As adults we come to the realization that our lives change ONLY when we CHANGE. I have done the work Dear One, and have created a way for you to experience a radical transformation from within that will kickstart your inner child healing journey and teach you precisely how to also access your higher self...by the way, it's all scientifically proven... Join me for the next LIVE 12 Week Breakthrough Codependency Coaching Program where I am your guide toward your inner transformation www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp
@@Cpatriot mine is too. Can you immagine this: when I left my ex, she than turned against me, and I am her only child. Her covert fear was not that I will be unhappy, but that I will ruin the picture of her happy family, her value and respect in the society, but most of all, she was scared of my independence. Can you immagine? She even trethened with a suicide. That, after a year and a half no contact, when I asked her about the suicide trethening, she acused me for why I belived her. Haha, complete madening. And in the past she was so dominant and controlling. And I belived her, becase she was like she knew everything. She is a doctor. And since my father was an alcoholic, I was there to help her and was an emotional support to her. But she wanted more, she wanted to blame shift and guilt trip me. Tipical covert narc, the bigest victim of all. But I am at the point of radical acceptance. I am even sorry for her.
I love that Thank you❤.The acceptance of the fact that we are codependent takes time as well, otherwise, we will just listen to what you say in our free time and think It's about other people at the same time putting up with things that ruin our lives It's just like being a drug addict...the recovery can only happen when we truely accept the fact that we have a drug problem and are ready to face IT with the feeling of fear and vulnerability, that is called true strength as we do IT no matter how difficult its ❤
@@The1972maxim a drug problem that is not our fault. We we primed from our birth to fight for the love that should be given to us unconditionaly. Now I give that lovr to me. I bow only to God. No more earthly Gods for me!
YOU ARE SO HELPFUL AND I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL. I WAS SHOCKED WHEN YOU SAID ALMOST 60. YOU LOOK AMAZING! LADIES ALSO IF YOU WENT THRU NARCISSITIC ABUSE YOU WILL REGAIN YOUR LOOKS AND EVERYTHING YOU LOST!
I sat at my kitchen counter and looked at my husband and realized how much I cannot stand him. It’s completely over! Same with me I do not need that man’s approval! I could never love this man ever. Too much damage has been done. 56 years worth of being treated like trash!
I see many adults stick as kids. That tells me that many are stick this way and think they are an adult, when not. I love to learn as much about myself, whether it hurts or not. I find many that cover up their mess with drugs and alcohol bc it’s too painful to know the truth about themselves. So bc I’m open to know myself and I don’t look at as painful. I need to take full advantage of that and keep digging.
No sense of self as a result of neglect and abuse magnified my life of confusion and an underlying animosity for my family which I could not make sense of. I am now 50 years old and after over half of my life being medicated, spent in therapy, and practicing Zen Buddhist meditation, I am only now becoming aware of these resultant thoughts and feelings. This is in no small part thanks to you and your content. Your videos are so personal, because of your sharing, and very validating. Unfortunately, my marriage is on the edge of a cliff. The thought of losing my 7 and 6 year old daughters makes it nearly impossible to “pick myself up by my bootstraps” and make a real change. But what will be will be. The challenge is in forgiving myself, not others. While the diagnoses over the years may have felt important at the time, in terms of identity and identification, in the end they don’t mean anything and are only starting points.
Thank you so much I typed in how to help stop myself from pleasing people, an you came up, listening you is an awakening itself I thank God you coming across you 🙏
I’m seeking out therapy because I’m tired of my behavior with codependency. I hate being this way. And setting boundaries feels like a knife in my gut. I’ve been through 4 counselors that only seemed to get frustrated with me because I was struggling to focus on the work. If the new therapist doesn’t work out, Lisa, you’re my last hope. I’m so tired.
It took me 70 years to realize that I spent my entire life codependent. Always seeking approval and acceptance. My mother was a Grandiose Narcissistic Witch. She destroyed my father and brother, both committed suicide. I was a magnet for abusing women that took everything more than once. After much introspection, at this age, my favorite person is my German Shepard (and you).
Yes, I think only my father has really showed me love, because he was attuned with me and shared happines with me. He was listeneing music with me. I still have happy feelings about that.
Thank you so much Lisa. I'm 50 years and have experienced my codependency for the first time ever. The realization of my hidden childhood trauma and how it's affected my recent ended relationship is liberating. My healing journey has started. Never too late
Lisa, you are a Jewel! Thank you so much for lightening my/our way for recovery and reconnection! Deeply touching, extremely helpful! All the blessings to you and everyone one here!
I am 64 year old Gay man in a new relationship and my guides are bringing up my co-dependency BIG TIME! I have used a few of your videos and shared them with my clients. This conversation is 100% connecting with my heart. As a gay kid growing up in the 60's and 70's this conversation is long overdue. Thank you for your sharing your gifts 🙏❤🙏
Awesome! I’ve been in recovery from addiction for 34 years. I’ve been clean and sober and I knew that was something missing. Thank you so much for shining a light on it it in such a lucid and articulate way. I love you for that!
This really helped my. My mother was emotionally abusive and had borderline personality disorder and my ex abused me in the same ways she did and I believed in both cases I thought if I loved them enough theyd love me back and treat me better. My last rship I thought I was finally in a healthy stable rship then realized he was an alcoholic (like my father ) and I was def codeoendant on him and looked past every red flag and did my best to love and care for him till I realized hiw tixic it was and left him. Im going to start my healing journey today so I can attract a healthy rship.
You are amazing Lisa. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't hear your message a few years ago. Been on a self-discovery and self-reclamation journey since. Thank you for all you do and your beautiful light.
I 100% know what you mean about the "dark energy" and getting sucked into the fight. The soon to be ex-narc is doing everything in his power to get me sucked in - threats, blackmail, guilt, shame, you name it he does it. He even tried a subtle death threat the other day. I have decided to not join the fight anymore and "shutty shutty".
Oh my gosh…. I am crying… I am so sorry that you grew up that way…. Much like me…. It just breaks my heart for and for me…. I just can’t believe you are putting into words EVERYTHING I’ve been through and still going through. So many feelings to feel….. wow
I can relate so much to what you’re saying. Turning 40 this year, I’ve been reflecting on my own behaviors and realized that I’ve been repeating the same patterns that you’ve described. I always thought there was something wrong with me, but your insights really hit home. I’m aware that I’ve started displaying these behaviors in a new relationship I really care about, and I’m determined not to let it impact things negatively. I’m committed to making changes and improving myself, but it’s challenging. Your advice is really helpful and motivating for me right now.
One of the greatest gifts my malignant narcissist father left was a copy of his memories. I read it and could not believe the degree to which his whole experience of his life was him. Me, my sister, my mother, his second wife, his parents and his three siblings barely receive a mention. Everything was about him. May he rest in peace and may our souls never cross paths again!
I. Even trying to figure out what is wrong with me wha is the root of my problems. I thought I’m just overly emotional and anxious. Or seasonal depressed. I’m codependent and I’m now starting the journey to heal and be a better me. Thank you for this video it really opens my eyes.
Thank you for your videos. I am 43 yr old man who had no idea how much he buried and carried thru his life. I was shocked the first time I watched as it was like you were talking about me. Thank you for opening my eyes for the first time in my life.
I'm not done with the video yet, but I feel like it's going to be life-changing for me. I can relate to you so much. It made me cry when you were talking about your parents because I had the exact same thing back home No, I'm the way I am and it's painful. Whatever I'm breaking up I'm with somebody or I'm just starting to see someone. I always have this feeling of impending Doom like something bad is going to happen. I'm so sick of it. So sick of the anxiety. I want to beat this so thank you so much for making videos like this and trying to help people❤
My grandmother from dads side was an alcoholic. Only now at 60, when every person in my parental family has past away I realise big part of my ‘problems’ has to do with her alcoholism.. my dad only received love from his dad who committed suicide at an early age. My mom suffered from early dementia. But I am getting there. Thank you Lisa, from Amsterdam ❤
I’ve been exactly where you are. Get some really good help with this. I’m telling you that you can’t do it alone. Keep loving on your kids in the meantime. Remember that you are modeling principles, values and integrity, so treat there mother with respect. You may be the only one who can teach your kids these values. Don’t cry in front of your kids. Look for online groups. Stay on this path, seek to learn what your childhood programming was. 12 step meetings are the first place you might look to hear how others handle this process. Good luck.
Its so interesting how I have a thought and then a youtube video pops up that goes deeper into that specific thought. I am codependent and I recently had the idea to repeat Shanti Shanti. I will bring peace to myself. Your video resonates with me. Thank you. Super helpful.
Thank you so much Lisa for the work that you have done. I am running so much through your videos. I am a 62-year-old man and I have had a fair amount of therapy, like the way you have explained these things is so much like you are just reading my mind😍
Thank you for helping me understand why I attract Narcissists or Super religious which I’m not into either they like to control and I can’t ever give up my control again
Lisa, Thank you for being YOU!!! You are so incredibly article and convey your thoughts so precisely! I am so sorry for what you have gone through, but you are helping SO many people! You are beautiful outside and in. .
I appreciate your openness Lisa. I'm trying to heal, but I had to thoroughly Understand what I need to heal.. I thought my mom was only had babyblues. As an only child I am tangled with them, til now my dad lives in my house and he rearranged everything including the furnitures. I thought I was avoiding his Rage. To me, Love is a privillege, not everyone gets love. But since my business also went down, I knew it is my subcon sabotage. It is not about self Pity, we need to see the picture before we can get back to Normal and hv our life in control.. ❤ sending love from Indonesia.
I literally felt like you were talking to me in this video! I found myself nodding yes so many times listening to this amd it resonated so big with me! Thank you for your videos Lisa ❤️
I don't have to imagine it unfor tunatelly I live that every day. I am deeply sorry that u went through this awful sensations and feelings but I am happy u could succesfully recover from this.Thank u so much for sharing this. I feel that I am looking at myself in a mirror...Can u sha ke me so I awaken? This is an every day nightmare 24/7... except when I sleep n' sometimes not even there I can be free!!.😢💔
If you take away the detail, it sounds like we had almost the same childhood and came to the same conclusions not aware that this wasn't just a part of everyone's life, though I'm male and when I gained size, fight became my only cope. This is very strange but helpful because you have so much more wisdom that I can believe and learn from.
When I would confront my father about his abusive behavior, it would result in a huge fight where he would scream at me "God damn you to hell!". When I became too old to be intimidated and he wanted to deny the fight took place he would say "Let's just be friendly". I am not sure which statement hurt me more.
Lisa you have a gift of explaining things in such a beautiful and logical way! I feel so much like I have had the same wounded little girl view of love. Hoping that as I overcome codependency I can attract a good man to come even if I am in my 50's.
Such a great video… thank you!! You explain codependency so well, I too, was in a narcissistic relationship in my first marriage due to my parents. I’m on my healing journey and thankfully have found you & journaling.
Amazing Talk here - this entire talk is 100% relatable and True Freedom is on the other side of it all after doing the work. Thank You for Your Clarity in every word. 62 yrs. old here. Always Learning. Been working on it for years now. Best work anyone will ever do .
My grade two lesson from the priest we called “ father” for religious class, said we had to strive to B E perfect. Be perfect in the eyes of god. So my gr two mind said you can’t make errors.
Thank you!!!Lisa. Excellent, professional and easy way to share your experiences with us . I had all my relationships codependency, I am in my journey to heal.
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. It is such a relief knowing that there is an explanation for my mother's behavior. She passed. I forgave her. But now, I need to work on my recovery. Amazing information.
I came across you couple of days ago, and already have learned so much. To be able to understand brings to much relief. Next step is to practice that will bring freedom. THANK YOU SO MUCH for your time, and care 🙏
Codependency is hard for me to understand and why I’m watching to see if I am. I do attract ppl. that are narcissistic and problematic and think I can fox them. Well, what i realize today was something I do, either attracts narcissists or allow ppl. to used my and not respect me. So what have to change my way somehow so I can get a different reaction from others or not get involved with troubled ppl. and think I can rescue them and they will love me for taking the time to help them.
Also this one ex I asked if I was controlling?! She said in a loving way and this comes from an ex that’s wanted me back for over 20 years and I love her but had to back off. So am I codependent bc we used to fight all the time bc of her drug use and being irresponsible.
The poems and letters and acts of service to my own detriment… I am the adult child of a recovered alcoholic. She is now an amputee in a wheelchair and I am her caregiver. I gave her my life, but she won’t put it on “the books” for compensation because she refuses to admit that I help- even though her doctors acknowledge that I had to quit my job to take care of her. I guess this is the beginning and the end of my story. Daughters free yourselves before it’s too late!
Despite how horrible this must be for you guys, you are such decent people for being their care givers. No good deed goes unseen by the Lord. Praying that you will soon find happiness 🙏
As a person who had a parent with alcohol issues.. I have tried to cope with my problems by drinking, but I didn't enjoy it at all.. so I'm not worried about becoming an alcoholic. But.. My coping strategy is eating tasty things like chocolate. That is damaging in a whole other way.
As adults we come to the realization that our lives change ONLY when we CHANGE. I have done the work Dear One, and have created a way for you to experience a radical transformation from within that will kickstart your inner child healing journey and teach you precisely how to also access your higher self...by the way, it's all scientifically proven... Join me for the next LIVE 12 Week Breakthrough Codependency Coaching Program where I am your guide toward your inner transformation www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp
@@Cpatriot mine is too. Can you immagine this: when I left my ex, she than turned against me, and I am her only child. Her covert fear was not that I will be unhappy, but that I will ruin the picture of her happy family, her value and respect in the society, but most of all, she was scared of my independence. Can you immagine? She even trethened with a suicide. That, after a year and a half no contact, when I asked her about the suicide trethening, she acused me for why I belived her. Haha, complete madening. And in the past she was so dominant and controlling. And I belived her, becase she was like she knew everything. She is a doctor. And since my father was an alcoholic, I was there to help her and was an emotional support to her. But she wanted more, she wanted to blame shift and guilt trip me. Tipical covert narc, the bigest victim of all. But I am at the point of radical acceptance. I am even sorry for her.
I love that Thank you❤.The acceptance of the fact that we are codependent takes time as well, otherwise, we will just listen to what you say in our free time and think It's about other people at the same time putting up with things that ruin our lives It's just like being a drug addict...the recovery can only happen when we truely accept the fact that we have a drug problem and are ready to face IT with the feeling of fear and vulnerability, that is called true strength as we do IT no matter how difficult its ❤
@@The1972maxim a drug problem that is not our fault. We we primed from our birth to fight for the love that should be given to us unconditionaly. Now I give that lovr to me. I bow only to God. No more earthly Gods for me!
YOU ARE SO HELPFUL AND I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL. I WAS SHOCKED WHEN YOU SAID ALMOST 60. YOU LOOK AMAZING! LADIES ALSO IF YOU WENT THRU NARCISSITIC ABUSE YOU WILL REGAIN YOUR LOOKS AND EVERYTHING YOU LOST!
You are amazing, keep up the great work! So many of us have had similar experiences and are benefiting from your experiences.
I sat at my kitchen counter and looked at my husband and realized how much I cannot stand him. It’s completely over! Same with me I do not need that man’s approval! I could never love this man ever. Too much damage has been done. 56 years worth of being treated like trash!
even after years of recovery and healing I still fall back into old habits so easily. I realise later that I was behaving in a codependent way.
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Same here.
Same here. I didn’t know I had no sense of self until recently!
My daughter brought me here , I want to be free. ❤This is not a fun feeling
Same.
I started to reparent my inner child.
I keep hearing About parenting yourself and am going to try it.
@@jilli813 that is the healing, the most important thing.
I see many adults stick as kids. That tells me that many are stick this way and think they are an adult, when not. I love to learn as much about myself, whether it hurts or not. I find many that cover up their mess with drugs and alcohol bc it’s too painful to know the truth about themselves. So bc I’m open to know myself and I don’t look at as painful. I need to take full advantage of that and keep digging.
Thank YOU for being here Lisa ❤
No sense of self as a result of neglect and abuse magnified my life of confusion and an underlying animosity for my family which I could not make sense of. I am now 50 years old and after over half of my life being medicated, spent in therapy, and practicing Zen Buddhist meditation, I am only now becoming aware of these resultant thoughts and feelings.
This is in no small part thanks to you and your content. Your videos are so personal, because of your sharing, and very validating.
Unfortunately, my marriage is on the edge of a cliff. The thought of losing my 7 and 6 year old daughters makes it nearly impossible to “pick myself up by my bootstraps” and make a real change. But what will be will be. The challenge is in forgiving myself, not others. While the diagnoses over the years may have felt important at the time, in terms of identity and identification, in the end they don’t mean anything and are only starting points.
❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing. Your life seems to mirror mine. ❤
14:05 “We think we are our emotions but we’re not” - slow clap. Beautiful
"I feel like my mom is behind a glass of pain" hit home, I can completely understand..
Thank you so much I typed in how to help stop myself from pleasing people, an you came up, listening you is an awakening itself I thank God you coming across you 🙏
Both my parents were narcs. It nearly destroyed me but I realize they were/are sick.
Demonized. People can change if they receive salvation .
I’m seeking out therapy because I’m tired of my behavior with codependency. I hate being this way. And setting boundaries feels like a knife in my gut. I’ve been through 4 counselors that only seemed to get frustrated with me because I was struggling to focus on the work. If the new therapist doesn’t work out, Lisa, you’re my last hope. I’m so tired.
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How are you doing today Lesley? Have you found the right therapist? Are you feeling stronger?❤
It took me 70 years to realize that I spent my entire life codependent. Always seeking approval and acceptance. My mother was a Grandiose Narcissistic Witch. She destroyed my father and brother, both committed suicide. I was a magnet for abusing women that took everything more than once. After much introspection, at this age, my favorite person is my German Shepard (and you).
Dogs are the best! Bless you🙏❤️
GSD ❤ a gentleman dog with lot of grounding energy. Now, my BC ❤ beeing in awe
Dogs are the best remedy against narcissistic abuse.
My childhood was so similar. Add a sadistic streak to both parents. Thanks for your honesty
Beautiful, Lisa. Your words are really healing. Thank you.
Yes, I think only my father has really showed me love, because he was attuned with me and shared happines with me. He was listeneing music with me. I still have happy feelings about that.
This is absolutely an “aha” moment for me…thank you
Thank you for being there ❤
you look 20 years younger! Gods gift of more youth for your loss of youth. ♡ much love
@@thelt247 hey thank you for that❤️🌷
Thank you so much Lisa. I'm 50 years and have experienced my codependency for the first time ever. The realization of my hidden childhood trauma and how it's affected my recent ended relationship is liberating. My healing journey has started. Never too late
Lisa, you are a Jewel! Thank you so much for lightening my/our way for recovery and reconnection! Deeply touching, extremely helpful! All the blessings to you and everyone one here!
This was so valuable for me, thank you.
Good morning from San Diego!🌸
Gm from New York This is amazing thank you so much we still working on this ❤❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I am 64 year old Gay man in a new relationship and my guides are bringing up my co-dependency BIG TIME! I have used a few of your videos and shared them with my clients. This conversation is 100% connecting with my heart. As a gay kid growing up in the 60's and 70's this conversation is long overdue. Thank you for your sharing your gifts 🙏❤🙏
I am a 60 year old gay man, same story. I am here to learn. Love and respect from the Netherlands, brother!
@@martyvirtue4051 my relatives came from the Netherlands back in the 1700's
Maybe you should get together and be gay together. Nobody cares what your orientation is. Its 2024
Awesome! I’ve been in recovery from addiction for 34 years. I’ve been clean and sober and I knew that was something missing. Thank you so much for shining a light on it it in such a lucid and articulate way. I love you for that!
I had a wonderful childhood with two devoted parents who made sure I knew o was the center of their world. Unfortunately they had a terrible marriage
This really helped my. My mother was emotionally abusive and had borderline personality disorder and my ex abused me in the same ways she did and I believed in both cases I thought if I loved them enough theyd love me back and treat me better. My last rship I thought I was finally in a healthy stable rship then realized he was an alcoholic (like my father ) and I was def codeoendant on him and looked past every red flag and did my best to love and care for him till I realized hiw tixic it was and left him. Im going to start my healing journey today so I can attract a healthy rship.
When u said growing up with dysfunctional parents and going to catholic school then being punished there totally hit home for me
You are amazing Lisa. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't hear your message a few years ago. Been on a self-discovery and self-reclamation journey since. Thank you for all you do and your beautiful light.
I 100% know what you mean about the "dark energy" and getting sucked into the fight. The soon to be ex-narc is doing everything in his power to get me sucked in - threats, blackmail, guilt, shame, you name it he does it. He even tried a subtle death threat the other day. I have decided to not join the fight anymore and "shutty shutty".
Thank you for this, Lisa. I am a codependent. I'm 60-years old, right now.
Oh my gosh…. I am crying… I am so sorry that you grew up that way…. Much like me…. It just breaks my heart for and for me…. I just can’t believe you are putting into words EVERYTHING I’ve been through and still going through. So many feelings to feel….. wow
Me Too😓
Thank you for sharing your story. I see many parallels in my childhood. I feel not so alone.
I can relate so much to what you’re saying. Turning 40 this year, I’ve been reflecting on my own behaviors and realized that I’ve been repeating the same patterns that you’ve described. I always thought there was something wrong with me, but your insights really hit home. I’m aware that I’ve started displaying these behaviors in a new relationship I really care about, and I’m determined not to let it impact things negatively. I’m committed to making changes and improving myself, but it’s challenging. Your advice is really helpful and motivating for me right now.
One of the greatest gifts my malignant narcissist father left was a copy of his memories. I read it and could not believe the degree to which his whole experience of his life was him. Me, my sister, my mother, his second wife, his parents and his three siblings barely receive a mention. Everything was about him. May he rest in peace and may our souls never cross paths again!
Just figured this out at 67 in a narcissistic marriage of 27 yrs😢
Thank you for your work.
Dang !!! You said things that are hitting home
This was amazing. I didn't realize I was codependent. I knew I did a lot of self-abandoning, but didn't connect these dots!
I LOVE the videos where you just talk and it's just you! I've watched SO many of your videos. This one is so good. Thank you!
I. Even trying to figure out what is wrong with me wha is the root of my problems. I thought I’m just overly emotional and anxious. Or seasonal depressed. I’m codependent and I’m now starting the journey to heal and be a better me. Thank you for this video it really opens my eyes.
I am there now! Where you was with your husband. He was raging and yelling at me, and the kid, so I left.
Good move
Thank you for your videos. I am 43 yr old man who had no idea how much he buried and carried thru his life. I was shocked the first time I watched as it was like you were talking about me. Thank you for opening my eyes for the first time in my life.
I see you, Lisa! ❤
One of the clearest explanations of codependency I’ve found. Thank you
Wow, I would never give you 59. You look 20-30 years younger! I believe inner healing does that!
I'm not done with the video yet, but I feel like it's going to be life-changing for me. I can relate to you so much. It made me cry when you were talking about your parents because I had the exact same thing back home
No, I'm the way I am and it's painful. Whatever I'm breaking up I'm with somebody or I'm just starting to see someone. I always have this feeling of impending Doom like something bad is going to happen. I'm so sick of it. So sick of the anxiety. I want to beat this so thank you so much for making videos like this and trying to help people❤
@@Mia-666-mi please check out my 12 Week Breakthrough Program www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp
@lisaaromano1 thank you lisa
My grandmother from dads side was an alcoholic. Only now at 60, when every person in my parental family has past away I realise big part of my ‘problems’ has to do with her alcoholism.. my dad only received love from his dad who committed suicide at an early age. My mom suffered from early dementia. But I am getting there. Thank you Lisa, from Amsterdam ❤
I’ve been exactly where you are. Get some really good help with this. I’m telling you that you can’t do it alone. Keep loving on your kids in the meantime. Remember that you are modeling principles, values and integrity, so treat there mother with respect. You may be the only one who can teach your kids these values. Don’t cry in front of your kids. Look for online groups. Stay on this path, seek to learn what your childhood programming was. 12 step meetings are the first place you might look to hear how others handle this process. Good luck.
Its so interesting how I have a thought and then a youtube video pops up that goes deeper into that specific thought. I am codependent and I recently had the idea to repeat Shanti Shanti. I will bring peace to myself. Your video resonates with me. Thank you. Super helpful.
Very clear...makes sense...how much is level 1? U told my story.
Love how you explain everything! Appreciate it!
Wow I could write this as my life story!
God and prayer will help how to deal with theses narcissistic people
Thank you so much Lisa for the work that you have done. I am running so much through your videos. I am a 62-year-old man and I have had a fair amount of therapy, like the way you have explained these things is so much like you are just reading my mind😍
Thank you for helping me understand why I attract Narcissists or Super religious which I’m not into either they like to control and I can’t ever give up my control again
Your knowledge and insight has truly helped me in my healing journey !! Thank you for sharing your gifts with us Lisa 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Lisa, Thank you for being YOU!!! You are so incredibly article and convey your thoughts so precisely! I am so sorry for what you have gone through, but you are helping SO many people! You are beautiful outside and in. .
I appreciate your openness Lisa. I'm trying to heal, but I had to thoroughly Understand what I need to heal.. I thought my mom was only had babyblues. As an only child I am tangled with them, til now my dad lives in my house and he rearranged everything including the furnitures. I thought I was avoiding his Rage. To me, Love is a privillege, not everyone gets love. But since my business also went down, I knew it is my subcon sabotage. It is not about self Pity, we need to see the picture before we can get back to Normal and hv our life in control.. ❤ sending love from Indonesia.
You are helping me so much. Thank you Lisa and God bless you.❤❤❤
I literally felt like you were talking to me in this video! I found myself nodding yes so many times listening to this amd it resonated so big with me! Thank you for your videos Lisa ❤️
I don't have to imagine it unfor tunatelly I live that every day. I am deeply sorry that u went through this awful sensations and feelings but I am happy u could succesfully recover from this.Thank u so much for sharing this. I feel that I am looking at myself in a mirror...Can u sha ke me so I awaken? This is an every day nightmare 24/7... except when I sleep n' sometimes not even there I can be free!!.😢💔
I can't look at my past with my parents it hurts way too much and I get screwed up for months
You can't heal what you don't address. The Lord will help you . Give Him your pain.. God is in the healing business.
If you take away the detail, it sounds like we had almost the same childhood and came to the same conclusions not aware that this wasn't just a part of everyone's life, though I'm male and when I gained size, fight became my only cope. This is very strange but helpful because you have so much more wisdom that I can believe and learn from.
This is hard to overcome indeed I've basically given up but quite happy to
This is so helpful! 😢I now understand why I act in a certain way, there way I do. Thank you Lisa.
Wow, this is the most accurate desription of being coodependant. Lady. You are awesome.
Self abandonment and people pleasing, never staying in my own energy no wonder none of the relationships we get into work out
Wow, for almost 60... you look amazing! Thank you for the video, just found your channel❤
Thank you Lisa for fullfilling your mission, much gratitude, much Love💓💓💓
thanks this is a great video, gonna have to watch it a few times to absorb it all
and "i'll be 60" i honestly thought you were like, 42!
This is one of your best videos.👌
When I would confront my father about his abusive behavior, it would result in a huge fight where he would scream at me "God damn you to hell!". When I became too old to be intimidated and he wanted to deny the fight took place he would say "Let's just be friendly". I am not sure which statement hurt me more.
Lisa you have a gift of explaining things in such a beautiful and logical way! I feel so much like I have had the same wounded little girl view of love. Hoping that as I overcome codependency I can attract a good man to come even if I am in my 50's.
Thank you so much Lisa!
Thank you😊
Thanks!
Such a great video… thank you!! You explain codependency so well, I too, was in a narcissistic relationship in my first marriage due to my parents. I’m on my healing journey and thankfully have found you & journaling.
Love this Lisa. So helpful to my understanding of my codependent history
Amazing Talk here - this entire talk is 100% relatable and True Freedom is on the other side of it all after doing the work. Thank You for Your Clarity in every word. 62 yrs. old here. Always Learning. Been working on it for years now. Best work anyone will ever do .
As soon as I can afford your course, I will take it.
My grade two lesson from the priest we called “ father” for religious class, said we had to strive to B E perfect. Be perfect in the eyes of god. So my gr two mind said you can’t make errors.
23:27 - 24:55
Your such a treasure, Lisa!
Thank you!!!Lisa. Excellent, professional and easy way to share your experiences with us .
I had all my relationships codependency, I am in my journey to heal.
This is so helpful. Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. It is such a relief knowing that there is an explanation for my mother's behavior. She passed. I forgave her. But now, I need to work on my recovery. Amazing information.
From Uganda
I came across you couple of days ago, and already have learned so much.
To be able to understand brings to much relief. Next step is to practice that will bring freedom.
THANK YOU SO MUCH for your time, and care 🙏
So empowering. ❤ Thank you. Greay shaty shaty. 😂
I love and respect your truth
Much gratitude 🙏🏾
Your amazing Lisa
Codependency is hard for me to understand and why I’m watching to see if I am. I do attract ppl. that are narcissistic and problematic and think I can fox them. Well, what i realize today was something I do, either attracts narcissists or allow ppl. to used my and not respect me. So what have to change my way somehow so I can get a different reaction from others or not get involved with troubled ppl. and think I can rescue them and they will love me for taking the time to help them.
One thing is you really can’t change other ppl. and the only person you can change is yourself. That’s also if you listen and see the signs.
Also this one ex I asked if I was controlling?! She said in a loving way and this comes from an ex that’s wanted me back for over 20 years and I love her but had to back off. So am I codependent bc we used to fight all the time bc of her drug use and being irresponsible.
I think both me and my ex were trying to control each other. I’ve also had this with other partners for dominance.
Thank you, Lisa. ❤😊🙏🙏 Beautifully said!!!
The poems and letters and acts of service to my own detriment… I am the adult child of a recovered alcoholic. She is now an amputee in a wheelchair and I am her caregiver. I gave her my life, but she won’t put it on “the books” for compensation because she refuses to admit that I help- even though her doctors acknowledge that I had to quit my job to take care of her. I guess this is the beginning and the end of my story.
Daughters free yourselves before it’s too late!
I’m in a very similar situation and you are in my prayers!
Despite how horrible this must be for you guys, you are such decent people for being their care givers. No good deed goes unseen by the Lord. Praying that you will soon find happiness 🙏
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As a person who had a parent with alcohol issues.. I have tried to cope with my problems by drinking, but I didn't enjoy it at all.. so I'm not worried about becoming an alcoholic. But.. My coping strategy is eating tasty things like chocolate. That is damaging in a whole other way.
Thank you for this! God bless your heart!
Thanks!
Thank you Lisa I appreciate listening to your good advice 🙏