@@HilarySilver now I realize I’ve been hiding my true me for SO long I need to see if I can remember who’s really inside. Or maybe reinventing? I know what triggered me hiding the true me (spending all of my childhood in and out of orthopedic teaching hospitals and feeling like a specimen under a microscope during my checkups and surgeries did a number on my self esteem and confidence) but being almost 60 it feels like time to fix. So glad to find your you tube channel today and now your podcast. I’m pretty sure I can maybe get head in straight so I can enjoy my 60s Thank you again xo
This is so powerful. I've always struggled with all of this. New sub here. I'm bingeing to catch up. Lot's to ruminate. Thanks for keeping it short and to the point.
The next level for me has been giving up if I like me... there was a time when I felt resilient to social rejection because I strictly adhered to my own code of conduct and now in allowing myself to be imperfect and still love myself, it's a whole new ballgame.
I didn’t think I cared about what other people think of me, and before I met my husband, I actually didn’t. I was a happy, confident, outgoing woman. 22 years married to a narcissistic man, I’m in shambles not knowing who I am. I still don’t care what most other people think but unfortunately I’ve succumbed to care what HE thinks. Every so often he compares me to other women. For example when he buys me clothes or jewelry it’s because he saw it on some younger girl, then becomes horribly disappointed when it doesn’t look good on me. He points out so many things that make me feel small. I understand that this is his projecting onto me and gaslighting me, but it really sucks that for him specifically. I never seem good enough. (Thankfully I have no problems in other areas of life!). And so I waste an ungodly amount of time and mental health on this account. Is there hypnosis that can short circuit my learned behavior and thinking so I will stop giving a damn so I can recoup my life and shine again? Because I’ve tried “just not going there” and it doesn’t help.
Love this awareness. I will be sharing more about how to get over the pleasing and create your own sense of safety!! Make sure to subscribe so you don't miss those!!
You probably won't care about what I have to say, and that's ok. What's not ok though is a 360p quality video in 2024. That NEEDS to change! P.S.: I loved your message. 😉
Can you relate? Even just a little bit? Let me know in the comments if these 'truths' are eye opening and helpful!
Would love to see a video on health anxiety 😊
This is totally me. Really enjoying listening to this. Thought it was just me but hearing you make sense of this is SO healing ❤ thank you
Thank YOU for watching and commenting. And so glad it's helpful! XOXO
@@HilarySilver now I realize I’ve been hiding my true me for SO long I need to see if I can remember who’s really inside. Or maybe reinventing? I know what triggered me hiding the true me (spending all of my childhood in and out of orthopedic teaching hospitals and feeling like a specimen under a microscope during my checkups and surgeries did a number on my self esteem and confidence) but being almost 60 it feels like time to fix.
So glad to find your you tube channel today and now your podcast. I’m pretty sure I can maybe get head in straight so I can enjoy my 60s
Thank you again xo
This is so powerful. I've always struggled with all of this. New sub here. I'm bingeing to catch up. Lot's to ruminate. Thanks for keeping it short and to the point.
@@DestinyFerreira29 welcome !!!! Happy you found me !
Thanks Hilary, great video😊
My pleasure- thanks for watching and commenting! :)
Hi Hilary, I’m 57 and love your overall great advice. New subscriber here! 🙋🏻♀️
@@ceciliacalabrano yay so happy you found me ! ❤️
Love your channel ! It resonates with me ❤
@@nikicarrera2213 I’m so happy to hear that!!! Thank you!🙏 ❤️
The next level for me has been giving up if I like me... there was a time when I felt resilient to social rejection because I strictly adhered to my own code of conduct and now in allowing myself to be imperfect and still love myself, it's a whole new ballgame.
@@stephaniemthoma love this !
I just found your TH-cam page! I love it!
@@SidneyRomejko I’m so happy you found me! Thanks for watching and commenting ! 🙏
I didn’t think I cared about what other people think of me, and before I met my husband, I actually didn’t. I was a happy, confident, outgoing woman. 22 years married to a narcissistic man, I’m in shambles not knowing who I am. I still don’t care what most other people think but unfortunately I’ve succumbed to care what HE thinks. Every so often he compares me to other women. For example when he buys me clothes or jewelry it’s because he saw it on some younger girl, then becomes horribly disappointed when it doesn’t look good on me. He points out so many things that make me feel small. I understand that this is his projecting onto me and gaslighting me, but it really sucks that for him specifically. I never seem good enough. (Thankfully I have no problems in other areas of life!). And so I waste an ungodly amount of time and mental health on this account. Is there hypnosis that can short circuit my learned behavior and thinking so I will stop giving a damn so I can recoup my life and shine again? Because I’ve tried “just not going there” and it doesn’t help.
For me it’s the need to feel safe that makes me a people pleaser or more so an observer I atwa dog a participant.
Love this awareness. I will be sharing more about how to get over the pleasing and create your own sense of safety!! Make sure to subscribe so you don't miss those!!
You probably won't care about what I have to say, and that's ok. What's not ok though is a 360p quality video in 2024. That NEEDS to change!
P.S.: I loved your message. 😉
@@euheroico haha- agreed! It was a stop gap measure. Sometimes the show must go on and it’s about production over perfection! 😊
I fucking love you ❤
@@cindymoase5753 ❤️❤️❤️