yeah same I used to ignore them when I was in elementary and middle school because I always thought they thought like that, but now I feel like I built walls between me and my classmates and they think I'm arrogant, I just used to act like this I can't get the idea out of my mind I feel they might pity me
I'm pretty simple, try to treat everyone the way I would want to be treated. Made sense when I was 6 and just kind of stuck. What I didn't know, is that people will hate you if you are kind. And they will destroy you if they find out it is genuine kindness.
That's fine, but try the Platinum Rule: Treat others how THEY want to be treated, but with obvious exceptions. This means putting in effort to get to know them first.
I don't necessarily "think it," because I "know it." I try join in groups, yet I can obviously tell they don't want me, whether they voice out the truth or not. My friends who I thought were friends are now strangers. I want to say I'm being hard on myself, but I can't excuse the fact that what's happening in front of me is the truth. I don't know if I'm doing anything wrong or have done something wrong, or I'm just unlikable. That's why I prefer to stay in my own little area. Then hypocritical people would tell me to step out of my comfort zone and get a life. I've listened to them every single time, and yet I've had the urges of suicide every single time. That's why I'd rather stick to the person that I know best, which is me.
That is my life in a nutshell. People even avoid me at work and all I say is "Hey, how you doing" all day trying to be nice and they still would rather walk around the building then walk by my desk. I'm not ugly, I dont smell. Maybe its because I'm black with long locs in my hair. The other black guys in here are like magnets to people! And I'm the total opposite. I think some of us.are destined for this lifestyle.
God you are completely right. People hate others more than anything, if you are anxious or weak they will pounce at you. It's better to stay alone than with such people
Or if somebody compliments me if they’re with their friends or something like that I will think that they are trying to make fun of me in a secret kind of way
I love how u explained narratives, I used to be a bubbly energetic kid in school and people would tell me I’m weird or that I’m not funny if i try make a joke or something and I think thats why I don’t like interacting with people because they won’t like how I behave so I try to change myself to the type of person that I think they would like
I have the same situation right now. People have constantly remarked how "energetic" "annoyingly cheerful" and sometimes it made me somehow annoying to them. I don't know what to do now. Do I change my whole personality or just live with the fact that people will dislike me for no reason at all because I act happy?
I feel empty, I think about what people may not like about me instead of what I like about them. I had an hard childhood and because I was treated like Cinderella at home, I don't know how to fully be myself without being scared. I never know if someone likes me or not. Will love to talk to you about it, 😒
same.. i may be TOO "quirky" and "goofy" like my ex best friend's said. But i just don't know why i feel this way. Like recently i've been noticing weird behaviors from people i know. example not returning texts or ignoring my texts, mocking, rarely talked about (me) on group chats. And unfriended me for no reason?? i say too much they say.. is there something wrong with me? did i do something wrong to turn them to "hate" me? Or am i just overreacting? I think going to therapy is the only option.
Many people today it seems will try to bring you down in life I feel ....in life everyone out there is my customer and I'm the sales person...they can complain and be angry with me ...if I want the sale I can't react ... each day is just another day oh well
I know this may be hard, but the first step to truly being yourself is to not care what anyone thinks about you. Really, you have to have this "f*ck everyone" mentality when you're expressing yourself. F*ck anyone who tells you you're weird/bad. Then in turn, the right people will come. But first you have to embrace not caring what others think.
I used to worry and overthink about this. But then I realized that I cannot do anything about it. I cannot make everyone like me. I stopped worrying and just live my life, one day at a time. More at peace with myself now. I remember this one time I joined a Lego group. They didn't seem to want me or other new members in general. I tried it for a year to give them the benefit of the doubt. Nothing changed. So I stopped coming to meetings without notice. Don't miss them. I play my Lego on my own, and more at peace. 🙂
I grew up around boys in my family and never knew how to take care of my appearance until sophomore year of high school. I was social, just through out my childhood I experienced awful things with my peers because I was so boyish, did not look as put together, etc. People pretending to be my friend to make fun of me, bullying, etc. Now whenever anyone approaches me at parties I seem to distance myself from them or feel as if they won't like me even if others introduce me to their friends talking about how we would get along. Sometimes it just reminds me of the times people used to approach me to make fun of me in elementary and it prevents me from getting close with anyone even at 17. All I do now is reflect other's behavior at parties when it is a stranger, but whenever someone wants to actually get to know me and I do too, I just get the urge to up and leave.
I feel the same way....and I like this. “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem,first make sure you are not,in fact,surrounded by assholes. -Sigmund Freud.
I just learnt that this is not a quote by Freud actually. If you think about it, to say something like this doesn't suit him at all... but nontheless it's absolutely true!
This really helps me i was bullied in school A LOT. I think even after years later i have social anxiety disnt healed completely. Thank you for this amazing video.
I'm surprised that no one has come up with the concept that you have to like yourself more than anyone else first. This means liking your idiosyncrasies, faults and flaws. Everyone is fucked in their own way and when you like yourself enough you can abandon the idea that you NEED others to like you. The weird thing is that when you drop the need for others to appreciate and like you and just be yourself friends will come into your life naturally.
My parents got really mad at me a few weeks ago. And they said I always ruin everyones mood and that I’m the problem. So since then I feel like a social burden on people. I feel like I ruin everyone’s mood and they’re only around me because they feel bad for me. I don’t feel worthy of being liked. I don’t even feel like I hold qualities that someone would like about me.
Ask Jesus to make them stop dead in their tracks and feel the sorrow their words brought you and to vividly see the damage their tongues have caused. And to let them know without a shaddow of a doubt that it is from Him. If my husband and I are fighting and I say something I know is true but he yells bull and cuts me off. I just say oh Lord don't leave me to look like a fool. And something always happens that my husband is shown I was right. I would encourage you to know your worth to the only one who matters. And that is God. Just Google how much am I worth to God. Before you read the scriptures it will take you to pray for the spirit to give you understanding. And for what it kis worth people who would say those things to someone are not likable people. They wouldn't know a likable person if they met one. So don't put to much worry into what they said. Soon as you can learn about getting rid of things and people that don't serve you, and setting boundaries. And stay away from them. They are toxic.
The more and more I watch videos like these it confuses me more and more about issues I may or may not have and it really hurts my head thinking about them. Yay.
Thankyou SO much, Asha. I was abused and bullied at school, not only by close ex ''friends'' but the entire school and also staff. I left home due to really bad abuse and was basically a street kid except I looked older and so met older men. 1 man took me in and another had me as his GF. Looking back, I can see how sick this dynamic was and that it was also very traumatic. Around 16-17 of my ex-boyfriends and close friends either OD'd on purpose or blatantly suicided by the time I was 23/24 yrs of age so when I am around other 'normal' people I just can't relate. I've spent so many hours in NA meetings and in ashrams and have had such a full on life I feel like normal people can 'tell' that I'm not like them 'cos I'm kinda not!! I really struggle with small talk. I really like and appreciate the advice you've offered here and have copied your url and will come back and watch when I'm going to be around them, ie. before school drop off and pick ups and on weekends b4 football or b/dayparties. I never realised that it was social anxiety but it does make sense.
This video missed the mark. It puts blame on the individual instead of the people that truly don't like them. A society that is filled with blind followers will often not like the one who proudly chooses to be different. Don't shrink yourself to fit into another's box.
The solution starts with you. Most of the time your mind is making things up to mess with you. This video has nothing to do with people actually not liking you. It's about how you perceive social situations that you feel people don't like you. The blame is on you and how you perceive your own reality.
@@roach5606Incorrect . Read your statement again. You are not responsible for people's views of you...which is what this video states. Peoples views of you can be based on their insecurities and nothing about yourself. Recognizing your reality is separate of recognizing how people perceive you. You can accept that someone does not like you and it still not affect reality. How someone perceives me does not change my reality but I can still sense their dislike. These are two separate concepts . "It's about how you perceive social situations" ..no, when the point is made clear from someone about their view of you based on their indifference alone...that's called factual not perception. "This video has nothing to do with people not liking you"...you missed the point. This video implies where the blame lies and says nothing about the responsibility of the person on the outside looking in. If you're going to cover the basis of why people don't like you, it would be illogical and irresponsible to not cover the reasons that lie with the individual holding discontent.
She's talking about cognitive biases, not situations where someone actually shows their dislike towards you. The issue of people with social anxiety lies within a cognitive distortion that everyone around you doesn't like you or even hates you, which is... seen from a realistic point of view, unpossible. Most people don't even form any kind of judgement about you because you aren't as important as you think (in a good way though; they don't care about you that much, so they won't think about you negatively either).
It's more of a feeling than a thought. I don't THINK I'm hated by everyone (no one is that important). I just FEEL hatred from everyone. No amount of mental gymnastics gets rid of this bombardment of feelings, and I'm not sure what to do about it. I just want to live my life, and I can't seem to.
I think people don’t like me… no… I know they don’t because most people say to me, “you know literally EVERYONE hates you.” And I just pretend I don’t care but I usually end up crying myself to sleep that night…😔
100% and the nicer I am the more they can't stand me. It's been like this my whole life and even my brother who's always been popular would "joke" about how much people hate me
Loving this!!!!!!!! .....and love the music, it makes it easier for me to listen. I've been planning on making new friends now and letting go of...of whatever!:)
To work 1 on 1 with me so that you can overcome anxiety, authentically express yourself, and find your natural leadership, book a short call with me here to learn about my 8 week program and see if it's the right fit for you: www.ashajacob.com/chatwithasha
Is it sad that I’m more comfortable with being hated than being treated with indifference? Like even my own family is entirely indifferent towards me, no matter how much effort I put towards growing those relationships. Hurts man.
I think these are symptoms, but not the reasons why people feel disliked by others. Social anxiety is a symptom of potentially Complex PTSD, which could be due to abuse, neglect and emotional and physical violence, etc.
Everytime someone tolds me: you are beautiful! (or something like that), I immediately start thinking: oh..you don't like me..you are just saying that to make me feel good...wow. And I think I have this from my parents, because since I've been a child, my mum was always telling me that my face is clear, that I don't need to struggle with acne, even do my face was completely full of acne, etc, so I put this shit into my mind and every time someone tolds me a compliment I will start hate them, because they are liars to me 🙂
Me and my siblings all have social anxiety and the thing is, everyone in my family and friends circle tells me to my face how my siblings are weird and selfish and I can’t help to think I’m probably the same, that people talks behind my back telling others how word I am. Which makes me think that either all 3 of us are a bit scarred by a toxic family or we truly are seen as weird ppl for speaking out our minds and taking decisions not giving a deamn about others opinions.
Hahah, I have a huge fear of cameras since young! I still flinch and hide when people pull out their cameras today. It took 6 hours to record my first 10 minute video for youtube and I still have to overcome lots of discomfort before pressing record even for my latest videos. So I know exactly what you mean.
Man I'm so alone. I got a girl and my daughter and some family but geez. The older I got the less friends I have. I've gained 1 dude I can call bro in the past 10 years and lost 5 all stopped hanging around me and hang around each other. People at work avoid me and I can tell they just would like to say hey and bye. I get no attention!I love my girl but I want to at least feel attractive girls won't look at me much anymore like they used to. I got a gut now and I grew my hair out into locs but face is the same what happened!? It only hurts because it used to be so easy now I can see people trying to.avoid me without even having had a complete conversation with me ever! I'm only 35 I should still be something. I don't even know what to say to people anymore! I've always been low key and laid back but now I feel invisible and like I have no voice. I was never a super popular guy like my old friends but this has to be the low of lows. No one calls, no one text except my girlfriend occasionally other then that my phone never goes off. I just need people to talk to which ends up being my sister, gma, ma, pops or bro in law that's it!
I hate videos like this. They always say this is definitely the cause of your problem... And they usually don't fit me. I have literally had family tell me they didn't want updates on our 91 year old mother unless they ask. She was in the hospital and now she is in a nursing home! Who cares that I have no one to talk to.
i watched a man and woman together instead of two women and two men...so if i hated other men why didnt i watch two women together instead of one man one woman
whenever someone is nice to me I think that they think they're doing charitable work
Nooo don’t think like that, I’m sure that your an amazing person
Literally i think the same. If a person compliments me, i often think that they're joking around to just make fun of me😅
yeah same I used to ignore them when I was in elementary and middle school because I always thought they thought like that, but now I feel like I built walls between me and my classmates and they think I'm arrogant, I just used to act like this I can't get the idea out of my mind I feel they might pity me
That's a them problem not a you problem
💯💯
People don’t like me because I’m always happy, and jolly. My coworkers said it many many times
It sounds like they're jealous or imbalanced. You bring joy and sunshine to so many people, but they probably don't express it enough. Keep being you!
I'm pretty simple, try to treat everyone the way I would want to be treated. Made sense when I was 6 and just kind of stuck. What I didn't know, is that people will hate you if you are kind. And they will destroy you if they find out it is genuine kindness.
Can’t please everybody! Let’s continue to be kind anyway!😊
That's fine, but try the Platinum Rule: Treat others how THEY want to be treated, but with obvious exceptions. This means putting in effort to get to know them first.
I don't necessarily "think it," because I "know it." I try join in groups, yet I can obviously tell they don't want me, whether they voice out the truth or not. My friends who I thought were friends are now strangers. I want to say I'm being hard on myself, but I can't excuse the fact that what's happening in front of me is the truth. I don't know if I'm doing anything wrong or have done something wrong, or I'm just unlikable. That's why I prefer to stay in my own little area. Then hypocritical people would tell me to step out of my comfort zone and get a life. I've listened to them every single time, and yet I've had the urges of suicide every single time. That's why I'd rather stick to the person that I know best, which is me.
I feel you
same
That is my life in a nutshell. People even avoid me at work and all I say is "Hey, how you doing" all day trying to be nice and they still would rather walk around the building then walk by my desk. I'm not ugly, I dont smell. Maybe its because I'm black with long locs in my hair. The other black guys in here are like magnets to people! And I'm the total opposite. I think some of us.are destined for this lifestyle.
God you are completely right. People hate others more than anything, if you are anxious or weak they will pounce at you. It's better to stay alone than with such people
Same
I keep thinking people are against me, i don't trust anyone. I'm gonna give this time and learn a lot
I agree, I feel like the whole world is against me. I don’t let anyone in
Or if somebody compliments me if they’re with their friends or something like that I will think that they are trying to make fun of me in a secret kind of way
Same
I don't take compliments well either
I love how u explained narratives, I used to be a bubbly energetic kid in school and people would tell me I’m weird or that I’m not funny if i try make a joke or something and I think thats why I don’t like interacting with people because they won’t like how I behave so I try to change myself to the type of person that I think they would like
I have the same situation right now. People have constantly remarked how "energetic" "annoyingly cheerful" and sometimes it made me somehow annoying to them. I don't know what to do now. Do I change my whole personality or just live with the fact that people will dislike me for no reason at all because I act happy?
@@charmalajamal7775 the latter! f0ck those people!!!!
Don't change for anyone please💯 be who you are.👍💯
The problem lies with them, they are angry you live life and are happy and carefree stay yourself or change friend please don't change for anyone..💯👍
I try to be nice whenever it's possible it's kind of like giving someone a gift ...even if people are negative I can still be polite
I feel empty, I think about what people may not like about me instead of what I like about them. I had an hard childhood and because I was treated like Cinderella at home, I don't know how to fully be myself without being scared. I never know if someone likes me or not. Will love to talk to you about it, 😒
A little late but…Hey I’d like to talk to you :)
same.. i may be TOO "quirky" and "goofy" like my ex best friend's said. But i just don't know why i feel this way. Like recently i've been noticing weird behaviors from people i know. example not returning texts or ignoring my texts, mocking, rarely talked about (me) on group chats. And unfriended me for no reason?? i say too much they say.. is there something wrong with me? did i do something wrong to turn them to "hate" me? Or am i just overreacting? I think going to therapy is the only option.
I like you for being honest with how you feel.
Many people today it seems will try to bring you down in life I feel ....in life everyone out there is my customer and I'm the sales person...they can complain and be angry with me ...if I want the sale I can't react ... each day is just another day oh well
I know this may be hard, but the first step to truly being yourself is to not care what anyone thinks about you. Really, you have to have this "f*ck everyone" mentality when you're expressing yourself. F*ck anyone who tells you you're weird/bad. Then in turn, the right people will come. But first you have to embrace not caring what others think.
I used to worry and overthink about this. But then I realized that I cannot do anything about it. I cannot make everyone like me. I stopped worrying and just live my life, one day at a time. More at peace with myself now. I remember this one time I joined a Lego group. They didn't seem to want me or other new members in general. I tried it for a year to give them the benefit of the doubt. Nothing changed. So I stopped coming to meetings without notice. Don't miss them. I play my Lego on my own, and more at peace. 🙂
I grew up around boys in my family and never knew how to take care of my appearance until sophomore year of high school. I was social, just through out my childhood I experienced awful things with my peers because I was so boyish, did not look as put together, etc. People pretending to be my friend to make fun of me, bullying, etc. Now whenever anyone approaches me at parties I seem to distance myself from them or feel as if they won't like me even if others introduce me to their friends talking about how we would get along. Sometimes it just reminds me of the times people used to approach me to make fun of me in elementary and it prevents me from getting close with anyone even at 17. All I do now is reflect other's behavior at parties when it is a stranger, but whenever someone wants to actually get to know me and I do too, I just get the urge to up and leave.
I feel the same way....and I like this. “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem,first make sure you are not,in fact,surrounded by assholes. -Sigmund Freud.
This made me smirk a little. Thank you for sharing a life saving quote. 😊
I just learnt that this is not a quote by Freud actually. If you think about it, to say something like this doesn't suit him at all... but nontheless it's absolutely true!
@@tetrahexaeder6312it more suits Einstein lol
This really helps me i was bullied in school A LOT. I think even after years later i have social anxiety disnt healed completely. Thank you for this amazing video.
What if you are not invited to things all the time by certain people but everyone else is? Surely that is obvious then?
Exactly
This exactly
100%
Same with me. I think it means. People don’t like us… lol :/
I think it means, we hv to form a group and start inviting each other!! Coz F them. Let’s find our own sunshine
I'm surprised that no one has come up with the concept that you have to like yourself more than anyone else first. This means liking your idiosyncrasies, faults and flaws. Everyone is fucked in their own way and when you like yourself enough you can abandon the idea that you NEED others to like you. The weird thing is that when you drop the need for others to appreciate and like you and just be yourself friends will come into your life naturally.
What are you talking about? People have talked about how you need to like yourself first for decades. It's not new
My parents got really mad at me a few weeks ago. And they said I always ruin everyones mood and that I’m the problem. So since then I feel like a social burden on people. I feel like I ruin everyone’s mood and they’re only around me because they feel bad for me. I don’t feel worthy of being liked. I don’t even feel like I hold qualities that someone would like about me.
Move out, change your number, and never looked back.
Ask Jesus to make them stop dead in their tracks and feel the sorrow their words brought you and to vividly see the damage their tongues have caused. And to let them know without a shaddow of a doubt that it is from Him. If my husband and I are fighting and I say something I know is true but he yells bull and cuts me off. I just say oh Lord don't leave me to look like a fool. And something always happens that my husband is shown I was right. I would encourage you to know your worth to the only one who matters. And that is God. Just Google how much am I worth to God. Before you read the scriptures it will take you to pray for the spirit to give you understanding. And for what it kis worth people who would say those things to someone are not likable people. They wouldn't know a likable person if they met one. So don't put to much worry into what they said. Soon as you can learn about getting rid of things and people that don't serve you, and setting boundaries. And stay away from them. They are toxic.
Your channel needs more exposure. This stuff is definitely true for me. I always interpret things negatively!
Thank you! I'm so happy you enjoy the video.
The more and more I watch videos like these it confuses me more and more about issues I may or may not have and it really hurts my head thinking about them. Yay.
Thankyou SO much, Asha. I was abused and bullied at school, not only by close ex ''friends'' but the entire school and also staff. I left home due to really bad abuse and was basically a street kid except I looked older and so met older men. 1 man took me in and another had me as his GF. Looking back, I can see how sick this dynamic was and that it was also very traumatic. Around 16-17 of my ex-boyfriends and close friends either OD'd on purpose or blatantly suicided by the time I was 23/24 yrs of age so when I am around other 'normal' people I just can't relate. I've spent so many hours in NA meetings and in ashrams and have had such a full on life I feel like normal people can 'tell' that I'm not like them 'cos I'm kinda not!! I really struggle with small talk.
I really like and appreciate the advice you've offered here and have copied your url and will come back and watch when I'm going to be around them, ie. before school drop off and pick ups and on weekends b4 football or b/dayparties. I never realised that it was social anxiety but it does make sense.
10 seconds in and she literally spoke to my soul cause that's really how i been feeling
I know exactly how you feel. It gets better with time and effort! ❤️ Hugs.
This video missed the mark. It puts blame on the individual instead of the people that truly don't like them. A society that is filled with blind followers will often not like the one who proudly chooses to be different. Don't shrink yourself to fit into another's box.
The solution starts with you. Most of the time your mind is making things up to mess with you. This video has nothing to do with people actually not liking you. It's about how you perceive social situations that you feel people don't like you. The blame is on you and how you perceive your own reality.
@@roach5606Incorrect . Read your statement again. You are not responsible for people's views of you...which is what this video states. Peoples views of you can be based on their insecurities and nothing about yourself. Recognizing your reality is separate of recognizing how people perceive you. You can accept that someone does not like you and it still not affect reality. How someone perceives me does not change my reality but I can still sense their dislike. These are two separate concepts .
"It's about how you perceive social situations" ..no, when the point is made clear from someone about their view of you based on their indifference alone...that's called factual not perception.
"This video has nothing to do with people not liking you"...you missed the point. This video implies where the blame lies and says nothing about the responsibility of the person on the outside looking in. If you're going to cover the basis of why people don't like you, it would be illogical and irresponsible to not cover the reasons that lie with the individual holding discontent.
She's talking about cognitive biases, not situations where someone actually shows their dislike towards you. The issue of people with social anxiety lies within a cognitive distortion that everyone around you doesn't like you or even hates you, which is... seen from a realistic point of view, unpossible. Most people don't even form any kind of judgement about you because you aren't as important as you think (in a good way though; they don't care about you that much, so they won't think about you negatively either).
but like what if they talk to you during class, they seem like they don't really want to talk to you out of school :(
It's more of a feeling than a thought. I don't THINK I'm hated by everyone (no one is that important). I just FEEL hatred from everyone. No amount of mental gymnastics gets rid of this bombardment of feelings, and I'm not sure what to do about it. I just want to live my life, and I can't seem to.
I think people don’t like me… no… I know they don’t because most people say to me, “you know literally EVERYONE hates you.” And I just pretend I don’t care but I usually end up crying myself to sleep that night…😔
100% and the nicer I am the more they can't stand me. It's been like this my whole life and even my brother who's always been popular would "joke" about how much people hate me
Loving this!!!!!!!! .....and love the music, it makes it easier for me to listen. I've been planning on making new friends now and letting go of...of whatever!:)
To work 1 on 1 with me so that you can overcome anxiety, authentically express yourself, and find your natural leadership, book a short call with me here to learn about my 8 week program and see if it's the right fit for you: www.ashajacob.com/chatwithasha
I like to socialize but then after I think that I was cringe and I annoyed them and they don’t wanna talk anymore for no reason
This is happening to me I feel like my people don’t like me like they are not answering me or thinking that I am not sweet like I used to be
You are perfect. Never change for anyone
This is a very helpful video!
Off topic but I love your nose ring! It really suits you
Aw, thank you!
people never like me i just wanna disappear forever
Thank you Asha. Awesome, awesome perspective.
When someone is nice to me i start telling myself ok you can show me where the camera is 💯
I think I super quiet and shy that when I start to actually talk people are thrown off
Is it sad that I’m more comfortable with being hated than being treated with indifference?
Like even my own family is entirely indifferent towards me, no matter how much effort I put towards growing those relationships.
Hurts man.
I don't think it, i know it... People call me creepy and weird, Even though i am kind and supportive to them.
I think these are symptoms, but not the reasons why people feel disliked by others. Social anxiety is a symptom of potentially Complex PTSD, which could be due to abuse, neglect and emotional and physical violence, etc.
Hi Ogla, I agree! If you take a look at my other videos, I talk a lot about toxic upbringings and how it creates anxiety and poor self worth.
Just want to make a friendly suggestion that the background music volume be lower.
Overall great video though, I love the advice :)
Thank you, Kath! And you're right it's quite distracting! I've removed the background music for all my latest videos.
Thank you Asha that was very helpful
Everytime someone tolds me: you are beautiful! (or something like that), I immediately start thinking: oh..you don't like me..you are just saying that to make me feel good...wow.
And I think I have this from my parents, because since I've been a child, my mum was always telling me that my face is clear, that I don't need to struggle with acne, even do my face was completely full of acne, etc, so I put this shit into my mind and every time someone tolds me a compliment I will start hate them, because they are liars to me 🙂
I wonder if people actually don't like me or I'm just the one who thinks about it that way... I wish i could make friends
I just wish anyone knew that I love watching stars
No one cares that much
Timestamps:
1- fear of socializing (social anxiety)
2- too attached to our narratives
3- we think everybody hates us.
Past experience 😔
I do not care I like it it keeps me moving
Me and my siblings all have social anxiety and the thing is, everyone in my family and friends circle tells me to my face how my siblings are weird and selfish and I can’t help to think I’m probably the same, that people talks behind my back telling others how word I am. Which makes me think that either all 3 of us are a bit scarred by a toxic family or we truly are seen as weird ppl for speaking out our minds and taking decisions not giving a deamn about others opinions.
Thanks so much!
Great video 👍🏾
Mind blown people have the confidence to speak in front of a camera. Id love to be able to take s photo without wanting to jump off a brjdge lol
Hahah, I have a huge fear of cameras since young! I still flinch and hide when people pull out their cameras today. It took 6 hours to record my first 10 minute video for youtube and I still have to overcome lots of discomfort before pressing record even for my latest videos. So I know exactly what you mean.
I kind of forgot it's possible to be indifferent to other people! 😭
The biggest reason I think people don't like me is because I don't like myself.
Because I've been told.
This isn't very helpful for people who are actually unpopular.
Sorry but how is knowing people don't give an shit about you anyway supposed to make anyone feel better?
Man I'm so alone. I got a girl and my daughter and some family but geez. The older I got the less friends I have. I've gained 1 dude I can call bro in the past 10 years and lost 5 all stopped hanging around me and hang around each other. People at work avoid me and I can tell they just would like to say hey and bye. I get no attention!I love my girl but I want to at least feel attractive girls won't look at me much anymore like they used to. I got a gut now and I grew my hair out into locs but face is the same what happened!? It only hurts because it used to be so easy now I can see people trying to.avoid me without even having had a complete conversation with me ever! I'm only 35 I should still be something. I don't even know what to say to people anymore! I've always been low key and laid back but now I feel invisible and like I have no voice. I was never a super popular guy like my old friends but this has to be the low of lows. No one calls, no one text except my girlfriend occasionally other then that my phone never goes off. I just need people to talk to which ends up being my sister, gma, ma, pops or bro in law that's it!
I think Asha doesn´t like me...
I hate videos like this. They always say this is definitely the cause of your problem... And they usually don't fit me. I have literally had family tell me they didn't want updates on our 91 year old mother unless they ask. She was in the hospital and now she is in a nursing home! Who cares that I have no one to talk to.
Because they don't like you, and that's ok
2 reasons:
Body Language
i watched a man and woman together instead of two women and two men...so if i hated other men why didnt i watch two women together instead of one man one woman
This is very invalidating and over generalizing.