And Nothing Can Ever Ruin This
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AND YOU DECIDE TO *MURDER* HIM
but quickly remember that’s illegal
Ahahahaha
TheFandomFish LOLOLOL
If not for the laws of these lands, your kidnies would have been larcened by the govenor of the undergrounds years before now
I know that feeling, I know
TheFandomFish that’s when I hit the like button
So... a relationship with a girl with a birthmark on her neck will always end badly?
I think thats what he was trying to say...
And ones on the shoulder
I have a birthmark on my neck and I've never been in a real relationship... It all makes sense now
No. A relationship with a girl will always end badly.
@@pathetic_maggot let's all become gay then!
The "Then you realise you actually still have friends who have been patiently waiting for you for fucking years" is definitely my favourite
Thank you friends.
She was my best friend the love of my life I lost everything everything is ruined
@@galagoose7660 same boat bro
I dont have any friends to fall back to.
She was my only world and thats my mistake because I made her this way. 2nd time the exact same thing is happening.
I gotta learn how to make true friends and be happy just by myself.
Those things are probably immeasurably more valuable than a love partner.
I’m at that stage, and I wouldn’t be living if it wasn’t for my friends. Not in the literal sense, but in the “what is life, really” sense. I’d be alive, but thanks to my friends I have a life after the breakup
I used to be very scared of creating a deep relationship and then being dumped. And then I started working as a security guard at the age of 18. I met a wonderful elderly woman who on every shift called her husband and talked with him for an hour or more. The memory of her always reminds me that there can be a lasting and beutiful love, you just both have to be understanding and developing.
I knowww, this conments section is so cursed. The point if this video is not to say that relationships are bound to fail but that both parties have to keep fighting for it to flourish
Not gonna lie, with all the other joke comments I started reading yours and when I got to “elderly lady” I thought this comment would take a different turn completely…
@@click6339 that’s a popular take but i disagree
you can’t force yourself love someone who you don’t love anymore
It takes a little bit of luck that you both still love the other a few years later
I have been blessed to find this comment thread
Thanks a lot for this beautiful comment
Content: Existential crisis
Video Category: *Comedy*
If life didn't laughed to your it's because she still didn't realized the joke you are
I see the comedy MY LIFE!
My life's a joke after all
I imagined the messiah being a bit taller, and not a cat
mfw douglas adams
"You briefly get in to healthy eating and Alan Watts."
I feel personally attacked.
Fuck, me too man...I was so fucking shocked when he said it because that s what im doing right now.. trying to eat healthy and listen to fucking Alan Watts, i might as well kill myself
It's actually lovely. We are still unique but more alike than we thought.
:D Briefly listening to Alan Watts and healthy eating was the only thing that applied to me from this video... but Ive been listening to Watts for months now (on ocasions, once a week... music and other things are also important) and Ive started eating better only recently. :d right now Im trying to go to bed at 20:00 and wake up at 4:00
My past breakup I literally did this and perked my head up when I heard it 😂
@@ghoulishskeptic5749 I did this after a past break up, and was actually making some great changes in my life until I started seeing my ex again. I fell back in to my old habits pretty quickly after that. Years later, I've recently revisited my interest in Eastern thought, traveled the world a bit and seen and read much more on Buddhism, Hinduism, etc.
I'm not a particularly spiritual person but I find their theology and philosophy fascinating. It adds a lot of color and perspective to my meditation practice even though all I really do is sit and focus on my breath.
My initial passing Alan Watts phase seemed to come and go at the time, but looking back, it planted a seed that opened my mind to a lot of wild experiences and I feel my life and perspective are a lot better for it.
I feel like it's easy to miss one of the main points here - it's not that every relationship turns out like this. It's the ones that lack effort. When you get trapped in romanticizing your partner, running after butterflies in your stomach without being able to communicate, show warmth and care when things get more serious and calm, it is only natural you will grow distant with the person that you once were so excited about. Love requires continuous trying and commitment. Without it, the words "and nothing could ever ruin this" become just a pointless mantra you repeat to keep yourself in a fantasy world. If you want a person you could spend your life with, you must get used to the idea that it won't always be easy, and yes, you may fall into the rut sometimes, and feel attracted to other people, and have arguments... but after all, it's a choice you make. It's your decision if it's worth a try.
Finally someone gets it
Glad this is high up, came here to say this too. The person he described is just mindlessly following his feelings and urges, it's base and basic, will lead to those shallow relationships that are mainly based on sexual attraction and are more susceptible to becoming tired of each other.
Also quite self focused. A good relationship is one where you are always trying to help the other person become the best version of themselves they can be, and they in turn may encourage you in your work or hobbies or education goals.
@@Adamjewell Yeah! Also, the described character bases their whole identity around the very idea of romantic love, forgetting their needs like friendship or self-fulfillment while in a relationship. "The food starts to taste good again" only when they meet someone new; this person finds it hard to be happy or content when they're by themselves. I think it's codependent behaviour, not very healthy, especially when unaddressed (although there's a short moment of awareness "or maybe you were just repeating the same dumb pattern again, but, god, it feels incredible").
Or you keep telling yourself this and you never leave a relationship that's "bad" for you. You unfortunately can't tell, or don't even want to know if someone is good for you or not.
You can put a lot of effort into someone it doesn't mean it'll work.
Life gets in the way, and sometimes you're more important than the relationship.
@@lightgiver428 I never said that one shouldn't leave an unhealthy relationship, just that each one has its challenges, and I emphasised the importance of an individual decision. And yes, there are no concrete definitions of what's "right" or "good".
I sent this to my crush because she was going through breakups and she said it helped her. Fast forward a couple months later, we were officially a boyfriend and girlfriend, and I thought nothing could ever ruin that. She then ghosted me and broke up with me lol. It's a full circle now
🤣🤣
send this to her again that would be funny
@@daddylonglegs3698 nah that's gonna break the system
One must imagine Sisyphus happy
your story is the same as him
If youtube had a''standing ovation button'' I would have pressed it.
I would have pressed it for this whole channel.
same but this video makes me so sad. like what's the point of doing anything anymore
god dammit now I'm depressed
Nubizynn same
The Watcher don't be. celebrate in the fact that you're much like all of us. not alone in your (possibly) endless cycle of suffering ^^
“You decide to murder him and quickly realize that’s illegal.” Yeah.
But it doesn't mean it would stop u 😂
@@aryanmn1569 stopped me though
blame Cain~
wouldn't stop me
Comments are at 666.
listened to this before, during, and, after something that could never be ruined. quality content
The fact that there is an after shows how much ruinable it actually was
well shittt, same because I watched this video months before meeting a girl, during our romantic times together, and after the break up. Its getting too real.
@@Error-zp5cp that’s the point
F-ck Man, same here. I heard this 7 years ago. I heard it 4 years ago when I just started with this girl, and now I'm back, recently dumped by her. What a real video
Ooooh youre fucking right
my girlfriend unexpectedly left me a few days ago after three years. I'm 32 and I've never felt more lost. The last time that happened this video helped me to get over it faster. Since Wednesday I've watched this video more than 10 times, but this time it doesn't help. I'm scared, I'm alone and don't know what to do.I've already thought about just ending everything. Thank you for all the wise words over the past few years.
My man, how are ya holding up?
Just talk to me, I am really here to listen.
I would love to know how are you now.
@@likore64
Hay. Thanks for asking. I'm doing ok. They are some hard days from time too time. It's not easy to live alone again, after 3 years of being with someone. Some good things happend after that, so I'm feeling a little better. Thank you again. Very kind of you.
@@djubreles89 Thats the least i could do for ya.
Now im happy by knowing that your better my man. Although I didnt have the same experience as you had, but i have been at similar situations when you feel alone. As your fighting life 1 vs 1. And also i know that sometimes its easier to tell so stranger whats really on your heart (cause i experience that regularly) so if you'de like we could talk so more in discord.
Anyway, i send you a hug. Be safe partner.
@@likore64
For now that's not possible, because my monitor is broken, but I will come back too you. Im really sorry for you. Hang in there body. If you need someone to talk too (a stranger) let me know.
@@lewis3774 That's awesome man, we surely could talk. Whats your discord?
Girl: *likes you
She might be Canadian and just being polite
It’s impossible for a girl to like me, if they do they are breaking the laws of physics.
Barbara Mulvaney Nah, straight Aussie mate
@@Authenticmemes1 awh, thats a shame... I was rooting for you two :(
I'm Canadian, and have met many women here who aren't that sort of polite. Sadly, our national identity as polite people is a bit of a misplaced stereotype..
We do apologize for pointless stuff though, that much is true.
That’s the best casual explanation ever :')
High school relationships are just speed runs of this video
made my night with that comment, thanks!
It isn’t a speed run of this video, it’s exactly the kinda shit this video is about!
shut the fuck up... please... just shut- up
@@fbi9009 why?
@@TheRivalryDrifting cause i was just extremely broken up over my highschool break up
This video reminds me of a post I saw today about someone having to interview married couples or adult whether love is a feeling or a choice. Everyone said is was a choice, a conscious commitment to make things work with a person who made the same decision. They also said that at one point the “feeling of love” faded, and when things were bad they chose to find what was wrong and fix it, and to recreate something worth falling in love with.
Then at the end there was this which I really like
“I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again”
Thanks past me, I forgot I wrote this, or even saw that post. I needed this comment now though.
@@MikeSmith-yw7vb you good homie?
@@MikeSmith-yw7vb i like that post too
honestly, I also forgot about all of this. The post I wrote and that comment I made. I don’t even remember why I needed it. But this is sweet to see again.
Except, you're right. No one, and nothing, can ever ruin the beautiful moments that you shared together. Life might go on without them, and it will, if it ends, but there is nothing that can take those moments away. Even death, or forgetting. Nothing can ever ruin the fact that those moments happened in this world. And I take comfort in that.
First line “you meet at the party”
Already unrelatable
same
press Y s(h)ame
COVID TOOK AWAY PARTIES FROM ME, I know how petty and privileged that sounds but every single "teen" or "coming of age" experience is something i have not had, and it's just sadd, my youth slipping away in front a screen
@@arohikhurana4818 same. I had some kind of social issues for a long time, but have achieved harmony with myself in the last few years. I started going to a few parties and BOOM - fucking pandemic and no parties allowed now that everyone is turning 18. There are obviously worse effects the pandemic had so far, but its still fucked
@@arohikhurana4818 bro its been only 1 and a half years. I don't know how old you are, but you got at least 6 or 7 years to experience those wild parties you've been hearing about. Don't worry man.
"A girl likes you"
Let me stop you right there Mr. you are making hypothetical illogical assumptions
Greta Skywalker your a fucking god
Dude i love your name
@@eila5388 Sure i am
Same
@@hairyputter5363 we thank you for your sacrifice
This will probably be buried under the other comments but this has gotten me through all my break ups and even when life is good I come and watch this again I cannot stress how much this means to me
No no fuck you this won't be buried. I love you whoever you are, do your best
me too buddy....
here for my biannual watch
One of the great lessons of life is that this is just a temporary experience...nothing more. It has a beginning at our birth and an end at our death, and every adventure within the confines of this experience will be just a slice of the whole...that can never last longer than the whole. And when you can acknowledge the impermanence of life you begin to realize that everyone you meet exists within the same parameters...and *any* time they are willing to spend with you sharing joy is miraculous and precious...because there are over 7 billion other people they could choose to spend this time with...but they chose to spend it with you. Be willing to joyfully let go, because that is the fractal paradigm of this existence and when you can do this with love and appreciation for the time spent together, many more adventures just like it will fill your journey.
Thanks for this. I'm considering becoming a Buddhist monk and never speaking to another human again.
Nandika Rama
I thought I was the only one that thinks this way
A nun. You need to become a nun. Well, i guess you could be a transgender monk, if that's a thing.
Anyway. Best of luck.
No you are not. And you know you it.
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I don't even have the skills to get past a "hello" before I runaroo. So atleast I have that going for me.
anyone else get the feeling that he's just telling stories from his life in the 2nd person?
3rd person
@@Jesse-fd5bv nope. second .
@@paulina222 3rd person
@@Jesse-fd5bv 1st person = "I, me"
2nd person= "you"
3rd person= "him, her"
he is speaking from the second person as if he is telling your story.
@@makiyat5861 nop its the 3rd persn. end of discusion.
She just broke up with me and now I'm watching this video as I used to everytime we fight..
26 years and I've never experienced such a pain.
I have always been sure that nothing can ever ruin this and this day will never come but it did...
It's ruined and she left exurb1a!
She is one of your biggest fans, I will never forget the laugh or the smile she makes when you talk about your cat or the happiness on her face when you upload a video and she comes to me saying "I've been waiting for you so we can watch it together".
Words are meaningless now so is life, i can't fight anymore..
She just left and took the happiness and my will to live with her.
Can't count how many women I've been with but this one was a God compared to any I've met and now she abandoned me.
It's almost midnight and I'm all alone crying like a bitch in the park with 2 cups of coffee I brought for us so I can remember how we enjoyed our first date in here.
I've just recorded 1 hour record so I can feel like I'm talking to her and not to myself because I'm ashamed to tell anyone about what happened and i really want to feel a glimpse of what I used to feel when we used to come here.
I just want to end it all.
I lost my last hope to have a better future and depression is eating me alive.
No one has been in love like I did.
The butterflies never left my stomach and the sex never been boring and her smile never stopped giving me hope in tomorrow.
But seems like there will never be tomorrow without her.
All I wish is her to be happy no matter what happens, and even if I wanted to be mad or angry about her I just can't.
Hope you always be happy Rahaf you're the first and the last real thing that ever happened to me and made me feel special and experience love.
And Nothing Can Ever Ruin This.
are you ok now bro? i feel just like you… but you have not to do it, leave me your insta
I hope you doing well bro, from my heart ❤
Hope ur alr man
ملاك كانت ملاااك
I love your writing style. Terrifying thoughts said in such an indifferent manner and irony that somehow feels honest ("Nothing can ever ruin this" sounds almost like a joke, but the audience knows it is a very real feeling) seem to be ever present in your work. Now to fill the void with yet another imperfect shape, ignoring the gaps or pretending that's how it's all supposed to be...
"You've forgotten what butterflies feel like," is one of the saddest sentences I've ever heard.
William S. reading this made me cry like a bitch
William S.
A
William S. That sentence got me
What does that mean? Like, butterflies in your stomach? Or literal butterflies?
Spazegamer in your stomach
Watched this video when I first met her
Broke up after 3 yo relationship
Came back to this video
Wash rinse repeat,
Hey same :(
^
I watched this, before I started dating her and I would get chills down my spine when he said stuff I could relate to at the start, I would then be completely oblivious to the rest. In the middle of our relationship, I could relate to everything in the middle of the video, I only got the chills in the middle. Now after our 6 months, and our breakup. I am rewatching it now. I have shivers after everything he says, it’s all memories that are wonderful but horrible. I’m not quite near the end of the video, hopefully I will get there soon. As we both know it will only happen again.
yep
“you remember what being human actually feels like.”
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“and subtly, so subtly you don’t even notice, you become yourself again.”
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“music starts to sound good again, food starts to taste good again.”
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“before long, the two of you are hanging out every other day,
and you can’t remember the last time you felt so alive.
is this what you were meant to be doing all along? or maybe you’re just repeating the same dumb pattern again, but, god, it feels incredible. maybe the whole thing is just some stupid gamble.
but you dont care. you didn’t care last time. because right now, you’re sure of it, more sure than anything, ever. and anyone who tells you otherwise is an idiot.
but nothing can ever ruin this.”
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it’s been almost six years but this video & especially those parts make me come back every 4 months this man is a genius
Over the last 3 years, whenever I am particularly happy about anything, the phrase "nothing can ever ruin this" just pops into my head.
we’re cursed mon ami
you have the rage bot profile picture?
@@AidenDe1 I mean it's Hal 9000 but close.
You know what, I'm gonna go home and hug my wife for no reason
Cherish her, dude. I hope you guys are doing well.
Hope it's going well.
be good to her bro 👍🏼
Hug her like it's the last time you will.
Bravo ti great flex love this for myself woewhaaanks
Me: man I'm feeling great today
TH-cam: I'm about to destroy this mans whole mental stability
I didn't even read this comment until after I liked it I just realized I would be 666th like but I good comment
jaava thanks satan
Imagine not doing that in the morning on your own everyday. *Pathetic.*
Exactly
😭
“And nothing could ever ruin this” that sentence sometimes randomly popped up into my head. I watched this around 2 years ago and I could still hear his voice say that one sentence.
The first date is never like the last date. Live your life folks.
Thanks depression turtle, I’m not even 20 but you’ve made me fear 30.
I’m afraid of turning 18 and I’m only 12.
Just hit 20 and currently crying in my closet, so my 20s 7/10 so far
@@ortherner im 18 and goddamn i wish i was 12
All of these people are scaring me and I'm 15 and half way done secondary school... Shit! Fuck! Damn it! It's that close isn't it? Well...
Im 15 and already fearing 50
"You re already 25 and 30 seems like a really big number that's getting scarily close."
I feel personally attacked.
My dad is 56 now, take that.
@@perciousmatter7001 my dad is 65 now, take that.
My dad is dead, take that
@@Mentally_Chill My dad is a ghost now, take that
My dad is 3 take that
rewatching this after a breakup is heart-shattering. nothing can ever ruin this until something did.
As a 14 year old whose never been in a relationship, this hits hard.
That’s funny
Try being 20 lol
bro u got all high school and college and after
Enjoy the youth kid, it's a downward spiral.
Push through, perceiver the pain and you'll end up on top
I second this, except I don't even have friends.
Well I'm happy with AP calculus BC
How many lives have you lived. Be honest
at least 69 times
Around 420
What the heck guys, I havent even finished the first one! ;_;
i don’t know about him but I live 17 one hour session lives a day. And there’s a lot of days. I feel what he’s saying. This is desperate. Is our universe that bad really? Is there happiness really? Is there happiness only while you don’t look at things? Or by not knowing? Or when you don’t remember things? Is pain inextricable from happiness? Is death some kind of restart of your feelings? I don’t like this idea
@@jerrygreenest You are the one who have to see the beauty in things. I know nothing lasts forever, but fuck it I'm happy right now and nothing else matter.
"The music is Chopins nocture Op.9 No.2. He's been dead for a while but please show him some love anyway."
What a quote.
This piece is a widely celebrated music in visual media industry.
A very common example is the series Dexter. This piece of music was mentioned several times in the series itself.
Also, a slightly altered version was presented in the movie 'The Pianist'.
It’s not Arthur Rubinstein playing it, makes me sad :(
@@scottmooney19 excuse me?
@@scottmooney19 what?
piece of shit exurb1a not the musician
"you meet at a party" yeah that's already not a video for me
I never leave comments and this is an old video but holy shit man. No one I know will see this but just I just need to say, why are you so insightful. I’m still pretty young and in highschool, and my ex girlfriend broke up with me last week. This was after months of her being distant, me constantly asking “is everything ok?” And then her constantly reassuring me that “yeah everything is good” but then going back to acting distant, stopping doing the little cute things we used to do together, stopped being physical, and she broke up with me last week (we almost made it a year btw) and after 4-3 months of her being more and more distant, no more physical stuff between us, and me constantly asking to do something cute together and her turning me down, she breaks up because “I don’t want a boyfriend rn” which sucked because I thought she was the one for awhile there. Anyway. This video really fuckin stuck out to me, cause in some ways it’s pretty similar. And it’s scary
You're probably not gonna believe but I am literally going through same shit rn. There's not a single thing different. I'm just probably older than you (I'm 22). Life's hard my man and love is not something that easy to do. It is mostly something that you feel glad to regret. Alas, trust me, it gets better eventually. Hope you'll do fine, I hope myself the same as well. İf you need to rant or smth, hit me up.
Life does repeat and does seem meaningless (probably is) but the best thing is, even though it ended with sadness, you had good times and had good memories. Unfortunately these often comes with great lessons. I made many mistakes and I have lost more than everyone but trust me when I say that life does not remember past and just runs to the future. Do not dwell OK the past, I'm not saying forget about it, make peace with it. Accept that good and bad things happened and it's in the past. Remember her and cherish the times you shared together. But also, acknowledge that it's gone. Sometimes we miss the boat we dream to be on but it does not mean it is wrong to watch the shore. Just be careful if the sea gets higher
Remember how two months ago you said "no one will ever see this"?
👀 SURPRISE MF! 😜
No, but seriously, I do have a point here. It's about the resignation of expectation. I'm 37 (christ... I'm 37 😒), still kinda look and feel in my mid-20's, and my psyche still clings to bits of the pessimism and bitterness I never quite shook off in my teens.
This video in particular actually stuck out to me 5 years ago when I had gone thru similar situations with a girl; it struck many chords. Now, it could mean that you found a kindred spirit in Exurb1a with this vid's unique message, or, perhaps more to importantly, so did everyone else. Meaning this kind of thing is ubiquitous... It's happening everywhere all the time. All I can say is that, for the time I've spent so far, even when you have resigned yourself to your own expectations, you have no idea what is around the next corner. That corner could be in five seconds or five years.
@@Kekesosoh how much I’d love to rant. Anyway u said u we’re going thru same thing, so ik it’s been 6 months but hope everything been alr for u recently
@@Goofyahmc Rant then? I'd love to listen my man.
I'm doing okay. Focused on improving myself for the better. I began getting professional help
Living and understanding my emotions really helped cuz I tend to run away from them lmao. Tldr; I took the rubiks cube that is my mind, shuffled it a bit and began solving it. It's not solved yet but some sides are the same color lmao.
I am curious about you tho. What happened?
Well these are nice thoughts for an early teen just getting into life
*Cries*
u talking to me?
Nuno The Dude why
Me as a teen, i would say that this gives insight into what’s eccually important in life, what is nothing, but the importance of life is what you make of it
I hope you understand what im trying to say, English is not my native language~
The moral is, don't screw
Imagine feeling like that but skipping the relationship part.
Yeah welcome to my life.
Same
oof
Dude that is amazing
@@StevePlaysSteveplaysyotube X shame
Same.
This video should labeled as
Warning: Traumatic Experience
This is probably my favourite TH-cam video of all time. It’s just so prosaic, beautifully written and genuinely beautiful. Every time I start getting together with someone I keep remembering the lines “you catch yourself thinking about her a little, then a lot, then all the time” and I realise I’m in this once again. Not for the better, not for worse. Just as a fact. So I start paying more attention, trying to put in effort and reset my mindset from the selfish ways that normally help me survive on my own, preparing myself for a potential beautiful period of my life that will hopefully last a lifetime (if we both put in the work)
This video also helps me get my emotions out after a breakup.
I just love this video for all the help and support it provided me with. Thank you so much 🖤
I've been married for 33 years. Nothing's Ruined It So Far.
What's your secret?
Love is a good start! Then forgiveness, and valuing what you've built together. How can people work together for years and then throw it away? Beats me.
Good for you.
wait is it weird that I remember you as the top commenter on The voice videos
Small world! Might see you there soon.
Why do these videos have such an effect on me
Because they are brilliant and true.
'cause 'dose maek yer think.A LOT.Ceraitive videos.
@Procrastinator cabbagehair Pardon?
+James Thompson @???dis is nut twatter u idiot.
Misspelling every word does not make you funny or clever.
through many relationships, this video has been a constant. I find it strangely comforting. Thank you, Exurbia
I genuinely don’t know how to describe it, but whenever I’m feeling like shit, coming to these videos just makes me keep on going. Things will be okay, they’re depressing and positive and just perfect, thank you for these videos, I would’ve been gone a long time ago without them.
“17 one hour sessions a day”
Mood
Yeah fucking noob numbers in my opinion
@@roomtempwater1 those are rookie numbers
That is so long
@@davidrutman9791 r/woosh
How the fuck did you make me both happy to be alive and also want to die in one video
That does seem to be a recurring theme on this channel
Kind of why I love this channel.
exurb1a seems to have a real talent for that sort of thing.
Effie Laver-O'Sullivan depressed turtle strikes again.
He also convinced me I don’t exist in eight minutes
As my dad once told me
Relationships are a lot like getting a dog. You know one day it will end but you get the dog anyways, because you don't care that one day the dog will die you just want to experience the loving and caring a dog provides while it's alive.
And then you blink and 23 years have passed by in a second. You're both still together, maybe out of shape, balding, wrinkles. And fights that actually mean something, laughter that makes your sides hurt for days, stories you look back on and cry and wonder why you did what you did, and on and on....
Then, if you're lucky, you're oldest is about to graduate high school and has been accepted to 5 different colleges. Five more than you were. And suddenly you're 18 again, watching you're fellow classmates in their caps and gowns getting their diplomas, you look for your parents and suddenly it's you again, looking down at that baby who just yesterday learned to walk, walk to be recognized for that 2 seconds of all that you wished you could have done and been.......and you'll wish you could do it all over again, every wonderful, glorious, loving and painful second that went by oh so quickly.
You'll feel those butterflies again, just in different ways. ♥
Me at 1 AM trying to sleep, TH-cam recommended: wanna have an existential crisis about something not even relevant to your life at the moment?
Unoriginal
Ortherner Almost everything is unoriginal if you really think about it
It is actually quite relevant to me
most unfunny comment on youtube
This video will never become relevant to me, because I will be forever unloved
One of the greatest pessimists of our generation, right here.
Ok and?
@@chuckf4973 and he's great.
realist*
the beauty in the simplicity of it though
But he is telling the truth though
New Person, Same Old Mistakes by Tame Impala hits too real
I'm rewatching this video over and over again. It's so comforting. So...nice. I cannot stress enough how much I want this to be my life.
Watched this video before I met her.
Here I am again after it ended.
Edit: aww shit here we go again
Same case... It feels terribly
I hate life, but it's worth... I guess
Its better to try and die than never try
Same and it happens to the best of us.
Same brother
Welp welcome to the club, I'm sorry you're here, and for your sake, I wish you short stay!
"no one has been in love like you're in love"
it is just that we can't describe how love felt at that time, it felt so strong that it feels like motions can no longer describe it. And since it can't be described by others. it felt like a one and only true love.
redbug nigga what???
He must watch Rick and Morty
Nah, the writers must be watching exurb1a!
_nothing can ever ruin this_
Believe it or not this video feels very comforting to me. I watched this first time in 2018 when I had my first breakup and I'm watching this today on loop again after my third. It hits differently this time.
Watched this once, two years ago. Now it just pops up in head at random intervals and I have to watch it.
Thanks exab1a, never been in love and now im terrified of it.
Thw Frog from Frogger SAMEEE😂
Glad he did his job right
You shouldn't.
Thw Frog from Frogger Don’t be. It’s just an emotion, and a cycle. As much as the cycle may hurt at times it is 100% worth it.
The thing about love is that it's about 10% more powerful then the pain. So definitely worth.
"You remember what being human actually feels like"
What is that again?
Jaron Loar I was wondering the same thing
Yeah
Seeking Truth also yea
Bruh no offense but how did this get so many likes he literally just copied 1 sentence from this video
Jist want to say that this will forever be one of my favorite Exurb1a videos and I think about it whenever a friend goes through a breakup or starts a new relationship...or whenever I start a new relationship. Thank You, Exurb1a for giving us a reminder to be careful and not easily fall into infatuation. I owe you one.
i come back to watch this video every 6 months or so - it resonates with me so uncomfortably closely. Beautifully written and beautifully read, thankyou exurb1a :)
Is this guy okey??
(if you're wondering what the edit is, before the comment said "sometimes I wonder if the owner of this chanel is okey" and I just thought it'd be better like this. Thanks for the likes :))
He's probably as ok as most of us.
ofc not
Torin Noble if supreme honesty is considered being ok then yes
Good channel tho
Nah he's just accused. I researched it and most of the stuff out there seems to be smear from an ex-girlfriend/business partner. The worst thing that I think this guy did was break into a house while drunk sleep-walking.
a bae is for a moment but a hand is forever
Lmao
+Sudev Sen Captain hook would disgree
Mmm, just what a I wanted, crushing loneliness of my own body and that's it. Why do people say this as if it's a solution? As if sex is the only thing.
Jamie Lannister would disagree
+NDfor SPDadsdas it's the glass half full approach
Whenever I feel sad about anything this I snuggle up, grab some alcohol and binge your videos. They always somehow make me feel less like shit. Thank you.
For some reason, I keep coming back to this video every now and then. It‘s utterly depressing and yet comforting. Thanks for your work. It makes me feel weird, scary, beautiful things.
Hey exurb1a... are you alright?
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Heh your pfp is kinda cool you can imagine two faces
Everything's awight
exurb1a is just a neurotic personality.
Yeah he's just as great as us!
Every time I feel something for a girl I can just hear your sarcastic little voice going "and nothing could ever ruin this" over and over again. You have cursed me. Keep up the good shit tho
Same, really. It makes me uncomfortable
Same here. I think it's a good thing though. It gives you the necessary caution to switch your brain on when you're in love.
LMFAO
Nothing lasts forever sadly
Good . Now you see the truth
"You're both young, probably late teens, and both screwed other people" My teens are almost over and I haven't done that part :')
i went through this recently, and this has helped me realize just how universal an experience it is. im coming out the other end, havent fallen for anyone else yet but im getting to the point where it doesnt seem like the worst thing in the world. this video helped contextualize how minor my story is, even though it felt like the most important thing in the world at the time. thank you.
something can ruin this.
its still worth it.
even if just for the memories.
So true, hard to let go sometimes
Doing this just for the memories sounds bad
I repeated in 2015 as I put all of my pictures of my exes into a folder called do not open until 2020 and then find excuses to forget that folder exists next year
Thanks for th mmrs even though they weren’t so great
I hate this comment because it's true
this is honestly the most heart wrenching thing ive ever sat through
kj22697 it's only heart wrenching because you're holding onto the idea that there isn't anything better than this thing that can and will always be 'ruined', dear friend.
Girlfriend of five years broke up with me.... Now I look at this from a different perspective. And I want to say thank you. For making me feel like im not alone
kj22697 No no no, it should show you that there are so many times you will love and feel loved, and that when you think "nothing will ever ruin this,"...well, errr...time will ruin it. But it will happen again. Or something. You're right, and now I see that. :/
stay strong my friend :)
kj22697 you had a five year old as your girlfriend?
I’ve probably commented this on other videos of yours but god damn do you hit every time. Nobody’s videos can take me through an emotional roller coaster quite like these ones. In particular this one hit home. My ex ended things around about 10 months ago now (somehow it still feels like yesterday) and I’ve been missing her a lot lately. Just those little things you notice about someone that makes the difference between liking them and loving them. It’s a video like this that puts the whole experience into perspective. As much as I feel like she’s the one, reality is that there’s a lot of ones and she was far from perfect. It’s funny, I know that the minute I let go completely is the minute someone better will come along into my peripheral. Life is so silly when you take even a single step back
Still love to rewatch this every so often.
I'm so glad I'll never experience this.
*cries in a corner
hehe forever alone 😥😥😥
Bruh
I feel you bro :))
wait till Irobots come irl but you make the personality and they have a vigina at thst point women will be replaced
So it's been 2 years since you wrote the comment. What do you think about it know? Have you found someone or do you think you will?
"You briefly get into healthy eating and Alan Watts"
Lmao that part was way too real
Ruben Cordoba Jr. agree
Ha turns out I listen to trance and was thinking a totally different guy
who's that?
Ruben Cordoba Jr. NAH THATS A fact thats shit hit home crazy
SAME 😂
i’m 17 and i think i met the love of my life and im in an amazing relationship full of ups and downs and im so scared of what might happen in the future because almost everything in the first part literally describes my relationship rn. i’m so fucking scared one day we just won’t feel the same anymore and won’t be able to get the feeling back.
Love is really complicated and there's no recipe. For some people, they never have butterflies in their stomach and have a lifelong relationship. Some have butterflies and you fall out of love. Some people have butterflies that fade away into a different kind of love that's hard to describe. The point of this video isn't to scare you away from love, it's to tell a specific story and to show that love has layers and facets and a lot of love isn't like what you see in the movies.
My advice: Communicate. Set healthy boundaries. And be open to improve
This is it. This is exactly what happened to me, to a tee. Nothing could ever ruined it, and then it got ruined. I’m over her now, and it feels good. Time to try again with someone else. Thanks Exurb1a, for letting me know I’m not alone.
This is scarily accurate
Ayy lmfao
17 year-old me: "Hey, Sherlock, should I add this girl on Facebook?"
Sherlock:
Lmao
Lol underrated comment
Oh my goodnessss yes 🤣🤣
Is he a philosopher? p o g
And at some point you realise, you actually don't need someonelse to be excited about things or to love music or feel whole. Feelings just appear and pass, no matter what you do. So you finally have time to do something meaningfull, that is not just about your own plesure but actually creat something benefitting many more people, reduce suffering, understanding and discovering how this world and life works. And thats fantastic.
perfect projecting exurb1a. Appreciate you went through this
This is possibly the most depressing video ever. Always makes me sad
So why have I watched it three times already
Back again for some reason
TR02 Football same
If it's depressing you don't understand
Because it’s real
@@user-jl4zz1re4c can you explain how could it be something but depressing?
1:20
"Feel this weird sting in your brain"
finally a phrase that has to do with relationships that reffers to organs other than the heart.
Anıl Ertürk
Thanks m8
Have to come back to this video every now and then just to appreciate it how good of a video this is
I've watched this many times before my 1 year and 7 month relationship, once during it, and now here I am after it seeing it once again in my recommended. I'm surprisingly moving on quite nicely from the breakup. Exurb1a, sir, no matter how many times I rewatch this video, it never ceases to amaze me and hit me in all the worst and right ways.
"And nothing can ever ruin this"... hopefully one day those words will ring true. That day has yet to come.
Well, my grandparents have been toghever since they where 13. Now they are 78
That’s comforting
And my grandmother is currently dying from Cancer :-(
@@klangcraft3302 that's unsettling
@@klangcraft3302 life huh?
@@mohamadtarek2842 well, she is feeling better now
I remember seeing this when I was 18 and being terrified. Now I’m 23 and honestly, this video is just good storytelling. If you’re a teen, don’t worry about it too much.
why? is it not true?
Every story is different. Everything will be ok in the end.
@@juanburgos8176 yeah,except its not a fairytail
@@Aziz.500 maybe everything being ok in the end isn’t supposed to be a typical happy ending, and maybe that’s ok too
@@diplodocussenior8687maybe...maybe
You are just so unbelievably brilliant dude I love these videos
I’ve watched this video more times than any video ever and it always seems to help this needs to be put in a museum
People always ask who’s exurb1a, never how’s exurb1a😔
who is he tho
Yes people not caring about how you are, just let them have their shit feels wrong sometimes... I think he (exurb1a) has been through some rough times lately cus all the 3 videos in 4 months, all of them lacking that calm, stable and thought through atmosphere around him. He seems angry and reckless and I hope everything will be alright with him after releasing another book, and nothing can ever ruin him.
exurb1a how are ya
I'll do you one better, why is exurb1a
We can't ask him how is he if we don't know him.
This is why love isn't just sex. It's a responsibility for both lovers to keep the fire going.
+cbrohio The Greeks have four words for "love": philio, storge, agape and eros. Actually, they have more. Perhaps it's no coincidence that we have the types of problems in the West considering how the English language has mangled things. Infatuation has nothing to do with compassion, as an example - and naming them differently would've cleared a lot of things up for a lot of people: Eros and agape.
Sucks for all of y'all I guess, I'm having fun with my aromantic ass
Jokes aside though, love isn't 'nothing can ever ruin this', it's 'we won't let anything ruin this, not even ourselves'. All kinds of love.
Wise words
Hahahahha fkn legend
NGL i read aromantic ass as aromatic ass and had a good chuckle.
@@KartikayBagla wtf same 😂😂
I watch this over and over, every couple of months, the story resonates with me and parts of it reflect my own experiences, its a nice reminder of what to be wary of. Currently at the "and everything is ruined" stage, but ill see how it goes.
I saw this 4 years ago and didn't pay enough attention, becouse I thought ''Nothing can ever ruin this''
Anything can ruin this, and you have to make sure that nothing does. That’s the lesson of this video
Uff
Same, happened to me 2 years ago and now this videos hits very different than them
@@lailahlove777 if I ever had the option to pin a reply, I would have yours!
@@lailahlove777 Making sure that nothing does isn't the lesson...
When an overthinker meets the love of their life
i feel pretty good being an 'overthinker' when at least 80% of the human population finds thinking very difficult
*introvert 😅
Stary Traper r/iamverysmart
That's totally me
I love a girl
Please help me bc i cry a lot now
OUTR4GE lol thanks hahaha
Listening to this before and after getting into a relationship were a completely different experiences
all these years later, this is still my favourite video. the most accurate description of love, life and emotions that i've ever seen. you, sir, are my favourite writer.