How to Stop Toddler Tantrums - 6 Secrets to Calm Your Child’s Temper | Dad University

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  • You want to stop toddler tantrums but it seems impossible. Your child's temper gets out of control and you feel helpless. Well in this video, Jason reviews how to stop toddler temper tantrums. In it, he provides 6 secrets to calm your child's temper.
    Understanding why toddlers throw tantrums is the first hurdle. When you understand what the meltdowns are really about and how little control the toddler has, you begin to understand how much of the responsibility falls on us to deal with it properly.
    It doesn't matter whether your child is 2 years old or 4 years old, dealing with temper tantrums isn't easy. Be sure to watch all 6 secrets as they can help you stay more calm and re-frame how you think about what your toddler is going through.
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  • @dani09eveline
    @dani09eveline ปีที่แล้ว +119

    I swear these toddlers be teaching us how to be strong 😅

    • @keshahenry8449
      @keshahenry8449 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Tell me about my granddaughter is the truth

    • @kgk8995
      @kgk8995 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amen to that 😄

    • @OGStazzy
      @OGStazzy 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They really do. I’m 24 with two daughters and after spending a plentiful of time with my daughter and then hanging with my friends who are my age with no children, I realize I have learned many subtle things that have enlightened me. Still I enjoy a good time but the rope is short and healthy.

    • @luceshainavjeanbaptiste99
      @luceshainavjeanbaptiste99 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😭😭so true

    • @paolaventuro6868
      @paolaventuro6868 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@keshahenry8449😊😊para 😊😊

  • @melanieblankenship4691
    @melanieblankenship4691 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    "Instead look at it as if you have not yet taught them how to deal with the situation." - I love this piece of advice

  • @gerac
    @gerac 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Great advice! Thank you! Now tell me how to calm down my wife when my son is having a meltdown haha

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Definitely DO NOT say "calm down"! :)

  • @malvikarana4132
    @malvikarana4132 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    My two year old is throwing tantrums for screen time these days. Thanks for the video.

    • @rue2003
      @rue2003 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This one is very dangerous! Don’t give them the iPad trust me, my 2 year old ended up sleeping at 3am and having tantrums till I just took all the electronics away, now it’s better. She sleeps on time and is happier

  • @peggynance9438
    @peggynance9438 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Kids will always try to see what works to get their way.
    Like I used to babysit and my kids were 7 and 4 when I started babysitting.
    They had tests one day and I asked if they did good so they each told me they got good grades.
    So I said as a reward let's stop and get a ice cream sandwich.
    They both right off started I want a banana split and the oldest said I want a large one.
    But I had said a ice cream sandwich.
    See they were demanding what they wanted.
    So I drove on past it and they said Peggy you just st passed it.
    We going to get some it banana splits remember?
    I said I was willing to get you a ice cream sandwich.
    But you never listened so now we get nothing.
    They got taught a very good lesson to hear what I had told them.
    But when the grandparents came they said we didn't get our banana split we wanted.
    So their goes the lesson because they got their banana split and then told me the next day all about it.
    If it had been me I would of told them next time listen to what Peggy tells you so you not miss out.
    I never believed in yelling at kids I'd say now and they stopped.
    Then I'd go and give them a hug for listening to me.
    But if they didn't then they lose something.
    Years ago I took care of a 3 year old and his sister was in kindergarten and brother 9.
    I seen him the youngest get all his toys out of his toy chest in the front room.
    And after I asked him to pick them up.
    He said it's not his job.
    So I said ok I'll pick them up.
    After lunch and his nap both.
    He went to get into his toys I said no.
    So he started a fit why.
    I said because you would not pick up your toys.
    He never pulled that again.
    I do not believe in yelling or hitting much if ever.
    But do what helps them realize they did not do as told, so he lost it.
    He later said when my mommy gets home you'll see I'll get my way so I told the mom and she said no toys tonight either you need to do as told.
    That broke him of ever pulling that again.
    We must have compassion but yet enforce rules if they break them they lose something.

    • @MichaelPhongMitchell
      @MichaelPhongMitchell 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I will try that with my older son!! Thank you for the advice!! :)

    • @taylorbabbidge
      @taylorbabbidge 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      This is so helpful, I am not a mom yet, but I am preparing
      !!! Thank you ❤❤❤

  • @sessicelia1041
    @sessicelia1041 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very good advice, thank you

  • @hienienguyen6766
    @hienienguyen6766 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    this is so hard to do when being a single parent. oh lord it just ten times harder for me. but i want this to stop.

    • @dcoconutdreams
      @dcoconutdreams ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same and it is maddening

    • @eralec
      @eralec ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know how you feel

    • @tonettewilkes13
      @tonettewilkes13 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed.
      - another single mom.

    • @vlichtle
      @vlichtle ปีที่แล้ว

      i take care of my grandkids use 123 then time out . explain why . As you know you have to keep taking them back to chair. reset the timer. It work. something i learned from video is have empathy frist say i understand your upset angry to leave the park . i will now use this frist .

    • @mayathebraveofkitwanga448
      @mayathebraveofkitwanga448 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey. How are you today?

  • @Petar1stProduction
    @Petar1stProduction 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love the advice. Thanks so much for this information

  • @sarahm415
    @sarahm415 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Extremely helpful! Thank you

  • @JustaCuriousity
    @JustaCuriousity 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It all makes sense now, thank you. Happy New Year.

  • @jans724
    @jans724 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very good talk / video! Thank you!

  • @dreabadar1620
    @dreabadar1620 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you sir!!! I most definitely understand now. ❤😊

  • @paulinafadrowska9177
    @paulinafadrowska9177 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for your channel currently with someone who has a child and I love seeing information we can' both watch and come together to best handle situations and that I can help and assist him.

  • @wasihunhmariam2152
    @wasihunhmariam2152 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank You🙏🙏🙏

  • @sittiinah1602
    @sittiinah1602 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have learned a lot! thanks for this informative video.

  • @Crypto_Brandon
    @Crypto_Brandon ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks dad

  • @sugarbear9347
    @sugarbear9347 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you so much for this video. There are several people, myself included, in my sons life that could use this advice

  • @Djaktfaves
    @Djaktfaves 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sometimes kids just need hugs ❤

  • @megandidavi9183
    @megandidavi9183 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Great ideas! My favorite is #6 empathy. I also agree that we shouldn’t go back on our word. No means no. But I’m not sure about ignoring the tantrum. Like you said, we can empathize with their disappointment so they feel heard and understood while learning that their parents/caregivers are strong and supportive.

    • @MichaelPhongMitchell
      @MichaelPhongMitchell 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My older son knows when I am serious about something. When I tell him no in a serious voice or I tell him to stop, he stops immediately. But, with my wife, he keeps nagging, whining, or crying because she gives in to him sometimes, especially when he throws a temper tantrum. But, when she counts to three, she does what she said she would do. He knows he will not get away with murder with me. I guess I got that firmness from my adoptive mother who was strict and firm, yet fair. When he throws a temper tantrum or cries and I am around, I tell him he will not get what he was crying for. I am teaching him that crying and screaming will not get him anything or a reward. He knows that I mean what I say. When I tell him to be quiet, he does not stay quiet until I count to two. Then, he stops. I am getting tired of that!!

  • @petergriffiinbirdistheword
    @petergriffiinbirdistheword 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I wish you indicated what age to ignore and what age to act. You say order child and younger child but as a first time mama, I have no idea what you mean. Is 3 an older child or is 6 an older child? I don't know.

    • @joemoon1943
      @joemoon1943 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

  • @BourbonandaBaby
    @BourbonandaBaby 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Thanks for the tips Jason! Max is just over two-years-old and the tantrums are ramping up, I'll be putting this advice to good use!

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hope you are doing good. Have you been through the webinar?

  • @grumpy-_-ghost3911
    @grumpy-_-ghost3911 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Good advise all the way through! Thanks

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you. Glad you enjoyed it. Do you have a toddler?

    • @grumpy-_-ghost3911
      @grumpy-_-ghost3911 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DadUniversity if I didn't and watched this. I would question myself. Lol

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I get people that watch videos and comment all the time that aren't in the exact situation of the video topic

  • @michellelaboricintron961
    @michellelaboricintron961 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Oh man I am reading this and so feeling like I am not alone. I have a bit of a Chucky on my hands. Mine is 3 and a half and my oh my.... I have never been so stressed out in my life 😫 he is an only child so we put him in a part time school to start getting used to being around other kids, playing and sharing with them. But this little boy now hits, and kicks and even broke a chair at school. I've seen lots of videos, massages techniques, relax and meditating music even putting him in a corner. And NOTHING seems to work 😭 he has a great big attitude. Lord help me Jesus 🤕 Helppppp!!!!!!

    • @pamelapauline70
      @pamelapauline70 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hi. We've got a 2 1/2 year old great grandson, who lives with us and our granddaughter, his mom. I got tired of it all, so time out in his bedroom has worked wonderfully and it's what his pediatrician suggested. A few minutes of banging on the door, crying to get out, and our response is when you calm down, we'll let you out. He starts to calm down, so these "professionals " who say they don't understand that is hogwash. We do stand at the door and have only had to do it about 4 times. Now it's, "stop hitting or you'll go into time out in your room" and that's enough to stop him in his tracks and realize he isn't going to get his way. Stay calm and in a positive tone when talking to your son. Don't lose it yourself. Our great grandson is the only child in the home as well and he's yet to start pre- school. In Idaho, that is at age 3, for true pre- school, not baby sitting. But the time out method is proving to work. We do talk to him at the beginning and give him the chance to do something different. If he chooses to hit or try to scratch us, we calmly tell him, he'll go into time out of he doesn't stop. But you have to be consistent and follow through with what you said you would do or it won't work. Consistency is the key. He's being taught the right things, but he started choosing to act out and we think it's from watching his folks argue. My daughter will not stay with the dad, doesn't trust him. But he loves his dad and it's up to him to form his own judgements, not for us. He's not a terrible person, but doesn't support his son. Our granddaughter and we do. He has made some bad decisions in life with A DUI, he talks to my granddaughter like trash, so he only visits regularly. But the child has seen them fight and argue, so we think that's where his rage is coming from. Anyway, this is working for us. Just tonight, he wanted me over his dad, then in frustration, even when I did go to him and pick him up, in his frustration, he tried to scratch my face, and I told him if he tried to scratch grandma again, he'd go to time out. At that point he just hugged me and said "grandma's room" and indicated he wanted to go upstairs. So we calmly did. It's working. But be consistent. God bless.

    • @user-qv9lh9ph3h
      @user-qv9lh9ph3h ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Omg! I so feel you, I’m taking care of my 2-31/2 yr old identical twin girls & they are like night an day. I am having such sn issue getting one to quit throwing things! I put her in her room every time and throw away the thing she has thrown and then talk to her after her time out, but it just doesn’t work… she threw a cup and broke the tv… Help!!!! It has to stop. I keep thinking and hoping it’s just a phase, she does it also when she’s not upset.

    • @pamelapauline70
      @pamelapauline70 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@user-qv9lh9ph3h it is just a phase, but also am indication of her personality. She is going to need alot of guidance in her years to come to vent properly to get the response she'll want. She's showing she has a very strong personality. Being this is our great grandson, this is our 3rd time around with kids. We have a son that was a problem early on. Since we had 3 kids in 3 years, his siblings were very close in age. He needed more attention than the other 2 did. He demanded it. So we, being old school, used to spank. That would work until he got bigger than me. Then it was following through on what was taken away, not thrown away, because that affected the other 2 as well, especially our daughter, the youngest. But consistency won in the long run. He has turned out to be a very positive adult, a perfectionist as well. The other 2 are not perfectionists, thank goodness, because we are not perfect, just tried to do the best we could. You might ask to see if there is any therapy your pediatrician can refer you to. They do have therapies for kids who act out, as they try to assess why and come up with ideas on how to deal with your child. I know for our great grandson, the weighted little vests you can buy on Amazon, or other retailers for whatever reason, it seems to work. She could be upset about something you don't understand yet if she's not able to verbalize it. But the pediatrician and the cognitive therapist both suggested letting him have his tantrums to get his feelings out. So we do, but in his bedroom. I don't know how old your daughter is, but they have noticed worldwide an increase in frustration with kids born during Covid. Speech has been affected with the whole stay at home garbage. We won't be doing that again. There are lots of things to ask yourself. Did this start happening after any vaccines were given? Brandy Vaughn, used to work for Merk pharmaceuticals. She became a whistleblower about how vaccines do not go through stringent testing. She also reported that they don't tell the public about side affects of vaccines and are not forthcoming with their real findings. She ended up dying suddenly last year on December 7th. The Europeans are far healthier than we are, don't vaccinate as much, but rather rely on good food and exercise. Unfortunately, Brandy was stopped with her sudden death in getting out the truth. Also ask yourself if something consistently precedes her tantrums. Keep a journal to see if something that is ok with your other child, could be upsetting the one. God bless you and I'll put you in prayer. We are finding our way through this as well. We've decided no more vaccines as well. We live in Idaho, so it's a choice here to vaccinate or not. Our daughter also has a 2 year old little girl, 27 days older than our great grandson. She throws fits but they are getting less and less as she's learned to talk. My other grandson had a bad reaction to his kindergarten vaccines, so they have not vaccinated him anymore and she's won't vaccinate her daughter. Needless to say, they are moving back to Idaho shortly so they have the right not to vaccinate. She's had a tough time in Ca already about it and that grandson is 13 now and is being homeschooled by a company that doesn't report to the state, Your state may not allow you that option. I'll definitely keep you in prayer though.

    • @mayathebraveofkitwanga448
      @mayathebraveofkitwanga448 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey, Michelle. How was your day?

  • @tink41503
    @tink41503 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Love these. I know its true because my family already uses these!! Redirection instead of giving in and saying thank you a lot seriously goes a long way

  • @Rui725
    @Rui725 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ignoring is not always the best apporach. You're training the child that it's wrong to have emotions and they should just shut it down.

  • @adamcohen9658
    @adamcohen9658 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I like the "ignore" method, but what about when he starts touching something he shouldn't or grabs something dangerous? I then have to take it away/stop him.

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  ปีที่แล้ว

      There are many different methods for many different situations. You test many and decide what works best for you.

  • @jamiebell7552
    @jamiebell7552 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Now is this specifically dads, is there a different approach for mom? I’m so overwhelmed and I really just want to do the best for him! Any tips and videos help! He just gets so angry, screaming and hitting

  • @andrewpeppard6331
    @andrewpeppard6331 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you

  • @GEKENILWORTH
    @GEKENILWORTH 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    The phrase "Calm down," doesn't work for adults, either. Think about it: if you're being told to "Calm down" does it make you feel more peaceful, or does it ratchet up your irritation?

  • @briannamcalary7432
    @briannamcalary7432 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My son is one but is 6 months advanced, he hasnt mastered communicating enough to encourage using his voice, he knows what im saying most of the time though and uses small sentences, last week he started these seriously intense tantrums that would last hours and refused to eat in his high chair. I bought a new high chair and he was ok with it twice but then went back to screaming at his high chair. He eats everywhere else in a high chair but at home. I have to keep getting creative with dinners trying to get him to eat and he gets mad when hes hungry but wont eat in the high chair. I had to put him in his crib to sleep because he had gone on for over an hour. I am using every fiber of my being right now to stay calm through this intense screaming and screeching phase. I am going to try some of these, i have tried the ignore one recently and it worked for the car seat but not the mornings yet

    • @joemoon1943
      @joemoon1943 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

  • @jennagibson290
    @jennagibson290 ปีที่แล้ว

    Is there any mom channels like this

  • @brendabagull777
    @brendabagull777 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Does anyone have the “link to connect to this dad superhero?? I didn’t see it . Pleeeeae 🙏

  • @user-zp8ew1gi4e
    @user-zp8ew1gi4e 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is exactly the advice l needed...thank you! My son never had tantrums, but my 17 mth old grandson has just started and they are next level!! 😂 Not knowing how to deal with this, l have felt lost. Especially loved the empathy part...

    • @joemoon1943
      @joemoon1943 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

  • @marcalbert674
    @marcalbert674 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "Your toddler is not out to get you personally" oh trust me mine clearly is.. pretty sure she could break a drill instructor 😂

    • @joemoon1943
      @joemoon1943 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

  • @jonalynmainit1727
    @jonalynmainit1727 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My four years old daughter was totally change her attitude after she hospitalized...
    She was having a seizure and pneumonia..
    She was a happy kid and a good girl before she was hospitalized...then after she hospitalized her attitude changed.. she's throwing tuntrums..i don't know what to do..and it makes my heart ache...seing my little like this..which is, she's change

  • @Buffbrot
    @Buffbrot 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks for the Video. Really enjoyed it. I have one questiin though: you implied we should sometimes ignore the tantrum and wait out the Storm. this kind of felt weird to me since i dont want my son to think im ignoring their Problem. My wife is still just pregnant though so i dont have any experience yet. Maybe you can elaborate on that point.
    Thanks again for your Video and your help :)

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      When you are dialed in to your child you begin to understand why they are having a tantrum. While it never feels like a good reason they are having it, there are plenty of times when you know it's not something "important". The child wants a toy or cookie or whatever. Reason and discussing it doesn't always work. They also want the attention and if you give it to them it reinforces their tantrum. You are simply ignoring that behavior, not ignoring your child's needs. I hope that helps

    • @Buffbrot
      @Buffbrot 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DadUniversity thanks for clarifying

  • @PunditKING
    @PunditKING ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I think skipping the entro before the entro would be good and provide a shorter video getting to the point faster.

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  ปีที่แล้ว

      Newer videos get to the point quicker

  • @baileynagel2579
    @baileynagel2579 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    As a mother watching thins, I love it. But what if my significant other doesn’t believe in “positive parenting”, like this, and just want to do spankings and time out? Our 2yo is starting to really get into tantrums and fits, and this is what I do with him. But dad doesn’t believe in “terrible two’s” or phases

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Ask significant other to watch some of our videos. You can't force someone to believe a specific way. You can only expose them to new or different information.

  • @theswampfisher3253
    @theswampfisher3253 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My toddler never threw temper tantrum. I just gave her the freaking evil eye. She stopped she no daddy doesn’t play.

  • @aperez6775
    @aperez6775 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Woo saw

  • @linamarie84
    @linamarie84 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You know, my niece is 4. Well she just turned 4. I watch her 6 days a week. I'm telling you this little girl talks back like no other! I've tried. She literally will tell fibs or fake cry etc. She even will wait until her dad leaves for work and will do something she knows she isn't supposed to do and say " you aren't gonna tell on me are ya?" 😮😮 Her 7 year old sister talks back also. She will not relent. At all. I mean it's unbelievable. Her mother treats her like she's an adult and I don't play that. It makes it so hard!!!! My Dad is a single parent of 8. If he can do it so can we. I say we because there are those of us who take care of our nieces and nephews at times more than the parent. I talk to them eye to eye, I am consistent in what I say and explain why etc. The 4 year old knows what patience is. She tells me she knows but doesn't feel like having patience. So what then?

    • @sweetb2006
      @sweetb2006 ปีที่แล้ว

      That 4 year old has No clue what patience means! Saying you have to wait can be understandable, nonetheless patience is very short for most every toddler, much less some adults.
      The big thing here is what you describe sounds like something out of the ordinary is going on with these girls at home.
      Not just mom treating them like adults. Though it's not clear exactly what you mean by that.
      I just Really hope I'm wrong that nothing bad is happening.
      I'd personally reach out to some Real psychologist(not just therapist), preferably pediatric ones that answer online questions on a site for free. Make sure to give clear, straight forward details & proof read what you write so as to get best answers.
      I'd also read some professional/legit we pages that explains what to look for in a "troubled" child, just to be safe. If you don't see any obvious signs that you read about, doesn't mean it's definitely not But also if only one or two doesn't mean something is.
      I Sooo hope I'm very wrong!!!
      Best of luck! 🤗

    • @johnrogan9420
      @johnrogan9420 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bad seeds....pass them off to an unsuspecting do gooder sucker.

  • @Marian-zw2ff
    @Marian-zw2ff ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The "don't give in" part is going to be hard for me to do. I am always the first to give in when my niece starts to cry. She's so cute to resist and I worry that if she cries too long her throat might hurt.

    • @taegiarestillsavage9561
      @taegiarestillsavage9561 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Please are her tantrums better no? I'm often left with my three year old niece and she yells and screams whenever she wants something and as soon as you give it to her she throws it down and starts yelling and crying for something else, I let her cry but she wasn't stopping so I feared she mite get a headache.

    • @MichaelPhongMitchell
      @MichaelPhongMitchell 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You just need to be firm and not give in. That is what I tell my wife. I have never given in to my older son when he cries or screams for something. I tell him that he is definitely not getting it, resulting in more screaming and temper tantrums. He knows that I will not give in to his temper tantrum or crying. He evenutally stops after a while, but he did not get what he was crying or screaming for. So for me, it is very easy because of how my adoptive mother raised me.
      In the long run, not giving in is the best way to go. If you give in, your child will learn that having a temper tantrum, crying, and screaming will work. When I tell my older son to stop in a serious voice, he stops immediately because he knows he will get a consequence if he does not stop after I count to three. Most of the time, it works. Sometimes, it does not work so I give him a consequence.

    • @molemaverick
      @molemaverick 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@MichaelPhongMitchell, god bless your adoptive mother. I envy you for having such patience and strength. I’m to the point where I’m about to bring back spanking from my generation. Everything I see says not to do it, so I don’t, but my son has no fear of me and tolerates consequences like a hardened individual. I’m preparing for war right now because I’m about to put an end to this once and for all, but I know there’s no perfect solution for me. I’m just hoping to raise a good man who will one day love and support his own family. Should be easy, right.

  • @CrazyDaveyBaby
    @CrazyDaveyBaby 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What part at the end was I waiting for

  • @rue2003
    @rue2003 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If my child acts out, they don’t get whatever they are crying for. That’s my policy. She can cry till tomorrow that way she learns that crying doesn’t get her anything!

    • @joemoon1943
      @joemoon1943 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

  • @moneyparhar
    @moneyparhar 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Our 3 year ild behave bad when mom is around.
    When im around he doesn't behave that bad but does some.
    Other times he behave bad when me and wife together.
    He uses mom as escape or get leverage. He keep in hitting in school. We told him don't hit or push. He said i will not do it again but he does it again.
    I don't know if he understands what we saying or something else.

  • @AymanAyanKRJ
    @AymanAyanKRJ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My 3 yrs keeps telling me mummy am sad ,I wanna be happy😢😢

  • @mariamnoshy6072
    @mariamnoshy6072 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have a 2.2 year old daughter.. she wants to see tv and never accepts a no. She hits herself in the ground. And keep screeming and crying. For 15-30 minutes and then screems for a milk bottle and go to sleep.
    Or when i am cooking and she wants me to hold her while i am cooking
    Or like when we hang wet clothes together if i change the place of what she was hanging she throws a fit and keep screeming crying and hit herself in the ground.
    What should I do in all those situations
    and is it normal?
    And she doesn't listen to me
    As if she shuts down and doesn't listen at all.
    And if i try to hug her she will be more lound. And probably i will get hit in my jaw from her going up and down jumping and screaming

    • @joemoon1943
      @joemoon1943 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

  • @narendralodhia
    @narendralodhia 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m suffering from this jealousy and tantrum even when my sons r older 38 & 40. I have learned my mistakes and my wife too. It’s too late. They r separate and not want to c each other. One sided competition. Kindly tell ur viewers how much it will affect them in future if NOT TAKEN CARE OF NOW. It’s a lot of hard work latter. Trust me. Much more painful.

  • @rhainetigas7520
    @rhainetigas7520 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I hve a 5yr old boy, everytime he commit mistakes his dad spank and shout him everytime he do wrong. When i scold him he dont listen me or he jst ignore me but when his dad get angry he will calm down. What will i do so that he will obey me also

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      The spanking and getting angry would need to stop so you both can parent in the same way. Being firm and loving at the same time.

  • @rizeaalexandru5727
    @rizeaalexandru5727 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yeah yesterday my 2year old daughter grabbed my earing and almost torn my ear ,that got me so angry. Thats why I'm here ,i lost it yesterday

    • @joemoon1943
      @joemoon1943 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was

  • @cabanaho
    @cabanaho ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This doesn't "stop tantrums now" like the thumbnail suggests... it's at best some good advice to instill to parents while their children throw tantrums and how to handle them in a positive way. However it doesn't help to end tantrums or stop them early... at least not for mine... it just seems to come down to letting them grow out of it...

  • @cindyrobertson3798
    @cindyrobertson3798 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don't do screaming. I put a towel on the floor or what ever is handy and walk away. Here's your example. Make your letter to a 4 year old. .no not paid enough for shrieking..

  • @molemaverick
    @molemaverick 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Where does punishment come in?

  • @kiannahdanaelove
    @kiannahdanaelove ปีที่แล้ว

    lol

  • @ksenjakolesina2889
    @ksenjakolesina2889 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh my God, it’s horrible…

  • @lynchinjesus
    @lynchinjesus ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The problem with these kinda of videos os you're literally saying one size fits all for all children. It's the same issue with the medicine. My kid throws tantrums but doesn't give a fuck about what I say or do. She doesn't respond to redirecting and refuses to communicate. So this fast out doesn't work because those are the constants in her behavior.

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  ปีที่แล้ว

      Understood. I hear you. This video provided only 6 tips. There are others but viewers don't typically like really long lists :) You are correct that kids respond differently so it's important to try many things and be consistent.

  • @LeadingPaws
    @LeadingPaws 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This doesn’t answer of what or how to respond when your child physically hits you. There is an amount of discipline that needs to be established so that “no” alone is all that’s needed. And is only needed once. Positive reinforcement is how you train dogs to do tricks when they do good behaviors, and yes it’s similar with toddlers I believe, but training your dogs to do tricks is done with positive reinforcement, there is a part of training dogs to stop bad behaviors. This is done with negative reinforcement. Actions have consequences. If you need to make sure your child doesn’t hurt themselves at the moment you first see them look at you while sticking something in an electrical socket for example, a very stern “no” is certainly required. There is nothing to wait out. That all being said, my question is, how do you respond if your child physically slaps you or your wife?

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      th-cam.com/video/eLQGwMhNNl4/w-d-xo.html

  • @perovato02
    @perovato02 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I only wish this was in Spanish.

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      we started to translate some videos in Spanish but had to pause due to resources. We are hoping to eventually do it again in the future.

  • @Blahmanwhysoserious
    @Blahmanwhysoserious ปีที่แล้ว

    Dad University? 14 min long? Must be for moms, lol

  • @VanettaMosetta
    @VanettaMosetta ปีที่แล้ว +4

    What I'm noticing about all of these so called child help videos is they spend so much time telling us stuff we already know and have heard a million times before they get to the point! So that all we remember is the same stuff we've heard a million times and not the point. I'd love to see a video that gets straight to the point and repeats the valuable, useful information instead of the stuff we already know (that doesn't help)! Forget the "what," forget the "why," focus on the "HOW!"

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for the feedback. You may want to review the newer videos as this one was from Mar 2021. We learned to get more to point :)

  • @epacm50
    @epacm50 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Stop the madness with brain flash therapy.

  • @lynchinjesus
    @lynchinjesus ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You know kids use to be smacked and punished before and people turned out pretty tough and strong. I think most of this soft parenting crap is leading to weaker parents and more wild entitled children.

    • @DadUniversity
      @DadUniversity  ปีที่แล้ว

      Disagree, wild and entitled children is from lack of parenting not what you would call "soft" parenting.

    • @pamelapauline70
      @pamelapauline70 ปีที่แล้ว

      I Agree to a point. I'm 60, so went through the parents spanking all of the time, to bring parents ourselves and not wanting to do that to our kids. But even my mom, would wait until we were older to make sure we understood fully why we were being punished with the paddle. But but as toddlers. We use time out. It works. Our 2 1/2 year old great grandson understands us just fine because if we say he'll go into time out and he does it again, then he knows he will be going to time out and he stops acting out. You don't SMACK or use the paddle on a toddler. That's just plain wrong.

    • @lynchinjesus
      @lynchinjesus ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@pamelapauline70 you don't have to heat a toddler but slapping their hand when they don't stop reaching for something dangerous or keep disobeying put them over your knee and spank them. Not hard but know it's a punishment and that they are being bad. Timeout doesn't work for everyone. Most kids just make timeout a fight.

  • @Just7Steps
    @Just7Steps ปีที่แล้ว +2

    In this video you were actually quite on it until minute 8:33 where you once again showed a lack of understanding of what Positive reinforcement is. Showing appreciation isn't positive reinforcement unless it works to increase behavior. So, if it works it was positive reinforcement but if you do it and it doesn't work, for that child for that behavior it was not positive reinforcement. Pretending that every child will react to positive praise and appreciation is setting a large number of your clients to fail. Sorry. You need to be better. And luckily you got better by 9:33 but I'm not sure you know why. Do you have any credentials? I can't find any listed here for you.

  • @johnpet23
    @johnpet23 ปีที่แล้ว

    Can you please speak to the point and shorten your videos?

  • @reneek7721
    @reneek7721 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How to stop toddler tantrums:
    Don't have children, wallah no tantrums.

    • @sleepingbeautyisnotwoke
      @sleepingbeautyisnotwoke ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It’s voilà not wallah.

    • @reneek7721
      @reneek7721 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sleepingbeautyisnotwoke:
      Tell autocorrect although I don't think it will help.

    • @sarahgbadebo9415
      @sarahgbadebo9415 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂

  • @bubblybull2463
    @bubblybull2463 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Worst advice ever ! A toddler seeking attention needs to get it otherwise it’ll feel unloved and ununderstood. To calm down they need to isolate and when they have calmed down then they’ll be rewarded for their good behavior. That’s how you deal with a tantrum. Ignoring it will make the behavior stick and won’t teach them anything !

  • @DadUniversity
    @DadUniversity  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hey Guys, hope you enjoyed the information on stopping toddler temper tantrums. If you are interested in learning effective discipline strategies, check out my course: www.daduniversity.com/courses/effective-discipline-strategies/?=ytc166 inside the Dad University Membership.

  • @conniedevos7900
    @conniedevos7900 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Your turn my turn also helps..❤

  • @d011p4rtz
    @d011p4rtz หลายเดือนก่อน

    is it ok for moms to subscribe? I'm a stay-at-home-mother and pretty much the soul caretaker about 95% of the time with limited help🥲

    • @joemoon1943
      @joemoon1943 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill and improved from his speech delay since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was