Are you Stuck in the Self-Development Trap? 5 Simple steps to get unstuck.
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In this video I’m going explain how, if you’re not careful, your quest for self-development could become completely debilitating and lead to inaction, robbing you from the benefits of applying what you learned and getting better results at work and in life.
I’ll then share 5 simple steps to make sure that you don’t fall into the ‘self-development pleasure trap’ and instead maximize your development by taking action.
Let me know in the comments what you think!
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"People are becoming experts at learning rather than doing."
That was a quote from the most humble person I know: myself, of course.
This is the most underrated thing you have explained. Even I was also stuck in this trap. Thank you for sharing this ❤️.
Glad it was helpful!
I am learning a lot from you.
I was stuck in that "information gathering mode" in self development. It was sick as hell.
Thanks for your advice Shade, I love you so much. Keep it going!
Awesome video!
Hi Damian, I'm so happy to hear you're finding value in the videos! The 'information gathering mode' can keep you stuck because the more you learn, the more you realise how little you know, and you never feel ready to take action (it's also called the Dunning-Kruger Effect). A simple mindset shift to gear you towards action can really help! Wishing you all the best on your journey and thanks for your kind words!
@@ShadeZahrai you don't realize (probably) how important your videos are for me. You're like a gold😍💲 between stones, I am so excited that I've found you.
You're my best and probably first woman which taught me so much about life, self development and work skills! I wish for me that one day I can meet you in person, hug you and shake your hand as thank you for all your amazing work.
You're huge!
Thanks Shadé! Much love
Have a nice day and enjoy the weekend!
@Shadé Zahrai A year ago I was on same rabbit hole and nowadays being discipline and morning ritual to get energize help me to take action to some extent. Though sometimes I miss, I couldn't able to ride off my old habits, sometime I feel like not feeling to act, mental toghness, may be procrastination. Any word for this. Really appreciate your great ideas. The 3 key motivation: Action over overthinking, Think why and write your goal. Love this idea. Thank you and love from Parramatta, Sydney.
@@damianzielinski71 I'm so happy to hear that Damian! What makes me happiest is knowing I've helped someone of been of service in some way... it's why we do what we do! You enjoy the weekend too!
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Thank you so much ...! I never knew I was in a trap....but you've saved me from wasting the most important time of my life ... thank you 💗 once again and God bless !
You are welcome!
So right for me ! Been wasting too much of time learning but not implementing fully
Just discovered you and I am so glad I did. Amazing content, great insights, smart advice, applicable and relevant and easy to follow. You are amazing!
A great reminder for all of us to get out of the repeated cycles of learning & learning to actually take inspired action whilst learning. Also thank you for the "pause" alert when you introduced the L.E.A.R.N concept, so beautifully put, Shade!
Thank you so much !!! I can relate to this . I read and read and listen to all the self help videos but I don’t take action . I appreciate your advice ❤️❤️❤️
Your uploads are short, precise and specific concisely focus on implementation of the insights which would really helps us to effectively work out plan of action to move forward with determination.
Shadezarai, there is something about you. None of your videos are just fanciful motivation. You assert so much upon the power of action. Thankyou for being there. ♥️
This is exactly what i was experiencing a lot lately, i really needed this video. Thank you so much your content are amazingly helpful. Keep up the good work🤗
This video is for me. Thanks a lot Shade. I am wondering in such a young age how you are able to gather so much of knowledge
Love it! Thanks a lot Shade for all your amazing and insightful videos. This is most important aspect that you explained in a very crisp manner. As someone ones said Action is the bridge between dreams and reality. Thank you for sharing!
Yes this happens to me reading philosophy too. Read read but no do. As the Stoic philosopher Seneca said: “Putting things off is the biggest waste of life: it snatches away each day as it comes, and denies us the present by promising the future. The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow and loses today. You are arranging what lies in Fortune’s control, and abandoning what lies in yours. What are you looking at? To what goal are you straining? The whole future lies in uncertainty: live immediately.”
I like the phrase self-development trap/paralysis. I've learned this problem by experience, but didn't have an easy way to explain that to people.
I've been stuck in this for most of my adult life without realizing it...thanks for sharing what it is and how to get out of it 😊
My GOD! this one was for me. Wow! This is so me.
your are really really influence person.
i stop to watch other motivational speaker video because you speak so deeply and 110% true like your each and every single word I have experienced.
Your fluency is mind blowing out of the word .I am totally speechless. I don't know how I explaine that how fluent and how cool are you. How did this fluency come. Of course by doing hard work.
Your explanation is so clear, easy to understand, and mostly easy to put up.
That's crazy, less than 7 minutes to share a valuable strategy to improve any skills.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience.
Take care!
Great video Shadé Zahrai !! Thanks! I was happy after a long time to know this from a gr8 speaker like you ! Knowledge without action is a waste of time. Action is the key ! I will follow the LEARN technique to avoid the self development paralysis !! Also, we should be focused on ‘what and why ‘ we are learning something
Each point shared by you is practical and to the point. Thanks a ton
Ma'am you opened my third eye.
Thank you so much. May God bless you and your family.
One of the best warnings ever given! Could be also applied to other domains of development (bodily or spiritual).
I appreciate you making our lives better. I'm currently working on a NEW SONG. I'm taking a holistic approach i.e. not just focusing on Vocal Training, but also focusing on Water Intake, diet, exercise, sleep, emotional connection to the song, and many more!
Hearing all the time without any action is not going to benefit anybody....very well explained....I really love the way you put it across....loads of love dear...
Oh my God!!!!Yes its been years am in this trap. Thank you so much for this.
Hi Shade, Would be glad if you can make a video on how introverts and people with social anxiety can succeed at workplace?
Best video ever ,will stop buying any new self help book .Have enough time to LEARN and Act
Highly informative, highly relative. You are amazing, thank you for sharing such valuable information.
I like this channel. The topics are very easy to understand and I'm learning a lot. I will share it to my students.
Wow, I'm totally mesmerized by your confidence and speaking ability although this video is really helpful to me. I am trying to improve my speaking ability for the last few months but somehow I couldn't able to ameliorate myself. I figured out a few mistakes that I'm continuously doing again and again and these are not expended my learning. From this video,you pointed out all the tactics for self-development and I appreciate for that.
True!! The 1st time I understand that I am stuck in the joy of learning Self-Development not applying it? Thanks!!
You are doing a great job Shade 👍🏻
Thank you Mr. Jadoun!
Thank you for such a great topic and for point out this usually overlooked trap. I myself find a great pleasure in spending time on consuming self development content and I do try to implement it in life, especially while building relationships with others. However, I had no such strategy as you just offered to actually know how successful (or not) I am at applying new ideas. L.E.A.R.N. strategy can help me make self evaluation and this is what I chose to do from today on ☺️
Thank you Shadé for your meaningful videos. Greetings from Poland :)
You r really great
You keep me motivated always
Beautiful video. Btw I am waiting for your next video from a long time 😍
Content creator helps me when I stuck in my life ❤❤❤
I hope one day i will speak like u.
I like the way you speak because it's totally understandable.
Wow! You and your videos are amazingly very informative. Lesson learnt and I am gonna apply it this time. 👌👍
Thank you Naeem 🙏🏽 Glad you found this useful 😊
@Shadé Zahrai A year ago I was on same rabbit hole and nowadays being discipline and morning ritual to get energize help me to take action to some extent. Though sometimes I miss, I couldn't able to ride off my old habits, sometime I feel like not feeling to act, mental toghness, may be procrastination. Any word for this. Really appreciate your great ideas. The 3 key motivation: Action over overthinking, Think why and write your goal. Love this idea. Thank you and love from Parramatta, Sydney.
Hi Bijaya,
Thanks for this comment and sharing your experience. It's great to see you've become more disciplined with your morning ritual which is helping set up your day for success. It's ok if you fall off the bandwagon every now and then... it's about how quickly you're able to get back on. Making note of what's causing you to divert to old habits could help too... something might be 'triggering' a return to the 'familiar', and once you're aware of the trends you can take action to prevent it happening in future. The motivation hacks are definitely relevant here so I'm happy to see you referencing them 😊
Wishing you all the best on the journey!
@@ShadeZahrai Lovely, Thank you so much. I will note the divert.
. Very important topic, which was mostly not thought of !
. Wonderfully explained, to initiate & practice once learnt something.
Thank you! 🙏
VERY USEFUL!!! Thank you Shade!!!!
Seems this video is exclusively made for me. Hard hitting. Thank you.
Shade thank you for such insightful and knowledgeable content you are awesome.👍🏻😊 Actions gives us motivation but we all watch motivational videos for motivation in the same way if we want to improve our personality then we need follow action which lead to personality development just watching content is not alone sufficient at all.
Very true....
Thanks a lot for reality check for all learners....You explained very well..
Your videos are great for self growth 👍🏻
Wow! This was me but not anymore. Thx. Keep them coming 😎
Thanks a lot for sharing..It will be really useful for me.
Learning emotional intellingence and practicing it by acknowledging it as explained by you; the graph method of High, low & positive, negative technique. Thank you
Information put into action is knowledge 👍
That's a thing to remember
I am facing this issue since years. Thanks for this unique way of helping
You are most welcome
This gal is Awesome 👏🏽 😎 I feel so much better about myself and my professional career because of her videos ❤
Thank you so much Shadé❤
Thank you, Shade, since I connected your video motivations I learned more and my work productivity is effective and efficient.
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woww ... thnku fr info ...luv &/blessings from India🇮🇳
I love these motivation videos. Thank you a lot
Thanks you Shadé Zahrai 🥰
Sunday morning and the first video from shadé Zahrai =
Have a wonderful Sunday! I've heard about Atomic Habits - a friend of mine read it and said she loved it... I'll have to check it out! It's great that you're giving it a second read... sometimes you need to review the content and you glean new insights and lessons. Definitely agree with you... motivation without action is wasted! Thanks for your comment Ammar and wishing you all the best!
You deserve more people hearing you, you have the potential. Keep doing and I am sure soon you will reach it
Thank you for the kind comment! So long as one person is positively impacted by what we share, that’s good enough for me 🙏🙂
@@ShadeZahrai May Allah always bless you more ❣️
Thank u so much for the video. Sending my good wishes to u from India.
Thanks for sharing these Awesome Hacks... It will be beneficial for us... 👍👍👍
Such a practical vdo....most commonly encountered inevitable fact self development trap...I comit too being trapped..But LEARN..ahead...Thanks very much frm India....
I’m working on saving money by looking at coupons and using them the next time I go to the store , biking to work instead of driving , and putting money into my savings account.
Hello i think you have touched the right point as . since last few months i am also in this trap.
At present i am focusing on how to create a good pitch deck and create a good go to market strategy
Any ways thanks for making me aware that i have got stuck in the trap
Will use ur LEARN technique
thanks again u r simply great
Yes this started for me from the time of covid. When I just started taking anything and everything to develop to keep myself busy.
This video saved a hell lot of my precious time ⏳
you've been great!
Great video, I thought I was the only one in this development paralysis
Thank you! 😊
Great video it made a lot of sense my only issue was the two stools, there was no symmetry between them😢
Thanks for good information.
Madam the content of your video is impressive and focused. Good work
Thanks for this 👍🏽
You are so amazing Shade , It would be really helpful for communities with the captions on too, Please could you enable it for auto mode?
Thank you Bhanu! 🙏🏽 My husband usually enables auto subtitles when he uploads the videos. We checked and the auto subtitle settings are enabled yet somehow youtube is not allowing the option during playback. Strange...
The example of Jam goes in sync with Paralysis... But so many PD videos will put viewers in Comma... 😊
Appreciate the 'LEARN' full form...
Really useful 👍👍.... appreciate it...👍👍
Thank you. Great stuff.
🙏🙏🙏
Very insightful!
Great shade....👍👍👍
Maam you are so right, this happens with men and women alike.... Knowledge and Application are two different things... Both are important but when one invades the other's energy it results in imbalance
Love you Shade ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Excellent thanks 👌😊. Very good topic you chose ☺️.
I am also suffering in self development disease 🦟.
I have downloaded your video.
I will watch ⌚ it again and again until I start acting
*This Is exactly what I need*
Amazing shade
Very useful information 👌🏻
Amazing video as always
Happy to hear you enjoyed it 😊
Love your videos
I think people need to watch this video first before watching any self - help videos on TH-cam. With all the knowledge, information, details and other self - help videos on TH-cam, people will tend to keep on consuming knowledge instead of acting on what they’ve learned.
This is why this video is super duper important to be seen first before anyone starts their self - help journey on TH-cam.
Learn
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I am also in this trap for last so many months. It is coming from fear of losing info/fear of missing out. It shows lot of choices shows poor decisions or sometimes no decisions at all.
Even while writing, i am thinking of completing two or three options at the same time. So it cannot be eliminated or ignored. I just liberate it i believe.
Do one thing until its completion is a main option for me as of now.
Best self help video👍🏼
Greetings from Egypt keep it up . you doing great
This is why I don't trust motivational speakers , because it becomes an habit of endless consumption of inspirational and self - help information which leads to loss of greatest called as time, as it feels pleasurable. Practical application of useful information leads to truest sense of self - development. As action is the foundational key to excellence . Thanks for the genuine and real content Mam.
Love this: "😊
I'm finding that if I keep seeking self development material, the views from one person sort of muddy or undo things that worked from another. I think for me it's best to stick with what works and stop there. Do and believe that which moves you towards your goals.
I fell for the Self Development Pleasure Trap for a few years lmao now, i don't feel pleasure when taking action 😭 this wasn't the case before i jumped on the self-development train🙈🙈 I just want to be able to enjoy the action I take without feeling like "maybe I could do more developing first"
Ah so interesting! It's fascinating how it happens... once you get sucked into the trap, you develop an insatiable appetite for motivational and self-growth content, and then the more you learn, the more you realise how much there is yet to learn... and it holds you back. This is where excuses like "maybe I could do more developing first" and "I don't feel ready yet" come into play. Thanks for sharing your experience!
@@ShadeZahrai "i dont feel ready yet" YES! That was an excuse for the longest time and I feel so silly now that I know one will never truly be ready.
I'm back to taking action now but I feel like I'm not aligned with the present moment.. that's why I say I don't enjoy the action i take, because I expect it to look/feel a certain way. But its all simpler than I believed it would be and I don't feel that 'great sense of achievement' after taking the necessary action, or the actions I once defined as 'impossible'.
I don't feel the magic i'm supposed to feel from all the self growth 😅
Its only when I tracked my progress for the year thus far where I realized that I actually did fulfil my goals!
Anyway, thank you for these videos Shadé, they are really helpful. Keep on making them 😁 God bless
A useful thing to remember is that the "silver" techniques applied today might yield better results than "golden" ones 6 months from now. For example, if you read a good but not great book on entrepreneurship and apply it, you might have a nice little side income. If you wait to find the perfect book, how much will you be earning?
Your presentation is very good.
Thank you so much ❤
So many things happening at the moment trying to sort through all of them and figure out next step.
Wonderful speaker you are.
Thank you! 🙏
Awesome! ❤️❤️
Wow Very helpful videos