Once again, Chrissy knocks it out of the park! Great video - honest, direct, informative and entertaining. Rob, you must wake up every day and pinch yourself! An amazing lady in so many ways.
I helped my Filipina's parents with small amounts of money seeing they are very poor. She has been the breadwinner, helping to provide since she was 9 years old, paying for family expenses including her 3 brothers weddings and their kids school. We look after each other now and we are very happy. She has told the siblings that now she is with me she will not support them any further, although she will always take care of her parents. She never asks money from me and she really is the best. We sometimes help our friends also with small things, but they return the gesture by shopping for us and cooking. Thanks for your videos Crissy, always entertaining and informative.
This is the first video I have seen of yours. You produce a high quality message. I look forward to watching them in the future. I hope you and Rob have a blessed week.
Hello Crissy I'm feel compelled to send my kudos to you sooner than later. In my eyes you are the epitome of a Filipina woman. Your comphrension and ability to express your understanding of English is profound. Listening to you is as great as reading a fascinating book that one can not put down. The difference is - we not only have audio but able to see what a beautiful and vibrant woman that you are. Being a expat myself, I can really express my gratitude for your abilities and courage to share. If you could be cloned, there would be a stampede of foreigners vying to get one. Rob has got to be one lucky man and I hope he realizes that.
Good on you. I appreciate your humbleness. You two compliment each other and are one of the only couples ( mixed ethnicities and age variance) that look and make sense. You two are a classy couple.
Very intelligent and informative analysis from a Filipina’s own experience and perspective! Your English Communication skills really help us westerners kasabot the message. I have visited the visayas and love it but apart from any dating until I settle there. its helpful to be prepared with these insights😉 Good job Thanks!
Chrissy, I really appreciate you having the personal motivation to just go ahead and turn the camera on and speak from the heart. A few of the recent videos seemed a little stilted (reading from a script, or a little hesitant). I'm a big fan of you both and enjoy the content you produce. Good Job. Thank you so much!!! Patrick USA
Hi Chrissy. I've become a fan of you & Rob the past two months. Without knowing Rob personally, as an American I can tell you he's the real deal. He's mentally organized, quick, and highly intelligent. And that's just to survive in jet set high-inflation world of the U.S! Anyway, I've been thoroughly impressed by your demeanor, speech discipline, politeness, and respect. But, I could not read our last statement. Was it on half jest or blatant warning about getting involved with a Filipino. This seems contrary to all Rob's previous y.t. videos. Pray telleth more succinctly.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Chrissy: At the 30:32 time mark where you said "And for all those who wanted to have a Filipina in your life, I think you must twice". The first listen I heard "want" which seemed contrary to Rob's deferment towards Filipina women. The second listen I understood you to say "wanted", which paired with your voice tone, may be that you were just making a slight tongue-in-cheek comment.. [Rob can explain that meaning]. But as non-sensical hair splitting as this may seem, please make a clarification. You have to understand the time, energy, and financial stakes are high for a foreigner to come to the Philippines. A video ending statement, "you must think twice" in regard to wanting a Filipinia in your life, almost sounds like "are you crazy?" I'm sure that wasn't your meaning, but let us know. By the way, outstanding video presentation performances -- consistently -- from you & Rob.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines 10- 4. I suspected, but Chrissy maintains a good poker face. I'd venture if you're playing poker, she's probably winning too! Fine lady. Very impressed with Chrissy. Congratulations on recent marriage. It was heart rendering.
I know as an american, I don't really have enough patience. Just a way of growing up wanting things done more quickly as I always have a long list of things to do. Case in point, I watch YT videos at 125%, but todays video with Chrissy was 150%. You speak clearly and slow enough I'm sure for even your PH member to understand. Because this is not only a good thing to review with expats as much as it is for their significant other in the PH. Now the funny part, watch crh0issy do Zumba at 150%....LOL
Your English is very good I enjoy listening to you and always speak from the heart and tell people no matter what background it come from if you want to get out of poverty you must work for it Don't be lazy work for it
I support my immediate family but after that not so much. The point is money don't grow on trees so I keep telling my wife to borrow less and save more. She was helping everyone until she got scammed a couple of times. I hope she remembers to be more careful or borrow smaller amounts to reduce the loss. Many promise to pay back but borrowing is easier than paying back when you live poorly in the first place. Don't believe every emergency story you hear either, check things out. It is challenging when the culture is family centric and always in need.
some filipina wont ask for money in ldr but when you get there in person you find she mentions stuff that is in the pawn shop or money she owe that was borrowed asking and expecting you to pick up the tab. In fact she has borrowed money from a friend or relative saying she will pay it back when bf arrive .
Thank you Chrissy for sharing all the good information on what to watch for with a filapina and her famiily. I think both a generous allowance to the filapina and a prenup protecting me from a greedy family are sound ideas.
Let’s face the facts. A young Filipina seeking a relationship with an old man is doing this because she’s living in poverty or perhaps she has a low paying job but comes from a very poor family. Not all but most of them. The facts are obvious,most citizens of the country are below poverty level. So for a young girl seeking to escape poverty should come as no surprise. Secondly, she may have true intentions to have a relationship but you can’t expect her not need support.
I recently gave $9kPHP when my Filipina’s mother went to the hospital. She has 4 siblings and she could not get ahold of them. The sisters felt she should also pay for the $11k 6 month supply of medication. I declined. They should take care of their mother without my involvement. I stepped in because it was an emergency and as in the Philippines hospital services are not afforded on arrival if you cannot pay. Falls under the category of no good deed goes unpunished. I should have pushed back and insisted that the family reimburse me for the money I advanced. Of course that would never happen but it may reset their thinking on the medication.
Better to pay the 6k Phil Health annual premium then she will always be accepted at public hospital. You have a kind heart puppy dog. Great to see you here with a comment again.
Hi Chrissy, You should teach Rob the “personal questions” taxi drivers ask, that are clearly none of their business, so that “Rob” will know, what the driver is asking. Then, teach Rob how to respond, to the driver’s “nosy” questions, to put the driver in his place. I know Filipinos don’t like confrontation, but when they ask “nosy” questions, I’ll have no problem, telling them so, 😎😉.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines That’s great Ron, I’m really happy & proud of you, wanting to learn Cebuano, 😎😉👍🏼. I know that Filipinos try to avoid confrontation. But when Chrissy shared with us, that she feels uncomfortable, when cab drivers ask her personal questions about you, I commented to her, she should “tell you”, what they’re doing. I experienced that, with my gf, when I was in Cebu city, in 2019. I immediately put that driver, in his place, 😎😉. I already have so much respect for you & Chrissy, even I got defensive, when that driver made her uncomfortable. You guys are the best, 😎😉😋❤️. Once again, Chrissy and her family are going to love you even more, because you’re to learn their language, 👏🏼❤️. God bless you both.
I came back from a 2 month holiday enjoyed it so much the people are wonderful. I met quite a few women over there, gorgeous and so friendly and yeah a few that see you as an ATM, does not take that much to work that out. But overall of course some will ask but its upto you. Me i only do that after our relationship is solid as for family support, no i am afraid not. I am there for her only. Great video thanks.
Re : Filipinas who want to move and work in the west. Just before covid Duterete passed but legislation that said nursing school was free for poor students. I don't think it is implemented yet. But consider an RN who could make $50,000 per year. That's more than 25 of her working relatives combined. How can anyone possibly fault someone for wanting to live and work in the west. But,,, the problem is that the west eats your income : car payment, mortgage or rent (u will have to split the mortgage payment with your spouse), utilities, health insurance (costly here), man's hair cut/styling is $25, restaurant meal is around $30. Mechanics charge $150/hr.
Similar with English traditional names... a guy would have 2 middle names from grandfathers, and a girl from grandmothers... and you see repeats... so looking at family records you can usually tell... This was resisted by my american-ex wife, so not all countries do this... So when I re-married, my daughter has this... This can go back hundreds of years, and what might seem outdated names, were trendy back then... I have a great great aunt, and her firstname is used back a long way..
Speaking of mixed children, the truly fun part is when you get to the grandkids. At that point, the genes can bounce around and wind up in unexpected combinations. Our oldest grandchild has a lot of Irish in her, which gives her exceptionally fair skin and bright red hair. When Lola used to take care of her when she was a child, people would think that Mrs. Rick was her nanny instead of her grandmother. Perhaps Mrs. Rick had kidnapped the baby. Who knew? Our grandson has a Greek paternal grandfather with a dusky Mediterranean skin tone. Combined with the Filipino brown skin gene, it gives our grandson a somewhat unique skin tone that I've never seen on anybody else. Our middle child looks most like Mrs. Rick within the kids, and one of her daughters could fit in with all of her Filipino cousins back in the province perfectly. Her sister is very white-looking, and no one could tell she's one-quarter Asian. It's really a mixed bag with the five kids, and they all acknowledge and understand why that is so.
As far as the money goes, whether it's the Filipina herself, or if it's her family pushing her into asking for money, she and her family both got along just fine on their own before the foreigner came along. Whatever money we (foreigners) have is not just given to us. We worked hard all our lives to have that money, and we expect everyone else to work hard and earn their own money the same way we did. And we know that the Philippines does not do things the same way as whatever western country we came from, but the principle is still the same, at least in our minds. So, if a foreigner tells a Filipina NO when she asks for money for her family, that's why, and the Filipina needs to understand that about us.
A modern professional Filipina..will not have this baggage. I really don’t see the allure of huge cultural difference associated with the country girls. If your ready for your carpet slippers or your options are limited ..maybe.
I have to admit that I get very annoyed when we are out somewhere, possibly making a purchase and they ignore me and talk to my GF. I can't count how many times I've told someone to talk to me. I'm the one who's paying. They just laugh.
I love it A Philippina Mary,to a United States citizen And she’s working every day you know America is not Philippines you know you hear you work Monday through Monday just to pay your bills not Philippines you know play your ride. Let’s go to the mall every day drinking talking eating bullshitting. You know this is America and you are lucky because you only have one job most Americans have a full-time job and a part-time job and Filipino works here for 30 years and she cannot even forward to go back to the Philippines for a week. Welcome to America.
Many there will mooch from anyone who they think can afford luxuries. I never really understood that. My father really hated that trait - putting your hand out. Working for it has always been how we are brought up in my family. But I suppose not everyone can gain full independence and autonomy there.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines yes - it will break your heart seeing many so helpless. Another trait you will find w/ Pinoys is the extreme jealousy. You cannot just give to one or two but expect you to give to all if in giving mood. LOL. So sometimes, just better not to give at all lest you want to offend one.
I like clingy…it’s a nice change from the egomaniacal western woman. It’s the Filipina’s way of showing you that she is yours. She cares about your well-being, and she needs to be reassured that she is all you want and need. I don’t see anything wrong with that. Of course, everything can be done to excess. But in my case, it’s a perfect mix, and I love it.
I love it too, in fact it was one of the questions I asked early in our dating relationship- how much and what kind of affection did we both like and dislike. I found my perfect Filipina 😊
I must add one more thing. It sounds like as an American, I will be constantly walking on eggshells there !! How am I going to enjoy my life there if I have to watch everything I say and do ?? It sounds exhausting!!!
Sadly to say not all filipino women are nice, I unfortunately was being too nice to a filipino women I thought I knew. She took my kindness for weakness. I know not all filipino women are like this but it put me at a distance and allowed me to observe their actions more carefully.
The whole money for the family thing is a big no no. Especially in the early stages of the relationship. The money I give will be solely for the Filipina. She on the other hand can do whatever she wants with it. But only if we live together and she quits her job for me or she is a student or something.
Chrissy, You are so wise and blessed us with such valuable information. Thank you so much. I'm going to have to watch this again this weekend over a cup of coffee.
Great video, ang galing mong mag English at may katuturan ang sinasabi. Kadalasan sarili nating pamilya ang sumisira sa ating pangarap na bumuo ng happy family, dahil sa daming pressure, akala ng karamihang pinoy kapag foreigner instant yaman muna, at iaahon silang lahat sa hirap.
Well have to thank you Chrissy for another wonderful video. I have just started with a website called Christian Filipina and yes i would say you are so smart dear and thank you for sharing everything and i do not mean to generalize all of filiapinos or forgiveness This is a bit more difficult then i thought for many of the reasons you have mentioned. Very jealous is a problem and i think it has to deal with lacking self confidence and i try to help the ladies I am talking with but i can not help them from here so it makes it a challenge. I also see that they all say that they where cheated on by there last boyfriend and i do find that hard to believe not saying in a lot of cases it is but not all and i think the reason they say he cheated is because he just looked at another women or talked with another women. For example one of the first questions they may ask is if you have ever been to the phillipinens to make sure you are not a guy who is just out for fun. Or they do not want a leftover. Not exactly sure why this is but it is different. I also see that they are to nice and that does not allow them to tell you the truth try to avoid the topic or stop talking about it and I try to explain to them that if there is a problem let me know so we can talk about it not let it build up in you so you just get so mad and that’s is not good at all. I try but you can not teach that quick. I also see they like to play the victim card a lot saying how bad it is for them and please understand i know it may be tough for them and probably much worse then anything I have ever had to do in my life so i can understand. But if you want to build a relationship with someone you cant always focus on how bad you have it and focus more on what can be. Just my thoughts on that. They can also be very jealous if you do not respond to them within minutes of there message they will tampoo I think the word is towards you for just not responding quick enough or the question you get is what are you doing now lol. That cracks me up. I get it a lot if it takes me more then a minute to respond what are you doing now lol. I have to admire you so much Chrissy for being such a nice person and being there for rob and working toghether with him. I have watched most of your videos now and really like your content a lot I did not get. To reply to your video about single mothers and I wanted to because i raised my two daughters by myself and did not have any family around to help so I totally understand the meaning behind your other video and would hav no problem taking child as one of my own. I like that you communicate so well with Rob and that is great I try to explain to the women that is what i want but it is hard to explain it to them so they understand not that it is there fault it is just hard to explain in a way that they would understand. So this has been a big learning experience for me. I have sent a email to you saying I wanted to joined you program and look foward to doing so just have been overwhelmed with these women and trying to learn how to talk with them and make us understand each other better so i can see that being a issue to take care of as well. I do want to bring her back here to the usa and do not mind giving her a budget so she can spend as she needs or if she wants to work that works as well i am open to what will make her happy. I guess the other issue is just do not say anything that you learn from another Filipino to another one lady was calling me po and i ask why she said it was being polite so i started talking to another lady and she called me po and i told her no need to call me that just rob is fine she went off I thought you said you have never been to the Philippines and i was in shock i have never been but just knowing what a word is can trigger them a bit. I thank you for all of your time dear and your great videos they really help a lot. Not giving up at all just a learning experience that i am learning and hope to find a lovely lady. Thank you again and hope to talk with you soon.
Gentlemen, as long as you think there's some kind of perfect woman out there, you'll never be happy. No woman is perfect or even close. If you find one that's pretty good and you can be gracious with your actions toward her, chances are she'll be gracious with you as well. And you'll be fine. 😊
The perfect woman is the one "you" can be happy with. If she loves you, is trustworthy, and cares for you, to me that is perfection. Forgiveness is important as all humans make mistakes. Only God and Manifestations are perfect.
I’m a subscriber, I watch all your videos, both of you are fantastic together!! I want to address one thing you said about Philippino’s that want to leave there and go to like America and ohh get a job making a lot of money to send home to family!! WELL, you may make much more money in US BUT The cost of living there will Take just about all you make to live There!!!! That’s why about 95% of men that come to the Philippines is because even though they make good or Decent money in America, they are struggling to live there!!! So we are coming to the Philippines to live a more comfortable life without the stress of going to bed every night wondering how we’re going to pay the bills. I thought maybe you should be aware of this if you’re not already, and should give this information to your Philippines audience. Other your information to us wanting to come there is excellent.
Don't forget about tampo a lot of foreigners can't handle the silent treatment but you have to learn to just give your Filipina time and most of the time I'll pass
My friend and I were entertaining some filipinas and they were talking to each other in tagalog and having a grand time. Then we sted talking in pig Latin and they got real quiet and then angry and left.
language: the word bloody is a fairly common mild curse often used jokingly here in UK but I quickly found out in province its very bad meaning that you wanna fight and draw blood with someone
It’s important to set a budget together at the beginning of a relationship. It’s also important to discuss the “family” expectations and agree if it’s going to be part of the budget or not. If it’s not agree first and stick to the budget. If so inform the family so there is no misunderstanding.
You are right Chrissy, not all Filipina`s are pretty, friendly and all the things what we hope to find in our future Partner..... BUT when you compare the Phillipines with the "west" you have a much much higher chance to find your better half. Set your Frame what you looking for and stay on it. Soon or later you will find it.
😂😂 ❤ I've been thinking HUNDREDS of times about a Filipina in KANSAS with me!! 😂 😊 Not looking real hard yet at all. 😊😊 40+, Petite, traditional, lovely, emotionally stable. Etc. 😊 Just thinking....
I like your honest approach to explaining life there . My young Filipina wants me to take care of her and her family . Which is fine if she is for real . Exactly what you said about buying them land after marrage is what her and her father want. Thank you fir bringing all this up . Your hubby is lucky to have you because your smart 😊. Any advise you have fir me ? My both eyes are open now because I’m beginning to understand all this . There is so much poverty there in Philippines,jobs are hard to find,so many young ,pretty girls use social media to meet guys and start LDR. soon they are receiving pesos from the Forigner . Its a fair trade if the girl is really looking for a hubby, but it’s also common for them to “ work “ the firigner for money. I’m not bashing ,I’m just saying from personal experience. I kniw there are many sincere ,girls/lady’s looking fir a serious,real relationship .
In many cultures, such as the Philippines, there is a deeply rooted belief that building connections with individuals from wealthier countries can bring opportunities for economic improvement. This belief stems from genuine hope for a better life, especially in a country with significant economic inequalities. When a family member meets a foreigner, it's not unusual for there to be expectations of financial assistance or opportunities for immigration. However, it is essential to understand that such relationships should be based on mutual respect and understanding rather than solely on economic gains. Furthermore, while some may believe that foreigners can offer a way out of poverty, it's crucial to recognize that sustainable economic progress often requires a collaborative effort and a willingness to follow through on shared plans and guidance. It's about the initial connection and the ongoing commitment to work together towards common goals. It's also essential to respect the autonomy and decisions of those involved, as each person's circumstances and aspirations are unique. Diplomacy lies in acknowledging the complexities of these situations and fostering a dialogue that promotes empowerment, self-reliance, and respectful partnerships.
Great Video Chrissy as you spoke very well to highlight several of the situations that an Expat will face with his Filipina as we constantly have to try and see it from their point of view, as I see how hard my Filipina girlfriend tries so hard to be considerate of my feelings and constantly looks out to honor and take care of me which we are not used to from Western women. My girl doesn't act clingy in person as public displays of PDA but she will want to know where I am. I am blessed in the fact her family is so welcoming and wants to help me all the time as their constant efforts make it so joyful when i do something nice in exchange unrepentantly for them. So they helped me move and I bought dinner for everyone. And rather then just giving them money i do things for them such as one of their bathrooms was really out of date and as a former Plumbing contractor i decided it would be a nice Gesture for me to retile the bathroom myself, and I actually am teaching some of the sons and nephews some skills in being handy. I could have easily just paid for it but doing it myself put in actual blood, seat and tears using my skills. And I told her papa maybe he could teach me how to cook some of his favorite Filipino dishes as he is the main cook since he retired. So it is all a Loving give and take and knowing there are many differences but we can work with those to make it positive as my girl's first present to me was a Book on Filipino culture and the second was a shirt that says: "I Love the Philippines" and the second one was of the town from the most recent festival. Those gifts given on her limited budget mean so much as they touch my heart.
In the Philippines my wife gets hold of the money and she pays for everything because she knows the price a service.. in this way we build in 3 years a house…
What does a man do who can NOT speak?? Even here in USA, there’s some difficulty, I can use hand signals but most people don’t know that , so I keep a writing pad around my neck or top pocket and a lot of times have to use that, So are women there kind enough and patient and compassionate enough to love a man that can hear but can not speak??
I went to the Philippines on Holidays in 1977 on holidays different areas, then Cebu did have any plans what so ever just to have a great holiday. It was it I fall in love with a very beautiful school teacher who had just started teaching. I was in police. Extended my leave by two week I asked her father could I have his permission to get engaged. Went back to Australia sold my car got loan three month later got Married in the Scared Heart Catholic Church in Cebu now after 47 years three adult children from young age to old age I thank God what I got. So very good cookgreat mother yes we have our ups and downs like anyone else. Great video hope you and husband are well best wishes. From Australia 🇦🇺
,,,Good information Crissy, , , another very Helpful Reminder, when a Filipina has a Foreign Partner in Filipines, and when other Filipinos ask personal questions in local language, , , FOR EXAMPLE, , , the Filipina could be polite by saying,,, IF YOU DO NOT MIND, IS ONLY FAIR IF WE SPEAK ENGLISH AROUND MY PARTNER TO PREVENT ANY MISUNDERSTANDING, THANK YOU KINDLY,,,
Very good and practical information. I think the main thing is that the man needs to be a masculine confident leader who's happy to talk about things in advance and let the Filipina know what to expect in advance, for example he should be upfrom and say something like I'm willing to give your parents $100 a month but I wouldn't be comfortbable getting a lot of reqests for more money, do you think that would work for you and your parents? and then see how she reacts and what she says. But it would be huge mistake to wait until you're already dealing with multiple requests!!!
Wow so much great info, thank you. I see all the points you are making very clearly, mine isn’t jealous, she isn’t clingy. She is extremely understanding and very cognizant of the challenges that two different cultures bring to the table. Even though she does speak four languages, sometimes there can be a little bit of a misunderstanding, especially since I only speak two languages, English and bad English. 😉
Why not add Filipino audience by talking about things that can help people from the Philippines: Such as how to handle finances. What is true love (more than physical attraction). How to eat a healthy diet (fresh, lots of vegetables and fruits, and very small amount of fried food). How to train children. Things like positive reinforcement. It's important that from whatever country you come from, to discard the bad, and the learn the best things from each other. No country is all good. Each country has their good things and bad things. We must choose the best of the best. :) "We are the flowers of one garden, the leaves of one tree" Baha'i. Thank you for all of your women's intuition and great advice!
We gave all three of our children Mrs. Rick's maiden name as their middle name. It was a Filipino custom that I did not mind. They've always been proud of the name and are delighted that it bonds them to all of their maternal cousins who followed the same custom. However, when it came time to name their own children, they threw the custom overboard and never even considered it. It did not bother Mrs. Rick that they did so.
On the topic of money, lets say you made X dollars before you were with your foreigner. And while you are with him, he pays for the house and the electricity and other expenses and most of the food so you no longer have many of the costs that you had for yourself. Can a Filipina, who now has the same income and much less costs, be expected to SAVE some of her allowance and also support her family out of it? After all, she had to live off of the same amount of money before with all the housing and food costs. . . The "you will be expected to cover her 29 people extended family" stuff we foreigners sometimes hear is a concern. Those of us that are a bit older can't just go back to work and can't even easily work abroad if the money were to all get spent. 29 different people all coming to me with sob stories and asking for money would be miserable. . . I'd rather trust my partner to handle it out of her allowance and when that money is gone, that money is gone. Also, saving is an important life skill and most of us will be greatly outlived by our Filipina's who may inherit a lot by local standards. But a lot can go very fast if someone isn't responsible.
One of our original thumbnails for this video said think twice so we agreed we tested it and it did well but it wasn’t in the number one test spot so we went with caution
So true Taxi thing.. I was in Russia, and directed a driver to my place like that... Left, Right, Straight-over, Stop here... (interestingly Serbian L & R was only one, why, who only takes one direction) and I could tell, even with work colleagues on ride to office, less generic local chat... LOL... especially when we stopped, and nice lady walked by, and I said, to Azerbajani wife of my colleague, "Yeah, but my gf from Saratov was way hotter... 10+" and they were both at least 8/9+ there..
an american guy in our small office, my colleague and I diagnosed via internet, he had an increasing bad appendix, and wrote a note in English & Russian, expressing our concerns, but also we are not medical, and they should test & confirm... with diagrams, he went straight in taxi, to hospital, they prodded him, confirmed, and went straight into surgery.. later coming back with a large scar, practical, but not at all cosmetic... after which our small technical office were widely appreciated....
Thank You Chrissy for the heads up, I have become aware of these areas of concern, I would love if my "situation ship" blossomed into a relationship we've been friends for a few years but havent met I real life, it may change once I get there I can only let God lead me
I have no problem with supporting a Filipina and one child but that is my absolute limit. I do not want to hear about the financial plight of the family, the answer will always be no and never ask again. This being said, she will be in a much better place than where she is now when it is my turn to leave the world.
When I met the young Filipina in 1973 who was to eventually become Mrs. Rick, we were both overseas in a country foreign to us. There were no other Filipinos around to provide company and fellowship. Her family was 8,000 miles away, and there was no way I could get to know them. Remember, this was far before the instant communication that the internet now provides. We dated for five months and then got married. I had no opportunity to learn about the Filipino community, culture, customs, food, or family relationships. I went into it totally blind, with the only Filipino I knew being the girl I was marrying. There were rough moments initially, and I had to learn the importance of rice at every meal to keep her somewhat happy. So far, we've made it through three kids, five grandkids, and five good decades. I anticipate many more great years together.
@@humungushumungus213 Mrs. Rick was earning more money than I was the day we met, the day we got married, and the day we had our 50th anniversary. she has always afforded her own battered breast.
The family even not eat with me because there afraid to speak English.. so I eat with my wife alone..but sure you have to help them in a emergency.. and sure I did…
In the Philippines my wife gets hold of the money and she pays for everything because she knows the price a service.. in this way we build in 3 years a house… I wanted to retire in the Philippines, but got a kidney problem and now I am 3 times a weak on dialysis and can not afford that I n the Philippines
Hello Crissy, Rob. Why don't you start a "referral" service for a little fee? I would be the first one to enroll in my search for a Filipina that resembles* Crissy in looks and education. I am a retired College Professor and ready to settle, so I don't want just to fool around.
Well, thank you for the suggestion. However, there are laws about trafficking. There is a service called a foreign affair and that is what they do. There’s lots of laws you have to be careful of, however, if you’re interested in some coaching and consulting, you can click on this link.flymetothephilippinesconsultation.as.me/
Preventing a pregnancy in the Philippines Wow now there's a challenge.! Even with a condom and the best will in the world is there any month that goes bye without getting 😮well nervous 😮
How would a Filipina feel if her foreign husbabd knew another language, such as German or Spanish, and he spoke that language rather than English when she was present and he was with another of his friends who also spoke that language. Wouldn't that make her feel suspicious?
My wife told me 2 interesting things I would love to know Chrissy’s opinion on. 1-Some Filipinas look down in judgement on another Filipina who tries to keep the conversation in English and accuses them of being arte (this is supposed to be a word for arrogant) 2-Some Filipinas are so shy that although they speak great English they are embarrassed to make a mistake and if they do, some Filipinas poke at them and try to correct their English in less than a sweet way.
Once again, Chrissy knocks it out of the park! Great video - honest, direct, informative and entertaining. Rob, you must wake up every day and pinch yourself! An amazing lady in so many ways.
Thanks 👍
if any of these 10 things come up..run.. just run
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I helped my Filipina's parents with small amounts of money seeing they are very poor. She has been the breadwinner, helping to provide since she was 9 years old, paying for family expenses including her 3 brothers weddings and their kids school. We look after each other now and we are very happy. She has told the siblings that now she is with me she will not support them any further, although she will always take care of her parents. She never asks money from me and she really is the best. We sometimes help our friends also with small things, but they return the gesture by shopping for us and cooking. Thanks for your videos Crissy, always entertaining and informative.
Thanks for sharing your experience and for watching our video and for the feedback
The pleasure is ALL ours@@FlyMeToThePhilippines
This is the first video I have seen of yours. You produce a high quality message. I look forward to watching them in the future. I hope you and Rob have a blessed week.
Thanks, Joeseph welcome aboard. We’re glad to have you here and thanks for the positive positive feedback.
Great video🎉🎉🎉
Thank you 🤗
great stuff
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Sometimes I have to write a text 3 different ways till my gf understands ..and she speaks very good English ...
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Hello Crissy
I'm feel compelled to send my kudos to you sooner than later. In my eyes you are the epitome of a Filipina woman.
Your comphrension and ability to express your understanding of English is profound. Listening to you is as great as reading a fascinating book that one can not put down. The difference is - we not only have audio but able to see what a beautiful and vibrant woman that you are. Being a expat myself, I can really express my gratitude for your abilities and courage to share. If you could be cloned, there would be a stampede of foreigners vying to get one.
Rob has got to be one lucky man and I hope he realizes that.
@@garylagera8048 Thank you Gary and YES I realize I am lucky
Good on you. I appreciate your humbleness. You two compliment each other and are one of the only couples ( mixed ethnicities and age variance) that look and make sense.
You two are a classy couple.
@@garylagera8048 Thank You 🙏
Very intelligent and informative analysis from a Filipina’s own experience and perspective! Your English Communication skills really help us westerners kasabot the message. I have visited the visayas and love it but apart from any dating until I settle there. its helpful to be prepared with these insights😉 Good job Thanks!
Thank you! 😃
Great video, Chrissy,
Lots of insights and good advice.
I’m impressed ! I Wish you and Rob great happiness.
Thanks John
Chrissy, I really appreciate you having the personal motivation to just go ahead and turn the camera on and speak from the heart. A few of the recent videos seemed a little stilted (reading from a script, or a little hesitant). I'm a big fan of you both and enjoy the content you produce. Good Job. Thank you so much!!! Patrick USA
Thank you so much!!
I am married to a filipina for 19 months now and will take any advice you have, lol ... ❤❤❤
You can do it!
Hi Chrissy. I've become a fan of you & Rob the past two months. Without knowing Rob personally, as an American I can tell you he's the real deal. He's mentally organized, quick, and highly intelligent. And that's just to survive in jet set high-inflation world of the U.S!
Anyway, I've been thoroughly impressed by your demeanor, speech discipline, politeness, and respect. But, I could not read our last statement. Was it on half jest or blatant warning about getting involved with a Filipino. This seems contrary to all Rob's previous y.t. videos. Pray telleth more succinctly.
Please ask your question again?
Thanks for the feedback
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Chrissy: At the 30:32 time mark where you said "And for all those who wanted to have a Filipina in your life, I think you must twice". The first listen I heard "want" which seemed contrary to Rob's deferment towards Filipina women. The second listen I understood you to say "wanted", which paired with your voice tone, may be that you were just making a slight tongue-in-cheek comment.. [Rob can explain that meaning]. But as non-sensical hair splitting as this may seem, please make a clarification. You have to understand the time, energy, and financial stakes are high for a foreigner to come to the Philippines. A video ending statement, "you must think twice" in regard to wanting a Filipinia in your life, almost sounds like "are you crazy?" I'm sure that wasn't your meaning, but let us know. By the way, outstanding video presentation performances -- consistently -- from you & Rob.
@ she’s just teasing
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines 10- 4. I suspected, but Chrissy maintains a good poker face. I'd venture if you're playing poker, she's probably winning too! Fine lady. Very impressed with Chrissy. Congratulations on recent marriage. It was heart rendering.
I know as an american, I don't really have enough patience. Just a way of growing up wanting things done more quickly as I always have a long list of things to do. Case in point, I watch YT videos at 125%, but todays video with Chrissy was 150%. You speak clearly and slow enough I'm sure for even your PH member to understand. Because this is not only a good thing to review with expats as much as it is for their significant other in the PH.
Now the funny part, watch crh0issy do Zumba at 150%....LOL
Very funny
Well done, Chrissy. Good info well presented.
I'm gonna look at one of your earlier solo videos now.
Hope you enjoy it!
This stands out because of honesty and sincerity. It's also insightful and helpful. Thanks..
I appreciate that! Daniel
Great video Chrissy, and thank you for sending me the PDF yesterday.
You are so welcome!
30 minutes with Chrissy. Thank you for the great information.
Glad it was helpful!
I really love my Filipina.
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Chrissy very informative and insightful. Your English is amazing. Keep up the good work, and keep Rob a happy man.
Thanks, joe always happy to see you here and sharing your feedback
Love ur guys show. What does it mean when a Filipina puts her index finger and thumb together
Your English is very good I enjoy listening to you and always speak from the heart and tell people no matter what background it come from if you want to get out of poverty you must work for it Don't be lazy work for it
This is a great video! Now I’m aware of the challenges of communicating through tone, body language and accent. Thank you 🙏
Hi Jonathan, thanks for watching our video and taking the time to write down your thoughts and for the feedback
Content- A+. Educational- A+. Presentation- A+. Passing on a round of golf… questionable 😂. Great effort and video Chrissy.
Glad you enjoyed it
I support my immediate family but after that not so much. The point is money don't grow on trees so I keep telling my wife to borrow less and save more. She was helping everyone until she got scammed a couple of times. I hope she remembers to be more careful or borrow smaller amounts to reduce the loss. Many promise to pay back but borrowing is easier than paying back when you live poorly in the first place. Don't believe every emergency story you hear either, check things out. It is challenging when the culture is family centric and always in need.
Sound advice thanks for sharing
some filipina wont ask for money in ldr but when you get there in person you find she mentions stuff that is in the pawn shop or money she owe that was borrowed asking and expecting you to pick up the tab. In fact she has borrowed money from a friend or relative saying she will pay it back when bf arrive .
I think this is generally somewhat accurate
29:00. That is WAY beyond "clingy," that is "crazy."
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Awesome video, thank you 👍
Glad you enjoyed itDoug
Thank you Chrissy for sharing all the good information on what to watch for with a filapina and her famiily. I think both a generous allowance to the filapina and a prenup protecting me from a greedy family are sound ideas.
Hi James, thanks for watching our video and for sharing your thoughts
Let’s face the facts. A young Filipina seeking a relationship with an old man is doing this because she’s living in poverty or perhaps she has a low paying job but comes from a very poor family. Not all but most of them. The facts are obvious,most citizens of the country are below poverty level.
So for a young girl seeking to escape poverty should come as no surprise. Secondly, she may have true intentions to have a relationship but you can’t expect her not need support.
I don’t feel very old and yes true intentions may turn into a fabulous reality. We are happy to share
I recently gave $9kPHP when my Filipina’s mother went to the hospital. She has 4 siblings and she could not get ahold of them. The sisters felt she should also pay for the $11k 6 month supply of medication. I declined. They should take care of their mother without my involvement. I stepped in because it was an emergency and as in the Philippines hospital services are not afforded on arrival if you cannot pay. Falls under the category of no good deed goes unpunished. I should have pushed back and insisted that the family reimburse me for the money I advanced. Of course that would never happen but it may reset their thinking on the medication.
Only give from your heart and only when your heart “wants” to help and you will never have a regret.
Better to pay the 6k Phil Health annual premium then she will always be accepted at public hospital.
You have a kind heart puppy dog. Great to see you here with a comment again.
I thought one of the things you would cover is Tampo.
We cover it in our new video in a few hours
Hi Chrissy,
You should teach Rob the “personal questions” taxi drivers ask, that are clearly none of their business, so that “Rob” will know, what the driver is asking. Then, teach Rob how to respond, to the driver’s “nosy” questions, to put the driver in his place.
I know Filipinos don’t like confrontation, but when they ask “nosy” questions, I’ll have no problem, telling them so, 😎😉.
Thanks, Pete. I’m learning now we have a five-year-old in the house. My language skills are getting better.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines That’s great Ron, I’m really happy & proud of you, wanting to learn Cebuano, 😎😉👍🏼. I know that Filipinos try to avoid confrontation. But when Chrissy shared with us, that she feels uncomfortable, when cab drivers ask her personal questions about you, I commented to her, she should “tell you”, what they’re doing. I experienced that, with my gf, when I was in Cebu city, in 2019. I immediately put that driver, in his place, 😎😉. I already have so much respect for you & Chrissy, even I got defensive, when that driver made her uncomfortable. You guys are the best, 😎😉😋❤️. Once again, Chrissy and her family are going to love you even more, because you’re to learn their language, 👏🏼❤️. God bless you both.
I came back from a 2 month holiday enjoyed it so much the people are wonderful. I met quite a few women over there, gorgeous and so friendly and yeah a few that see you as an ATM, does not take that much to work that out. But overall of course some will ask but its upto you. Me i only do that after our relationship is solid as for family support, no i am afraid not. I am there for her only. Great video thanks.
Great to hear!
once u win her heart u gonna be the happiest man alive
Thanks for that Sebastian
Thank you for reminding me of the jealousy and clingy
traits of a Filipina. I also realized that it's backed up with love, passion and support.
Yes, there is plenty of that in the mix
Don’t kid yourself. It’s more about power struggle, not love.
Re : Filipinas who want to move and work in the west. Just before covid Duterete passed but legislation that said nursing school was free for poor students. I don't think it is implemented yet. But consider an RN who could make $50,000 per year. That's more than 25 of her working relatives combined. How can anyone possibly fault someone for wanting to live and work in the west. But,,, the problem is that the west eats your income : car payment, mortgage or rent (u will have to split the mortgage payment with your spouse), utilities, health insurance (costly here), man's hair cut/styling is $25, restaurant meal is around $30. Mechanics charge $150/hr.
You’re so right that’s where the term working poor comes from
great honest information , you did a great job explaining cultural family and language differences thanks!
Glad you liked it!
Have a blessed day/night, everyone, and stay safe!
Thank you
Similar with English traditional names... a guy would have 2 middle names from grandfathers, and a girl from grandmothers... and you see repeats... so looking at family records you can usually tell... This was resisted by my american-ex wife, so not all countries do this... So when I re-married, my daughter has this... This can go back hundreds of years, and what might seem outdated names, were trendy back then... I have a great great aunt, and her firstname is used back a long way..
Thanks for sharing that
Speaking of mixed children, the truly fun part is when you get to the grandkids. At that point, the genes can bounce around and wind up in unexpected combinations. Our oldest grandchild has a lot of Irish in her, which gives her exceptionally fair skin and bright red hair. When Lola used to take care of her when she was a child, people would think that Mrs. Rick was her nanny instead of her grandmother. Perhaps Mrs. Rick had kidnapped the baby. Who knew? Our grandson has a Greek paternal grandfather with a dusky Mediterranean skin tone. Combined with the Filipino brown skin gene, it gives our grandson a somewhat unique skin tone that I've never seen on anybody else. Our middle child looks most like Mrs. Rick within the kids, and one of her daughters could fit in with all of her Filipino cousins back in the province perfectly. Her sister is very white-looking, and no one could tell she's one-quarter Asian. It's really a mixed bag with the five kids, and they all acknowledge and understand why that is so.
Quite interesting thanks for sharing Rick
If a person speaks Cebuana is that totally different than Tagalog?
Yes Sean it's Totally different
Very well done Chrissy ❤
I’ve met my Filipina in USA she was widowed 😊
Thanks for sharing
As far as the money goes, whether it's the Filipina herself, or if it's her family pushing her into asking for money, she and her family both got along just fine on their own before the foreigner came along. Whatever money we (foreigners) have is not just given to us. We worked hard all our lives to have that money, and we expect everyone else to work hard and earn their own money the same way we did. And we know that the Philippines does not do things the same way as whatever western country we came from, but the principle is still the same, at least in our minds. So, if a foreigner tells a Filipina NO when she asks for money for her family, that's why, and the Filipina needs to understand that about us.
Stan, thanks for watching our video and sharing your thoughts and philosophy on this issue
A modern professional Filipina..will not have this baggage. I really don’t see the allure of huge cultural difference associated with the country girls. If your ready for your carpet slippers or your options are limited ..maybe.
I have to admit that I get very annoyed when we are out somewhere, possibly making a purchase and they ignore me and talk to my GF. I can't count how many times I've told someone to talk to me. I'm the one who's paying. They just laugh.
Hi Frank, thanks for watching and thanks for sharing your thought on this
I love it
A Philippina Mary,to a United States
citizen
And she’s working every day you know America is not Philippines you know you hear you work Monday through Monday just to pay your bills not Philippines you know play your ride. Let’s go to the mall every day drinking talking eating bullshitting. You know this is America and you are lucky because you only have one job most Americans have a full-time job and a part-time job and Filipino works here for 30 years and she cannot even forward to go back to the Philippines for a week. Welcome to America.
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Many there will mooch from anyone who they think can afford luxuries. I never really understood that. My father really hated that trait - putting your hand out. Working for it has always been how we are brought up in my family. But I suppose not everyone can gain full independence and autonomy there.
Extreme poverty can cause people to be more dependent
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines yes - it will break your heart seeing many so helpless. Another trait you will find w/ Pinoys is the extreme jealousy. You cannot just give to one or two but expect you to give to all if in giving mood. LOL. So sometimes, just better not to give at all lest you want to offend one.
I like clingy…it’s a nice change from the egomaniacal western woman. It’s the Filipina’s way of showing you that she is yours. She cares about your well-being, and she needs to be reassured that she is all you want and need. I don’t see anything wrong with that. Of course, everything can be done to excess. But in my case, it’s a perfect mix, and I love it.
I love it too, except when I have a hot cuppa coffee in my hands
I love it too, in fact it was one of the questions I asked early in our dating relationship- how much and what kind of affection did we both like and dislike. I found my perfect Filipina 😊
I must add one more thing. It sounds like as an American, I will be constantly walking on eggshells there !! How am I going to enjoy my life there if I have to watch everything I say and do ?? It sounds exhausting!!!
It’s not exhausting. It’s just something to be aware of.
Sadly to say not all filipino women are nice, I unfortunately was being too nice to a filipino women I thought I knew. She took my kindness for weakness. I know not all filipino women are like this but it put me at a distance and allowed me to observe their actions more carefully.
It’s true we have to be careful of over generalizations
The whole money for the family thing is a big no no.
Especially in the early stages of the relationship.
The money I give will be solely for the Filipina. She on the other hand can do whatever she wants with it.
But only if we live together and she quits her job for me or she is a student or something.
Yes
Chrissy, You are so wise and blessed us with such valuable information. Thank you so much. I'm going to have to watch this again this weekend over a cup of coffee.
You are so welcome
Great video, ang galing mong mag English at may katuturan ang sinasabi. Kadalasan sarili nating pamilya ang sumisira sa ating pangarap na bumuo ng happy family, dahil sa daming pressure, akala ng karamihang pinoy kapag foreigner instant yaman muna, at iaahon silang lahat sa hirap.
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Well have to thank you Chrissy for another wonderful video. I have just started with a website called Christian Filipina and yes i would say you are so smart dear and thank you for sharing everything and i do not mean to generalize all of filiapinos or forgiveness This is a bit more difficult then i thought for many of the reasons you have mentioned. Very jealous is a problem and i think it has to deal with lacking self confidence and i try to help the ladies I am talking with but i can not help them from here so it makes it a challenge. I also see that they all say that they where cheated on by there last boyfriend and i do find that hard to believe not saying in a lot of cases it is but not all and i think the reason they say he cheated is because he just looked at another women or talked with another women. For example one of the first questions they may ask is if you have ever been to the phillipinens to make sure you are not a guy who is just out for fun. Or they do not want a leftover. Not exactly sure why this is but it is different. I also see that they are to nice and that does not allow them to tell you the truth try to avoid the topic or stop talking about it and I try to explain to them that if there is a problem let me know so we can talk about it not let it build up in you so you just get so mad and that’s is not good at all. I try but you can not teach that quick. I also see they like to play the victim card a lot saying how bad it is for them and please understand i know it may be tough for them and probably much worse then anything I have ever had to do in my life so i can understand. But if you want to build a relationship with someone you cant always focus on how bad you have it and focus more on what can be. Just my thoughts on that. They can also be very jealous if you do not respond to them within minutes of there message they will tampoo I think the word is towards you for just not responding quick enough or the question you get is what are you doing now lol. That cracks me up. I get it a lot if it takes me more then a minute to respond what are you doing now lol. I have to admire you so much Chrissy for being such a nice person and being there for rob and working toghether with him. I have watched most of your videos now and really like your content a lot I did not get. To reply to your video about single mothers and I wanted to because i raised my two daughters by myself and did not have any family around to help so I totally understand the meaning behind your other video and would hav no problem taking child as one of my own. I like that you communicate so well with Rob and that is great I try to explain to the women that is what i want but it is hard to explain it to them so they understand not that it is there fault it is just hard to explain in a way that they would understand. So this has been a big learning experience for me. I have sent a email to you saying I wanted to joined you program and look foward to doing so just have been overwhelmed with these women and trying to learn how to talk with them and make us understand each other better so i can see that being a issue to take care of as well. I do want to bring her back here to the usa and do not mind giving her a budget so she can spend as she needs or if she wants to work that works as well i am open to what will make her happy. I guess the other issue is just do not say anything that you learn from another Filipino to another one lady was calling me po and i ask why she said it was being polite so i started talking to another lady and she called me po and i told her no need to call me that just rob is fine she went off I thought you said you have never been to the Philippines and i was in shock i have never been but just knowing what a word is can trigger them a bit. I thank you for all of your time dear and your great videos they really help a lot. Not giving up at all just a learning experience that i am learning and hope to find a lovely lady. Thank you again and hope to talk with you soon.
Patience and Perseverance is the key
Patience and Perseverance is the key
Gentlemen, as long as you think there's some kind of perfect woman out there, you'll never be happy. No woman is perfect or even close. If you find one that's pretty good and you can be gracious with your actions toward her, chances are she'll be gracious with you as well. And you'll be fine. 😊
Very sound advice, Michael thanks for sharing
Crissy's perfect
The perfect woman is the one "you" can be happy with. If she loves you, is trustworthy, and cares for you, to me that is perfection. Forgiveness is important as all humans make mistakes. Only God and Manifestations are perfect.
@@randyfocht737 is jealousy a characteristic of perfection?
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Hi again Chrissy,
Thx for sharing great information, regarding the Filipina culture, about relationships.
Thanks for watching pete. Great to see you here commenting.
I’m a subscriber, I watch all your videos, both of you are fantastic together!! I want to address one thing you said about Philippino’s that want to leave there and go to like America and ohh get a job making a lot of money to send home to family!! WELL, you may make much more money in US BUT The cost of living there will Take just about all you make to live There!!!! That’s why about 95% of men that come to the Philippines is because even though they make good or Decent money in America, they are struggling to live there!!! So we are coming to the Philippines to live a more comfortable life without the stress of going to bed every night wondering how we’re going to pay the bills. I thought maybe you should be aware of this if you’re not already, and should give this information to your Philippines audience. Other your information to us wanting to come there is excellent.
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Don't forget about tampo a lot of foreigners can't handle the silent treatment but you have to learn to just give your Filipina time and most of the time I'll pass
Thanks for the advice
My friend and I were entertaining some filipinas and they were talking to each other in tagalog and having a grand time. Then we sted talking in pig Latin and they got real quiet and then angry and left.
A person could feel at a real disadvantage when other people are talking another language around them
😃well done Chrissy, You're really sharp...
I'm enjoying the Chrissy tells all series a lot 😉.
Here's one more Super-Challenge: TAMPO 🥶...
Oh thank you!🙏
Great job Chrissy 😊
Thank you!! 😊 Don
I really had a difficult time understanding you...recording didn't sound clear
Thanks for the feedback
Wow, Chrissy, sure enough did hit on a lineup of hotpoints there! 😊
Thanks, Chuck for watching and for your feedback
I totally agree with learning the language But you should choose the district first, or you may end up studying the wrong dialect.
That’s a really good point
language: the word bloody is a fairly common mild curse often used jokingly here in UK but I quickly found out in province its very bad meaning that you wanna fight and draw blood with someone
Yes, you have to be careful with things like that
How does Rob manage relations with his biological children in the US?
It’s difficult being so far away, but I work hard at it and I value their relationship. It’s important to let them know that I haven’t abandoned them.
That's an attractive woman 😮😊
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Good morning young lady,
Excellent video. Thank you.
Maybe one day soon, I'll be able tocome and visit your lovely country.
Maybe I'll be blessed with a pleasant and sharp Young lady like yourself. 🙏
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Yes, please do visit
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines I'm 50, divorced and rather retired. Please keep an eye open for an appropriate lady for me.
Thanks Chrissy. I always like your advice. Say hi to Rob.
Thanks, David
It’s important to set a budget together at the beginning of a relationship. It’s also important to discuss the “family” expectations and agree if it’s going to be part of the budget or not. If it’s not agree first and stick to the budget. If so inform the family so there is no misunderstanding.
Sound advice Art
Very good advice. Most are blindsided by these actual realities of life after the 6 month honeymoon phase ends (In other words when it's too late).
You are right Chrissy, not all Filipina`s are pretty, friendly and all the things what we hope to find in our future Partner..... BUT when you compare the Phillipines with the "west" you have a much much higher chance to find your better half. Set your Frame what you looking for and stay on it. Soon or later you will find it.
You sound like a very wise man I once met
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines
I learned from the best 😊😊
😂😂 ❤ I've been thinking HUNDREDS of times about a Filipina in KANSAS with me!! 😂 😊 Not looking real hard yet at all. 😊😊 40+, Petite, traditional, lovely, emotionally stable. Etc. 😊 Just thinking....
I can help 👉 flymetothephilippinesconsultation.as.me/
Great information, many of the details provided were very insightful and will help me moving forward, thanks!
Great to hear!
I like your honest approach to explaining life there . My young Filipina wants me to take care of her and her family . Which is fine if she is for real . Exactly what you said about buying them land after marrage is what her and her father want. Thank you fir bringing all this up . Your hubby is lucky to have you because your smart 😊. Any advise you have fir me ? My both eyes are open now because I’m beginning to understand all this . There is so much poverty there in Philippines,jobs are hard to find,so many young ,pretty girls use social media to meet guys and start LDR. soon they are receiving pesos from the Forigner . Its a fair trade if the girl is really looking for a hubby, but it’s also common for them to “ work “ the firigner for money. I’m not bashing ,I’m just saying from personal experience. I kniw there are many sincere ,girls/lady’s looking fir a serious,real relationship .
Yes, take your time be patient don’t lead with your money spend time together getting to know one another
In many cultures, such as the Philippines, there is a deeply rooted belief that building connections with individuals from wealthier countries can bring opportunities for economic improvement. This belief stems from genuine hope for a better life, especially in a country with significant economic inequalities.
When a family member meets a foreigner, it's not unusual for there to be expectations of financial assistance or opportunities for immigration. However, it is essential to understand that such relationships should be based on mutual respect and understanding rather than solely on economic gains.
Furthermore, while some may believe that foreigners can offer a way out of poverty, it's crucial to recognize that sustainable economic progress often requires a collaborative effort and a willingness to follow through on shared plans and guidance. It's about the initial connection and the ongoing commitment to work together towards common goals.
It's also essential to respect the autonomy and decisions of those involved, as each person's circumstances and aspirations are unique. Diplomacy lies in acknowledging the complexities of these situations and fostering a dialogue that promotes empowerment, self-reliance, and respectful partnerships.
Very well spoken
Great Video Chrissy as you spoke very well to highlight several of the situations that an Expat will face with his Filipina as we constantly have to try and see it from their point of view, as I see how hard my Filipina girlfriend tries so hard to be considerate of my feelings and constantly looks out to honor and take care of me which we are not used to from Western women. My girl doesn't act clingy in person as public displays of PDA but she will want to know where I am. I am blessed in the fact her family is so welcoming and wants to help me all the time as their constant efforts make it so joyful when i do something nice in exchange unrepentantly for them. So they helped me move and I bought dinner for everyone. And rather then just giving them money i do things for them such as one of their bathrooms was really out of date and as a former Plumbing contractor i decided it would be a nice Gesture for me to retile the bathroom myself, and I actually am teaching some of the sons and nephews some skills in being handy. I could have easily just paid for it but doing it myself put in actual blood, seat and tears using my skills. And I told her papa maybe he could teach me how to cook some of his favorite Filipino dishes as he is the main cook since he retired. So it is all a Loving give and take and knowing there are many differences but we can work with those to make it positive as my girl's first present to me was a Book on Filipino culture and the second was a shirt that says: "I Love the Philippines" and the second one was of the town from the most recent festival. Those gifts given on her limited budget mean so much as they touch my heart.
Wow Paul, that was a great share. Thank you.
Can’t go wrong with a Chrissy tells all..
Thanks, Jayson
In the Philippines my wife gets hold of the money and she pays for everything because she knows the price a service.. in this way we build in 3 years a house…
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What does a man do who can NOT speak?? Even here in USA, there’s some difficulty, I can use hand signals but most people don’t know that , so I keep a writing pad around my neck or top pocket and a lot of times have to use that, So are women there kind enough and patient and compassionate enough to love a man that can hear but can not speak??
I think this is a duplicate comment again. Filipinos are extremely compassionate and they read English better than they can speak it.
I went to the Philippines on Holidays in 1977 on holidays different areas, then Cebu did have any plans what so ever just to have a great holiday. It was it I fall in love with a very beautiful school teacher who had just started teaching. I was in police. Extended my leave by two week I asked her father could I have his permission to get engaged. Went back to Australia sold my car got loan three month later got Married in the Scared Heart Catholic Church in Cebu now after 47 years three adult children from young age to old age I thank God what I got. So very good cookgreat mother yes we have our ups and downs like anyone else. Great video hope you and husband are well best wishes. From Australia 🇦🇺
Well, what a great story thanks for sharing and thanks for the positive feedback
,,,Good information Crissy, , , another very Helpful Reminder, when a Filipina has a Foreign Partner in Filipines, and when other Filipinos ask personal questions in local language, , , FOR EXAMPLE, , , the Filipina could be polite by saying,,, IF YOU DO NOT MIND, IS ONLY FAIR IF WE SPEAK ENGLISH AROUND MY PARTNER TO PREVENT ANY MISUNDERSTANDING, THANK YOU KINDLY,,,
I love it unfortunately many the taxi drivers are horrible in English
Very good and practical information. I think the main thing is that the man needs to be a masculine confident leader who's happy to talk about things in advance and let the Filipina know what to expect in advance, for example he should be upfrom and say something like I'm willing to give your parents $100 a month but I wouldn't be comfortbable getting a lot of reqests for more money, do you think that would work for you and your parents? and then see how she reacts and what she says. But it would be huge mistake to wait until you're already dealing with multiple requests!!!
Sound advice
Wow so much great info, thank you. I see all the points you are making very clearly, mine isn’t jealous, she isn’t clingy. She is extremely understanding and very cognizant of the challenges that two different cultures bring to the table. Even though she does speak four languages, sometimes there can be a little bit of a misunderstanding, especially since I only speak two languages, English and bad English. 😉
Your feedback is always so positive and we enjoy it so much thanks for sharing your story this time
A dowry would solve some of this I think lol it just use to be that way.
John I am at a loss. Perhaps
Why not add Filipino audience by talking about things that can help people from the Philippines: Such as how to handle finances. What is true love (more than physical attraction). How to eat a healthy diet (fresh, lots of vegetables and fruits, and very small amount of fried food). How to train children. Things like positive reinforcement. It's important that from whatever country you come from, to discard the bad, and the learn the best things from each other. No country is all good. Each country has their good things and bad things. We must choose the best of the best. :) "We are the flowers of one garden, the leaves of one tree" Baha'i. Thank you for all of your women's intuition and great advice!
Thanks Randy
This video was very informative. Thank you
Thanks for the positive feedback, George
#1 was a genius idea. Very creative. :)
Thank you! 😊
We gave all three of our children Mrs. Rick's maiden name as their middle name. It was a Filipino custom that I did not mind. They've always been proud of the name and are delighted that it bonds them to all of their maternal cousins who followed the same custom. However, when it came time to name their own children, they threw the custom overboard and never even considered it. It did not bother Mrs. Rick that they did so.
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Goodnight and sleep well Crissy. Take care and God bless you 🙏 🙂
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On the topic of money, lets say you made X dollars before you were with your foreigner. And while you are with him, he pays for the house and the electricity and other expenses and most of the food so you no longer have many of the costs that you had for yourself. Can a Filipina, who now has the same income and much less costs, be expected to SAVE some of her allowance and also support her family out of it? After all, she had to live off of the same amount of money before with all the housing and food costs. . . The "you will be expected to cover her 29 people extended family" stuff we foreigners sometimes hear is a concern. Those of us that are a bit older can't just go back to work and can't even easily work abroad if the money were to all get spent. 29 different people all coming to me with sob stories and asking for money would be miserable. . . I'd rather trust my partner to handle it out of her allowance and when that money is gone, that money is gone. Also, saving is an important life skill and most of us will be greatly outlived by our Filipina's who may inherit a lot by local standards. But a lot can go very fast if someone isn't responsible.
Will said James and good analysis
Best line of the video, “I think you must think twice.” 😂
One of our original thumbnails for this video said think twice so we agreed we tested it and it did well but it wasn’t in the number one test spot so we went with caution
So true Taxi thing.. I was in Russia, and directed a driver to my place like that... Left, Right, Straight-over, Stop here... (interestingly Serbian L & R was only one, why, who only takes one direction) and I could tell, even with work colleagues on ride to office, less generic local chat... LOL... especially when we stopped, and nice lady walked by, and I said, to Azerbajani wife of my colleague, "Yeah, but my gf from Saratov was way hotter... 10+" and they were both at least 8/9+ there..
I think she said to driver, he doesn't talk much, but he understands... he reads russian papers...
an american guy in our small office, my colleague and I diagnosed via internet, he had an increasing bad appendix, and wrote a note in English & Russian, expressing our concerns, but also we are not medical, and they should test & confirm... with diagrams, he went straight in taxi, to hospital, they prodded him, confirmed, and went straight into surgery.. later coming back with a large scar, practical, but not at all cosmetic... after which our small technical office were widely appreciated....
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Thank You Chrissy for the heads up, I have become aware of these areas of concern, I would love if my "situation ship" blossomed into a relationship we've been friends for a few years but havent met I real life, it may change once I get there I can only let God lead me
You are so welcome Bud Best of luck and I hope you find your way to the Philippines.
I have no problem with supporting a Filipina and one child but that is my absolute limit. I do not want to hear about the financial plight of the family, the answer will always be no and never ask again. This being said, she will be in a much better place than where she is now when it is my turn to leave the world.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Douglas
👍 excellent vid. Chrissy
Thank you! Cheers!
very passionate, good job, well said
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When I met the young Filipina in 1973 who was to eventually become Mrs. Rick, we were both overseas in a country foreign to us. There were no other Filipinos around to provide company and fellowship. Her family was 8,000 miles away, and there was no way I could get to know them. Remember, this was far before the instant communication that the internet now provides. We dated for five months and then got married. I had no opportunity to learn about the Filipino community, culture, customs, food, or family relationships. I went into it totally blind, with the only Filipino I knew being the girl I was marrying. There were rough moments initially, and I had to learn the importance of rice at every meal to keep her somewhat happy. So far, we've made it through three kids, five grandkids, and five good decades. I anticipate many more great years together.
Such a great story thanks for sharing it with our subscribers, Rick
@@humungushumungus213 Mrs. Rick was earning more money than I was the day we met, the day we got married, and the day we had our 50th anniversary. she has always afforded her own battered breast.
The family even not eat with me because there afraid to speak English.. so I eat with my wife alone..but sure you have to help them in a emergency.. and sure I did…
Difficulty with English is a real issue here especially among family members. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.
In the Philippines my wife gets hold of the money and she pays for everything because she knows the price a service.. in this way we build in 3 years a house… I wanted to retire in the Philippines, but got a kidney problem and now I am 3 times a weak on dialysis and can not afford that I n the Philippines
Sorry to hear that wish you a speedy recovery
Hello Crissy, Rob. Why don't you start a "referral" service for a little fee? I would be the first one to enroll in my search for a Filipina that resembles* Crissy in looks and education. I am a retired College Professor and ready to settle, so I don't want just to fool around.
Well, thank you for the suggestion. However, there are laws about trafficking. There is a service called a foreign affair and that is what they do. There’s lots of laws you have to be careful of, however, if you’re interested in some coaching and consulting, you can click on this link.flymetothephilippinesconsultation.as.me/
Preventing a pregnancy in the Philippines Wow now there's a challenge.! Even with a condom and the best will in the world is there any month that goes bye without getting 😮well nervous 😮
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Exactly
How would a Filipina feel if her foreign husbabd knew another language, such as German or Spanish, and he spoke that language rather than English when she was present and he was with another of his friends who also spoke that language. Wouldn't that make her feel suspicious?
Yup.
It’s a very good question. I’m not sure I know the answer.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines come on Crissy, you can tell us
My wife told me 2 interesting things I would love to know Chrissy’s opinion on. 1-Some Filipinas look down in judgement on another Filipina who tries to keep the conversation in English and accuses them of being arte (this is supposed to be a word for arrogant) 2-Some Filipinas are so shy that although they speak great English they are embarrassed to make a mistake and if they do, some Filipinas poke at them and try to correct their English in less than a sweet way.