What does ‘moving on’ mean?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ส.ค. 2024
- What does 'moving on' mean? After a breakup, everyone tells you to ‘move on.’ But what does that mean in terms of your day-to-day actions? And despite your best efforts, why is it still so hard to let go?
Marie writes, “Hi! Susan. What does moving on mean? Is it dating again or moving on with your life? My ex broke up with me year ago. I still love him. I’m living my life and work on my goals, but I don’t date. Actually, thinking about dating hurts me. I feel like I’m feeling way better than a year ago, however, when it comes to dating, I want to start to cry.”
It can be hard to leave your ex. You really want them back but you know that you must move on. Here are the steps to be taken in order for you to be open to love again and release the pain of wanting someone who no longer wants you..
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Hey, Susan and everyone!
It's a beautiful sunny day here in the UK and this video has come at the perfect time. Moving on is the hardest thing to do especially when it involves someone we deeply loved. I've commented here a few times now and I'm happy to say after the last four months, I feel I have let go of my ex-girlfriend. It was hard sometimes but Susan's videos helped me and in a way comforted me. Reassured me and hearing other people's stories encouraged me to keep positive and believe in myself and love again. Believe in people again 💯
Thank you for all your hard work and to everyone reading this, I wish you all the very best and keep going because we all deserve to be happy.
This quote helps me get through difficult times:
"What we do in life echoes in eternity..." ❤🦁
Luke, thank you for your wonderful share! Please know how happy I am to have you in my TH-cam family of supporters. And you are finally ready to move on… That is something to celebrate!
Bravo, Luke! There is romance again after a break-up, that's for sure. Stay positive, all you singles! Love is all around us, we just have to stay open to it.
If you are really in love, turn that love unconditional and let them go. Accept their decision.
but how does one do that
He's not worth your prolonged misery and he doesn't want you like that, remember he disposed of you like trash.
Great advice on moving on and difference between loving someone versus being in love with them! I would caution about dating after a break-up/while your wounds are still healing since one can be very vulnerable at that time and not in a position to acquire more negative experiences.
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One of the best outlines & guidance I have come across on Moving On. I’ve saved it for future use and to share. Thank you Susan!
Wow! I’m thrilled. Thank you so much for sharing this with me.😊😊
I'm from Cairo, Egypt, you will never believe how much I meeded to listen to this, thank you.
Wonderful!!
Great advice, Susan! I've been divorced since 2009. It was a long relationship so part of me still loves him. However, I had to leave and file for divorce because he was very depressed and had changed a lot. He was no longer the guy I fell in love with and it took me three years to realize he wasn't changing back to that guy. Yet I have moved on and accepted it. Haven't found anyone to be my equal partner yet but I'm hopeful I will. I want my ex to be happy but I never contact him.
Lisa, this is never an easy transit. Congratulations on handling it so well.
It seems to me there's a lot of pressure on being "perfectly healed" or "completely confident" before being ready to date after a breakup. Not so, not realistic. I think "good enough", & this relates to many aspects of life, is the healthiest pursuit.
I realized just the other day what a good example of this means. I was meeting my best friend's new girlfriend for the first time, and she asked me about my previous relationship. Its duration, how it ended, etc. Now it's not as if I didn't feel anything when addressing her questions, but I didn't feel it so strongly in my body anymore. And perhaps most importantly, it didn't make me feel like I need to DO anything about it. It's OVER.
Feelings linger on, and it's really up to the individual to decide how powerful they are, how much of a barrier they might pose in being open to new love. But even just getting to the logistical place of all actions having been completed, everything having been said, blocking your ex if necessary, etc, etc...now THAT'S powerful!
Thank you for this!! There is power in letting go of what doesn’t serve you. It’s uncomfortable initially but we need to get uncomfortable to get comfortable later!
Listened and note-taking. Thank you. "Every second is s new possibility."
Glad it resonated with you! ❤
Susan is such a wonderful Lady! One instantly has respect for her and everything she has to say! Her take on love and relationships it one of the best on YT ❤
Susan, I love watching these videos because there are always so many nuggets of wisdom. Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us.
Craig greatly appreciated. Thank you so much.
Awesome and much needed advice. Almost my exact scenario but less than a year. I totally have a new perspective. Thank You
Thank you Patrice
Susan, this is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you so much for sharing your analytical mind! You are real. You are the best relationship coach out there. I need to strengthen my mindset and move on. I deserve better! And I love myself too much to continually hurt myself...
Dee, yes and yes!
Thank you Susan. I enjoyed this video and your other video “Letting go of the dream.” I’ll put him in a box now in the back of my cupboard 🎉
Sounds like a perfect place for him.😊
Mantra of the day: I have love for you but I'm not in love with you.
Thank you Susan for always giving such useful advice ❤
Excellent...thank you Susan. So helpful as always..
Your timing is impeccable !
I love you mama 💕
❤❤❤❤ right back at you!
I accept your decision to move on
Love again
I need my power back
This is just stagnation
Great advice Susan thank you for another informative video❤
You always give us the best advice Susan your truly amazing 🌹🌹🌹
Always on time Suzan with the amazing topics! Keep it up !
Thank you John!!
Thank you Susan
Oo listen to Susan!! You don’t want to become rigid and fearful trust me. Get back on the horse asap
Oh so thank you
This is universal timing
The remembrance of how much I invested, the thought of investing ever again (even if taken slowly) makes the walls go up.
It will get easier❤
Exactly what I needed to hear today
Love that!
Thks lot Doc for your overwhelming enlightenment.🎩🙏🏻💐
Perfect timing, as always❤
So glad!
Great question and answer. I needed this 1.5 years ago. I'm finally getting over and on with my life. Betrayed on every level.
Wow Susan. Thank you for this paradigm shift.
You are so welcome
I understand and agree with your point on stop loving someone and moving forward. However, I can’t date either. The thought of trusting someone again makes me physically ill. I’m not stuck on my ex, I simply don’t know how to let someone close to me again. I’m working with a local therapist and watching all your videos, but I find it very hard to move forward.
Dont rush it but look after yourself.
Trust builds over time and you can establish trust slowly with s new partner. Setting boundaries and healing and growing together with a new partner unpacking the 'suitcases' we all carry is possible! The right one will stick around and grow with you! Trust yourself. Life is for you not against you!
Dear Susan! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us. I really appreciated this video! Many greetings from germany :)
I so much enjoy your way of thinking ❤️
Thanks Levy
I really struggle with the dating other people thing. It's like it feels like a waste of my time. There is a guy who I am interested in, who is emotionally unavailable. I know I should not wait around for him, but I feel like if I get into something else and then he changes his mind I will miss out. That's why it is easier in some ways to just be alone. Thanks for your content!
yesss exactlyyyyy. It feels like "i don't realllyyyyy know that he won't change his mind"
I have a long drive ahead and will be listening to your entire catalouge along the way. " Have love for you but cannot be in Love with you" is profound. I am sorry for the damage I caused to her, and sorry for the damage I feel now. I am forever happy she is taking control of her life and hope she has the happiest life. I am sorry.
Thank you Susan 😙 I needed that and have taken your words to ❤️👍
You are so welcome
Thank you Susan always
You’re welcome, Oliver
4 years and I haven’t even come across anyone I am interested in in ANY way and I work full-time at a hardware store! I am SUFFERING 💔💔💔💔
Good stuff, might have to save this one for the next time I'm feeling blue.
Please do!
Thank you 💜
4 years and I’m still pissed!! Think about him all day everyday in a very angry and hurtful way!! 💔💔🤬🤬
I threw him out of my life..he was just a friend and a weirdo…Its so peaceful. Credit goes to you..
Well, I’m honored! I’m happy that you feel well, and that you’ve gotten rid of people that don’t reflect you in your highest light
Thanks!
Thank you!!
I am over 64 years old and I could love again, however, I just do not feel I want to. I give up getting in a relationship after what I have just been through. It really took too much out of me and I do not care to play games in any form. I was in 10 months of guessing games and avoidance. I am a happy secure person and I do not want or need a man in my life now. I did just want to be happy for my last act possibly with a happy man who loved his life as it is. I was not looking for financial gain I have my own money, I just wanted a nice companion to do things with. However I did not find that, and I do not want to make the attempt again as I am very selective, It took me 20 years to find this man and I do not want to waste any more time. I am and have moved on.
There are many people who totally understand where you are. The best possible scenario is to be happy with the life that you have. To add someone to your life should only be under the condition of making your life better than it is today.❤
@@SusanWinter It is not easy to find a happy, secure person at my stage of life. Perhaps I was too idealistic. Thank you.
All my exes have been single since me…. I really hope they’re not still holding onto me years later. Sometimes I actually feel guilty that I might have F-ed up their view of love 🤦♀️
Godsend!
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I felt it was meant for me😢
I love reading this. You know it’s so interesting about synchronicity; I have a number of videos in queue, and it just depends on which one comes up that day. So I certainly hope that all the forces in the universe are aligning with you on this very day.
please make a video about one sided love and a person you always see at work i love my job but I don't want to change it but I can't live like this anymore every time i try to move on and separate this person it doesn't work
Please also talk Abt affairs
I loved you
But I love myself
I’ve moved on to this one
3:47 !
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Hey Susan, can it be considered moving on while loving the same person? I mean, she did say no but she chose our friendship and treated our relationship with utmost care. It was the second-best outcome. So, is it crazy that I feel I'll always love her but at the same time, I have to find someone whom I can love even more?
I understand that you still harbor affection for someone that only wants to be a friend. And yes, of course we can have loved it is unrequited. But it is better to open up our eyes and see what the world has to offer us. I think you will find in time that what you perceive today as the “top of the mountain” will look like a normal plateau when you meet the right partner.
@@SusanWinter thank you so much for the reply. I will definitely keep this advice in my mind.
Try 4 years..not ONE person come through that makes me want to even leave the house.
Susan, I broke up with my ex who lives in Romania and I'm in utah. We did see each other a good amount. I was suppose to move to romania with her but i ran into financial struggles and it put me in a deep depression so i didnt move. I broke up with her in December 2022. She dated instantly. And I only found that she dated someone instantly at the beginning of February. I can't say everything in this text because it will be long. But I am having a hard time getting over her. I didn't end it with her because I didn't love her but because I was in a very bad state if mind. I regret this so much... I feel like I made the biggest mistake ever. I hope I can get some response.
Does anyone which video is where Susan talks about her twin flame? Where she tells her experience with her twin flame in which she knew he was about to be with another woman and she stopped herself from texting him.
Hey Susan, what does it mean if you dream that the person says they want you, but you haven’t spoke to them?
Maybe it’s worth asking them to coffee?
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I just want to move on from this girl I like
Can you make a video about how to flirt with older woman at the Gym?
Ha ha. That’s actually what I know pretty well.
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But how can I move on from a love that never happened,
Hi dear Susan
I’ve been in love with my guy friend for more than a year and a half, we’ve been really close and we talk every single day .at some point he flirted with me a lot so I confessed my love for him a few months ago, he rejected me, I couldn’t understand why but we stayed close and I kind of had moved on, now and after all this time and things that happened between us, he is telling me that all this time he has been in love with his ex so much that he stalk her and that he follows her every where so she just talk to him.
All that anxiety and feelings are back, i feel betrayed because I think that he exactly knew what he was doing, how can he not tell me about this? we are both 30, I can’t accept it, I can’t stop comparing myself to her and I can’t move on. Please help me.
I was in the same situation very recently. Without realising I fell in love with someone, confessed to him and he rejected saying after his divorce, he is enjoying his poly-life, while looking for his real soul-mate, which he did not see in me. I respected his honesty and told myself, I am moving on, but we remained close friends. Literally spoke every day.
In the hindsight I feel now I should have just cut the contact at least for some time for my sanity, and also to see if he ever came for me by himself, if ever. But I stayed friends.
I experienced so much anxiety in the months to follow, where he would share about the girls he was dating, and when he finally started dating someone seriously, the pain and reality of it was too much for me to handle. A part of me also felt betrayed that he took me for a ride, like an emotional-band-aid. It also brought out reactions from me that I am not proud of. And in the end, we lost the friendship as well.
Now that I am honest to me, I think he always saw me as a friend and I always had a secret hope once he is over his heartbreak with his ex, he will ‘see’ me. But that was a lie I told myself.
It felt like a break-up with someone I never dated, and it is painful to see him do all things for the girl he finally is serious dating that I had secretly hoped he will with me, once he is over his ex-betrayal.
So if I can share any advice from my experience, please take some time and space away, for your own well-being. 🙂
@@farzanaali6996 Thank you for sharing, it’s absolutely right, I still had hope that he would see me someday unaware that he had made up his mind from the beginning and there was someone else on his mind, the problem was that he acted like he liked me and everybody still thinks we are more than friends and despite the fact that we talk on a daily basis, he didn’t tell me anything about his love for that girl
It breaks my heart. I wish I could move on but I don’t see any progress.
@@taranehj6776 I absolutely hear you and I know it must be hurting you at this moment.
However two truths are- we cannot change how people act and for what reasons, we can only control our mind/heart and actions, and that we owe to ourselves. And second, there are some questions we might never get an answer for ( and trust me I have riled up my mind in it for months), and what is the point in looking backwards. I am 40, I feel I wasted one whole year in this situation when I rather should have focused on me, you are much younger, cut the losses and as @susan said ‘move on’ please!🙂
I usually try to learn from these experiences what I should never do to another person in my life 🤓
@@farzanaali6996 Yes, I feel like a clown thinking about all the time I wasted even though he had told me he has no feelings for me. I think it was all my fault and thinking about what if I never find someone I like as much as him kills me every time.
I really appreciate your response🥺
I needed to hear a similar experience.
@@taranehj6776 I am repeating what I repeat to me these days- let’s be kind to ourselves, and lives are long and short both at the same time. As long as our hearts remain open, life will do what it has to do! Here is to hoping Universe does its magic soon 🙂
Stay very well, and take good care of yourself, and we are only humans. Including these guys also, everyone trying to figure, so some empathy from distance to each of us for our journeys in this human life! :)
Also check Susan’s video on rejection, as always she talks straight sense!
Also, i analysed this term ‘limerence’, it has some truths
Wishing you a lot of healing and love!
Unfortunately moving on is not that easy. I saw a great man for a year who looked like a young Burt Reynolds just better. The sex was fantastic and we got along great. From one day to the next it was over.... Not easy to deal with
I’m sorry to hear you went through that but trust that the right one is out there!
@@SusanWinter Susan, thank you so much. Any plans to come to Europe any time soon?
@@markusbarth-gx1zo Hi Markus. I've been in the EU two years in a row. I think the next place will be London and Dubai
@@SusanWinter I see, anyway would love to meet you some time. Maybe in the USA.
Sometimes it's necessary to take ti.e out to sort out your own poppies before diving back in. Just sayin' 😉
What do you do when you are hooked to “potential” 🥲