Therapist Reveals How to Stop Telling Yourself Negative Thoughts | Marisa Peer
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 พ.ค. 2024
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You’ve been lying to yourself. Yes, everyday in the privacy of your own mind, you tell yourself lies over and over again. Most of the time, these lies are destructive and push your thoughts into negative places, thus bubbling up bad emotions and causing you to feel sad, depressed, anxious, frustrated, or angry. Well, it’s time to make a change-to start lying to yourself in a positive way. It’s time to stop criticizing yourself and start praising yourself instead.
On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by hypnotherapist, founder of rapid transformational therapy, speaker, and bestselling author Marisa Peer to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways to stop telling yourself destructive lies and begin speaking to yourself in a positive and uplifting way that informs your thoughts and behaviors to change for the better.
They discuss why the thoughts you create dictate your emotions and behaviors, the power of connecting your mind and body, why you need to confront your thoughts head on and discover the root cause of them, why you have to begin telling yourself positive lies, why creating stories in your head is dangerous, how our thoughts influence our relationships, what RTT is and the power it has, how childhood trauma and lack of our needs being met influences us as adults, and why it’s okay to mess up time and time again.
SHOW NOTES:
Intro | Lisa introduces and welcomes today’s guest, Marisa Peer. [1:53]
Feelings | Marisa discusses why your thoughts dictate and influence your feelings. [2:59]
Thought Pattern | Marisa reveals how to disrupt your thought negative patterns. [4:43]
Body Connection | Marisa discusses the power of connecting your thoughts to your body. [6:07]
Ask Yourself | Marisa reveals why you need to question your beliefs and their origins. [11:13]
Needs | Marisa shares the needs of children and what happens if they’re not met. [13:10]
It Has to be You | Marisa shares why the thoughts you tell yourself must come from you. [15:38]
Relationships | Marisa reveals why you should never threaten someone as a game. [18:55]
Lying to Yourself | Marisa discusses the story you create for yourself in your head. [22:40]
What Lies Beneath | Marisa shares how to address the root cause of destructive habits. [26:21]
RTT | Marisa reveals how she treats other’s emotional pain fast and permanently. [28:54]
Role, Function, Purpose | Marisa discusses how your issues have a job and function. [33:33]
Children | Marisa discusses why you have to be very careful of what you say to kids. [37:04]
Inner Child | Marisa discusses how our problems can be traced back to childhood. [40:23]
Parenting | Marisa shares how you should approach parenting or treating children. [42:31]
Connect | Marisa shares where you can keep in touch and follow her for more advice. [43:02]
QUOTES:
“Thoughts dictate feelings. Your feelings dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your events.” [2:10]
“We have this fear that rejection will kill us. It won’t. It feels like it will, but it won’t.” [25:44]
“…you have to keep going into expansion yourself. And when you move your mind into new dimensions, it never moves back. But it goes back again, you have to do it yourself. You can’t give someone else the agency to make you feel good about you.” [32:33]
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I am a guy, very male, and this is one of my very fav channels !!! Thanks for being!!
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To that special person reading this: from the bottom of my heart, and every cell of me, I pray for out of this world happiness for you that you soon cry out of joy! You deserve every happiness! You deserve every raindrop of blessings. I uploaded a really deep story of mine yesterday on my channel fighting mental illness, raising 8 kids under age 12 and creating videos is HARD. But i am passionate to uplift lives. keep believing in yourself where ever you are
That's just the sweetest thing, thank you.
Keep your chin up too Madame!
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Always I was the "perfect girl", the smart one at school and university in my country. Now I am living in Germany and I feel like a total failure, going through heavy anxiety and even depression sometimes because I still want to be the perfect one, the best at the university here. But that is irreal because here is full of smart people, and I feel so tiny. It's so good to have this kind of interview from which we can learn and relearn how our brain works and how feelings and thoughts really affect the reality we create day by day. Thank you very much for this great interview.
Hey, same. Ich habe 4 Studiengänge hier in Deutschland gewechselt und in dem vierten Studiengang habe ich eine Klausur zum dritten Mal nicht bestanden und werde exmatrikuliert. Ich schaue, dass ich bald eine Ausbildung anfange und hoffe, dass alles klappt mit meinem Visum.
Geht es dir jetzt besser? Bist du immer noch in Deutschland?
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Hi,
I KNOW God used this channel and Marisa Peer to change my life. After listening to her and other episodes of WOI I finally fell in love with my own self at age 34.
I have been rejected my whole life by both my parents, sister and men. My mother has always been extremelly abusive and I grew up hearing her say she should have aborted me, that I am a piece of shit and that she wishes I die. And I believed that, until few weeks ago when God finally set me free from that internal rejection.
Today I love myself, I accept myself and I know I am beautiful, enough, important and loved by God! Every night before I fall asleep I say out loud 10 beautiful things about myself. And when I wake up I say out loud "I love myself" and I look at the mirror and say "good morning marvelous".
Thank you Marisa and Lisa for your beautiful work.
Wow you are such a goddess!
Love this!!! Thank you for sharing ❤️
Thanks for sharing, so proud of you. I don't know how to get there.
I WENT THROUGH A VERY SIMILAR JOURNEY! GOD BLESS YOU GIRL AND KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK
i am delighted to know this xx
Marissa has developed a great skill at cutting through the bullshit and stripping things of their excuses. It is a clarity that isn't taught in traditional psychology counselling much to everyone's loss.
thank you so much xx
I realize my negative thoughts come from my childhood and I struggle daily. right now I feel like I'm in a fight with my mind that hits me from out of no where. In my mind I am screaming. I sometimes don't sleep at night. Now, I have come across this video and I am watching with the hope of understanding ME and the HOPE of BREAKING away for those negative thoughts that stick like S**t.
I'm so sorry you've been dealing with that. Idk if this can help you or not, but challenging the familial criticism with how God thinks of me and sees me has been one of the only things that has helped me.
This means you are fearfully and wonderfully made.
You are worth everything.
You are loved and you don't have to do anything to be loved. You just are for all of eternity and every moment of your life.
You are more than a conqueror.
You are altogether beautiful.
I hope some of these can help you. These words are the truth not the criticism and hurtful words you have heard that have cut so deep.
And I just want to say, you are an amazing person. You have gifts inside you only you can share with the world in the unique way you do. You are so valuable. In all of existence, there will never be another you.
I know I'm a stranger but I relate to your experience. I don't know what things are like for you, but I'm sending you love and I hope you're doing alright.
Shes nothing short of amazing . Years of therapy all in one video. 🥰🥰🥰
So I was born in 1970.
I'm of Italian American ancestry...we did not talk back. Ever. Nobody wants the wooden spoon.
So now I have teenage boys. I'm trying to teach them how to speak up, discuss their preferences in a way that gets heard, is effective.
Quite challenging, indeed, to parent in a way one was never parented.
It's like Marissa says, what happens when your kid is 15 and their friends want to make questionable decisions?
Thank you, Lisa & #TeamLisa for getting this message out there today.
If you allow me,
So I was born in 1984, of Mexican descent, I was not allowed to speak my mind, I was expected to follow orders given by my father, so for the longest time I couldn't speak up, I'm still working on it.
👍 Thank you for allowing me
I can relate to your upbringing coming from a Mexican-American family. It was the same for me.
@@karladuenas1482 yes you are working on it, I'm darn proud!
@@marthaestrada4037 Bless you, you are here now. Proud of you too.
Lisa, you have inspired me to actually start my own TH-cam channel to support women find happiness & make money online ❤️
It’s so true that the mind is so powerful. Thoughts are real because it’s what you’ve allowed your mind to think.. garbage in garbage out .. good in and good out! so then control what and who you let in. Very powerful concept for living our lives to the full positive of its capacity 🤓🤗
I feel sisterhood through this channel 💖💖💖 some very profound vibes. I especially come to see your channel when I feel like changing my life for good and the first thing I search on youtube is Women of Impact ❤
Thank you so much for this, between Marisa Peer and Dr. Ramani Im getting the therapy I could never have afforded.
Again thank you so much 🙏❤🙏❤🙏
I am right in the middle of changing my thoughts to change my reality. Thank you for this interview. I'm going to start telling myself all of the thoughts that I want to manifest.
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We cannot suppress an emotion, but we can change the thought that is the source of it. We can change what to focus on 👀. We can control what we tell ourselves repeatedly and use empowering language💪🏽🔥. Thank you, Lisa, I love Marisa’s work. Much love to all of you ❤️❤️❤️.
Well said. I love your channel too ;-)
@@sandrinecompiegne2605 Thanks a lot, awesome to hear that!
YES to all of this! So glad you enjoyed the episode ❤️🔥💪
The best thing about Lisa is that she is a good listener
Great episode! Really loved this, for someone who suffers with depression and can't afford to go see someone videos like this are a god sent! 🙏
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love her ♥ she's so intelligent, poised and has her shit together ♥ all the while being non judgmental, kind and nurturing ♥
Marisa Peer is an intriguing speaker I need to find more of her work!
This saved me , i just got rejected yesterday
Watch on repeat 😘😘
Nah, you just dodged a bullet 😉
She is such a lovely lady. Every time I get sad I listen to Marissa ❤
It’s just amazing how powerful are minds are like a computer which we code through chosen thoughts makes me think we should all become more self aware and challenge our thoughts way more often and be very careful what words we say to ourselves and others
“So you might as well tell yourself amazing stuff because it’s very likely to become real. Same thing, sadly, with negative stuff”
absolutely xx
"Our potential expands when we move towards it" 🔥🔥🔥 Straight-up fire!!
Hi,
It feels like for the past 2 years, every few days I get another piece to the puzzle of my life, and how I can actually live it not just survive it.
I’m so freaking happy you have my fav woman on here!!
Yess riight!😄❤
Nice!! 👏❤️
After the conversation I had with my ex, I REEEEAAAALLY needed this video. Thank you sooo much
Really needed this today, thank you. I'm going to listen several more times and read the book when it comes out.
I really loved this episode! It definitely lifted my spirits to start telling myself the truth about who I am- wonderful, amazing and powerful
I love this woman
I'm glad to see her on the show, she has so much wisdom and knowledge to share! It makes you realize a lot of things about yourself from what she is saying. Thank you for another great interview!
What a huge difference a great counselor/therapists can make in anyone's life. I am grateful for the knowledgeable people you bring in, I have learnt a lot and the help this video alone provides is priceless. Looking forward to purchasing the book asap. Thank you Lisa!
OMG!🤩
2 of my favorite Humans 🥰
What a treat🥳
I Love you Marisa Peer💖
I Love you Lisa Bilyeu💖
You both are a gift to the world✨✨✨
Haha 🙌💪❤️
Woah holy shit, this hit me like a damn bullet train! I need a moment to absorb and undertand what I just heard, maybe replay this a couple of times, especially the last part about our childhoods and the inner child and the words we tell our children/have been told as children... like damn! A whole bunch of stuff just suddenly popped into my mind about myself and my childhood and I feel as if I've had several revelations about me... now I'm gonna start being more concious of my thoughts and the words I tell myself while working through my issues, thank you for this!
This is a brilliant interview. Thanks so much!!! I needed the message it brings today . And it appeared. 💓
Marisa I love youuu thank you for everything, listening to you has been life saving to me
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I LOVVVVVVVE MARISA AND I LOVVVVVVE LISA!!!!! Thankyou for this awesome interview!!
Lisa, I love your content. Keep up the good work
31:44 you are the same, therefore you can connect. You are enough. What you want, wants you and is available to you. everything is fixed by identifying these 3 things. Forgive yourself. Love yourself.
Thanks for your wise words. I’m so cool with girls liking, loving themselves and loving people around you like you. Can I advise a great book to you? It?s free and knowledge is power, and the author’s voice on audible is soothing and stimulating, and you can get it here: amzn.to/3pxRl82
I'm worthy of expressing my needs.
WOW EACH EPISODE IS A DEEP STORY! THANK YOU!
Notice the awareness behind the thoughts & feelings
Love you both. Thanks so much for your much needed contribution you give to the collective 💜💫
Oh wow, Thank you Lisa for interviewing gorgeous Marisa. I love her! You can tell she really cares
Right at the end of this interview is what helped me to understand why I never had an opinion. As a child, I was not allowed to question anything, I had to go by commands, no questions asked, no ifs no buts otherwise my mother’s violence came out! I was also ridiculed for being feminine and like Lisa I was always told I was cute, then suddenly I began to be told I had a rude head, was ugly etc then weird thing happened I got to my mid 20’s and was constantly asked if I was a model, I would laugh because I’m 5ft No inches! Lol 💖💖💖
Amazing interview, thank you so much for that!
Finding this channel is the best thing that happened this year for me! Loved this interview and thank you both so much 😊🙏🏻
i love this episode! thank you!
Yes I love Marisa Peers teachings 💕✨
This has been such a revelation for me. Thank you 🙏🏾
Thank you so much for this I’m so needed this!!
Thank you Lisa and Marisa. Thought and time are the cause of fear.🔑🤝💚🙏🏻😇🧘🏼♂️
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This was so needed. Thank you!!
Marisa is the best! I wished there were more ppl like her!
Love Marissa so much!❤️
Thank you so much for today’s message. You are amazing and I so appreciate all you do for so many. ❤️
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Literally love Marissa😩❤
All of your interviews are incredible. Great guests and you have such a gift for interviewing!
I love Marissa's vibe, the wisdom!
So interesting. Thank you, Marisa & Lisa.
Brilliant. Im training in RTT as it really helped my daughter. Thank you Lisa x 🙏🌸
You are amazing....you are changing people's lifes.
This was so eye-opening :') thank you!
this was so on point
2 powerwomen of impact. Thank you for sharing great wisdom 👌🏿👌🏿👏🏿👏🏿❣️❣️
Loaded to the core.
❤ Thank you for this..
So glad you thought so! And, pleasure ❤️
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She's amazing!!! You both are!! Love your videos/content!
What a gem 💎 thank you 🙏🏾
She is awesome wow has helped me think differently too already she really does bring out some good psychological thinking I love to hear her she’s awesome🥰
Funny thing with me is when I overworry and think/expect the worse - the opposite/ best happen. And when I don't worry about a certain outcome and relax about something - issues come.
So one thing I would say, not always what you think materialises. Oftentimes the very opposite happens.
Awareness of your own reactions is deeply appreciated 🙏 to help you on your journey, valuing even more yourself, here, a great book (it’s free trial) : amzn.to/3pxRl82
Love this talk and I have so much love and respect for Marisa
OMG MY TWO MOST FAV WOMEN IN ONE VIDEO. I LOVE YALL SO MUCH, it's such a breath of fresh to see women empowering women. I live the work you're doing Lisa. Stay blessed ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Needed this today, thank you Lisa! You are an inspiration ✨
Geez, I saw this notification and thought, is my phone's algorithm reading my mind!?
@@CherylBerryl Me too! I have since listened to this twice and found a few other interviews with Marisa! Thank you once again Lisa!
@@violetaura9007 pleasure ❤️❤️
It's an honor to meet you
Wonderful episode like the first one 🙏🏻💖🌷
This was wonderful!!! Thank you so so much 💓
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Best interview I've seen here so far 👍
Great job!
I love Marissa thank you for the video
Absolutely amazing, thank you for this!!!!! ♥️
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Hi,
Yes yes yes. The speakers list is perfecting.
She’s amazing
Ooooooohhhh my two idols in the same video!! #happy #inspired
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This was really engaging and helpful. If I met this lady in person I'm sure she would see through my mask instantly...........head witch.
I seriously wish that interview was longer ..💕
Amazing!!
Yay I love Marisa
You are so beautiful Lisa. Thank you for all that you do❤️❤️
Love this woman ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡ Changed my life
I love what Marisa Peer shares ❤❤🌟🌟🌟 she is fantastic!!!
Isn’t she? Gentleness and motherly; her voice is like soothing water. There’s a book I wish to advise (it’s not Marisa Peer’s) yet Jay Shetty is, I believe, great and so is his book and it’s free : amzn.to/3pxRl82
People who rebel because Marissa is right there are people who naturally do they all have one thing in common - have a naturally strong desire to go in the opposite direction of what you are telling them, they almost become rebellious against authority. Like a Mother saying don't touch that, hot! My Mother did this with both myself and my sister - me, I backed away, Mom said I had the sense to but my sister wanted to touch the iron in her hand and came forward!
The way around someone who has that desire to go against everything I find is - you don't try to tell them what to do but I've found that if you stop saying quickly what you would like them to do and give that up, stop doing it and tell them they've a choice and you can't make them doing you don't want them to do and suddenly you'll find they've done a 180 and are more inclined to suddenly want to help you but only when they feel there is no pressure and you back off them, because there are certain types of people you can tell what to do and they will, the people pleasers and so they will do things, especially if it's linked to your approval which you're either going to love or hate, like you've got yourself a lap dog and don't they have a back bone - or it leaves these people wide open for someone to start controlling them!
Well it's like if you say something you don't believe like trying to tell yourself you're excited when your body's telling you you're bricking it and your brain knows you don't really believe this, it doesn't like that. It tells you you're being stupid or silly and you fall back into old habits easily. The mind is used to what it is used to.
I also find if you are positive and trying to give someone a different way to think or throw in another perspective like
"you're not dying, you're just having a bad day." Or, "don't worry, things happen for a reason. I'm sure things will work out."
But even I've learnt from experience if someone does say "don't worry" then you actually do - so it goes to show if someone is angry about something and they're trying to vent and you're doing this they'll quickly find someone else to talk to become their friend because they want others to sympathize and agree they are having a hard time and they don't want any positivity but if someone is doing that, always on a downer having a moan, they don't want to change because their negative thoughts are their reality and to individuals who think this way will think you're not being very sensitive and you don't get it but if you told someone that you like being down it gives them something to moan about they'd be ever so angry and hurt because that's not necessarily true, it's just, they don't want to change their opinions and their thoughts are their reality and then like minded people tend to look for each other and group together.
I love Maria peer , she is the best ❤️
Great video 💖💛💘💕
Changing lives . I’m learning so much throughout these videos. Amazing content. What can be more important? So valuable so awesome so rare.
I’m so inspired
OMG....MY 2 FAV FEME 😍💖
I like his Christmas card idea
When people don't care, it's because they can't, because they are too overwhelmed or stressed. Our options are to subtly support them to be less stressed and have patience until they are strong enough to be able to care, or to get our needs met elsewhere if push comes to shove and we run out of options for lessening our or our partner's stress.
Bio feedback. Love it!!
Hi,
That's so beautiful
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