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I changed my style from goth to gentleman between the ages of 19 and 25. Here are five ways this has significantly impacted my life and the way others treat me.
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Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:29 My Goth Era
1:16 My Current Style
2:08 Day to Day
3:02 Confidence
3:51 Career
4:55 Dating
5:49 Social Life
7:03 Should You Change? - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
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I'm a Metalhead. But the beauty of wearing a suit you cannot deny.
My mate is a metal head but still a suit conniseir with a bald head, beard, newsboy caps and waistcoats with jackets rather than blazers. Leaning in more towards a traditional English combined with a western cowboy look he feels no sacrifice in his image for who he is or how he wishes to be perceived. Personally, I wear fine suits with dark eye liner and own a lot of formal, 3/4 length coats. Johnny Depp has a cool, alternate style too
I love metal but I also love dressing up
Bro, I am proud of you. Nothing more needs said.
Thank you, Scott!
Why don't you talk about Gomez Addams? @@Gent.Z
I'm 67 and older than your average viewer. I've always been drawn to the classic style for men. It was my "look" during my working career as a physician. It was my way of showing respect for my patients and profession.
Errol Flynn, Humphrey Bogart, Sean Connery, Elvis, that's all you need, whatever your "profession". Be Competent, be Classy. be a Man!
Dude!, at 65 years old, I have a new guru. Keep it going!
Thank you for taking a risk by sharing your personal experience. Excellent video.
Thanks Robert, I was reluctant to share this but I’m glad I did
You gotta hell of a lot of balls and integrity to show this. I'm mega impressed. Some may turn and walk away. As for me, I'm now a confirmed fan. You rock bigly! Thanks.
The thing about long hair is, if you're going to have it, you need to dress and fragrance on the sharp side to balance it. If you go out in streetwear like dudes with close, clean haircuts do you'll get nothing but a "hippie" or "homeless" response.
Long, healthy hair and a crispy wardrobe create a really interesting juxtaposition that I've found to be well-received by many. A bizarre reception I got when attending a funeral one time was from an older gentleman maybe in his 60s: I'm sitting down to my lunch and he says, "You must either be somebody famous or really smart or both."
You make an excellent point that both the goth style and the dandy style have the same goal: stand out from the crowd. The question therefore is if you've really changed at your core ;). (And i dont think it's a problem if you havent, just embrace that need/feeling, that's what being authentic is all about.)
I was also goth at age 20. Now at 43 I dress in traditional men's wear. People say I have old man style. Don't think there is anything wrong with that. I get far more respect and have never compromised for the haters. Then and now.
insane upgrade
Thank you!
Great video! I was a hardcore goth/emo in middle and high school. I'm 30 now and while I haven't completely abandoned all elements of that style, I've simply found ways to update it and add a more mature overtone to it. I still prefer mostly black clothing and still love to rock some jewelry, but I opt for a much more refined and dapper black wardrobe nowadays (blazers, dress shirts, leather shoes, slacks, etc.) as opposed to the "rocker" wardrobe I used to sport. Still feels true to who I am, while more in line with my current stage of life.
Same
I do both.
Dress well not for other but for how others will treat you.
It is one of the easiest things anyone can do to have a better experience through life.
No, 😉this completely took me by surprise. Would never expect this. Two different worlds. Such a wonderful upgrade. Love this channel!
I must confess that I was a heavily serious punk once 😂and now no-one would ever expect this (thanks God!), now I am a " polished girl from a good home" (but not really😉)
Sending warm regards from London...🙋🏼♀
I’ve been following your videos for a couple months now, and this was a surprise. I never would have guessed you were once a goth. Great transformation and it’s really good to hear how your life has improved.
You’re correct that it is a form of discrimination that employers are far less likely to hire someone with an alternative or nonconformist look, but people need to grow up and realize that that’s the way the world works. You can consciously rebel against the norm and probably put up with low-paying crappy jobs, or you can actively attempt to make yourself more employable and approachable. Unlike racial or gender discrimination, it’s your choice.
You make an excellent point about being treated nicer when dressing up. I have experienced the same, in many parts of life, from internal customers at work (who thankfully forget I'm 23) to strangers at my girlfriend's university.
I'm also so glad to hear that dressing well has played a part in your career success, congratulations :)
I’m glad you are experiencing the benefits of dressing well for yourself! I think that the benefits are also amplified when you’re the age that we are and we have a bit more to prove than our older colleagues!
Great video. As an employer of a few Gen z’s they are amazed when i have them dress like gentlemen instead of children. They get respect for some the first time in their lives.
I like the idea of dressing more classically masculine, but making it a tad darker and edgier than most. That is something I’ve been told I pull off pretty well.
Im am cureently reinventing myself to become of a gentleman, elegant, and confident.
I knew it! When I saw some of those posters you had up I knew you at least admired Gothic music. This comes as no surprise for me. Also 6’2?? Immediately thought of Peter Steele
I like how clear headed you are, and how you express yourself clearly. You look at things in a practical manner, not bitter or grinding any axes. To me, that's even more impressive than your nice appearance, especially in a young man.
You hit the nail on the head, great point. Dress to what your career demand and its norms. Dress and carry yourself to how you want to be perceived and treated.
Thank you! I have certainly always paid attention to the way I dressed, but my tastes and motivations changed significantly over time.
Beauties of conformity I guess
What a lovely story, congratulations on your transformation! 👏
Thanks Jeremiah!
Goth to boss. Dude's literally a real life RIchmond from IT Crowd
😂 Made the same comment!
I had to scroll way too much to find this comment!! 😂 Total Richmond!!
The inky black octopus looked disjointed from your style but now I see it’s a reflection of your early days. Glad you found what works for you!🍀
That black octopus picture behind you hints at a Cthulhu aesthetic...still a little bit goth? 😂
I was never goth, but definitely a long-haired heavy metal fan dressed in black for many years. Eventually, my hair started falling out, and I think buzzing my hair off began my "men's style journey." I look WAY different than I used to, and I've found that studying men's style can actually be MORE FUN than rocking my old metal regalia.
Much respect.. one of my closest friends was Goth throughout middle school, high school and all the way through JUCO. He Experienced some profound traumatic experiences as a child (non sexual) but lots of verbal and physical abuse. He didn’t want to be like the “others” at the time, and of course that factored into mockery, some form of bullying and harassment.
He introduced me to literature authors like Mary shelley and Bram Stoker, this subculture most people wouldn’t understand. Anyways, now he works in banking and is one of the most stoic and pleasant souls to be around, for me he always was, I always cared. But for people that don’t know him, he’s a true gentleman.
I went to goth night here at one of the local clubs. I used to dress in suits all the time. And a lot of the goths we’re complimenting my dress.
I guess it just depends really on the type of goth clothing you were going for. From the picture it looked more like metal type goth like Type O. I guess i wore and still wear more of Nick Cave suits type goth.
That’s an interesting point you mention there! Although this photo was from my goth/metal band’s photoshoot, I was indeed the goth in a suit for a while, taking a lot of inspiration from Nick Cave. It was when I stopped dying my hair and got a more ‘normal’ cut that the way people perceived me changed the most.
Corporate goth. @@Gent.Z
I love both styles, but I can understand that you feel more confident in society with your new style.
I would be interested to see just a pinch of goth influence mixed into your current look. I think hinting at the different sides of your personality can add interest. Also, slightly extravagant accents within an otherwise classic look can make you stand out from the crowd.
You looked cool then and are still very cool now. Know, I used to dress in a new wave punk manner in my twenties. I was harshly judged with grades by professors. Simply by changing style, my grades went up over night! So, I asked my profs why? Their common response was that I had developed a better and more serious attitude towards studies (but in fact, I had not changed at all except for clothes and hair). Hilarious how people judge one by their image rather than actual morals and intellect. Thank you for your vids.
I am a metal fan, play a lot of guitar and video games but i dress like a gentleman have various 3 piece suits, tweed jackets etc generally use suede or leather chukka boots over plain sneakers. I still have the death metal band t shirts and gym pants but they are purely for lazing around alone.
Goth you does look legitimately cool.
We evolve with age.
With age comes wisdom.
You are on a good trajectory for a great flight in life.
Said an old Pilot once.
You should definitely do a wardrobe video of some of your favorite pieces and clothing you wear for different settings.
I like your goth look! That had such a vibe!
I did not see this coming! But major kudos to you for sharing your transformation. I think many of us try on various images before we come into our mature selves.
You look so good as a goth! Goths can be gentlemen too, I'm sure you know. I used to be goth in a small town and it really helps you grow thick skin to all of the insults and the weird looks I got. I understood where they were coming from too, I'd often brace myself whenever I walked into a store or had an interaction with someone. I wanted to say "Yeah, look I know what you're thinking and yeah I feel a bit stupid dressing like this but I really like the look." That was over 20 years ago. Now I dress alternative now, simple classic black items and long t-shirts instead of dog collars, band t-shirts and too much makeup. Less is more.
Evolution, growth, maturity and wisdom are, by no means, certain. There are countless examples, all around us. You seem to be on the right track. Well done!
Lol my experience was almost the same.
These changes did not come for me without personal crisises though so I am happy to see you made it well and seem happy and in peace with yourself. I think you have all reason to feel proud!
The great thing about this video is the lesson for all people. Never stop progressing. I have so many friends who got to the hippy stage in the 1970s or the punk and goth stage in the early 80s, and just never moved on, either in dress, music or ideas. It is so sad.
I just ran into your channel like a day ago. You're a really interesting character! Saw your book recommendation video which was excellent. Really impressive maturity and insights for such a young person. Keep on keepin' on!!
This reminds me so much of the From Goth 2 Boss video from The IT Crowd😂
Real life Richmond!! 🤣 I used to be a suit and now I'm Goth. I appreciate both, but prefer Goth. PS I'm old.
Thank you so much for sharing this part of your journey. I went through a time where I was wearing grey hoodie sweatshirts and baggy jeans. I was struggling at the time with depression. Now, I have made to measure suits and I am always conscious of my clothes. It’s been a long journey!
I love your channel and your advice. One of my favorite clothing items is Wrangler classic work shirts. They are in a cowboy style with snaps instead of buttons. This is similar to what Polo offers at a fraction of the cost. They are extremely durable and long wearing. The Wrangler logo is sewed-on and easy to remove. Check them out. Again congratulations on your TH-cam channel.
remembers me of IT Crowd "from Goth to Boss" :D but good change nonetheless :)
1,000,000% improvement!! CONGRATS!!
"... my current girlfriend..." Does she know she's only the current option?!?! lol
I think it’s important to be genuine regardless of whatever style you happen to decide to rep. Versatility for a gentleman is essential, so if you can be sincere in whatever style you should happen to be in then all the better. I think you look great in both, and I appreciate your videos. I think what you impart in them is the essence of what it means to be a gentleman, to be confident while also making an effort, so no matter your circumstances or budget, you try to look your best because you are being your best. Cheers 🥂
I have seen a few of your videos in recent weeks, and I did subscribe as I find Gent Z fascinating and highly relevant. I wanted to make a comment that has no vitriol or judgment of you, simply an issue you are probably not aware of, and as a gentleman would probably appreciate knowing. I have seen visual and verbal references to Sean Connery as an actor and gentleman. In 1960, he gave an interview in Playboy magazine that indicated he felt there were circumstances in which it was appropriate to hit women. Later, in 1986, he had an interview with Barbara Walters, where he doubled down on the appropriateness of hitting women with an open hand vs. a fist. I simply suggest that you have a look at this and conclude whether he is someone you would actually want to present in your content as an example of a gentleman.
I think you are tremendously well-meaning and sincere. I hope you take this as an issue to look into for yourself and not as controversy or shaming.
Wow, much better look now. Certain looks people wear well; you sir wear the present look well.
It's inspiring to see you werent always pish posh, gives us all hope. Thanks for being a leader.
You are an inspiration, my brother I hope more success will come to you. You deserve it. 🙌🏻
You are a handsome guy in general but there is no question your current style is elegant and sophisticated. Also more masculine. Good for you !
What a transformation! While the goth aesthetic had its time and place, you have benefited greatly from your current style.
Well done and thanks for sharing! Once upon a time, I did a similar transformation. I couldn't help notice how you also changed, and improved, the style of your pocket square midway through the video. 😃
This is an in-depth image-building video, thank you very much
MEN want to be YOU; WOMEN want to be WITH YOU!
Brave move...reminding bravery is doing something you know may hurt you. Your advise is good, crossing age. Wisdom...rare that it comes to a person at all, rarer to come in youth.
Thank you. I was pleasantly surprised to see an overall positive reaction to this video. I certainly wasn't banking on it.
@@Gent.Z My observation is you're motivation is to drive change. People only change when they want to.. Your personal story lends credibility to your claims.
@@Gent.Z By owning your change, you give weight in others considering your advice.
You should channel the inner goth look but with the gentleman look. Like silk brocade and ruffles like 16th century French aristocrat vampire except with Chelsea boots!!! 🤘🏼🎸
You look far better now and you will get multitudes more respect dressing the way you do now
bro really went to one extreme to the other 🤣 thanks for sharing you story!! I think one should aim for a middle ground generally speaking, not to look like a creep or not too fancy/poser. Then when jobs and professional goals do demand an especific style, go for it, but that doesn't need to be your everyday life setting !
I respect your path my friend. I personally alternate between both styles myself. Goth is my casual style and gentlemanly (with a goth touch) is my formal style. I think you pull off both goth and gentleman styles very well.
Congratulations on your transformation! Very impressive!
It’s goes to show how opportunity’s open up when you are well dressed it gives you much more gravitas in your personal life and professional life
Look up Richmond from the IT crowd TV series. Its nice when nature balances. All hail Cradle of Filth!
Same path here, I stopped being a metalhead 4 years ago, now I wear suits too.
Good for you man. As a constructive feedback: your hair surely will look better when organized.
Huge upgrade🙏
I used to have a punk/rock style and also changed to classic men's wear.
The last minute is the most important message. New sub, thanks mate.
This man is great! I feel inspired every time I watch a video, thanks for the content and have a great day
Personally I go with both styles.
I never really had a style. Until my dad told me to try on his cowboy hat (gambler style I believe). I then looked in the mirror and saw the handsomest cowboy of my life. That one moment inspired me to adopt the cowboy aesthetic and life truly has changed.
I’m wondering if you have any inkling about your next transformation. Or do you think you are settling into gent world for good.
I see everyone comments how upgraded you are and I guess it is so for formal environment where you have to represent a company. But man, the long hair fits you also very well and I guess it could go with "gentleman style" if treated properly.
We all have our young wild adventures.....but only some of us grow up. Being a well dressed gent in this day and age is akin to being a long haired radical in 1964. Its exotic and rare.
In Maori culture, long hair in men is common and is the epitome of a male essence. So for me dressing up well and having a top knot with a heru (wooden or bone 2/3 pin hair pin) keeps the traditional masculinity in check as well s the modern gent styling in European or other clothing.
I can't help but notice when watching this video, it feels as if you changed for society. There are plenty of people who dress far more intensely who are very successful, I get maybe not dressing that way at your job but fully changing for your job? That's kind of a different story. As for dating life, regardless of what you look like, you aren't held back from meeting the right person, if someone genuinely decides they don't want to speak to you or date you based on your appearance, then that means you're not supposed to be together. In the thumbnail I realize you can only see one photo of your younger self. So I don't know how you truly LOOKED, but I don't see how a man having long hair automatically makes them feminine, or a man dressing in dark clothing automatically makes them unapproachable, undateable and unhireable. If you are truly happy with the way you are now, then that's fantastic! I just really hope you're doing this for you and you only, because it makes you happy.
i will never ever change myself for society
My friend you said the quiet part outloud.
Like it or not, profesionally you will get so much farther wearing shorter hair and a sartorial style; I know I did.
Couple of tips: 1 wider spread collar with that double breasted blazer. 2 diversify your ties, that Brooks Brothers stripe is a good starter but a bit cliched to the trained eye.
Compliments on the dashing pocket square
Went from Peter Steele to Peter Thiel.
omg! you are so inspirational!
Thank you for sharing with us,
Hopefully you at least have a gentleman goth outfit for Halloween. It'd be nice to see Mr. Renfield return to Dracula even but once a year.
I have also noticed how differently strangers react to me now that I have changed my clothing style. Great video!
I’m glad it resonated with you! Image certainly makes a massive impact
Massive MASSIVE improvement
Many say its a transformation and yes it appears at such if you don't know the Goth subculture. You where more in the metal side of things which is great, love the music and the scene. I was more on the Victorian side of things and well dressed victorian style. Great coats, shirts etc Already stylish but out of place in time because it was 2000's instead of 1800-1900. Dressing in a current suit was of course different for the outworld but not for me on a personal level. Alright it is of course in colour and fabrics and style but I already had my manners and way of behaving. With friends we already talked poetry and the beauty of life. Drank together and just had a great time. We still do that but because of jobs and time we are wearing sportscoats/blazers and suits. Music wise I was brought up in a wide variety of genres that I still hold on to. It's always fun that people have an image of you and now if they find out I listen to lets say Bauhaus they go "oh you like this kind of music?!"
Your current men's style looks awesome and I think looks the best, but the goth look was pretty awesome too!
Damn Goth style suited so well
Yeah for the 2010s 🤣
That's the best you could have done to your life. Congratulations.
It certainly did have a hugely positive impact. Thank you
Boy, you were lost... Glad you find your way
Lots of guys are lost.
Some of my friends still look like they are 15 year old skaters but we are nearly 40.
Some of the goths I listen to are multimillionaires with oceans of success and happy lives
@@jasondrew6899 if you really think wealth is a measurement of hapiness then you are lost too...
Okay, so recently I left my goth phase, and I have been really interested in my appearance a lot more than before, so when I heard you also dyed your hair black, I was wondering how exactly you removed the hair dye or did you just let it fade out.
I had a similar transformation. I played in metal bands DJed for most of my life and I had dreads down to my calves, piercings and such. One day I decided to start dressing my age and cut my hair. Eventually, I enjoyed living as a normie after so many years, living the oposite.
personally i'm going more goth
Thank you very much for sharing this about yourself. I too was a fan of Goth as we called it death rock in California going back a bit from you to sisters of mercy blood money album. I have always enjoyed your videos maybe this was due to your change and mine as well. Best regards
Massive improvement, but you already know that ;)
Wow great video .
Many of us have experienced that period of youthful rebellion or fashion / music & social styles that we sweared never to grow out of . We did mostly .
I was a shy , socially limited punk who came from a broken home at 9 so no money and lots of hate and self image issues .. I only worn torn black jeans , DM boots and an old army jumper full of moth holes .
I saw Anybody in a suit or chinos etc as having a god given advantage and were the enemy . Rich Tossers much better than I .. thought I .
That was early 1980’s
Now I wear suits everyday and have done a suit and tie job for the past 18 years .
Those years of turmoil and social self hatred shed their skin and produced a socially balanced and cultured individual who could never be who he is today without that experience of both sides of the coin of life .
I have to say, you did look good as a Goth
I used to have a similar look when I was younger. I always felt comfortable. I wore black shirts black jeans. then I was in the army and there I changed my hair. I wore a uniform so my private clothing style was not a big thing but I started slowly to change my cloths. when I left the army I started a job where I also wore a uniform but not a military. and I always felt that people threaded me different when I had my uniform on, they said "it looks so nice". So I one day decided to stop wearing jeans and reduce the color black to a bare minimum. Now I wear button up shirts or polos and trousers like chinos. i also feel comfortable and I see on a daily basis that its easier in my interaction with other people private or in business.
What inspired the classical style? You could’ve just changed your hair, got more sun, and hit the gym; but what made you want to try a more formal style?
Chad Goth explains his logical switch to Trad Chad.
I am proud of you. This topic provides a lot of intrigue. I upgraded my look to incorporate an indie rock aesthetic. Some elements of fashion from the 20th Century British Isles. It represents my roots of my family and our common interest - music. Is it possible to combine this classical look with some indie rock aesthetics?
I wanna be a music teacher one day, so I’m quite interested in learning classic style. But I’m also a huge metalhead so I’ll keep that goth stuff in the back pocket 😂
I would say there was a lot of crossover between my goth style/taste in music and metal! That’s interesting because I’m also a musician and definitely considered being a music teacher in the past. If I were you, I would look into wearing classic styles with colors that suit your taste, perhaps that’s black, dark grey, or dark olive!
Check out this episode of alpha m where he gives a metalhead a new stylish look but it stays true to his original style and tastes! It’s really well done th-cam.com/video/BKWOtOOba-o/w-d-xo.htmlsi=Fj88AZ82Awa3Z2lg
@@Gent.Z thank you. I love your interaction!