No i would not leave my husband, people get caught up in status and money( they have things totally backwards) if hes a good man, working and still shows me ( the nurse) that he still loves me and cherishes me, that is all i need...the rest is all material fluff.
I left my last relationship ( not married) for that exact reason....he lacked zero motivation to better himself or work toward a position to earn more money. It's very frustrating.
Yes especially if the person lacks motivation like you can see it but feel like you can motivate them into wanting more by leading an example… she needs a go getter with the same mindset as her 🎯💯
I had a similar situation. The problem arises with traveling. A nurse may need to travel, because that job is so demanding. Vacations and trips are a must for me. Yet, a spouse that is making less will not understand that. Even if you offer to pay for the trip, a lot of men have pride and get upset.
I support the fellas and couples staying together, however, his next move is to put a baby in you. Lady, If you read this message - run now! Anyone (man or woman) that utters the phrase (you work too much) in this economy, RUN! -Sincerely, from a man that respects your hustle.
If he was working at cvs when she married him and they didnt talk about him elevating when they got married, I think it may by a little unfair to ask that of him now especially if he is comfortable where he is at. That is why it is very important for couples to talk about future goals and what is expected from each person in that relationship so that there will be no problems like this. Unless he is cheating or abusing her in some way shape or form, she should work on her marriage. However on the flip side, if they did talk about him elevating and getting a better job and later on he changed his mind, then she may have a valid reason to want to leave because it would be as if she was tricked. Thats just my thoughts
Either he going to elevate or she needs to move on. Because right now they are building resentment against each other. Usually I say money is not everything but trying to stop someone from reaching their goals is. She definitely have to weigh her options. She may never find another partner she has to be ok with that too.
First and foremost, based upon experience. Men don’t like their women making more than them. They feel it’s emasculating. Which I can understand to a certain extent. That extent being, okay well maybe he should better himself and make more. There should never be a competition. More so a partnership. Regardless. But again, the standard man feels emasculated due to his ego. & we as women have to stroke that ego. In this situation, it’s gonna be hard but she is gonna have to leave or seek council. Because he can’t feel emasculated but not want to change the situation. It’s 2024, we not in the 1900s. We had a whole women’s rights movement. What part of “WE WANT OUR OWN", don’t people understand?
I wouldn't leave immediately, I'd seek counseling first. That situation would be a turn off for me though. Hopefully she finds a solution quickly because I know a few nurses paying child support and alimony. One nurse I know had to pay alimony until retirement because her husband became disabled during the marriage!
She should have asked him BEFORE they got married if this is what he wanted. Is he making her happy on an emotional level? Minus all the money, vacations, material things. I believe that before you jump into marriage it’s important to live together and accept your partner for strengths and weaknesses. You also do not know what lies on the other side of the dating scene she may find someone amazing, she may also find someone who treats her worse. Really when it comes down to it as long as he’s not holding her back and she has a healthy support system of friends that she can share those ambitions with and travel with her then they can still have a healthy marriage.
I’m leaving. Our goals no longer align, therefore we’re no longer compatible. Marriage is teamwork so if we don’t have a common goal, what’s the point 🤷🏾♀️
I know the kind of life I want. I’ve always been the female that wants to build the life I want with the man I’m going to be with. Didn’t work out like I wanted. If she wants more out of life ok, go get it. If he’s hindering her and doesn’t want more for himself or their relationship then it’s ok to part ways. They on two different paths.
This is more common than anything. I’ve seen so many women graduate nursing school and drop their men. And immediately upgrade their lives and look at men who have as much or more than them.
This is kind of a double edge sword. I’m always trying to better myself because I take on the challenge of trying to create a path for those who come after me. There is also nothing wrong with being content and happy with where you are. The problem today is many women are chasing a lifestyle and I blame social media. If your average working husband was good enough for you to date and eventually marry, don’t expect him to change after the marriage. These same type of individuals will leave their husband and think they will upgrade just because they themselves are doing well financially. Men on their grind and on that financial level don’t typically care about a woman’s career. Things like attractiveness, submission and being a supportive helpmeet come into play.
He should leave her and find a better woman that will love him for who he is no matter what. She dont deserve a man. And definitely not wifey material if she is willing to break those vows over this.
But they are not growing as a couple. She will never feel comfortable enough to have children with him. A man leads the household. She will end up leading the household and resenting him in the long run. If you don’t see the long term issues that this will create then something is missing in you because it’s clear as day to me and I’m sure to anyone who has actually experienced being married and have had long term relationships. It’s better to cut it sooner than later when it will be messier and more hurtful.
@@marissachapman1022 where is not growing as a couple at in the vows? If you take an oath, HONOR IT. bottom line. This is why black women lead the nation in divorce . Yall dont even follow the rules jesus laid down. He said the ONLY reason to divorce is adultery so take that up with God. Fight to keep your family together!
@@officerchaanak8376hunny read your Bible because adultery is not the only reason. Also black women are not the only ones causing divorce for the entire nation. You are very ignorant. People get divorced for many reasons but financial and adultery are the main two sweetheart. Check the stats.
That lady is clearly ambitious and goal oriented and she wants more for herself and her marriage . If the guy isn’t with that, she needs to leave him . If she stays , she’s going to be miserable and feel stuck and that’s going to cause more arguments
Breaking vows over financial issues is a problem. Don’t marry people and expect them to change. Another problem in the black community. 80% of the divorces are filed by our women.
She needs to leave him because they are no longer compatible. The person she was when they got married isn't the person she is now. He is literally hating on her by getting upset about the income. It's time to move on. She'll get another man.
Not wrong at all because it’s not about the money…..it’s about his lack of motivation and his contentment. He does not care to improve. He doesn’t see an issue with not wanting more so that they can continue to grow their family and grow as a couple. I would most definitely move on and it’s wonderful that she does not have children! Run while she still can Easily! Lol the divorce would be so quick and easily especially if they don’t own any property or anything together.
Shiiiid i left my husband once i started making $20 an hour 😂 letalone LPN money! Once i realized i could pay the bills by myself, he was good as gone ✌🏾
No i would not leave my husband, people get caught up in status and money( they have things totally backwards) if hes a good man, working and still shows me ( the nurse) that he still loves me and cherishes me, that is all i need...the rest is all material fluff.
Yes!
I left my last relationship ( not married) for that exact reason....he lacked zero motivation to better himself or work toward a position to earn more money. It's very frustrating.
Yes especially if the person lacks motivation like you can see it but feel like you can motivate them into wanting more by leading an example… she needs a go getter with the same mindset as her 🎯💯
I had a similar situation. The problem arises with traveling. A nurse may need to travel, because that job is so demanding. Vacations and trips are a must for me. Yet, a spouse that is making less will not understand that. Even if you offer to pay for the trip, a lot of men have pride and get upset.
I support the fellas and couples staying together, however, his next move is to put a baby in you. Lady, If you read this message - run now! Anyone (man or woman) that utters the phrase (you work too much) in this economy, RUN! -Sincerely, from a man that respects your hustle.
They need to have good communication instead of asking another man about her problems
If she was not married than that would be a different story
Yes leave
If he was working at cvs when she married him and they didnt talk about him elevating when they got married, I think it may by a little unfair to ask that of him now especially if he is comfortable where he is at. That is why it is very important for couples to talk about future goals and what is expected from each person in that relationship so that there will be no problems like this. Unless he is cheating or abusing her in some way shape or form, she should work on her marriage. However on the flip side, if they did talk about him elevating and getting a better job and later on he changed his mind, then she may have a valid reason to want to leave because it would be as if she was tricked. Thats just my thoughts
Either he going to elevate or she needs to move on. Because right now they are building resentment against each other. Usually I say money is not everything but trying to stop someone from reaching their goals is. She definitely have to weigh her options. She may never find another partner she has to be ok with that too.
First and foremost, based upon experience. Men don’t like their women making more than them. They feel it’s emasculating. Which I can understand to a certain extent. That extent being, okay well maybe he should better himself and make more. There should never be a competition. More so a partnership. Regardless. But again, the standard man feels emasculated due to his ego. & we as women have to stroke that ego.
In this situation, it’s gonna be hard but she is gonna have to leave or seek council. Because he can’t feel emasculated but not want to change the situation.
It’s 2024, we not in the 1900s. We had a whole women’s rights movement. What part of “WE WANT OUR OWN", don’t people understand?
I wouldn't leave immediately, I'd seek counseling first. That situation would be a turn off for me though. Hopefully she finds a solution quickly because I know a few nurses paying child support and alimony. One nurse I know had to pay alimony until retirement because her husband became disabled during the marriage!
It’s either now or later that she’ll leave him.
She should have asked him BEFORE they got married if this is what he wanted. Is he making her happy on an emotional level? Minus all the money, vacations, material things. I believe that before you jump into marriage it’s important to live together and accept your partner for strengths and weaknesses. You also do not know what lies on the other side of the dating scene she may find someone amazing, she may also find someone who treats her worse. Really when it comes down to it as long as he’s not holding her back and she has a healthy support system of friends that she can share those ambitions with and travel with her then they can still have a healthy marriage.
I’m leaving. Our goals no longer align, therefore we’re no longer compatible. Marriage is teamwork so if we don’t have a common goal, what’s the point 🤷🏾♀️
I know the kind of life I want. I’ve always been the female that wants to build the life I want with the man I’m going to be with. Didn’t work out like I wanted. If she wants more out of life ok, go get it. If he’s hindering her and doesn’t want more for himself or their relationship then it’s ok to part ways. They on two different paths.
He good right where he at , leave him exactly where he’s at
Leave early rather than later
He will catch up if he really wants you
This is more common than anything. I’ve seen so many women graduate nursing school and drop their men. And immediately upgrade their lives and look at men who have as much or more than them.
she married him when he made that much. she is the one who wants more and to advance. not him.
This is kind of a double edge sword. I’m always trying to better myself because I take on the challenge of trying to create a path for those who come after me. There is also nothing wrong with being content and happy with where you are. The problem today is many women are chasing a lifestyle and I blame social media. If your average working husband was good enough for you to date and eventually marry, don’t expect him to change after the marriage. These same type of individuals will leave their husband and think they will upgrade just because they themselves are doing well financially. Men on their grind and on that financial level don’t typically care about a woman’s career. Things like attractiveness, submission and being a supportive helpmeet come into play.
He should leave her and find a better woman that will love him for who he is no matter what. She dont deserve a man. And definitely not wifey material if she is willing to break those vows over this.
But they are not growing as a couple. She will never feel comfortable enough to have children with him. A man leads the household. She will end up leading the household and resenting him in the long run. If you don’t see the long term issues that this will create then something is missing in you because it’s clear as day to me and I’m sure to anyone who has actually experienced being married and have had long term relationships. It’s better to cut it sooner than later when it will be messier and more hurtful.
@@marissachapman1022 where is not growing as a couple at in the vows? If you take an oath, HONOR IT. bottom line. This is why black women lead the nation in divorce . Yall dont even follow the rules jesus laid down. He said the ONLY reason to divorce is adultery so take that up with God. Fight to keep your family together!
@@officerchaanak8376hunny read your Bible because adultery is not the only reason. Also black women are not the only ones causing divorce for the entire nation. You are very ignorant. People get divorced for many reasons but financial and adultery are the main two sweetheart. Check the stats.
@@officerchaanak8376here we go with the “black women…” this “black women” that stfu
I wouldnt have never married him because he lacks ambition. I would most definitely leave my marriage.
Leaving someone over money is goofy
That lady is clearly ambitious and goal oriented and she wants more for herself and her marriage . If the guy isn’t with that, she needs to leave him . If she stays , she’s going to be miserable and feel stuck and that’s going to cause more arguments
Breaking vows over financial issues is a problem. Don’t marry people and expect them to change. Another problem in the black community. 80% of the divorces are filed by our women.
She needs to leave him because they are no longer compatible. The person she was when they got married isn't the person she is now. He is literally hating on her by getting upset about the income. It's time to move on. She'll get another man.
Not wrong at all because it’s not about the money…..it’s about his lack of motivation and his contentment. He does not care to improve. He doesn’t see an issue with not wanting more so that they can continue to grow their family and grow as a couple. I would most definitely move on and it’s wonderful that she does not have children! Run while she still can Easily! Lol the divorce would be so quick and easily especially if they don’t own any property or anything together.
Shiiiid i left my husband once i started making $20 an hour 😂 letalone LPN money! Once i realized i could pay the bills by myself, he was good as gone ✌🏾
Currently going through this and ima leave him
HELL NO HE GOT TO GO!SIR PUT A BOOK IN YOUR HAND! HELL TRADE SCHOOL WILL DO..PLUMMER! CARPENTER..TRADE UP HUSBAND!STOP THE CAP! LAZY