1. She made it very clear (She tells you) 2. She tells you she deleted her dating apps 3. She remembers small details about you 4. You have deep conversations with her 5. She asks you questions first 6. She wants to meet your loved ones 7. She talks or plans about the future with you in it 8. You’re a priority to her
For me #2 was a BIG one. Girl I was dating did everything else, ended up leaving me for a guy she met on a dating app. Getting 7 out of 8 is NOTHING if #2 hasn't happened.
Everything you said is 100 percent true except that when I first started dating there were NO DATING SITES ON LINE. There was NO INTERNET! LOL 😂 I’m 56 it was old school. No cell phones, no internet. Yet still everything you said now still applied back then in the 1980’s when I first started. I’m single again now and was interested in what you had to say. I think people and young men are very lucky to have someone like you giving them great advice. I had to learn the hard way from making really embarrassing bad mistakes and then not repeating them. This is great to get good advice from a beautiful woman 👩🏻 who knows how women want to be treated in relationships. Thank You 🙏 so much. I really enjoy all your videos.
remember though, Girls are like cats / kittens; give them time, if they move close you move close, if they back up you back up. It takes time, but if you can find a way to be around enough Cats / kittens one will decide that it likes you.
If she's truly into you - a toothbrush, hairbrush, shampoo etc. will magically start appearing in your bathroom. She will find kind of silly reasons to come over to your place, in fact she's gently installing herself into your home life. When she wants to be at your place and you're not even there - that's the kicker. I remember my girlfriend now wife would come up with all sorts of crazy excuses - I need to study and it's quieter at yours - was about the best, even though I was out for the day working.
@@GabrielXDrums how did I know? Because she showed genuine desire for me from pretty much the start, instigating full intimacy on date no.2. She then asked for commitment in stages right up to and including proposing marriage 18 months later. If they want you, they chase you, not the other way around.
lying can also be done through actions. or the actions can be just coincidences or friend signs. but when she says she is interested you know she is either honest or lying theres no middle. except in time ofc all the signs can be faded into meaningless
In addition, if you find that these actions are sporadic and she's not too busy of a person you are probably just an option for her and she has others.
I just discovered this channel two days ago and this is the first new video. I just went on my second date with this girl two days ago and things went so well. I’m 24 and I’ve never been in a relationship so this is all new to me. And this feels like the perfect video for me right now. I think she’s into me :)
Very good video Courtney. I once opened up to a girl thinking she was in to me, only for her to use what I told her as a way to for her to publicly humiliate me. I learned a very painful lesson to pay attention to actions rather than words. Looking back, I'm glad a dodge a very red flag girl such as that. For someone to make fun of another person's intimate feeling is a mark of a low-quality person. I actually feel sorry for her looking back.
A wise man once told me that every man tells a woman how he feels, once. Maybe I've been incredibly unlucky but my experience lines up with that perfectly. You're better off just making good guy friends and sharing with them.
Absolutely it's not what you say, but what you do that speaks volumes. Hard pill to swallow but at the end of the day the truth shall set you free!! Great message Courtney 👍
Wow my girlfriend has all lf these signs except asking to see parents. Glad to know she's serious/genuine about the long term relationship. Thanks for telling the signs Courtney.
Unconscious "we" coming out often is a sign of attraction, which is a great sign, especially if it makes you smile and she notices and continues to find ways to make you smile
Ew disgusting, that reminds me of the last chick I hooked up with where she texted me "babe I think WE may be preggers"... I almost threw up when I read that text and never wanted to push someone down flight of stairs more in my life.... Luckily she wasn't then broke it off shortly thereafter a few more pump sessions :)
For me #2 was a BIG one. Girl I was dating did everything else, ended up leaving me for a guy she met on a dating app. Getting 7 out of 8 is NOTHING if #2 hasn't happened.
@InThisTogether We were still dating, not yet exclusive, but when she was doing all the other signs and also love bombing me, she would back it up by saying, "Why would I do all those things if my feelings for you aren't genuine?" The thing was that it was all an act. She only wanted intimacy from me, feigned interested by doing all the other signs. Hopped up and left when she found what she was REALLY looking for (a guy with money). Dodged a bullet but I also have major trust issues.
Great tips! “Planning for the future” is a really good sign - no girl is going to bother to start thinking long term with you if she doesn’t see you in the picture with her - it’s just not going to happen! If this is the case with you, keep up what you’ve been doing - and try not to screw it up! Lol …good luck with everything, and don’t forget to invite me and Courtney to the wedding! Cheers! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
A good way to know is the Saturday night test. If you can call her up on a Saturday morning and she'll make herself available on Saturday night, she's very interested. That's her big night of the week and she probably already had plans so if she is willing to cancel them for you, you're in.
I realized she was the one when she cried because she is going through a lot of issues especially with her dad, so she told me crying "please never do to me the things that my dad did to my mom" or "i dont want you to love other women who isnt me" she means absolutely the world to me so guys when you find her take care of her with all your strength!!!!
This sounds a bit concerning. I think she has some issues that she needs to work on (it is not strange that they arise if her dad left her mom) but I would take it really easy, step by step. This girl could become very needy and you could all the sudden be in a position where it will be very difficult for you to leave her. So, pace yourself.
I dont really resonate with the comments saying she's red flag, you know ur girl the most. I hve been in her place and yes, when girls love smone they get clingy and needy sometimes. I don't think there's a problem with it, if ur not comfortable with it just communicate effectively, their inner child will understand. Kudos to you, my bf left when my world was crumbling with issues like hers. I know life is going to be challenging, just never thought that i would going thru it without my best friend.
Great video Courtney! All great signs. Recently dated someone show majority of these that you talked about with the exception of being a priority towards the 3rd month. Something felt off so Turns out she lied to me about her timeline about her last break up with her ex who she works with. It was much sooner than originally expected and difficult to navigate thru with the inconsistent behavior. Trust your gut too gentlemen as girls on the rebound can be real hot n heavy at first and demonstrate these signs when they have unresolved feelings for someone else.
Once again, great video! And I just realized I didn't have the 'bell' notifcation turned on this whole time so I went ahead and did that. A little off topic but day before yesterday, I watched your video about why being bald is attractive. As someone who lost the genetic lottery and was born with a receding hairline, your video inspired me to get a bald cut at the barbershop yesterday. I am now bald with a beard and holy sheeesh I feel way better than ever before! My confidence levels have spiked up, my friends love my new look, and I genuinely feel good in my own skin (also my head feels so damn smooth LOL). Thank you for inspiring me to take that rite of passage. I truly believe this was a necessary step towards my progress of becoming a high-value man. Your videos have really helped me reflect on my life values, relationship values, my strengths and weaknesses, and overall self-development. I am currently not seeing anyone, nor have I ever been in a relationship. But because I'm working on myself now to become a 10/10 high value man, I know that later on, when I meet my significant other, she will 100% be the 10/10 high value woman and life partner I deserve. And when that time comes, I'll definitely need to watch your Men's Dating playlist to make sure my (future) relationship will be a success. Thank you for all the content you've created so far, don't let the haters and internet trolls get to you. They probably haven't showered and touched grass in weeks/months (yikes). Stay awesome, stay blessed, keep up the good work 🙏
I found this girl around 5 days ago and she's really cute imo and we are almost exactly alike. She only just got Bumble as she's never used dating apps before and only had one ex before of which, he treated her really poorly and she has insecurities however she's really opening up to me and she really enjoys talking to me and so do I. Conversation is effortless and we send big paragraphs back a forth. So I was near to losing faith in dating apps coz of women being the same but she's not like other girls, she's fun, weird, goofy, quiet and also nerdy. We are both looking for something serious too and she is more interested in personality than just looks and she thinks I'm too good for her - she said that herself which is honestly flattering. I hope we meet up some time in the future and we can spend our lives together. She is just amazing :)
Courtney!!! I found you when I got cheated on with a 2 plus year relationship with my ex girlfriend. With the help of your videos and Brazilian Jui jitsu I began to re-invent myself. From body gains and getting a new haircut, a new style of clothes Thank you so much for your helpful positivity and insight. God bless you
@InThisTogether some of those guys in your new found social circle have wives and girlfriends, and those females have single female friends - this is the basis of social circle dating. Make sure you are going to the bar or pub with these guys after BJJ. Go to parties and dinners
@InThisTogether This 3rd Dan USA Judo coach who rolls with the BJJ guys before teaching his own judo class and then goes to the bar after is certainly high value - just saying 😎. This same guy met his wife 30 years ago this May through a judo buddy's GF. Social Circle dating is THE BEST OPTION for most guys. Birds of a feather flock together. That is why it's actually more important for most guys to build a diverse social circle of high value male friends, generate social proof and then use it to attract women on the periphery of said circle. This is far more efficient than OLD, cold approach etc.
Courtney thank you for your content. You encourage me to find women who are more clear and direct in what they want. Although I understand women can be more passive and want a guy to read between the lines, but even better, you encourage me to be more upfront about what I want. And that makes it so much easier for the woman, as well as myself.
You are great Courtney, this video is gold and I can say that these signs are very, very accurate. You should have 3 million subscribers. A lovely woman who I was in a very short relationship with *a long time ago* reached out to me about a month ago. Because of various practical issues we broke up 17 years ago, we were still friends but decided to not have any contact and just move on in our respective lives. When she contacted me, she immediately started to talk about those small details about me and our shared memories from the past, and deep conversations... it was very obvious that she wanted to get together.
Meeting family/loved ones and friends is a big one! If she isn’t that’s a red flag! I know if my gf wanted me to meet her friends, family I’m always open to it because I’m not afraid to meet them and curious to see what the dynamic is like.
you have to be careful with that one. To some girls, boyfriends are just accessories to be shown off to friends and family, and of course nowadays that includes Social Media. How she treats you when it's just you and her says much more than how she treats you in front of others.
She doesn’t want me to meet her parents till like a year of dating, i dont get why tho lol, and she’s already talking about moving in. Won’t allow that till she at leasts posts me on social media, where her family can see me. I haven’t told her but I simply won’t allow her to move in till she does that at LEAST
@@tito9694 Worrying. Chances are you are this girl's insurance policy. Is there another guy out there or an Ex that she's mentioned to you? No way you should be letting ANY woman move in with you unless already engaged and within six months of marriage.
If a woman says "we" instead of "me" or "I," she's definitely serious about you on that level. The biggest one for me, however, is if she willingly cuts off all the guys she's talking to because she wants you. I'm not a chaser to any degree, so if you meet me and still want to pursue other options, I'm not gonna be a part of your roster.
This was a great video with a positive, hopeful, but also realistic point of view. Thank you. It's a lot easier to make entertaining content bringing up counterpoints to crappy people giving crappy advice, but the emotional result to that is feeding pessimism and bitterness. That results so often in angry people in the comments bagging on how horrible and frustrating many women are. And that's not necessarily constructive. This felt like a very constructive video and I deeply appreciate it.
@@CourtneyRyan You are a gem, too. Keep up this positivity in topics that often breed so much negativity. We need more compassionate voices like yours in our lives.
If Courtney would make a tech tutorial, i think i would watch every single minute without getting bored!! We need someone like you in the tech community.
I have been interested in a woman I work with for a while now. The other day I finally got the nerve to ask her to go hiking, which she has mentioned on at least two occasions that she enjoyed. She said yes, and mentioned we would go on a weekend when we are both off from work. She then mentioned that if I get on her work rotation, which I have been trying to do, that we would have more opportunities to spend time together. Today, I found out she has someone. I told her I was not trying to cause problems, and she said it is ok, she can still have friends. I don't want to give up on her, but it may be healthy to give up, and just be content spending time with her. So, even though a woman makes plans for the future, she may be seeing someone, and sees you as a friend.
True. If you can gain something from her just go be her friend. Have fun, not expecting anything and get to know her better not to be a partner but human. Life could be content just hanging around with amazing people. Her personal life isn't your concern now since healthy mindset would be trying not to create intimacy relationship with someone that has already have a partner; Let her go and move on.
I can chat for atleast 15 mins to any of my girl-friend , and I'm doing it and it helped me to know about girls. A good conversation not weird Because of you Courtney but I'm happy single i already told you months ago after my patch-up and break-up
This is what a healthy relationship looks like. I’ve experienced this before and all people should be looking out for this type of person who shows this type of interest. You shouldn’t waste your time chasing someone who isn’t naturally doing this. Men, women are constantly filtering and going through guys until they find one they like them they act this way. It is up to you to quickly next each woman until they behave this way. Try your best but if they simply aren’t receptive then you are wasting your time and setting yourself up for heartbreak later. Be into the girl as much as she is into you.
This woman is a breath of fresh air in the extremely toxic intersexual dating scene. Would love to see her critique r/FemaleDatingStrategy and all the misandry going on for half a century within the feminist front. She's seemingly the kind of 'sane' woman whose nonexistence in today's sexual political discourse Jordan Peterson bemoaned (for reference, check out his conversation with Camille Paglia).
I appreciate what Courtney had to say about being explicit in openly saying that you like someone and would like to invest some time getting to know them better. It's only been within the last 15 to 20 years that I've become more familiar with the "predominantly female"(?) language of "hint" which I personally think gets misinterpreted a lot as "red flags" aka warning signs to stop a budding relationship? I often prefer to see these hints as a possible sign that I have stumbled onto an area of some degree of pain, anger or fear and need to tread lightly/with great care if I value the relationship and wish to continue pursuing it to greater depth. But, that will not be allowed if I cannot engender the kind and level of trust and emotional availability she needs to genuinely open up emotionally to get at the roots of her fears and "unreasoned" anger.
A big problem/issue in relationships of the 21st century variety as I see it is the plethora of choices (someone else called it being "spoiled for choice") women seem to enjoy over same-age men. And since it seems as though women would attempt to occupy every sphere of employment that a man might traditionally choose. I have often wondered why a mature man would consciously choose to compete with a woman in any arena(especially work). That kind of competition is not appealing to me as person who considers himself a "state of the art" single mature male who now enjoys a minimalist-like lifestyle.
*When a woman opens up about her future or includes you in her plans, it's a clear indicator she's serious. It’s all about paying attention to the little details that matter!*
Guys if a girl is in a relationship with you but she says she is thinking about a one night affair with another guy...how would you react? Courtney's view on this would be extra appreciated 🙏 thank you
Depends on what she is thinking about? Like regret/or felt something from the guy that turned her on maybe like a emotional connection. Then you can go from those context clues..that would give you a clearer indication on what to work on/speak on if both parties are willing to work it out or move on.
If it's about some famous sex symbol then fine, have some fun with that one. If it's about some dude at the gym, an ex, your brother, etc.....It's been fun babe.
It’s really disrespectful. I’ve been in relationships where this happened and I was TOO STUPID to not immediately just walk away. Because the girl/ woman is testing you to some degree. If you allow this even in conversation that would put up with her sleeping with someone else she will have NO RESPECT for you going forward. Just let her know immediately that if she wants her one night fling that is the last she will see of you. Your confidence will be so ATTRACTIVE TO HER! She will probably forget all about the one night stand. But you have to be for real! You can’t be acting. Because right now you have to decide that you don’t want anyone in your life that would ever treat you like that! That is really horrible! That is like cutting your reproductive organs off and saying you are not a man 👨🏻! If you want to be a man! Give her an ultimatum! Respect and love ❤️ yourself first and then she will love ❤️ you! Good luck 🍀
I would run for the hills - Tamás! Lol - But, seriously though… if you want to avoid this in the future… I would set boundaries with a woman right at the beginning of the relationship, I don’t wait long. Because, if you don’t let her know what types of behavior you will accept, and what types you will not - then it will be too late when you do let her know. Most guys will not do this because, they’ll be too afraid to lose the girl, and that’s what makes them lose her eventually in more ways the one! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Sometimes people want to be serious after they ice box you and then find out that door isn't available anymore. And sometimes you get lost on the way to college. If you do the math, the number of deeply compatible partners available to you isn't that many and by definition, there is one best option at any given time but that doesn't mean that was your lifetime best option. A big problem I see is mate parasitism, in which someone desirable is given a stamp of approval, only to have others sweep in and pick it up using asymmetrical logistics and communications jamming, not because they inherently care, but because it has been acknowledged as beyond superficially valuable. Classical defeat in detail approach.
Dating apps are for people who get all the leftovers. People who are not desired as much, use dating apps to find their mate. It’s for single mothers, butter face, 6 and below rating scale internet date.
Wow, this channel has very interesting topics I need to check out. Good job so far, I found your girls talking about hair beards and then the analyzing game (the system) I checked the channel a bit and liked what I saw. I’ll matrix 2x speed store on my brain and learn and implement stuff for sure. Good soup 👌🏻
Congrats Courtney, you've built quite a following on here and you give helpful advice, keep up the good work. I really enjoy the background music in these videos, it sets a nice relaxing and chill vibe. That being said, LETS GO CELTICS 👏👏👏👏👏 LETS GO CELTICS 👏👏👏👏👏 LETS GO CELTICS 👏👏👏👏👏
@@GMPGMP-jp5ut Lmaoooo unfortunately I didn't see the match live because I live in the UK and was mad tired, I'd have stayed up normally but I'm watching the highlights now man. Do you happen to have a link where I can watch the full matches recorded or something? But yeah fuck the nets hahahahaha, Kyrie primadona ain't shit hahahahah. Celtics got this in the bag bro!!
5:30 tip; try to move from text to speech asap ... text is an extremely flawed medium for talks due to the lack of tone of voice, in person so with body language is the best, text is by far the worst, text almost guarantees platonic and lack of emotions and progression to 'formal' 'business' like talking
When a girl liked me one of the things she did in addition to talking about future things she wanted to do with me is she helped me network with people who were in careers I wanted to get into, and that person at the time happened to be her dad. She was swooning after I talked with him over the phone, and mentioned that I will reach out to him with any questions or concerns I may have in the future about that field of work.
As a man, whenever I've dated women, i've always decided quickly to focus on one woman.this is because I like to build a good relationship, and this is not possible when you're dating multiple women
1. She made it very clear (She tells you) Doesn't matter. Women's mind are fickle and changes according to their feelings. My previous Ex made me clear that she wants to marry me and will be proud to give birth to my children. but later she changed it due to her feelings. 2. She tells you she deleted her dating apps My previous ex did the same to me but after she broke up with me, I found out from her mutual friends on Instagram that she has three Instagram accounts. 3. She remembers small details about you Agree.. 4. You have deep conversations with her Agree.. But women changes according to their feelings. They live in present and care about how they feel. 5. She asks you questions first Agree.... 6. She wants to meet your loved ones Agree... 7. She talks or plans about the future with you in it Agree... But the plan must be mutual not one-sided. make sure your expectations are included too.. 8. You’re a priority to her Agree...
Courtney, would you be able to react to, 10 WORST Relationship Mistakes by The Style O.G? I think there is some stuff that can hit home differently from both perspectives, male and female.
I'm actually pretty straight forward, if i have been dating you more than a few times/month and continue to see you, then you are the only woman i am seeing. If after a month or so and a woman i am seeing is still dating other guys, then i wont take her seriously and will act accordingly. If its been a couple dates, then i might have another one or so lined up but that's it. Its just who i am now and what i have time for. I don't have time to invest into multiple women at a time anymore, its also a waste of time. Their are other things in my life i enjoy doing than to worry about trying to "spin plates" anymore. If I don't see anything between us or feel anything after a couple dates then I move on.
wow it feels really good to hear "she wants to be around you, she's making you a priority, she wants to meet your loved ones, etc." even if it's not real. i guess it feels nice to pretend that someone I like, likes me
I can definitely say that talking about future plans with you doesn't mean shit. My girl was seeing a half dozen other men and still making plans with me 8 months away.
I'm unsure how to feel about my relationship now. She texts me daily to see how I'm doing, but outside of that nothing. I cook dinner for her several times a month, take her out on dates monthly, and during some really difficult times this fall/winter I was there for her to cry to and get support from. She's always polite and says thank you in the moment for things, but never reciprocates or initiates much of anything apart from her daily texts (she does give me a ride to our church some Sundays though I have a car and don't really need her to). She gets upset when I don't want to do a couple things with her (ex. she REALLY likes weddings and wanted me to go with her to one across the country recently which I declined to do) but never compromises to do anything I'd be into. Aside from the attention she shows me by messaging me everyday, I don't feel like I'm her priority. She messages her friends everyday too, so I feel like she doesn't really do anything she doesn't already do for friends. If the tables were turned, she'd have broken up with me long ago if all I did was text her daily and gave her a ride to church every so often. She's a decent person, no way she's cheating on me, but sometimes I feel like she just wants a boyfriend to take photos and go to events with, doesn't really care for me specifically. Otherwise, maybe she'd make more effort to SHOW her appreciation rather than texting it to me. Help!
Yeah she doesn't care about you the way you do about her. Texting someone doesn't count as any kind of effort. I'd break up with her and find someone who reciprocates the effort you put into the relationship
@@jleano609 we both value our faith; no sex until marriage but I also have other physical boundaries to protect me from crossing the line especially if we've been out late
@@folumb ok, no sex, but what about other physicality? Without it, as said, you are really just her friend, or maybe she doesn’t know where SHE stands?
You are her emotional tampon and friend zoned yourself. Kick her to the streets. I guarantee you she is tolerating you until she finds a man with a backbone to monkey branch to next. I would definitely wager money she’s seeing some one behind your back.
Unfortunately I got a lot of these signs before seeing signs you mention in your “She’s Seeing Other People” video. Soon after we broke up, so now I don’t know what to think. Go figure.
My Final in philosophy class in College (2004) can be summed up like this: To know what any living this loves, watch what it spends its free time on.... That's what it loves.
Thanks this helped. I'm dating a girl and everything was fine. However I always initiate with her. She doesn't really make time. Only seen her like 4 times in like more than a month. Still has her dating apps, never makes plans, hardly asks any questions. I mean we got to kissing but that don't mean shit without a real connection. Don't remember when she last contacted me when I didn't make the plans first. Its actually making me feel emotionally drained.
I always assume a woman is dating other men or at least open to other men until we talk about being committed. Especially in this dating app society, people want to keep their options open.
The shitty thing is my ex seemingly did all these green flags and came off normal. Little did I know she played me like a fiddle. I was completely fooled. I took my time thought I vetted her well and she pulled the rug out when she thought it was convenient for her. She is a malicious narcissist that knew what she was doing. This video is great advice but damn...comes to show nothing is full proof. It took me forever but I'm glad I'm healed from that toxic low life. From now on no one will dim my light nor steal my heart and I know now what to watch out for.
I had to cut off a girl recently because she was open to the idea of dating as she was seeing other guys. That didn’t fly with me because I had already told her I wanted to start something with her and even bought the girl flowers and hand delivered them to her at work. The thing is she had told me she was interested in me and agreed to go on dates with me, but the fact that she was still seeing other guys didn’t sit right with me. So I told her I couldn’t keep the relationship going and cut things off with her. Letting go was the right thing to do. Now she texts me because I give her no attention funny how that works.
@@jleano609 Yes I’m seeing other women. I’m glad she noticed that I’ve moved on because now she’s the one asking me to hang out. So now what do I do? Should I ignore her?
@@wolverinejr.5827 No. Have a conversation with her. Keep it light and funny and see if she does the very female thing of fishing for commitment. Few women will outright ask for a committed relationship. They’ll ask questions like “do you like me?” “Where do you see this going?” Etc. If she’s doing that ask her what she wants and steer the conversation towards framing out the commitment. And in that conversation lay out your expectations such as no Exes, not seeing other guys, careful around guy friends etc. Now, if she doesn’t really bring this up you have a choice, drop her or continue to date her non exclusively. Without a commitment there’s no motivation for her not to see other guys. Likewise you see other girls. Don’t get jealous and if she likes you she’ll ask for a commitment pretty soon. If you can easily source dates from other girls that means you are pretty high value and her hypergamy will kick in and she’ll want to take you off the market. But it has to be her ask and your decision.
WHAT SHOULD I DO? currently in a fwb with a girl for about 1 month and a half, see other quite a lot, I have caught feelings for her, she remembers small details, we have hours lying down speaking about anything, she says she wants to meet my cats but says she didn't want to meet my mom as it would be awkward as were fwb, she met them and now asks to come over again, she talks about going places together and baking together etc also her mates go clubbing or out and she normally sees me instead.
I know she wasn't interested in me when she broke my heart and said other people care about you but I'm not one of them. Since then i've been leaving dead bodies all over the place
If Number 2 hasn't happened, or if she's still talking to other guys she's interested in, has had past flings with, hooked up with, or has had past relationships with, then the rest of the things on this list won't matter at all
2 4 6 and 7 are probably worthwhile to turn around and ask, blunt or deftly, “are we serious/exclusive boy/girl friend?” The others are a little too… indirect. Signs, but best be deft instead of blunt there. Then there’s the following question if you’re being exclusive here, the road to total commitment, in marriage.
i’m so broken to where even i worry her actions aren’t even genuine. i just keep the frame that change is the only constant & that at any given moment, she can dip & her meaningful, nice actions she’d previously done could’ve been utterly useless. i literally can’t trust anymore & it fucks relationships up for me. self sabotage problem fosho, but tbh i’d rather be safe than sorry.
I feel like the woman I just broke up with about 3-4 weeks ago possessed all of these traits... but I told her off top that I'm not willing to delete my dating app(s) so she ended up keeping hers. I told her I was cool with us dating nonexclusively but she told me she wanted to prove that she could be faithful to me so despite my preference, that she would remain exclusive to me. I emphasized that I wasn't looking for a double standard but she emphasized that she wanted to embark on that journey... so when this woman told me she had a close friend who she formerly dated and f**ked that she was going to be the Godmother for... I found that alarming and it turned me off to the point that I ended up breaking up with her. I still feel great about my decision intuitively because I sense that she was showing masculine traits (not by any examples shared above) in our relationship but based on this video... I made a bad decision! Lol, not sure how I feel about this
You did the right call. Women who act masculine are not attractive at all and will constantly bicker and argue because the power dynamic is out of wack. You only saw the tip of the ice burg with her. Also being god mother to some guy she fucked in the past? I’m sure his wife would be thrilled to know that detail about her. She’s for the streets king.
What really confuses me is a girl I was seeing was displaying every single one of these signs, then within 24 hours after the 2nd date she just wants to be friends. Talk about disappointment. Even more so when we were planning to do further dates in the coming weeks. Just went from hot to cold overnight
I don't recommend opening up to a woman surrounding things that make you look less than a strong masculine type: difficulty advancing in your career, anything that makes it sound like you only have a few friends, low income such that you can't afford to go on vacations/party/nice restaurants. Courtney needs to elaborate on these things. Women may sympathize for a hardship you're going through but that's not going to turn her on. She'll be sympathizing with you while at the same time subconsciously friend-zoning you while withdrawing from sex and suddenly going out with her friends and hooking up with other men. Be warned.
When there was no drama amongst your plates and then you lose your main for one reason or another and she starts getting super catty with your other sides... She fittin to be your main...
I was walking on the street i see this girl looking at me from the car window passing by. She was waiting to turn the corner but had to wait for the cars to go by before she turned the car. I looked at her she looked at me. She held eye contact for 5 seconds i counted. Then i looked away, i did not want to walk into something, then i looked back at her she was still looking at me, then the car turned she looked forward was gone. I held eye contact 5 sec then looked away first then looked back at her. Was she interested no smile on her face, but she kep eye contact even after i looked awaw then looked back.
when she was laughing,she completely leaned on my shoulder for more than 5-6 seconds,so i m confused.whether its a sign or she just could not control her laughter so she needed someone for support.
Girls that ask you too many questions are the ones that you should grill and respond with answers like "why do want to know that?" or "why should you care?".
ok so girls like guys who get along with their parents right? but how do I tell her that I don't want them to meet my parents because of how abusive and toxic they are? and how do I make it very clear that I'm not and won't turn out like them in the future?
If you can type-out what you just said (in your comment) in a random youtubers comment section, then you should have no problem telling her what you just told the whole internet.
Now you have to ask yourself WHY, During and maybe after the first date while you're trying to read and decipher her body language and listen to her thought's with scrupulous attention, you have to ask yourself again, what's her angle and does she have a decent job, good credit, a car, is she clean, is she kind and respectful to others, is she positive with her comments and how does she treat myself and others. Does she have a positive attitude. Woman can be verry manipulative, she'll need further screening after the first date if it goes well.
You misspelled "Signs you are dreaming"
Hahahahaha this made me laugh
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So accurate though
Lmao Hilarious But True! In a parallel universe 😂
1. She made it very clear (She tells you)
2. She tells you she deleted her dating apps
3. She remembers small details about you
4. You have deep conversations with her
5. She asks you questions first
6. She wants to meet your loved ones
7. She talks or plans about the future with you in it
8. You’re a priority to her
Thanks buddy
For me #2 was a BIG one. Girl I was dating did everything else, ended up leaving me for a guy she met on a dating app. Getting 7 out of 8 is NOTHING if #2 hasn't happened.
I got 2-7 with a woman.
She threw me aside a week later.
You can't trust anything these women do or say anymore.
Getting even one of these must make someone feel unimaginably good
Guess I might have found the right one 🤔🤔🤣time will tell.....
Everything you said is 100 percent true except that when I first started dating there were NO DATING SITES ON LINE. There was NO INTERNET! LOL 😂 I’m 56 it was old school. No cell phones, no internet. Yet still everything you said now still applied back then in the 1980’s when I first started. I’m single again now and was interested in what you had to say. I think people and young men are very lucky to have someone like you giving them great advice. I had to learn the hard way from making really embarrassing bad mistakes and then not repeating them. This is great to get good advice from a beautiful woman 👩🏻 who knows how women want to be treated in relationships. Thank You 🙏 so much. I really enjoy all your videos.
I like that picture of Courtney. 🤣
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remember though, Girls are like cats / kittens; give them time, if they move close you move close, if they back up you back up. It takes time, but if you can find a way to be around enough Cats / kittens one will decide that it likes you.
If she's truly into you - a toothbrush, hairbrush, shampoo etc. will magically start appearing in your bathroom. She will find kind of silly reasons to come over to your place, in fact she's gently installing herself into your home life. When she wants to be at your place and you're not even there - that's the kicker. I remember my girlfriend now wife would come up with all sorts of crazy excuses - I need to study and it's quieter at yours - was about the best, even though I was out for the day working.
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So how did you know she’d be your wife or girl?
Would she deny liking you at first?
Did she ever friend zone you at first?
@@GabrielXDrums how did I know? Because she showed genuine desire for me from pretty much the start, instigating full intimacy on date no.2. She then asked for commitment in stages right up to and including proposing marriage 18 months later. If they want you, they chase you, not the other way around.
@@jleano609 thanks, gotta keep my energy where it deserves to be then, tired of it being the other way for nothing.
Her telling you she’s only interested in you means nothing; she could be lying. The other signs are genuine *actions* which represent actual interest.
lying can also be done through actions. or the actions can be just coincidences or friend signs. but when she says she is interested you know she is either honest or lying theres no middle. except in time ofc all the signs can be faded into meaningless
In addition, if you find that these actions are sporadic and she's not too busy of a person you are probably just an option for her and she has others.
I just discovered this channel two days ago and this is the first new video. I just went on my second date with this girl two days ago and things went so well. I’m 24 and I’ve never been in a relationship so this is all new to me. And this feels like the perfect video for me right now. I think she’s into me :)
Love to hear it. Wishing you all the best and so glad you’re here! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan What if a girl show all of these in the first 2 months but then pulled back? What then? Is it still valid? What happened?
@Lex Then she’s not that into you. Run
@@leealex24 it's bs mind games. She (Courtney) is telling you what you WANT to hear... Don't waste your time playing these childish mind games.
@Unknown That’s what I’m planning on. I’m still young, I want this to last.
Very good video Courtney. I once opened up to a girl thinking she was in to me, only for her to use what I told her as a way to for her to publicly humiliate me. I learned a very painful lesson to pay attention to actions rather than words.
Looking back, I'm glad a dodge a very red flag girl such as that. For someone to make fun of another person's intimate feeling is a mark of a low-quality person. I actually feel sorry for her looking back.
A wise man once told me that every man tells a woman how he feels, once. Maybe I've been incredibly unlucky but my experience lines up with that perfectly. You're better off just making good guy friends and sharing with them.
head up king. you avoided a disaster
Absolutely it's not what you say, but what you do that speaks volumes. Hard pill to swallow but at the end of the day the truth shall set you free!! Great message Courtney 👍
Wow my girlfriend has all lf these signs except asking to see parents. Glad to know she's serious/genuine about the long term relationship. Thanks for telling the signs Courtney.
Unconscious "we" coming out often is a sign of attraction, which is a great sign, especially if it makes you smile and she notices and continues to find ways to make you smile
Ew disgusting, that reminds me of the last chick I hooked up with where she texted me "babe I think WE may be preggers"... I almost threw up when I read that text and never wanted to push someone down flight of stairs more in my life.... Luckily she wasn't then broke it off shortly thereafter a few more pump sessions :)
“You are what you do, not what you say.” Well said Courtney!
When she starts “forgetting” her things at your place.
Yes! 😂
I.E. Marking out her territory. 😉
@InThisTogether I would suspect that she just wants an excuse to be around you more.
She wants to let other ladies you may be seeing know they aren’t only one. She blowing up your spot. Time to kick her to curb
Lol before you know it, your room has scented candles and an entire drawer has her clothes in it
For me #2 was a BIG one. Girl I was dating did everything else, ended up leaving me for a guy she met on a dating app. Getting 7 out of 8 is NOTHING if #2 hasn't happened.
@InThisTogether We were still dating, not yet exclusive, but when she was doing all the other signs and also love bombing me, she would back it up by saying, "Why would I do all those things if my feelings for you aren't genuine?" The thing was that it was all an act. She only wanted intimacy from me, feigned interested by doing all the other signs. Hopped up and left when she found what she was REALLY looking for (a guy with money). Dodged a bullet but I also have major trust issues.
@@thefox47545 hope she gets her karma
@@wannabe_ina_soldier it comes around. Eventuallly.
I think the girls on dating apps belongs to streets because there thirst for validation will never end.
Great tips! “Planning for the future” is a really good sign - no girl is going to bother to start thinking long term with you if she doesn’t see you in the picture with her - it’s just not going to happen!
If this is the case with you, keep up what you’ve been doing - and try not to screw it up! Lol …good luck with everything, and don’t forget to invite me and Courtney to the wedding! Cheers!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
A good way to know is the Saturday night test. If you can call her up on a Saturday morning and she'll make herself available on Saturday night, she's very interested. That's her big night of the week and she probably already had plans so if she is willing to cancel them for you, you're in.
I realized she was the one when she cried because she is going through a lot of issues especially with her dad, so she told me crying "please never do to me the things that my dad did to my mom" or "i dont want you to love other women who isnt me" she means absolutely the world to me so guys when you find her take care of her with all your strength!!!!
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This sounds a bit concerning. I think she has some issues that she needs to work on (it is not strange that they arise if her dad left her mom) but I would take it really easy, step by step. This girl could become very needy and you could all the sudden be in a position where it will be very difficult for you to leave her. So, pace yourself.
I dont really resonate with the comments saying she's red flag, you know ur girl the most. I hve been in her place and yes, when girls love smone they get clingy and needy sometimes. I don't think there's a problem with it, if ur not comfortable with it just communicate effectively, their inner child will understand. Kudos to you, my bf left when my world was crumbling with issues like hers. I know life is going to be challenging, just never thought that i would going thru it without my best friend.
Great video Courtney! All great signs. Recently dated someone show majority of these that you talked about with the exception of being a priority towards the 3rd month. Something felt off so Turns out she lied to me about her timeline about her last break up with her ex who she works with. It was much sooner than originally expected and difficult to navigate thru with the inconsistent behavior. Trust your gut too gentlemen as girls on the rebound can be real hot n heavy at first and demonstrate these signs when they have unresolved feelings for someone else.
I hear you about remembering little details. One of my friends was pleased how I remembered the name of her dog.
🙌🏼 great sign
Once again, great video! And I just realized I didn't have the 'bell' notifcation turned on this whole time so I went ahead and did that.
A little off topic but day before yesterday, I watched your video about why being bald is attractive. As someone who lost the genetic lottery and was born with a receding hairline, your video inspired me to get a bald cut at the barbershop yesterday. I am now bald with a beard and holy sheeesh I feel way better than ever before! My confidence levels have spiked up, my friends love my new look, and I genuinely feel good in my own skin (also my head feels so damn smooth LOL).
Thank you for inspiring me to take that rite of passage. I truly believe this was a necessary step towards my progress of becoming a high-value man. Your videos have really helped me reflect on my life values, relationship values, my strengths and weaknesses, and overall self-development. I am currently not seeing anyone, nor have I ever been in a relationship. But because I'm working on myself now to become a 10/10 high value man, I know that later on, when I meet my significant other, she will 100% be the 10/10 high value woman and life partner I deserve. And when that time comes, I'll definitely need to watch your Men's Dating playlist to make sure my (future) relationship will be a success.
Thank you for all the content you've created so far, don't let the haters and internet trolls get to you. They probably haven't showered and touched grass in weeks/months (yikes). Stay awesome, stay blessed, keep up the good work 🙏
I found this girl around 5 days ago and she's really cute imo and we are almost exactly alike. She only just got Bumble as she's never used dating apps before and only had one ex before of which, he treated her really poorly and she has insecurities however she's really opening up to me and she really enjoys talking to me and so do I. Conversation is effortless and we send big paragraphs back a forth. So I was near to losing faith in dating apps coz of women being the same but she's not like other girls, she's fun, weird, goofy, quiet and also nerdy. We are both looking for something serious too and she is more interested in personality than just looks and she thinks I'm too good for her - she said that herself which is honestly flattering. I hope we meet up some time in the future and we can spend our lives together. She is just amazing :)
The future plans is the key from where I sit, and that works both ways. My Girl and I have been brainstorming Halloween costumes lol it’s April. 👌😭
Haha I love this so much 😂
Courtney!!! I found you when I got cheated on with a 2 plus year relationship with my ex girlfriend. With the help of your videos and Brazilian Jui jitsu I began to re-invent myself. From body gains and getting a new haircut, a new style of clothes
Thank you so much for your helpful positivity and insight. God bless you
@InThisTogether some of those guys in your new found social circle have wives and girlfriends, and those females have single female friends - this is the basis of social circle dating. Make sure you are going to the bar or pub with these guys after BJJ. Go to parties and dinners
@InThisTogether This 3rd Dan USA Judo coach who rolls with the BJJ guys before teaching his own judo class and then goes to the bar after is certainly high value - just saying 😎. This same guy met his wife 30 years ago this May through a judo buddy's GF. Social Circle dating is THE BEST OPTION for most guys. Birds of a feather flock together. That is why it's actually more important for most guys to build a diverse social circle of high value male friends, generate social proof and then use it to attract women on the periphery of said circle. This is far more efficient than OLD, cold approach etc.
@@jleano609 You are speaking truth right there. I've always said that myself
a positive takeaway that you found out before marriage and kids. keep going ahead king!!
yes yes and yes@@jleano609 Thank god I discovered BJJ
Courtney thank you for your content. You encourage me to find women who are more clear and direct in what they want. Although I understand women can be more passive and want a guy to read between the lines, but even better, you encourage me to be more upfront about what I want. And that makes it so much easier for the woman, as well as myself.
You are great Courtney, this video is gold and I can say that these signs are very, very accurate. You should have 3 million subscribers. A lovely woman who I was in a very short relationship with *a long time ago* reached out to me about a month ago. Because of various practical issues we broke up 17 years ago, we were still friends but decided to not have any contact and just move on in our respective lives. When she contacted me, she immediately started to talk about those small details about me and our shared memories from the past, and deep conversations... it was very obvious that she wanted to get together.
Meeting family/loved ones and friends is a big one! If she isn’t that’s a red flag! I know if my gf wanted me to meet her friends, family I’m always open to it because I’m not afraid to meet them and curious to see what the dynamic is like.
you have to be careful with that one. To some girls, boyfriends are just accessories to be shown off to friends and family, and of course nowadays that includes Social Media. How she treats you when it's just you and her says much more than how she treats you in front of others.
She doesn’t want me to meet her parents till like a year of dating, i dont get why tho lol, and she’s already talking about moving in. Won’t allow that till she at leasts posts me on social media, where her family can see me. I haven’t told her but I simply won’t allow her to move in till she does that at LEAST
@@tito9694 Worrying. Chances are you are this girl's insurance policy. Is there another guy out there or an Ex that she's mentioned to you? No way you should be letting ANY woman move in with you unless already engaged and within six months of marriage.
If a woman says "we" instead of "me" or "I," she's definitely serious about you on that level. The biggest one for me, however, is if she willingly cuts off all the guys she's talking to because she wants you. I'm not a chaser to any degree, so if you meet me and still want to pursue other options, I'm not gonna be a part of your roster.
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yeah a woman having "male friends" whom they used to f*** is a big red flag for me... that's why I broke up with the girl i most recently dated
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How do you know she cut off all the other guys she's talking to?
Good and interesting post👍. Limbo is a kind of hell. People are cruel. Life should be genuine and joyful.
This was a great video with a positive, hopeful, but also realistic point of view. Thank you.
It's a lot easier to make entertaining content bringing up counterpoints to crappy people giving crappy advice, but the emotional result to that is feeding pessimism and bitterness. That results so often in angry people in the comments bagging on how horrible and frustrating many women are.
And that's not necessarily constructive.
This felt like a very constructive video and I deeply appreciate it.
🥰 you are a gem, thank you so much!
@@CourtneyRyan You are a gem, too. Keep up this positivity in topics that often breed so much negativity. We need more compassionate voices like yours in our lives.
If Courtney would make a tech tutorial, i think i would watch every single minute without getting bored!! We need someone like you in the tech community.
I have been interested in a woman I work with for a while now. The other day I finally got the nerve to ask her to go hiking, which she has mentioned on at least two occasions that she enjoyed. She said yes, and mentioned we would go on a weekend when we are both off from work. She then mentioned that if I get on her work rotation, which I have been trying to do, that we would have more opportunities to spend time together. Today, I found out she has someone. I told her I was not trying to cause problems, and she said it is ok, she can still have friends. I don't want to give up on her, but it may be healthy to give up, and just be content spending time with her. So, even though a woman makes plans for the future, she may be seeing someone, and sees you as a friend.
True. If you can gain something from her just go be her friend. Have fun, not expecting anything and get to know her better not to be a partner but human. Life could be content just hanging around with amazing people. Her personal life isn't your concern now since healthy mindset would be trying not to create intimacy relationship with someone that has already have a partner; Let her go and move on.
It hard to find a serious person this day in age but I finally found a serious one and she's awesome Courtney Ryan a thumbs up video always 🙂
Great tips for what should be obvious signs. Sadly, many of us will get sidetracked into a fantasy of what it really is.
I can chat for atleast 15 mins to any of my girl-friend , and I'm doing it and it helped me to know about girls. A good conversation not weird
Because of you Courtney but I'm happy single i already told you months ago after my patch-up and break-up
This is what a healthy relationship looks like. I’ve experienced this before and all people should be looking out for this type of person who shows this type of interest. You shouldn’t waste your time chasing someone who isn’t naturally doing this. Men, women are constantly filtering and going through guys until they find one they like them they act this way. It is up to you to quickly next each woman until they behave this way. Try your best but if they simply aren’t receptive then you are wasting your time and setting yourself up for heartbreak later. Be into the girl as much as she is into you.
This woman is a breath of fresh air in the extremely toxic intersexual dating scene. Would love to see her critique r/FemaleDatingStrategy and all the misandry going on for half a century within the feminist front. She's seemingly the kind of 'sane' woman whose nonexistence in today's sexual political discourse Jordan Peterson bemoaned (for reference, check out his conversation with Camille Paglia).
r/FemaleDatingStrategy is a woman version of incels lol
Wow what a powerful presentation my dearest Madam and I love away women embraces their fiancee by using body language.
Dear Ms. Courtney Ryan.... Very true.... From the heart.... I enjoyed your comments....
I appreciate what Courtney had to say about being explicit in openly saying that you like someone and would like to invest some time getting to know them better.
It's only been within the last 15 to 20 years that I've become more familiar with the "predominantly female"(?) language of "hint" which I personally think gets misinterpreted a lot as "red flags" aka warning signs to stop a budding relationship?
I often prefer to see these hints as a possible sign that I have stumbled onto an area of some degree of pain, anger or fear and need to tread lightly/with great care if I value the relationship and wish to continue pursuing it to greater depth.
But, that will not be allowed if I cannot engender the kind and level of trust and emotional availability she needs to genuinely open up emotionally to get at the roots of her fears and "unreasoned" anger.
A big problem/issue in relationships of the 21st century variety as I see it is the plethora of choices (someone else called it being "spoiled for choice") women seem to enjoy over same-age men.
And since it seems as though women would attempt to occupy every sphere of employment that a man might traditionally choose.
I have often wondered why a mature man would consciously choose to compete with a woman in any arena(especially work).
That kind of competition is not appealing to me as person who considers himself a "state of the art" single mature male who now enjoys a minimalist-like lifestyle.
Well said.
*When a woman opens up about her future or includes you in her plans, it's a clear indicator she's serious. It’s all about paying attention to the little details that matter!*
Guys if a girl is in a relationship with you but she says she is thinking about a one night affair with another guy...how would you react?
Courtney's view on this would be extra appreciated 🙏 thank you
Oh goodness. I’d be extremely upset lol
Depends on what she is thinking about? Like regret/or felt something from the guy that turned her on maybe like a emotional connection. Then you can go from those context clues..that would give you a clearer indication on what to work on/speak on if both parties are willing to work it out or move on.
If it's about some famous sex symbol then fine, have some fun with that one. If it's about some dude at the gym, an ex, your brother, etc.....It's been fun babe.
It’s really disrespectful. I’ve been in relationships where this happened and I was TOO STUPID to not immediately just walk away. Because the girl/ woman is testing you to some degree. If you allow this even in conversation that would put up with her sleeping with someone else she will have NO RESPECT for you going forward. Just let her know immediately that if she wants her one night fling that is the last she will see of you. Your confidence will be so ATTRACTIVE TO HER! She will probably forget all about the one night stand. But you have to be for real! You can’t be acting. Because right now you have to decide that you don’t want anyone in your life that would ever treat you like that! That is really horrible! That is like cutting your reproductive organs off and saying you are not a man 👨🏻! If you want to be a man! Give her an ultimatum! Respect and love ❤️ yourself first and then she will love ❤️ you! Good luck 🍀
I would run for the hills - Tamás! Lol - But, seriously though… if you want to avoid this in the future…
I would set boundaries with a woman right at the beginning of the relationship, I don’t wait long.
Because, if you don’t let her know what types of behavior you will accept, and what types you will not - then it will be too late when you do let her know.
Most guys will not do this because, they’ll be too afraid to lose the girl, and that’s what makes them lose her eventually in more ways the one!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I love listening to you talk. So feminine, classy, pretty.
Congrats on 305k subs. Your channel keeps growing.
Thank you ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan no problem.
Glad that you're tackling these Topics.
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You are an intelligent young woman, thanks . You have don't a great deal to free information .
Sometimes people want to be serious after they ice box you and then find out that door isn't available anymore. And sometimes you get lost on the way to college. If you do the math, the number of deeply compatible partners available to you isn't that many and by definition, there is one best option at any given time but that doesn't mean that was your lifetime best option. A big problem I see is mate parasitism, in which someone desirable is given a stamp of approval, only to have others sweep in and pick it up using asymmetrical logistics and communications jamming, not because they inherently care, but because it has been acknowledged as beyond superficially valuable. Classical defeat in detail approach.
Dating apps are for people who get all the leftovers. People who are not desired as much, use dating apps to find their mate. It’s for single mothers, butter face, 6 and below rating scale internet date.
It's mostly the dregs unless you're just wasting time. It's like flicking through the remote 🤣
Wow, this channel has very interesting topics I need to check out. Good job so far, I found your girls talking about hair beards and then the analyzing game (the system) I checked the channel a bit and liked what I saw. I’ll matrix 2x speed store on my brain and learn and implement stuff for sure.
Good soup 👌🏻
They ARE always seeing other people. Yea, believe it or not - answer is the second option.
Not true 😂
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I am married but I am still watching these cause they are so interesting haha
Yes, genuine burningg desire is important, esp for a healthy monogamous mrelationship
If you aren't her first choice, you're near last with all the others
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Congrats Courtney, you've built quite a following on here and you give helpful advice, keep up the good work. I really enjoy the background music in these videos, it sets a nice relaxing and chill vibe. That being said, LETS GO CELTICS 👏👏👏👏👏
LETS GO CELTICS 👏👏👏👏👏
LETS GO CELTICS 👏👏👏👏👏
LFGGGGG that buzzer spin around layup by Tatum was insane bro!! Feeling strong about the playoffs!
@@Altairego How awesome was it to see the Nets quit in Game 2? 🤣 LETS GO CELTICS 👏👏👏👏👏
@@GMPGMP-jp5ut Lmaoooo unfortunately I didn't see the match live because I live in the UK and was mad tired, I'd have stayed up normally but I'm watching the highlights now man. Do you happen to have a link where I can watch the full matches recorded or something?
But yeah fuck the nets hahahahaha, Kyrie primadona ain't shit hahahahah. Celtics got this in the bag bro!!
Most men miss these signs automatically, but it’s always good to pay attention to these videos 👍🏼
5:30 tip; try to move from text to speech asap ... text is an extremely flawed medium for talks due to the lack of tone of voice, in person so with body language is the best, text is by far the worst, text almost guarantees platonic and lack of emotions and progression to 'formal' 'business' like talking
When a girl liked me one of the things she did in addition to talking about future things she wanted to do with me is she helped me network with people who were in careers I wanted to get into, and that person at the time happened to be her dad.
She was swooning after I talked with him over the phone, and mentioned that I will reach out to him with any questions or concerns I may have in the future about that field of work.
Random comment.. but this song in the background suits your channel and personality really well. Feminine and works well for this purpose.
she aint gonna let u hit bro
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As a man, whenever I've dated women, i've always decided quickly to focus on one woman.this is because I like to build a good relationship, and this is not possible when you're dating multiple women
Thank you so much for this! I just met someone new, seeing her this Friday :)
Have fun! ❤️
You guys meet girls 🙂 never happened with me
Well, looks like I'm seeing all of the positive signs. 🥰
Very educational and inspirational, thanks for sharing.
1. She made it very clear (She tells you)
Doesn't matter. Women's mind are fickle and changes according to their feelings. My previous Ex made me clear that she wants to marry me and will be proud to give birth to my children. but later she changed it due to her feelings.
2. She tells you she deleted her dating apps
My previous ex did the same to me but after she broke up with me, I found out from her mutual friends on Instagram that she has three Instagram accounts.
3. She remembers small details about you
Agree..
4. You have deep conversations with her
Agree.. But women changes according to their feelings. They live in present and care about how they feel.
5. She asks you questions first
Agree....
6. She wants to meet your loved ones
Agree...
7. She talks or plans about the future with you in it
Agree... But the plan must be mutual not one-sided. make sure your expectations are included too..
8. You’re a priority to her
Agree...
Courtney, would you be able to react to, 10 WORST Relationship Mistakes by The Style O.G? I think there is some stuff that can hit home differently from both perspectives, male and female.
This is super clear. My cute friend is not into me. But she is great company, occasionally.
Thanks for the advice. I will keep the points in mind.
I'm actually pretty straight forward, if i have been dating you more than a few times/month and continue to see you, then you are the only woman i am seeing. If after a month or so and a woman i am seeing is still dating other guys, then i wont take her seriously and will act accordingly. If its been a couple dates, then i might have another one or so lined up but that's it. Its just who i am now and what i have time for. I don't have time to invest into multiple women at a time anymore, its also a waste of time. Their are other things in my life i enjoy doing than to worry about trying to "spin plates" anymore. If I don't see anything between us or feel anything after a couple dates then I move on.
wow it feels really good to hear "she wants to be around you, she's making you a priority, she wants to meet your loved ones, etc." even if it's not real. i guess it feels nice to pretend that someone I like, likes me
I can definitely say that talking about future plans with you doesn't mean shit. My girl was seeing a half dozen other men and still making plans with me 8 months away.
0:45 The 1st point was funny lol "she made it very clear".
I'm unsure how to feel about my relationship now. She texts me daily to see how I'm doing, but outside of that nothing. I cook dinner for her several times a month, take her out on dates monthly, and during some really difficult times this fall/winter I was there for her to cry to and get support from. She's always polite and says thank you in the moment for things, but never reciprocates or initiates much of anything apart from her daily texts (she does give me a ride to our church some Sundays though I have a car and don't really need her to). She gets upset when I don't want to do a couple things with her (ex. she REALLY likes weddings and wanted me to go with her to one across the country recently which I declined to do) but never compromises to do anything I'd be into. Aside from the attention she shows me by messaging me everyday, I don't feel like I'm her priority. She messages her friends everyday too, so I feel like she doesn't really do anything she doesn't already do for friends. If the tables were turned, she'd have broken up with me long ago if all I did was text her daily and gave her a ride to church every so often. She's a decent person, no way she's cheating on me, but sometimes I feel like she just wants a boyfriend to take photos and go to events with, doesn't really care for me specifically. Otherwise, maybe she'd make more effort to SHOW her appreciation rather than texting it to me. Help!
Yeah she doesn't care about you the way you do about her. Texting someone doesn't count as any kind of effort. I'd break up with her and find someone who reciprocates the effort you put into the relationship
you say it yourself, you're her friend, not her boyfriend. You don't say anything about intimacy - what's going on there?
@@jleano609 we both value our faith; no sex until marriage but I also have other physical boundaries to protect me from crossing the line especially if we've been out late
@@folumb ok, no sex, but what about other physicality? Without it, as said, you are really just her friend, or maybe she doesn’t know where SHE stands?
You are her emotional tampon and friend zoned yourself. Kick her to the streets. I guarantee you she is tolerating you until she finds a man with a backbone to monkey branch to next. I would definitely wager money she’s seeing some one behind your back.
Very helpful as always Courtney 👍🏾
Unfortunately I got a lot of these signs before seeing signs you mention in your “She’s Seeing Other People” video. Soon after we broke up, so now I don’t know what to think. Go figure.
Video not for me, but still great for learning. thanks.
My Final in philosophy class in College (2004) can be summed up like this: To know what any living this loves, watch what it spends its free time on.... That's what it loves.
Thanks this helped. I'm dating a girl and everything was fine. However I always initiate with her. She doesn't really make time. Only seen her like 4 times in like more than a month. Still has her dating apps, never makes plans, hardly asks any questions. I mean we got to kissing but that don't mean shit without a real connection. Don't remember when she last contacted me when I didn't make the plans first. Its actually making me feel emotionally drained.
I always assume a woman is dating other men or at least open to other men until we talk about being committed. Especially in this dating app society, people want to keep their options open.
smart man - and of I hope you are keeping the hopper full also. She will find you more attractive for it, even if she doesn't "like" it.
The shitty thing is my ex seemingly did all these green flags and came off normal. Little did I know she played me like a fiddle. I was completely fooled. I took my time thought I vetted her well and she pulled the rug out when she thought it was convenient for her. She is a malicious narcissist that knew what she was doing. This video is great advice but damn...comes to show nothing is full proof. It took me forever but I'm glad I'm healed from that toxic low life. From now on no one will dim my light nor steal my heart and I know now what to watch out for.
I had to cut off a girl recently because she was open to the idea of dating as she was seeing other guys. That didn’t fly with me because I had already told her I wanted to start something with her and even bought the girl flowers and hand delivered them to her at work. The thing is she had told me she was interested in me and agreed to go on dates with me, but the fact that she was still seeing other guys didn’t sit right with me. So I told her I couldn’t keep the relationship going and cut things off with her. Letting go was the right thing to do. Now she texts me because I give her no attention funny how that works.
Never offer a girl commitment - that's her ask not yours. Let her see other guys until then, you're seeing other girls, right?
@@jleano609 Yes I’m seeing other women. I’m glad she noticed that I’ve moved on because now she’s the one asking me to hang out. So now what do I do? Should I ignore her?
@@wolverinejr.5827 No. Have a conversation with her. Keep it light and funny and see if she does the very female thing of fishing for commitment. Few women will outright ask for a committed relationship. They’ll ask questions like “do you like me?” “Where do you see this going?” Etc. If she’s doing that ask her what she wants and steer the conversation towards framing out the commitment. And in that conversation lay out your expectations such as no Exes, not seeing other guys, careful around guy friends etc.
Now, if she doesn’t really bring this up you have a choice, drop her or continue to date her non exclusively. Without a commitment there’s no motivation for her not to see other guys. Likewise you see other girls. Don’t get jealous and if she likes you she’ll ask for a commitment pretty soon. If you can easily source dates from other girls that means you are pretty high value and her hypergamy will kick in and she’ll want to take you off the market. But it has to be her ask and your decision.
@@jleano609 Wow this helps a lot! Thank you. I’ll keep in touch with you. Hopefully things go smoothly with her.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
currently in a fwb with a girl for about 1 month and a half, see other quite a lot, I have caught feelings for her, she remembers small details, we have hours lying down speaking about anything, she says she wants to meet my cats but says she didn't want to meet my mom as it would be awkward as were fwb, she met them and now asks to come over again, she talks about going places together and baking together etc also her mates go clubbing or out and she normally sees me instead.
I know she wasn't interested in me when she broke my heart and said other people care about you but I'm not one of them. Since then i've been leaving dead bodies all over the place
If Number 2 hasn't happened, or if she's still talking to other guys she's interested in, has had past flings with, hooked up with, or has had past relationships with, then the rest of the things on this list won't matter at all
Thanks Courtney for the guidance . I have a girl we met on a dating app. She deleted her profile the day i was supposed to delete mine.
2 4 6 and 7 are probably worthwhile to turn around and ask, blunt or deftly, “are we serious/exclusive boy/girl friend?” The others are a little too… indirect. Signs, but best be deft instead of blunt there.
Then there’s the following question if you’re being exclusive here, the road to total commitment, in marriage.
i’m so broken to where even i worry her actions aren’t even genuine. i just keep the frame that change is the only constant & that at any given moment, she can dip & her meaningful, nice actions she’d previously done could’ve been utterly useless. i literally can’t trust anymore & it fucks relationships up for me. self sabotage problem fosho, but tbh i’d rather be safe than sorry.
I feel like the woman I just broke up with about 3-4 weeks ago possessed all of these traits... but I told her off top that I'm not willing to delete my dating app(s) so she ended up keeping hers. I told her I was cool with us dating nonexclusively but she told me she wanted to prove that she could be faithful to me so despite my preference, that she would remain exclusive to me. I emphasized that I wasn't looking for a double standard but she emphasized that she wanted to embark on that journey... so when this woman told me she had a close friend who she formerly dated and f**ked that she was going to be the Godmother for... I found that alarming and it turned me off to the point that I ended up breaking up with her. I still feel great about my decision intuitively because I sense that she was showing masculine traits (not by any examples shared above) in our relationship but based on this video... I made a bad decision! Lol, not sure how I feel about this
You did the right call. Women who act masculine are not attractive at all and will constantly bicker and argue because the power dynamic is out of wack. You only saw the tip of the ice burg with her. Also being god mother to some guy she fucked in the past? I’m sure his wife would be thrilled to know that detail about her. She’s for the streets king.
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What really confuses me is a girl I was seeing was displaying every single one of these signs, then within 24 hours after the 2nd date she just wants to be friends. Talk about disappointment. Even more so when we were planning to do further dates in the coming weeks.
Just went from hot to cold overnight
Great video and most certainly helpful..thank you. I am subscribing
She remembers small details is also another powerful sign of a woman.
Always read into it. Never believe them. They are always playing games.
I don't recommend opening up to a woman surrounding things that make you look less than a strong masculine type: difficulty advancing in your career, anything that makes it sound like you only have a few friends, low income such that you can't afford to go on vacations/party/nice restaurants. Courtney needs to elaborate on these things. Women may sympathize for a hardship you're going through but that's not going to turn her on. She'll be sympathizing with you while at the same time subconsciously friend-zoning you while withdrawing from sex and suddenly going out with her friends and hooking up with other men. Be warned.
0:10 even she laughed at that 😂😂😂
When there was no drama amongst your plates and then you lose your main for one reason or another and she starts getting super catty with your other sides... She fittin to be your main...
I was walking on the street i see this girl looking at me from the car window passing by. She was waiting to turn the corner but had to wait for the cars to go by before she turned the car. I looked at her she looked at me. She held eye contact for 5 seconds i counted. Then i looked away, i did not want to walk into something, then i looked back at her she was still looking at me, then the car turned she looked forward was gone. I held eye contact 5 sec then looked away first then looked back at her. Was she interested no smile on her face, but she kep eye contact even after i looked awaw then looked back.
Good dating topic😊
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when she was laughing,she completely leaned on my shoulder for more than 5-6 seconds,so i m confused.whether its a sign or she just could not control her laughter so she needed someone for support.
Girls that ask you too many questions are the ones that you should grill and respond with answers like "why do want to know that?" or "why should you care?".
The number 1 sign she wants you is if you’re tall....if you are at least 6ft + trust me she wants you
She never wants only you!
ok so girls like guys who get along with their parents right? but how do I tell her that I don't want them to meet my parents because of how abusive and toxic they are? and how do I make it very clear that I'm not and won't turn out like them in the future?
If you can type-out what you just said (in your comment) in a random youtubers comment section, then you should have no problem telling her what you just told the whole internet.
Now you have to ask yourself WHY, During and maybe after the first date while you're trying to read and decipher her body language and listen to her thought's with scrupulous attention, you have to ask yourself again, what's her angle and does she have a decent job, good credit, a car, is she clean, is she kind and respectful to others, is she positive with her comments and how does she treat myself and others. Does she have a positive attitude. Woman can be verry manipulative, she'll need further screening after the first date if it goes well.