You've been scrolling for a while, Feeling groggy, lost in the pile. No judgment here, it's all okay, Let's take a breath and reset today. Our minds are hooked, tech pulls us in, Feeds our fears, and makes us spin. Amygdala's charged, it craves control, But we can break free, reclaim the goal. Prefrontal power, calm and clear, Leads us forward, away from fear. Big tech knows the game we play, But we can choose to walk away. Set your habits, take control, Replace the mindless, find your soul. Walk, read, talk out loud, Rediscover, and feel proud. It's not too late to break the chain, To step outside and breathe again. The deep life's calling, full of peace, Find your depth, and feel release.
I suggest giving it another go if you can! There's a lot of great videos like these that might help with doom-scrolling (depending on what's going on with you IRL, and if the doom-scrolling is to avoid some deeper issues). There's also ways to train your brain to gain back focus for long-form content (even with ADHD), and there's focus aides that could help too.
I think the HARDEST part is that it’s like an addiction, but we hold it in our hands. It’s like asking an alcoholic to get sober while holding a bottle of alcohol.
@@setablazee3570 How are they any different? Ex addict here who spent a long time abusing substances. 👋 Addiction to substances works like this... You take a substance and that substance goes into a receptor and gives a "command" to release dopamine in your brain for example and you get hooked to that dopamine rush and want it again and again and again... Scrolling on your phone does the exact same thing. You see something interesting and fun and it releases dopamine and other goodies in your brain and you want it again and again and again. In a nutshell they are the same thing but doing drugs is more intense and more dangerous.
@@setablazee3570 How are they any different? Substance abuse works like this. You take a substance and it goes to a receptor and sends a "command" to release dopamine and other goodies and you get hooked on that wanting it again and again. Scrolling trough social media is the exact same thing. You see a short interesting and fun video that releases dopamine and other goodies in your brain and want it again and again... In a nutshell they are the same thing but substances are more intense and more dangerous.
@@setablazee3570 How are they any different? Substance abuse works like this. You take a substance and it goes to a receptor and sends a "command" to release dopamine and other goodies and you get hooked on that wanting it again and again. Scrolling trough social media is the exact same thing. You see a short interesting and fun video that releases dopamine and other goodies in your brain and want it again and again... In a nutshell they are the same thing.
My final hurdle to disconnect is TH-cam itself, I play videos when I shower, cook, eat, all the time. I don’t even watch or pay attention it’s just noise
Maybe just put on some music or nature sounds! Humans are meant to be in nature and with other humans so it makes sense. I do the exact same thing but I definitely think the sitting and scrolling is more my problem than listening to stuff while being productive or something
I do the same and I’ve concluded it’s because I want to feel as if I’m with other people when I’m lonely. The voice of other people calms my nervous system.
I had an emotional reaction to this video, for a number of reasons: -The way you speak is just so warm and friendly -You made me realize I am a shit friend to myself -I have been slowly destroying my mental health doomscrolling despite knowing these companies are out to seize and monetize our attention
I think treating yourself as a friend is the most human thing you can do. People dehumanize themselves by not looking at themselves fairly or creating that window to BE human. Because we all are human, but we forget about ourselves and who we are.
@@PeenieLinguinelove your Neighbor as they self But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you
A small note on 9:12: don’t push yourself to go too deep! That can lead to rumination-thinking circularly about one thing for long periods of time. Let your feelings tell you where they are right now, and don’t force them to be something else. Once you’ve identified a feeling, you can decide how you’d like to respond to it. If you feel small or sad, is it telling you you need a certain kind of comfort, perhaps from a friend? If you feel angry, is it telling you that something in your life needs to change? If you’re lonelier than usual, what does that difference mean to you? Don’t force analysis, either-your feelings are like magnets. They’ll tell you what they want to gravitate toward. These are just my two cents, though, based on my own experiences. Highly recommend talking to a therapist if you can.
Yea as someone with borderline personality disorder ....i try to avoid doing this in general.... sitting with my pure feelings is emotions is how i end up in the hospital and being sent off. Im not able to calm myself down by myself. Im not able to regulate going into the most extremes. Like when i get anxious i get so anxious that it would turn into a anxiety attack and i would literally fall apart. Its like my amigila and my frontal lobe dont give a shit about each other and thus dont listen to each other AT ALL. I would feel anxious and i literally cant stop feeling anxious no matter what i tell myself. Im very very self aware and i know its irrational to feel this way and its not that big of a deal but feel like this anyways. My body will feel feelings and it don't matter what thought process i try to get out of it ...
@@mesekkai as someone with adhd, it's a bit similar. Feelings might just go around in circles and never ease off. Sometimes watching a video is a form of keeping myself away from some thoughts that won't go away otherwise by themselves.
What of the grief of losing a lover, when it follows me like a shadow, disappearing for months in the summer sun and gripping me with cold hands in the dark of the night, and like a shadow it feels so inescapable, yet my life is good, I AM happy, but this coldness is simply a whisper that I'll never be as happy as I once was
The eye contact, the facial expressions, the tone of voice.. very effective communication, and I even felt more relaxed, only a minute or two into the video.
While I think all the points in this video are great I also feel like nowadays this issue of doomscrolling is presented so one sidedly. As if there are only two options: Either be a mindless scroll-zombie or live a life almost devoid of modern media. I don't agree with that. When I watch my favorite shows, play a really good video game or absolutely go nuts to my favorite music I do not regret that time spent. Then I am actively engaged with the medium, I don't scroll on the side or get bored in-between. I'm focused, I am thinking about the things happening and they're implications/meaning, I might rewind or pause to give myself time to experience what is happening at my own pace. That feels very different from doomscrolling. I still think engaging with media all day everyday will make you unhappy even if its ""good media"" but its completely fine to consume media if you are actively enjoying yourself. When im thinking about what I watched or played hours later and notice myself engaging with and enjoying that memory, thats a sign for me that that was a ""good"" type of media engagement.
Well your an exception then. But he did say that it's fine to do some of it. If its taking over your life it's a problem. If its not then no problem. 😊
I agree with this. I think there's a lot of long-form meaningful content out there to engage with. But it's becoming less common because of the focus that's required to process all of it.
I legit love talking to myself. I’ll just talk out loud my thoughts or act like I’m talking to someone (cuz when I try to actually talk to people I stumble or am afraid of judgement. I’m an introvert. 😆)
@@ceirho4741 In the video, he mentions connecting with yourself, paying attention to your feelings, and processing how you feel. Some people find talking out loud helpful. You could also try journaling. If you are religious, or just want to give it a try, you could pray out loud. (The kind of prayer where you just say how you feel & what you're grateful for, etc.)
REAL i love talking to myself out loud, it's such a fun thing to do when i'm bored or just want to say stuff without there being anyone to interrupt me, and it can even help me process my thoughts and ideas and make new ones. i have literally talked myself into exhaustion multiple times just because i find it so fun and soothing to do when nothing's going on and i'm having a lot of ideas about things :D
A heartfelt thanks for this. I stopped shorts 2 years ago, noticing that I felt isolated and contradictory, not someone I wanted to be. Now when I watch or play games it is either to pass the time (as one does with nothing to do) or it is to decompress from something I did do. The joke about playing a game for a second job does apply in some cases, but I know it’s a game, and it allows me to relax from hands on work, school, or a bad day, by taking my mind away from those things. In that regard, I think playing or watching is time well spent if it helps me get to a better place. I do need to work on the passing time part, but I am making progress. I am a better friend to myself today than yesterday Random internet guy signing off, so go to sleep, you have an exam in the morning.
A couple of years ago while laid off from work I got in the greatest shape in my life. Physically, mentally, and spiritually, I was in complete control of myself and not a thing could stop me. I have lost my grip and footing on that control since then but am actively interested in working to reclaim that and this video really is what I needed. Everything that you’ve gone through is as true as anyone could ever want it to be. It works too. I want to be better and I will be better again. Anyone reading this know there is no better time than now to claim the life that you want. No stone is too big
Deleting social media I learned I wasn’t missing out. My life improved, my health improved, and who I really had in my life was clear. Peaceful clarity. All positives and no negatives. I wish all of you that my friends ❤ and here’s to limiting our TH-cam time too 🎉
And once you do see or talk to your friends, you actually have things to catch up on. I didn't see the pictures they posted of their birthday party, so now they can tell me all about it and show me pictures in person. My human connection improved 100x!
Just a few notes. I don't think "Trash Music" is a problem actually. As a musician, music is supposed to be emotional. Just because it is not calming, doesn't make it bad. I would agree that having a constant stream of music is not ideal. If you listen to music, make sure you listen to music you like, and you listen actively. Make listening the activity.
Agreed. Music is art. You wouldn't advise avoiding "high-dopamine paintings" to kick an Internet addiction. That "trash music" is often very deeply meaningful to me on an almost spiritual level, and I could never reduce it to just mindless media consumption. Honestly, I don't even find myself listening to music I find personally meaningless unless it's for social reasons (sharing music with others/hearing others' suggestions out even if it turns out to not be my thing, which I think is a positive thing as it gives me an opportunity to challenge my preconceived notions). Why would I? I've never found myself thinking, "Man, I should really cut down on my music listening time. It's keeping me from living life." But granted, he did say you don't have to follow that exact same list.
Thank you! As weird as this sounds I have had a lot of revelations about myself watching music videos on repeat, while going into a zoned out meditative state. I am into Nerdcore and I choose songs that have deeper meaning to me about the stories they were inspired from. It gets me on a train of thought that I follow through myself. Why does this stand out to me? Do I relate to it on some level? Why?
it literally is. music is expressive, there is no wrong thing to express through music! now yeah it is a matter of how your sound environment is impacting you, if you're listening to loud saturated music all day, maybe start questioning that...
When I think of trash music, I think more of the lyrics than the anything. Like I love my rap music, but damn are those lyrics not good for me to listen to as much as I do
Breaking saturday sabbath is sin(Isaiah 66:23-24) And eating pork, lobster shrimp(Isaiah 66:16-17) And doing christmas easter(Deuteronomy 12:30) and praying to statues rosary, cross idols(exodus 20:4)
@GlobnarTheGreen "Virgin Mary" is just the catholic version of Diana of the Ephesians/Semiramis of the Mespotamia. In reality Mary never wanted worship/praise, and never was an intercessor. Read 1 Timothy 2:5 & Luke 11:27-28 and stop praying to Mary.
@GlobnarTheGreen Nobody said anything about stoning or the law of Moses. Stop being lazy and go actually read the scriptures I sent so you can see how Yeshua returns at his second coming and slays eaters of swine. It's still unclean. This isn't the law. This is the rule given to Noah in Genesis 7:2 to put difference between clean and unclean. The Sabbath day is one of the 10 commandments which the Roman Catholic church changed to Sunday because they think they are above the rules just like the Pharisees. Mark 7:6-9 [6]He answered and said unto them, Well hath Esaias prophesied of you hypocrites, as it is written, This people honoureth me with their lips, but their heart is far from me. [7]Howbeit in vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men. [8]For laying aside the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do. [9]And he said unto them, Full well ye reject the commandment of God, that ye may keep your own tradition. This is also what Christ thinks of you using vain heathen customs like Christmas and Easter to honor him. Stop making up your own righteousness and honor God how HE commands you. Using pagan customs to honor God is strictly forbidden. 1 Corinthians 10:21 [21]Ye cannot drink the cup of the Lord, and the cup of devils: ye cannot be partakers of the Lord's table, and of the table of devils.
"you are only as lonely as you are disconnected from yourself." - That line alone holds a great amount of importance. That hit very accurately Sir, well put.
I like dissociating and feeling numb. Its calming for me. I do not like social media, i play freecell and listening to cerebrally stimulating music. I like being in the void and feeling free. This is all too much. I do not want to connect with others or anything. I just want to exist within all that is and be in harmony with everything.
yeah but you cant live your life like this. whatever you prefer, in order to survive in this world, you literally cannot do this unless you're wealthy lol. food, a roof over your head, the wifi and technology you need, everything comes at a cost, one that you cannot pay for without the help of someone else. so unless you have that someone else secured for the rest of your life, you NEED to wake up. real life is not going to be so kind to you so you better start preparing now. trust me when i say i like those things too. i love sleeping and being unemployed and doing nothing all day but cuddling with my cat and my hobbies like drawing, reading, existing in comfy blankets, video games, etc etc, but whos going to pay for those things ? who is going to provide me with those things if im an adult ? exactly. you just need to find a balance. you can still have this experience, but you have to have it in moderation. and this isnt a new thing, life has been like this for a long time (again, unless youre wealthy, in which case a lot of it is easily done for you, but not many of us are that fortunate..)
Hey, just wanted to say that watching this has helped me kickstart a major breakthrough in therapy and learning to develop a healthier kind of attachment to others and feeling secure on my own. Turns out step one was allowing myself to feel bad and think about why I felt that way. Strong negative emotions don't feel nice, but embracing them really is important and a lot of good can come from it. Not to mention that it's genuinely the only way to completely relieve those emotions. So yeah, thank you!
As someone with ADHD I’ve come to learn through experimentation that we need more body movement than we realize. I’m medicated because I have a bad level of ADHD but combining the medication with exercise is honestly, wow. When you stay seated or without moving your body for too long but use mental stimulation, it actually “harms” you more than most realize. It can cause depression, dissociation, anxiety, etc. if you have ADHD you’re much more vulnerable and you need to actively work towards correcting that loop.
Totally agree! I work from home, tethered to a computer - but getting a yoga ball instead of a chair has been a game changer!! I constantly fidget and roll around on it while on calls, in meetings, writing emails.. I’ve noticed much more mental clarity and physical energy 😊
@@DannyD-lr5yg That’s awesome! It’s funny how most of us had to experiment and figure out our condition on our own because up until recently there was no one to help us. I’m glad you found your adjustment though, I still work in an office setting so I try to stimulate my body in other ways.
As someone with adhd my phone addiction got so bad I didn’t know what to do. Screen limits didn’t work I have no self control. The phone is a physical object.I ended up regularly pouring honey on my phone which makes using my phone unpleasant if I don’t want sticky fingers. It is the only thing that works, when I see honey on my screen it makes me think twice about clicking on it
You gave me exactly what I needed and still need: a plan for a way out, honesty, understanding, acceptance, kindness, support, truth, love, warmth, and hope. Love you
This video was beautiful thank you for this, please continue to spread your message, I’m 17 and a scarily high percentage of people around my age and younger are all addicted to this scrolling, mainly short form videos such as tiktok,instagram reels, TH-cam shorts and it seriously worries me because of the sheer scale of this problem, I don’t think there’s anyone I know that doesn’t at least spend a little while scrolling on social media and I’m worried people will struggle to think for themselves and escape the loop and that it will only continue to get worse for the majority of us young people.
It saddens and scares me too. I’m around your age as well (not saying exactly for privacy purposes) but often when I’m with my little cousin, I think of things we could do that doesn’t involve technology all the time and he seems to enjoy that.
one piece of advice: let yourself be in discomfort off your phone. put it down, accept the discomfort of not scrolling, and genuinely sit in the feeling of anxiety and pull you have back towards it. sit in the discomfort. stare at the ceiling like when you were a kid. let your brain breathe. do it for longer than it feels comfortable to do. every time you feel the urge to open your phone again, push a little bit harder. it’ll end, eventually. but you just got a few moments back. and it’s all about making a start, 1% differences adding up over time. it took a long time, but doing this enough times actually helped me a little when I was starting to detach myself from my phone c:
@@productivity8696dude stfu, how old are you? If ur an adult, please step into reality, and if ur a kid, please put on your critical thinking cap when in school, especially when teachers try to be extra work and “sensitive to everyone’s little feelings” because guess what, history isn’t pretty, reality can be harsh. That’s life. It’s not that big of a deal.
@@productivity8696oh, also, you knew exactly wtf they meant by saying “*the* disease of our time” … you knew they didn’t mean that literally, so ur comments useless. Unless you’re truly autistic and take everything literally, in which case maybe this could be a good real life lesson on human behavior and how we speak- not everything is meant literally. It’s interesting how some people have to study people in order to interact even though they are a person… kinda sad! I feel bad for them, like it almost frustrates me when I see someone not comprehending humor, also the way they sometimes look down on people as if they’re better than neurotypical people… anyway sorry for my side rant lmao
I garden, I take care of lots of animals, I am learning to make things from scratch, like bread and pasta, I love to sleep, working at napping during the day, I make art, and reading books again.
Part of what helped me was getting back to the play I enjoyed as a kid, especially through playing farming games like harvest moon. The slow pace, calming soundtrack, and peaceful atmosphere helped me reconnect and rest
If you know Spyro, just hop into the homeworlds of Spyro 2, they have a nice tranquil vibe and peaceful music. In fact I often have the tracks on (as well as custom ones I made, yes I’m a nerd) in the background for general ambience and I think it helps my anxiety. Certain keys give me nightmares though for some reason? Still trying to figure that one out. Particularly F sharp gave me a nightmare 2 different times? (More nerdy stuff) but oh well I’m just here to ramble lol
I also loved harvest moon growing up. I wanted to master it again during summer, but i couldnt. i am not comfortable anymore with that calm environment and peace of mind :(
Same, I was so happy when Nintendo put it on the switch. Games like Satisfactory are great ways to unwind and relax without all the hype and pressure of online games.
Instant subscribe; I'm a psych student and was surprised by how well rounded and scientific this was. No nonsense self help bs, just science backed bodily connection and redirect. Very impressed!
Thank you, very useful, I don't do social media, but I find much that is very useful on the Internet, but, I've found, I often just keep looking at the same videos many times, when I've already got the message, so to speak. This is a different .
Answer is probably no, right? I think it’s mine, though there’s a wealth of good, healthy, learning to be found, I am just not convinced it’s worth the months I’ve spent hiding from everything. I am gonna do audiobooks instead.
We're addicted to trying to gain knowledge. When how does it actually help us? What do we gain? These are questions I've been asking myself, youtubes the only social media I have left and it's replaced the time i used to spend on social media. It easily takes over.
Hi! I’m new here and don’t often comment on videos. I had to share my gratitude towards you because this video saved me from a mental breakdown today. I have been in such a dark space in the last week and today i’ve been more emotional than usual. Your voice, energy, and caring heart made me feel understood and calm. I got up came to the park(while still listening to your video) and will now journal. Thank you so much for what you do💜
this is the most wholesome self improvement video I've ever seen, and I just feel like giving this guy a hug and saying "thank you". please keep up the absolutely fantastic content
I have a secondary problem with scrolling. I have a primary problem with being unfulfilled, unhappy and not at peace with the deep and dysfunctional roots of my life, leading to present states of minor hopelessness. When assessing that they're not likely to get much better, i am medicated by distraction. Hence, Yotube
I'd say i'm on a journey of detoxifying myself from social media right now. My goal isn't to completely get rid of it but to be able to take it in small doses (setting a screentime has been helpful). i've also started to try and replace short form content to longer content (as in, watching series and movies instead of tiktok) and that has made me realise just how much frying the high attention short form content is. I still fall back on it though, but thankfully i've already embarked on a self loving journey long ago and that has helped me with not bringing myself down for it. Journaling and meditation are helping as well as the fact my social life has skyrocketed the past year. Redescovering reading has also helped me. Overall, i hope to get better for the new year coming and i hope i can reach adulthood a more realised person (since i do turn 18 next year). Hope everyone here also trying to improve themselves has the best time ♡
Journaling is a wonderful tool to help you remain grounded, remember important events in your life, think critically about your life and get to know yourself better. I recommend it so much. I've been journaling on and off since I was 12 and ended up with a pile of notebooks documenting my personal growth and all the most important events that happened in my life in the last decade that I can read and look back on when I'm feeling lost and distant from my sense of self
The part when you said it can scare the amygdala is so real. I was doing something similar last summer and at first is was terrible, until i started liking the quietness of having a quiet life. But i wasn`t expanding my socialization or the relationship with my circle, so a while later i stopped and went back to not so great digital habits, and the feeling it was worse than before because i knew how habing good habits felt, at least it gave me the motivation to go back to good habits to feel great again. I also started a process of grief that i had been avoiding for many years when i started the quiet life and it kicked me hard, but it was just for a while and felt great after letting myself feel.
It actually isn't his concept, but he quotes from "The chimp paradox". It's very popular. I recommend and don't recommend reading it. It's over complex, which is why his summary video of the book is great. But it's great to read for a deeper understanding.
Delete youtube history in settings, then pause youtube history saving. You will no longer have an algorithm. No FYP, no youtube shorts. Just a search bar for when you really need some info on something
If you really wanna get off the shorts tab you gotta manipulate your TH-cam, stopping the history saving won't do that. For Android there's revanced in case somebody is interested:)
To disable short I only use TH-cam from the chrome browser, and I downloaded a free chrome extension that blocks shorts so that when I go on TH-cam I don’t have the shorts icon on the sidebar
Lewis, you will go places! You are talented, authentic, knowledgeable, with a great verbal and non-verbal communication. This comes from someone who has worked in mental health for decades. Thank you and very best wishes!
I’ve found the time commitment and focus that goes into watching a full movie to be uniquely fulfilling. This helps me want to make time for it more often.
Understanding something and implementing something can have such a huge gap. I know I am capable of so much more in this life, but there are distractions around every corner in the modern world. I am just thankful that I am no longer consuming garbage entertainment and rather choosing to entertain change with this content. 😊
❤Thank you! I have a trick for mindful consuming: before going to TH-cam, think about what you want to watch first, then use Siri to search for it. This way, you go straight to the content without getting lost in the feed and scrolling for hours.
I go to the search bar. I’m very picky with my content. I don’t just watch whatever, usually I’m looking for something specific so I never got hooked on shorts or anything.
"bring on the fire" this was a key point in me overcoming anxiety/panic attacks. You have to walk over the hot coals many times before your brain suddenly realizes they were never coals to begin with. Great advice, my friend.
Thank you for talking about hustle culture and telling us to avoid it. Too many people in the anti social media space praise that toxic movement. We need pleasure, good habits, good people, and mindfulness.
Thank you and we really need to move through the boredom when doing this. My amygdala thought you were very boring. But my heart sings to your melody with greatfullness. I'm going off more and more, leaving my phone at home and focusing more on my irl relationships nowadays. This is so important🌟🌳🌊💓🌊🌳🌟
Thank you for this video man! It truly opened my mind to how ingrained technology is in our world. I did delete social media (which was the first step) about a year ago. And y every point you list is correct, it’s hard to let go at first but then you get used to not being on social media and enjoying life. But then TH-cam shorts kind of made me go back into deep scrolling, and worsened the mental issues I already have. I rarely comment on TH-cam videos, but your video will allow me to take the next step and truly change the way I am. Thank you for all you do
Thank you for this! Been doing a cleanse for more than 2 weeks now, and while I've had a lot lot lot of benefits. I also realized I was slowly self-isolaitng, and those feelings of sadness, loneliness, and depression bubbled up and it confused me! Because I had been so happy and so at peace, no longer using social media apps and persuing my philosophy. Its comforting to know that this dip in dopamine levels is normal, and that it is common to accidentally isolate in this pursuit.
Great insights and thoughts my friend. It's scary how even one that was so deeply connected with myself and introspective as I was, can fall for this and be trapped for years...trauma is a heck of a thing. I need to rebuild my sense of self and self esteeme and you are right, I've been doing this for years to block the process of emotions around everything that I lost so suddenly. My biggest concern is that I always get so bored when I attempt this and I fail after awhile...my mind needs to consume new content and information voraciously and I never get past the first week and nowadays I am so deep in my youtube vice that I cannot even get myself to start reading a book without a massive feeling of discomfort and boredom. That's not who I was and not who I want to be. What a huge beast I have before me, but alas, I won't give up and I'll try once again.
Stay strong there my brother ..dont watch shorts stick to long informational videos ...Try to read some religious text of your culture ...The mind wanders because its finding home ...
thank you for this. i needed it so badly. i've been napping and scrolling intermittently for HOURS. time to take a breather. i might sing a few hozier songs, write, and finally clean my place. again, thank you.
I promise I’m not trying to brag, but I’ve changed a lot in my life before even watching this video. I have built a lot of the positive habits he mentions here and it just feels liberating to know the positive habits I’ve built actually line up with what he says.
Scrolling itself. Nothing wrong with it. Only when it's out of balance does it become a problem. For some people it is part of research and knowledge but yes when it's substituting connection etc and out of balance then it's an issue and needs addressing. Conscious intentional and aware tech use is what I would like. Before I use tech I need to ask myself, is this nourishing for me in a holistic sense? Is scrolling and consuming media now coming from true curiosity and interest or from habit and escapism? Logging off now!! Enjoy the connection.
The very nature and pureness of this video is wonderful… so I have a hunch that youtube's will toss it into the back logs of youtube… but at the same time people crave this kind of content (self help-ish). A true anomaly. Edit: i now see i was mistaken your information is more than just generalised, appreciate the content man. Keep it up.
I feel like people with adhd struggle with this the most :[ I’ll be on my phone for hours trying to look up one thing then end up in like 10 different tabs on different topics. It’s exhausting but hard to let go of
Coincidentally, I have been doing this the past two weeks and now I see this video. This video for me was very much a confirmation of doing the right thing. I have a no-TH-cam policy from when I wake up to when I am doing working for the day. I have truly noticed being more creative, being more focussed at work, picking up books, talking to myself and the feeling of accomplishment has been pure and strong. I am really happy with where things are going for me. I would recommend this approach to everyone. You will grow as a person.
I thought about this a lot and often talk about it. I have been able to find solitude and having conversations with myself, reading and the works. It’s absolutely amazing, but I still feel lonely. I am a sociable person and I have a good group of friends. The issue lies in the “busy world”, my friends are too busy to hang out, for they prioritize work/school/hobbies over me. Nothing to blame, I respect their hustle. Just an unfortunate truth.
This video is the first one in probably months I have intentionally watched at normal speed and with your calm delivery and simple setting it was almost meditative to watch. Thank you
Hope this doesn’t get lost in comments. Because this video was something I really needed. I am trying to lose weight and clear my mind and haven’t found a way to go. This is a great motivation video and guide on how to not just get a quick fix but set myself for a true successful life. Hope you see this comment
I'm an 18-year-old going into her last year of highschool this year, Matura exam in may. I've struggled for years, having breakdowns where I just delete all social media but return to the vicious cycle a week later. Today I didn't have a breakdown, but I knew it was close, maybe a couple of days away, so I decided to watch this. Thank you so much for the clarity, the way you explained all this made me feel less alone and like there still was hope, suddenly the future isn't that scary anymore
That was the most goated breath I’ve ever heard. I can tell It was one of those really good ones where you get every single air molecule that fills the lungs.
this is a calming video and such a comforting sentiment. i have learned a lot from this. thank you for spreading positivity into the world. i like the ‘this isn’t your fault but it is your responsibility and there’s no judgment’ mindset. i have been feeling inadequate for the longest time, and this video gave me a glimmer of hope that i am enough and worthy of a life lived in depth.
I was scrolling for about two hours before I saw this, and I actually picked up the book you talked about just yesterday, it surprised me when you mentioned it!!Thank you for this!
Okii you got me there im quitting youtube again... I actually didnt want to watch any youtube until ive read all my books i need to finish so now im back on track
My brain's throbbing from being on screens all day for work. Then I'm so fried I can't do the things I enjoy. It's such a cycle and I'm fed up of it. Thank you for this. You switched it off for 18 minutes and I'm grateful for every second of it.🥰
I did this a few years ago after seeing my screen time be over 7 hours. I picked up astronomy, running and exercising, and I don't ever wish to go back to scrolling.
You've been scrolling for a while,
Feeling groggy, lost in the pile.
No judgment here, it's all okay,
Let's take a breath and reset today.
Our minds are hooked, tech pulls us in,
Feeds our fears, and makes us spin.
Amygdala's charged, it craves control,
But we can break free, reclaim the goal.
Prefrontal power, calm and clear,
Leads us forward, away from fear.
Big tech knows the game we play,
But we can choose to walk away.
Set your habits, take control,
Replace the mindless, find your soul.
Walk, read, talk out loud,
Rediscover, and feel proud.
It's not too late to break the chain,
To step outside and breathe again.
The deep life's calling, full of peace,
Find your depth, and feel release.
this was beautiful, thank you
Wow! Great poem! 😲
I am glad that I found and read it.
100%
Probability AI generated
Bro wrote poetry haha. nice, you barely see these.
GPT?
The irony of finding this video multiple times while scrolling, and to finally click it out of boredom.
Same
Plot Twist, this was the first video I clicked on after a week long camping trip lol.
Haha took me 4-5 times. I still haven’t watched it quite yet but I no doubt will at some point.
I suggest giving it another go if you can! There's a lot of great videos like these that might help with doom-scrolling (depending on what's going on with you IRL, and if the doom-scrolling is to avoid some deeper issues). There's also ways to train your brain to gain back focus for long-form content (even with ADHD), and there's focus aides that could help too.
best i can do is save it to watch later
I think the HARDEST part is that it’s like an addiction, but we hold it in our hands. It’s like asking an alcoholic to get sober while holding a bottle of alcohol.
Good analogy, but strangely enough, addictions like smoking or alcoholism are pretty different from online scrolling. Pretty interesting!
@@setablazee3570 How are they any different? Ex addict here who spent a long time abusing substances. 👋
Addiction to substances works like this... You take a substance and that substance goes into a receptor and gives a "command" to release dopamine in your brain for example and you get hooked to that dopamine rush and want it again and again and again... Scrolling on your phone does the exact same thing. You see something interesting and fun and it releases dopamine and other goodies in your brain and you want it again and again and again. In a nutshell they are the same thing but doing drugs is more intense and more dangerous.
@@setablazee3570 How are they any different? Substance abuse works like this. You take a substance and it goes to a receptor and sends a "command" to release dopamine and other goodies and you get hooked on that wanting it again and again. Scrolling trough social media is the exact same thing. You see a short interesting and fun video that releases dopamine and other goodies in your brain and want it again and again... In a nutshell they are the same thing but substances are more intense and more dangerous.
@@setablazee3570 How are they any different? Substance abuse works like this. You take a substance and it goes to a receptor and sends a "command" to release dopamine and other goodies and you get hooked on that wanting it again and again. Scrolling trough social media is the exact same thing. You see a short interesting and fun video that releases dopamine and other goodies in your brain and want it again and again... In a nutshell they are the same thing.
@@setablazee3570 Actually in a nutshell they work exactly the same...
It honestly is so refreshing to watch a simple video without a million cuts, bright colors, and reaction images. That alone brought me so much peace.
I didn't notice it before you mentioned it!
"honestly"
@@M33PSTER there's tons of cuts! Check out Nero Knowledge
Yes but I'd prefer zero cuts with this topic.
It reminds me of old TH-cam
"Ambition is great when your ladder is up against the right wall" love this one
It's SUCH a great line!
My final hurdle to disconnect is TH-cam itself, I play videos when I shower, cook, eat, all the time. I don’t even watch or pay attention it’s just noise
Same here man. We will get through this. Keep your head up.
same
Maybe just put on some music or nature sounds! Humans are meant to be in nature and with other humans so it makes sense. I do the exact same thing but I definitely think the sitting and scrolling is more my problem than listening to stuff while being productive or something
Yup that’s what I’ve become and didn’t even know it
I do the same and I’ve concluded it’s because I want to feel as if I’m with other people when I’m lonely. The voice of other people calms my nervous system.
dont look at the comments lil bro, pay attention
you can block comments with certain apps 👍
Wait a second, you typed this comment...
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@@stevecooper7883 i am the sacrificial lamb
Ahh why you all stop me from scrolling!!!
"emotions aren't as bad as they seem, we're just a little bit inexperienced in dealing with them" 💯
Very true
I had an emotional reaction to this video, for a number of reasons:
-The way you speak is just so warm and friendly
-You made me realize I am a shit friend to myself
-I have been slowly destroying my mental health doomscrolling despite knowing these companies are out to seize and monetize our attention
I think treating yourself as a friend is the most human thing you can do. People dehumanize themselves by not looking at themselves fairly or creating that window to BE human. Because we all are human, but we forget about ourselves and who we are.
@@PeenieLinguinelove your Neighbor as they self
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you
A small note on 9:12: don’t push yourself to go too deep! That can lead to rumination-thinking circularly about one thing for long periods of time. Let your feelings tell you where they are right now, and don’t force them to be something else. Once you’ve identified a feeling, you can decide how you’d like to respond to it. If you feel small or sad, is it telling you you need a certain kind of comfort, perhaps from a friend? If you feel angry, is it telling you that something in your life needs to change? If you’re lonelier than usual, what does that difference mean to you? Don’t force analysis, either-your feelings are like magnets. They’ll tell you what they want to gravitate toward. These are just my two cents, though, based on my own experiences. Highly recommend talking to a therapist if you can.
Yea as someone with borderline personality disorder ....i try to avoid doing this in general.... sitting with my pure feelings is emotions is how i end up in the hospital and being sent off. Im not able to calm myself down by myself. Im not able to regulate going into the most extremes. Like when i get anxious i get so anxious that it would turn into a anxiety attack and i would literally fall apart.
Its like my amigila and my frontal lobe dont give a shit about each other and thus dont listen to each other AT ALL.
I would feel anxious and i literally cant stop feeling anxious no matter what i tell myself. Im very very self aware and i know its irrational to feel this way and its not that big of a deal but feel like this anyways. My body will feel feelings and it don't matter what thought process i try to get out of it ...
@@mesekkai as someone with adhd, it's a bit similar. Feelings might just go around in circles and never ease off. Sometimes watching a video is a form of keeping myself away from some thoughts that won't go away otherwise by themselves.
Yeah this video is very neurotypical lol
Therapy is a cult, you're a satanic cuck fuck, grow some fucking balls
What of the grief of losing a lover, when it follows me like a shadow, disappearing for months in the summer sun and gripping me with cold hands in the dark of the night, and like a shadow it feels so inescapable, yet my life is good, I AM happy, but this coldness is simply a whisper that I'll never be as happy as I once was
TH-cam shorts made it worse
They're always finding new ways to make it worse
Right : (
I avoided ever making a Tik Tok and instead they just added the Tik Tok format here 😭 and the worst part is it got me.
@@galacticrelic258 Ironically yt shorts is way more addicting than tiktok 😭
Try to do an effort to always quit it when u find yourself scrolling on youtube shorts
The eye contact, the facial expressions, the tone of voice.. very effective communication, and I even felt more relaxed, only a minute or two into the video.
Seconded
this genuinly felt like an old yt video
Too long couldn't watch it
@@pyros4333 bro it’s just eighteen minutes 💀
It was nice too
Pocket version is ready
@@Huda07157you almost sound sarcastic but I know you’re not
While I think all the points in this video are great I also feel like nowadays this issue of doomscrolling is presented so one sidedly. As if there are only two options: Either be a mindless scroll-zombie or live a life almost devoid of modern media. I don't agree with that.
When I watch my favorite shows, play a really good video game or absolutely go nuts to my favorite music I do not regret that time spent. Then I am actively engaged with the medium, I don't scroll on the side or get bored in-between. I'm focused, I am thinking about the things happening and they're implications/meaning, I might rewind or pause to give myself time to experience what is happening at my own pace. That feels very different from doomscrolling.
I still think engaging with media all day everyday will make you unhappy even if its ""good media"" but its completely fine to consume media if you are actively enjoying yourself.
When im thinking about what I watched or played hours later and notice myself engaging with and enjoying that memory, thats a sign for me that that was a ""good"" type of media engagement.
Basically I make a distinction between content and art I think. Content is just entertainment, art can be beneficial if you actually engage with it
@@MagXZaruwatching tv, playing video games and listening to music don't engage your scroll muscle though. So that's a totally different thing.
@@nataliearciniega2103 you right, cant get shredded from that smh
Well your an exception then. But he did say that it's fine to do some of it. If its taking over your life it's a problem. If its not then no problem. 😊
I agree with this. I think there's a lot of long-form meaningful content out there to engage with. But it's becoming less common because of the focus that's required to process all of it.
Talking to yourself out loud is so powerful.
I legit love talking to myself. I’ll just talk out loud my thoughts or act like I’m talking to someone (cuz when I try to actually talk to people I stumble or am afraid of judgement. I’m an introvert. 😆)
@@DoofenSpyroDragon16Nobody ever cares about what I have to say so I understand.
What's the good in it?
@@ceirho4741 In the video, he mentions connecting with yourself, paying attention to your feelings, and processing how you feel. Some people find talking out loud helpful. You could also try journaling.
If you are religious, or just want to give it a try, you could pray out loud. (The kind of prayer where you just say how you feel & what you're grateful for, etc.)
REAL i love talking to myself out loud, it's such a fun thing to do when i'm bored or just want to say stuff without there being anyone to interrupt me, and it can even help me process my thoughts and ideas and make new ones. i have literally talked myself into exhaustion multiple times just because i find it so fun and soothing to do when nothing's going on and i'm having a lot of ideas about things :D
The moment when this is the first video on your front page. The algorithm knows I'm done scrolling.
Same here
Lol it was the first video i saw when opening the app
@@beamshooterSame
same
Then you read this self-realizing comment, you tap to respond, only to learn that somebody has already written that exact response. Pawns are we!
Definitely wasn’t expecting to get an unintentional asmr philosophy lesson from Arthur Shelby.
Lol
😂😂😂😂😂💯💯💯👌🏻👌🏻
You're mistaken, this is actual cannibal Shia LaBeouf
Cringe
@@Krigalishnikovagree to that, I thought he was Sam Witwiki
A heartfelt thanks for this.
I stopped shorts 2 years ago, noticing that I felt isolated and contradictory, not someone I wanted to be. Now when I watch or play games it is either to pass the time (as one does with nothing to do) or it is to decompress from something I did do.
The joke about playing a game for a second job does apply in some cases, but I know it’s a game, and it allows me to relax from hands on work, school, or a bad day, by taking my mind away from those things.
In that regard, I think playing or watching is time well spent if it helps me get to a better place. I do need to work on the passing time part, but I am making progress. I am a better friend to myself today than yesterday
Random internet guy signing off, so go to sleep, you have an exam in the morning.
A couple of years ago while laid off from work I got in the greatest shape in my life. Physically, mentally, and spiritually, I was in complete control of myself and not a thing could stop me. I have lost my grip and footing on that control since then but am actively interested in working to reclaim that and this video really is what I needed. Everything that you’ve gone through is as true as anyone could ever want it to be. It works too. I want to be better and I will be better again. Anyone reading this know there is no better time than now to claim the life that you want. No stone is too big
Deleting social media I learned I wasn’t missing out. My life improved, my health improved, and who I really had in my life was clear. Peaceful clarity. All positives and no negatives. I wish all of you that my friends ❤ and here’s to limiting our TH-cam time too 🎉
And once you do see or talk to your friends, you actually have things to catch up on. I didn't see the pictures they posted of their birthday party, so now they can tell me all about it and show me pictures in person. My human connection improved 100x!
Brilliant tactic! @@gabbyb9418
Just a few notes. I don't think "Trash Music" is a problem actually. As a musician, music is supposed to be emotional. Just because it is not calming, doesn't make it bad. I would agree that having a constant stream of music is not ideal. If you listen to music, make sure you listen to music you like, and you listen actively. Make listening the activity.
Agreed. Music is art. You wouldn't advise avoiding "high-dopamine paintings" to kick an Internet addiction. That "trash music" is often very deeply meaningful to me on an almost spiritual level, and I could never reduce it to just mindless media consumption.
Honestly, I don't even find myself listening to music I find personally meaningless unless it's for social reasons (sharing music with others/hearing others' suggestions out even if it turns out to not be my thing, which I think is a positive thing as it gives me an opportunity to challenge my preconceived notions). Why would I? I've never found myself thinking, "Man, I should really cut down on my music listening time. It's keeping me from living life." But granted, he did say you don't have to follow that exact same list.
Thank you! As weird as this sounds I have had a lot of revelations about myself watching music videos on repeat, while going into a zoned out meditative state. I am into Nerdcore and I choose songs that have deeper meaning to me about the stories they were inspired from. It gets me on a train of thought that I follow through myself. Why does this stand out to me? Do I relate to it on some level? Why?
it literally is. music is expressive, there is no wrong thing to express through music!
now yeah it is a matter of how your sound environment is impacting you, if you're listening to loud saturated music all day, maybe start questioning that...
When I think of trash music, I think more of the lyrics than the anything. Like I love my rap music, but damn are those lyrics not good for me to listen to as much as I do
10:20 - long before social media there was a phrase about unhealthy relationships: "you've interrupted my solitude without relieving my loneliness".
Breaking saturday sabbath is sin(Isaiah 66:23-24)
And eating pork, lobster shrimp(Isaiah 66:16-17)
And doing christmas easter(Deuteronomy 12:30)
and praying to statues rosary, cross idols(exodus 20:4)
@GlobnarTheGreen "Virgin Mary" is just the catholic version of Diana of the Ephesians/Semiramis of the Mespotamia. In reality Mary never wanted worship/praise, and never was an intercessor. Read 1 Timothy 2:5 & Luke 11:27-28 and stop praying to Mary.
@GlobnarTheGreen Nobody said anything about stoning or the law of Moses. Stop being lazy and go actually read the scriptures I sent so you can see how Yeshua returns at his second coming and slays eaters of swine. It's still unclean. This isn't the law. This is the rule given to Noah in Genesis 7:2 to put difference between clean and unclean.
The Sabbath day is one of the 10 commandments which the Roman Catholic church changed to Sunday because they think they are above the rules just like the Pharisees.
Mark 7:6-9
[6]He answered and said unto them, Well hath Esaias prophesied of you hypocrites, as it is written, This people honoureth me with their lips, but their heart is far from me.
[7]Howbeit in vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men.
[8]For laying aside the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do.
[9]And he said unto them, Full well ye reject the commandment of God, that ye may keep your own tradition.
This is also what Christ thinks of you using vain heathen customs like Christmas and Easter to honor him. Stop making up your own righteousness and honor God how HE commands you. Using pagan customs to honor God is strictly forbidden.
1 Corinthians 10:21
[21]Ye cannot drink the cup of the Lord, and the cup of devils: ye cannot be partakers of the Lord's table, and of the table of devils.
"you are only as lonely as you are disconnected from yourself." - That line alone holds a great amount of importance. That hit very accurately Sir, well put.
That isn't entirely true.
@@AmbiguousGxrlzCluster well, I'm always up for a good debate, please feel free to elaborate your point of view.
@@AmbiguousGxrlzClustermay I ask what you do
@@astrosstatic What I do?
@@AmbiguousGxrlzCluster idk about ur experience but I find myself disconnected cuz of isolation and screen it could be anything tho
I like dissociating and feeling numb. Its calming for me. I do not like social media, i play freecell and listening to cerebrally stimulating music. I like being in the void and feeling free. This is all too much. I do not want to connect with others or anything. I just want to exist within all that is and be in harmony with everything.
yeah but you cant live your life like this. whatever you prefer, in order to survive in this world, you literally cannot do this unless you're wealthy lol. food, a roof over your head, the wifi and technology you need, everything comes at a cost, one that you cannot pay for without the help of someone else. so unless you have that someone else secured for the rest of your life, you NEED to wake up. real life is not going to be so kind to you so you better start preparing now.
trust me when i say i like those things too. i love sleeping and being unemployed and doing nothing all day but cuddling with my cat and my hobbies like drawing, reading, existing in comfy blankets, video games, etc etc, but whos going to pay for those things ? who is going to provide me with those things if im an adult ? exactly. you just need to find a balance. you can still have this experience, but you have to have it in moderation. and this isnt a new thing, life has been like this for a long time (again, unless youre wealthy, in which case a lot of it is easily done for you, but not many of us are that fortunate..)
Hey, just wanted to say that watching this has helped me kickstart a major breakthrough in therapy and learning to develop a healthier kind of attachment to others and feeling secure on my own. Turns out step one was allowing myself to feel bad and think about why I felt that way. Strong negative emotions don't feel nice, but embracing them really is important and a lot of good can come from it. Not to mention that it's genuinely the only way to completely relieve those emotions. So yeah, thank you!
As someone with ADHD I’ve come to learn through experimentation that we need more body movement than we realize. I’m medicated because I have a bad level of ADHD but combining the medication with exercise is honestly, wow.
When you stay seated or without moving your body for too long but use mental stimulation, it actually “harms” you more than most realize. It can cause depression, dissociation, anxiety, etc. if you have ADHD you’re much more vulnerable and you need to actively work towards correcting that loop.
Totally agree! I work from home, tethered to a computer - but getting a yoga ball instead of a chair has been a game changer!! I constantly fidget and roll around on it while on calls, in meetings, writing emails.. I’ve noticed much more mental clarity and physical energy 😊
@@DannyD-lr5yg That’s awesome! It’s funny how most of us had to experiment and figure out our condition on our own because up until recently there was no one to help us. I’m glad you found your adjustment though, I still work in an office setting so I try to stimulate my body in other ways.
I’m autistic so I often stim and it helps me focus on listening to people or doing school work
As someone with adhd my phone addiction got so bad I didn’t know what to do. Screen limits didn’t work I have no self control. The phone is a physical object.I ended up regularly pouring honey on my phone which makes using my phone unpleasant if I don’t want sticky fingers. It is the only thing that works, when I see honey on my screen it makes me think twice about clicking on it
Why did my brain read 'think twice before licking on it'?@@LondonMoneyCashEnterprise
You gave me exactly what I needed and still need: a plan for a way out, honesty, understanding, acceptance, kindness, support, truth, love, warmth, and hope. Love you
This video was beautiful thank you for this, please continue to spread your message, I’m 17 and a scarily high percentage of people around my age and younger are all addicted to this scrolling, mainly short form videos such as tiktok,instagram reels, TH-cam shorts and it seriously worries me because of the sheer scale of this problem, I don’t think there’s anyone I know that doesn’t at least spend a little while scrolling on social media and I’m worried people will struggle to think for themselves and escape the loop and that it will only continue to get worse for the majority of us young people.
It saddens and scares me too. I’m around your age as well (not saying exactly for privacy purposes) but often when I’m with my little cousin, I think of things we could do that doesn’t involve technology all the time and he seems to enjoy that.
"The consistent plan you follow is better than the perfect plan you abandon." Dropping absolute fire, as the kids say!
one piece of advice: let yourself be in discomfort off your phone. put it down, accept the discomfort of not scrolling, and genuinely sit in the feeling of anxiety and pull you have back towards it. sit in the discomfort. stare at the ceiling like when you were a kid. let your brain breathe. do it for longer than it feels comfortable to do. every time you feel the urge to open your phone again, push a little bit harder.
it’ll end, eventually. but you just got a few moments back. and it’s all about making a start, 1% differences adding up over time.
it took a long time, but doing this enough times actually helped me a little when I was starting to detach myself from my phone c:
Doom scrolling is THE disease of our time. Saw this in the trains when i moved to vienna after the lockdown
that's a disrespect for all persons with actual diseases. say it's widely spread today.
@@productivity8696clearly a metaphor stop being pedantic
@@productivity8696dude stfu, how old are you? If ur an adult, please step into reality, and if ur a kid, please put on your critical thinking cap when in school, especially when teachers try to be extra work and “sensitive to everyone’s little feelings” because guess what, history isn’t pretty, reality can be harsh. That’s life. It’s not that big of a deal.
@@productivity8696oh, also, you knew exactly wtf they meant by saying “*the* disease of our time” … you knew they didn’t mean that literally, so ur comments useless.
Unless you’re truly autistic and take everything literally, in which case maybe this could be a good real life lesson on human behavior and how we speak- not everything is meant literally. It’s interesting how some people have to study people in order to interact even though they are a person… kinda sad! I feel bad for them, like it almost frustrates me when I see someone not comprehending humor, also the way they sometimes look down on people as if they’re better than neurotypical people… anyway sorry for my side rant lmao
i’m never going to be able to commit to this lifestyle. but still, this video brought me a bit of peace. thank you ♡
I garden, I take care of lots of animals, I am learning to make things from scratch, like bread and pasta, I love to sleep, working at napping during the day, I make art, and reading books again.
Part of what helped me was getting back to the play I enjoyed as a kid, especially through playing farming games like harvest moon. The slow pace, calming soundtrack, and peaceful atmosphere helped me reconnect and rest
If you know Spyro, just hop into the homeworlds of Spyro 2, they have a nice tranquil vibe and peaceful music. In fact I often have the tracks on (as well as custom ones I made, yes I’m a nerd) in the background for general ambience and I think it helps my anxiety. Certain keys give me nightmares though for some reason? Still trying to figure that one out. Particularly F sharp gave me a nightmare 2 different times? (More nerdy stuff) but oh well I’m just here to ramble lol
i would love to hear your custom tracks :)@@DoofenSpyroDragon16
I also loved harvest moon growing up. I wanted to master it again during summer, but i couldnt. i am not comfortable anymore with that calm environment and peace of mind :(
Same, I was so happy when Nintendo put it on the switch. Games like Satisfactory are great ways to unwind and relax without all the hype and pressure of online games.
This has helped me too! I've been coloring in coloring books, and doing puzzles like I did as a kid. It really helps.
7:19 Hit hard, dude. I've been feeling dissociated a lot recently, almost non-human.
Just listened to your content for hours on a long drive home. Love you man, I'm grateful for you, and I'm rooting for you.
I appreciate you brother. Get home safe.
Boy, would I love to take a long drive... ahhhh, the things we would do to avoid homework.
On what service
@@beesmongeese2978 lol homeworks a nightmare frfr
@ZomboidMania right, ive been rotting alone for days, and now im supposed to use my brain at full capacity against a deadline
Instant subscribe; I'm a psych student and was surprised by how well rounded and scientific this was. No nonsense self help bs, just science backed bodily connection and redirect. Very impressed!
I remember when shorts appeared on TH-cam, and I vowed I just wouldn’t look at those…
Thank you, very useful, I don't do social media, but I find much that is very useful on the Internet, but, I've found, I often just keep looking at the same videos many times, when I've already got the message, so to speak. This is a different .
I stopped using social media in 2019 , but got addicted to TH-cam . I'm currently deciding wether I should use TH-cam still
Answer is probably no, right? I think it’s mine, though there’s a wealth of good, healthy, learning to be found, I am just not convinced it’s worth the months I’ve spent hiding from everything. I am gonna do audiobooks instead.
We're addicted to trying to gain knowledge. When how does it actually help us? What do we gain? These are questions I've been asking myself, youtubes the only social media I have left and it's replaced the time i used to spend on social media. It easily takes over.
I'm not sure if this will make sense , but I now dream of a world free of algorithms. I'm tired of bien told what I can and can't learn .
Same lol. It’s the same wasted time but lonelier
I say use it 2 days a week
Hi! I’m new here and don’t often comment on videos. I had to share my gratitude towards you because this video saved me from a mental breakdown today. I have been in such a dark space in the last week and today i’ve been more emotional than usual. Your voice, energy, and caring heart made me feel understood and calm. I got up came to the park(while still listening to your video) and will now journal. Thank you so much for what you do💜
Hope you're OK dude
Same thing happened to me yesterday. The video was literally there at the right time. Like I was meant to come across it🥲❤️
Doing humanity a major service here, many thanks to you and the work put into this.
this is the most wholesome self improvement video I've ever seen, and I just feel like giving this guy a hug and saying "thank you".
please keep up the absolutely fantastic content
13:11 what a quote, that is something I need to hear for a while now, thanks
I have a secondary problem with scrolling. I have a primary problem with being unfulfilled, unhappy and not at peace with the deep and dysfunctional roots of my life, leading to present states of minor hopelessness. When assessing that they're not likely to get much better, i am medicated by distraction. Hence, Yotube
Same i dont enjoy my life much rn
yotube
Man, right here and right now, you probably changed my life
You are the type of person I aim to be in life, godspeed to 1 million subs brother!
Your mustache IS and WILL always be enough reason for me to click
This is the best thing I have heard/ seen for a while. I like that you just talk with a very soothing voice, without any quick edits.
Thank you for making a calm video about this topic, so many ones admit the problem and then feed right into it!
Omg exactly!!! Right on the head!
I tried everything!!! Meditation reading ect ect what helped was just be fine being Bored! Accept it.
In boredom I often have the best ideas.
that line drawn at 5:18 was satisfying
😂😂💯
I was boutta say
Wtf 😂😂
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I'd say i'm on a journey of detoxifying myself from social media right now. My goal isn't to completely get rid of it but to be able to take it in small doses (setting a screentime has been helpful). i've also started to try and replace short form content to longer content (as in, watching series and movies instead of tiktok) and that has made me realise just how much frying the high attention short form content is. I still fall back on it though, but thankfully i've already embarked on a self loving journey long ago and that has helped me with not bringing myself down for it. Journaling and meditation are helping as well as the fact my social life has skyrocketed the past year. Redescovering reading has also helped me. Overall, i hope to get better for the new year coming and i hope i can reach adulthood a more realised person (since i do turn 18 next year). Hope everyone here also trying to improve themselves has the best time ♡
Journaling is a wonderful tool to help you remain grounded, remember important events in your life, think critically about your life and get to know yourself better. I recommend it so much. I've been journaling on and off since I was 12 and ended up with a pile of notebooks documenting my personal growth and all the most important events that happened in my life in the last decade that I can read and look back on when I'm feeling lost and distant from my sense of self
The part when you said it can scare the amygdala is so real. I was doing something similar last summer and at first is was terrible, until i started liking the quietness of having a quiet life. But i wasn`t expanding my socialization or the relationship with my circle, so a while later i stopped and went back to not so great digital habits, and the feeling it was worse than before because i knew how habing good habits felt, at least it gave me the motivation to go back to good habits to feel great again.
I also started a process of grief that i had been avoiding for many years when i started the quiet life and it kicked me hard, but it was just for a while and felt great after letting myself feel.
I told my therapist about you and she loved the chimp, human, computer idea. It's so cute but so effective. Thank you. Now I will enjoy this video.
Can you explain that idea?
What video is that from?
It actually isn't his concept, but he quotes from "The chimp paradox". It's very popular. I recommend and don't recommend reading it. It's over complex, which is why his summary video of the book is great. But it's great to read for a deeper understanding.
Closing youtube now that I've finished the video. Thank you for the guidance
hello I'm a behavioral scientist and I approve of the message, theme, and delivery of these instructions
Delete youtube history in settings, then pause youtube history saving. You will no longer have an algorithm. No FYP, no youtube shorts. Just a search bar for when you really need some info on something
What about subscriptions to channels? Surely those would show up
No shorts?
If you really wanna get off the shorts tab you gotta manipulate your TH-cam, stopping the history saving won't do that. For Android there's revanced in case somebody is interested:)
To disable short I only use TH-cam from the chrome browser, and I downloaded a free chrome extension that blocks shorts so that when I go on TH-cam I don’t have the shorts icon on the sidebar
On the youtube app you can press those three little dots and press dont show me this when it recommends you shorts
Lewis, you will go places! You are talented, authentic, knowledgeable, with a great verbal and non-verbal communication. This comes from someone who has worked in mental health for decades. Thank you and very best wishes!
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Thank you so much for not putting advertisement in the video.
I’ve found the time commitment and focus that goes into watching a full movie to be uniquely fulfilling. This helps me want to make time for it more often.
actually this can be used as a guideline to unhook ourselves from every addiction not only doom scrolling
thank you so much for this much needed video
Understanding something and implementing something can have such a huge gap. I know I am capable of so much more in this life, but there are distractions around every corner in the modern world. I am just thankful that I am no longer consuming garbage entertainment and rather choosing to entertain change with this content. 😊
❤Thank you! I have a trick for mindful consuming: before going to TH-cam, think about what you want to watch first, then use Siri to search for it. This way, you go straight to the content without getting lost in the feed and scrolling for hours.
I go to the search bar. I’m very picky with my content. I don’t just watch whatever, usually I’m looking for something specific so I never got hooked on shorts or anything.
Great ideas
Not often do I watch 3 minutes of a video and immediately subscribe to the channel
loved every second of the video, such amazing way of talking and explaining,plus the way you talk is so soothing
"bring on the fire" this was a key point in me overcoming anxiety/panic attacks. You have to walk over the hot coals many times before your brain suddenly realizes they were never coals to begin with. Great advice, my friend.
Not always.
Thank you for talking about hustle culture and telling us to avoid it. Too many people in the anti social media space praise that toxic movement. We need pleasure, good habits, good people, and mindfulness.
Thank you and we really need to move through the boredom when doing this. My amygdala thought you were very boring. But my heart sings to your melody with greatfullness. I'm going off more and more, leaving my phone at home and focusing more on my irl relationships nowadays. This is so important🌟🌳🌊💓🌊🌳🌟
The amygdala to prefrontal cortex is supposed to be a two way street, but in most doomscrollers it only goes one direction.
Thank you for this video man! It truly opened my mind to how ingrained technology is in our world. I did delete social media (which was the first step) about a year ago. And y every point you list is correct, it’s hard to let go at first but then you get used to not being on social media and enjoying life. But then TH-cam shorts kind of made me go back into deep scrolling, and worsened the mental issues I already have. I rarely comment on TH-cam videos, but your video will allow me to take the next step and truly change the way I am. Thank you for all you do
Thank you for this! Been doing a cleanse for more than 2 weeks now, and while I've had a lot lot lot of benefits. I also realized I was slowly self-isolaitng, and those feelings of sadness, loneliness, and depression bubbled up and it confused me! Because I had been so happy and so at peace, no longer using social media apps and persuing my philosophy. Its comforting to know that this dip in dopamine levels is normal, and that it is common to accidentally isolate in this pursuit.
Solvitur ambulando is a Latin phrase which means "it is solved by walking" attributed to Saint Augustine. It has become one of my favorite phrases
Great insights and thoughts my friend. It's scary how even one that was so deeply connected with myself and introspective as I was, can fall for this and be trapped for years...trauma is a heck of a thing. I need to rebuild my sense of self and self esteeme and you are right, I've been doing this for years to block the process of emotions around everything that I lost so suddenly. My biggest concern is that I always get so bored when I attempt this and I fail after awhile...my mind needs to consume new content and information voraciously and I never get past the first week and nowadays I am so deep in my youtube vice that I cannot even get myself to start reading a book without a massive feeling of discomfort and boredom. That's not who I was and not who I want to be. What a huge beast I have before me, but alas, I won't give up and I'll try once again.
Stay strong there my brother ..dont watch shorts stick to long informational videos ...Try to read some religious text of your culture ...The mind wanders because its finding home ...
All my health problems come from scrolling, so I gotta listen to you this time :)
thank you for this. i needed it so badly. i've been napping and scrolling intermittently for HOURS. time to take a breather. i might sing a few hozier songs, write, and finally clean my place. again, thank you.
I promise I’m not trying to brag, but I’ve changed a lot in my life before even watching this video. I have built a lot of the positive habits he mentions here and it just feels liberating to know the positive habits I’ve built actually line up with what he says.
It's good to recognize your accomplishments & evaluate your progress as you make positive choices.
Scrolling itself. Nothing wrong with it. Only when it's out of balance does it become a problem. For some people it is part of research and knowledge but yes when it's substituting connection etc and out of balance then it's an issue and needs addressing. Conscious intentional and aware tech use is what I would like. Before I use tech I need to ask myself, is this nourishing for me in a holistic sense? Is scrolling and consuming media now coming from true curiosity and interest or from habit and escapism? Logging off now!! Enjoy the connection.
The very nature and pureness of this video is wonderful… so I have a hunch that youtube's will toss it into the back logs of youtube… but at the same time people crave this kind of content (self help-ish). A true anomaly.
Edit: i now see i was mistaken your information is more than just generalised, appreciate the content man. Keep it up.
I feel like people with adhd struggle with this the most :[ I’ll be on my phone for hours trying to look up one thing then end up in like 10 different tabs on different topics. It’s exhausting but hard to let go of
Only 10 tabs lol? You should see my phone
Coincidentally, I have been doing this the past two weeks and now I see this video. This video for me was very much a confirmation of doing the right thing. I have a no-TH-cam policy from when I wake up to when I am doing working for the day. I have truly noticed being more creative, being more focussed at work, picking up books, talking to myself and the feeling of accomplishment has been pure and strong. I am really happy with where things are going for me. I would recommend this approach to everyone. You will grow as a person.
This is giving mad ASMR vibe
I didn't even watch it, but thanks to seeing the title and thimbnail i could snap back in control. Im leaving my like just for that.
5:17 most beautiful line ever
I thought about this a lot and often talk about it. I have been able to find solitude and having conversations with myself, reading and the works. It’s absolutely amazing, but I still feel lonely. I am a sociable person and I have a good group of friends. The issue lies in the “busy world”, my friends are too busy to hang out, for they prioritize work/school/hobbies over me. Nothing to blame, I respect their hustle. Just an unfortunate truth.
17:10 gave me “all that glitters is not gold” vibes, this was an amazing video!!!
This video is the first one in probably months I have intentionally watched at normal speed and with your calm delivery and simple setting it was almost meditative to watch. Thank you
Hope this doesn’t get lost in comments. Because this video was something I really needed. I am trying to lose weight and clear my mind and haven’t found a way to go. This is a great motivation video and guide on how to not just get a quick fix but set myself for a true successful life. Hope you see this comment
@@brandoncollen419 thanks for commenting Brandon and all the best to you in your journey :)
Be a better friend to yourself! Great advice anytime and anywhere.
I'm an 18-year-old going into her last year of highschool this year, Matura exam in may. I've struggled for years, having breakdowns where I just delete all social media but return to the vicious cycle a week later. Today I didn't have a breakdown, but I knew it was close, maybe a couple of days away, so I decided to watch this. Thank you so much for the clarity, the way you explained all this made me feel less alone and like there still was hope, suddenly the future isn't that scary anymore
our quality of mind is consequence of our decisions and what we choose to pay attention to
That was the most goated breath I’ve ever heard. I can tell It was one of those really good ones where you get every single air molecule that fills the lungs.
This video has been attacking me on my recommendations for so long 😂
this is a calming video and such a comforting sentiment. i have learned a lot from this. thank you for spreading positivity into the world. i like the ‘this isn’t your fault but it is your responsibility and there’s no judgment’ mindset. i have been feeling inadequate for the longest time, and this video gave me a glimmer of hope that i am enough and worthy of a life lived in depth.
I was scrolling for about two hours before I saw this, and I actually picked up the book you talked about just yesterday, it surprised me when you mentioned it!!Thank you for this!
Sorry could you repeat I just finished scrolling the comments.
Nice tone Lewis, very nice, very sweet and velvety like a nice…..scone.
Okii you got me there im quitting youtube again... I actually didnt want to watch any youtube until ive read all my books i need to finish so now im back on track
My brain's throbbing from being on screens all day for work. Then I'm so fried I can't do the things I enjoy. It's such a cycle and I'm fed up of it. Thank you for this. You switched it off for 18 minutes and I'm grateful for every second of it.🥰
I did this a few years ago after seeing my screen time be over 7 hours. I picked up astronomy, running and exercising, and I don't ever wish to go back to scrolling.