I've asked friends in relationships how they met their partner and their stories weren't extraordinary. They just met the right person, began talking to them, and love blossomed and lasted. I've worked to be ok and strong on my own first. If love is a dance, I've found that there are people willing to dance and some who aren't ready to dance yet. You can't force someone to dance who prefers not to. A lot of people these days are lonely too, so just taking a chance and asking a person to have coffee might work. Just don't weigh things down with expectations. People are ultimately going to do what they choose to do and no one seems to want feel the pressure of being "The One".
I've learned after 7 years of dating and making mistakes that we do not have one soulmate there are people who will resonate with you but we all have flaws and we are all a work in progress so at the end of the day it's what you are able to tolerate in a person
I feel that we ought to look for people who have several of the same interests as you have. This will help ease the loneliness until you meet that person.
My aunt enjoy your channel, she is 51 and her new husband is 32, they got married two weeks ago and they met each other working out at the gym, 5 years relationship. Thank you very much Susan.
I personally don't believe in soul mates because we ultimately walk our journey alone in this life. A person can join you for part of the journey, but they have their own mission to complete. I guess the term, in my mind, signifies codependency.
It's true.. Soul mates come when you least expect it and generally you'd be happy enjoying your life in the process. Soul mates aren't just love related.. You'd also meet your soul family! I think the right term is 'twin flame', that's the person that mirrors your soul and is the best match for you. You can only have one twin flame and meet many soul mates! From my experience, my soul mates were the worst matches 😂 😂 I wait patiently for my twin flame ✌️
Such good analogy and coaching about waiting for the pot being boiled framework! Also I think most people are too busy focusing on being chosen rather than focusing on whether or not this is the right person for you, thats how anxiety develops.
Agreed 100%. I think dating sites play on that false idea of one shot only. I'm 47 and single after 25 years of dating. The first four relationships made me better for what's next.
Is it even remotely possible to love someone you've only talked with on the phone for a couple of months but have never met them in person? I'm 82 and he's 80 and because of time and circumstances, we haven't been able to actually meet. We're both alone and able to maintain our respective residences. Would love to know what you or any of your subscribers think
Very well said! What helps me is finding value in the brief encounters. I had a short but sweet conversation with this really cool girl at a concert this summer. Didn’t even ask for her number or anything, and there’s a 99.99% chance I’ll never see her again, and that’s ok. The vibe in the moment was awesome, and then we went our separate ways, and I simply appreciate the encounter for what it was.
It's frustrating, though, when you're ready to get on with your life with a person and nothing seems to take. I'm 40 years old and have had plenty of relationships, but never the fully right situation where both of us were ready to go all the way together. I get the analogy of not watching the pot for it to boil, but at a certain point does it mean giving up on the idea all together? After enough disappointment, I'm starting to wonder. Great video as always, Susan!
Scott, that’s a choice. It just depends on what works for you. Some people choose to be single by choice. They’re tired of trying and completely let go of the idea of needing to have a partner. And often times those are the ones who find somebody sheerly by accident. Or not. So if you need a time out from that line of thinking, just take a time out. But it’s always wise to keep our eyes open for somebody who might be a match. Thank you for your commentary.
dude - don't feel bad, I'm 68 and still looking. You gotta just get on with your own life and focus on yourself. If it happens, great - if not, be grateful for what you have now.
I would ask yourself a question as to why you are seeking a partner. I am 38 and child-free so the rush of finding a partner was never present and I am content walking alone until I find a person who feels right.
I may have met them but have been unlucky. I discovered the first one passed away from a blood clot, something I'll never forget. Met another three years later, but after three years of being together, she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's--in her mid-fifties. I now pay for her care at an assisted living center. Still trying to get my life together, but not knowing if I'll find someone. Never knew how quiet a house can be.
Thanks for another insightful advice, Miss Susan. ✨ I do have a question though. Before entering the relationship, is it necessary to figure out yourself and fix yourself so as not to bring emotional baggage into a relationship or should I only be able to fix myself and my understanding of others by being into a relationship?
I just broke up with my love over politics…. Heart is broken. Can you do a video on how to relationships and politics? I don’t want to lose my relationships over politics.
Politics or values? If the latter then it is understandable, if former I would seriously reconsider...you need to make sure that you and your partner are equipped with the correct information before ending your relationship over LIARS (AKA ALL POLITICIANS).
My last failed relationship was the catalyst that helped me find my talent for ice skating. I believe Jesus sent me this date so I would discover my talent and also so I would start dating more women.
In theory, going through multiple people as a way of “refining” sounds good and may even be very beneficial TO A DEGREE. However going through guy after guy after guy is emotionally exhausting and can be psychologically damaging for many women. If we go through too many relationships we may have nothing left to give for “the one”. I look at “The One a little differently. I believe there are many possible “Ones” for a person but only one “ONE” that will qualify to make a life partner. I want the “One” that will be there when I take my last breath or he takes his. Anything less than that… I will graciously pass.
Susan. You have a lot of wisdom. But I would like to let you know that the Catholic Church is the true church that Jesus left for us. I need the sacraments to survive. This is the most important thing in life. Although I would like to walk the journey with a good woman. My faith comes first.
Why do I recognize but they don't recognize me? Is it possible to talk about it as a subject in a video, please? Well, one of the possibilities is that because I'm always trying to hide due to shyness as well...I hide too much I don't show myself. Thanks in advance!
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Stop looking.. put your energy into becoming the person everyone would want to date! You are amazing and what is meant for you will not pass you by xx
I've asked friends in relationships how they met their partner and their stories weren't extraordinary. They just met the right person, began talking to them, and love blossomed and lasted. I've worked to be ok and strong on my own first. If love is a dance, I've found that there are people willing to dance and some who aren't ready to dance yet. You can't force someone to dance who prefers not to. A lot of people these days are lonely too, so just taking a chance and asking a person to have coffee might work. Just don't weigh things down with expectations. People are ultimately going to do what they choose to do and no one seems to want feel the pressure of being "The One".
I'm starting to think the only sole mates are on my right and left feet😅
Very interesting you should say that because I didn’t article for health and fitness years ago called Sole Mates
I've learned after 7 years of dating and making mistakes that we do not have one soulmate there are people who will resonate with you but we all have flaws and we are all a work in progress so at the end of the day it's what you are able to tolerate in a person
I feel that we ought to look for people who have several of the same interests as you have. This will help ease the loneliness until you meet that person.
My aunt enjoy your channel, she is 51 and her new husband is 32, they got married two weeks ago and they met each other working out at the gym, 5 years relationship. Thank you very much Susan.
I personally don't believe in soul mates because we ultimately walk our journey alone in this life. A person can join you for part of the journey, but they have their own mission to complete. I guess the term, in my mind, signifies codependency.
You're right. Too much pressure. Not worth the stress
It's true.. Soul mates come when you least expect it and generally you'd be happy enjoying your life in the process.
Soul mates aren't just love related.. You'd also meet your soul family!
I think the right term is 'twin flame', that's the person that mirrors your soul and is the best match for you. You can only have one twin flame and meet many soul mates! From my experience, my soul mates were the worst matches 😂 😂 I wait patiently for my twin flame ✌️
Such good analogy and coaching about waiting for the pot being boiled framework! Also I think most people are too busy focusing on being chosen rather than focusing on whether or not this is the right person for you, thats how anxiety develops.
Agreed 100%. I think dating sites play on that false idea of one shot only. I'm 47 and single after 25 years of dating. The first four relationships made me better for what's next.
Is it even remotely possible to love someone you've only talked with on the phone for a couple of months but have never met them in person? I'm 82 and he's 80 and because of time and circumstances, we haven't been able to actually meet. We're both alone and able to maintain our respective residences. Would love to know what you or any of your subscribers think
Very well said! What helps me is finding value in the brief encounters. I had a short but sweet conversation with this really cool girl at a concert this summer. Didn’t even ask for her number or anything, and there’s a 99.99% chance I’ll never see her again, and that’s ok. The vibe in the moment was awesome, and then we went our separate ways, and I simply appreciate the encounter for what it was.
It's frustrating, though, when you're ready to get on with your life with a person and nothing seems to take. I'm 40 years old and have had plenty of relationships, but never the fully right situation where both of us were ready to go all the way together. I get the analogy of not watching the pot for it to boil, but at a certain point does it mean giving up on the idea all together? After enough disappointment, I'm starting to wonder. Great video as always, Susan!
Scott, that’s a choice. It just depends on what works for you. Some people choose to be single by choice. They’re tired of trying and completely let go of the idea of needing to have a partner. And often times those are the ones who find somebody sheerly by accident. Or not. So if you need a time out from that line of thinking, just take a time out. But it’s always wise to keep our eyes open for somebody who might be a match. Thank you for your commentary.
dude - don't feel bad, I'm 68 and still looking. You gotta just get on with your own life and focus on yourself. If it happens, great - if not, be grateful for what you have now.
I would ask yourself a question as to why you are seeking a partner. I am 38 and child-free so the rush of finding a partner was never present and I am content walking alone until I find a person who feels right.
I may have met them but have been unlucky. I discovered the first one passed away from a blood clot, something I'll never forget. Met another three years later, but after three years of being together, she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's--in her mid-fifties. I now pay for her care at an assisted living center. Still trying to get my life together, but not knowing if I'll find someone. Never knew how quiet a house can be.
I am so sorry to hear about your uneasy path. At least you have loved before which many can't say. ❤
This information is spot on thanks for sharing Susan
Great question. Thank you to Shannon for asking it. Love your videos, Susan
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Great video Susan! So many wise and useful tips in 9 minutes.👏👏👏
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Thanks for another insightful advice, Miss Susan. ✨
I do have a question though.
Before entering the relationship, is it necessary to figure out yourself and fix yourself so as not to bring emotional baggage into a relationship or should I only be able to fix myself and my understanding of others by being into a relationship?
I just broke up with my love over politics…. Heart is broken.
Can you do a video on how to relationships and politics?
I don’t want to lose my relationships over politics.
That's a good idea. I guess depending on how much emphasis you put on it, it could be difficult. I'm no expert tho, that's for sure.
Its a testament to you holding your convictions, your soulmate would be proud of your beliefs, they matter.
Politics or values? If the latter then it is understandable, if former I would seriously reconsider...you need to make sure that you and your partner are equipped with the correct information before ending your relationship over LIARS (AKA ALL POLITICIANS).
If you voted biden...I'd dump ya too....
My last failed relationship was the catalyst that helped me find my talent for ice skating. I believe Jesus sent me this date so I would discover my talent and also so I would start dating more women.
You're so wise. BRAVA
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Good suggestions. Thank you
You’re very welcome!!
In theory, going through multiple people as a way of “refining” sounds good and may even be very beneficial TO A DEGREE. However going through guy after guy after guy is emotionally exhausting and can be psychologically damaging for many women. If we go through too many relationships we may have nothing left to give for “the one”. I look at “The One a little differently. I believe there are many possible “Ones” for a person but only one “ONE” that will qualify to make a life partner. I want the “One” that will be there when I take my last breath or he takes his. Anything less than that… I will graciously pass.
I think it’s dangerous to say whatever gender. You are either straight or you aren’t.
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Susan. You have a lot of wisdom. But I would like to let you know that the Catholic Church is the true church that Jesus left for us. I need the sacraments to survive. This is the most important thing in life. Although I would like to walk the journey with a good woman. My faith comes first.
Why do I recognize but they don't recognize me? Is it possible to talk about it as a subject in a video, please? Well, one of the possibilities is that because I'm always trying to hide due to shyness as well...I hide too much I don't show myself. Thanks in advance!
Susan i am your soulmate.
Susan i want you.come back