What stops people from healing? | Everyday Alex 063
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- What stops people from healing? | Thoughtful Thursday | Everyday Alex 063| Alex Howard explores the important question of what stops people healing.
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These perspectives are so very relevant for Long Covid. Not surprising, maybe, since Long Covid seems to be so clinically similar to other chronic illnesses that are not understood, like Chronic Fatigue and Fibromyalgia. Twenty-five plus months into this health nightmare journey, and what you are saying here today, Alex, makes the most sense of any other explanation I have come across, and is born out by personal experience. Yes, an "over-achiever." When there is "a problem." the impulse is to "DO something." Nine times out of ten, I need to learn to "do the opposite"...surrender, accept, soften, rest...and try my damnedest to not have anxiety about everything that needs doing (all essential to survival), and that I cannot do in the moment. (A moment that endures, day in, day out, months on end, turning into years, and coming on my third birthday in this state. An exceedingly tall order.) Sigh. Yes...and Deep Breath. For crying out loud.
Very important info and SO overlooked. So many of us with chronic illness are Type A people and really have to change our way of being in order to heal.
This is soooo helpful! It’s my inner voice that keeps saying you need to get this and that done at least-for today. Creating non-healing state. After 16 years of this stuff, I know it, but need to be reminded constantly.
Great to recognise that Terry, well done.
This is so important as soon as i started doing more than i should i had a massive dip and felt so awful and stressed out
This was very helpful....I just don't know my limits. I feel like I need to completely stop a lot but don't know how and what to do when I stop 😔
I am learning. And very glad for both the teaching and all the comments. Thank you!
Thank you very much :)
I'm definitely not in a healing state. I haven't slept for about a year now... I think that is a lot of the reason why my ME is just getting worse. There is no sleeping medicine I can take because all of them gives me RLS. It feels hopeless....and I know my negative thoughts makes me more stres
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These vids are great, describes me to a T (unfortunately)! Can anyone tell me in which video he describes the three stages of healing?
Hi Alex it's Aug 2023. Do you still run the reset programme?
Your videos have been really helpful , thank you.
Yes you can find details at www.alexhoward.com 🙂
Thank you for these videos. Alex, I wonder if you could address what you see to be the difference between burnout and a diagnosis of ME/CFS? Several people I know who have recovered from the same now admit that they were suffering from burnout not ME/CFS. Obviously the diagnostic criteria is critical here and I don't know which criteria the OHC uses if any. Only respond if you think this would be helpful to others. Thank you.
I’ve been wondering the same thing!
At the OHC we help patients with a wide variety of chronic conditions, mostly coming from chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia symptoms, but the definition of ME/CFS diagnosis varies from country to country. Until we have a definitive biomarker for ME/CFS we treat from an integrative approach for chronic conditions more widely. We use the UK definition of ME/CFS when we refer to it in our work.
@@TheOptimumHealthClinic Is that the Oxford Criteria, the CCC, the ICC definition or other? I'm not aware of any definitive UK definition. I'm just interested in burnout v. ME and if you suspect that some of your clients have one or the other.
Great video!
Now it would also be really helpful to know when we are actually doing too much.
Because it seems like the attempt to stay completely symptoms free doesn't make sense either and there is something like doing to little too (being at stage 3 like me).
What is a "reasonable level" of symptoms that should be allowed?
E.g. if I still feel a little exhaustion from the activity of yesterday even after a good night of sleep, did I then do too much?
Generally, the idea would be to look at your recovery time and at what baseline you are returning to. If your recovery time is decreasing and the baseline is increasing then it's moving in the right direction. If it starts to take you longer to recover, and your baseline is not moving or is getting worse then it's time to re-visit how much activity is being done. Once fully recovered you'll always return to a healthy baseline and won't suffer any illness after exertion, other than the normal healthy rest time. I hope that helps! (Jenny - Alex's Team)
@@AlexHowardTherapy Thank you so much! I love the answer! Never had the idea of looking at recovery time after exertion and the baseline.
I hope I don't seem greedy now if I add this little question (the end of my first comment).
So if generally speaking it is possible for me to feel fully refreshed after sleep (symptoms free!), which it is for me, should it then still be the goal to pace activity in the second half (or maybe last third) of a day in a way that I do wake up fully recovered or is the answer to this still the same as above?
Thank you so much! :-)
@@federico617 Right - if you wake up the next day feeling worse than the previous it was probably too much - but then just see how long it takes for you to feel fully refreshed again - either the same day after a good meal or if it takes a while to get another good night sleep. That should help you discern the baseline and recovery time over time!
@@AlexHowardTherapy Awesome! Thank you :)
Great video! I have been actively working on putting my body into that healing state, but sometimes I feel like my meditations have to be perfect( I guess maybe part of my achievement pattern). How do I get out of that state of feeling like I have to dp thing perfectly?
the videos on the perfectionist pattern including our therapuetic tuesday session "understanding the roots of perfectionism" might help!
Thanks!