Kat Napiorkowska Hey, hi ,my name's Mohammed Adil & I'm too A Victim of Social Anxiety disorder Since childhood,.. it has Badly affected Social life, Stopped me from Doing & Learning things .. i too Get Fear of Being judged Constantly WHICH MAKES ME FEEL 'Insecure' many times , Fighting battles with Own MIND'S Fears,worry, insecurities & self hatred😓 creating negative thoughts ... I can Totally Relate with ur Condition 🙂. And i want say You are BEAUTIFUL inside & Out ,Inspite u have a Mental disorder just like me .. I wish to have a Friend Like YOU with better understanding & support..
There is something very comforting about hearing someone say „I used to suffer from social anxiety” instead of „I suffer from social anxiety”. It gives me hope, some days it feels like I will be like this forever
This is me as someone who goes through social anxiety I really wish when I'm out in certain places people didn't judge me for it because I'm no different to many people it's one of the hardest things to go through
You aren't alone bro. Even when i am at work, I feel like I am crap with some of the crappy people who walk in the store or for no reason at times. I am quiet usually.
I know this doesn't really do much but to everyone struggling with this.. there are lots of people who've gone through the same struggles and they understand. When I meet someone who's 'shy' or anxious or even crippled by anxiety.. I'm not judging. I know your time will come. All I can do is give a little bit of encouragement and hopefully make your day. I've been there.. Wish you all the best! And don't give up.
@@AdlyChan I haven't actually. Or rather, not until recently and not for solving anxiety. I used to never leave the house due to being burned in my teens. The way I believe it got better is by leaving my comfort zone and exposing myself slowly. Judging by where I started, I'm a social butterfly now :P So it's not all in vain. I don't let it keep me from living my life anymore and I don't avoid things because of it.
See, as someone with both GAD and SAD, I hear what you say and understand it, I even tell myself this during panic attacks but the voice in my head is MUCH stronger than my real self. I've made great strides and progress within my own anxiety and can do more than I used to, but it has never gone away with the thought of "well other people experience this too" this doesn't help for everyone.
@@legorockstar2000 I don't want to dismiss your side of things.. I can see that for some people it's probably way worse than it was for me.. but even for me.. this process has taken.. and is still taking years. I still feel quite uncomfortable in public sometimes.. etc. If people are dismissive to me or ignore me in conversation that will actually get me brooding. I just don't let it control my life anymore.
I dont know why im sharing this really but in highschool, I barely spoke to anyone because of my social anxiety. In my science class, for part of our exam, we had to do a group project that we would then have to present. There was one girl in the class that I talked to a little bit who i thought was nice and we had been partners for smaller assignments and so I asked her if I could be in her group (with 2 others) for the project, which took a loooooot of courage (our only two options were to chose a group or present alone, and I DID NOT want to present alone) and she said yes. In the end, they didn't even try to include me, ingnored my existence and didnt even put my name on the project, and also they did the presentation without me. Maybe its stupid cause it was mostly my fault since I didnt speak up, but its been a year since I graduated and this happened in freshman year and I still think about it sometimes, the experience traumatized me honestly, I was hurt inside and I felt so stupid as I watched them present it without me. (Sorry if there's any typos, I erased and rewrote this many times cause Im weird and also do that)
As someone with social anxiety, I realized that you have to do a lot of things on your own because no body is gonna do it for you (it may sound harsh when you read this, but this is how I told myself from observation). I basically realized when you have social anxiety, people tend to leave you out. I overcame it, and I even include people who are shy and can’t speak up because I understand them. Also, this does sound like a horrible experience, if you want me to tell you something from mine, then I had a teacher catch me drawing in class, and said it and embarrassed me, and a few people laughed. So I think we’re alike. I don’t think you are weird for it because a lot of people in my high school were very shy too, and some were just by their own, just know you’re not alone, and people have different disorders too, but obviously they keep it to themselves. It made me feel better when I found out that I am not alone
You said all my feelings, I am one of the quite people who hate talking a lot, and I think this is the reason why my relationships with my friends are a failure, because as they say I am a boring person and I have nothing fun, I even get harassed like, "why don't you talk, are you deaf, you Boring" which every time I remember I feel embarrassed about myself, I'm someone who doesn't know how to talk to people to the point that even if I want to talk I'm ashamed to say something trivial,, But that's not something to blame myself for I really don't want to talk not because I'm sad or because I'm deaf or because I'm boring as They say, but I find comfort in quite,really, I don't like to talk much, so if you see a person who is quite and doesn't talk, leave him alone and do not say nonsense
I don't think anyone has ever encapsulated anxiety as best as you have...these clips get the point across more than any list of symptoms, or descriptions anyone can give. This is like listening to my own thoughts verbatim
I suffered from social anxiety all my entire life and still struggle with it, luckily it got better now. I care less about the fact that I have social anxiety. I think the key is to let it and to not force yourself to stop it.
i have the same feeling, i always think why I'm not like an extrovert who always talk and make laught to everyone, why I'm not able to do that i know that i can do it even if i can do better, but i stop myself there's something that stopping me to being open in front of everyone 😔, sometimes i think that one day I'll be old at that time I'll only think that why i didn't enjoyed my life why i stopped myself from doing what i wanted I'll be regret
Me too but since l have C-PTSD my social anxiety and depression gotten worse i have suicidal thoughts now ldk l feel like this world is against me sometimes.... It's a struggle, l'm so worried and anxious about my looks i hate it l want my old life back that's all 😔😔😢💔💔💔
The problem is that if I let it, I throw up in front of everyone. And this is a fear that in my case, translates into reality. For example, I've thrown up in front of all my classmates inside a train on a field trip. That was one of my worst moments and I can now safely say that my fears do become reality, which leads me to avoid... well... life.
@@duartef02 i'm sorry my anxiety wasn't as severe as yours apparently cause I never felt the need to throw up... maybe that's why mine got so much better. Anyways, I do hope yours will become better xoxo
“why are you so quiet?”, “you got weapons in you backpack?”, “why don’t you talk?”, “everyone says your weird”, “I wish we met before”. “are you okay?”, “why don’t you eat?”. i have answers to all of these. but yet no one wants to listen. that’s why everyone doesn’t get the answer to questions like this.. yet im just 14.
Something that's been horrifying and liberating for me as someone who's had social anxiety since I was 11... you think you're acting weird? Do it. Go out and do the weirdest thing you can think of. Do jumping jacks in line at the grocery store. Lay down in the middle of a wide sidewalk. Sing really loud with your car windows rolled down. "Interview" random strangers on the street about what their favorite food is. It's terrifying, yes. The more you do it, the more the normal, day to day stuff won't seem so scary after all.
Feels like an awful advice. I've been going to school for 11 years and I felt nervous asking a question or walk into a classroom even in 11th grade. Is it not enough? I tried. Doing something very out of my comfort zone made me feel extremely ashamed and I will never do it again. Cognitive behavioral therapy works better for me.
As someone who also had social anxiety starting at 11, I think that most likely came from bullying. I just thought that if I kept my mouth shut, and not get involved into problems that start conflicts with people or make teachers angry for other stuff I did, I would get through in school. I just didn’t know it was gonna impact me so much to develop social anxiety, at that time I didn’t even know what that was, and I was like that for 3 years, until I started realizing my heavy breathing or feeling tense, and scared. I usually talked a lot with people from my middle school who I was comfortable with, but speaking in class was difficult like sharing out in class my opinion by raising my hand, or doing presentations. I didn’t talk bc I was afraid of getting made fun of for what I say, but everything changed when I graduated and came to high school. I started having traumatic reoccurring dreams of my middle school, and they didn’t leave me until I started my senior year. Eventually I came to high school, and my junior year, I started getting off of my comfort zone, I met and made many friends (stayed out of drama). Many people who were extroverts found me interesting, I tend to love people who are completely opposite from me in personality, I have this extroverted friend who has adhd, and he says it so proudly for having it, and I find him interesting. I like people who are complete opposite from me, I didn’t see it as a bad thing and I accepted him for who he was, and we are good friends. I don’t think I have social anxiety anymore since I learned how to overcome it, and become more confident, I practiced social skills, but I still get anxiety panic attacks if I don’t turn an assignment in on time, or if something bad happens, like something isn’t working for me, I can overthink, worry, and then this thought constantly gets stuck in my head for more than an hour. I might have an anxiety disorder but idk, I never have diagnosed it, but I just can tell. It probably came from my childhood or something, I don’t really know. But I know that many people have different disorders, even some of my friends opened up to me about things I never knew they had, I realized I’m not alone. It makes me a bit better feeling that everybody has their own different problems, and that I’m not lonely through this.
Okay so I always felt out of place but would be myself only around family. It’s gotten to a point that when I’m at work I can hardly concentrate because of overthinking everything I do . I’m 19 now and been looking into therapy which I made an appointment coming up ! The way I see myself is weird but it’s magical in a way (Pisces) that I know it can be done but to everyone I’m glad I came across this video and you also find what’s best for you and it’s never to late to enjoy life with it .
I can relate. Sometimes I can get anxious because I feel people feel I’m anxious, or, they think I’m weird for being quiet. Also when I talk, I try a lot to talk to some certain person but in the end they don’t notice me. And there’s sometimes movements a regret, like the way I walk, or once, someone was coming closer to me to see my face (keep in mind i was looking down to the floor) and I was really uncomfortable with it it so some “natural instinct” made me go backwards and I really do regret doing that.
As someone who doesn’t have social anxiety, from the outside looking in you guys don’t even look or seem as anxious or weird as you think. Someone asked me the other day if I think they’re weird and they were one of the chilliest people I’ve met. Lol it’s just a thought guys. you’re really fucking great and I wish you guys knew it!!!! I love y’all you can conquer this
this video was so enlightening thank you. i have been struggling with social anxiety for around 3/4 years now. its only in certain places such as; restaurants, university classes, and basically anywhere where i have to sit down next to large groups of people. for example; if i am walking around in the mall that’s totally fine because im not at one spot for a long time if that makes sense. I stress and panic so much before i go to the restaurants and to my university lectures. When i do end up going, i start sweating, shaking (mainly head twitching- however not too noticeable), hot flashes, feeling sick, feeling like everyone is looking at me constantly). Which is why i avoid going to these places. counselling and therapy has not worked, which is extremely demoralising. i really wish this would all go away.
Your past videos on social anxiety helped me a lot i'm still suffering from it but i'm hopeful one day it will be over thank you so much and i'm glad that you feel better
I live with social anxiety on a day to day basis. This is what I go through internally. My thoughts race like a hamster wheel and never stop. So this does resonate with me. I almost teared up at the end of the short film.
100% agree with you. I've been been seeing an IFS therapist for the last 3 months working on chilhood trauma and already seeing great results. Starting therapy was hardest decision I've ever made in my life BUT: if you want something you never had you would have to do something you have never done before. “If a way to the Better there be, it exacts a full look at the Worst.” ― Thomas Hardy
I want to share my story. My social anxiety is becoming worse because everytime i try to go in a social event i get judged and people(elder) pass unnecessary comments about my appearance,my weight etc. And my anxiety wasn't that bad but recently i have started to get dizzy in social situations . No one understands that this type of problem exists.:-(
It is weird for me now to see some of the thoughts you display in the video as I had them and they don't happen anymore. I watched your video on social anxiety two years ago and it struck me hard because I suffered from SA. It is weird to think that life can turn around 180 degrees again. I got mostly out of it by myself. In fact I am organizing my own meetups, even too many friends to handle, going on dates etc. Life's beautiful again. I recommend everybody who gets it to do a therapy. It is insanely hard to get out of it by yourself!
Absolutely I've had many things said to me like what's wrong with me everyone is talking and I'm to quiet it's not that I'm quiet it's just hard for me to be myself unless I get to know you
I want to do therapy but everyday I get so anxious just doing video calls in the past I would hide my face. I just felt judged by all of them. I have those days when if I see something I don’t agree with I voice my opinion sometimes it hurts a little cause I feel like I can barely breath when I get panic attacks and stuff. My last panic attack was at my high school graduation in front of everyone and I thought I was going to pass out teachers were barely helping and I just have that type of school where no one really cares. Only one student cared and I was falling over a lot so I get stressed out in public situations. I’m trying to cope but I just haven’t figured out how since I’m alone currently.
you explained my life. i cant eat drink or speak in front of people. i cant talk to closest ppl even my mum. i can't leave my room or the house. i cant run in front of ppl. I think of everything youve mentioned and more, wearing a mask has helped but the only problem is that ppl are like "you dont have to wear a mask anymore you know" and stuff..so i always have to come up with a reason to wear a mask. making up lies so that i dont have to go to a certain place or go downstairs to collect my food. its so bad. when i have to be on my phone or listen to music bc it distracts me from my surroundings and what im thinking in my head and someone says "am i boring u?" or "dont be rude when im speaking to you". When i go to the store and i start sweating and my throat feels like its closing and i struggle to breathe and fidget with things for example, just flicking through random apps that i dont even use just for a coping mechanism.
I can't express how beautiful videos you make !✨️✨️The visuals, sound, voice, WORDS.... It's the only (TRULY) place I feel understood and gets me trough my toughest days. Thank you ❤❤
Back in the day I used to be very sociable and enjoyed going out. But I got bullied a lot during my time at secondary school which completely erased any confidence and self belief I have in myself. Now I'm at Uni and I'm worried people will judge me and give me a hard time again. I want to go out and have a nice time and to get a girlfriend but my social anxiety is preventing me from doing so and nobody seems to care. Maybe there isn't any light at the end of the tunnel...😭😭😭
I hope Uni goes well for you, it's a fresh start where no one knows you! All the shit you had to deal with in high school won't follow you there, this is your chance to take back control. There will be others going to your Uni that will feel the same way - it can be very nervewracking. Just be your awesome self, and there is definitely light at the end of the tunnel :)
After dozens of panic attacks &anxiety attacks.. I feel so tired & exhausted now... I don't want to face this anymore.. I don't want to fight this anymore But the wrost part is I can't do anything about it..& I hate it I hate myself for can't being myself..
My social anxiety causes me to throw up in some occasions... so I am always afraid of throwing up in front of people.. which has already happened quite a few times. I cannot have lunch or dinner with friends because food makes my anxiety even worse. I am now in a stage where a normal lunch with family members other than my mother are painful, and I get gag reflexes with each bite. I have tried a lot of medications and most of them just keep me sedated all day and unable to stand up or think. I am 19 and I've had this since I was 14. It got worse now because I fell in love with a girl from college that doesn't love me back, and just standing next to her anguishes me. When I hear her talk about other boys I feel so bad that I am forced to go to the bathroom. I feel like my life is yet to start, because my anxiety disorder forces me to stay home. I have lost 10kg in 6 months, which is a lot for me since I'm weighing 56kg at 1.77 meters tall. I am now trying a new medicine related to the stomach and anxiety as well as an antidepressant that kept me sleeping for most of the day. I really need this to end because 5 years is already way too long for a nightmare to last.
yes i feel that too everyone said i'm just too shy and quite but i knew deep in my self even before know that there is a name to it that something is wrong here all my classmates gathered in groups and talk but me i just sit in my place they think i'm arrgent because i got high mark than them but this is not the true i was afraid that i will said/do something stupid or wrong and embarresed myself or freeze like stone and when i find myself in social events my hand trumbled and my voice shake so yes i think i have this disorder without going to therapist
Its me. I have social phobia (its called this way in my country) since 20 years I think. I meet so many doctors and therapists last years, they helped me a little but its still here in my head. I don't work, I earn a little thanks to music I made ages ago but its not enough to try something new. I think that I should just dissapear, I don't believe nothing but God at this time. I was in hospital few weeks ago and it was a nightmare. I couldn't eat, sleep, think, do anything. It was so bad I'm having nightmares each night now. I'm scared, full of fear, its too much. I shouldn't be here, this is not my world. ps. you have an amazing voice.
Im realizing that maybe it’s just not something I honestly want to do that’s why it’s so hard and unnatural and gives me anxiety knowing I have to. It’s like dreading an unpleasant task or doing a job. Deep down I really don’t care enough to have a conversation with most people but at the same time it’s uncomfortable to just stand there or look awkwardly as you pass by. There’s very few people I meet that I actually desire to be myself around
I'm going to an amusement park soon with my friend, with out my parents. Now, I am old enough to do things like this with out my parents. The thing that is scaring me the most is ordering food. I'm trying to clam myself down, but the thing is that, SHE.DOESNT.UNDERSTAND.... I really want to do it but I'm rethinking.
I have this special feeling about Kat's videos bc I can really use them as my voice. Never could express myself as good as her videos, it feels like she truly knows me lol Thank you, Kat, your work is a beautiful artwork and I appreciate it so much! You helped me understand myself like never before
Once when I was presenting a slide show I made in front of my class i suddenly felt like I had to leave because of my social anxiety. I face wax bright red and I was shaking. I started to run to the bathroom and I said ‘I gotta go’ while stuttering as I left the room. It was so embarrassing once I came back.😢😢
I’ve found out I have social anxiety when I was 8 but it was very obvious due to my shyness ever since I was little I was scared to talk to people I always thought they would judge and make fun of me I’ve gotten better now but I’m still afraid of strangers especially the cool kids I have a few friends now I use to have no friends and no one to talk to but now I have friends I always heard people say they never heard me talk or speak and I wish I can just tell them about my social anxiety disorder.
I cant even go out anymore 🙃 I'm supposed to be looking for a job but I'm too scared of phone calls, interviews and even if I do manage to get a job - how would I be able to keep it?
A job might just be the best thing that could happen to you! Cause the only way it will get better imo is by getting exposed to it. You are basically doing all the work without needing to do it via will power. If you have to go to work, then all the tough decisions are already taken care off. :) No doubting, hesitating, cancelling plans..
Hi, i used to have the same thoughts, but i work now so i bet you could too :) i work at chat customer service, so it's not demanding, there's even option to work from home. I don't have college degree. You can find something like that too, so don't beat yourself up, there's hope :)
It's not that I am scared.. It's like I don't know what to say. Like I go blank.. And I don't know why I think there is nothing really wrong. But then sometime something happens and I realise that I need to get help.
I was a social butterfly. It happened to me becoz of one incident. During my visit to my cousins house, I usually I am free and outgoing and i dont get anxious, in fact I was looking forward to see my childhood cousins who I love them so much. But his father said that i am just seducing his son, to be their daughter in law. Even my cousin didn't defend me. Though I haven't had feelings. From then and there I became anxious and cold towards men mostly. Hope so i overcome this in future.
I laugh at my social anxiety now I still have it but not as bad. You need to forgive those who wrong you or you will become angry and hateful. I could laught at my experiences now and I can also tell others about my experiences and laught about it. You will grow up and survive it. Its good. 😅😅
How do people with s.a.d find friends? I've been in a loop for a long time. As I find hard to talk people they're not interested being friend with me. It makes me feel more weird being all alone and socially awkward, i don't even want to go out these days anymore seeing groups of friend destroys me inside (Sorry for my english)
Try go on-line! I know it may seem unreal and yeah, often it does. But i found some people much more casting and understanding than most people i know "real" world. Let me know how it goes!
@@seymaae All I can say is baby steps, dont preassure yourself to hard on real life. I have a few online friendships which evolved into irl, but those took time and distance (obviously) makes them feel semi-irl if I can say so. Maybe you could progress with those you already have? Regardless you do, I wish you good luck!
As someone who used to be crippled by social anxiety.. I think the only way out is slow exposure. You just keep putting yourself out there until your brain finally accepts that it's not dangerous after all. That people are actually so concerned with their own appearance that they have no time to worry about yours. The thing is.. finding friends is not trivial. And it's not like you are to blame for not having them. You just can't force it. They happen naturally, or they don't happen. And you're not alone, most people would probably like to have more or deeper friendships. Being a good friend yourself can be hard work though. Either way, I think you'll be fine! Just don't be too hard on yourself. Every little step counts.
I’m 16 I have no friends. I hate myself that I don’t have friends or go out and fun I’m to scared to make any friends I don’t want to go out on my own I don’t want to waste my youth on setting at home every day
I wanna get into therapy but I’m so scared of it I don’t know what to do I tried it online but it just had me overthinking the whole day and night I hate it so much
I hope my little brother will open the door so I dont have to. Am I red? Am I too quiet? I'll stay at home instead of going out to eat ice cream, because I dont want to speak up for myself. What if I seem arrogant? Do they think it's disrespectful to not greeed them back? Why am I not greeding in first place? Why am I shaking? Is it my fault? Oh it definitely is. Do I have to go out? What if I've to talk to them? How can I ever achieve anything while acting the way I act? Do I have to say sorry or will it be awkward for them? Am I breathing to loud? Why cant I stopp tapping/fidgeting? Will I panic again? Can I skipp the call or do I have to pick it up? Oh, they asked you something. ANWSER, ANYTHING. Just say something. Do they think Im strange? Why is everyday the same? Are they watching me? Am I rude for not talking to them? * 1 hour early * I've twisted up my words again. I forgot to add this to the conversation => instant regret Why am I not able to speak up? Group project upcomming.. Why do I feel awkward all the time? Gosh, I wont have a future if that doesnt stop. What if it wont stopp? Am I overreacting? Are they judging me? Did I just stutter? I suck. What if I say something wrong? The thing I said didnt make sense. Do I have to be on the class picture? Arguing? -instant crying In few days, on Thursday, there is that career information day with many companies.. Last time I paniced. What if I panic again? Should I stay at home instead? What if I start crying again? If I cant do it now, what will I be able to do when I'm older?
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Kat Napiorkowska Hey, hi ,my name's Mohammed Adil & I'm too A Victim of Social Anxiety disorder Since childhood,.. it has Badly affected Social life, Stopped me from Doing & Learning things .. i too Get Fear of Being judged Constantly WHICH MAKES ME FEEL 'Insecure' many times , Fighting battles with Own MIND'S Fears,worry, insecurities & self hatred😓 creating negative thoughts ... I can Totally Relate with ur Condition 🙂. And i want say You are BEAUTIFUL inside & Out ,Inspite u have a Mental disorder just like me ..
I wish to have a Friend Like YOU with better understanding & support..
“Why is everyone staring at me?”
That hit way too close to home 😢
i tell them stop staring at me i aint black
I get it sister...
There is something very comforting about hearing someone say „I used to suffer from social anxiety” instead of „I suffer from social anxiety”. It gives me hope, some days it feels like I will be like this forever
Same is with me, btw how are you doing now has your anxiety been any better in these 2 months?
@@notusingaccountanymore1249 Bro I've had anxiety for years and idk what to do, I haven't told anyone that I have social anxiety
@@surge534 seek help before it gets worse!
@@anaryz3963 yea, I finally told my parents and I'm going to therapy soon
Same..
This is me as someone who goes through social anxiety I really wish when I'm out in certain places people didn't judge me for it because I'm no different to many people it's one of the hardest things to go through
You aren't alone bro. Even when i am at work, I feel like I am crap with some of the crappy people who walk in the store or for no reason at times. I am quiet usually.
Same😭😭😭
I know this doesn't really do much but to everyone struggling with this.. there are lots of people who've gone through the same struggles and they understand. When I meet someone who's 'shy' or anxious or even crippled by anxiety.. I'm not judging. I know your time will come. All I can do is give a little bit of encouragement and hopefully make your day. I've been there.. Wish you all the best! And don't give up.
Can I ask which kind of therapy you tried?
Thank you in advance for the cheerful message :)
@@AdlyChan I haven't actually. Or rather, not until recently and not for solving anxiety. I used to never leave the house due to being burned in my teens. The way I believe it got better is by leaving my comfort zone and exposing myself slowly. Judging by where I started, I'm a social butterfly now :P So it's not all in vain. I don't let it keep me from living my life anymore and I don't avoid things because of it.
See, as someone with both GAD and SAD, I hear what you say and understand it, I even tell myself this during panic attacks but the voice in my head is MUCH stronger than my real self. I've made great strides and progress within my own anxiety and can do more than I used to, but it has never gone away with the thought of "well other people experience this too" this doesn't help for everyone.
@@legorockstar2000 I don't want to dismiss your side of things.. I can see that for some people it's probably way worse than it was for me.. but even for me.. this process has taken.. and is still taking years. I still feel quite uncomfortable in public sometimes.. etc. If people are dismissive to me or ignore me in conversation that will actually get me brooding. I just don't let it control my life anymore.
Each one of these statements were like a dagger to my heart.
I dont know why im sharing this really but in highschool, I barely spoke to anyone because of my social anxiety. In my science class, for part of our exam, we had to do a group project that we would then have to present. There was one girl in the class that I talked to a little bit who i thought was nice and we had been partners for smaller assignments and so I asked her if I could be in her group (with 2 others) for the project, which took a loooooot of courage (our only two options were to chose a group or present alone, and I DID NOT want to present alone) and she said yes. In the end, they didn't even try to include me, ingnored my existence and didnt even put my name on the project, and also they did the presentation without me. Maybe its stupid cause it was mostly my fault since I didnt speak up, but its been a year since I graduated and this happened in freshman year and I still think about it sometimes, the experience traumatized me honestly, I was hurt inside and I felt so stupid as I watched them present it without me.
(Sorry if there's any typos, I erased and rewrote this many times cause Im weird and also do that)
Sorry you had to go through that, I hope that one day it stops making you feel traumatised when you remember it... Take care :)
Sorry that happened to you. I suffer from it as well. It was worse when I was younger but has improved.
I was avoided in school because I was really quiet too. I still suffer from social anxiety even today.
I hated that same thing too. I made myself suffer by going up there with them just so I wouldn’t look bad
As someone with social anxiety, I realized that you have to do a lot of things on your own because no body is gonna do it for you (it may sound harsh when you read this, but this is how I told myself from observation). I basically realized when you have social anxiety, people tend to leave you out. I overcame it, and I even include people who are shy and can’t speak up because I understand them. Also, this does sound like a horrible experience, if you want me to tell you something from mine, then I had a teacher catch me drawing in class, and said it and embarrassed me, and a few people laughed. So I think we’re alike. I don’t think you are weird for it because a lot of people in my high school were very shy too, and some were just by their own, just know you’re not alone, and people have different disorders too, but obviously they keep it to themselves. It made me feel better when I found out that I am not alone
You said all my feelings, I am one of the quite people who hate talking a lot, and I think this is the reason why my relationships with my friends are a failure, because as they say I am a boring person and I have nothing fun, I even get harassed like, "why don't you talk, are you deaf, you Boring" which every time I remember I feel embarrassed about myself, I'm someone who doesn't know how to talk to people to the point that even if I want to talk I'm ashamed to say something trivial,, But that's not something to blame myself for I really don't want to talk not because I'm sad or because I'm deaf or because I'm boring as They say, but I find comfort in quite,really, I don't like to talk much, so if you see a person who is quite and doesn't talk, leave him alone and do not say nonsense
I don't think anyone has ever encapsulated anxiety as best as you have...these clips get the point across more than any list of symptoms, or descriptions anyone can give. This is like listening to my own thoughts verbatim
I suffered from social anxiety all my entire life and still struggle with it, luckily it got better now.
I care less about the fact that I have social anxiety. I think the key is to let it and to not force yourself to stop it.
i have the same feeling, i always think why I'm not like an extrovert who always talk and make laught to everyone, why I'm not able to do that i know that i can do it even if i can do better, but i stop myself there's something that stopping me to being open in front of everyone 😔, sometimes i think that one day I'll be old at that time I'll only think that why i didn't enjoyed my life why i stopped myself from doing what i wanted I'll be regret
@@hybridboy9_9 I feel you and that is what happens to me.
We just have to be strong and deal with it.
Me too but since l have C-PTSD my social anxiety and depression gotten worse i have suicidal thoughts now ldk l feel like this world is against me sometimes.... It's a struggle, l'm so worried and anxious about my looks i hate it l want my old life back that's all 😔😔😢💔💔💔
The problem is that if I let it, I throw up in front of everyone. And this is a fear that in my case, translates into reality. For example, I've thrown up in front of all my classmates inside a train on a field trip. That was one of my worst moments and I can now safely say that my fears do become reality, which leads me to avoid... well... life.
@@duartef02 i'm sorry my anxiety wasn't as severe as yours apparently cause I never felt the need to throw up... maybe that's why mine got so much better. Anyways, I do hope yours will become better xoxo
i literally have every single one of those thoughts.
Welcome to the socially anxious club. I’d like to set up a meet up for us, but no one would show up. 🐍👀
@@KatAmarie 😂
Im to living korea. Same feeling here bro. Social anxiety kick me everytime
Same feeling every day 😢
“why are you so quiet?”, “you got weapons in you backpack?”, “why don’t you talk?”, “everyone says your weird”, “I wish we met before”. “are you okay?”, “why don’t you eat?”. i have answers to all of these. but yet no one wants to listen. that’s why everyone doesn’t get the answer to questions like this.. yet im just 14.
I totally see my self in this and this make me understand that i am not alone ❤️
Such a perfect timing for this exact video! That's what I've exactly been feeling these couple of days...
Same
Same
That's what I've been feeling my whole life🙂
Something that's been horrifying and liberating for me as someone who's had social anxiety since I was 11... you think you're acting weird? Do it. Go out and do the weirdest thing you can think of. Do jumping jacks in line at the grocery store. Lay down in the middle of a wide sidewalk. Sing really loud with your car windows rolled down. "Interview" random strangers on the street about what their favorite food is. It's terrifying, yes. The more you do it, the more the normal, day to day stuff won't seem so scary after all.
Thanks buddy your comment really motivated me . I’ve even screenshot your comment 😅
Feels like an awful advice. I've been going to school for 11 years and I felt nervous asking a question or walk into a classroom even in 11th grade. Is it not enough?
I tried. Doing something very out of my comfort zone made me feel extremely ashamed and I will never do it again. Cognitive behavioral therapy works better for me.
As someone who also had social anxiety starting at 11, I think that most likely came from bullying. I just thought that if I kept my mouth shut, and not get involved into problems that start conflicts with people or make teachers angry for other stuff I did, I would get through in school. I just didn’t know it was gonna impact me so much to develop social anxiety, at that time I didn’t even know what that was, and I was like that for 3 years, until I started realizing my heavy breathing or feeling tense, and scared. I usually talked a lot with people from my middle school who I was comfortable with, but speaking in class was difficult like sharing out in class my opinion by raising my hand, or doing presentations. I didn’t talk bc I was afraid of getting made fun of for what I say, but everything changed when I graduated and came to high school. I started having traumatic reoccurring dreams of my middle school, and they didn’t leave me until I started my senior year. Eventually I came to high school, and my junior year, I started getting off of my comfort zone, I met and made many friends (stayed out of drama). Many people who were extroverts found me interesting, I tend to love people who are completely opposite from me in personality, I have this extroverted friend who has adhd, and he says it so proudly for having it, and I find him interesting. I like people who are complete opposite from me, I didn’t see it as a bad thing and I accepted him for who he was, and we are good friends. I don’t think I have social anxiety anymore since I learned how to overcome it, and become more confident, I practiced social skills, but I still get anxiety panic attacks if I don’t turn an assignment in on time, or if something bad happens, like something isn’t working for me, I can overthink, worry, and then this thought constantly gets stuck in my head for more than an hour. I might have an anxiety disorder but idk, I never have diagnosed it, but I just can tell. It probably came from my childhood or something, I don’t really know. But I know that many people have different disorders, even some of my friends opened up to me about things I never knew they had, I realized I’m not alone. It makes me a bit better feeling that everybody has their own different problems, and that I’m not lonely through this.
Okay so I always felt out of place but would be myself only around family. It’s gotten to a point that when I’m at work I can hardly concentrate because of overthinking everything I do . I’m 19 now and been looking into therapy which I made an appointment coming up ! The way I see myself is weird but it’s magical in a way (Pisces) that I know it can be done but to everyone I’m glad I came across this video and you also find what’s best for you and it’s never to late to enjoy life with it .
I can relate. Sometimes I can get anxious because I feel people feel I’m anxious, or, they think I’m weird for being quiet. Also when I talk, I try a lot to talk to some certain person but in the end they don’t notice me. And there’s sometimes movements a regret, like the way I walk, or once, someone was coming closer to me to see my face (keep in mind i was looking down to the floor) and I was really uncomfortable with it it so some “natural instinct” made me go backwards and I really do regret doing that.
I can relate most times I tend to look down on my phone to avoid people staring at me 🤦♂️
@@rarebreed345 same😭😭😭😭
As someone who doesn’t have social anxiety, from the outside looking in you guys don’t even look or seem as anxious or weird as you think. Someone asked me the other day if I think they’re weird and they were one of the chilliest people I’ve met. Lol it’s just a thought guys. you’re really fucking great and I wish you guys knew it!!!! I love y’all you can conquer this
Omg, this is like a dagger in my heart😢 and the bad part is no one no one understands you!
sometimes i think I'm a waste of being a human being when social anxiety hits me like i can't even talk or think properly so how am i gonna live
this video was so enlightening thank you. i have been struggling with social anxiety for around 3/4 years now. its only in certain places such as; restaurants, university classes, and basically anywhere where i have to sit down next to large groups of people. for example; if i am walking around in the mall that’s totally fine because im not at one spot for a long time if that makes sense.
I stress and panic so much before i go to the restaurants and to my university lectures. When i do end up going, i start sweating, shaking (mainly head twitching- however not too noticeable), hot flashes, feeling sick, feeling like everyone is looking at me constantly). Which is why i avoid going to these places.
counselling and therapy has not worked, which is extremely demoralising. i really wish this would all go away.
Your past videos on social anxiety helped me a lot i'm still suffering from it but i'm hopeful one day it will be over thank you so much and i'm glad that you feel better
Thank you Kat for this video, as always, you are the only person who can express our feelings big love for you
People don’t understand how bad this problem can get for people
I live with social anxiety on a day to day basis. This is what I go through internally. My thoughts race like a hamster wheel and never stop. So this does resonate with me. I almost teared up at the end of the short film.
0:20 is such a gorgeous shot oh my god
i just started watching and her gaze speaks SO MUCH to me, it's crazy
100% agree with you. I've been been seeing an IFS therapist for the last 3 months working on chilhood trauma and already seeing great results. Starting therapy was hardest decision I've ever made in my life BUT: if you want something you never had you would have to do something you have never done before.
“If a way to the Better there be, it exacts a full look at the Worst.”
― Thomas Hardy
I want to share my story. My social anxiety is becoming worse because everytime i try to go in a social event i get judged and people(elder) pass unnecessary comments about my appearance,my weight etc. And my anxiety wasn't that bad but recently i have started to get dizzy in social situations . No one understands that this type of problem exists.:-(
Right my social anxiety gotten so bad to point where I can walk in public places, this is why I just stays home
@@Scarlet068 😔i understand sis.
Hi Kat,
Just wanted to let you know that mainly because of videos and your story in general I decided to go on a therapy
It is weird for me now to see some of the thoughts you display in the video as I had them and they don't happen anymore. I watched your video on social anxiety two years ago and it struck me hard because I suffered from SA. It is weird to think that life can turn around 180 degrees again. I got mostly out of it by myself. In fact I am organizing my own meetups, even too many friends to handle, going on dates etc. Life's beautiful again.
I recommend everybody who gets it to do a therapy. It is insanely hard to get out of it by yourself!
“Stop acting weird” so me.. who relates?
This is so real and raw I love this content ✨💕
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Absolutely I've had many things said to me like what's wrong with me everyone is talking and I'm to quiet it's not that I'm quiet it's just hard for me to be myself unless I get to know you
@@keiron.4612 it can be really difficult.
@@kflecha1 it really can it's only us who understands it you have a lovely channel btw just subbed
@@keiron.4612 awww 🥰 thanks 😊
I want to do therapy but everyday I get so anxious just doing video calls in the past I would hide my face. I just felt judged by all of them. I have those days when if I see something I don’t agree with I voice my opinion sometimes it hurts a little cause I feel like I can barely breath when I get panic attacks and stuff. My last panic attack was at my high school graduation in front of everyone and I thought I was going to pass out teachers were barely helping and I just have that type of school where no one really cares. Only one student cared and I was falling over a lot so I get stressed out in public situations. I’m trying to cope but I just haven’t figured out how since I’m alone currently.
you explained my life. i cant eat drink or speak in front of people. i cant talk to closest ppl even my mum. i can't leave my room or the house. i cant run in front of ppl. I think of everything youve mentioned and more, wearing a mask has helped but the only problem is that ppl are like "you dont have to wear a mask anymore you know" and stuff..so i always have to come up with a reason to wear a mask. making up lies so that i dont have to go to a certain place or go downstairs to collect my food. its so bad. when i have to be on my phone or listen to music bc it distracts me from my surroundings and what im thinking in my head and someone says "am i boring u?" or "dont be rude when im speaking to you". When i go to the store and i start sweating and my throat feels like its closing and i struggle to breathe and fidget with things for example, just flicking through random apps that i dont even use just for a coping mechanism.
I’m watching this video and crying so hard c’s I finally found what’s wrong with me
These films so beautifully show what it’s like to live with anxiety
I can't express how beautiful videos you make !✨️✨️The visuals, sound, voice, WORDS.... It's the only (TRULY) place I feel understood and gets me trough my toughest days. Thank you ❤❤
Back in the day I used to be very sociable and enjoyed going out. But I got bullied a lot during my time at secondary school which completely erased any confidence and self belief I have in myself. Now I'm at Uni and I'm worried people will judge me and give me a hard time again. I want to go out and have a nice time and to get a girlfriend but my social anxiety is preventing me from doing so and nobody seems to care. Maybe there isn't any light at the end of the tunnel...😭😭😭
I hope Uni goes well for you, it's a fresh start where no one knows you! All the shit you had to deal with in high school won't follow you there, this is your chance to take back control. There will be others going to your Uni that will feel the same way - it can be very nervewracking. Just be your awesome self, and there is definitely light at the end of the tunnel :)
Again you came up with such relatable and heartbreaking content ☹️
I have been going through this from the past 1 and a half but now I’m slowly giving up can’t handle more
After dozens of panic attacks &anxiety attacks.. I feel so tired & exhausted now... I don't want to face this anymore.. I don't want to fight this anymore But the wrost part is I can't do anything about it..& I hate it I hate myself for can't being myself..
my mouth was opened the whole time....like the voice inside my head got uploaded on youtube
This is everything I can’t say out loud. I’m being stalked now.
I'm crying, but it feels so good. I had to hear it.
Yeh this voice is already inside my head.
amazing as always you are
I suffer from social anxiety
It resonates and relates with me. Lots of love. I am struggling.
Same here 🖐
I still got this disorder at 33 u feel being watched and every action judged it drives u crazy and hard to make friends
My social anxiety causes me to throw up in some occasions... so I am always afraid of throwing up in front of people.. which has already happened quite a few times. I cannot have lunch or dinner with friends because food makes my anxiety even worse. I am now in a stage where a normal lunch with family members other than my mother are painful, and I get gag reflexes with each bite. I have tried a lot of medications and most of them just keep me sedated all day and unable to stand up or think. I am 19 and I've had this since I was 14. It got worse now because I fell in love with a girl from college that doesn't love me back, and just standing next to her anguishes me. When I hear her talk about other boys I feel so bad that I am forced to go to the bathroom. I feel like my life is yet to start, because my anxiety disorder forces me to stay home. I have lost 10kg in 6 months, which is a lot for me since I'm weighing 56kg at 1.77 meters tall. I am now trying a new medicine related to the stomach and anxiety as well as an antidepressant that kept me sleeping for most of the day. I really need this to end because 5 years is already way too long for a nightmare to last.
I hope you feel better soon lovely :)
yes i feel that too everyone said i'm just too shy and quite but i knew deep
in my self even before know that there is a name to it that something is wrong here all my classmates gathered in groups and talk but me i just sit in my place they think i'm arrgent because i got high mark than them but this is not the true i was afraid that i will said/do something stupid or wrong and embarresed myself or freeze like stone and when i find myself in social events my hand trumbled and my voice shake so yes i think i have this disorder without going to therapist
Its almost impossible to heal
Its me. I have social phobia (its called this way in my country) since 20 years I think. I meet so many doctors and therapists last years, they helped me a little but its still here in my head. I don't work, I earn a little thanks to music I made ages ago but its not enough to try something new. I think that I should just dissapear, I don't believe nothing but God at this time. I was in hospital few weeks ago and it was a nightmare. I couldn't eat, sleep, think, do anything. It was so bad I'm having nightmares each night now. I'm scared, full of fear, its too much. I shouldn't be here, this is not my world. ps. you have an amazing voice.
@johnj5783 thank you.
thank you kat. i signed up today. i hope i'll get better. lots of love to you.
I have social anxiety, everything in this video fitted to my life
Yeah, that's the voice in my head everyday, damn it
Im realizing that maybe it’s just not something I honestly want to do that’s why it’s so hard and unnatural and gives me anxiety knowing I have to. It’s like dreading an unpleasant task or doing a job. Deep down I really don’t care enough to have a conversation with most people but at the same time it’s uncomfortable to just stand there or look awkwardly as you pass by. There’s very few people I meet that I actually desire to be myself around
I always plan conversations and repeat every single word Imma say at the phone
I'm going to an amusement park soon with my friend, with out my parents. Now, I am old enough to do things like this with out my parents. The thing that is scaring me the most is ordering food. I'm trying to clam myself down, but the thing is that, SHE.DOESNT.UNDERSTAND....
I really want to do it but I'm rethinking.
I work in customer service and I’m constantly getting in trouble because of my SA.
This is exactly how i feel, internet is my escape
I'm 17 years Old and suffer from social anxiety a lot. I have Enochlophobia the fear of crowds, Which makes it even harder.
I have this special feeling about Kat's videos bc I can really use them as my voice. Never could express myself as good as her videos, it feels like she truly knows me lol Thank you, Kat, your work is a beautiful artwork and I appreciate it so much! You helped me understand myself like never before
This is me everyday. 😞😭
always thinking and taking inside for many year i think just like normal.
i think other people are the same and that normal.
I can totally relate to this. I have these thoughts all the time
The only sponsorship that I watched till the end.
Once when I was presenting a slide show I made in front of my class i suddenly felt like I had to leave because of my social anxiety. I face wax bright red and I was shaking. I started to run to the bathroom and I said ‘I gotta go’ while stuttering as I left the room. It was so embarrassing once I came back.😢😢
This is very relatable
I’ve found out I have social anxiety when I was 8 but it was very obvious due to my shyness ever since I was little I was scared to talk to people I always thought they would judge and make fun of me I’ve gotten better now but I’m still afraid of strangers especially the cool kids I have a few friends now I use to have no friends and no one to talk to but now I have friends I always heard people say they never heard me talk or speak and I wish I can just tell them about my social anxiety disorder.
Your voice is amazing.
I cant even go out anymore 🙃 I'm supposed to be looking for a job but I'm too scared of phone calls, interviews and even if I do manage to get a job - how would I be able to keep it?
A job might just be the best thing that could happen to you! Cause the only way it will get better imo is by getting exposed to it. You are basically doing all the work without needing to do it via will power. If you have to go to work, then all the tough decisions are already taken care off. :) No doubting, hesitating, cancelling plans..
Hi, i used to have the same thoughts, but i work now so i bet you could too :) i work at chat customer service, so it's not demanding, there's even option to work from home. I don't have college degree. You can find something like that too, so don't beat yourself up, there's hope :)
@@restrykcyjnie thanks that is encouraging
I encourage you to try gradual exposure therapy! It helps build confidence with this sort of thing
It's not that I am scared.. It's like I don't know what to say. Like I go blank.. And I don't know why I think there is nothing really wrong. But then sometime something happens and I realise that I need to get help.
For me its a outside voice like I can hear them talking about me from far away
This is exactly how i feel
this is so relatable.
Thank you for this 😭❤️
This is what i exactly feel😭
Thanks for the video…this video hits home 🏡…stay safe and take care !!
Wow I think like this because I have anxiety 🥺
I was a social butterfly. It happened to me becoz of one incident. During my visit to my cousins house, I usually I am free and outgoing and i dont get anxious, in fact I was looking forward to see my childhood cousins who I love them so much. But his father said that i am just seducing his son, to be their daughter in law. Even my cousin didn't defend me. Though I haven't had feelings. From then and there I became anxious and cold towards men mostly. Hope so i overcome this in future.
I laugh at my social anxiety now I still have it but not as bad. You need to forgive those who wrong you or you will become angry and hateful. I could laught at my experiences now and I can also tell others about my experiences and laught about it. You will grow up and survive it. Its good. 😅😅
It did resonated approx 60-70% .
This is all my feelings sigh it's ruff
How do people with s.a.d find friends? I've been in a loop for a long time. As I find hard to talk people they're not interested being friend with me. It makes me feel more weird being all alone and socially awkward, i don't even want to go out these days anymore seeing groups of friend destroys me inside
(Sorry for my english)
Try go on-line! I know it may seem unreal and yeah, often it does. But i found some people much more casting and understanding than most people i know "real" world.
Let me know how it goes!
@@ac4694 I have few friends online but I really do need at least one irl. Thanks for your comment btw
@@seymaae All I can say is baby steps, dont preassure yourself to hard on real life. I have a few online friendships which evolved into irl, but those took time and distance (obviously) makes them feel semi-irl if I can say so. Maybe you could progress with those you already have?
Regardless you do, I wish you good luck!
As someone who used to be crippled by social anxiety.. I think the only way out is slow exposure. You just keep putting yourself out there until your brain finally accepts that it's not dangerous after all. That people are actually so concerned with their own appearance that they have no time to worry about yours. The thing is.. finding friends is not trivial. And it's not like you are to blame for not having them. You just can't force it. They happen naturally, or they don't happen. And you're not alone, most people would probably like to have more or deeper friendships. Being a good friend yourself can be hard work though. Either way, I think you'll be fine! Just don't be too hard on yourself. Every little step counts.
@@hgzmatt thank you so much for you comment it actually helped me feel better 💕
The worst thing i m an good actress and people take me as a "funny" and "noisy" person
this video hurt to watch
I’m 16 I have no friends. I hate myself that I don’t have friends or go out and fun I’m to scared to make any friends I don’t want to go out on my own I don’t want to waste my youth on setting at home every day
don't depressed everything will be ok 1 day just believe
I have social anxiety
We miss you Kat. Hope you're doing okay?
idk if m gonna overcome this , or ig i'll jus die
I wanna get into therapy but I’m so scared of it I don’t know what to do I tried it online but it just had me overthinking the whole day and night I hate it so much
A day in the life of chronic social anxiety
I hope my little brother will open the door so I dont have to.
Am I red?
Am I too quiet?
I'll stay at home instead of going out to eat ice cream, because I dont want to speak up for myself.
What if I seem arrogant?
Do they think it's disrespectful to not greeed them back? Why am I not greeding in first place?
Why am I shaking?
Is it my fault? Oh it definitely is.
Do I have to go out?
What if I've to talk to them?
How can I ever achieve anything while acting the way I act?
Do I have to say sorry or will it be awkward for them?
Am I breathing to loud?
Why cant I stopp tapping/fidgeting?
Will I panic again?
Can I skipp the call or do I have to pick it up?
Oh, they asked you something. ANWSER, ANYTHING. Just say something.
Do they think Im strange?
Why is everyday the same?
Are they watching me?
Am I rude for not talking to them?
* 1 hour early *
I've twisted up my words again.
I forgot to add this to the conversation => instant regret
Why am I not able to speak up?
Group project upcomming..
Why do I feel awkward all the time?
Gosh, I wont have a future if that doesnt stop.
What if it wont stopp?
Am I overreacting?
Are they judging me?
Did I just stutter?
I suck.
What if I say something wrong?
The thing I said didnt make sense.
Do I have to be on the class picture?
Arguing? -instant crying
In few days, on Thursday, there is that career information day with many companies..
Last time I paniced.
What if I panic again?
Should I stay at home instead?
What if I start crying again?
If I cant do it now, what will I be able to do when I'm older?
Relatable
but the thing is you're all are so beautiful looking, but I am not, that pushes my anxiety extremely
it doesn't matter sweety I know a lot of people with normal faces have a lot of friends and enjoying their life its all about confidence!!!
Why can't I think of anything interesting to say?
No way this is anxiety dam I had it since a baby dam I hate my self
Oh my god
Feel like hell inside
I want to die😩
The same with me 💔
Why don’t we all meet up, maybe not
Why no one talks about trichotillomania? I wish at least this channel make a video about it.
Support me with a donation and I’ll make that video! :)