Retracting your energy (to re-attract your ex)
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- Subscriber Emily writes: “Hi Susan, You are one of the most amazing life coaches out there. In one of your videos, you said we need to completely cut the emotional string so we can stop leaking our vital energy to the very person who we consider as our enemy. My question to you now is if we stop sending the energy to the person who does not even know if I am alive, would the retraction of my energy even be felt by him?”
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I had an ex that i thought about incessantly for three months while he was totally no contact. Then one day i hung out with another guy and had the best time and developed a crush on him. For the first day in three months i didn’t think about my ex once. That night he called me.
Let's hope your ex wasn't spying on you and your date. :D
What happened next?
And then what happened? Dont tell us you got back with the ex lol
Wow
Wow! That's crazy.I hope you didn't go back,because if he called at night, he was probably just wanting sex.
Not only does retracting your energy work to reattract your ex, but as you begin to be present and look around your perception changes and you begin to see the bigger picture....which means that your ex becomes smaller.
Oof. They probably HATE that. 😂😂
Well, I don’t know about other people, but I managed to do that and move forward (and actually some of these videos helped). My ex never wanted to come back. But thanks to that excitement about the future I’ve met the one who’s a better match for me. So moving forward is always a good thing. Life’s too short to spend it on wanting someone who’s over you.
Happy to read this, Amina
That excitement about the future even if he doesn't come back. Like maybe he does but it's ok if he doesnt.
Amina Togoeva so so true!
@@melissab77 Thank you!
I am heartened by that. The theory is excellent, and it takes real mental discipline and humility to do it. Hopefully it will work for me too; I can see that there is real excitement and potential for my future.
My ex and I broke up 5 months ago. I was so, incredibly devastated because we still loved each other. The first few days of heartache, I turned to your videos - NOT to get him back - but to get myself back. (I was a shell of my former self which also led to the break-up.) Fast forward to the present, 5 months later (and lots of crying in-between), I am in a MUCH better place. I turned my energy inwards, allowed myself to heal, dealt with my issues, and tried to move on as healthily as I could. It was NOT EASY. In fact, it was HELL. Especially letting go and allowing that cord of attachment to slowly disappear. But I had to keep one foot in front of the other... until things got easier.
NOW!!! Two days ago, he texted me out of the blue (he would test the waters from time to time, but I had put my foot down with maintaining healthy boundaries for myself) and finally said he wanted to talk to me about 'us'. It took me by surprise. But more than anything, I've never felt more in my power at the present moment.
Thank you for your guidance, Susan. ❤ Your wisdom saved me more than you know.
Hi @EllyBelly. I'm thrilled to read your comment!! Brava! I love how you invested in yourself. Sending you hugs over the internet.
EllyBelly
I sooo want this for meeee.
Your story resonates with mine, except the gender roles are reversed.
Here’s to wishing you all the happiness in the world whichever way you decide to go. ❤️
@@renep7008 You will get there. I know and understand how heart-wrenching this experience is... but do, as much as you can, practice self-love. The more energy you pour into yourself - doing things that make you happy, understanding your issues (and being compassionate towards yourself while doing so), being kind to others, engaging in new activities without that other person, sitting with your grief when it comes, etc. - the more you allow room for the other person to gravitate back towards you. Most importantly, *you get you back.* Which is the most important relationship there ever will be. ❤
We're in this together. Healing isn't linear... and I still have my days. But I gracefully let them come and go. I wish you all the healing in this world. 🙏🏼 (Hugs)
EllyBelly WoW you are so strong ... I’m in quite similar situation as you, six months after breakup and I’m still checking his social media and checking my emails to see and hoping he would text me, I know it sounds pathetic but I’m trying everyday to let go, but it’s too hard, I’m not looking to get back with him but I just need a closure and say what’s in mind so I can move on. Thanks for sharing your story !!!
Wow, inspiration right there. You said you kept your boundaries.. How did you? My ex cares about me and talks to me almost daily, encouraging and everything. But I stopped talking to him too deeply. I talk to him almost like he's one of the new guys I'm meeting, and as the friend that he is which I'm grateful for. But I don't feel I'm leaking that energy anymore. Is that a good sign I'm not?
1. Be present - where am I, what am I doing right here in this moment, am I hot, am I cold, what am doing now, what can I get excited about?
2. Have your eyes forward, not with your energy leaking backwards. Be conscious and excited where you're going RIGHT NOW! Plan forward. Envision forward.
Mentally discipline yourself.
This lady is amazing. She gives sound advice in a calm and polished way.
Thank you Sharon.
Sharonovitch39 And in a way That’s so simple!!
Sharonovitch39 yes, I see the same. Susan Winter is great!
And she's 🔥
She doesn't beat around the bush like everyone else. She gives you clear techniques. I love it!
And just earlier this morning I adopted a new motto "the future starts now". I'm going to say that to myself every time I get out of bed. No more frustrations for me....it gets old!
And “everything is happening For me, not To me” and “I believe in miracles”.
Good for you!
The future starts now! The best of my life is the rest of my life!
Right on! Good for you... 😼
Haybaby
I dont want my ex back anymore, but the hardest part is the good memories keep playing in my head every day that kills me, i just cant stop its so hard 😭
Be grateful for the good memories. It helps you know what you deserve 24/7. Ex obviously didn't give enough of it but taught you what you do want.
Smile and say thank you.
@@jeanlilianlee8919 Smile and say good riddance. NEXT!!!!!
see moving on videos from susan, they helped me so much
care bear 2849 trueee same
This woman is wise. WOW! I did a coaching session with her and was amazed at the speed with which she grasped and understood my situation and then was able to give me life changing thoughts, advice, opinions, and practical tasks. It was immensely beneficial. I carry her advice with me everyday. Thank you Susan from the bottom of my heart. You helped heal me and I'm eternally grateful.
THANK YOU, THANK YOU BRYAN!!!
Please advise me what she told you
@@shekhar1862 LOOL
Thanks for confirming. I think I need a session with her too!!
Hmm I actually might hire her then. Thanks for the feedback! 😊
It's SO HARD to do this as an empath!!😑 I'm always more worried about other people more than myself to a detriment! Smh
So very true. But I’m mfkn tired of being taken for granted. And when you get to that point it’s almost like you will because of how mad you get at yourself for allowing people to treat you any ole kind of way. You’re a queen!
This may be hard to fathom until you experience it. He decided to leave me. It was "all too much for him". I was devastated. But 2 days into the breakup, I deleted him as a contact, focussed on my work and enjoying my weekend with friends. Literally 15 minutes after deleting him, he called. I answered but said I was busy "so talk quickly". He wanted me back he said. I said give me space, I need time. He is pounding down my door and still my door is not completely open. I'm not playing games with him but I made plans to travel and attend conferences. So if he waits he waits. If not then not.
JEAN LILIAN Farmer good for you! Wise, Strong woman! 💪
Amazing how that works, right?
@@SusanWinter 2 days after he had said he was scared and things were moving too fast and he lost himself and it was all too much - I listened to your one video and decided there and then. I could not believe how fast it worked. I've just let him back in yesterday - a month he has been trying to get back in - he wanted to see me again later the same day and I said it's too much too fast. I told him I'm taking care of myself first from now on. Perfume, silk lingerie (he hasn't seen me in it yet as I refused to try it on for him), chocolates and loads of attention.
@@jeanlilianlee8919 - He sounds needy, and yes, you now are playing a string-along game with him, making him grovel...having fun? What you're doing isn't cool....just dump him and move along.
@@Last_one_before_I_go He is actually quite an independent and successful person. I am not having him grovel at all. I want him but not at the expense of myself and my dreams.
Very valuable advice. I tried this unknowingly when my heart was broken by someone who I had been deeply in love with for long. I decided for my own sanity to completely shut him off my mind. It was very hard in the begin but I succeded. Mind you the last thing I knew was that he was moving in with his long time girlfriend. He had told me to quit basically (it had only been platonic). 5 months and a half later he called me to ask me out. I was in such a shock because I had worked hard at forgetting him I replied "sure, call me back next month". Like in, you know I have a life, I am busy, you're not my priority anymore.
In truth I had moved on from him so nothing ever happened after that, but it was an invaluable lesson and the satisfaction of giving him that reply after all the pain I had gone through had no price.
Love this. So happy for you. You're amazing.
Wow happy for you ❤️
Good for you !He didn't bother to tell me ,why he was just messing with me. and we work in the same office. Me and other co workers found out he was getting married few days before his wedding. I feel that I am really a very patient person for not asking for explanation, I mean what ever he says, I am still gonna feel awful.. I really want to ask him, why did he mess with my life, text me, telling people he likes me, telling co workers that we are together, and then happily announcing he is marrying someone else. Even they got confius😅😅. Think about me! I don't even know if I am allowed to call him my ex. Am I imagining things?? I don't even want him, I just confius and uncomfortable and MAD! I don't even care to whom he is getting married to.
But you still think about him.
@@antilaw9911 not anymore. It took long, but now I am with a much better man and forgot about him. Never been happyer :)
I don't care if you're going to Whole Foods, get excited about it!!!. Yes ma'am, this is so hard, but I am going to try my best to be present and close the portal to the past. Rejection means go in another Direction!
Though I do hold some degree of skepticism against concepts like these, on Christmas day recently, I woke up feeling like I would be okay without my ex for the first time since the breakup. I didn't have that ache in my heart that I usually did. And then that night, he texts me for the first time since the breakup.
If this happens to me idk how I would feel...
This is the best motivational video for getting over an ex I've ever seen. For the past two months I've been dwelling on what was and what I've lost. You have triggered a breakthrough. I've been watching this at least a couple of times a day to keep me on track and I finally feel like I'm reclaiming my head space in order to get on with my life. This has helped me so much. I cannot thank you enough for this Susan!
Can you give an update on hows life now?
❤️❤️❤️ going to try this let’s see what happens thank you 🙏
"I don't care if you're going to Whole Foods," lol.
Simone,you are so beautiful ❤🌹🌹🌹
@@oscarwilliamson1264 , Thank you. I took a good photo is all.
That's my fav part
I'm dealing with this on a level that is so deep it's like digging my soul out of the ground. The advice is very practical.
Quantum Love: In some alternate universe we all have the ideal relationship we desire.
yes but we can manifest being in this universe!
This is so accurate! My good good friend and lover of many years hurt me and in the aftermath I withdrew from him. He immediately sensed the absence of my energy and came running
Did you leave him or did he leave you?
They come running back every time!!! Like clockwork.
It’s crazy. I binged watch your videos two nights ago and became resolute to keep my energy and my love with me after 8 months of heartbreak and no contact. Yesterday he reached out to me, and again today. So strange.
"you're repelling their need to come to you" wow, you're amazing ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I always did find that whenever I was happy about my life, busy and productive that all my old boyfriends wanted to come back. LOL
No contact for me just meant pushing everyone aside so I could focus on me so that the rest would later fall into place.
Being happy with yourself is key.
It's true! I even had an ex that would text me daily well into his engagement and marriage! Even though HE dumped ME! That refocused energy is SO powerful and attractive, literally and figuratively.
1. Be present ( where am i, what am i doing, what are the colors around me, what's the feel around me, goal is to be here.
2. Eyes forward not with the energy leaking backwards. Be conscious and excited about where you are going now. GET EXCITED! Look forward, invision forward, Mental discipline as soon as you start thinking go back to number 1. Focus on your future plan,
I love energy, law of attraction, awakening! Please do more on these topics. The path of least resistance free your mind from mental bondage! I am all!!!!! Even if they don’t come back the Universe will deliver better😃
Bella,you are absolutely gorgeous 💓❤🌹🌹and I will be glad to know you more
So helpful and clear. Thank you, Susan! Lots of love to you ❤️
I stumbled across this 3 months ago when I had just separated from my partner. And I’m watching this again now and feeling so much more empowered than I was before. 🙏🏼
You acknowledge your subscribers so beautifully. I wasn't a subscriber, but I am now!
Susan, thanks for being an authentic and empathetic life coach.
You're a blessing in all our lives, Susan - endless gratitude.
I love this woman; Susan is one of the best in propping up our spiritual consistency.
This is the video I’m looking forward to seeing for months and finally it’s here !!!!!!! Thank u god !!!!!
Just wanted to say your videos are so good for ones heart. They soothe and ground me.
i love these videos where you talk about energy and connections
So so amazingly said: to be present, so so true.
This helps me in so many ways. Susan, you are beautiful in so many ways. Thank you!
You just empowered me! You're awesome! I left smiling :)
Thank you Susan! Your energy is so healing and amazing. Stepping out to the sun right now instead of having my energy leaked to my ex 💕
Susan..I watch many of your videos, you are truly an inspiration..I logically fully understand most methodologies, but sometimes I need that reminder. Thank you for the incredible work you do. You appear completely authentic and truly caring regarding your work..
Wow. You are amazing. Thank you for bringing me back to presence!
You have a true gift and I am so grateful and blessed to have come upon your video!
You’re the best Susan!
Thank you Susan for more of your insights. Sealing one's leaks is a major part of sacred warrior practice. Grief, obsession, guilt and fear all create internal leaking sites. Seal them by seeing them and no judgment of self. No denial.
This video is evidence why Susan is the very best! I will replay this several times until it sinks into my cranium!
Great video once again Susan!! 🌼
Thank U for sharing ur wonderful insight and ur Radiant, Beautiful energy w/ us all.
Ur the Best!!!
🌬🙏🏻💗🤗🙌🏻✨✌🏻
You have to close that door and accept what is. Keep moving forward with all your energy focused on you and yourself ❤️
Great advice again Susan , and you are the best ❤️🇨🇦
Susan you are amazing , oh my god i love your coaching methods, you are a true star
That's so wise and just great!!! Thank you so much, dear Susan
I love how your straight to the point and make it easy for me to understand these emotions and how best to navigate this difficult time for me. I want to be respected and these tips help me. It definitely works. Am trying to learn the power of attraction to benefit me
Susan is the best person to learn about the energetic side of romantic human experiences. Thanks, Susan.
youre an amazing woman so empowering now i understand ive been the toxic one for myself and now ill be the one who changes my life for good thank you so much i love you , god bless you and i hope the universe has only the good for you and nothing else may God be with you now and always
ps youre really pretty like damnn
This was helpful, even for the sake of not bringing anyone back - it's just a healthy way to be present and look forward.
We should totally learn to be present as much as possible by default.
Thank You Susan! I love you. Self displine is want i need. When its all said and done its his lost because im a great catch destined for big things!
Ohhh😍 I didnt want the video to finish.. thank you for all the help ❤❤❤
Empress rising! Thank you!!!! 🌻❤️
Don’t feed the beast. Feed your soul instead. LOOK FORWARD!
You have helped me immensely. I’m taking my power back. Thank you so much.
Thank you 🙏 soo much. I should have found you earlier so that I could save myself from agony more and focus on my work. I am starting to try out your kind advices and feeling way much better than last days. You are very compassionate and I am sending love from Asia. Take care. 💓💓💓
Your videos make me feel stronger. They make me feel like it is finally possible to move on. Thank you so much!
This advice is as good as it gets because after using the method Susan taught us here, two months later, my stubborn person reached out to me. I was so amazed! Thank you, Susan! I love you and you are my idol!!!
You are an angel. I wanna hug you 💖
Susan, that lady was absolutely correct. You are the VERY BEST coach out here! Thank you!
Susan this is brilliant! I don't want them back I just found myself giving away my energy constantly and didn't understand how to retract it. This is so good. Thank you xx
This is really good!
I like how you’re teaching people that an easier coping mechanism that will help keeping you on track is by focusing on the Present moment. Looking back always carries negative momentum and doesn’t achieve anything. Your words and coaching is soothing. - Thank you! I subscribed today xx
This is one of my favourites. It can take time and a lot of mental discipline. I'm getting there post break up of 12 months. In the early days i thought I'd never be happy again but clichè as it sounds. Time is a great healer. You always look amazing Susan and i wish i had your brain 😁
Wow ! Such Valuable info. One could learn a lot from you. Some people take a lot of time to understand simple things but this is the way to go and reclaim your energy and power.If you do not take control of your life, someone else will and you would be a back seat passenger, while they take the wheel and choose the direction. Bounce back ! Its your life. Love and Divine Blessings from a Spiritual worker/ Energy Worker.
Thank you Susan, for all you do 💖
We are all energy and are all connected. Be careful what you think. Stay positive and believe the universe is guiding you exactly where you need to be...
I needed this, just as I decided to let go of someone I've been trying to manifest, they have just been feeding off my attention liking my messages with nothing back . I let go last night and said you know where to find me I'm done. .
This Susan just helped me see I'm doing the right thing thank you xxxx
Thanks Susan. I didnt know this phenomena existed until I saw another less detailed video by you. This is such a great explanation.
Thank you so much..I had to comment because it has given me so much hope. I am going to start practicing this straight away xx
Just saw this video. Finally someone who understands energy and spiritual connections. Fell “head over heels” in love and poof he’s disappeared. Devastated. Did practice your energy thoughts process. The day that I got the strength not to think or direct any energies towards him, he came into my dreams. Every single time. Not sure if I’ll ever see or hear from him again 😢
I'm not a person who wants any of my x back. I've always cute the cords and took my energy back once I booted them to the curb. Letting x's have your energy just feeds them and drains you. It's not healthy for you to keep it going. I call my energy back every night before bed & when ending a relationship with anyone.
I deserve my power for me. Not letting others piggyback on my energy its, so draining.
Thank you Susan
Good question Emily
Vicki C's UR BS I have never tried that. I will tonight. Kisses.
Vicki C's UR BS how you call your energy back?
I also LOVE what you said about calling your energy back!! I'm doing that now!! Thank you so much for sharing that;. I never thought of doing that. But. I am doing it now!! 💖💖💖
Vicki, you're so sweet and so beautiful and I will be glad to know you more ❤🌹🌹🌹
I love that, calling your energy back. Any advice?
You're gorgeous and so wise. Thank you for your channel!
This was amazing advice thanks so much! Taking my energy back!!! Becoming more present!
You are wonderful Susan!! Can't wait to see you reach 100k and beyond. ❤️💐
Thanks Kourtney. Little by little!!
Whenever I feel anxious or feel heaviness on my chest about my ex I just watch these videos and I feel much better
Honestly I've never been very satisfied with other coaching here on TH-cam like I am now Susan's channel. She's just soooo on point every time. 🎯❤️❤️💯
I love this video very real and healthy advice keep moving forward and live in the present focus on ourselves thanks Susan Winter ❤
This is honestly so amazing. I haven't been here and commented for a while but I'm glad I caught this video.
Also I love that dress on you. Keep up the great work Susan.
Thanks Leuff!!
Thank you, Susan. You help me so much.
Omg your advise worked in the very second 👍🌹 I stopped for a minute thinking and feeding him back with my constant energy feed and wallah he texted back after a week of no contact period with a checking up message. Unbelievable many thx for that video. Stay blessed! Xxx
Can I just say that I love this video Susan...its like you are speaking directly to me. I was dumped over two years ago now and really got heartbroken and struggled to move on. Even now i give so much energy to her by thinking of her and wishing she would come back...she has so obviously moved on though, but we still message occasionally and she is still on my social media. I know i have to move on and focus on that now. I need to stop looking back and this video helps so much. I am even feeling like dating again...I have had some interest in that area, I know now that I need to allow myself to just move forward now. Its been so hard but I'm 60 now...time passes quickly so maybe i shouldn't waste it. Love your videos Susan.
I love hearing your voice. Always soothing and wise.
God bless you and your work 🙏🏻🕊️
Ambe Long,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!
What a Insightful content! I am stepping through the process you explained. Thank you for one again affirming this one is a right way I should get
YOu're welcome, Anh
Thank you Susan this helped greatly, so much appreciated ❤
Thanks so much Susan! It’s an awakening video and I hope I can really do it. A fans from Hong Kong :)
A very important video and not only in reference to an ex, but in general. I struggle with it over and over, again. I will come back and watch it over and over to remind me to be present, focused and being centered. Thank you once more, dear Susan for your great work. It's well appreciated. Greetings from Switzerland.
You are welcome, Mira!!
100%..
SUSAN WINTER. ...YOU ARE A CLASS ACT & I WANT TO BE JUST LIKE YOU (BUT IN MY OWN WAY ) A MILLI BLESSINGS FLOATING OVER THE ATLANTIC OCEAN FROM LONDON UK TO YOU .💝
Thank you, thank you Dee!!!
Susan thank you! I appreciate you and your teachings. They inspire me to be the best for ME.
my counselor from school told me exactly what you said but use your 5 senses. be present with what’s going on and what’s around you. it makes you be present in your OWN life and mind. continuing forward.
I needed to control my obsessive tendencies like controlling and idealizing. This video confirms I've been doing it wrong for so long. Only time that works for me is applying that intense focus on work.
Susan, I ran into the first video where you spoke of energy retraction by accident earlier in the year and it INSTANTLY resonated with me. Wow, what an important subject this is, and the fact that you did a "how to" follow up makes this a true series that I hope you build on in the future. You spoke in this recent video that when they go looking for the energy of the one feeding them and fail to find it that they experience a sense of deflation because the feeding energy has been cut off. I also want to add that after cutting off energy to my ex that after some good time has passed when I go looking for her energy I experience a deflation as well, but in a good way!!! I've found by cutting off my energy to her and keeping it focused in a healthy way towards myself that I no longer need her energy at all because I have my own! Her status with me has been seriously deflated, and I'm so delighted this has happened after so many hard months. I would be open to something with her in the future, but it will never be the same. The door has been closed to the past relationship. Thank you so very much for introducing us to this very spiritual technique. It really helped me. 😊
I’ve watched so many of these videos. This really, really helped me
Thank you for this. Very good, important information. Somewhat paradoxical. I want to be back with my ex, and the most promising way to make that happen is to disconnect from her energetically. Counter-intuitive and makes perfect sense.
Again, thank you, Susan
You're great. A breath of fresh wisdom ☺️
Ambe long ministries, you're absolutely gorgeous ❤🌹🌹🌹and I will be glad to know you more
The advice you give it's so honest , humble , so real .. Excellent job mam...
Thank you!
Thank you so much Susan winter ❤i love you so much ,god bless you
Great, practical advice. Thanks Susan.
makes sense i enjoy your videos you know a lot about human nature-love how you speak very intelligent and articulate-colorful if I may so so-wonderful advice!!
Thanks Michelle