowingDownUnder That all is true about girls who are not into you, and it's fine to pursue them casually. But girls who are into you absolutely know they want to be with you. And while girls who are into you still don't come up and ask you out, they are quite intentional about "accidentally" running into you in the hope _you_ will ask _them_ out.
@@cisium1184 No girl is automatically into you, the universe doesn't work like this. Love at first sight is a myth and doesn't exist. If a girl apparently is "into you" straight away when she first meets you then I have some very bad news it means you're probably just attractive and she wants to sleep with you. That's bad news because "lust" is not the same as "love" or even being into someone.
It's ironic but true that many women just like to have multiple guys around to feel better about themselves.
This behaviour takes many shapes and forms from just being a bit flirty in conversations to full-blown
dating three or four guys at once. Often women like this have deeper more serious issues. Usually, this kind of behaviour is a coping mechanism for whatever issues she may have.
Nobody is perfect but we should try to surround ourselves with people who are humble enough to recognize their own faults and actively improve themselves, both for their sake and for the sake of others.
And it is the wisest to avoid people who are drowning in their own problems but are too arrogant or egotistical to admit it. These people never change and always end up putting 100% of the blame on the person trying to help them! Trust me I know from experience.
At the end of the day, you can't help anyone who doesn't even want to help themselves
Good video Court. Needed this. There’s also an excuse saying some women are shy to text which is completely BS if a person wanted to talk to you or text you they would do that.
The shy thing is real. But it really only applies to conversation initiation, not reciprocation. If they can't hold any sort of productive conversation, that's a problem.
I'm one of those shy people. But shy people can't also expect everyone to be willing to do all the work forever. We have to work through it or hope to match up well with an extrovert who's naturally confident in leading conversation. It naturally and rightfully limits our options.
If a shy girl isn't your speed, that's totally fair.
@@rachelsarmientotack agreed gotta put some effort in
Courtney Is A Queen For Girl Info
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Always Speaks Logically, Listen To Her ✌🏻✌🏻
She's just a simple woman like many billions.
@@Andrew_Cretu no she’s not.
@@KoolAidSquirt She IS a simple woman like many billions. She's just also well put together, articulate, and puts forth the effort to share the truth with her audience of mostly men in a productive and compassionate way.
That's how she is able to give men valid advice about women. Because she's a woman like so many others. And she's friends with women who talk about what they appreciate and are turned-off by when dealing with men.
If you set her apart from other women. You invalidate her advice.
I had an experience where the girl always responded “I’m busy” texts …. And the funny thing is it was always “I’m busy” if it’s weekday or weekend. Glad CCR covered this in the video as it will help someone to move on than stick around for nothing.
Once again, you nailed it! You should write a book.
Courtney is getting better day by day. Her confidence & flow while delivering is amazing 💥💯. Kudos CCR !
When you have a giant rock on your ring finger, that happens!
I gave this very advice to a female friend yesterday.
I've actually stopped texting many people just to get my mental health centered again, along with so many things I have going for me like school, martial arts classes, side hustles, etc.
so glad you're taking space for your mental health!
It's good to focus on yourself first
Yes! Self care is very important to me now
Good because self care is more important. You always should put yourself as top priority and the rest should fall into place naturally.
Now I feel even more depressed.
Great tips! When it comes to dealing with women - Confidence is everything! You could basically get away with anything if you’re confident, and relaxed!
And also learn to use a lot of eye contact, that way she knows - that she’s dealing with a different kind of man.
You want to be able to stand out, women give out their numbers to guys all through the day…
sometimes just to get rid of the nice guys approaching them - that doesn’t mean they’re going to pick up when you call or respond to your text messages.
You need to learn to “build an emotional connection” within seconds of meeting her - that way, you have a much better shot at her remembering you, and picking up your phone call or replying to your text messages.
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
That general tip at the end is covered with gold!
Thank you Courtney 😊
An instance that confused me was when a girl asked me out and then ghosted me the day before and day of when we were supposed to go out. I was sort of like, "If you aren't into me, why did you ask me out???"
Yea some girls are flakey like that. Also shows a lack of respect if she didn’t have an explanation.
@@HISHAM931 Her excuse was, "Sorry, I got busy." I replied saying "I wish you would have called or texted to let me know so I didn't have to sit around and wonder what was going on." It is highly likely I am going to run into her tomorrow, I may not approach her, make her make the first move and see what she says about it. With the rut I am in, I am tempted to go into monk mode for a while, just burnt out
@@bluegrasskid4835 you remind me of myself, been in a rut as well for several months. My job prevents me from meeting people, so whenever those opportunities come by with a girl, it irritates the hell out of me when things ain’t clicking or she’s deliberately trying to waste my time.
I accepted that this is my reality at the moment.
she would definitely text Leonardo DiCaprio back quickly that's for sure
How would she know it was him?
Same goes for us guys. Over the Christmas holiday I met a woman at a Christmas party. We had chemistry but honestly I wasn’t all that attracted to her. Nothing against the lady but she just wasn’t my type. She blew up my phone and was very enthusiastic. We went on one date and while she had a great personality the attraction for me wasn’t there. A week after the date I asked to meet her for coffee and I was honest with her about my feelings. Sure she felt rejected but she was sincere when she thanked me for not playing game and being honest. We chat every now and then but she isn’t going to put much effort into communication when she knows it won’t lead to what she wanted. Honesty is the best policy and both men and women appreciate it.
Did happen to me. Then I thought to myself, would she be a bad texter to Mathew McConnoughey, or Usher, or some high performing athlete? After answering no to myself, I set out a plan to focus on myself and work till I'm on the level of the aforementioned people. Not there yet but I'm damn sure better than where I was and feel much better than I did when I saw her on a dating site and realized that means she'd rather have anybody else than me who is right in front of her
Exactly how I deal with that. I’m usually like “Would she flake on Brad Pitt?” Or something along those lines
Don’t over complicate it. Say you send a text as an invite, she doesn’t reply. Consider it a “no” or text again a full day or 2 later. But never a 3rd time. She’s just not that interested anymore. Don’t take it personally.
As a guy I experienced it before. I respect myself and when I realized that she's really not interested, I walked away. I'm not gonna beg anyone for attention. haha
If one does not initiate, nor reciprocate, then it is time to evacuate.
“She doesn’t like you”
I know, I’m used to that.
I sure hope you have a game plan and some tangible steps to change that
With the last person I dated, I found out she was still talking to several other people, even after telling me I was the only one. Even as the #1 option, I decided for her. If you are not their only option, leave. Someone else will value you more.
Thank God, you made a video on this because I was recently going through a situation where the girl I'm currently texting took 24 hours to respond. She later replied by apologising about it and explained about her phone being smashed onto the ground.
Yeah, a smashed phone excuse works once, stuff happens.... but not constantly.
There's a funny area with this where I know people who are Shiite at texting. Either taking ages to respond, not opening message even or alternatively
can throw a message to ME, asking something,
I get back to them and they disappear 😅
But when I actually do meet up with any of them, they're a delight and we get on great.
So it's really unpredictable with people
Yeah I kind of figured this out years ago. If a girl is giving you one word answers or taking forever to text back, it just means she's not interested. Sure, we are all busy, but we're not so busy that we can't make time to send a text, so if she actually wanted to talk to you she would.
I always like that Corey Wayne quote:
"Why would you want to have someone in your life who doesn't care whether or not you're in theirs?
Also, read the book *10 to 15 times*
Like a game of tennis no point to keep hitting the ball over the net unless they hit the ball back
Yo read his book 10 times. Make sure you read it 10 or more times
THanks for confirming a fear. Definitely giving too much benefit of doubt, but yea, most times actions speak louder than words
Yup! Was talking to a girl, went on 2 dates and afterwards she became distant. Never texted me, always told me excuses why she couldn't go on dates, never wanted to see me in person, even for a few minutes. I didn't want to accept it but eventually I did. I talked to her about it and we amicably called it quits. I wasn't even a tiny bit of a priority to her but ok, just wished she could've just told me instead of just being quiet about it. Be smart my brothers and sisters! You're time and your own self is valuable. Don't let it go to waste with someone who doesn't put even the slightest effort in wanting to see/be with you.
This is black and white there is no grey area. The women who I’ve actually ended up dating and meeting were always available to text me back and made effort with their conversation. I go by the good old saying, If she likes you you’ll know it, if she doesn’t you’ll be confused.
One thing I’ve noticed when texting female friends, is that they’re considerably more responsive when they’re single, in the later stages of a serious relationship with a significant other, or married. When they’re seeing, or in the early stages of a serious relationship with a significant other, they’re much less responsive. Does anybody else notice that?
I used to be the “needy” type, where I’d get mad if a friend (male or female, even family members of mine) didn’t return my texts. It was a feeling that I didn’t matter. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria sucks (Courtney, if you’re reading this, please research Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and do a video), but is something that can be overcome. It’s difficult, but not an impossible feat.
RSD, it's all coming together. And I know exactly what you mean. I was talking to a old high school friend of mine, who was getting married to her then BF and I think it was the day or so before the wedding. It was the most talkative she's been with me in a long time. I felt a little weird about it. Like you have a fiancee, why are you talking to me this much... So I understand completely where you're coming from.
5:58 This! Don't waste your time on people who make you an "option" and not a PRIORITY.
My girlfriend and i have been together for a month now. She literally told me she was a bad texter on multiple occasions. I was super confused but decided to ask her to be my girlfriend anyways. She was extatic. After that we started calling every night and she told me she didnt want to seem desperate which is why she said she was a bad texter. So i don’t think its always a negative.
I only deal with people face to face now. Texting and internet is not real. Hard to tell what's going on.
Hey Courtney , thanks always for such a gr8 advice you not only helped me indeed healed me through a lot . Heartily appreciate your words and content you create . Deeply overwhelmed and love to say that am very thankful to you . Wish you all happiness and support 💕
Ain't no man got time to decipher codes and mixed messages.
Thank God for this video. I appreciate your insight because a young lady I liked texted me with that exact line, and I thought she was being cute. But after days and weeks till this day I haven’t heard from her. Not to mention I called her and left her a message and still nothing. So again, I needed this insight. It’s very helpful. Thanks!
Courtney, my ex broke up with me because I told her that probably our relationship will not work out in the long run: Most of the times I texted her first.
I believed not initiating contact with me was a sign of disinterested.
It's really a shame. We like each other and our in person meetups was always amazing.
Have she felt under pressure? I can't understand this situation properly.
Thanks court ur a real one we really don’t need the fluffy let down from peeps who can’t communicate that
It reverts back to what Courtney said if they want to talk to yo they will find a way.
I totally get what your trying to say about texting to much. thanks for bringing it to my attention. If someone wanted text me then they probably would of already done it. I apologize for any miss trust i had in you as well. And again thank you.
Courtney is my virtual best-friend, always gives me a good advice 😂
She's not a bad texter. She's just an asshole who lead you on and wasted your time pretending to like you because what she really likes is the attention and self gratification that attention brings. Some people are just so rotten they need to keep telling themselves they are flawless.
What to do? find someone who doesn't have their heads up their ass.
There is another situation where she’s just using for attention or keeping you on the back burner because another guy came into the situation. Great vid btw!!
She MUST text you more, like you more, pursue you more, love you more. This is just the way it is. If you do any of these things more she is going to have one foot out the door and the other soon following.
Definetly helps to set some boundaries. You don’t want to loose excessive time with someone who doesn’t fulfill your true love.
This is happening to me with a sub from the past. On pandemic I didn’t want to meet / escape for sex. Because I thought that seeing someone would make me crave the outside even more. So I was isolated on my hobbie, painting Minis, drawing; wathever kept my mind busy. She booty called and I said no. She felt rejected so from then I don’t feel like she likes me anymore. So now when she sms and asks how are you? And then doesn’t answer in WhatsApp, she just want to win the attention and then not giving it. I don’t play those games. I prefer investing my time improving myself. And making space for who truly is a better match. I think something like this video + what others make you feel relates how they felt, mirroring, this also happens with kids, and to develop emotionally, they need their parents to understand what they are feeling. I see you are angry, but how about we behave well and then after we can play a bit? Etc
A phrase I liked a lot was: don’t fall in love for what they can become, but their habits and what they actually are.
Similar to what this video says: th-cam.com/video/eQYkqUlsIq0/w-d-xo.html (Bertrand Russell a message to further generations) 2 min
I recently started seeing a girl that is a very short texter that doesn't often ask questions but does text consistently nearly every day. We are six dates deep, which I'm sure is a pretty good sign. I questioned her on it fairly early on about here texting habits and she made a point that she often feels spent at the end of her day and doesn't see much point in elaborating on anything when it can be said in one sentence. I've had prior dates that have either ended up sending whole essays over text or literally never asked a single question leaving me to be the only person making any sort of effort. There is definitely some nuance to this.
I can handle a simple fact that girl may not like me. What pisses me off is when she looks straight in your eyes and cold heartedly say she will text you when she gets home. Then she end our conversation with a wonderful kiss. Next day I'm STILL waiting for that text that never comes. Thats why I'm single. I have TRUST ISSUES. I don't know how to let those go. If a girl told me she doesn't like me or doesn't like me in that way. Then I would respect her a lot more...
someone finally said it
anyone who hasn't been living under a rock knows the average woman can't go more than one hour without checking her phone (that's probably being generous). She didn't "miss" your call/text/DM. She ignored it.
Actions speak louder than words.
She doesnt text her family even.
100% true. My ex claims she is a terrible texter but when it comes to me it’s none stop unless she’s busy
Good job Courtney! The older sister I never had. That was a knockout segment.
I've noticed if I start with a roast/insult then I get an instant reply! Even if you leave a negative comment on her IG post! She's gonna reply 100% regardless of the thousands of "You are beautiful, etc, etc" comments. She's gonna ignore those nice comments, but a negative comment or a critique...oh boy! :D
Guys one thing I have learned over the years is : we men are the prize, always be working multiple women until you find the one that meets most of your needs and wants. These days we don’t have to settle. Be patient. There has never been such an abundance of beautiful women in all of history. Know who you are looking for. The Universe will provide 😎
I'm a bad texter till 11pm rolls around
Yeah I met girls who were like this and I wasn’t the priority and just an option, it is what it is I just moved on and stopped talking or seeing them, never wait around. Know your worth, dating be like this till you find someone who is really into you.
Its very disheartening. I wish men and women could be more open and honest with each other about their thoughts and feelings.
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No pineapple on pizza, there you go
@@Rikarwb and no bait fish either!
She's not playing hard to get... you're just hard to want-faceandlms
Yeah i had this happen to me, we met online and went out twice and she asked me for a third date, but then canceled day of, and then was to busy the next time i tried to reschedule, after she canceled the date she would take almost a full day to respond... im not dumb enough to think she still likes me lol most likely she met someone else... which sucks cause i thought we had a great time and i liked her, but thats life... ive found that online dating gives women so many more options to arbitrarily reject one person because the grass might seem greener with the next guy that likes their profile.
It's the modern-day sorrow I have to wash my hair that day.
No, I never had this texting problem with women as they made their intentions always very clear
Here’s the exception
@@Rothbardy yeah... but 100% of all women rejected me and made their decision very clear. That's not very motivating...
If she doesn't like me, why does she keep looking at me
So I had a girl who told the whole office that she liked me and her coworkers came to me and told me. So they showed me a picture of her and she was cute so I gave her coworker my number since I couldn’t catch her one on one. We spoke for the first week and it was a good convo! Now she texts back but the convo is short! Why would a woman go through all that to get a man and not respond! That’s extremely bizarre behavior. Comments please?
One lesson I learned this week, even at 39, if a woman doesn't like you and you are a high value man and have women telling you that you are a good and attractive man. It's not you, it's her mindset. Her mindset is massed up. I experienced that with a girl who rejected me last year, I moved on, and by coincidence my jiu-jitsu class is near her yoga studio. And a year after her rejection, I had a confrontation with her this past Tuesday. I've seen her car around, she would parked near my jiu-jitsu academy, and there were times when I would see her and I would ignore her. What happened on Tuesday? After a year of not having any contact with her. ...This crazy chick yelled out my name twice and pretty much accused me of following her... the first time she ever saw me in person, we were communicating over ig and phone, and she accused me of weird ish. I realized then! Chick is crazy... and there's a reason why she's single at close to 34. I also realized, that she's attracted to that what she is. A toxic person. .
She'll text Chad back though. Gotta love it.
It really depends on who this person is irl vs online. If she's glued to her phone and all over social media posting and not texting you, then yeah, she's not. But if she's ghost mode on her phone (texts & socials) and only texts logistics, but in person she's present - then you actually have found someone who doesn't like texting (me, i am a woman and hate texting but am 100% engaged in person).
If they tell you they are busy at X time or Y reason and actually end conversations full stop, they are busy - it's logic.
She would be a good texter for Brad Pitt etc...
Thank you for opening my eyes. I loved your channel
NO WOMAN is worth chasing and goin through all this nonsense. I’d suggest getting an older woman. Most older woman are done with texting, emailing, or mind games, they have life experiences that makes them grow mentally and emotionally. Another thing is, most older women are done with the games they played in their teens, 20s, and 30s.
So many girls have this "I'm a bad texter" on their profile. I guess they wanna lower guys' expectations for quick replies but at the same time, I'm less inclined to message her cause I know there's even a lower chance than usual to hear back from her!
A woman I've been talking to hasn't been great at actually responding, so I'm guessing this is where I'm at. I've invited her out a couple times though and she's asked for a rain check because she already had plans. Is "rain check" the new "nice" way to say no without saying no?
The rain check is to tell you that you're not choice number one as she is still exploring choice number one, until that falls through....like girls that like you. Trust me, you'll notice the difference with genuine desire from a lady. Want girls that want you. Invest in girls that invest in you.
Yes it’s over she isn’t interested and you’re last priority
See what is in front of you....
If she didn’t offer to reschedule.. walk away
If she's a bad texter, she's a bad friend.
If you have enough time to read the message/text they you have enough time to reply back something like "busy day, talk later" simple. At the speed some people text you could say that faster then it takes to put the phone back in your pocket.
No one is that busy they can't respond within a few hours. If the girl has a job where phones are not allowed to carry, extend that time span to 12 hours.
I’m pretty much “just an option” for a lot of my friends because I’m basically always the “back up friend”.
On the rare occasions I’ve dated I’ve ended up in the same position for reasons that escape me.
I wish we all can be a bit more honest on how we feel. I know sometime we want to not hurt people's feelings, but to me that pure ego. IMO, be honest and respectfully direct and we can all not waste each others time guessing and doing silly stuff. Again, my $0.02.
Texting should only be used to make and confirm dates, especially in the beginning. Too many guys (and probably some girls) use texting for idle chit-chat all day & night, which can come across as you not having anything else going on.
Valid point at the end, however the one thing men in general don't understand is the fact that women can't help looking for the emotional meaning of the test, while men texting is just a way to transmit a message, rarely aware of how things might be interpreted. In most cases gets really confusing and ends up badly. Texting, not a conversation tool.
You nailed it. Not to mention that texts are often misconstrued and/or misinterpreted. Better to have FaceTime or voice conversation
@@Void_of_Light thank you. In-person is optimal. I’m not interested in having a phone relationship unless we are long-distance but under normal circumstances, less phone, more in-person dates.
@@josesantana770 I’ve had men text meaningless stuff like, “how’s your work day?”, “what’d you eat for lunch?”, “how was your laundry?” after we’d only been on 1-2 dates. Those are super boring questions and do nothing to build/escalate attraction.
I’m sure men who are successful at dating & attracting women are out there spending time with the women, not texting them about the weather.
@@SharonBoo0305then you go for these men 😂
Most people are so busy with work and multitasking, by the time they have time for you ,they fall asleep, I know this because I used to fall asleep on my wife all the time and she would get so upset with me.
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What's your take if someone displays positive body language and expression in person, but she just doesn't text back?
I left a girl on read like 24 weeks ago because I realize she did not care about me always asked me if I had money and see never text me first I text her first.
I’ve received the “bad texter” response before 😂. I ended up dropping her and some time later she seemed shook when She saw me in public with someone new that I was talking to. 🤷🏽♂️ 😂
Amazing feeling.
I had one tell me she couldn’t figure out why guys ghost her all the time. And so I talk to her a little bit. And then she said we should get together. So I told her if she was available the next day to text me. Later in the next day she texted me that maybe she’d be available sometime during the week. And I deleted her number. It’s that game that makes guys ghost her.
When you think about it a lot of the toxic dating advice that women give to other women tells women to behave as if they haver borderline or histrionic personality disorder.
Found it helpful and interesting. Liked and already subbed! Thanks Courtney!
Great content in this video and love the duality of your outfit.