My mother, father, sister brother....they moved us away from family/friends/old neighborhood....[was a young girl]...driving away...I said to myself...I died😢...never been the same...
You're 100% correct. I lived it for over 10 years. One day, you leave the relationship emotionally, and then you actually leave it physically for good. You're worse than alone with them anyway. She was my greatest dream to finally have a loving relationship. But, She turned out to be my greatest 🌙 nightmare.
I would not say this is all you need to know, not by a long shot, however, the events you describe are accurate. Sadly, the picture is much bigger, and much worse. Still, thank you for making the effort to show kindness. So many need that.
My dad was a violent phsycho schizo sociapath to , particularly hated me , i started taking the blame for my brothers mishaps after hours of standing naked in the kitchen , i realized a bit more violence was better than the torturous wait leading up to the violence , my dad knew i was lying , he knew who did it to begin with , yet had to play us both off each other , i learnt how to spoil his game at 12 years old . He always held it against me , I turned against him totally . We all left home very young .
@@deannaking406I can't imagine the pain of those who are in that situation for life. It's painful enough to deal with the trauma for life. Thank you so much for sharing this precious information, so clear and well summarized 🙏 I hope I knew all of this 12 years ago. Or even earlier.
@@noemidemelo8959 Perhaps for a while. Allow yourself the time to heal. It's hard to have trust after, but remember, their still are good people out there
Yes and no. You'll see their true colors come out, but they'll create cognitive dissonance by reverting back to being nice again, and you think that the behavior was from the past traumas for example. You believe that deep down, the real self is this nice person. After awhile, when it's happened too many times,and you're now aware, you've become trauma bonded, which is a chemical addiction.
@@deannaking406I'm dealing with this right now... 13 years married to one every one of those lists she checks it's like dealing with an adult teenager that cannot be wrong. Cannot be told they're wrong. Cannot hold a job. Doesn't even have a license to drive... And steals your money and spends things because they want it doesn't ask for Major purchases just does what they want then wants to be praised for it... For example, her phone was more important than my car insurance this month... The divorce is going And she's already planning another life with another man older and wealthier and taking my child with her and there ain't nothing I can do about it... Armor of God. It was meant to be in this time at this crossroads. On the bright side, at least I don't have to deal with the neurosis or the anger or the physical and mental abuse as it's all absolved and probably put on the new partner which I think she shut her phone off yesterday even though the person's in a hurricane right now...
I know his all character. Still now I don't believe him . From the Startin itself when I message next day suddenly he citizen me. Iam sad at the time. . Afterwards I message him . Why you citizen me. But he never reply. I k ow all his character he shown me.
Your father could not control.his temper with his infants ,your mother always told you it was never your fault, abd she was right .however your PTSD was for life and pain you that when triggered you took out on the ones close to .the ones you realky loved .simply prey hard and hope for better days one day .
I'm not in his head to decide what he was thinking, but going by the norm, you were a chosen one because you were available basically. If he's being critical like that towards you, don't give him any more of your time. There are plenty of other men out there who will respect you, and love you for who you are.
My mother, father, sister brother....they moved us away from family/friends/old neighborhood....[was a young girl]...driving away...I said to myself...I died😢...never been the same...
”Sometimes it’s better to be alone. Nobody can hurt you.” - Meg from ”Hercules”
You're 100% correct. I lived it for over 10 years. One day, you leave the relationship emotionally, and then you actually leave it physically for good. You're worse than alone with them anyway. She was my greatest dream to finally have a loving relationship. But, She turned out to be my greatest 🌙 nightmare.
or, your greatest lesson...
I would not say this is all you need to know, not by a long shot, however, the events you describe are accurate. Sadly, the picture is much bigger, and much worse.
Still, thank you for making the effort to show kindness. So many need that.
My dad was a violent phsycho schizo sociapath to , particularly hated me , i started taking the blame for my brothers mishaps after hours of standing naked in the kitchen , i realized a bit more violence was better than the torturous wait leading up to the violence , my dad knew i was lying , he knew who did it to begin with , yet had to play us both off each other , i learnt how to spoil his game at 12 years old . He always held it against me , I turned against him totally . We all left home very young .
It's sad, and I'm glad you did get out early
So sad.. And some people have to deal with this their whole life 😢
Yes, they are stuck for so many reasons
This happened to me. Now I am free!!
The saddest part is that, even if you're out of that situation, you're f'ed up for life. At least it's like that for me.
@@deannaking406I can't imagine the pain of those who are in that situation for life. It's painful enough to deal with the trauma for life.
Thank you so much for sharing this precious information, so clear and well summarized 🙏 I hope I knew all of this 12 years ago. Or even earlier.
@@noemidemelo8959 Perhaps for a while. Allow yourself the time to heal. It's hard to have trust after, but remember, their still are good people out there
I felt these words in my soul
Yes, yes yes,yes,yes,yes,yes........
I knew someone like that. I wrote knew .
Ha ha...noted... Good for you! :)
@@deannaking406 Thank you .
❤TY❤
How do these people hide their narrcisstic traits for years? It's when they feel different for you, then you see the real version of who they are
Yes and no. You'll see their true colors come out, but they'll create cognitive dissonance by reverting back to being nice again, and you think that the behavior was from the past traumas for example. You believe that deep down, the real self is this nice person. After awhile, when it's happened too many times,and you're now aware, you've become trauma bonded, which is a chemical addiction.
@@deannaking406I'm dealing with this right now... 13 years married to one every one of those lists she checks it's like dealing with an adult teenager that cannot be wrong. Cannot be told they're wrong. Cannot hold a job. Doesn't even have a license to drive... And steals your money and spends things because they want it doesn't ask for Major purchases just does what they want then wants to be praised for it...
For example, her phone was more important than my car insurance this month...
The divorce is going And she's already planning another life with another man older and wealthier and taking my child with her and there ain't nothing I can do about it...
Armor of God. It was meant to be in this time at this crossroads. On the bright side, at least I don't have to deal with the neurosis or the anger or the physical and mental abuse as it's all absolved and probably put on the new partner which I think she shut her phone off yesterday even though the person's in a hurricane right now...
Yes
I know his all character. Still now I don't believe him . From the Startin itself when I message next day suddenly he citizen me. Iam sad at the time. . Afterwards I message him . Why you citizen me. But he never reply. I k ow all his character he shown me.
Your father could not control.his temper with his infants ,your mother always told you it was never your fault, abd she was right .however your PTSD was for life and pain you that when triggered you took out on the ones close to .the ones you realky loved .simply prey hard and hope for better days one day .
But I don't know why he chose me?? Not chose. He is telling g?
I'm not in his head to decide what he was thinking, but going by the norm, you were a chosen one because you were available basically. If he's being critical like that towards you, don't give him any more of your time. There are plenty of other men out there who will respect you, and love you for who you are.