Social Anxiety: The Silent Pandemic That Needs A Louder Voice | Kyle Mitchell | TEDxTullahoma
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- Kyle Mitchell takes us on his own personal journey through teen social anxiety with his 3 simple steps to overcoming it and creating solutions for a happier, healthier life. He is on a mission to help 1 million teens go from socially anxious to socially confident by changing the narrative on mental health. Kyle is inspiring educators and administrators to implement new curriculum in schools, businesses to invest in more resources to improve the health of employees and their companies and parents to encourage them to have those tough conversations that change the stigma around mental health. Most importantly, watch Kyle give a new voice to the silent pandemic that is affecting millions of our youth across the world and see how he’s helping teens eliminate personal challenges and discover new opportunities. Kyle is passionate about mental health, especially in regard to the youth. He is concerned about solving the problem of poor mental health in the world as well as the impact that mental health has on people. Kyle struggled with his own social anxiety in the past and now helps others take back control from their social anxiety and become socially confident. Kyle is a member of NAMI (National Alliance of Mental Illnesses) Louisville and is a certified Ending the Silence Speaker for NAMI. He visits schools and spreads his message about mental health and his struggles with social anxiety. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
"Why aren't you normal" this made me cry
A thought I think a lot of teen struggle with, unfortunately
@@socialanxietykyle I'm 23 and struggle with this
@@bekah2235 that's about the time I started making changes. It doesn't matter how old you are. You can do it. I'm here to support you if you need it
@@bekah2235 same age does it affect you in the work place as well as me? That’s the main thing I’ve been struggling with people just think I’m weird or make their own conclusions cause I’m so quiet and freeze when I’m having anxiety.
@@socialanxietykyle what where the changes you made I’m 23? as well but I can’t seem to shake this disorder off and it’s affecting my self esteem so much theirs not a day I don’t go to work with my nerves up and I always get told I need to improve due to me being socially awkward at work.
Yes. I am a 56 year old woman who let social anxiety prevent me from having a life. Single for over 30 years and no kids and can not hold jobs. Been to counseling and tried many medications. Now I have been very depressed for the last decade and do not care whether I live or not. I see no point to it all. But, I keep trying. Thank you for this talk
Thanks for sharing, Heather! Social anxiety is no joke that's for sure. I'm here to support in any way I can.
Heather, just want to let you know that I care that you keep on living. I know how hard it is to struggle through life with Social Anxiety (I'm 29 and struggle with it at the moment). Please keep trying to find the good around you, be it your loved ones, friends, pets, whatever it may be. I find the good around me in my select few close friends and nature at the moment, and they keep me going.
I am 57. It is possible to recover even if you have been suffering for half a century.
It is a spiritual journey of re-connecting with little Heather.
@@iwonaroslonek Yes, you are exactly right! It is never too late but connecting back with your inner child is extremely helpful in this transformation!
@@socialanxietykyle indeed. I am glad you are helping people who are suffering from SAD. Healing does not lay in the brutal exposure therapy but in restoring connection with the one who was born a Miracle of Life. Without fear. In self compassion. Self respect. Self love.
I’m so far behind in life because of social anxiety. At 48 y/o it has literally taken my joy and left me suicidal. I fight it daily for the sake of my family and constant battle is exhausting.
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope my story gives you hope. You still have lots of life to live
Don't think of it as a fight. It's a dance. You just need to steady your footing, and your partner will start to stumble
No matter how hard the battle is you are built for it. Don’t give in I know how hard it is because one of only things stopping you is family but remember they need you even if they don’t tell you when it matters most. YOU MATTER stop looking for approval from people be a good person if that’s who you are on the inside if that’s your nature than be you life is hard but you were made for it❤
I have struggled with mental illness and my mental health since I was a kid. Before I even knew what those terms were. After years of depression, anxiety, and even an attempt to take my life, I never thought I would be able to live without SSRI medications. I clung to them because it was the only thing that made my mind quiet, but it also made me a zombie. Microdosing has given me control of my mental health for the first time, and they essentially gave me my life back.
I’ve been researching on psychedelics and it’s benefits to individuals dealing with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and from my findings, they really work and I’ve been eager to get some for a while but its been difficult to get my hands on them.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot. I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
His name is *DR Adolf Petter*
@ohmakure4716
I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
Thank you for bringing more awareness to this debilitating disorder. I've been in a place I didn't want to live anymore because of loneliness and disconnection from life. The courage it takes to break free from this beast is monumental! I think it's important to accept yourself, all of yourself because the root of social anxiety is shame. If you can beat shame, you are free! I'm still a work in progress but I see some light at the end of the tunnel!
That’s great and hang in there 👍
So insightful. thanks for this advice and good luck on getting rid of SA completely.
Made me incredibly emotional. I have always been this way. 26. Still this way. No friends. No boyfriend. No birthday parties, no brunches with the girls, no vacations with friends or baecations, no group chats…..just me and my lonesome desperately wishing it was different.
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope my story gives you hope that it doesn't have to be that way forever
Let's be friends. What's your IG or email?
I am the same. I understand your pain. Sending love
I am the same! Wanna be friends?
Hi, i am also feeling this all, these days. I am also having nausea because of it helps me out guys if you have any solution please
This is the first time I am hearing someone else say out loud what I have been feeling for years. Every symptom that you described I experience on a regular basis. I think about it many many times a day. Nonetheless, I have been doing social challenges these past few months and it has been getting slightly better, but I know it will take a long time of consistent efforts to get there. Thank you for sharing your story. I was desperately looking for someone else who feels/has felt the same just to relate to one person. It gives me hope to hear you talk about the struggles you have faced whilst seeing how confident you are now.
Same here😢
His story of walking the school halls hit too close to home. I also did not have friends in elementary school. After I ate my lunch I would always go straight to the library, but in the situation where it opens late I would walk around school in order to kill time since I had no friends to hang out with or a safe space, other than the library, to spend my time in.
I knew I wasn't the only one. Hope you doing well
I was hiding under the stairs most of my free time at school. 😔
Why I'm crying? I relate so much to this😭😭
I know exactly why...
I fear I'll never get better. Felt this way at 15, now I'm 25. Feels impossible
I felt that same thing. It is possible, but it's up to you
So true , for me it used to be so bad that I couldn’t even walk into a grocery store without feeling like everyone was looking at me . So I just forced my self to do it until I didn’t feel that way anymore . Then I started doing the same in social aspects with people . When my brain tells me go away , I purposely put myself into situations that force me to socialize so I’m improving. It’s still a work in progress tho.
@@juxiorhicho Yeah I still force myself but my brain doesn't seem to care lol. Maybe therapy would help but its tough gaining the courage.. I also have low confidence/self esteem so it feels amplified on top of the social anxiety. Wouldn't wish this feeling on the worst of humanity.
@@juxiorhicho You're an inspiration to many!
@@Zapdos97 Therapy definitely can help! Just make sure you find someone that specializes in what you need help with...not all therapists are equal
Great talk, thank you. My friend invited me to a party tomorrow, without even thinking about it I just said yes, before the anxiety took over. I’m going to try my hardest to talk to people, because you’re right, it’s like anything with life, how can you get over something unless you face it, you can’t.
Hi, I’m Alex. I am currently 21 and a 1L in law school. I have always had some social anxiety for as long as I can remember. In high school I had a small group of friends, but I never felt wholly connected to my class in the same way my friends were due to my fear interacting outside the group. In college, it was much the same. However, when the pandemic hit I lost the few friends I had, I feel due to my own anxiety that had worsened by being quarantined/isolated. I don’t want the same thing to happen in law school but so far I am repeating bad habits that I know are inherently self-destructive. Thank you for the video, Kyle. I’m trying to get better everyday.
That's all you can do man. Your goal should be to get better everyday. I love it! Reach out if you need support
I'm 22, and a law student too, i know how u feel, we and our profession are just two different pole
@@KarthiK-ke7mrFor some weird reason, I thought I was the only law student in the world who probably suffered from social anxiety. 😂
Thanks for sharing your story, Alex. It's only recently that I've realized that I have social anxiety. I started experiencing the symptoms in high school too and they really hit their peak when I was in law school. I think the overall pressure of the environment made it worse in my mind. I ended up graduating and passing the bar, but the social anxiety resulted in me not having any close connections from law school. I'm still figuring it out with therapy and mindfulness. I discovered a guy named Eckhart Tolle on TH-cam that's been helping me let go of the shame and judgment that I think really fuels the social anxiety but... 😅 It is a beast! Some days are rough. I do document review litigation now and work from home, but I get out of the house often for improv class (which is uncomfortable sometimes but fun and I think it's helping lol). I'm glad that you're aware of the social anxiety now. I wish you the best on your law school and social anxiety journey! 🧡
The problem today is that there are too many self-centred, socially aggressive - and dare I say it - narcissistic jerks. They will judge you, and make you feel inadequate, and surprise surprise, they’ve more than likely got the same problem (social anxiety) too. Kindness and genuine interest in others is the key, and that can be a stepping stone to connection. Thanks for the talk.
Oh.. I had a though childhood and teenage because of social anxiety. I always had fear being judged harshly.
Yes! Many do, and I hope this helps those see that they are not alone and that they can live a life without social anxiety in control
@@socialanxietykyle thank you for your work. I think having knowledge and awareness about a problem is the first step in dealing with a problem. You are helping people with that. Thanks a lot.
@@rajshreerathore3326 Absolutely correct! Thanks!!
Stay strong 💪
Hi, this is Patrick from Mind Life Flow - so important to increase awareness of Social Anxiety - so thankyou for talking about this so openly Kyle! You should be commended for putting this information out there for others to hear and benefit from. What do people find their number one tip to deal with social anxiety that works? It can be such a debilitating disorder....
Thanks, Patrick! That means a lot. Interested to hear replies to your question. I think a big think is to just start out by asking for help
Gradual exposure, exactly what he spoke about in his talk.
Give up wanting to appear normal. Expect people to notice that something is wrong. They will. They may not say anything but they will pick up on the vibe. Own it. You can't hide it. The trying to hide it, to appear not anxious when you are, it amplifies it. If you need to break the ice just say it - "Sorry if I seem weird but I get socially anxious sometimes". Also expect people to understand because 95% of them will and will just be glad it wasn't because of something wrong with them. Everyone has struggled with shyness at some point so they can kinda relate. Let go of trying to shape others perception of you. Some people will like you and others won't, just move on. The next person will and if not the person after that. Also people are insecure in other ways too, it's not just you. The whole act they put on, it's just them hoping to make you like and respect them. They've also got the same concerns really just they're not in a total state about it like you. See the insecurities in others and be kind to them, and relieve your own tension in the process. Look at that person who dresses or acts terrible. Notice how you have your bad thought about them for a second or two then move on. That's what others are doing to you and most are so caught up they may not even notice you even if they look right at you. Sorry but you're not that special to others that they take the time to deeply ponder you, they've got other things on their mind.
i’m going to be sixteen years old in just a month. i have lost the past two years of my life to severe social anxiety disorder, and bipolar depression. i don’t attend in person school, i’ve lost all my friends, i am nobody. i’m losing hope for my future.
I'm sorry to hear that. Anyway I can help, I will. Reach out
You are a good person you deserve to be happy.
It will always get better with time❤stay strong nd Don't forget your unique nd beautiful
Keep your head up u just a kid things will get better
I take a bow for the path you have walked. From social anxiety (I can relate) to openly speaking about it like this, you need to have a big pair of balls. Damn. This is what I dream of.
I think I *know* what to do, but I just don't seem to be able to put it into practice. I live in Belgium, and the awareness for social anxiety is practically zero here. I'd love to have a partner in crime and deal with it together, encourage each other, hold each other accountable for taking the appropriate actions. Unfortunately I don't know where to start.
Having a mentor like you, Kyle, would probably be life-changing and everyone who does, is very lucky to have you.
Kudos man.
Thanks! That means a lot. And yes having an accountability partner is extremely helpful
Thanks so much for sharing your story, Kyle. This talk will help a lot of people who are struggling. I admire your courage.
Thank you, Fallon!
Hi, I am 35 and have been socially anxious since I was a teenager. Sometimes I am close to panic attacks. I got married somehow.😄 But I still have no friends and my career growth is really slow. Thank you for raising the topic. The more we talk about social awkwardness, the more ways we receive to ease it.
Same at my work place people be rude to me cause I’m so awkward and it makes me feel worse.
Thanks! Yes, we need to get this message out more
Dude you just described my sophomore year to a T almost. My social skills had been destroyed by being in the group home (I was very isolated as we were not legally allowed to leave unless the staff were taking us for an outing or something) for most of the summer before that year while I was in between families and schools. I’m in my senior year now and I’ve gotten better, I’m still randomly pretty awkward at times and my anxiety will randomly spike but not quite like it was before, but ur speech definitely helped me out man. You’re definitely an inspiration for a lot of people.
Love to hear that this has helped. Keep grinding and working on it. Love the progress you have made
Great talk!! This is so needed right now. I sense your passion and your story is so relatable. Anyone can start using your 3 step method immediately. Love this work you're doing!
Thank you! Baby steps!!
I'm tired of it, being afraid of phone calls, talking to people in person, always being nervous with even the people I know and having my mind go blank. It's like I have to work for what most people have always had. I don't know if it's social anxiety or just social awkwardness but it just seems impossible to overcome...
I feel your pain. It's not fun but there is another side
I am wondering that when you are with people, do these thoughts cross your mind:
- I don't know what to say
- I can't be finding any joke to say
- I am a boring person
- I can't be finding cool answers to say
- If somebody were me, they would have had better conversation
- I will never be able to have a good conversation with anyone
- I wish I was death, there is no point in living like this
@@Ogulcan13 this wasnt my comment but they are the exact things I get in my brain
@@Alex22.92 the worst thing is I cannot be sure if we will be okay..
It isn't the fear of having social anxiety, it's the fear of being unable to connect with people and fulfilling basic human needs. Why is it really difficult to make friends when everyone needs one in this days?
I did the walking circles in the hall as well. Thanks for this
Thank you this disorder affects abroad demographic. It affects a poor older tall large person as well. I've been called a gentle giant. You seem like a social butterfly I can't tell you ever had that disorder. As I listen to your tools on dealing with social anxiety I am smiling inside I feel so safe. Thank you I really needed this video🙏🏾🌞
I am glad you liked it. Trust me, I am not a social butterfly, but I can speak and be my full confident self now
Amazing talk Kyle, congrats on this milestone man
Thanks, Julian! Definitely a milestone, but a small stepping stone to what I'm working towards
Kyle thank you for talking about social anxiety and putting this out there you did a Great job a lot of helpful tips that I will be using I look forward to seeing more
Thanks, Jeff! It's coming
Thank you. Keep on talking. Your an inspiring young man !!!
Thanks, Jim!
How wonderful! Congratulations on a wonderful talk. So important.
Thank you Sara so much!
What an excellent talk. You are giving hope to so many Kyle - thank you.
Thank you, Robin!
Amazing job Kyle! You are for sure on your way to helping 1 million teens go from socially anxious to socially confident!!
Thanks, Justin! Yes, I am!!
This is a great talk - simple, clean, to the point, impactful! It also has a great graph! Impressive! 👌👏😊
Thank you Manav! I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I am very late for this, but it's the reason why I'm still single and don't have a successful career. Some days are really bad for the loneliness and depression that social anxiety causes. I just don't see an end to this, no light at the end of the tunnel yet. I did a similar thing Kyle did when I was in college. I also don't see myself finding a partner at my age, that's where the loneliness and depression really hit me. Thanks for reading.
You can do this! I totally feel what you are saying. I thought I'd never create a family. Then I stopped focusing on trying to find my wife and just started focusing on working on me...not much longer is when my wife found me. This is just a small chapter in your story. Don't let it be your whole story
Start by doing small intetactions, for me, even asking the people that organize the shelves at walmart where some product is, was so hard for me, but i started doing it and little by little start talking to other people, make sure to have a subtle smile to give a good impression :)
What an inspirational talk! Thanks.
Thanks, Mike!
This reflects my younger years so well. My parents both even punished me for not wanting to go out in public too much, by taking away my things or grounding me.
That's rough. Hopefully more and more people talking about this will change that in the future
Keep on keeping on! Love this
Will do! Thanks!
Thanks Kyle for sharing your experience, it helpful for many Student's, people's including me. Your 3 step process is really simple point to point and clear to understand. Once Again Thank You !!!
That's great to hear that your taking action! Keep at it
Very well spoken…amazing public speaking skill. It was precise and to the point. Thank you for sharing your efforts. Kudos to you
Thank you!! You have no idea what it means for you to say I have amazing public speaking skill....I used to be horrible at it
@@socialanxietykyle Your determination to succeed made all the difference. You are doing great work
@@anujap7070 Thank you!
I have social anxiety. I can really relate to the story about walking around the hallway. Used to do that too in college. Once when I was traveling alone I stayed in a hostel and everyone was in the common room interacting and I couldn’t be there for more than a few minutes so I would go to the room to “check something” and obviously I thought everyone was watching and judging me. I thought about staying in the room alone but then I was so mad at myself that I’m so messed up. I decided to get together all my courage and walk up to people and talk to them. That actually ended up a successful interaction. Anyways it’s been like 10 years and I’m still struggling. I wonder when or if this will ever go away.
Thanks for sharing Tait! Anxiety never goes away...nor do we want it to as it is a powerful tool for survival. It's about finding ways to have anxiety show up when you need it...and not when you're walking into a room full of strangers, for examples.
Great to hear your experience. Thanks Kyle for sharing, really amezing talk👏
Thanks for watching and sharing that with me
This is excellent! I want people to know that this is how to approach challenges. There's nothing that can't be overcome with effort. Yes, it's scary, yes it's awkward, but like anything else, it becomes more natural with practice.
Absolutely!
You may have just saved my life. Thank you.
I don't know why this is resonating so much.
oh god this is too relatable
Thank you kyle. I will use these 3 steps. I'm looking forward to honk and wave too😄
Why I am the odd one this made me cry every time
This guy is my new hero
Cool to hear. Appreciate the love! 🥰
proud of you my dude!
Thanks, Jeremy! Appreciate the love ❤️
This is my favorite ted talk ever!
Wow! I am honored! Thank you so much!!
Definitely needs more exposure alot of people have social aniexty.
Its more of a stigma
More people should talk up if they have it .
Nice talk and compelling topic!
Thank you Jane!
i cant make friends in my college classes, in school i had no difficulty but after lockdown and covid its been a hassle! i just came into college and its exactly how he started off with his story i just wanna make one friend to get thru my classes and breaks but its so hard and i dont wanna be like this no more
That's a common story I hear about that happened because of the pandemic. I had SOOOOO MANY people reach out telling me that. You're not alone in this. I'd love to hear your plan to get that one friend you're looking for.
I think the walking the halls thing is kinda funny because my high school was basically one big rectangle and that’s what literally everyone did every single morning. We’d get off the bus and if we had people to talk to, we’d walk in groups together until class started. I just recently recognized how much my social anxiety has dictated what I do and how I behave everyday. Thank you for this talk!
I've had so many open up to me now and tell me that they walked the halls too! I thought I was the only one back then, but I was not
2:13. Oh my gosh Kyle. I started tearing up at that part 😓
That part makes me tear up every time I say it. I can just feel myself in that stall every time
2:04 made me cry as well.
Great speech...loved it
Listened something valuable before sleep...
Thanks!
Inspiring talk
Thank you, Brandy! It feels great to know this is inspiring people to take action in their lives!
Perfect
I am still having social anxiety at the age of 27. Thanks for the great talk I will try to follow the 3 step process
@@commentscopyrightattorney5543 Thanks for your reply.
I have this problem since as long as I can remember.
I am good with a few of the friends I have but outside that circle I just become anxious.
Symptoms are exactly as mentioned in this talk.
I might give more details but I don't think the comment section will be the right place to discuss.
Thanks for sharing! You've got plenty of time. Reach out to me if you'd like support
I lose my hearing and vision a lot.
Growing up, almost every time anyone spoke to me it was a criticism.
I’m not through the tunnel far enough that I can see the landscape. Just some light sometimes when I’m not laying flat on my face.
But some day I’m going to get there. And I’m gonna tell everyone about my steps ♥️
I too have i am 26 year old women
I am suffering from SAD since last 15 yr. Now I am 28. My problem is getting severe day by day. I face very difficulty in eye contact while speaking to even my family members also...it embarrasse me.
Due to social anxiety...I hv got symptoms of depression nd sometimes suicidal thoughts. I can't share my feelings to anybody. People always judge me in negative ways.. Their behaviour nd comments hurt me a lot . But I am helpless. I belong to a small town... where I can't get any therapist regarding this. I am completely helpless and hopeless. Please help me out.
Hey there. Do you have anyone you can talk to? Parent, friend, coworker, etc.? Talk to someone you love and trust and let them know how you're feeling. If you don't want them to give you advice, make sure you lead with that and that you just need someone to listen to get it all out. If therapy is something you'd like to do, there are tons of online therapy platforms where you can video call with a therapist. I highly recommend it. Remember, this is only temporary and not meant to last forever. You're one step away from seeing progress in yourself.
Hey I too have social anxiety can we be friends 1 am 26
@@Lipsasmr4 same here😢
Can’t wait to share this with my teenager❤
That's fantastic! Love to hear that!!
Good job Kyle!!
Thanks, Anya!
To parents who have children with some social anxiety, get them into team sports or activities asap. I love my mom dearly but how I wish she pushed me more to get involved in my youth. It’s my only regret about life. I did ok but could have done better. ❤️
It's definitely helpful. Keep those social muscles working
this is gold
thank you!
For the last year, I've been studying a lot about trauma and somatic therapies. Affirmations, trying to convince ourselves to be something that we don't FEEL we are, might work with some people. But not with people who are living with trauma. So many people are doing everything that is possible to get better, to heal their anxieties, depression, feeling of shame, low self-esteem and so on. And it just doesn't work. Because their nervous system is dysregulated and lives in a survival mode. So trying to convince ourselves with our intellect won't help. Our nervous system won't respond to this. Fears are trapped in our body. And this is what we must address at first.
So if you tried so hard to heal but are still struggling with social anxiety, please look for trauma informed therapists. Don't give up. There are new ways to heal this debiliting disorder.
Thank you Kyle for bringing more awareness to this silent pandemic.
Thank you Lise for sharing! Yes, we also must process through our traumas, which we have experienced. We all have trauma. Some people's trauma is more intense than others but we all have some including myself.
Well said!👍👏💪🤓
Thanks!
excellent speaking !!
Thank you!
My man you really are killing it like damn
Thanks man!
My social anxiety is crippling. I choke on words and if i keep pushing my voice shakes uncontrolably. It's very embarrassing
Dang, exactly!!
you are AMAZING
you are AMAZING! lol love you man!
I can feel his discomfort, nervousness, lack of sufficient breathing as he's presenting. I'm glad he's working on himself and fighting.
2:15 i burst into tears really
Even though I've told this story 100's of times, that part usually makes me at least tear up and I did while I was doing this talk.
It is exactly opposite in my case.. in school I was every extroverted person that too as an overweight girl,everybody in school knew me but when I entered college I slowly realise that not everybody is nice.. professors,fellow students were rude and judgemental. I got into toxic relationship..there was crying and drama everyday. If that wasn't enough I lost my mother at the age of 19. That was very tough time for me. My ex put me in isolation to complete his narcissist acts. Then in 2020 lockdown happened. I found out my father having affair with neighbor woman who was already married and had a little kid. I could not process my emotions. After having enough with everyone, all that put me in hospital bed for three days and also I was diagnosed with major depression. With help of psychiatrist that I almost healed. I never actively try to get a job because I think I'm worthless and I don't know anything. Right now I didn't step out of my home from past 6 weeks. I don't know what to do. I don't know how I became like this. I cry almost everyday remembering my mother. I want to go out cause I'm just 24 rn but I cannot gather enough courage for going out.
That sounds challenging for sure. One step at a time. Are you still seeing a psychiatrist or another mental health professional?
I cried
I felt this so bad in just 2 minutes
You did great mate
Thanks, Erick!
I just thought as I got older it would go away, plot twist it gets worse but I’m medicated now and my symptoms have reduced pretty noticeably . Social anxiety stopped me from doing many things I wanted to do in life it’s such an irrational fear .
Irrational fear is a perfect way to describe it. It can feel so rational in the moment though
It’s not until a few years ago that I realized there are so many people suffer from social anxiety. This has been bothering me since 5th grade. I had wished I was “normal”. I hated how I felt but I didn’t know how to stop it. I’m 45 now, I care less and less about what other people think now. I keep reminding myself of “ok, not everyone likes me, so what? What can they do?”
Society made me social anxious
I can understand that, especially with COVID. That made a lot of people feel socially anxious, even people who never really struggled with it in the past
@B D you think that's true or one of those stories our brain's tell us sometimes?
@B D I would continue to question that thought of people thinking you want something. Social anxiety made me feel like I was a mind reader, but most of the time, I found I was far off!
I agree that we need to approach people without the armor, as you nicely put it. We're all human beings with fear and insecurities but a lot of times we forget that and think we are alone with our fears/insecurities.
I appreciate the dialogue...sorry for late reply
It always does
I can manage to talk or answer a short question in a public place but this would not stop me the nervousness from getting to me. My voice would probably breaking down and even run out of breath while doing it, my heart would definitely beat faster, and sometimes my hands or feet would be shaking.. I have confidence, I always want to challenge myself but all these I mention above make it impossible and this literally killing me. Apart from that my sleep is bad, my digestion is bad, my emotional health not good.. I hope I’m not cursed and all these symptoms are related to the anxiety 😔
I can relate to the symptoms you are feeling. What's a baby step you can take?
@@socialanxietykyle I believe I can take any step but my problem is even though I take step, the nervous feeling won’t stop. Just the thought of something give a quick anxiousness in my chest. I’m planning to visit a neurologist since they specialize in nervous system. If that doesn’t work I’m going to psychiatrist for medication and exposure therapy. If meds can keep calm in public interaction then exposure should be fine
I struggle with this
I hope you know you are not alone and that there is hope for you. You can live life on your terms instead of social anxiety's
I am so proud of myself, I started out to shy, and anxious whith zero confidence, and now I am more confident, and can talk to people when I want and need to. The only struggle for me is when I dont want to, and dont have to, like teaching out to friends, or talking to a boy I like. What would you recommend?
I have some videos on my channel that I think would help you answer this question
People think I m being rude because of my social anxiety, they don't know the courage it takes to do daily simple tasks , hope to overcome this one day.
I hope you will too! You definitely can
very nice speech, please any medication to avoid social phobia
I'm 22 and i used to get humiliated so bad infornt of entire class by my school mates . I still carry dat trauma and dealing with my self-doubt. I wanna make friends but I'm afraid of humiliation.
That means you haven't processed that trauma. A therapist can help you with this
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I feel like the one thing stopping me for becoming who i am destined to be, is social anxiety. I want to open up a business but i can't seem to even talk to my family without being social anxious, Got any tips??
I have 3 tips in the video haha. What are you looking for exactly?
I've had social anxiety since I was 8 years old I'm now 53 years old, I had it for 45 years.
Sorry to hear that sharon. It's never too late to start taking action and feeling better
Missed out on my teenage years of having fun with friends that I never had and now it’s just 2x harder to make friends because I’m busier with life and have less free time 😢
School is a unique social environment that most adults don't get access to again after graduating. I encourage you to try and set aside some time for this
praying helps, ask God to guide you and to be self-confident
I once got hit myself so bad due to social anxiety my mind didn't worked with me
You are not alone! Reach out if you need help
Can my SAD leave me alone...so I can just graduate college and move on to do greater things in life. This is so really hard for me right now. Some days I fear it'd be this way forever, like I can't even imagine myself being better. I just want to breathe in peace, that's all....in the end, the onus falls on me
I thought I had social anxiety but after watching your video I realized…. I just really don’t like.. most people in general. Has nothing to do with wanting to make friends or fear or judgment from anybody. I just don’t like people lol Thank you
That's a good realization. I guess my question would be, why don't I like people?
I hate most people, but negative judgement effects me severely. and i can't kill them because ill go to jail. there's very few people I actually enjoy talking to, most people im just trying to get along with but the social comfort is not there and I always feel like im masking. I also have a very hard time being assertive.
I am suppressed because of this anxiety. I'm 50/50 about living or dying. I'm starting to question my existence and the purpose of life.
Anxiety can be rough. We all have purpose...it can take a while to find that. Be patient. Find ways to enjoy the process.
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walking the halls for 40 minutes, tbh that might be a plan I would consider now
Maybe that's where you start until you go on to take a challenge
3:59 I'm doing this tomorrow in my last class wish me luck aswell
Heck yeah!
I have also social anxiety . I also can,t face people properly. I feel uncomfortable in my daily life . What is the best way to overcome social anxiety. Plz help I am suffering since last year
Did you watch the video? I answered this question in there
who else has social exciety because you feel like every one is looking at you in a bad way??
I think that's how just about everyone with social anxiety feels
I practically couldn't talk to people since 2nd grade. Now I'm 30 and just barely able to order something over the phone. Social anxiety ruined my life.
Rebuke in the name of Jesus.
Yes, the fear. Works for everyone i know.
I am sorry to hear that. It doesn't have to control the rest of your life
@socialanxietykyle it doesnt have to but it does . Its like a disease
I can't even speak to people online
i feel this 100%