The 5 categories that men place women in
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.พ. 2025
- Have you ever wondered if men classify women. Do they put women in categories. Yes, men put women in categories and this video talks about what categories there are. Do you want to know what category you are in. I also talk about what you can do about what category the man has put you in if that isn't the category you want to be in. This is letting you know how men classify women and why. There are 5 categories men put women in. This a an askchazzellis understanding men videos that outlines all 5 of the categories men put women in.
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The friend zone is not a bad category to be in, better than friends with benefits which is degrading and insulting as it is no way to treat a friend.
You raw dude! I've learned more from you than all the men in my family. Thanks!!!
the types
1. the girl for sex only
2. the friend with benefits (because they don't like her personality or don't want commitment with her)
3. women in the friendzone (maybe her past is bad whatever)
4. girlfriend (sexual being, he likes her personality, ...)
5. wife
"that's how guys think, we put you on those categories"...
Thanks for breaking it down.can't hear him well
MegaCadette55 you're welcome
Kirjken Manaos Ladies...
#1. Keep yourself pure. No sex.
#2. Keep yourself pure. No sex.
#3. Keep yourself pure. No sex.
#4. Keep yourself pure. No sex
#5. Keep yourself pure-MARRY🌹 HIM FIRST THEN 💖THE BEDROOM NUPTIALS💖👌
what I've come to learn is that all men you attract start out wanting to sleep with you. Its very basic. What a woman accepts from a man is a reflection of her self-esteem and how she feels about herself at any given moment in time. When a woman's confidence is low....very low, what's reflected back is a one night stand. As she starts to grow in confidence, what she accepts changes. When her mojo falls again, she can find herself in a FWB. If she's sort of vanilla, or stuck in the middle, or in a rut, she'll get stuck in the friend zone. Extraordinary women become wives. It's why as women we must do all we can to keep our esteem up and quickly separate from those who pull it down. That's the real work and Your life and future depends on that very thing.
Excellent comment and so true. You only get what you accept.
Great point.
you have said it right!!!!! you are so correct Ayo
True
Yup! Sleeping around only works to your own disadvantage. You cd ruin the possibility of a good relationship. Also, your reputation precedes you, so not much is offered to you, who don't expect much.
i just gave up when he said friends.
i walked away and found another guy that did want me.
Not having sex until you’re in relationships smh how about wait until you’re married that’s why you have all these problems if you were married you’d know your title without having to guess what you are to him
"He bought some other shit he couldn't afford...he coulda bought a ring." BWAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
Right.... that was catchy lol
KennyandGretel lol YES!
KennyandGretel My favorite line...because it's TRUE!
Facts!
My ex bought new Marcedez Benz rims for his car instead of paying tuition to go to college we were meant to go together. So I left him alone.
...Humans are vial. Why wasn't I born as a dandelion??
Omg PREACH WOMEN! RIGHT FLOWERS ARE WAY MORE NICER THAN HUMANS!
Lmfao 🙌
Larissa Brewington Amen. i wanted to be a Sunflower or rose!!
I feel you. This is so hard! Sometimes I just feel like giving up. 🙁
Where you can eventually become a wishy thing? That ppl can wish world peace on? 🤗
You forgot the "stay the hell away from me!" category.
so true lol
Lol
😆
The only category I've been before college DX
I've learned that men are very observant and are decisive in their thinking.
zheahra you give them too much credit some are pretty shallow!
Exactly that's why I never accept the idk from them
"A friend with benefits is just a one night stand who wouldn't go away. All friends with benefits are is just one night stands who didn't get the hint." LOL OMG I'm done. That's the funniest thing I've heard in so long
I'm a girl and i used to put guys in different categories exactly like that lol
Now i finally found my husband material :)
Me too girl!
This was a fantastic video and I appreciate this guy's insights. At the end of the video he says, "That's how men think. You can do one thing that puts you from one category to another. Sometimes, it's fair; sometimes it's not, but that's how we think." My reaction to this is, screw it. I'm just me and I'm not perfect. On a daily basis I make mistakes and at some point, if a man spends enough time with me, he's going to see something that he doesn't like. I refuse to spend my life trying to conduct myself perfectly in the hopes of being good enough to land a boyfriend or a husband. I've got flaws and so does every man out there. I'm going to have to learn how to deal with his stuff and he's going to have to learn how to deal with mine. Now, I'm not saying that I don't work on myself because I do. Obviously a man should run from toxic behavior because I definitely do. However, once you get to know me, you either want me or you don't. You either accept my flaws or you don't. I am not interested in putting on a performance in the hopes that a man finds me "worthy" of the privilege of becoming his girlfriend or his wife.
You forgot the other category.
The " I-want-you-to-chase-me-category" that men ENJOY these days.
Ok. I REALLY don't get it!.......Why does almost every person these days "HAVE" to have "sex" with their partner, no matter WHAT relationship their in??????!!!!...The fact is...."SEX" and "LOVE" are 2 whole different things. "SEX" is not "LOVE"..............Luckily, my boyfriend isnt anything like that....
Its good you realised this.
The Right question is : Why is this A Man 's world????
Men don't have a marriage category anymore.
neither do a lot of woman.
Wow
6:08 they could be using you to fill in some voids in their lives, maybe not because they like you genuinely
I elevated through each category with a guy but messed it up..best thing to do is be friends,then gf,then wife..
Most important part of this video for all women: 7:20-7:45
You're welcome.
I actually just recently made a "friend" know that it was a possibility. We started flirting in a way that we weren't before. By the way, I did "no contact" first, then after we started talking again it came out that we both liked each other for more than friends. He had been playing it so cool that I had to do no contact to shake him up. Turns out that we both wanted the same thing. He didn't want to be friend zoned. Little did he know I never had him in the friend zone. We'll see what happens next lol.
luulips how is that going now
your just brilliant AND YOUR REAL AS FUCK
Why do all men think that all Women want to be married?, that is not the end all and be all of life.
Aubrey McMillan somebody sensible at last!
I heared from a pastor that women are not getting married like they used to and it's the men that are persuing marriage most of the time in the relationship....interesting
Pickmisha over here
Because most of us do..
Real talk, we definitely appreciate you for the honesty chazzellis...#Preach 👍👌👏👐
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Found out my friend of over 3 years does like me for more than a friend and said he wants so much more. It took us not talking for about 6-7 months for him to figure it out and finally admit it. He didn’t think it was a possibility. You’re so on point Chazz.
Love your videos! You're always on point, so bright
Thank you
Good Lord. I was in all 5 with the same guy in the last 20 mos.
Well I thought I was in the 5th one too but he was just leading me on
Lol
Michele G Atleeast you can admit it 🤣. I’d been put in the friend zone. Bk then it wasnt funny but today I can laugh at it wtf 🤣
Don't always have to be something negative about the friend zone......Some dudes are intimated by a woman's personality and don't feel like they measure up to her standards. He does wanna be a burden.
First time I watched you…we ladies may not like to hear this stuff, but you are spot on! well done :)
forgot too add, FWB works well for people who are in business together (as long as emotions are kept in tact) or, people working on projects that have a limited time span.
I firmly put you into the category of truth-teller! This dude is by far the best internet coach on men.
omg Chazz This is amazing advice!! the part when you said that guys dont have to feel close to you later on is so true!
Thanks for this. FWB's relatonships are the most heartbreaking and toxic kind of relationship their is. Sometimes you don't even realize you're in one till it's to late and you've already been hurt so badly. Love is blind!
No lie girls have the same thought process
I'm glad I got married years ago. Men play too much in 2019
Ouch... The truth hurts appreciate it tho
Chazz, hi:
As I was perusing the site and listening to Matthew Hussey who I really like and who I think makes a lot of sense in terms of his dating advice, I decided to check out a few others on TH-cam who are doing the same thing. You are one of those people.
Re: your "5 categories ...," I can say that I thought you were on point for the most part, allowing for the fact that there are always exceptions. You had me laughing and a few times I had to catch myself, thinking, Ok, that's not SUPPOSED to be funny, but it is." LoL
The one thing that you said that I took issue with was at the end. The part about men changing the categories they put women in, for just about ANY reason, back and forth, pretty much on a whim (paraphrasing). Now, that indicates a lack of maturity, and someone who probably hasn't a clue what he really wants. Anyway, I shared this and I recommend it. I may check out more of your vídeos. THANKS FOR PUTTING IT OUT THERE!
4 1/2 STARS!!
Thanks, I'm going to be on there more in the next couple of months.
Make sure that if he's stepping up then you are stepping up with him. You have to show him why doing the right thing for you is the right thing for him also.
Omg Chazz I’m learning so much about myself and how men think because I had no clue. I’m not a player, mind reader or manipulater I’m going to try your suggestions and prayerfully things will start changing in my relationships with men
Good question and the answer is yes if they feel that they are getting something out of being in a relationship and not just being blackmailed with sex.
I totally agree, that's why I'm not dealing with any excuse makers.
Thanks for the always straight talk insight Chaz.
older female commenting.... Friends with Bennies is about my favorite category because I (and the men I have had that kind of relationship with) do take the friendship part seriously It can and does happen, I've seen others do it too. So there are different categories of the FWB relationship as well. Perhaps it takes a level of maturity to pull it off. It is ideal for busy people and or folk who are not ready for that kind of commitment for whateva the reason ,but don't feel comfortable with one night stands or sex that is just too casual.
I concluded that my friend doesn't see me as girlfriend material because of our age difference. I believe it is just too hard for him to see me as more than a friend. I know he's attracted to me sexually and we make great friends and formed somewhat of a bond but he can't seem to go the next step so I had backed wayyyyy up. And I cool with it for now because it might be the best thing for both of us. This video was so spot on with the descriptions. Thanks again Chazz!
What are yall ages...
"If youre friends with benefits its usually because they dont like your ass" - Ahh, mah feelings are Hurt 😑😔
Anna Bla A guy I’ve been seeing few months now and I had a lil issue but it’s really me tryna cut ties and run. I’m just not there but he wants this. In the middle of the conversation just to get off topic, I said wat u want friends with benefits?’ He immediately replied what?! Not tht I would even agreed to something like tht but just wanted to f with him
These guys know wat they’re doing chia
I stumbled onto your videos and love you, your honesty. You are straight up! I have laughed because I have never heard anybody lay it big, plain and straight the way you do. I am definitely a fan! Keep tellin' it like it is.
Don't have sex until at least 3 weeks! or 5 dates at least!!!! make him come to you!!!!! That's the minimum! Keep him interested and wanting! Don't give in!!
Why do you wait that long?@the86blueeyes
And after he has sex, now what? If he didn't consider you girlfriend material before, then making him wait won't change anything. If anything, a dude who really liked you will take offense to being told to wait and figure he's being played.
It's wiser to not have sex until
Marriage.
Sierrah Anderson Very True! I wish I found God earlier!.... or I wish he did? hmmm....
Sierrah Anderson I find men these days need some Jesus in their lives!!! The media is way too sexualized it's making me sick! or maybe I just need to find some different people to talk to?..hmm..
Men are so complicated lol
True...a person could learn to play a piano 🎹 and read music 🎼 by the time they try to figure out if a guy is a mature adult or a little boy in his mind. I'm glad my man is NOT a clown!💩🤔
And claim they are "so simple" ...I call bullshit
Hmmmm I would say just direct lol
Men ARE simple. We are pretty much transparent with what we want it’s just women either aren’t listening or don’t want to accept it.
you are the only one speaking the truth and not in their feelings
No that happens honestly most guys find it hard to have a woman as a friend without sex just because of the nature of male/female relationships. Guys feel like being the girls friend usually leaves them doing all of the dirty work with no sex.
Lol I'm usually in the friend category. Hey at least my personality is bomb
That's a good way to put it.
my fist attempt at a 1 night stand turned immediately into courtship then a 13 year marriage 🤣 i was 24 he was 42, i am now 42. we’re divorced 5 years now.
I agree with your friend zone explanation in theory but there is one other reason you may land there. You could be forbidden fruit. For example, you're their best friend's sister or maybe their boss' daughter etc. There may be nothing stopping you from being friends but there are scary consequences if they try to date you and things don't work out.
Your the best dude , found you out of nowhere an love ur vids
Thank you, I really needed to hear this.
I watched this video and found it very enlightening. Thank you for that perspective.
Being involved in music🎹 🎼and sports 🏇🏋is so much more intriguing than playing mind games with childish men!🤔....forget how guys think. They like women who don't care much... like me🍀🍀🕊
that is a lot of learning ....thank you
Your videos are always so useful. Thank you so much!
About 1/3 of relationships started as one nighters according to a study I saw. A random is all some people want. Be honest about what you want. Meeting someone of like interest is what is important.
it was funny when you said that about the 1 nighter to friend w benefits, but its so true. I have so many chic friends who do this, it just cracks me up
You are my favorite blogger this far! I just love you!!
I love and respect the realness!!!
you should make a video based on categories men put their ex's in
Territory 1 ,Territory 2 , Territory 3 , Territory 4 ..... :D
Oh god please do i need to hear this seriously
riaah babe Nope! I am his EX for a reason and I could give a rat's ads what category he puts me in. That door is CLOSED! 💘 Eva
Exactly. Once it is over it is over
The truth is that you probably never will know exactly what happened. I say if you are going to move on then don't waste time trying to search for answers that you will probably never find. Just say it is what it is and move forward.
You’re the best, Chazz. Thank you again for sharing such a positive experience. It means the world to me
What if you meet a man who is your ideal at the wrong time; your self-esteem is low because of difficult things you've been through and you've been given bad advice on relationships so you make the wrong impression on him and you end up being put in the friends with benefits category. How do you go from friends with benefits to friends when he doesn't like your personality because he has the wrong impression of you?
Natalie Johnson Increase your self-esteem and confidence. When he comes back, you should be better because you know better and when you know better, you do better.
Exactly what Chocolate Divine said. And don't jump into bed with him right away. You need to show him another side to you. A playful fun to be with side of your personality. Let him get to know you without going to bed with him. That is how you will find out if you two are compatible outside of the bedroom.
Thank you for these videos. I appreciate the real talk.
do one for women. we put guys in categories too 😂
I feel like guys always want something serious with me when I don’t want anything but when I do start to take them serious they try to stay friends with benefits with me.. it’s so hard to move on from that stage but it’s hard to develop feelings for someone past lust for me
I just discovered your videos. Thank you for all your insights! It's very helpful.
Hard for serious single women out here. Learning a lot. Thanks for the advice.
I like your videos.
I like the whole "right between the eyes no sugars added" style.
Love how straightforward you are👌💥🔥
Wow very insightful and so true. Thanks not to many men will take the time to help women understand and clear up how men think.
I think about this all the time
Thanks for answering my question, good video!
I think your advice is amazin!!! i wish id watched these a few years ago
You're probably right.
Thank you.
Best video you have made, do not get me wrong you are honest, sincere individual who speaks the truth and nothing but the truth but this video was excellent and shows your capacities to be a person that has high-standards, class and honesty without making yourself feel less than a man for it. I applaud you! and congratulate you for not following false manhood teachings, misunderstood men' role in our society!
You got that from that small amount of information?
Very good analysis! Thank you!
Thanks Chazz. Good info
actually there is an exception with one night stands. there are a few that i know of that became the wife. these women actually did not care about being the wife.
I love this💖 Points are So Real💯👌
Thanks the honest advice. Really appreciate that!
You be droppin GEMS!!
How many times or how long do you have to continue having sex with a guy who you aren't in a relationship with for him to consider you a friend w/ benefits?....l slept w/ him twice. l got frustrated w/ him not becoming ready for a relationship and ended it. But he still calls, begs and manipulates ideas for the hope that l will sleep w/ him again. l can't!!!!!
"One person just got the hint, the other one Didn't!!!" 🤣😂🤣😂🤣 Wow!! Toooo Real Tho!!!
You give some good advice, still a little confuse bout my situation. Sometime i think he ain't serious, but then i see the the other side where he's more afraid of losing me. However after a few disagreement, made the decision. Either ship up or ship out and so far i'm seen some major change. Just watchin now to see it he keeps up with it.
No prob it was a good question.
Can a man still mentally place you in one of these categories even if he hasn't done anything with you? (ex: in hopes of potentially getting to a certain place with you---even if it's just to be friends with benefits)?
And some place you in all categories and still dump you for no reason. And when you ask them, they be like am just tired and what are they tired off ...... They can't tell.
What if a guy has only ever had "friends with benefits" and has never had a girlfriend? What if he treats every single girl as an F-buddy? Something is off about him right?
what if you were a ceilibet women? for 9 years like i was i did not sleep with him very quickly few months later but slowly started seeing changes with this man. not so good changes. i believe God wanted me to here what you had to say. peace and blessing.
Hi Chazz. I just started watching your videos. I Really appreciate your candor and how you break everything down. Subscribed!!
I been in a relationship for a mth now so hopefully in the next yr we can move on a marriage level.You give the Best advice:)
Great video. I never knew this.....
My boyfriend is always super sweet to me. I know his family and most of his friends. And one day he asked me if I would marry him someday in the future. Like not today, we're only teenagers. But I mean like I'm sure the entire dating thing is different in this time of our lives. So would this be some sort of wife category or girlfriend?
That's hard to say since you are so young and things can change so rapidly at your age. I would be careful about moving too fast in any relationship because even if you really like the person it's hard to say what next week holds, let alone a year from now or a lifetime.