The KEY TO RECOVERING From Codependency (Break The CODEPENDENCY SPELL By Doing THIS)
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- How to break the codependency spell by doing this, Life Coach Lisa A. Romano Codependency Recovery and Narcissistic Abuse Expert www.lisaaroman...
Are you codependent? Are you in one way relationships? Do you cater to others? Do you say yes when you mean no? Are you resentful? Are you stuck in your codependent relationship? Do you want to learn how to be less codependent?
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The young women who are listening to your teachings in their teens and 20s are SO LUCKY and BLESSED! I wish I grew up listening to Lisa A. Romano, although I’m so glad I discovered you in my 40s ♥️☺️
So true! I wish I had this info 20 years ago! ☺️
its never late . this is a long journey anyway, I know how you feel. I am in my early 30s and I wish I knew these stuff way earlier in my life. I guess better late then never. I have Seen families wrecked and people life wasted due to being stuck in this co dependent Loop. I call it a Loop because it induces anxiety and stress and then you want to alleviate that and the only easy way is addictive behaviors which makes you feel good for a while but then again back to square -10 .
And whats with young men? Do you think only women struggle with this?
Not just women including men like etc we are sooo blessed to discovered this podcast ......im so estatic and thrilled to hear this content !!!! I wish you well ...know your worth and increase your value!!!!
@@darkprince1988fm yes prince so many folks are stucked in chilhood trauma , they confused , perplexed ....narcs are dangerous for anyone !!!! Stay away from them....
Observe your body. Your body's only goal literally is to protect you and stay safe, secure and alive. If your body reacts, pay attention, because it is giving you 100% honest feedback and information and is noticing things your conscious mind is not.
I think this is a good point, one thing to consider is if you have CPTSD you have lost the ability to listen to your instincts and body. You have reactions which are possibly incorrect based on your trauma which is deeply subconcious. It's part of the healing to build a much better emotional literacy and understanding your gut and instincts. Once you have some healing you will be better equipped to understand your body reactions.
Read The Gift of Fear. Everyone has instincts, even if we don't listen or know how to.
Great advice, I hope others take your advice seriously. My Body/Brain knew I was in a toxic relationship years before I did. I developed stomach issues, diarrhea (over 10 years of it) Irritable bowl syndrome, ulcers and REAL but undiagnosed pain in abdomen 24x7x365 for many years. Once I started working with a therapist who led me to the conclusion I was being abused emotionally, all of those issues DISAPPERED, almost overnight. Anyone and everyone that reads your comment should be aware of this, it's a killer.
Being codependent is not a good thing. Some ppl in comments are always using being codependent =being good. Narcs are bad but codependents are amazing. Nope, we are as messed up as narcs, the only difference is: we can tell that our behaviour is wrong and we can change, I am not sure if it's possible for narcissists.
Pa Ba absolutely true! If we’re ever going to heal, we have to look within for what drew us to the narcissist and (more importantly), what bound us to them.
I agree!
I Agree, with Your Assessment
I did lose a lot of "friends" when I started putting up boundaries. I was amazed by how angry some people got when I started telling them NO. One of my cousins, for example, wanted to do video calls with me. It was always on a whim - his whim, not mine. He would expect me to just drop everything and talk with him for a couple hours because he needed attention. I finally told him that I needed some time to prepare, and if he could just let me know AHEAD of time, I would still be happy to talk to him, but I couldn't just do that out of the blue. Oh he was furious! He called me "vain" because I like to put on makeup when I do a video call. But I thought to myself, "What is more vain? Me agreeing to talk with him but only asking for some time to prepare? Or him demanding that I drop everything and do video calls whenever he wanted?" Well, the answer was simple. He never forgave me for that, and I ended up blocking him out of my life around a year later.
I’m thinking it was no great loss to you. Another pet hate of mine is the unexpected drop in and, since we all have smartphones these days there’s absolutely no excuse for it.
Same. My 'best friend' of 10 years borrowed some money from me. I always told her It's fine, don't worry but after months of not being paid back and my rent was due. Well I finally started to set boundaries and ask for the money back, I got ignored for months, told I only thought of myself, I'd changed etc etc and she hasn't spoke to me since or given the money back. 10 years of friendship and sisterhood gone because for the first time ever in our friendship I was assertive.
This is also what has been happening to me. Ive just put up a boundary with a friend who wanted to Devalue my opinion and show me that he was smarter and his sources were better. I told him "you know, my source for my opinion whatever it is, is legit. Because im legit enough to think about it. So you know what, its okay". It totally riled him up. He told me that i was being offended. I said "im not offended. Its more like id rather not engage" and he didn't know what hit him. 😂 Kudos to you! Let's keep it up 😊💯👍
@@marmadukescarlet7791 I just saw your reply! My TH-cam notifications are on the fritz. I hate when people just drop by without any notice, too! I had a "friend" who did that even after I asked her not to. I ghosted her because of that.
@@sorchx wow! She was totally using you. And when you caught on, she showed her true colors. She was projecting on you, because it's clear that SHE is the one who only thinks of herself! Sad, but good riddance.
Codependency: they love to rescue people, they feel like they are Not enough, they love to take care of people, and only feel good about themselves when helping. They can never say no. Well then that clears that up. I knew it. I am extremely empathetic. I am always thinking of people's feelings and not wanting to hurt them to my own detriment. 😓😓 I always subconsciously put myself in others shoes. I am soft and gentle. And I Always knew what I want and didn't want and that I deserve and am worthy of good, better, best. 😍😍
I hope this helped!
@@lisaaromano1 yes thank you it sure did!😉
I’m exactly the same. 😬
Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc. I’m going to get your book on this! I always wondered why I put others first and myself last and why I am so tough on myself. I have realised that I was an empath about 7 years ago and have many books on it, did not think I was a codependent, but after watching your video I definitely have a lot of those traits. I have tried to change things for a few years now and be kinder and more generous to myself, but find it really hard not to put others first, although, nowadays I only do that to people who are worthy, not to vile narcs.
I am a child of alcoholics. My Mum was also an empath though. She was the nicest person I ever knew.
@@Zazzberries why thank you! 😉
I have broken up with my Ex so many times but the last time I did it I wasn't screaming and no violence was involved. I was calm and polite, so I'm finally convinced I can survive without him and am happier and relaxed. 🍒
Cherry Bacon Good on you!!! ❤
So co-dependents and narcissists feel empty without a partner. But they are opposite in everything 😂 else; co-dependents take care of people, narcissists are taking. And with all that taking they actually destroy deeply! 😓😡
Yes!
Narcassist don't just take though. They destroy. There is the problem.
Too unhealthy extremes. And so much more painful for the non narcissist. Its like wetr already hurting and depleted and "waiting for something good". Then they show up to cause chaos and hurt, and take.
@@lauraivey4250 yes that is sooooo true let me add that! Thank you for reminding me! I had a few so I do know unfortunately! I even had a guy friend and a female friend like that!
@@christinam777 exactomundo! The narc feels good somehow with the spiritual exchange and the other one is depleted and destroyed and must soul search ever sooo deeply just to come back whole again.
Can u do a video on identity/ sense of self...what is it? What's it made of? How do you know when you have an integrated one?
great question. one way i like to think about it: a set of fixed or relatively unchangeable traits/preferences/interests/beliefs that inform boundaries and behavior.
for example: i currently identify as an angry person. this comes with its own set of behaviors.
but if i can shift that to believing i’m a loving person (in a real way, not just saying it), i will abstain from certain behaviors even if angry.
i hope this makes some sense
what do I think, what do I want never occurred to me most of my life
Same.
It is time to worry about you!
IKR,
Putting my needs first is not automatic when others needs have always come first. I am reprogramming to put my needs/wants first
Well said it feels so good to love me first😍
Lisa ... spot on! I cannot say how much this ALL resonated with me. It has been nearly 6 years that i am co-dependant with my partner, of course i cannot diagnose him as a narcissist but he does have many narcisstic traits. I am now in the process of trying to let go, the lies of him commiting to me, the constant lies are tiring me so much. As a typical co-dependant i always put him first, make sure he is emotionally supported, he has me his best friend whenever he is angry or upset etc, a good step mother to his child etc ...and he sorts out the finances etc( just like you said). Yet i am in the depths of depression and i cannot talk to him, whenever i open up he doesnt want to listen to me and will shut the phone on me or walk away and ignore me. I cannot do this anymore lisa, i am in so much pain. ! I will try to do what you have said.. i want to walk on a path of healing and recovery
I’m sorry you are going through it. Please, if possible, leave this relationship and don’t get in another one until you have sorted yourself out. Narcissists can sniff out codependents. It’s a sixth sense. Don’t get out of this relationship and then find yourself with another narcissist. Stay single until you have studied codependency, have done work on yourself, you have your identity and feel good while single.
Paper Mario So true! My ex covert narc’s Dad is also a narc and his wife is a codependent who is very similar to me and always putting others first. At least I stood up for myself when it came to the covert narc whereas she just lets her husband and son exploit her. It’s so sad!
I just got Lisa’s latest book on audio and loving it! 💕 I just wish I bought it years ago!!!
@@PaperMario64 thank you.. you are right...i will need to recover and heal and focus on myself. I really dont recognise myself anymore
The longer you put him first, the longer it will take you later to put yourself first. If he is the center of your world, just imagine what it will feel like when he disgards you. You will feel like you lost your whole world. And he will. It's not about if, it's when. It will be when he can't get anything more out of you.
And, when they really put the thumbscrews on, I just say, “Which part of the word ‘no’ don’t you understand?”
Lisa you’re always on time! This reminds me to be mind of my intention because I find that I often seek others validation but I’m learning to act from a place of Knowing I’m good enough. Which leads me to ask you if you can do a new video on how to Only seek your own validation! I would be so Grateful ✨😊 Thank You
How to seek your own approval iS to love yourself more than you have ever loved you, Alack of self love is the root cause of all suffering in this univeese!!! Yowith you u are more than enough lovely lady......i guess this will resonate with you
I am constantly working on not attaching my value to good things I do to benefit others. Great message.
Even three years after I learned about codependency, I still fall into the same behavior. Someone just asked me to do something with them and I immediately said yes. Then after hanging up the phone, I felt a really strong feeling of regret, I really didn't want to do it. I did it anyway to honor my word, but I promised myself (again) not to say yes so fast, next time...
Oh well, at least I can recognize It... Now, I have to get better at recognizing it BEFORE I commit!
251omega,
IKR, it’s so easy to fall into our familiar patterns without being aware. Before I commit myself I now say, can I get back to you tomorrow? It allows me time
to see if I want to follow through✌️
@@phoenixrising8007 I'll try that! Just keepin' on..
Same here. I have gotten better, but when I say yes and then I regret it, I give myself permission to change my mind. It is my prerogative to do so. If that person doesn't accept it gracefully, it means that they are entitled and that they don't respect you enough. I have removed some people from my inner circle because of that and my life is a lot better for it.
It is extremely difficult to overcome that conditioning. It took me years before I was comfortable with even saying the word “no”. Keep working on it! You will get there!
@@marmadukescarlet7791 thanks, (that's what I keep telling myself) I will keep trying. I really don't have a choice. I'd be really sick if I thought pairing up with another narcissist for more abuse, was an option or a "good" thing!
Truth, co-dependency is a spell. Lots of self love and boundaries help
But a narc/NPD can be codependent, right? Except for them the person is interchangeable with anybody else of equal or greater value. Emotions can be easily retracted from one and placed on another, new source in an instant.
"I'm going to take care of this person, and they are going to handle the finances"....first marriage. Disaster
I’m totally guilty of this oof
Thank you for the work you do!🧡
I live w/ my adult son, he resembles & portrays abusive Grandfather & now feel stuck w/ responsibilities....pets, laundry, dinner....i look awful. I remember what u say, 'do something nice 4 yourself daily'
Dating is dangerous.
Best dating is when your with a group of friends. Ask him to bring along 2 couples and take your best mates and partners with you so you can see how he acts with his buddies, company he keeps. If he gets along with your best mates.
@@wanda4573 that actually sounds sooo good it sounds wise! ☺️☺️
@@firstladyqueen5985 well their is a 1st for me some times 🤣been wise.
Dating when you have terrible boundaries is dangerous. In fact life is dangerous when you have terrible boundaries. My case.
@@McFraneth do lisa course and date one of the people in the class. Help with finding a healed goodie. ❤ it would be good if lisa had a list whose done the course and looking at dating. You could be the match maker while keeping one eye open for your goodie. 🥰
Geezze I’m more confused:/ been on my own since I turned 13. My life has been about surviving, making my way, being strong to handle rejection/judgement/work/professionalism & dealing with the constant flow of narcissistic people I’ve attracted. I can’t help feeling the need for validation in everything I do. I think I’m way down the codependent rabbit hole & cant see a way out! I now know, thx to your videos, who/what narcissist are, and have naturally cut myself free of basically everyone the past 2 yrs - all narcissists, now I’m lost in fear of who to let back in my life! Crikey! What’s the secrete now!?!
Kat West I totally understand what you mean about getting the narcissistic people out of your life and not knowing what to do next. 🤔
But when you hv left the narcisst and u need financial support for the kids you have to be dependant sometimes and not able to say no
Very organized material and delivery. Thanks so much. It really helped.
I am a co dependant that is speaking up to the people who I have been dealing with for years including bills housing etc and speaking up is not warmly received by my husband at first I was ready to divorce him thinking I was crazy but my angel Lisa I am really going forward and I still don’t have any fantasy that it’s going to be perfect for us but I have many tools thanks to you and if I don’t know I google your name and my questions and you always have something that helps me. Love and light to you !!!!
I can relate with constantly thinking about the other person OMG i just paused the video and put on a mask and did my laundry because those were things for me that I was putting off and prioritizing others and I really felt bad for myself when you said it clearly
When you start saying 'No.' others get ticked off. I and a close friend (used to be a close friend) are right in this spot. Waited for the next video... thanks Lisa
I love your videos and advices. One thing i don't entirely understand in this video is - well aren't you always "attaching" to something outside of self, in which you are finding worth (for yourself identity). Like if you are a sports person, or a designer or an actor, or a mother.. or... - it is what you do, but isn't this by default connected with sense of self - for instance working on your "purpose" or achiving goals, dreams .. etc.. these are all things in a way "outside" of self (we were not born with it, yet somehow it gives us the identity. Question is, if this is not where you find your self-worth and respect and identity, than where do you find it than? Like what is self? if not also connected closely with what one does (do). Thanks for answer.
I have the same question
Thank you for the work you do, it’s helping me more and more everyday
Please help. How do I break codependency from my ex, she is mother of my daughter so I have to see her each week, I can’t go no contact. we split 5 years ago after a toxic long term relationship, she broke my heart more than once. She has lots of bpd traits & has multiple partners since our split but for some reason I still want her & cant stop ruminating over her. I know she is not the one for me, I know she is not a good person but there is some sort of obsession in my head that makes me still want her, I feel crappy over it.🙁
I know, it's tough! It's an addiction.
Keith Hine I don't have time to write much now, but want to let you know that grieving helped me when I ended my last "relationship" with an extremely narcissistic man. It involved crying whenever I needed to, which can take up a lot of time and it's painful. It must've worked though, because I have absolutely NO desire to see the person ever again! He does live in another city, yet I know that I'd have no interest in him if he walked past me tomorrow. I wish you all the very best and I realise that it will harder for you since you see the person every week. ❤
You are SO RIGHT....it's s constant state of "neediness"...and now
I can catch myself before I enmrsh....I meditate every single day......it's KEY....THANKS Lisa....you are so Clear.
Thanks for making the connection between codependency and C-PTSD.
I was taught as a child to always consider the other person first leaving no room for what I thought felt or needed. I was told it is selfish. How do you differentiate between the two mindsets? What is healthy?
I always wondered why I never felt safe. Thank you for opening my eyes and helping me heal. Love and appreciate you Lisa🥰💕😇🙏🏻
So many light bulb moments ...thankyou Lisa....I need to practise everyday now ....keeping it in my awareness.....setting boundaries......and holding on tight to the hand of my little self ....and taking care of him....
Your books and videos are so healing. I am 6 years of coda recovery but i feel like I rapidly healed and leveled up so much faster since I started listening to you. Thank you. I never felt seen by my mom. But I couldn’t feel that bc she would tell me I was wrong. I felt invisible. But now I validate myself. The more I heal, the more I am realizing how brainwashed I was in always searching for happiness in the future. Now I’m happy in the present. I feel my emotions when I need to. I go to the right people when I need help.
Thank you so much from Dublin Ireland,, your videos have been invaluable in my recovery from codependency ,self awareness is key, also self compassion... Namaste
I told my sister and brother in law that I didnt want to party at their apartments anymore because every time I go over there, there is massive amounts of drama and everyone is very hurtful to each other. I was called every name in the book and they told me they never cared about me and only tolerate me. I dont want to point the finger at anyone, I just don’t want drama. But that’s all I ever get :/ anyways love your videos 💞💞
This is the best and most helpful video I have ever watched regarding how I've let others opinions run my life. This has been me for too long of my life. Absolutely bang on the money. Thank you so much Lisa.
Morning lisa. 🦚⚘🐕
So I can never count on a man to provide & protect? Is that seeking validation?
Thanks Lisa, I appreciate your videos so much, it’s hard to find my peace but listening to your videos help tremendously, along my journey. Sometimes I don’t have a clue what my purpose is an feel so alone but again thanks
The more I watch these videos the more I realize how many people in my life are also codependent. I know so many people who always try to identify with their job or major, who can never be without a significant other, who stay blinded because they don’t want to examine their situations. Codependency is an epidemic.
Yeah my whole life it has seemed like other people are allowed to have boundaries and say no if they want and its respected but if I try to say no or lay out boundaries everyone has a problem with it and its like I havr to explain myself. So I finally got to a place in life where I got really defensive and angry. Because I got tired of it.
Lisa 🧡🌼‼️ thank you......amazing information that resonates 😠🍓🇺🇸🇺🇸
I cried through the whole video! Thank you for being a light. I started my healing journey today!!!
Lisa I honestly can't regret having learnt about your videos recently. I feel there's hope to recovery. I don't want to look back at the wasted 22yrs...my journey has just began and i must live to my best. You have been an encouragement. I just feel like you're next to me. You are indeed an angel sent on time directly to me. God bless you so much darling.
Hallo mam thank you for all your messages it has been helping me trough life ..
Maybe a good way to observe our thoughts at times would be Journaling in the moment you're feeling some stuff then going back and reading it objectively.
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What i really never understood; where do this themes about narcists suddenly come from? For many years people already had to deal with such things....
Sara Digota I don't have time to write much now, but want to let you know that I learnt about codependency etc at Adult Children of Acoholics (ACOA) meetings here in Australia about 30 years ago. A woman from America did a lot in regard to the meetings etc and she had books sent over as well. 🙂
Beautiful and intelligent woman
Powerful message given with a touch of humor. Thanks Lisa 😺
Yep. That’s all I have to say...
Thank you 💜
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I'm confused because I am all of the above traits of the codependent
But the resentment towards the significant other made me build a mental wall and I mourn the relationship ending before I check out so the wall is totally up I don't"consciously" feel loss
But I get in other messed up relationships but I don't jump straight in its a year or 2 better or longer
I so have cptsd but because I am not a rambling bumbling nutcase deemed to not fit the criteria for psychology sessions
I think I am verging on boarder line pd if I'm.honest 🤔
NB it was through being groomed lovebombed then discarded then hoovered and feeling like I was going mad I stopped trying to figure out what was wrong with him and focus on myself and
Codependency and cptsd explained my childhood trauma of losing my sister to cancer aged 9 she was ill for 2 year's could not talk or felt able to ask questions about it the hospital visits traumatized me and 30 years later my mother admitted it and how k was treated by my dad after her death in the comments of my being stupid and I felt like I was the one who should of died and I was financially abused and emotionally neglected after she died and I stayed stuck I only understand emotions and my inappropriate behaviour in the past IL shut up
Thank you, full of clear, helpful info, and how to change your thinking and actions, stop explaining yourself when you say, "No", pursue self-validation and growth, you are enough, you have seeds of greatness, you can grow and blossom and pursue your best life!
My daughter was in an extremely abusive relationship. She’s so codependent. She keeps chasing her narcissist or any narcissist and lying to us all. How can our family help her? She says she wants to get help.
Nightly recovery
To be carried with me during the day.
Did you journal today.
Did you take time for your self.
Did you ask for help
Did you win or lose.
Don't play the game.
You can't win.
It's a war zone
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This is me. I was the narcissist family scapegoat! I am no contact with my family for two years . Now working on my codependency
This is me. I’m 44 and my mother is a codependent too so I have no role model to see what a non-codependent looks like in relationships. I grew up having no wants or needs. At this point in life, I don’t know how to change. I am really thinking ending my life may be the best option. I realize all of my relationships/friendships are people who just want my love and support. They don’t really care about me other than what I give or do for them. It took me 44 years to realize this and I’ve never felt more alone. 😢
THANK YOU for this!
Can you make more video's like this? Everything makes sense that you tell.
Wow. You have just really opened my eyes about this. I long suspected I was codependent, but this has really brought a lot of clarity to me as to the details of how and why.
It's more then saying yes it's out about doing things out of obligation.i feel obligated to a few situation where it's a crumbs and no pie. Do it to my self. Why. Self esteem? Unable to comucate my needs or afraid to speak up for myself.
Oh. When someone screams or drivers me I cramp up. I get really uneasy and I can't be my self.loud noises or arguing is an assault on me.
This is one of the most well explained version of codependency. I am codependent, I can see this in almost everyone I've attracted. It's hard to recover. I'm still working on this. If any new great tools, please post!!
Thank you so much Lisa. If we want to have healthy and happy relationships healing codependency is a must.
It's so weird because I never ask for someone to do something for me because they always say no,so I feel unsupported.
When will you have the video available that you talked about at the end of this video where you learn to say no & stop seeking validation from others?
Ms.Romano you have positively,absolutely brought me back from the edge of the cliff I so desperately was about to leap off of(eyes closed tight)...finding your videos and subscribing has virtually the same effect as CPR.....thank you. I plan to share your very precise, easy to understand methods with everyone I come into contact with...it was like listening to an old friend who knew me & knew just what I needed to hear....hard to hear but necessary to my emotional growth.
HI Lisa, I am a recovering Codependent with a truly interesting story that ends with your work transforming my understanding of myself.
I have sent you an email with a book that ihaveritten about my story. It is really a story from the male perspective and I would really like you to read it.
Do you think it is possible to have true love for the 1st time. Have a 2nd chance in life in a deeper true love with being educated. I believe you can have true love again on a new level lisa. I believe and hope I can find mine as well in new healthy ways. Good luck lisa Romano you are truly pretty cool. Thank you very much!🤙🤟😺😀 have a great week.
So much more to it of course but because of how I grew up I think I must put something off to people in general that gives then the idea they can treat me a certain way. And I really don't get what I'm doing thats so different than everyone else.
Thank you Lisa
Found her at 34 35 now. Wish I found her in my teens! But better late than never. Your work is life saving
I'm over here jaw to the floor she just described my childhood and marriage wtf lol
Dr lisa many thanks for this great content I am looking forward to pick one of your books and read it thoroughly. I have looked through many of your videos and I am sorry if I missed it but I hope you do a video one day about "how to learn to love yourself" . I have read books about this topic and just find it so hard to do when that feeling of loneliness hits you hard. prayer and meditation helps a lot I must say. Id love to know your opinion on this.
Thank you Lisa!!! I am in the middle of divorcing the man that I started seeing at the age of 14. He was horribly psychologically abusive to our daughter & me, especially! I swear this is how I truly feel and I would love to hear your opinion and insight on the point I'm getting ready to make. Since we were both so young when we got together and him being a malignant narc with sociopathic traits, is this what could've started my codependent traits? I swear he is/was the only person that I felt codependent with. I do not act or feel that way with any other person in my life. I am a strong willed, independent, never begging for approval or needing validation from anyone...except him. Can a toxic, disordered, alcoholic person turn you into a codependent?
Thank you for the discount Lisa, I joined your membership and ready for help with healing!
I keep thinking that at the very least l am a covert narcissist, and l have mannerisms of the personality and behavioral traits of 'codependency', have had a pretty rough relationship to my mum and an a abandonment by dad. Can codependency and covert narcissism go hand in hand?
Hey Lisa I never get notified when you are live now 😔youtube doesn't notify me anymore . I feel unsafe in my envoirment I have ptsd from all the abuse I've been through .
Meta cognition helped me a lot. YOU helped me a million times over.
Why do I want him back ??
I’m addicted ; it’s chemical! Everyday I find myself calling him. Hanging up. Logically if I talk about it . Your right . Something I read said I am addicted to the dream if the relationship , BUT it is physical . What do I do about the physical part ??
I was so so so co-dependent...still am but, God bless you, on the healing path..thank God you exist, here in my country no one could help the way you do!
Love Lisa,Namaste ♥️
So a people are just like that who they are it's called being humanitarian
Thank you.. ☺️
I really got a good vibe from this video!
Become The Abominable NO MAN".
I thought everyone derived a sense of identity from an external source..
This sounds quite difficult to overcome
Thank you very much for another insightful video. ❤
This is me! My husband makes all the decisions and I’m just the robot. I take care of it all. I don’t have a sense of self anymore. Everyone comes before me.. ive made myself so sick with anxiety and depression I can’t even think for myself anymore without this input because if I make a decision and it’s wrong in his eyes.. here comes the fight.. I’m an idiot, I’m stupid, rage and anger comes from him especially if he’s drinking. I’m always worried!!! I mean worrieeddddd!!
Hope you see a therapist with experience in domestic abuse💓
"Check yourself."🧡
I can’t thank you enough Lisa🙏🙏🙏❤️🙏
I love this thank you so much 💖🥰
Talking about me…🙄
Dear Lisa, I’m watching your videos here from Germany. Just want to say a big thank you for your work. It helps me a lot to see and understand my codependency and how to heal it. Keep shining your light, the world needs it! Much love, Steffi
So I can never count on a man to provide & protect? Is that seeking validation?
I got my mother to Watch (maybe) this Video, first. After so many years and so much "rollercoaster." I am proud of myself, because of Things I dont explain here. I understand there are things, wich only I and noone alse can do.
As i write this my father locked up the door with her Inside.
Maybe tomorrow...
Maybe its lovebombing. I Hope its Not and stakes are high, I decide.
"Your sense of worth is coming from disowning your own Self." ...true
Thank you Lisa ❤