Therapist REVEALS Why All Insecurities Come From This ONE THING… | Marisa Peer
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On Today's Episode:
One of the hardest things to accept as an adult is that many of the beliefs you have about yourself and the world you live in were developed from a childhood where you didn’t know any better and you weren’t equipped with the resources or capacity to process the complexities of life happening all around you.
Those experiences helped you shape the story you tell yourself today. Whether the story is good or bad is irrelevant considering that chances are the story isn’t even accurate or factual.
Marissa Peer is not just a best-selling author, she is a trained hypnotherapist that created Rapid Transformational Therapy, or RTT. She joins Lisa here to discuss the ideas from her latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie. Her tips and strategies are powerful to rewrite your story and create a narrative that gives you meaning, fulfillment and more happiness.
Check out Marissa Peer’s latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie: amzn.to/39U2M7w
SHOW NOTES:
RFPI Illness | The unconscious role, function, purpose and intent of illness [1:06]
OCD Control | Marissa shares about an OCD patient’s illness rooted in control [5:55]
Uncover The Root | Uncovering when and why trauma starts helps to identify the cause [10:14]
Choose for Yourself | Helping people see their normalized behaviors on their own [17:07]
Change Isn’t Hard | Choosing the unfamiliar over what’s familiar and comfortable [22:49]
Be Enough | How you go from thinking it, to saying it, to actually feeling it’s true [27:19]
Lie to Yourself | Marissa on why the lies you tell yourself are super powerful [30:39]
Be Flaw-some | How you are a flawed person in a flawed relationship, be proud [36:20]
Stressed Eating | Examining how you are hardwired and being accepted or not accepted [38:27]
Self Sabotaging | Why people self destruct because they don’t feel self-worth [43:53]
Feel Your Emotions | Marissa on why allowing yourself to feel all emotions is good [47:20]
Outcome of Beliefs | Words shape your reality and that’s controlled by your thoughts [51:03]
QUOTES:
“When you think a thought a lot, it’s not a thought. It’s a direct request to the mind.” [3:26]
“That’s the saddest thing for children when they don't get love and care. When their needs aren’t met, they don’t stop loving the parent, they stop loving themselves immediately, and often permanently.” [11:47]
“When the mind starts to look for what’s the same, it finds it. But if you look for what’s different you find that too.” [15:04]
“You can make anything familiar with a little bit of persistence, [...] I have chosen to make this familiar, I have chosen to feel great about it.” [25:15]
“If you didn’t have love, or success, or joy or wealth, that’s a shame, but you can go out and get it.” [29:33]
“Nobody gets away without pain, but it’s what do you do with the pain.” [36:08]
“The minute you fall in love with you, your world will change so dramatically.” [52:48]
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How do you break yourself free from feeling judged by others?
That's hard because deep down everyone wants to be accepted and understood....even by strangers! Its a weird built in thing. Even the most confident people still get insecure and their feelings hurt when judged by others.
I guess the freeing yourself comes when you know that you cant please everyone, you just have to be happy with yourself and the right people will find you. When the right people are around, you dont have to worry about the negative judgment.
I heard a quote "you could be the sweetest, juciest peach in all the world and there will still be people who dont like peaches."
How I see judgement from others, because I was once struggled with judging people from left to right, is that when people judge - it is often a reflection of themselves, never about you. So I learned to never things personally because the once who judge us, are judging themselves. Hope this helps someone out there! ❤️
I put myself in their shoes and realize they're worried about the same thing.
When I figure it out I'll let u know 😆
I know this is easier said than done, but I advise that you simply not give a shit! It takes far less effort…none, even! 🐈⬛ Zero fucks given. ❤️❤️❤️ love Janice…ze end.
So exciting to see the truth finally being exposed and talked about! If we can get out of victim mode and into self empowerment and responsibly, our lives will be pure magic and bliss!! Its all about perspective!! Once you make that shift from victim to victor you will be forever blessed.
followed by self-compassion and not being too hard on yourself
Yes!! 👏🏽 😊
So true, but so hard for survivors of trauma to get there. It's awesome to have a therapy session right on our devices, isn't it?
I just love her! Her soothing voice, her grounded logic and reality. I also love her hands and arms and the way she uses them to express herself and her views. Thank you Lisa for bringing her on!
This is SO TRUE. Its important to understand in this interview that she isn't blaming, she isn't saying you are making it up. No. The body listens. The body responds. The body will help you get out of situations that your mind doesn't want to be in - whether thats giving you a panic attack to flee, or an eczema flare.
Yes, so important to know. And the body also remembers. I've had pains come up from injuries 50 years ago.
I’ve grown up with parents yelling and siblings screaming since 5 too. First memory was age of 7 or first memory of “does your family always fight like this?” To realize that it really was not normal. But I’m an adult now, and who cares about my success and potential? I have to.
So I haven’t even watched this yet. I have been healing for 14 years aggressively, it’s been my daily practice. It took me to ask what this big block was in my life and I got the answer like I always do and this is one of the hardest and most important ones. I am so grateful for this, this moment and Marisa. I pray everyone here finds their peace.
Incredible person who is reading this. Want to let you know that EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT. Blessings upon blessings come to you daily. Everything you need it’s on its way to you! Be ready to receive! You are healthy. You are strong. You are capable. True wealth is coming for you. You are blessed beyond measure. You are loved so much by many. Receive this TRUTH! Bless you always with everything great you deserve. You are greatness!
~❤️Nat
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Thank you so much for these beautiful peaceful words.🥺🥺❤️
Her theory about OCD due lack of sense of control is 100% on point. I am from Afghanistan but born in Canada. My mom have OCD about home cleaning and order of stuff ever since I can remember. So this theory of trying to maintain order on material items due to lack of sense of control on other things completely applies to her since she lost every sense of control and normalcy due to the war.
So insightful. My OCD went away quickly after I left my abusive partner
I love her she’s like a mother example to me xo
Marisa’s work has helped me so much I can never thank her enough. 💕
I'm such a huge fan of Marissa. My life has changed significantly since I started watching her videos. I had such low self esteem and still working on it but I have come such a long way. Her videos have helped me get through so many difficult phases, I cannot thank enough.
I can genuinely say this interview has shifted me on many levels. So grateful ❤️
I’ve been following this therapist since October Of last year and it’s helped me tremendously. Thank you for bringing her on to your show. Great 😊 feeling and attitude to start my day.🤩💫✨
This was lovely. But also I feel parents have to be open to change in order for kids to feel acknowledged. Its an internal struggle dealing with a parents who have OCD/other mental health issues but they don't do anything even if their now adult children request it. It can break a whole family apart, even if they are the most loving family. One has to really do a lot of separate work/healing/confidence to move forward with this type of environment.
Lisa is the female version of her husband. I was amazed at the absolute mirroring of her husband’s expressions, words, and motions during the entire interview. Wow. They married their human twin.
The stories we tell ourselves either empower us to become the best versions of ourselves or they can keep us stuck. What's amazing is that you can start today to change your story and write a new beautiful empowering end. Great conversation Lisa and Marisa 👏👏
To the disabled/ chronically/ terminally ill people who may be reading this. No. You didn’t manifest your illness. I can see why this type of pop psychology appeals to healthy people, but to those born with chronic illnesses it can be extremely harmful. You can make the best of your life with an illness without subscribing to the idea that the illness is your fault. You can find your own way to thrive whilst accepting that you might not get better. Illnesses just exist, it’s really nice to imagine we can get rid of them, but that’s not real life.
Able bodied people- please watch yourself when you are viewing the disabled as subconsciously lazy, attention seeking, trying to get out of things. These are the oldest ableist tropes in the book, this video just dresses them up in a pretty package.
Don’t come in my replies telling me I’m a bitter ill person, life is great for me right now and I am thriving in every category WITH my incurable disease. I accept myself fully as I am, illness included, and work hard with what I have. I don’t dwell in disappointment or victimhood. But I also don’t blame myself or subconscious self for the situation I’m in either. Both of those are so toxic and will get in the way of your success in life
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You missed the point.
Disabled people are no more lazier than other people. They don't try to get away with what regular people do. They would be too scared to even try. They do everything by the book. The regular people cut corners. All the time.
“The ego is the false self-born out of fear and defensiveness.” ~John O’Donohue
I love Marissa! She's the most inspiring and down to earth love relationship coach on TH-cam!!
Marisa and her team are amazing! Love this interview. 💞
Very powerful interview!
I have half cracked this code of your beliefs are what you tell yourself and so forth it's because I saw this great quote over the internet
becareful of what you tell yourself and keep your words clean,
because your words become your beliefs and your beliefs in turn after your thoughts and then your thoughts dictate and become your actions.
I actually have done this test on myself to alter my thoughts sometimes because I am a writer to get into characters mindsets for stories but when I started saying to myself because I wrote about spiders and then I wanted to apply it to my life so I started saying how "I don't really want to kill spiders really" and kept repeating it to myself on auto pilot, in the end I looked for various ways to remove them from my house without seeing a spider running towards me panicking and killing it because when they do move my heart jumps out of my chest so I use the hand dust pan and brush and get rid of them out my patio door and I think I'm being a lot kinder for it
Fantastic conversation!
Thank you so much😘 this was an amazing!
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I would like to see Lisa do a RTT session guided by Marisa to heal her digestive system.
You are wonderful interviewer 🩵
Love Marisa !! One of my favourites ❤️
OMG- this has ben something I have been very interested in. The brain is the most powerful muscle in our body. If we tell it to believe something it will believe it!
Superb episode!!
Thank you for this message 😍😍😍
I adore her. I WISH you would talk to her forever Lisa. 🙂
amazing episode !!!!
I was homeschooled! But I had a very different experience. I loved it :) I had lots of friends. Good schools and good and bad schools are bad, whether they’re at home or not.
Wow thank you so much for this❤️ such quality content Lisa
Love Marisa 🙏🏻❤️🩹✨
She is Magic, they both are ❤️
I love this lady🔥
Fascinating ‼️❤️
Awesome ♡♡♡
Stress and eating: I‘ve noticed this in my job. My female boss is flying, her schedule is full - and her desk is full of candy bars and sweets. Many female in our job are obese. I am getting obese, after being three months in this job, because I noticed that I sooth myself with not so healthy food. It is terrible. But, I know the reason, I can do something about it.
This talk was so good! Really took a lot away from it. Thank you for this amazing interview 🤍
I think you are talking about 'Feel the fear and do it anyway' by Susan J. Jeffers
Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. (1938-2012), best known for her ground-breaking book, "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway," was internationally renowned for her writing and speaking. She has helped millions of people all over the world to overcome their fears and heal the pain in their lives.
Thankful for woi.
Thankful for LB
Thankful for MP
thankful for recognizing more places and times where and when I have choices, as to how I respond to what I think and believe (evidenced in what I've said and done), and how I respond to what others do and say (results from what they've been thinking and believing)
Thankful for new life available Now (The time and place that I have choices about how things will be experienced by me myself)
Powerful show
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Ohhhhhhh now I know why I was not able to feel anything I thought I was abnormal
I know my Mom's a perfectionist and is harder on herself which I am understanding and my sister in her own way is slim due to the fear of being overweight again that it's the fear because they think in their own ways they're not good enough and I just remember telling myself when I look in the mirror I'm never going to look at myself and start expressing loudly (especially in front of young children and because you don't know when they are going to be listening,) but if you start telling to your husband oh I'm so fat, look at me I look pregnant or do you think my thighs look massive, I knew I should have worked out what they are doing is by doing that someone like their daughter could be listening over the other side going yeah, this is what Mommy does and now when they look in the mirror I don't like myself. It's one thing to get yourself self conscious but it's another thing when your actions starts affecting your children because children in fact do copy Mommy and Daddy.
What I do is pick parts of myself out that I do like it's not vanity like some people joke but it was about falling in love with myself and what I have to give out to the world and to the people who know me. I'm not going to pick myself apart, I'll give myself an inferiority complex and never be good enough if I think I can see flaws in myself but because I don't do it, I'm a lot kinder to myself which in turn I've become my own best friend both Mom Dad even my sister to a degree will find just about any flaws within me and try and give me a sense of low self worth because that's what I think they are doing because they don't like themselves that's my theory but I fight it. I don't accept what they say.
Only the first 5 minutes in and it’s life changing.
I got sick every Xmas I didn’t want to visit my aunt & uncle
Marissa is the real deal. She's helped me come a LONG way.
Or the opposite..when stressed...I walk and have strange appetite...like nothing...
My son got severe eczema at 2 months old what wld cause that
I desperately want to die.
I can no longer bear this hell that I'm in...
I HAVE SEVERE PTSD.
The man whom I thought was my best friend,
he gave me this PTSD...
I want to die.
I beg to die.
My entire life is hell.
Just suffering.
The man whom I thought was my best friend...
He raped my soul.
My soul is anguished and tormented and raped,
I am so so so traumatized. I have SEVERE PTSD.
My soul is raped. He raped me. Oh the anguish and the agony.
He fucked me up. Ruined me. Destroyed me.
Raped my soul; shattered my heart; fucked with my mind.
I am debilitated from the trauma.
Paralyzed frozen. Living in constant terror and panic.
I DIE INSIDE.
THE PAIN IS UNCEASING AND UNBEARABLE.
I LIVE IN A STATE OF PERPETUAL TRAUMA AND PANIC.
He betrayed and abandoned me,
discarded me like garbage!!!
(HOW THE FUCK COULD HE?)
Replaced me for another.
My mind can't fathom, my heart can't comprehend.
I live in perpetual panic and constant longing...
How could he not miss me?
How could he do this to me?
* An important thing:
people (such as I) who had a difficult childhood,
especially those who never had their emotional needs met,
are prone to limerance. The reason is because we were always prone to imagining
a parallel reality, a whole world of fantasies we could escape to...
Fantasies have always been a safer world for us than the real one,
so our mind is already used to this dynamic (it's basically like 'muscle memory').
When something triggers this dynamic, it's like opening a portal
to our safe fantasy world, and as destructive as it is, we are used to actually loving it... *
REMINDER TO SELF:
This was a karmic friendship,
meant to be there for a limited time (17-months-ish)
to teach you, about yourself!
About boundaries, about self-love,
about self-respect, about self-worth, etc...
About a whole plethora of magical, juicy, alchemical things!
The universe, God, your guides, your ancestors, are pushing you, lovingly,
in the right direction: into your own magnificent powerful magical freedom!
When you let go. The universe will catch you. It’s talking to you.
Let go of everything and trust the universe. It’s within you. ✨💫
NOTE TO MY TWIN FLAME:
Dearest twin flame, I’m working on myself,
I am being 100% healed, on every level, in every way.
This is my purification process. I am doing this for me, for you, for us.
I’m proud of myself, and I’m getting ready for you.
I love you.
💜
Does anyone know the name of this therapist and what book she has wrote
Her name is Marisa Peer. She wrote “Tell Yourself a Better Lie”, plus other books.
23:55
Lol my mind must be super weak. I've straight up wished death on myself (even said it outloud and wrote it down and even took bunch of pills once) since I was a teenager. Now at 34 year, still alive unfortunately and still here.
Wow you've made it so far.I am 24 and a little bit unhealthy.I just wish to live on and become healthier and healthier even if it's just to take care of the ones who are taking care of me.I wish you good and happiness!
You’re God’s child and you’re worth it. Much love and peace to you.🙏💙
20:11 don’t let ppl normalize bad behavior
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I stopped eating because my mom was a controller and I was in charge of my eating.
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Just want to be the 100 comment 😂🎉
Yea ocd isn’t an adjective
Ok ocd hasn’t been explained at all here.
Shes explaining it all wrong.
Or lift enough weights....
Marisa is great. However i don’t like this interviewer at all. She just irks me ugh.
Move from this environment.
Ridiculous
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