Why You're Miserable at Work... & What to Do About It! | Shadé Zahrai
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ก.ค. 2024
- If you’re unhappy at work, it comes as no surprise.
A survey from Monster found that 95% of respondents were thinking about quitting their jobs - and burnout is the number one reason.
Why do we work so hard, only to end up miserable?
We seem to be operating on untruths. We have a collective belief that if we work hard and ‘do our time’, we’ll eventually be happy. We’ll eventually reach the destination we’re working so hard to get to. Then, all of our worries will disappear.
Yet this elusive quest for happiness only leads to misery, damaging our mental health, our relationships and our hope for the future.
And the most ironic part of it all?
Many of us know this, yet we still prescribe to it.
In this episode I share two of the most common ‘mistruths’ I've come across that keep so many of us distracted and miserable. Then I share 4 evidence-based practices you can implement immediately to be your ‘circuit breaker’, help you step off the hedonic treadmill and experience happiness, now.
Research:
• Aknin, L. B., Dunn, E. W., Proulx, J., Lok, I., & Norton, M. I. (2020). Does spending money on others promote happiness?: A registered replication report. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 119(2), e15.
• Dunn, E. W., Aknin, L. B., & Norton, M. I. (2014). Prosocial spending and happiness: Using money to benefit others pays off. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 23(1), 41-47.
• Seligman, M. E. P., Steen, T., & Peterson, C. (2005). Empirical validation of interventions: Positive psychology progress. American Psychologist, 60(5), 410-421.
Seppälä, E. M. M. A. (2016). Happiness Track. According to the American Institute of Stress (...), 48, 40.
Monster Survey:
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Article Links:
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1. Be human, accept all emotions label them. 2. Do less. Stay in the moment. 3. Focus on good stuff. 4. Spend on others..time, emotions etc..service to others
Even these things seem simple, if you miss them you will struggle miserably with life! I realized them and I am recovering now from old ugly life! and still there is a resistance to go back to old life but I think practicing these daily will help us to adopt them permanently!
Allof the above is true but easier said than done.
You explained this point so well Shadé I love how authentic you are This really made me think about just going for it, leading with my heart Thank you so much for all the wonderful content you spread
this 7 min video was like a 700 page book. So concise and awesome!
This is such a great video. Thanks for sharing it Shadé!
This is the good stuff right here. As a business student who reads a lot of psychology and productivity type books, your content is awesome. Super useful information with an emphasis on implementation. You need to compile your work into a book so I can buy it. 👍📖🙏
You nail the message down highly effectively, I always appreciate your thoughtful & powerful messages. Have a nice day. 👍
Miss ShadeZahrai! You are an absolute Angel! 👼 This video is an eye-opener for me. I have been in every trap that you explained here. This screencast should help me break the loop. One=At-A-Time!
Merci beaucoup !!!
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Great stuff, quite educating and inspiring..appreciate it so much gal.
Thanks mam for your efforts in bringing this content. It’s excellent 👏🏻.
I agree that Infomania and FOMO are real issues of modern corporate life. I request you to make an exclusive video on these topics at your convenience.
Hello I👏 want to thank you. I'm so happy that you add all these videos. With you I'm learning English and I see the world differently
So effortlessly satisfying and educational, another great video, keep going 😍
Thanks, that really helps. Nice and simple, I can remember this and implement it! Love your videos, many thanks 🙏😊
I couldn't agree more with what you all have said in this video
Reminds me of when I was 20. I bought a house and was hyper focused on paying it off. I finally did it after 15 years. But now at age 36, divorced and with 3 kids, it feels so empty. Must be a primitive survival thing that pushes us.
I relate to this.
Atleast you got a home to your own name.
Welcome to the rat race. Chase this chase that and you end up feeling numb after think you had it all.
hell yeah.. why u damn true at everything shade.. love everything you make.
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You know what? You are very charismatic! I have only known one or two people like you!
It's very useful for the College students like me .
Tnx alot your every video is motivating .
Namaste 🙏 from India 🇮🇳
I'm in constant learning stages towards the phrases that come with the positives and negatives of these mental thoughts that become the norm in our behavior.
Wonderful content....relevant to modern work culture !
I love your content! 🖤😍 Go girl!
We spent the majority of our lives working to make the richest and powerful rich and stronger
You would be the perfect boss.
Structure and foundation. Thanks.
Great Advice! @Shade
And most importantly you have to figure out why you are unhappy in your current role / job. The mantra is - Spend time with yourself with less distraction & observe for what you are passionate about ,You will find your answers when you connect with your inner self, calculate it + plan it and make a bold step to follow your passion.
Life is too short to do those things which you are not happy and passionate about ,day & day out.
All the best !
absolutely agree! great advice
I second you on this, Shadé ✌🏼
We want your channel to HIT ONE MILLION Subscribers... Hope you reach it very soon ..& afterwards 10 MILLION & many more ✨❤
Bravo, very practical and true.
You are glowing and growing everyday.
Thanks for sharing.. great advice
Thank you for beautiful advice
*What Ever think is!! It's doesn't matter..* *You're so lovely and Smart 😍 Love to hear You 😍, I love your Style and way of Explaining 😍*
Wonderful video! 💖
Thanks for sharing 😊☺️
I love the message
Awesome video 🔥🔥
Thanks for sharing this informative video 👍 Your mentioned tips are surely beneficial for everyone including me as well. @Shadezahrai May God Bless You with an Abundance of Happiness and Success in your life 🤲
It is really benifetial information for me , I'll try to do all of them in my life to live with life satisfaction . thank you a lot
Being happy first ... And it gives more and better successes... Fantastic learning is here in your session for being happy and living world class everyday.
Your description too contains so much insights.. Pls put that in comments and pin it.. All may get chance to read it.
You do so much research and deliver the content... Like honey bee collecting honey from thousands flowers everyday and processing it to delicious honey... I am so lucky and lakhs of views lucky.. Wishing you inspire billions of minds... Have a marvelous day today and everyday
Thanking you for an another marvelous learning episode...
Amazing !
Mam... Why do u always tell us the exact solution we need.... Thanks a lot ❤❤
It will be nice to see you again 🙂
Nice speech. thanks 🌹
Actually, the problem is people are pitched against machines, to perform better, in the current nascent Automation era . Please make a video on this topic.....
honestly thank you so much
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More helpful for me today
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So nice advices
Hy Shade you're becoming prettier day by day. 💗
I can totally relate what is my problem and what i required to understand my problem by this vedio
I found the right mentor.
Very much helpful
Thanks madam,
Love your stuff
Very helpful
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very motivational
thanks
Shade please expound about org that consistently delay salaries without reason and what employees, consultants , associates etc can do about it
You dear friend free knowledge life style good job
Thanku so much ✨🌸
After working for 10 years, I thought I could already buy my dream house. But I was very wrong. I should have realized it earlier.
Awesome
Super 💖💖💖
You are awesome
Thank you
good choice on this outfit 🫡
Hello Sister Shade Zahrai please create several youtube videos with subtitles about Storytelling &Open Ended Questions in order to make the Clients want to buy Financial Services Products from us like ;;
✅ Estate Planning (Life Insurance)
✅ Income Protection Planning / Wellness Planning (Health Insurance + Critical Illness Insurance)
✅ Child Education Planning
✅ Retirement Planning
Your voice gives me like 🚀❤️🔥
Hahaha..I am working at EY audit firm.. whether I like it or not. i need to productive and focused....
keep up the good work 👍
Thankyou so much mam
I have been seeing your videos from India
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Thanks
I believe it's all about ones own view point
I am observing you very keenly so may be one day I could speak just like you.
Good morning ♡
I was going to film a video myself, but got distracted by Shade and was not as productive. It was time well spent though 😃
I'm aggressively looking to make a career transition in 2024. It's to much time doing something you don't want to do.
Cool
Dear Shade, you should read about the dopamine-track which is the physical explanation for the arrival phallacy. Btw, I find it strange you talk about these things in this way while you seem to be a workaholic.
At work everyone is upset because of my communication and confidence making all customers upset with me.
I trying to always keep positive but not working. And I lost my job.
Obg menina 👧
Super CURIOUS to know whether you follow SADHGURU?.. Pranam
Hi Shade can you do a video on presence of mind.I am a nurse but peole always complains that " you are not in this world" .Pleass help
There's no way to happiness...happiness is the way.☺
Happiness comes from knowing that Jesus is "The Way" to enlightenment and true peace and happiness. He offers you eternal life and joy in abundance in this life and the next. Don't be like the souls that spit in his face and crucified him, consider the wisest man who lives. Brother Brad
Amen!
What to Do About It 😀
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Tell not to work 7 days a week to a south Asian immigrant 😂and OMG! They will freak out 😅.
They are wired to work hard but still stay happy and satisfied this way ❤
Good , fom india
In short, do not live by yourself, You should know your purpose in this life. What is the purpose of your existence? If you know the answers to these questions, there's a fulfillment. you'll be contented and happy.
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Welp! Infomania and fomo. That's me 🤦🏽♂️
In Judaism, Rabbi Natan said when G-d wants to show His love to someone and illuminate him, he'll make a poor man knock on his door. This is because, in Judaism, giving charity and helping others is an obligation, and people have found they feel better when they do it.
Do you believe that the world is dual? Both produce their own joys and hardships, Neurologists still do not know how neurotransmitters work or spiritual joys turn out to be miracles for them, but in this world of 8 billion, only human beings can be defeated or win by the realities of their desires, I believe that the responsibility of everyone and everyone is personal and there is a difference between human beings or the nature of human beings is different, Search or questions that are found for each person individually like a good sign, Heart responsibilities interfere with this to teach the soul or In the spiritual or ordinary world, life and communication are not compatible, The necessities of life or Unconsciously compulsions may put them together, It may be pleasurable, or it may feel uncomfortable, or it may be subconsciously neutral, If we are scientists. Doctor. Hard worker or a farmer, All the secrets of life lie in our desires ......
I have 13 projects at home alone....
I forget pain.. when i see your face
We are working 100hours per week not 40 hours
Are u happy with your work?
I start job at age of 30
Productivity guilt
Mam, from which country you are ?
First
Do you need hindi sub title? As TH-cam is automatically creating English subtitles for you. I think you need hindi subtitles , so that indian people can subscribe to your channel and watch your video too.