Years ago i knew an American man ( then ) in his 70s who married a Filipina in her 30s. He went on to live well into his 90s... and she stuck with him to the very end.
I used to care about what other people thought or said about me, but now that i'm 57 yrs old, I don't get a fck what anyone thinks or says! I just do me and fck it if you don't like it!! Life is short, do what makes you happy! Peace! 😄😄😄
Well stated and those who have moved to the Philippines will get the most flack from other expats. Sad but true and I could care less what they think now. I was a 6 year resident of the Pi. Many expats are bombed by 12 noon and sit in judgment of anyone who is around.
This is one of your best videos imo. I really enjoy her honesty and sincerity. It gives a very realistic view from a real filipina. She's great, and they are both very lucky to have found one another. At 55 myself, I'm not particularly concerned with how society views me, but it's nice to know there's still a bit of hope.
Wow! I’ve watched a lot of interviews with various aged Filipinas and this one by far is THE BEST. She is obviously young but also soooo mature and open about the topics. She has a great perspective on it all. Thank you so much for doing this interview and I look forward to more. God Bless.
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Hi Chad, I just met my Filipina in May after just over a year of talking. We met on Christian Filipina and after a month, I did the first video chat to make sure I wasn't being scammed. After 5 months, I spent a lot of extra money to send a lady from Christian Filipina to send her flowers, meet her, and ensure she is single and doesn't have any kids (as she had stated on her profile). From there, we just talked every single day. Our age gap is 18 years between us. Our values and family tradition matches, and she was the shy one. She didn't want to say I love you until she meant it. So, I waited for her "I love you" until she felt it was genuine. I didn't push it, and I just enjoyed our time together. I honestly was shy as well because I didn't think she would find an older guy attractive. While she wants me to lose my belly a little, she is EXTREMELY attracted to me. She is more concerned about my health than my looks. She loves my personality and she misses me tremendously right now. She did not ever ask for money, and was insulted if I wanted to help her get a travel visa to come back to Canada with her, but accepted after I mentioned how long it would take for her to save up for the $100 CA fee, as well as a round trip. She didn't want ANYONE to think that she only wants my money, and she wants to contribute to the relationship. The Filipina in this video is absolutely correct about the way a man thinks and behaves at certain ages, but my personal opinion is that a man who has lived through his midlife crisis, and has made positive changes in his life is going to be the best match. This can happen as early as 42 - 46 years of age, or even younger for some. During a midlife crisis, a man comes to terms with his mortality, and learns what he must do to better his next half of his life. He makes positive choices, and learns to focus on the things that are important to him... his family, making better memories, making better health decisions, and most importantly to a Filipina - learning that love is not hedonistic but selfless and heartfelt. I enjoyed this video for sure! Keep up the good work, Chad!
I live in Bohol and tried Christian Filipina for dating. I was very disappointed with the number of "scammers" and fake accounts on the site. I canceled my membershio as a result.
Please, someone tell him about whose a hot commodity where. It's not that she is bad, not at all. She seems great. But we change the environment much less than the environment changes us.
I have a friend who works in INS in Florida, according to him, INS statistics, American men \ Filipina wife, in the USA, are a 78% divorce rate within first 2 years, no statistics if they live in the Philippines. So you are correct, NEVER bring her to the USA, I know personally. Russian girl \ American man, divorce rate 96%, Filipina's better, but not by much, enter at you're own risk.
@@JeremiahHexxmy friend married a woman from Russia. She was knocked up within about a year of them getting married. Once the baby was born, she divorced him. The court gave her the house along with alimony and child support. Homeboy got destroyed. If I ever marry a foreign woman, I’ll 100% move to her country. No chance I’ll bring a foreign woman here to the states to get westernized.
I don't care what anyone says the truth it's 50 percent about money and 35 percent better life for her family 15 percent love for a phillipina to be with a foreigner
You don't think it's about the money in america? Why do you think the girl marries the lawyer or the guy from a good school for the guy from a good family? Of course money is a factor. But not just in the Philippines all over the world. And rightly so. It represents stability and security...... And it's a man's job to provide that. And if you can't understand that.. then you've got a bigger problem
As a Filipina to another, she has great insights and is a very good communicator. Very mature, intelligent and well spoken. For sure many foreigners who watched and listened to what she said appreciated this interview with her.
I have to say that this is one of the best clips and answered many questions I had. Your guest is very intelligent and honest. Excellent attitude and realistic. She actually cleared many doubts afam's have. I'm so impressed with her and your questions 👍
This woman is so bright and says the quiet part out loud with eloquence and grace. This video is for those who need to know and filipinas who know their own secret powers of attraction. Thanks for the share.
Nice interview Chad! I've been living with my Filipina girlfriend for almost 3 years now. It just keeps getting better and better but we've had to have lots of "tampo" sessions to learn how to adapt to each other. In the end, it's worth persevering so trust can develop. Be kind and respectful and generous and you will reap the reward :)
As a foreigner, simply based on what I've heard from PH citizens, I'd probably propose that the reason for the judgments of age gap in PH is simply that it's something they *can* judge. :) Just from one person I'm talking to currently (we're hoping to get a long-term relationship work) I've heard how she was ridiculed/judged for being brown skinned, for not speaking English confidently, for not having visited cities like Manila, even for being abused... It's a nice culture with solid values, but it seems it does have a fair degree of cruelty too.
She's well grounded and congrats to her for finding the right guy for her. Funny but hearing that rooster in the background reminded me why I could never live in rural parts of Philippines. Hearing that noise for the 100,000th time would just drive me crazy LOL
@@ChadFosterExplores I had an online relationship going with a lady in General Santos. Everytime we called to talk or video guess what I heard? Like several roosters just going nuts the entire time!!! She said it is constant noise from like 4am - sundown (often a bit later). Yikes, would drive me bananas.
Man, great interview. Awesome self minded young lady. True. Lucky German fella. I wish her strength as haters try to ruin everybody because they are ruined themselves and don't want to see anyone else happy. Good luck
I live in the Philippines with my Filipina wife and our family. We met in Hong Kong, 11 years ago. Now we live here. We own property, both residential and commercial, and have a decent income. Our kids are doing well - at school and in university. We met in person, not online, but I am not going to criticise such relationships. When we met, she was 36 and I was 47 and we both have kids from previous relationships. We are doing fine here, as are the kids. I have afforded my wife opportunities she would otherwise not have had. We have been to Thailand, Malaysia, Macau, Belgium, the Netherlands and France. But we still come back home, to the Philippines.
Wow - That was the best video I have seen by far on the subject of relationships in the Philippines and the expectations of the Filipna. I was in an LDR for 16 months, finally met my lady and spent just over 3 weeks with her in the Philippines and had a great time, fell in love and she with me. Now I am back home she has taken another overseas job and I am not coping as well this time after meeting her. Going back to LDR is hard and we have had some communication problems. I met her family and friends when I visited and stayed at her house for a week so got to see how daily life is for her. One thing I have noticed since we first started chatting is that she struggles from time to time with the long hours she works mostly as a OFW and her work seems to be the one area where she does not fully open up to me. Normally she says this is my problem, I am okay and will work it out. I just wish she would open up to me more about her struggles at work.
Some interesting topics covered. It is interesting that whether in the West, or in the Philippines (and other countries) there are expected conventions when it comes to comparative ages between two people in a relationship, but I rarely hear anyone from the anti crowd, back up their opinion with anything solid in terms of justifying why they feel so strongly about it. Ever heard of the person who loses a lot of weight having a hard time from their out of shape or overweight friends, with negative comments like 'I bet they put the weight back on'. Is it the same for outside observers either not in a relationship, or not in a happy relationship, expressing negatively in some sort of way to make them feel better about themselves. This young lady is more eloquent and able to express her feelings and opinions than most young women in the west, that's for sure, and her open mindedness, without being reckless or inconsiderate, makes for a refreshing change. If age is just a number then the age difference is almost irrelevant. Of course there are examples in the west that most people know, Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher (even if they're not still together, they were together for 8 years. Anyways, good luck to them both.
I don't want kids.....so that's going to be a problem. How about Filipina single mothers? In the West, I avoid single mothers, but Filipinas seem to be different.
@@babblingalong7689 Most will still want at least one child WITH you to cement the relationship. Depending on your age a single mum a bit older is more likely to accept NO more kids
@@tilapiadave3234 Thanks yeah seems like an older single mum is what I should aim for. Luckily Filipinas stay gorgeous after 30 unlike most Western women.
Do not build on top of FEELINGS. Feelings WILL fluctuaye through life. So that would be as stupid as building a house on top of mud!. Find a QUALITY girl with strong VALUES. Values (core values) is what matters. That is what you can build on top of!. That would be much more stable. Like building a house on proper grounding. Then you GROW REAL love, inside that "home" that is "built" on top of strong foundations (values and intrgrity. Religion is often a good anchor to protect from corruptions). The house is a metaphore to better describe.
I love her observations " most foreigners come there are not rich" exactly. they are mostly older men who are lonely and then find all of this interest in younger women that never would consider them back at home....It becomes a new world to the men and now a major promotion among vloggers on TH-cam. If you are happy great.....just be careful with your finances because that is critical as you get older.
I like her. She is so genuine. I guess she's young but the way she answer questions make sense. I just wanted to add that if you want to find a good loving Filipina, know what you look for. Common values, common interest, spiritual beliefs and so on.. If you are the kind of person that requires many things then i suggest get to know the Filipina first or vice versa. Do not jump into a relationship out of desparation. And for this Filipina, i think shes smart. Shes not ignorant with relationships. At her age she knows the stages and the progression of a relationship. And she was right when she said, for older people do not rush to have someone in your life it might not be the right person... First, make sure you are ready for a relationship that can lead to a commitment. Know what you want, and if you think you have found the one ask all the questions in your mind, do not play games. If you are in LDR then make a plan to close the distance. I believe in a ldr there are 4 factors to consider to succeed... Honesty, trust, assurance and faithfulness.
The most profound thing this Filipina said was. Know What You Want. As a Canadian now living in the Philippines with an awesome Filipina, I would say most foreigners do not know what they want, either in their home country or here. If you are a goof in the west, you will be a goof here, and deserve what you end up with.
Money vs love is silly. That's the same as saying for guys beauty vs love. Females fall in love with providers. Males fall in love with beautiful women. Of course many other things are important too, but provider is the first bar males must pass. Beauty is the first bar females must pass.
Very interesting and smart thinking gerl! For me the phrase : I love you , is very very strong... and if anyone one will tell me this phrase before we are meets in person will be a red flag .. By my self I use this phrase only 3 times in my life ..
No matter about what you speak or for how long you communicate before you meet... Everything can evaporate immediately the moment you meet. It's just a first date with a looooong commute.
Another great video of what life is like for some folks! I’m so glad Frenchie and her man are happy together and that they are creating a life together, regardless of their age. Peace ☮️
This girl is So nice and So clear headed, I hope she enjoys her life in Germany and if not heads back home to what she’s used to and comfortable living in. Wish her all the very best. I hope her gut treats her well and brings her home should she want to. 😘
Another great and informative video, brother. I appreciate your time and effort and your advice about the Philippines and working on my personal self growth. I appreciate her advice about listing things that are important in a relationship to help focus the sorting process and avoid the "Island Beauty Blindness" that throws the search off course. Have a good one and be safe.
First tike watching her and before she mentioned her background in the end of the video, I knew she was an educated women. She is smart, educated and funny young woman. I wish them well but I smell long term game in her(citizenship) then leave the man. Filipinos are proud people and tribal, whenever they date or marry outside of their community, it's usually for a reason but there is nothing wrong marrying someone for a reason(win win Situation). Btw, tribes in the Philippines don't intermarry that much. This woman is youn, educated and smart so Filipino eyes, she is lowering her standard but Germany deal is too hard to refuse. Good luck to her.
WOW Chad, this was one of the best if not the best interview I've seen on TH-cam, I hope she is for Real, you have to do a follow up in a few years to see if she is still with the same guy, I would love someone like her, but great interview, do more! Thanks.
I think she "nailed it" when she said "know what you want" in a woman. I learned early in life that women exist who are beautiful, smart, with good personalities. But after spending time with them I knew I could not live with them. For example, I dated a hot lady who initially seemed to have all the physical and personality attributes I liked but when I stayed at her house a few times, lol, the "thrill was gone." She had pets to include birds, dogs, cats. Her house reeked of bad animal smell. We were going upstairs for an evening of intimacy when I stepped into some dog excrement... - yeah a real buzz kill. She was in her late 40's but was still in the party mode which included pot. I don't do pot. I'm a social drinker so a beer or two is fine. she drank too much. While our intimacy, except for the dog poo, was fantastic it turned out that the porn she liked was a bit too weird for me. A number of other factors of her lifestyle also resulted in me breaking things off. In short, I look out how a woman lives in relation to how I want to live. I'll take less attractive if we have similar tastes in how we want our household to be. BTW I did live in the PI for 2 years. I loved it and believe many great Filipinas exist but you need to do "due diligence" and that applies to women of any country.
Yeah see this plays back into knowing what youre looking for. As a "younger" guy thats not looking for marriage give me the hot 40yo with the p0rn fetish any day.
Great interview with a very open, clear, and self aware lady. I suspect that there a lot of women there who are like her but simply lack the ability to express her views so clearly, That's why it takes patience for many questions to be answered, a lot of guys blow it early on. My experience in the early 1990's in the Philippines interacting with people taught me to not rush friendships and businesses, things really need to grow there to amount to something truly meaningful.
20 years married , after 18 mos courting and visiting her and family and friends . 24 yrs gap still isnt a problem 🤗 ( Thank God for an occasionally needed blue pill 🤣) We are still so close and shes a VERY HIGH QUALITY WOMAN @ 46 , and making more money than me ( I m an electrical worker/ troubleshooter) Shes 100% a light in the room - wherever she is ! We still date regularly and travel a lot ! We are so blessed as a couple ❤️❤️❤️
Intelligence is king and communication < she has both ❤ I’ve met a Filipina that was married and brought to USA 30+ yrs ago. She is now widowed and my GF ❤
She's a very perceptive bright young lady. I'm guessing early 20's even though she looks much younger. I hope everything works out well for her in Germany.
I am from Duma but left when I was 8 yrs. old. 40 years is a huge age gap but I agree with most of the things she's pointing out..she's cute, smart/educated, personable/charming, and has a good head on her shoulders. Most filipinas are nurturing and hard working...and will thrive anywhere in the world with or wo a man. Any western man is lucky to be with her partner!
A very insightful, intelligent , articulate and beautiful woman. All the best to her and her partner, he's a fortunate man. She will most likely find it a very difficult challenge to be away from her family. If they choose to live in Germany.
What I have experienced, is don't say anything even remotely resembling judgement. You may not even mean judgment, but if they understand it as judgment, watch out!
I would be so happy with a lady just like this.After a very abusive marriage being a kind giving man.That for me and the Philippine lifestyle is something I will persue
Age doesn't matter if the true attraction is there. By that I mean, to quote Frenchie, "the whole package". My wife is only ten years younger than me but when we met she was only 22. I was immediately attracted to her but I fell in love with her after getting to know her. That's the key. Don't confuse immediate attraction with love.
To both of you, that was a great interview. There was so much deep insight and valuable information about this very complicated process of a older foreigner with a younger Filipina. I have a question for both of you and I hope you will both answer with your best estimation. What percentage of Filipina women between the ages of 20 and 45 have the same depth, education, high-level English, and perspective that this lovely young lady has? Thanks again for sharing.
Thanks for that. I can only speak for my personal experience and also others who I've chatted with about this topic. I would say it's extremely rare to meet someone like Fretchie with her depth of thinking I haven't met anyone else in 1.5 years.
To my fellow expats or soon to be expats, the young woman being interviewed is rather charming, and seemingly intelligent. But you can’t really be sure unless you entertain time and indepth conversation with her yourself. Just know that most women here are cunning, clever, and shrewd, and that’s not the same as smart. However, that’s not a knock against them. The society here pretty much dictates that they be that way (survival). But, it’s up to us as men to know the difference and put ourselves in a winning position. I’ve witnessed too many men come here and get duped, burned, and bamboozled. Be wise! Move with purpose and caution…
They're actually not smart at all. These desperate men who are conned have no common sense or awareness when in relationships. They wouldn't know a red flag if it hit them on the face and knocked them out. They become so stupidly in love, that their brain turns to mush. Filipinas are very easy to read with behaviours.
I re-watched your interview with Fretchie from 4 months ago. Of course there will be additional pressures and risks bringing her to Germany, but she is already being judged in PH and seems to have a strong sense of self and know what she wants.... and is learning and benefiting more from a relationship with an older guy. Just like any relationship, time will tell. IMO every relationship is transactional anyway - Western Women ALWAYS include Dollars as one of the "6's", but somehow Filipina's are Gold Diggers if they want security too... hypocrites... and what do we get in return - a Gold Digging Divorce Lawsuit. I really like this chic, I think she speaks truth. Peace and Love, B Goat
Some men have issues with expressing emotions and buy things for any woman because that's what they do and it makes them happy. Takes all kinds. It's not right to put people into boxes, right!!!!
She's very nice. I've been put off Filipinas due to the horror stories. She is refreshing to listen to. Maybe I need to reconsider my search requirements.
Many expats are attracted with bargirl looks. If a girl looks like that its a huge red flag. Im old school & met my now wife in HS. Old school Philippines courtship visiting her 1s a week talking & knowing her before she gives that sweet "yes" im your gf now. Took me a yr b4 she said "yes". 1 yr was so worth it i got a quality wife. Shes perfect, always takes care of the house in & out great cook shes kapampangan she makes more $ than me bcos she works in a hospital. Being old school Pilipino I not attracted to bargirl look. If thats your thing, i wish you luck.
Well mine is uneducated from the sticks but she runs the house except for her grandmother. All defer to her because she is the oldest. So she has a lot of responsibility but her being 21 she is still a child. I’m in the Philippines at her home right now we went to a rural beach close to where she was born and raised with 15 of her family members. I paid for most everything. Less than $200. I got drunk on the red horse and threw up 12+ times. Diarrhea. The problem is the eat eat eat and eat and overfeed you. Still recovering but my wife jumped right on it and took ever loving care of me massages you name it. They’re all nurses. Not in the US.
When men from other countries have been in the Philippines for a while, a Filipina knows that she's not the first and the man has probably been with several of them already. We know they're jealous and that's just not appealing to them. Call it a red flag. Just like with men, If we know a Filipina has been dating foreigners, it's a turn off and also a red flag.
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Years ago i knew an American man ( then ) in his 70s who married a Filipina in her 30s. He went on to live well into his 90s... and she stuck with him to the very end.
Plenty of stories don't go that way.
@@GUITARTIME2024 So true, as rare as blue roses in fact. The exception only weakens the rule it doesn't negate it...a lesson from logic 101.
@johnnypastrana6727 doesn't negate it but statistics are statistics. I could smoke and not get lumg cancer, but stats say the chance gets much bigger.
Yeah, that's cause he didn't run out of money - just another walking ATM.
Nah. He stuck with her till his last load.
Let me rephrase that, dawg 💪✅😉
I used to care about what other people thought or said about me, but now that i'm 57 yrs old, I don't get a fck what anyone thinks or says! I just do me and fck it if you don't like it!!
Life is short, do what makes you happy! Peace! 😄😄😄
live it up enjoy your life it's all about just being good to each other
@@ChadFosterExplores -100%!!!
Well stated and those who have moved to the Philippines will get the most flack from other expats. Sad but true and I could care less what they think now. I was a 6 year resident of the Pi. Many expats are bombed by 12 noon and sit in judgment of anyone who is around.
If is legal who cares
@@commonsenseisntcommon1776I agree completely. I'm in the same boat buddy.
That was profound and candidly honest. She's smart, and I wish her success. Great interview. 😊
What an impressive lady . Her English communication skills may be better than the average Western woman .
What a smart girl. Very good communicator
This is one of your best videos imo. I really enjoy her honesty and sincerity. It gives a very realistic view from a real filipina. She's great, and they are both very lucky to have found one another. At 55 myself, I'm not particularly concerned with how society views me, but it's nice to know there's still a bit of hope.
Wow! I’ve watched a lot of interviews with various aged Filipinas and this one by far is THE BEST. She is obviously young but also soooo mature and open about the topics. She has a great perspective on it all. Thank you so much for doing this interview and I look forward to more. God Bless.
She is so lovely.
Great interview, Chad.
Yeah she's a great human being, thank you appreciate it
She will go far because she's so intelligent for her age. Beautiful as well? You couldn't find a better package. ❤️
yes. she will go very far away from her current partner to find a new partner once she's in the west
When you grow up poor you know how survive
Lol. You have no idea.
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This Filipina is smart, knows what she is talking about and is right on with the different types of re; relationships going on and why
Hi Chad, I just met my Filipina in May after just over a year of talking. We met on Christian Filipina and after a month, I did the first video chat to make sure I wasn't being scammed. After 5 months, I spent a lot of extra money to send a lady from Christian Filipina to send her flowers, meet her, and ensure she is single and doesn't have any kids (as she had stated on her profile).
From there, we just talked every single day. Our age gap is 18 years between us. Our values and family tradition matches, and she was the shy one. She didn't want to say I love you until she meant it. So, I waited for her "I love you" until she felt it was genuine. I didn't push it, and I just enjoyed our time together.
I honestly was shy as well because I didn't think she would find an older guy attractive. While she wants me to lose my belly a little, she is EXTREMELY attracted to me. She is more concerned about my health than my looks. She loves my personality and she misses me tremendously right now. She did not ever ask for money, and was insulted if I wanted to help her get a travel visa to come back to Canada with her, but accepted after I mentioned how long it would take for her to save up for the $100 CA fee, as well as a round trip. She didn't want ANYONE to think that she only wants my money, and she wants to contribute to the relationship.
The Filipina in this video is absolutely correct about the way a man thinks and behaves at certain ages, but my personal opinion is that a man who has lived through his midlife crisis, and has made positive changes in his life is going to be the best match. This can happen as early as 42 - 46 years of age, or even younger for some. During a midlife crisis, a man comes to terms with his mortality, and learns what he must do to better his next half of his life. He makes positive choices, and learns to focus on the things that are important to him... his family, making better memories, making better health decisions, and most importantly to a Filipina - learning that love is not hedonistic but selfless and heartfelt.
I enjoyed this video for sure! Keep up the good work, Chad!
Thank you for that comment I appreciate it 🙏
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Dude. You’re describing EXACTLY what I’m doing. 45 years old
This is a scam, this guy is in cahoots with CP , they post these comments to catch love seeking fools. 😂
She is playing the long game with you 😂😂😂
I live in Bohol and tried Christian Filipina for dating. I was very disappointed with the number of "scammers" and fake accounts on the site. I canceled my membershio as a result.
I live in Bohol and just went to church here to meet someone and am very happy with the results.
Im have the same problem. I paid for the second top tier, over a thousand dollars, so don't feel too bad. I can't cancel it.
I agree about the dating sites being full of scammers because I’ve experienced the same results with Filipino Cupid 💘
I gave up on online dating anywhere. Big waste of time and money. The old fashion way is the best. More work but worth it.
They run the actual website as a scam
This interview garnered a new sub. Loved to hear her side of things.
What a great interview.
My biggest takeaway, know what you want in a Filipina.
Hey Chad, thanks for this video. I appreciate your focus on the authenticity of the Filipinas. Keep up the good work!
Awesome interview Chad!! Don't know why it took me so long to finally view this. What a great girl! I want a Fretchie!! 🥰
Thank you both! This was some of the best conversation I have been privy to so far. I can't thank you enough.
Great video man! How old is this girl? Shes very well spoken.
Very huge mistake to bring a young Filipina abroad, she will leave early or late
Please, someone tell him about whose a hot commodity where. It's not that she is bad, not at all. She seems great. But we change the environment much less than the environment changes us.
I have a friend who works in INS in Florida, according to him, INS statistics, American men \ Filipina wife, in the USA, are a 78% divorce rate within first 2 years, no statistics if they live in the Philippines. So you are correct, NEVER bring her to the USA, I know personally. Russian girl \ American man, divorce rate 96%, Filipina's better, but not by much, enter at you're own risk.
@@JeremiahHexx Thanks for sharing. It's such a pity I cannot own land in the Philippines.
@@JeremiahHexx All I have to say is don't trust these women. Always have your guards up. What's love got to do with it, right 😂😂😂
@@JeremiahHexxmy friend married a woman from Russia. She was knocked up within about a year of them getting married. Once the baby was born, she divorced him. The court gave her the house along with alimony and child support. Homeboy got destroyed. If I ever marry a foreign woman, I’ll 100% move to her country. No chance I’ll bring a foreign woman here to the states to get westernized.
I don't care what anyone says the truth it's 50 percent about money and 35 percent better life for her family 15 percent love for a phillipina to be with a foreigner
you are so correct
You don't think it's about the money in america? Why do you think the girl marries the lawyer or the guy from a good school for the guy from a good family?
Of course money is a factor. But not just in the Philippines all over the world. And rightly so. It represents stability and security...... And it's a man's job to provide that. And if you can't understand that.. then you've got a bigger problem
What a wonderful lady being so open and truthful. New subscriber here Chad. G'day from Australia mate.
As a Filipina to another, she has great insights and is a very good communicator. Very mature, intelligent and well spoken. For sure many foreigners who watched and listened to what she said appreciated this interview with her.
I have to say that this is one of the best clips and answered many questions I had. Your guest is very intelligent and honest. Excellent attitude and realistic. She actually cleared many doubts afam's have. I'm so impressed with her and your questions 👍
This woman is so bright and says the quiet part out loud with eloquence and grace. This video is for those who need to know and filipinas who know their own secret powers of attraction. Thanks for the share.
She's adorable. Good for her, and for him. Wishing them happiness.
Enjoyed this thank you for the post! Good job!
Nice interview Chad! I've been living with my Filipina girlfriend for almost 3 years now. It just keeps getting better and better but we've had to have lots of "tampo" sessions to learn how to adapt to each other. In the end, it's worth persevering so trust can develop. Be kind and respectful and generous and you will reap the reward :)
"Always read between the lines for the REAL WORDS that aren't even there." - Michelle Sandlin
What part of the interview are you thinking?
@@spiralings pretty much everything. Look at how carefully she chooses words
Great and interesting questions as well as answers! Great job Chad
Thanks 🙏
As a foreigner, simply based on what I've heard from PH citizens, I'd probably propose that the reason for the judgments of age gap in PH is simply that it's something they *can* judge. :) Just from one person I'm talking to currently (we're hoping to get a long-term relationship work) I've heard how she was ridiculed/judged for being brown skinned, for not speaking English confidently, for not having visited cities like Manila, even for being abused... It's a nice culture with solid values, but it seems it does have a fair degree of cruelty too.
the cruelty is abundant in the entier world, we need to lern to deal with it
She's seriously adorable
Young lady is impressive as hell.
She's well grounded and congrats to her for finding the right guy for her. Funny but hearing that rooster in the background reminded me why I could never live in rural parts of Philippines. Hearing that noise for the 100,000th time would just drive me crazy LOL
Haha I was waiting for someone to comment on that lol
@@ChadFosterExplores I had an online relationship going with a lady in General Santos. Everytime we called to talk or video guess what I heard? Like several roosters just going nuts the entire time!!! She said it is constant noise from like 4am - sundown (often a bit later). Yikes, would drive me bananas.
@clrodrick i would have eaten t chicken/rooster every meal for 1 month straight... until there was no more roostets in the village ;)
@@paulruano1903 Hah for sure! Even my lady friend kept threatening to cook a few just to quiet the neighborhood down a bit.
Captivated by her so did not notice the animals. The absence of traffic or aircraft was more significant.
Man, great interview. Awesome self minded young lady. True. Lucky German fella. I wish her strength as haters try to ruin everybody because they are ruined themselves and don't want to see anyone else happy. Good luck
I live in the Philippines with my Filipina wife and our family. We met in Hong Kong, 11 years ago. Now we live here. We own property, both residential and commercial, and have a decent income. Our kids are doing well - at school and in university. We met in person, not online, but I am not going to criticise such relationships. When we met, she was 36 and I was 47 and we both have kids from previous relationships. We are doing fine here, as are the kids. I have afforded my wife opportunities she would otherwise not have had. We have been to Thailand, Malaysia, Macau, Belgium, the Netherlands and France. But we still come back home, to the Philippines.
Where are you originally from?
@@Pim-v4h UK. London, but I lived/worked in HK for 20 years.
Wow - That was the best video I have seen by far on the subject of relationships in the Philippines and the expectations of the Filipna. I was in an LDR for 16 months, finally met my lady and spent just over 3 weeks with her in the Philippines and had a great time, fell in love and she with me. Now I am back home she has taken another overseas job and I am not coping as well this time after meeting her. Going back to LDR is hard and we have had some communication problems. I met her family and friends when I visited and stayed at her house for a week so got to see how daily life is for her. One thing I have noticed since we first started chatting is that she struggles from time to time with the long hours she works mostly as a OFW and her work seems to be the one area where she does not fully open up to me. Normally she says this is my problem, I am okay and will work it out. I just wish she would open up to me more about her struggles at work.
Thanks 🙏 and I wish you luck with your relationship. Thanks for sharing
She is so intelligent, wow , expression and gesticulation are so genuine too !
Fretchie!
Great video.
Some interesting topics covered. It is interesting that whether in the West, or in the Philippines (and other countries) there are expected conventions when it comes to comparative ages between two people in a relationship, but I rarely hear anyone from the anti crowd, back up their opinion with anything solid in terms of justifying why they feel so strongly about it.
Ever heard of the person who loses a lot of weight having a hard time from their out of shape or overweight friends, with negative comments like 'I bet they put the weight back on'. Is it the same for outside observers either not in a relationship, or not in a happy relationship, expressing negatively in some sort of way to make them feel better about themselves.
This young lady is more eloquent and able to express her feelings and opinions than most young women in the west, that's for sure, and her open mindedness, without being reckless or inconsiderate, makes for a refreshing change.
If age is just a number then the age difference is almost irrelevant.
Of course there are examples in the west that most people know, Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher (even if they're not still together, they were together for 8 years.
Anyways, good luck to them both.
We had a 4yr ldr and I came to the Philippines 2yrs ago. We've been together since 2017
Smart and lively woman, she's great.
Not having children is usually a deal breaker for young Filipinas. If an older foreigner doesn't want or can't have kids, his choices are limited.
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I don't want kids.....so that's going to be a problem. How about Filipina single mothers? In the West, I avoid single mothers, but Filipinas seem to be different.
@@babblingalong7689 Most will still want at least one child WITH you to cement the relationship. Depending on your age a single mum a bit older is more likely to accept NO more kids
@@tilapiadave3234 True by mid 30's they're more likely not to want more if they already have 1 or 2 kids
@@tilapiadave3234 Thanks yeah seems like an older single mum is what I should aim for. Luckily Filipinas stay gorgeous after 30 unlike most Western women.
… one of the first I’ve seen…. Surprisingly sophisticated and well spoken.
Real love is NOT a feeling...Sorry...you can love anyone at anytime...the best relationship is about combability.
And love is a feeling we all want!!
True but what about good old fashioned lust?
Real love is MORE than a feeling. But you are allowed to have feelings. Just don't be ruled by them.
I second what Gary had to say.
Do not build on top of FEELINGS.
Feelings WILL fluctuaye through life.
So that would be as stupid as building a house on top of mud!.
Find a QUALITY girl with strong VALUES.
Values (core values) is what matters.
That is what you can build on top of!.
That would be much more stable. Like building a house on proper grounding.
Then you GROW REAL love, inside that "home" that is "built" on top of strong foundations (values and intrgrity. Religion is often a good anchor to protect from corruptions).
The house is a metaphore to better describe.
I respect and appreciate your comments Sis!
Also thank you for taking the time to do this.
Many blessings to you and your loved ones!!!
Jah'King Nine
They want to be rich says it all This woman is insightful. These men who are considered below average in the USA becomes rock stars in the Philippines
I love her observations " most foreigners come there are not rich" exactly. they are mostly older men who are lonely and then find all of this interest in younger women that never would consider them back at home....It becomes a new world to the men and now a major promotion among vloggers on TH-cam. If you are happy great.....just be careful with your finances because that is critical as you get older.
I like her. She is so genuine. I guess she's young but the way she answer questions make sense. I just wanted to add that if you want to find a good loving Filipina, know what you look for. Common values, common interest, spiritual beliefs and so on.. If you are the kind of person that requires many things then i suggest get to know the Filipina first or vice versa. Do not jump into a relationship out of desparation. And for this Filipina, i think shes smart. Shes not ignorant with relationships. At her age she knows the stages and the progression of a relationship. And she was right when she said, for older people do not rush to have someone in your life it might not be the right person... First, make sure you are ready for a relationship that can lead to a commitment. Know what you want, and if you think you have found the one ask all the questions in your mind, do not play games. If you are in LDR then make a plan to close the distance. I believe in a ldr there are 4 factors to consider to succeed... Honesty, trust, assurance and faithfulness.
The most profound thing this Filipina said was. Know What You Want. As a Canadian now living in the Philippines with an awesome Filipina, I would say most foreigners do not know what they want, either in their home country or here. If you are a goof in the west, you will be a goof here, and deserve what you end up with.
Ask to see her phone. Her expression would be hilarious. 😮 😂
True, but she might have 2 phones.
@TylerD288 ask to see her purse. It'll be in there.
6 other dudes in there
My guy, phones are irrelevant. If you get a chance take to a bar host Filipina. They will blow your mind on how they can run you through the ringer.
@@studytime-qb9bx I'm talking regular women. Bar girls are for desperate scumbags.
She is genuine, she's a keeper. She has honest values and she knows what she wants.
Nah. Not even close, but believe whatever you want.
Wow, I can't get over that million-dollar view! Where in the Philippines is that???
Money vs love is silly. That's the same as saying for guys beauty vs love. Females fall in love with providers. Males fall in love with beautiful women. Of course many other things are important too, but provider is the first bar males must pass. Beauty is the first bar females must pass.
Very interesting and smart thinking gerl!
For me the phrase : I love you , is very very strong... and if anyone one will tell me this phrase before we are meets in person will be a red flag .. By my self I use this phrase only 3 times in my life ..
No matter about what you speak or for how long you communicate before you meet... Everything can evaporate immediately the moment you meet. It's just a first date with a looooong commute.
Another great video of what life is like for some folks! I’m so glad Frenchie and her man are happy together and that they are creating a life together, regardless of their age. Peace ☮️
Good interview. She is very smart
This girl is So nice and So clear headed, I hope she enjoys her life in Germany and if not heads back home to what she’s used to and comfortable living in.
Wish her all the very best.
I hope her gut treats her well and brings her home should she want to. 😘
Nice talk I find my self in that heheh thanx
Another great and informative video, brother. I appreciate your time and effort and your advice about the Philippines and working on my personal self growth.
I appreciate her advice about listing things that are important in a relationship to help focus the sorting process and avoid the "Island Beauty Blindness" that throws the search off course. Have a good one and be safe.
First tike watching her and before she mentioned her background in the end of the video, I knew she was an educated women. She is smart, educated and funny young woman. I wish them well but I smell long term game in her(citizenship) then leave the man. Filipinos are proud people and tribal, whenever they date or marry outside of their community, it's usually for a reason but there is nothing wrong marrying someone for a reason(win win Situation). Btw, tribes in the Philippines don't intermarry that much. This woman is youn, educated and smart so Filipino eyes, she is lowering her standard but Germany deal is too hard to refuse. Good luck to her.
WOW Chad, this was one of the best if not the best interview I've seen on TH-cam, I hope she is for Real, you have to do a follow up in a few years to see if she is still with the same guy, I would love someone like her, but great interview, do more! Thanks.
I think she "nailed it" when she said "know what you want" in a woman. I learned early in life that women exist who are beautiful, smart, with good personalities. But after spending time with them I knew I could not live with them. For example, I dated a hot lady who initially seemed to have all the physical and personality attributes I liked but when I stayed at her house a few times, lol, the "thrill was gone." She had pets to include birds, dogs, cats. Her house reeked of bad animal smell. We were going upstairs for an evening of intimacy when I stepped into some dog excrement... - yeah a real buzz kill. She was in her late 40's but was still in the party mode which included pot. I don't do pot. I'm a social drinker so a beer or two is fine. she drank too much. While our intimacy, except for the dog poo, was fantastic it turned out that the porn she liked was a bit too weird for me. A number of other factors of her lifestyle also resulted in me breaking things off. In short, I look out how a woman lives in relation to how I want to live. I'll take less attractive if we have similar tastes in how we want our household to be. BTW I did live in the PI for 2 years. I loved it and believe many great Filipinas exist but you need to do "due diligence" and that applies to women of any country.
Very true, well said. Thanks 🙏
Late 40s???? Lol
Yeah see this plays back into knowing what youre looking for. As a "younger" guy thats not looking for marriage give me the hot 40yo with the p0rn fetish any day.
@@GUITARTIME2024 48 to be specific.
Are you still with that women?
She's a very smart young woman
Great interview with a very open, clear, and self aware lady. I suspect that there a lot of women there who are like her but simply lack the ability to express her views so clearly, That's why it takes patience for many questions to be answered, a lot of guys blow it early on. My experience in the early 1990's in the Philippines interacting with people taught me to not rush friendships and businesses, things really need to grow there to amount to something truly meaningful.
20 years married , after 18 mos courting and visiting her and family and friends . 24 yrs gap still isnt a problem 🤗 ( Thank God for an occasionally needed blue pill 🤣) We are still so close and shes a VERY HIGH QUALITY WOMAN @ 46 , and making more money than me ( I m an electrical worker/ troubleshooter) Shes 100% a light in the room - wherever she is ! We still date regularly and travel a lot ! We are so blessed as a couple ❤️❤️❤️
Very mature and intelligent young lady.
Not only is she pretty, but intelligent and articulate.
"pretty" for you ... but in the Philippines she would NOT be "pretty" to most Filipino men.
@@jimw7916 I'm curious what about her would make you say that?
@@christiancoats1 Filipino men dont like dark skin for starters.
@@christiancoats1 Filipino men generally dont like dark skin or flat broad noses. Ask one.
@@jimw7916 True, she's average. I was stationed in the Philippines and most Filipino guys would probably knock her up and leave 🤨
I meet my wife on facebook.i was scared at the beginning but,i hit the jackpot.
Wow ! What a delightful, wildly intelligent, and fascinating woman. Yeah...I would move to the Philippines for someone of her caliber 👍
Intelligence is king and communication < she has both ❤
I’ve met a Filipina that was married and brought to USA 30+ yrs ago. She is now widowed and my GF ❤
She's a very perceptive bright young lady. I'm guessing early 20's even though she looks much younger. I hope everything works out well for her in Germany.
Her english is quite good.Shes a smart lady.
Excellent video Chad! Thx
I am from Duma but left when I was 8 yrs. old. 40 years is a huge age gap but I agree with most of the things she's pointing out..she's cute, smart/educated, personable/charming, and has a good head on her shoulders. Most filipinas are nurturing and hard working...and will thrive anywhere in the world with or wo a man. Any western man is lucky to be with her partner!
A very insightful, intelligent , articulate and beautiful woman. All the best to her and her partner, he's a fortunate man. She will most likely find it a very difficult challenge to be away from her family. If they choose to live in Germany.
I only buy phone load for my gfs and jollibee and I have all women I want there
This lady is wise beyond her years.
Dude love is love. Age difference doesn’t matter
Good video man!!!!!
Chad; it would be very interesting to hear how they are doing in Germany some months from now:)
What I have experienced, is don't say anything even remotely resembling judgement. You may not even mean judgment, but if they understand it as judgment, watch out!
Chad, what your take on a 22 year difference with my Filipina girlfriend for long term relationship.
I would be so happy with a lady just like this.After a very abusive marriage being a kind giving man.That for me and the Philippine lifestyle is something I will persue
Age doesn't matter if the true attraction is there. By that I mean, to quote Frenchie, "the whole package". My wife is only ten years younger than me but when we met she was only 22. I was immediately attracted to her but I fell in love with her after getting to know her. That's the key. Don't confuse immediate attraction with love.
She’s adorable
To both of you, that was a great interview. There was so much deep insight and valuable information about this very complicated process of a older foreigner with a younger Filipina. I have a question for both of you and I hope you will both answer with your best estimation. What percentage of Filipina women between the ages of 20 and 45 have the same depth, education, high-level English, and perspective that this lovely young lady has? Thanks again for sharing.
Thanks for that. I can only speak for my personal experience and also others who I've chatted with about this topic. I would say it's extremely rare to meet someone like Fretchie with her depth of thinking I haven't met anyone else in 1.5 years.
To my fellow expats or soon to be expats, the young woman being interviewed is rather charming, and seemingly intelligent. But you can’t really be sure unless you entertain time and indepth conversation with her yourself. Just know that most women here are cunning, clever, and shrewd, and that’s not the same as smart. However, that’s not a knock against them. The society here pretty much dictates that they be that way (survival). But, it’s up to us as men to know the difference and put ourselves in a winning position. I’ve witnessed too many men come here and get duped, burned, and bamboozled.
Be wise! Move with purpose and caution…
They're actually not smart at all. These desperate men who are conned have no common sense or awareness when in relationships. They wouldn't know a red flag if it hit them on the face and knocked them out. They become so stupidly in love, that their brain turns to mush. Filipinas are very easy to read with behaviours.
Thanks. Perhaps you can tell us your stories of people you know who have gotten burned as you say.
Any city you'd recommend for a first time visitor?
I re-watched your interview with Fretchie from 4 months ago. Of course there will be additional pressures and risks bringing her to Germany, but she is already being judged in PH and seems to have a strong sense of self and know what she wants.... and is learning and benefiting more from a relationship with an older guy. Just like any relationship, time will tell. IMO every relationship is transactional anyway - Western Women ALWAYS include Dollars as one of the "6's", but somehow Filipina's are Gold Diggers if they want security too... hypocrites... and what do we get in return - a Gold Digging Divorce Lawsuit. I really like this chic, I think she speaks truth. Peace and Love, B Goat
Hey there thanks for watching this one as well yeah I agree with you she's a really cool girl and so far she is loving it in Germany!
Some men have issues with expressing emotions and buy things for any woman because that's what they do and it makes them happy. Takes all kinds. It's not right to put people into boxes, right!!!!
This chic is wise beyond her years
"Trust and communication are important " says a woman wearing sunglasses on a video💯🔥😎🧢
She's very nice. I've been put off Filipinas due to the horror stories. She is refreshing to listen to. Maybe I need to reconsider my search requirements.
Many expats are attracted with bargirl looks. If a girl looks like that its a huge red flag.
Im old school & met my now wife in HS. Old school Philippines courtship visiting her 1s a week talking & knowing her before she gives that sweet "yes" im your gf now. Took me a yr b4 she said "yes". 1 yr was so worth it i got a quality wife. Shes perfect, always takes care of the house in & out great cook shes kapampangan she makes more $ than me bcos she works in a hospital.
Being old school Pilipino I not attracted to bargirl look. If thats your thing, i wish you luck.
Wisdom
Well mine is uneducated from the sticks but she runs the house except for her grandmother. All defer to her because she is the oldest. So she has a lot of responsibility but her being 21 she is still a child. I’m in the Philippines at her home right now we went to a rural beach close to where she was born and raised with 15 of her family members. I paid for most everything. Less than $200. I got drunk on the red horse and threw up 12+ times. Diarrhea. The problem is the eat eat eat and eat and overfeed you. Still recovering but my wife jumped right on it and took ever loving care of me massages you name it. They’re all nurses. Not in the US.
Relationships are complicated in all cultures. Pick rubbish and you’ll get rubbish.
WOW! That's a good woman gone! Anymore of these?
I'm not some old guy i'm only 25 and I hope I can travel to the Philippines.
If you have your game together and are even moderately good-looking, you will do very well here at that age. Not that many young foreigners here.
I believe you. My partner is 27 years younger, but I'm more fit than her ;-)
When men from other countries have been in the Philippines for a while, a Filipina knows that she's not the first and the man has probably been with several of them already. We know they're jealous and that's just not appealing to them. Call it a red flag. Just like with men, If we know a Filipina has been dating foreigners, it's a turn off and also a red flag.