All I have to say is that those tips work. I did everything he said (unconsciously) and a few months later, the guy was knocking on my door wanting something serious. But since I worked out my stuff and was feeling good about myself I told him to bounce off. Now I found a decent guy that treats me well, a guy that I actually love and can count on. The other dude keeps coming back but he aint getting nothing out of me, his time has passed.
+Vera Ressurreição ....Why/how would you of done it unconsciously, when it's meant to be done - consciously! And - what signs are these persons (sun/moon) ? Good you found someone that won't be a f**kboy (player).
Sometimes you just with the wrong person. If he doesn't value you. Fuck him and move on with your life. He's just a man. Just like you found him you will find someone else. If he don't care about you. Talking to other ppl. We deserve better.
Well, I'm glad that you watched even with the cursing and I'm really glad that you got something out of it. We all come in our own package for a reason and I have accepted the fact that this is mine and I appreciate that you are willing to accept it too. Thanks for watching.
Women should not allow men to use them for sex or money. Women need to feel good about themselves. That's right, step your game up and cut him off. Thanks Chazz !
This will work. Proven fact I did this without realizing it was what I was doing. After seeing this video I see that I did almost exactly what he says here. Also thinking back I see that my guy was falling for me back then so that realization helped me feel confident about stepping back to see what he'd do. He came back wanting a relationship.
Dang I went through this recently with someone, and I'm at the being single, working on myself part right now, even though it's a little tough not communicating with him. But you're so right, I knew I deserved better, and had to cut it off.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have been in a fwb relationship for around 6 months now. I have never dealt with this type of man and I needed to know this information. You put it straight to the point. This guy had me down so far, I almost didn't make it back up. I am better than that. Life is entirely too short to have men (people) bringing you down to their level. Thank you so much Chazz!!!!
No. 7 is interesting, because I've experienced this. My first fwb (first guy I was ever involved with lol). He would always tell me how easy it was for I'm to get girls. But when I decided to stop seeing him, he randomly called me like two months later. Telling me about how special our thing was, n that he was gonna change and make more of an effort with me etc. My question is that if they have so many girls available, why do they always come back to the same ones? they could easily get a new one.
+abyie123 What a lot of guys don't wanna admit is that it's NOT easy for them to just find a new girl. Unless the dude is a high level guy (really good looking, rich, or a celeb of sorts) it usually takes quite a bit of work to get a girl for the average guy. It's also easier to get back with a person you had history with vs a brand new person. That's why guys(and girls honestly ) keep coming back to people they were with before.
I believe that being single is the perfect time for self reflection and bettering yourself. That's not the time to be sleeping around and other foolishness.
Hey, you were bloody brilliant! I had a friend with benefits for two years and I tried everything to make him love me but I was not special to him; he actually had his own little harem of friends with benefits. Four years ago I just gave up and moved on. I went to college and did a four year degree course. I worked my butt off and topped the course (over a 1,000 students) and the university offered me my dream job to work with them doing research. I was feeling so chilled and happy and then out of the blue he calls and says 'sorry I have not been in contact for awhile . . ." WTF - FOUR YEARS LATER !! I was so surprised but not all that interested any more. So, of course, he went into chase mode and because I am still not all that interested he has tried guilt tripping me. WTF!!!! I'm not going to "take this cat back" but I am annoyed because it has unsettled me as I invested a lot of emotion into him at the time. But why do they always come back? Why don't they move on too?
Biannca Pierce happens all the time..want what they cant have.and he guilt tripped you because more than likely he has been chased and you didnt chase him and you used to sleep with him so he is like,hey, wasnt my man man good? everyone else comes back for more,why not her..thats why if you want a man you cant chase and as you said 'try everything to make them love you'..it happens naturally..u see once you left him alone he pursued you..trust.they will try to make you love them if they want you,you cant MAKE them love you
Lmao!!! You are hilarious!!! This is so damn true!!! Whoooo!!!!!! I wish you were my brother or cousin or something. You would have kept me out of a lot of bs.
I thought you kept it real. It's like you knew me. I'm an educated 61 year old woman who was married for 40 years and I've been making myself sexually available for many men because I'm trying to score a new long time relationship. I'm going about it all wrong. Thanks for the tips.
You are so right, in my past, done it just exactly like how you mentioned, that whole discipline thing. There is this other time by chance where after our initial hookup, we still kept seeing one another but never hooked up again but just dates within the 2 months, trust me, he does tries harder & harder given each attempt to try to get you on dates to include you meeting his friends, I never gave it thought much how it happened, but your video helped me realized that those were exactly how it processed. Seriously, you know the game Chazz, and you know what you are talking about, just that some ppl goes and messes it up for themselves too quick before they got a chance to turn around and clearly look at what types of characteristics trails they be leaving behind.
I started a fwb relationship with a guy. I started having feeling for him. We talked about being in a monogomus relationship and he started talking about how a relationship was a liability. I cut him off so fast it made my head spin. He couldn't believe it. He moved out state then wanted to move back to his home town. Guess who he asked for money to move. I told him that's your liability and responsibility.
Your video really gave me something to think about. I have been in a FWB situation with a guy for 9 months now and he won't commit, I'm thinking it's in the something missing category...but this dude does take me out and we do stuff together, he brings me around his friends, he tells me I'm hot and sexy all the time so I don't think it's an attraction issue, recently he has started really opening up and sharing things about his life with me as well. He says he has feelings for me but he doesn't love me the way I love him and he says the reason he doesn't want to be with me is because he doesn't want a relationship period. He also says he really likes me a lot and that I'm a really cool chick so I'm not really sure what the deal is but I loved your video you had me rolling a few times ;)
When a guy says he doesn't want a relationship, he means, "with you". I suggest you start dating other guys and let him know you're doing this. He might change his tune when he sees he has competition.
Thank you Chaz this really helps, I have never been single for this long (2 1/2 years) so i just tried FWB and boy, am i learning. This guy really always comes back after i get frustrated and end it and i must admit the sex is turned up, but since both my relationships before this are always 2 - 15 years, it was a hard lesson to accept that this man wouldn't want to go any further, Definitely gonna take your tips. Im gonna end it by the way I know my worth and what I am capable of. Thanks again, keep them videos coming i am learning.
This is the BEST VIDEO. Thankyou for the encouragement and the great information. I been with a FWB for 2 yrs now and everything you talked about FWB on video hits everything about us to the T and also how I feel and what I want differently and it's not going any further.... I appreciate this video because it really has opened my eyes up alot.
lol that is true, I had a guy tell me that its because I'm a playa and he don't want to get his feelings hurt. But honestly I'm just keeping my options open because I don't want to get hurt as well.
Geez is it just women who are getting more involved on the friend with benefits situation. Im in this situation with a woman right now but I would never do nothing intentionally to hurt her cause she is my friend above all else but the benefit is just the added bonus of the friendship.
Well, I'll answer your question with a question, do you keep in contact with people that you have had sexual relations with? The answer is most likely no unless you are planning on doing it again. Having a hi bye relationship with a person you had sex with doesn't mean much but actually taking the time to seek out contact with them is a different thing entirely and possible cause for alarm. I say don't worry about it unless you see it impacting your relationship.
Thanks for this, so far the best video on relationships I have watched so far today! I was just put in the fwb category aaafter dating for over three months, or I thought we were dating and now he's sayin' different. I don't want fwb and I don't want to break it off so I like your advice a LOT and I'm gonna try to play it cool. Thanks Again
Thank you I just left my friend with benefit for 5 years . he call me back today I stand my ground I told him I don’t need his friendship what I need is a relationship until his ready not to call me again. I know I will miss him we been through a lot we were very close we spend time together likes we are couple but for some reason I’m not good enough to be his girlfriend. I don’t have time to waist I took two time and failed my nklex Rn degree just because of stress me wondering what wrong with me why he don’t want to commit I been only nice and patience all this year . Thank for your video
Chazzz I appreciate this video right here! I was with mines from Sept 2016 till March then I took a break for some me time. Mind you we both want something serious but when we link most of the time it was physical. There had been times we haven't.. but I'm at the point that if he really tryna fw me for me then he gonna have to show that cuz I ain't gonna sit here & play these games with him when I definitely know what I want & I will not settle for less.
Well he didn't come back. I contacted him on fb for closure. I got it and went about my day. He then messages me basically that he wants to be friends, and start over. Cool. So we go eat and to the movies(I paid for myself) and he brings up the issue we had with the fwb thing. Then he asked if I was ok starting that again. I said I don't know. I don't really care to honestly I don't think I'm cut out for it, and I don't want to get hurt again..I'm basically planning on avoiding him and just seeing what happens. I don't have romantic feelings for him, and I intend to keep it that way. I don't even really know how to 'start over',either.
+Sahara Parker Men, for some reason, like the chase. If you decide to go on with your life without them, they chase you. Sounds like you could use some serious time from him. If he's sincere, he will understand if you ask for some time. That's my opinion, and I'm probably old enough to be your mom.
Lol, you're reaction tells me that I am right on the money. Ghetto, prison? Lol, the beautiful thing about stereotypes is that they make the person using them seem just as foolish as they are. I really wonder what has happened in your like that seeing me hit such a nerve, did someone you loved leave you for a black person or are you struggling with homosexuality and confusion related to that? Why are you so mad?
askchazzellis I love your gangsta in sharing this..lol . Women want direct communication from a man and we expect that. You give the information uncut and dry...what we expect from them. At the end of the day it's about self worth and valuing our time as women. Thank you thank ...
Very Poetic , I was digging what this Cat had to say! I myself am dealing with a women I use to date years ago that is going from dude to dude saying they are all just friends. I tell her yah ok with benefits! She said no benefits, I just would out she is back with him again because he keeps contacting her again!
I literally jus stumbled upon your videos and I love your advice, I'm so gonna follow you up. Your just totally real and raw, and I can tell that you know exactly what your talking about.
All I have to say is that those tips work. I did everything he said (unconsciously) and a few months later, the guy was knocking on my door wanting something serious. But since I worked out my stuff and was feeling good about myself I told him to bounce off. Now I found a decent guy that treats me well, a guy that I actually love and can count on. The other dude keeps coming back but he aint getting nothing out of me, his time has passed.
that's inspiring
I'm so happy and proud of you Vera!
Vera Ressurreição you go girl!!
Vera Ressurreição good job 👏👏👏👏💜
+Vera Ressurreição
....Why/how would you of done it unconsciously, when it's meant to be done - consciously! And - what signs are these persons (sun/moon) ? Good you found someone that won't be a f**kboy (player).
Sometimes you just with the wrong person. If he doesn't value you. Fuck him and move on with your life. He's just a man. Just like you found him you will find someone else. If he don't care about you. Talking to other ppl. We deserve better.
Well, I'm glad that you watched even with the cursing and I'm really glad that you got something out of it. We all come in our own package for a reason and I have accepted the fact that this is mine and I appreciate that you are willing to accept it too. Thanks for watching.
Women should not allow men to use them for sex or money. Women need to feel good about themselves. That's right, step your game up and cut him off. Thanks Chazz !
"He might even miss you, probably not but.."
Lmao this video made my life rn :D
This will work. Proven fact I did this without realizing it was what I was doing. After seeing this video I see that I did almost exactly what he says here. Also thinking back I see that my guy was falling for me back then so that realization helped me feel confident about stepping back to see what he'd do. He came back wanting a relationship.
Yeaa.. I got that replacement.. My bf is everything I ever wanted in a man.
I'm happy for you (:
I'm happy for you too! You deserve love♡
Im so happy for u girl. I need a replacement like what u have.
Still with him 2 years later?
When Chazz was gangsta!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lol I miss this Chazz
????????? miss him ????????????? where is he ???? o_O is he gone ????
+mssummerrose1 no, I miss this side of him. Now he's more professional but still great
EbonyAmazon
oh... ok
Exactly I agree
Dang I went through this recently with someone, and I'm at the being single, working on myself part right now, even though it's a little tough not communicating with him. But you're so right, I knew I deserved better, and had to cut it off.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have been in a fwb relationship for around 6 months now. I have never dealt with this type of man and I needed to know this information. You put it straight to the point. This guy had me down so far, I almost didn't make it back up. I am better than that. Life is entirely too short to have men (people) bringing you down to their level. Thank you so much Chazz!!!!
No. 7 is interesting, because I've experienced this. My first fwb (first guy I was ever involved with lol). He would always tell me how easy it was for I'm to get girls. But when I decided to stop seeing him, he randomly called me like two months later. Telling me about how special our thing was, n that he was gonna change and make more of an effort with me etc.
My question is that if they have so many girls available, why do they always come back to the same ones? they could easily get a new one.
+abyie123 What a lot of guys don't wanna admit is that it's NOT easy for them to just find a new girl. Unless the dude is a high level guy (really good looking, rich, or a celeb of sorts) it usually takes quite a bit of work to get a girl for the average guy. It's also easier to get back with a person you had history with vs a brand new person. That's why guys(and girls honestly ) keep coming back to people they were with before.
Lol, that's the first step to getting help...admitting that you have a problem. Thanks for watching and always giving such good feedback Diva.
I believe that being single is the perfect time for self reflection and bettering yourself. That's not the time to be sleeping around and other foolishness.
Hey, you were bloody brilliant! I had a friend with benefits for two years and I tried everything to make him love me but I was not special to him; he actually had his own little harem of friends with benefits. Four years ago I just gave up and moved on. I went to college and did a four year degree course. I worked my butt off and topped the course (over a 1,000 students) and the university offered me my dream job to work with them doing research. I was feeling so chilled and happy and then out of the blue he calls and says 'sorry I have not been in contact for awhile . . ." WTF - FOUR YEARS LATER !! I was so surprised but not all that interested any more. So, of course, he went into chase mode and because I am still not all that interested he has tried guilt tripping me. WTF!!!! I'm not going to "take this cat back" but I am annoyed because it has unsettled me as I invested a lot of emotion into him at the time. But why do they always come back? Why don't they move on too?
Biannca Pierce happens all the time..want what they cant have.and he guilt tripped you because more than likely he has been chased and you didnt chase him and you used to sleep with him so he is like,hey, wasnt my man man good? everyone else comes back for more,why not her..thats why if you want a man you cant chase and as you said 'try everything to make them love you'..it happens naturally..u see once you left him alone he pursued you..trust.they will try to make you love them if they want you,you cant MAKE them love you
"& he might miss you probaly not" loooool im done haha
I love it. Yeah hell come back for the vagina. Nothing more though
I LOVE THIS VIDEO! WOMEN NEED LEARN THESE METHODS TO PREVENT FROM GETING HURT All The DAMN Time.
Lmao!!! You are hilarious!!! This is so damn true!!! Whoooo!!!!!! I wish you were my brother or cousin or something. You would have kept me out of a lot of bs.
Knekya D. Lol facts!!
I thought you kept it real. It's like you knew me. I'm an educated 61 year old woman who was married for 40 years and I've been making myself sexually available for many men because I'm trying to score a new long time relationship. I'm going about it all wrong. Thanks for the tips.
No problem go ahead.
You are so right, in my past, done it just exactly like how you mentioned, that whole discipline thing. There is this other time by chance where after our initial hookup, we still kept seeing one another but never hooked up again but just dates within the 2 months, trust me, he does tries harder & harder given each attempt to try to get you on dates to include you meeting his friends, I never gave it thought much how it happened, but your video helped me realized that those were exactly how it processed. Seriously, you know the game Chazz, and you know what you are talking about, just that some ppl goes and messes it up for themselves too quick before they got a chance to turn around and clearly look at what types of characteristics trails they be leaving behind.
Agreed
I started a fwb relationship with a guy. I started having feeling for him. We talked about being in a monogomus relationship and he started talking about how a relationship was a liability. I cut him off so fast it made my head spin. He couldn't believe it. He moved out state then wanted to move back to his home town. Guess who he asked for money to move. I told him that's your liability and responsibility.
Chazz you spoke TRUTH!!! that's exactly what we as women need to do!! Well said.. Thanks
Your video really gave me something to think about. I have been in a FWB situation with a guy for 9 months now and he won't commit, I'm thinking it's in the something missing category...but this dude does take me out and we do stuff together, he brings me around his friends, he tells me I'm hot and sexy all the time so I don't think it's an attraction issue, recently he has started really opening up and sharing things about his life with me as well. He says he has feelings for me but he doesn't love me the way I love him and he says the reason he doesn't want to be with me is because he doesn't want a relationship period. He also says he really likes me a lot and that I'm a really cool chick so I'm not really sure what the deal is but I loved your video you had me rolling a few times ;)
When a guy says he doesn't want a relationship, he means, "with you". I suggest you start dating other guys and let him know you're doing this. He might change his tune when he sees he has competition.
You are the truth. It's about time someone came and kept it real. I honestly watch your videos every day.
Thank you Chaz this really helps, I have never been single for this long (2 1/2 years) so i just tried FWB and boy, am i learning. This guy really always comes back after i get frustrated and end it and i must admit the sex is turned up, but since both my relationships before this are always 2 - 15 years, it was a hard lesson to accept that this man wouldn't want to go any further, Definitely gonna take your tips. Im gonna end it by the way I know my worth and what I am capable of. Thanks again, keep them videos coming i am learning.
"He might miss you. But probably not." Lol
I can understand that.
Great advice given in a very funny yet respectful way.
No prob. thanks for watching.
Word. Oprah should give you your own show.
He looked me up 10 years later trying to be serious with me.At the end of the day he just want my bomb 🐱.I left his asss alone.
Come on now you spitting the TRUTH...1000...
Lol, that is a little off subject but it's okay I hate staying on subject lol. I work out 4 times a week but I don't use weights.
Well, it sounds like you are long-distance and that may cause him to be reluctant to make a commitment.
This Brother is straight up Real... Chazz I love your Mind...Good stuff..Keep up the Videos...Thanks for all the Advice
This is the BEST VIDEO. Thankyou for the encouragement and the great information. I been with a FWB for 2 yrs now and everything you talked about FWB on video hits everything about us to the T and also how I feel and what I want differently and it's not going any further.... I appreciate this video because it really has opened my eyes up alot.
lol that is true, I had a guy tell me that its because I'm a playa and he don't want to get his feelings hurt. But honestly I'm just keeping my options open because I don't want to get hurt as well.
Boy you ain't lying about 7.! Like you said middle finger up, index follow! ✌🏾️
wow Chazz I love your honesty!!! every thing you said is true,I love watching yo videos too full of wisdom. may God bless abandantly.
Geez is it just women who are getting more involved on the friend with benefits situation. Im in this situation with a woman right now but I would never do nothing intentionally to hurt her cause she is my friend above all else but the benefit is just the added bonus of the friendship.
How can you be sure she doesn't secretly love you? Maybe you should find out.
Shin Akumaforu
Yes
Good comment, I agree.
Well, I'll answer your question with a question, do you keep in contact with people that you have had sexual relations with? The answer is most likely no unless you are planning on doing it again. Having a hi bye relationship with a person you had sex with doesn't mean much but actually taking the time to seek out contact with them is a different thing entirely and possible cause for alarm. I say don't worry about it unless you see it impacting your relationship.
This video was informative and funny at the same time. Yep, I enjoyed this.
Yep, I said it lol.
Thank you and that is something that I have been thinking about.
thank you for the feedback
1:29 the homeboy said what ? thks :O)
that story of coming back after 20 years is so me :( , but now he's getting no more :))
Thanks for this, so far the best video on relationships I have watched so far today! I was just put in the fwb category aaafter dating for over three months, or I thought we were dating and now he's sayin' different. I don't want fwb and I don't want to break it off so I like your advice a LOT and I'm gonna try to play it cool. Thanks Again
For centuries 😂😂
Thanks, I really appreciate it.
"I got news for you ...you were a source of ...for him" 😂🤣😂
I've watched this video so many times and today it really got me together. Chazz thank you!!
Thank you.
Thanks man.
thanks
thank you
good advice...especially the part about being honest with yourself.
You can just send a private message.
Thank you I just left my friend with benefit for 5 years . he call me back today I stand my ground I told him I don’t need his friendship what I need is a relationship until his ready not to call me again. I know I will miss him we been through a lot we were very close we spend time together likes we are couple but for some reason I’m not good enough to be his girlfriend. I don’t have time to waist I took two time and failed my nklex Rn degree just because of stress me wondering what wrong with me why he don’t want to commit I been only nice and patience all this year . Thank for your video
Chazzz I appreciate this video right here! I was with mines from Sept 2016 till March then I took a break for some me time. Mind you we both want something serious but when we link most of the time it was physical. There had been times we haven't.. but I'm at the point that if he really tryna fw me for me then he gonna have to show that cuz I ain't gonna sit here & play these games with him when I definitely know what I want & I will not settle for less.
Well he didn't come back. I contacted him on fb for closure. I got it and went about my day. He then messages me basically that he wants to be friends, and start over. Cool. So we go eat and to the movies(I paid for myself) and he brings up the issue we had with the fwb thing. Then he asked if I was ok starting that again. I said I don't know. I don't really care to honestly I don't think I'm cut out for it, and I don't want to get hurt again..I'm basically planning on avoiding him and just seeing what happens. I don't have romantic feelings for him, and I intend to keep it that way. I don't even really know how to 'start over',either.
+Sahara Parker Men, for some reason, like the chase. If you decide to go on with your life without them, they chase you. Sounds like you could use some serious time from him. If he's sincere, he will understand if you ask for some time. That's my opinion, and I'm probably old enough to be your mom.
You should do a video on how can you tell a guy caught feelings for the girl I'm a friends with benifits relationship?
Cherry yes i agree i need thus video done asap
Yeah I definitely need this video cuz even if he treats you as his girlfriend and says that he loves you that might not be true
Cherry Darling Please Chazz do a video for this. It's been a long time coming. Pleaaaaassseee!
Number 7 is so damn brutal but is the honestly truth! Is so damn on point! 👏🦔😁🖤 Thanks Chazz! And the rest ofc was correct & make sense! You da best!
Wow....How relevant is your whole catalog of topics....this one video is not only hilarious, but on point.
I love you Bro! You're doing it for us Ladies and we soooo appreciate it. Mucho Gracias....:)
I'm on step number 4 and still going strong. Thanks for the advice.
I'M in Tears laughing hysterically-that Number 7 Rule Advice Nailed it!! Keep up the positive promos! :) Mahalo!! Thank-you!
great points..and your never condescending like the other guy
chazzellis that is some really good advice. thank you.
Nice, humorously, truthful even...thumbs up...
Thanks for your honesty! All Sounds like great advice to me, best I've heard!
Lol, you're reaction tells me that I am right on the money. Ghetto, prison? Lol, the beautiful thing about stereotypes is that they make the person using them seem just as foolish as they are. I really wonder what has happened in your like that seeing me hit such a nerve, did someone you loved leave you for a black person or are you struggling with homosexuality and confusion related to that? Why are you so mad?
Thank you for watching.
askchazzellis I love your gangsta in sharing this..lol . Women want direct communication from a man and we expect that. You give the information uncut and dry...what we expect from them. At the end of the day it's about self worth and valuing our time as women. Thank you thank ...
Chazz, I love it how you keep it real!!
Thank you. I hope you keep watching and subscribe.
Very Poetic , I was digging what this Cat had to say! I myself am dealing with a women I use to date years ago that is going from dude to dude saying they are all just friends. I tell her yah ok with benefits! She said no benefits, I just would out she is back with him again because he keeps contacting her again!
I find that your videos are both informative and hilarious. Thank you for sharing this information. It's great to have an unbiased male point of view.
Good stuff, honesty is the only way to get to the truth of the matter and make real change:)
Makes complete sense
Chazz, you are my new favourite person!
This is pure GOLD. Thanks Chazz.
Lol, thank you
I literally jus stumbled upon your videos and I love your advice, I'm so gonna follow you up. Your just totally real and raw, and I can tell that you know exactly what your talking about.
This ain’t the ni&&a God want me to have...lmfaooo😂😂😂😂
yep - you're good value - going to listen to this again so I absorb it properly and know how to follow your advice
Thanks!! Right on time...💙💙💙
lol. I enjoy your videos. You keep it real!!!
I can appreciate this and love how upfront you are. Thanks!
This is very good I really appreciate it ...I am totally going run with this
funny, wise, truth-speak, thank you.
you are so much help Chazz...love you
loved this advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This was great information and very beneficial. We appreciate what your doing. This is your calling and your awesome with your truth.
priceless information...thank you sir.
Love ur talk chazelleas really helped loved it
You are "spot on" chazz!
ON POINT......PERIODDDDDDDDDDDD!!!!
Thanks for the tips
these are all so good.
Very insightful!