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More of this content please! Hearing your sane, educated take on these topics is so entertaining and interesting. Thank you for trying something new!
Thank you! Will do!
DOCTOR! I heard that the happiest people statistically are single women and married men. The implication being that women have to do a lot of the invisible labor in the home and are happier not having to "parent" a man, and men enjoy being taken care of. Can you speak on this?
I wholeheartedly. Agree! I will never remarry, I will date, but I will never let a man move into my house again.
I've been a single mom for 14 years and I love it. Would take a very special man to make it into my world. I try not to close the door, but I don't want it 😂
@@AylaGrassrootGardensyou took the words right out of my mouth! 10yrs single mom, I’m with ya sis!
@@j.johnson7296 yay, sometimes I feel like a weirdo, but I'm dang happy. My kids are teens now. I want some time to myself at some point 😂
I believe most men just want another mommy. They need continuous mothering. There is an expectation.
I don't get this "lesbians have the most divorces" or "lesbian relationships don't last" thing. I'm a lesbian and I've been happily married for 10 years and all the other lesbians I know are also happily married. I guess I've just never met the kind that break up really fast. I dunno.
My friend and I were talking: lesbians seem to have a High rate of staying together. As a straight girl im a bit jealous:)
He's just a misogynist. I'm sure he feels deeply threatened by lesbians because we're less likely to do anything other than laugh at his b.s.
I’m from a family with no divorce across my extended family. That doesn’t mean there isn’t a divorce rate of over 60% average.
@@no_prisoners6474 Yeah, but I've been hearing this a lot lately and it has a different vibe than how people talk about straight divorce. It seems to be used as a justification for saying gay relationships are wrong in the first place. Like, "being gay makes people inherently unhappy, so it should be avoided." It's just not true.
When I heard him say it, my thought was, if women are more emotional, two woman are more likely to be more understanding of each others needs and feelings. Men just don’t get it sometimes and that causes dissatisfaction. Also I find it annoying when men like Peterson sit around trying to explain women. Fuck outta here with that bullshit.
If 70% of divorces are initiated by the wife … then only 30% are initiated by the husband…right? So of 100% of divorces, 70% of husbands give their wives a legitimate reason to leave them, but only 30% of wives cause their husbands to leave …… so whose bad at being a partner again? (All said very sarcastically)
I believe my issues with depression has been that i struggle with the feeling of shame. We should learn to love ourselves no matter what you look like or where you are at in your life.
It’s more accepting ourselves
The idea of loving ourselves is a good idea if we understand what that truly means and sometimes other people do not - some people think they should literally love themselves and never think bad of themselves or excuse bad behaviour with self love.
I would say it’s important to use words that most reflect what that really means not so much for our own sake but for the sake of it not being extrapolated into the public consciousness as a very simplified, immature, literal version of exactly what you mean.
We’ve seen how that looks out there and it’s not pretty.
It means accepting oneself rather than rejecting aspects of ourselves that we perceive to be shameful.
Acceptance is key because from there we can work with reality and understand ourselves, other people and the why. The why is the important part for overcoming.
Lmfaoooooooooooo 😂
"Shops at 'Forever 21'."
And "His daughter's jeans" absolutely killed me!
"Kids are a nightmare"
Truer words, my dude. I love my two nightmares more than life itself but holy crap, they are nothing but trouble lol😂
Being a parent is one bus you're never getting off.
Well, not until you die.
That is not good parenting! I raised four kids who are now all awesome productive adults. My most effective punishment was “community service.” One summer, instead of grounding my daughter, she had to volunteer at the Red Cross. She loved it and continued again the following summer.
Omg thank you for this Tip!! I'm so doing this!! ❤😊
Amen to your view on bullying parents. Once some kids were really cruel to my son, so I decided to tell their parents and hopefully stop the bullying from continuing. Much to my horror I realized by the dad's actions where the kids learned this behavior. He told me he would beat them and that my son should take all their stuffed animals. (yeah, the final straw in talking to them was about something very sentimental they stole, abused and destroyed of my son's). I told him, no, really I just came to ask him to let them know how much these things can mean to others, and how they hurt my son by their actions. I probably downplayed it by the end because I felt so bad for those kids.
“Shops at Forever 21” made my day 😂😂
Enjoying this new series - looking forward to more.
🤣 the comment about the pants killing you - they're killing me too!
I did not expect to think about statistics on my break from studying for my statistics exam haha. Great analysis of what Peterson said. I think we first have to control for other variables like "marrying quicker" etc. before we can say that its higher due to neuroticism. I think you should do more videos objectively discussing his and others statements!
Putting your kid on a street corner for strangers to point and laugh at is 100% how you raise a bully. Public humiliation solves nothing.
I like the new format! I really appreciate you taking on a psychologist. I all the more appreciate you tackling the craziness of the world so I don't have to. When I hear this garbage at the next party I'm at, I know where it comes from, and I know there are sane people out there who are refuting the insanity.
I really like the new video! Keep em coming! ❤️
Thank you! Will do!
I love this video!! keep this content for sure. plus i love the book recaps.
As a parent coach, I loved your perspective on the middle video. Spot on!❤
Love these kinds of videos! Would love to your perspective on over diagnosing in main stream media and the pros/cons of people talking about mental health. Though I love to see people talking about mental health more openly it also seems like diagnosis are thrown around and applied much easier than they used to be
Started laughing out loud at the statement, “…kids are a nightmare! They’re the world’s worst roommates.” 😂 Truer words were never spoken!
I love this idea! i had a good time and learned something. This kind of analyses are right up my alley. Thanks!
Loved the format
Awesome videos and channel! I love you guys
Very much enjoyed your calm and informed reactions!
I was the one growing up who moved away from groups or people who would shame me to motivate change. I saw it as a weakness in myself, because the movement was motivated out of fear. But growing up I realised that it was me being solid in who I truly was/am to move away from things I didn’t have the power to battle and prevail. - But what do I know? I’m just a former actor/current music teacher. Love your videos. #notweak
Shaming a bully kid is similar to smacking a kid for hitting someone.
My child used to get bullied, then she turned into the bully. We have the added difficulty of her having autism, and a strong sense of justice…so she bullies kids who she thinks are doing the wrong thing, yet they’re just being kids. If I shame her, she will become so much worse.
I carry her shame, I don’t enjoy being the mother of someone who has hurt other children, but I will not hurt my child with extra needs to try and reign in her behaviour. We are currently trying to teach her empathy, which is much more important than making her feel like a piece of crap.
I'm so glad your addressing Jordan Peterson. I heard an early interview with him a woman interviewer, where he argued and belittle her. His premise was women weren't as intelligent as men.
This interview has been buried.
lol I’m pretty sure that’s not what he said
More like all his interviews are being censored. Which is so wrong.
As much as IQ tests have been demonized, they are actually one of the most reproducible data in psychology. IQ data consistently shows that men cluster more at the extreme top and bottom of the IQ bell curve whereas women tend cluster closer to the middle of the curve. Since men cluster more around the extremes, the very smartest men tend to be smarter than the smartest women. Never seen the clip you're mentioning, but my guess is that what Peterson is referring to.
Actually that description is showing one doesn't at all comprehend what he said in that interview, which is usually the problem. Lower intelligence people lack understanding of what is being actually said, simplify it at their own level, getting it wrong, then get outraged.
@@pazzy001it isn't a great representation though because of the way the test is structured. If you take one kind of person and decide to base a test around them, then give that same test to other groups, the results are going to be skewed. As well, if you repress an entire group of people, deny them access to the same educational opportunities and educational support, and tell them all the time that they are smart, you have an impact on the outcome.
Based on the statistical changes that have occurred over time as some factors have less effect on the outcome, the issue was inequality in the measurement, not the measured.
I feel like a lot of times kids are bully's because of what is going on in their home lives, so unfortunately the person{s} causing the behavior to begin with are not going to do the right thing.
As someone who was Horribly bullied in Middle school by peers And by my parents. I have Zero empathy for that kid. Speaking nicely to bullies Does Not work. Bullies do not care about feelings of others.
Really interesting. More, please.
Love the video ❤
Thank you for doing the part on 'clips.' So many clips are taken out of context. Worse yet, is when they put a couple of unrelated clips together to make it seem like the person is saying something they would never say. We live in a fast paced world where sometimes people don't have the time or desire to hunt for the truth.
JP is for the long format listener.
Thank you! Very interesting!
Love, love the format! ❤ I would love to see content on how vile people gain cult like followers.
I immediately thought of The Scarlet Letter and/or the Salem Witch Trials. 😢
I completely agree with your takes on these videos, especially about the parents. If your child is expressing his feeling through bullying others you need to take a look at where he’s seeing and learning that. Judging by the way they decided to “punish” him I’d say the parents are teaching him that shaming others is not only acceptable but a way to exhibit power.
I enjoyed this video, I enjoy physiology and it is partly why I started watching you. The other part is that you’re viewing some pop culture with the psychology spin. I’m so happy your critiquing VanderPump Rules. It so fascinating how you analyze the people and their actions. Keep both videos up.
All the Best to you Dave, Allison and your Family. ❤️❤️❤️
Love your videos
I Love the shirt!! ❤
Like the format, 2nd video of urs
I saw this...I am not a big Jordan Peterson fan..I find him too arrogant.m...on purpose almost...huge ego...
Hahaha jacked to the gills 😂😂😂 and shops at forever 21
Not sure if it was jacked but I was LMAO!
Please do more video's debunking videos like this!
Have you considered Married at first sight to review? They're loaded with stuff
That was very interesting
I just want to thank you for the quality of your content. You strike a great balance between education and entertainment and I always walk away with points to reflect on and food for thought. I find JP frustrating and at times intellectually dishonest. His content strikes me to prioritise seeking a reaction than offering a nuanced, educational, balanced and compassionate analysis. I rather my mind and heart be engaged on a subject I may not know much about or see one I think I do through a different lens than feeling manipulated to take a stand right away because of its delivery then track back to verify it one way or another. It gets tedious very quickly.
If a psychologist needs another psychologist to explain his stupid comments, he's useless. Plus, his leaps in logic are ridiculous.
This is refreshing. Jordan Peterson frequently makes sweeping statements that are easily taken apart. When he started to get famous, I'd listen to him. He'd say some okay things, and then he'd inevitably say something breathtakingly stupid. Sick of him being touted as an "intellectual" just because he dramatically furrows his brow before speaking.
Love the last part 😂
I'm not going to say you should love Dr. Peterson, but... he most definitely is an intellectual. He's read more books than most people read in an entire lifetime... many of them multiple times in order to truly understand them and break them down elementally. He's written many peer-reviewed papers, he's a published author, he was a tenured professor of psychology, he's taught at Harvard University and the University of Toronto, he posted his classroom lectures on TH-cam in order to reach a wider audience, he's a skilled debater, his vocabulary is cosmic... but, ultimately, his goal is to educate. He's very generous with his time, knowledge and expertise. He deeply loves his family and treasures his friendships and relationships. He's a decent, honest, hard-working dude who just wants to make the world a better place and hold accountable those who hold positions of authority. He's definitely not perfect, he is the first to say so, but he's a genuinely kind and good person, and he's on the side of truth and righteousness. So, you may not agree with everything he says, but please don't casually dismiss his accomplishments and his wisdom, because he's worked very hard for them. And, yes, I think he's wonderfu,l and a very important voice for truth, reason, courage and faith.
Firstly, you know in personally do you and secondly, it sounds like he's just got a whole lot of books smarts which means to me his thick is f****** bricks@@michellet.2432
He went off the rails with trans topics. That gave him a new audience. Personally, I think he succumbed to the cult of haters.
@@michellet.2432 There is no need to explain to me who Peterson is. I am well aware. I just don't consider him nearly as intelligent as he is said to be. He doesn't just say stupid things once in a great while. He does it often. Let's agree to disagree.
It's always 50/50 if I'm going to agree with you or not however, I very much love your content. You always have me thinking and challenging my own thoughts and feelings. I'd really love a daily one of these type videos.
That was fun.
My Moms were together for 33 yrs until my bio-mom died and as a child raised in the american lesbian community since 1976, most women i know are in long lasting successful monogamous couplings. I would chalk that up to high emotional intelligence, "we" orientation, and continuous communication.
Just my opinion.
Also, i have been joking that my parents had "complementary neuroses" 😂 since i started taking psych classes in college. But i can say that... screw that guy😮😊
That guy is the worst. He’s always complaining that he’s been “canceled” , yet he never goes away.
@@AndImsomelady-fq6cw lol, right!?
Persecution complexes ... another abundant neurosis 😄
@@christobal007 and if you don’t like something he says, your not educated enough, or you just bought into the feminist agenda, blah blah blah. Oh and he’s an expert on everything.
"I love his daughter's jeans", and "He shops at forever 21"! So perfect (but really, only okay because he's abusive). Thanks for the J. P. Analysis. I am so often squirming when he speaks, but I don't have the words to explain why he's off-base (because he often references supporting statistics).
That last guy… gross! Just gross, so not what is needed in society
That kid learned to be a bully from his parents, obviously they wouldn't come up with this "punishment " if they weren't, kids learn from watching their parents,
Gay men divorce slightly less than straight couples and lesbian couples actually do get divorced more often.
I found this content to be really informative.
Thank you.
I wonder if Schwartz did the bikini whip cream varsity blues thing too?
I like it!
.over this and love you and Alison.🎉
I haven't looked into it but I thought I heard same sex women have the highest rate of divorce. Maybe that is why he's saying this?
JP definitely over reaching. Like all of us he finds data that reinforces his bias
Thanks for addressing the “bully kid” video.
I’m not a parent but that’s an area where I feel very conflicted in. I have two nephews that I spend a lot of time with and sometimes I don’t know what is the right way to address bad behavior.
I look at that clip and see both perspectives.
Pop Clips is a fun name for the series!
It’s not an interaction style it lacks heart it lacks depth it lacks understanding, and you can be a cerebral as you want but if you have no emotional intelligence, according to how your behavior and your language and the things you say, can affect people and you’re not very bright at all❤
It could be that woman are more likely to know themselves and they are allowed to have a wider range of emotions.
I also know lots of lesbians that have been been together for decades.
16:00 you explained perfectly why Andrew Tate is so popular.
So the parents are bullying their kid because he is a bully
Negative emotions, meaning, by the time women file for divorce, we have tried everything to fix it. Yes, women do have negativity and in some cases, justifying able. I understand it that way.
JP has got a cult following Doc. I love listening to him, probably because he says things calmly and confidently but I think it would be awesome if you analyzed more of his talks. Imagine the views!
Peterson is terrible. He has spoken bad about Scandinavia where I live.
@@Ulrika-gt5qr I’ll have to look. I do admit I have not listened to everything he has said. Probably just the more popular things.
I don't think David has the chops to take on Peterson., I think he should stick to reality television.
At what point do we just admit Jordan’s logic is consistently flawed when he discusses women. It amazes me someone as intelligent as he is - and able to think critically about any other subject- is so biased when it comes to the opposite sex.
People need to hear a version they understand … get stuck in the weeds and people just make stuff up .. why keep coming for Peterson ?
Because he keeps coming for women
Is anyone else "triggered" by the coffee slurping in the clip? I'm listening thru ear buds & I had such a physical reaction to the sound that my body cringed. @PopPsych am I crazy? Lol!
You have Peterson's number.
Neuroticism . . . You explain it and how there's a higher incident rate for women, but roll your eyes at Allison every time she wants to talk about carrying the mental load. It's related, don't you think?
Okay, smart people might do that,, but why does Jordan Peterson do it?
I remember hearing of a mother who made her daughter wear raggy clothes after she was caught bullying another girl because of her clothes. I applauded her, as I did the mother who put curlers in her hair to retrieve her daughter from a party after being 2 hours late.
That perterson guy just comes off as a jerk. He thinks hes smart snd thats the problem
He is smart and that is a problem for many who want to keep us dumb..
Peterson likes to say things that are provocative in multiple disciplines but holds up no substance to support his notion other than ignoring recent research found in those disciplines (philosophy, economics, sociology, psychology etc.)
Can you cite an example where he has ignored recent valid peer reviewed research? He cites constantly.. His has encyclopedic knowledge on many areas of research because he is a researcher.
@@jazzy19001 we can look at recent research found in gender studies which negates much of the attributes he frames as men or women, his remarks on Hegel and Marx etc. found in his interviews with Maher and Shapiro. It's so many and no he's not a researcher, he's a professor. Just cause Bourbon is whiskey don't make whiskey Bourbon.
@@lostwanderer6649 he's not currently a researcher because his professorship was taken away from him - but make no mistakes his was a legit researcher/publisher in his area of academic study. Gender studies is not a real science. It is ideologically driven. I said VALID research - gender studies is neither. F Cultural Marxism
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Jordon Petersons popular works were:
Openness to Experience and Intellect Differentially Predict Creative Achievement in the Arts and Sciences (189 citations)
Openness to experience, intellect, and cognitive ability (144 citations)
Unifying the aspects of the Big Five, the interpersonal circumplex, and trait affiliation. (126 citations)
But yeah, hardly any research 😂
@@Tricia-tu4pw citations doesn't equate to peer reviewed research by current journals.. just like you can cite all his works and still doesn't make them accurate sources to base from 😂😂
Think you’ve missed the nuances of same sex marriages and kids. I’m straight relationships women will take on more mental load and take on most house chores while in same sex marriage the mental load and house chores are more evenly balanced. Saying straight traditional relationships have kids therefore that’s hard on relationships is overly simplified.
Jordon Peterson is right. And you only reinteterated it. Yes, he had the nerve to speak negatively against the sacred cult of our culture. He speaks provocatively because that's what truth is these days.
This is the first video I’ve seen of your I do not agree with you . But it’s ok
What part?
@@PopPsych your assessment of Jordan’s Peterson I am not saying I didn’t think you made valid points I just did not agree with your take on his response.
Not his response (Jordan Peterson) I meant his comments
I really love this video. I love Jordan Peterson's provocative ways to get attention to an issue and your analysis of him sounds accurate to me.
The second video also align with my view. Definitely bad parenting.
The last video. The man taking his shirt off is in good shape??? I don't get it so I didn't listen 😂.
Keep up the good work. I am staying tuned.
Now imagine someone would clip and disect one minute of you talking about how “kids are a nightmare” out of context 🙄 So much nuance in this video, it’s amazing 😂
Correlation does not equal causation. I'll put it out there and double down that women file for divorce more often then men because they are tired of nagging their husbands to do it :)
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JP isn’t very intelligent, though.
I love you David but I disagree on the bully thing. I feel like the only way to teach a bully to NOT be a bully, is to show them how it feels to be bullied. They need to know that in life, there's always gonna be someone bigger and stronger and it's wrong to use that to cause harm and intimidation. And they need to know what it feels like to get the shitty end of the stick, so that they never do it again because it doesn't feel good. And maybe they'll even turn it around and stick up for someone else being bullied when they see it.
They may not bully anyone else again, but I think they’ll have a lot of anger and self hatred that’s unnecessary and would take a lot to work through. And let’s just say for a second that the only way to teach a bully is by bullying them, should their parents really be the ones to do it? Doesn’t seem like a healthy parent/child relationship. You need your parents to support and guide you, not tear you down.
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LOVE Jordan Peterson...
I find you still have alot to learn.
Personally I love Jordan.
Eww
Doc, would it change your opinion if Jordan Peterson was autistic? I do not know if he is. However, that thought at least popped into my mind. Sometimes, highly intelligent people such as Elon Musk who has been diagnosed with autism will say what automatically comes into their mind. Most times they do not mean to come off offensively. To them they are just stating facts in their mind.
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So what steps do you take when a conversation with a child bully doesn't help? When they don't care abt your childhood and how bullying negatively affected you? They don't seem to have any empathy towards stories or even witnessing someone else being upset. How do you handle it when just modeling good behavior for your child doesn't work? How else do you make them feel the same emotions that they're causing in others if you don't turn the tables and show them exactly how awful it feels to be bullied? I don't know any parents who want to make their kid feel like crap but I have known a couple who felt they were backed into a corner by their kid who refused to give a damn abt how they made other kids feel. Sincerely, what should they do when all the things you mentioned first didn't work?
I agree with Jordan Peterson. Those parents probably are the reason their son bullies kids.
His name is David, not Jordan Peterson.
@@Ulrika-gt5qr No...Two different sentences. I agree with Jordan Peterson. AND Those parents probably are the reason their son bullies kids. I know his name is David I am subscribed to David Colarossi's channel! Thanks for playing. 😆
The parent thing I think is complicated. Sometimes a child can be shown and explained the right way but will continue the behavior. I do think sometimes a child needs to experience something in order to really internalize it. That being said...it needs to happen in a controlled environment and in a manner that isn't going to create a core memory that is damaging. Maybe showing the child videos of people talking about the results of their bullying, or showing what happens to bullies and how they regret it, or even how some kids go to extreme lengths to escape bullying...I think reminding them of the person you know they are and the person they are acting like is important to do very explicitly...but not in a manner that mirrors their own behaviors or subjects them to the damage you are trying to prevent.
Also. LOVE this series.
I love Jordan Peterson!
I love chocolate ice cream!
I would not brag about that
Reading 12 RULES FOR LIFE would benefit a lot of people in the comments.
🗣️Jordan didn’t lie David
We want the vanderpump react...
It’s coming
No we don't😂
Actually, i think Jordan is right. 20 years from now, studies will show this phenomenon to be true. We know lesbians are not all neurotic but i agree the relationships are inevitably doomed to fail.