Toddler Discipline Strategies To Keep You From Going Crazy | Dad University
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- Toddler discipline is one of the most difficult topics for parents. Dealing with a toddler and understanding how to manage situations when they come up is something that nearly all parents struggle with. In this video, Jason provides some specific toddler discipline strategies you can use to with your child.
Whether your toddler is defiant or your toddler refuses to listen, it’s so important that we understand how much we actually are in control how we respond. Toddler discipline methods are really more about how we handle ourselves during these situations versus us doing something to the toddler. Most parents associate toddler discipline with punishment. Jason also talks about how punishment doesn’t teach children the correct behavior. Check out the video and let us know any issues you are having with your own toddler discipline.
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I was on a dark path with my toddler daughter. I started yelling at her tantrums, something I thought I would never do. Yelling at my toddler solved the problem temporarily but made me feel like shit for doing so and distanced our relationship. The best thing I took from this dude is to be empathetic. Heck I do that with adults but it never dawned on me that I should do it with my toddler daughter. That whole segment changed everything for me and I no longer feel anger or the need to yell. Of course it’s takes patience but I feel like I am so much closer to my daughter now since I stopped yelling at her tantrums. This video saved my relationship and I could not be more thankful. 🤙🏽🙏🏻
I'm heading down the same path hence finding this video..getting angry...at my little girl...who's just trying to play too hard or have too much fun...I would never imagine that I'd ever be in this position but luckily we have a great relationship and I will make sure that I am the parent that she deserves...great video
Thank you I'm going through this with my 2 year old . I don't wanna yell anymore. I feel like I yell to much and to loud and I don't wanna be like that.
@@DogMommy.
I'm trying to remember to pause..ask myself what damage is being done...go from there...
But the hard part is remembering to not react instantly...
A dangerous situation is totally different
Other situations...anyway you know the rest....
Lucky to find out early enough.
Good on you mate, you looked for help and did something about it. You're a good parent!❤
My daughter is less than two... Looks me square in the eye, takes a hand full of food at the table, holds it like a king deciding the fate of someone's life... then she drops it and laughs like a madman.
Children are such a blessing in our lives. At the same time, as parents we have a responsibility to teach them what's right and wrong. And oooh boy! it's a biggest responsibility I have never thought in my life as a single mom I will face. But to me it's like trial and errors. I try different techniques, if it works I keep that same and if not I try something new. But it takes a lot of work and patience which is one thing every parent out there needs to keep it together.
Kids will make you think twice
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The disrespect!! 😂😂😂
You should write a book. Very descriptive.
As I’m sitting here crying and questioning everything I’m doing for my 2 year old I’m saving this video to look back on anytime I lose my way. Thank you for posting this.
Same sis I am struggling feeling crazy my daughter will be 2 next month.
Thank you for putting videos like this out ! I'm a single mom and is soo hard not to yell after a long day of working , dinner and whatever else is needed to do . Im here because i want to raise a healthy adult. Kids grow up to be grown ups i hate when parent say hes just a child yes that may be true but everything is building them up for the futre . Good luck to all the parents that click here means you care and are trying !❤
I had 3 kids in 3 years. They are 5,4,and 3 now, and I feel like I'm drowning sometimes. I love my children with every bit of my soul, but they stress me out beyond belief. I really appreciated this video. It's given me good insight, and I look forward to more content from you, sir. Thank you
Hang in there! ❤
I feel you so much. I have an 11, 4, and 1 year old🤣🤣🤣 I'm finally getting it together a bit more but i feel like this often enough.
How did you manage to have 3 kids in 3 years? Is it even possible?
That’s exactly the spacing of my three sons - but they are grown now and have become a Green Beret, an Interventional Radiologist, and an independent filmmaker. I miss them being little so much! Lots of love, patience, and a great sense of humor will get you through. We worked on character building goals and how to set and achieve goals when they were still very young, combining little “lessons” with evening reading time. God bless you on your journey.
Low Key, children are draining. When you are truly a part of their lives, good parents are tired. I love my children too! The truth is… it really does take a village to raise children. Hang in there, we can all all things through Christ(Jesus)who strengthens us. I depend on the Lord’s help. Children definitely have to be trained on how to behave. I consider myself a gentle parent. I have set boundaries with my girls, it’s a rewarding job. We have so much fun together.
I may have to watch this every morning
😂 rightt me 2
This
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It should streaming in my earbud repeating all day long
I agree to an extent. Discipline can work, and can be affective is applied correctly. Punishing a child out of frustration is a bad idea, and will only make the child more frustrated and nobody wins. My parents always explained to me why it was necessary in a calm corrected way, showing control. Communication along with showing limits and boundaries is the parents duty and job.
Glad I found this video going through this toddler phase right now
That intro explaining that the video is your opinion is GOLD. So many discussions could be avoided if people understood that opinions are not facts.
Going through the toddler phase with my 3 year old and God give me strength… nothing I try works
I'm going through this right now. I have 20 and 17 year old boy's who never gave me any problems. Now I have a 2 almost 3 year old little girl who is very stubborn and determined to get her way. I pray to God every morning please help me with this beautiful little girl.
Girl I'm in the same boat...lol
Omg.. I have a 13 year old and a 3 year old and my toddler is giving me a run for my money.... my first born was completely different, this girl is a handful. And not to mention I'm 2 months pregnant and she started acting up now... I'm scared she's going to continue acting up when the baby comes. I hope this video helps me out.
oh she will. mines been hell on wheels ever since my 2nd. but just involve her with everything. make her feel like the baby is her task too. make her empathetic to the baby. then she will love and protect it (mostly) and it will help curb any jealousy that ure taking time away from her to take care of the baby. just every time u get up for a diaper or bottle or cry, if ur 3 yr old is in the room, look over at her and say "we". she'll love it. it helped a ton with mine, hope it can work for you too:) congradulations!
Some kids respond really well to being given a special responsibility! My son is 3, when he has been really difficult I give him a job- not as a punishment but as a help, and he loves it. It turns him from being a pain to being such a good kid. He needed purpose, he didn’t like just free floating in the house. I gave him a broom and said “whew, I’m so overwhelmed with trying to clean, can you help me sweep? I’d feel so much better”
Obviously they don’t actually help much 😂 but it’s a distraction that makes them feel like a big person with important things to do. They love something they can go back to for consistent praise.
Some kids are just really stubborn too- and the consistency takes a lot longer to get through.
I’m sorry it’s a challenge right now. I hope you find something that helps. It’s a hard phase of parenting.
As a Dad sitting on the toilet i take the approach of disciplining my 2 year old daughter like a hostage negotiator and after watching this video i feel like that lines up pretty well 😅. It's not always the case but i try to let tantrums phase right through me, and not take things personal. I'm naturally in empathetic person I'm just wired that way probably more than most people but I couldn't agree with you more with just trying to see it through your toddlers eyes. I also try to talk to my toddler like I'm talking to an adult with the exception of talking a little slower and very clear and bold. Bold enough so it sinks in, but not in a scary way. Either way no one's perfect and raising a toddler is pretty hard but it's so satisfying into all the other dads out there I wish you the best luck and please love the shit out of your kids
The love is important when they’ve found the juice stash and drank 5. Being the bad guy who says drinking all 30 isn’t okay. Yet coming out as dad hero and public enemy #1 takes grace.
Theres a book called 1 2 3 magic and it talks about how concise discipline may have better results than having an adult like conversation with your toddler that may open other argument avenues for them and even confuse them. I also talk to my daughter like she's older than she is because I feel like she understands it, but I thought I'd share that with you incase you find yourself in that situation having an adult conversation with a toddler and it may be counterproductive. Not sure how old your child is but best of luck bro 😂
I needed to watch this video. My oldest daughter is turning 3 and recently has been preferring my wife more, challenging me a lot, whining about so many things and constantly trying to get my attention when I’m trying to play with my younger daughter. “I don’t want to leave the park, the car seat harness is too tight, I don’t want to wear that t-shirt, I want to watch TV, I want that toy (the one toy her sister is playing with).”
This is after years of her always lovey dovey, cuddling, happy attitude always to see me and do anything with me. It’s so hard not to take it personally and makes me feel like I did something wrong for trying to discipline her or just do regular tasks with her.
Thx so much.i am so depressed about my girl's behavior.she is 2.5 year old.she cries a lot and she does not play alone.Whenever she wants to play she calls me.sometimes it is too hard to deal with her
One feedback is be careful with “ignore” as it varies by child. You don’t want to stretch to the point that the child would go in “depressed” zone that they are not being heard. (Reference book: raising girls). Thanks for this awesome video, I am going to apply quite a bit for my kid 😊👍
00:00 intro
01:35 punishment doesn't work
04:46 be empathetic
05:46 affirming their feelings
06:31 don't take things personally
07:07 provide choices
08:01 positive reinforcement
09:17 ignore them
11:33 distraction/redirection
12:25 repetition
I’m waiting his veins on his neck to pop, dude is screaming into a camera not to tell, what a joke, couldn’t watch this clown more than 2 mins
Real hero. Took the man 5 min to get to the point 😂
Thank you
Ignore the behaviour, not the child
Saved me a lot of time. Thanks.
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Thanks for this video. I have a daughter 3 years old and she is so anxiety ridden. I have to practice all of that.sometimes is to much and I got a lot stress.I apreciate the video.
I agree with most of this video, and it is so nice to hear a dad promote positive discipline.
What i don't agree with is the angle that kids misbehave to get our attention and we shouldn't provide it to them and just ignore them. Toddlers have no emotional control yet and a tantrum is a result of just that: They are toddlers, so many things are out of their control and their wishes and wants are constantly frustrated. That is how it is supposed to be, they souldn't be in control - but it is very hard for them. Crying doesn't mean "I want your attention!" It means "I am so frustrated! Nothing is going according to my will and these grown-ups don't understand me!" I belive ignoring your child when they are throwing a tantrum IS a form on punishment and it works like spankig: They notice that you give them the silent treatment and they get scared. Is dad mad at me now? Will he ignore me all day? Will he still tend to my needs now?" They desperately need you for their survival and wellbeing, so they stop the bad behavior, out of fear, like you said. You didn't teach them anything but "if you misbehave, something scary will happen", i.e the child will be ignored by their caregivers. Their bad feeling will remain.
I also believe that you already explained in detail what it is you should do instead: Be empathetic! Stay calm and unbothered by their beavior. Affirm their feelings without affirming the behavior and talk them through the tantrum. " I know sweetie, you really wanted that candy and I said 'no'! That was really frustrating for you. I won't let you hit me but I am here to listen to what you have to say! Would you like to tell me all about it?" When they come out on the other side and they feel better, they will behave better - and you will have shown them how to handle these feelings: staying calm, naming the feeling, finding out what caused them, using your words instead of your fists and seeking comfort with people who care about you.
You could do that with older toddlers thou, my 18 months old would have a tantrum because he can't throw his paci in the toilet and he won't even understand me explaining to him why that's nasty and we can't do it while he is scream crying on the floor😅. When they are older in my opinion is still better to be quick with words and walking away is fine. As an adult i also act stupid when i'm angry and nothing anyone says will help me more than just walking away and let the emotions calm down for a while before i put myself back in a situation. When you are calm and collected you can address things much better than during a hissy fit
I completely agree although a lot of the time when a child’s in a full blown tantrum they aren’t able to listen, rationalize and trying to calm them down at all may make things worse
@@annaomodeo7318why don’t you explore the consequences of throwing things in the toilet with him and validate him by throwing some toilet paper in there or something? Then after you’ve had fun tell him throwing pacifier in there is dirty
@@joshuawilson1544 because he wouldn’t understand the concept of “it’s dirty” and because it would start an obsession of him throwing toilet paper down the drain like it’s a game…
I'm a mom and this video is very helpful.
I'm not even halfway through this bid and I will defo be changing a whole load of stuff at home. Thank you man
Thank you for your point of view, I came from a household where punishment was always implemented
Thanks for a great video. We have an almost 3 year old and we are going through the phase of a meltdown when she doesn't get her own way. I practice most of the strategies mentioned in the video but also picked up some great pointers. I also use the "time out" and it seems to work well for us, most of the time, not always lol. It's just nice to know you're on the right track with disapline and hearing it from other dad's! If only they came with a manual 😅
The timing for this video was perfect. Thanks for making this.
This reminds me of when I was a teenager it didn’t matter what my parents took away or if they spanked me it was like early teens, but it was the teachers who would calmly talk to me and question me that helped made me realize what I was doing wrong or not doing
You're a good man! Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom! My 2 year old son is giving me grey hairs and wrinkles. Lol I'm going to try your methods.
Same here… so difficult with my toddler son. I’m yelling to him and then I feel like shit… pls help me
I'm so glad I stumbled on your video, I will try this with my 4 year old son, as sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind...Thank you
Love this, so much needed thank you 😊
Thank you so much for making these videos. I have been struggling with my 4 year old. I found this very helpful.
My 3 yr old has speech delay and starting ABA in 2 weeks. Currently we're trying all sorts of tips. Thank you for your input, we already do some of these but will work on the rest!
First time mother here and this help me allot in so many ways. Thank you
Very good and valid points. Will apply them immediately. Much Appreciated. Much love and peace
I love love the introduction of this video. And thank you so much for your help and share.
Thank you so much brother God bless you
Thank you for your words
Everything so relatable in the video and comment section!!! We can do this yall 💪🏽
Thank you dad university.
I gathered all the information I need! Very important and useful information to me!!
Exactly the video I needed, my wife is having a tough time with our two year old.
I needed this. Thank you.
Thank you 😊
Your video was very knowledgeable & informative. I greatly appreciate your help! Thank you!
Spanking doesn't work - empathy does: I refer you to the millennial generation...
and they wonder why asian kids are better.
Thank you for the video. You gave me hope.
Thank you very much for sharing your wisdom. Sincerely appreciate it raising a toddler and a 5.5 year old while still trying to be a good leader to the entire family.
Thank you this is super❤Very helpful very clear to the point😊
my 3-year old is too smart to fall for a 'choice'. He immediately rejects both and insists we do what he wants
My daughter chooses one of the choices, and then goes back and forth between them. I finally give her the last one she said she wanted and then has another tantrum because she wants the other one.
Whats ur solution?
@@taxes.death.christ being a 'cruel' and 'bad' parent obviously. So instead of choosing between a thing we want and what he wants now the choice is between what we want and what he definitely doesn't want... I don't like it but it works.
@@alextrigger8199 hmm, I don't have kids yet, but I have been thinking and coming up with parenting strategies, and I thought of strikes. So basically each time your child misbehaves give them a warning, if they don't stop give them a tallymark, at the end of the week if they have less than 15 tallies (3 per day) then you reward them with an ice cream or something like that
@@taxes.death.christ rewards work - used to be cakes, now it's screen time. Basically screen time is set out to be a specific amount per day and then can be reduced up to 0 depending on how bad the child misbehaves. This is actually one of the most efficient strategies now.
Bro this was alot of really awesome information. This video has a ton of child psychology in it as well as great empathetic techniques. 👍 helps remind me to be the best dad i can.
Sometimes it not easy to do. But, it works. Thank for the video 👍
Love the tips. I am definitely gonna try it
Thank you so much for this video
Thank you for this information, This is awesome! 🎉
I have a small circle so this is great to hear some new approaches to this stage of my son's life and ours. I am definitely subscribing and look forward to all the content here Thanks again
Good timing as always!
This is really helpful for first time parents like us. Would def start trying this steps.
I literally felt alone cause a lot of parents seem to “ have it all figured out “ so the more seasoned mothers look at the struggling mother like we “aren’t capable” I had a lot of frustration moments with my 3 year old daughter and I’ve been on the soft parenting out look for weeks now it’s some progress and in other moments it feels like no progress at all but I’m still trying. Her favorite thing right now is crying literally for everything if she can’t do something she cries if she spills something accidentally whether if it’s on herself or on something else she will cry, if she doesn’t get her way she will cry if she hot she will cry if she wants juice she will cry…. It get hard yall seriously she suck an emotional person. Falling out is her favorite thing as well. With crying. Yall keep us in your prayers. I’m gonna try everything you said in this video.
These videos are helpful for most like me i have a daughter 14 months old and i never had a dad to teach me how to discipline.
Look's like you've found the right video format - quality stuff! 👌 Thanks, Jason!
Im opening a daycare and must learn to deal with other people's children is different 😂. Im ALLLLL ears! I have a 16 y.o myslef, a 6 y.o and a 1 year old. However these are MY kids... other kids my goodness 😅
I’m a restaurant manager and I thought you were talking about my current staff
This is so helpful! Thank you!
I feel like you’re going to change my life. I thank you! ❤
Well said and I agree with you on everything! Great video!
Great video, for moms as well.
Great tips! You are EXACTLY on point! Thanks for sharing. AJE, Parent Educator.
Thanks for the tips!!!!
Incredible video with lot of valuable insights .. Helps a lot !
Thanks for the great content, Dad U!
Thanks!
Thank you so much for sharing this video and I learned a lot from this video 😊
Nice video, But don’t ignore your child. It may develop personality disorders such as narcissism etc. Always treat them kindly.
My son is autistic and still pretty much non verbal. He’s smart. Like no lie about that. I can’t have a conversation with him. I can say things and he understand, but, he can’t say anything back or tell me how he feels even in the same level as other toddlers can. This seems to frustrate him even more.
Giving options helps sometimes, in some aspects it’s easier because all I have to do is create a routine around something like bathing or getting into the car. I can tell him good job when he does well. I can’t always do these things and it work. He’s smart. He finds ways around things. There are so little options for ND kids here.
I definitely can see how these can help.. but I’m also a parent that feels like aren’t too many choices not good? That isn’t always going to be the case for a child in different settings and even going into adulthood. I loved the positive reinforcement, distraction and ignoring one. I’ve found these work for us.. praying for everyone in toddler phase! It isn’t easy mines is 2 and 6 months and strong willed! He’s growing up but I’m also having to grow in many ways also
Well, as for the options, of course, parents should be guided by common sense in the first place. He's judt giving examples of how to introduce these options into everyday situations.
This video is very helpful I was overwhelmed. I had a three step method to discipline: warning, sitting in corner and then spanking the hand.
This was amazing … Shared with others.. Thanks!
I agree with you Sir
thanks for teaching i liked It!
thank you for the video 👍🏽
This is spot on!
My 2 year old son likes to scream like a banshee to get my attention. For example, we live in a one bedroom apartment right now and his father goes to work around 6am.(He shuts the door so our son cannot get out, bc he has successfully opened our front door before..) When our son wakes up, he plays for a little bit. But, if im still asleep, he will come next to my ear and start screaming or smacking me to get me up. Or if he wants something, as well. He will scream or throw a tantrum for it, and it really drives me bonkers. 😭 I really want to teach him how to communicate better so that hes not just screaming for everything.... Hes not a bad kid. Hes so smart, and he listens most of the time. Like, I've successfully taught him how to clean up his messes himself if he decides to throw something on the floor. He will pick it up and throw it in the trash. And he will put his plates, cups, utensils in the sink when hes done eating. But the SCREAMING when he wants attention or a specific thing, is definitely bad. 😭😭
Our major struggle is that my oldest will not fall for the “fools choice” tactic. He never has 😂 We give him 2 options and he will construct a 3rd, and THATS the one he wants. I have to give him a count down of when I will choose for him.
There are so many moments I feel inadequate as a parent- but lately I’ve watched my son standing up for himself gently with my daughter, and it makes me think maybe this will all be ok. She’s 1, just started walking, and so she’s prone to hit if someone is in her face or she gets mad. When she hits my 3 year old, he calmly says “no no, we don’t hit. I need you to not do that again because it’s not nice to your brother, ok?” He doesn’t hit, he doesn’t yell, he even puts a hand on her shoulder sometimes. She even responds “ok” and smiles at him 4/5 times. I love it. Granted, I do have to step in to remind him that she’s limited in her speech and can’t say “hey I need personal space” so we need to be aware and respect her personal bubble. I’m not expecting that to stay- especially as their disagreements or fights get more complicated, but for now it’s so reassuring that they’re being kind to each other. I hope it’s because of how we’ve disciplined my boy so far- always explaining the “why” to him, and making sure he can repeat back why he is in a timeout or why a toy went away.
It seems like he’s interested in explaining to his sister why the standard should be the same for her too.
Absolutely love this!
Same here my twins will not choose from two options they want their own option or its a 40 minute tantrum to get what they want. Once thats finished I do the choices all over again and the tantrum start again. So I say ok we will not go to the park anymore then. Its usually to do with outdoor gear, its freezing cold or rainy and they hate thick gear. You know cant exactly let them have their choice in that matter. But for us its not improving, its just one un intended power struggle after the next even though I set out for them to have choices and be empowered. We go outside and I start walking towards the park...no we want the other park...tantrum...I make two snax, no we want something else, I dont give it so they go on a food strike and dont eat. And the hanger tantrum follows an hour later. And I run for yoghurt and jam to get blood sugar up. Omg they are almost 3 and we legit have a minimum of 10 tantrums a day here. I start to think either I just happened to be the worst mam in history or they have a diagnosis. Every hour, tantrum. Big fights between them. Sometimes I dont feel like being inside out own home and I have hard core day dreams of a peaceful home and cry...a home where I once get to see them content...peace. This is a warzone. I have tried so hard a gentle parenting but it musnt be clicking in my brain how to do it correctly because my toddlers will break it down in 30 seconds. I have tried this way since they were one and they have zero improvement, they are worse however, to the point of me feeling embarrased publically and withdraw from the fun things our small town had to offer...reading at the library small theatre shows...they wreck those events and I have to take them out kicking and screaming. They were difficult babies from get go..like tantrums from 9 months of age. I feel so sad and defeated and I dont know what to do anymore.
There's some great advice in this video! Ignoring tantrums however is not one of them. Guys, don't ignore your kids. They have feelings too. Empathize with them
Sometimes you do need to ignore especially when you have repeatedly explained to them. Not that you don't Love them or sympathize with them but give tough love. I guess everyone does what works for them.
Agreed.. you don't "ignore" them.. you let them know you understand how they feel and you are there when they are ready to calm down. Doesn't mean we have to give them hugs and hold them why they go through it.. We just have to acknowledge them..
He means let them cool off so the kid knows he will not get his way by crying and yelling once they calm talk to them.
Well this stuff is really good and easy to understand thank you
Thanks dude I appreciate the advice
I try so hard to break things down and to speak, and have these conversations to learn and move forward. I do all of these things you've suggested ive studied SOAR in my work. Ive given empathy positive reinforcement made sure to show that im hearing her needs. Literally everything on this list ive hit, ive tried to ignore negative attention seeking, and just as you say 10:20 the power struggles keep going over and over. Im at a loss some time, whenever i got to work its worse and worse when i get home she bullies her mother and i cant get anywhere at this point.
It's not easy to allow my child to scream without giving attention especially in this day and age when the rent cost to live in someone's basement is more than I can afford. So allowing our toddler to scream into the night doesn't help there. A family home isn't an option for a lot of families.
I feel you. I have kids and a neighbor that calls the CPS because of yelling if it happens at all in the night. The craziest thing is that this neighbor has a toddler too. Their toddler has just reached the terrible twos and the yelling has started. I think I am not going to call CPS because of any yelling (in the night too) but I might make a request for some sort of mental health check... Who doesn't understand that toddlers yell and who ruins neighbor relations like this for basically nothing? (Well, we do have an especially strong-willed child that likes to try and terrorize with the voice.)
No you should do the same and add the mental check in there aswell because calling CPS they are trying to get your kids taken away so do the same. Or do an anonymous report😂
Thanks have learnt alot am a mom of 7
I hit play and my baby immediately started crying 😂.... his voice really startled her!!!
This video just goes to show that I've tried everything possible... and this nightmare's just gonna continue as is
Are you me 😂😂😂 I think we are living the same experience.
I remember these days!
Okay I sent a request on the previous video bt received Great revelation on this one
I was raised in an abusive athoritarian household. It’s all I know, but I know it’s not how I want to raise my kids. For their sake, I need to get a handle on better techniques.
This guy has nailed it in this video. Exactly how my wife and I are trying to parent and touch wood, so far so good.
unless strong willed or one parent doesn't displine. Stay at home mom looking beautiful cleans house and says no don't do that. Then the child out of control.
@@vlichtle Not sure exactly what you're meaning. Are you saying the child tells you not to clean the house?
Nonetheless, if it's that bad then there may be developmental issues, adhd, anxiety, etc.
So consider taking them to a psychologist for assessment.
Not a pediatrician, unless insurance requires a referral. I say that because too many md's will blow off the problem.
So, if they do then say something like.. "Well it can't hurt to be sure, so humor me please"..
Worse comes to worse, find a new ped.
This guy gives great advice Except to ignore the child!
So try it first If you haven't already & be consistent.. BUT.. Not "ignore" the child! That's like saying, I don't give a crap what you're feeling!
Sure, they may just want to get there way(sometimes) but there's ways to acknowledge & deescalate, distract, etc. Which helps them learn to calm down on their own(self regulate) eventually & that talking about feelings is a good thing!
We don't ignore a friend that's crying, why should we ignore a child!?!
The friend is crying because their overflowing with emotions. So is the child & they have no clue how to deal with them, unless we teach them.
I'm sorry for the book! I'm passionate about it because I have a daughter that Isn't using these techniques, except the ignore one & it's hell to see her put my grandchild through that.
Best of luck..
I hope you get it figured out..
Thanq sir
List a recap of your big points at the end of the video or in the description.
Excellent video thank you
I feel it's a mixture of both explain talk about what they did and how and why they did that. However they need to know that there are consequences if the act continues. Like in life if you break the law you may get a warning or a lighter charge however if it continues harsher punishment. Giving them choices works very well and makes them use their own brain
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Exactly right having no consequences whatsoever is not a life lesson I would want my kid to learn 😮
I agree
Great information
You got me on agree to disagree:)
This is the first video I have seen
Looking forward to learning from you
Great vid brother
I enjoyed the entire thing, the ignoring aspect is something i grew up with. My parents were full of info and tips, now i see with open eyes a lil’ better
Baby boy gonna be with me tomorrow! My first! 🎉🎉
More empathy, got it.
Hi! I'm new on this channel. At the moment, the disclaimer feels a bit too long. The advice looks reasonable and helpful, thank you 🙏
Oh, and your articulation is delightful. You are traktuje pleasant to listen to.