Why I Quit My Job as a Registered Nurse...
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WHO AM I:
I'm Jay- an RN, creator, athlete, and student of life from Minnesota, USA.
My mission is to empower others to live a more adventurous, healthy, joyful, and fulfilling life.
I am fascinated with the human body and how we can optimize to function at the highest level possible. Special interests in functional medicine, longevity, nutrition science, and holistic view to health. I strive to deeper understand the connection between the mind, body, and spirit.
I grew up playing sports all day, every day. I played football, basketball, and ran track in high school, playing a bit of basketball at the collegiate level. Ran a marathon. I have always been a hard worker, and I will continue to pursue challenges, play sports, get outside, mtn bike, ski, etc.
I love to travel and experience the world.
Since this video is now over 2 years old, SOME THOUGHTS:
The Pivot
-This was a good PIVOT from a stressful nursing job, to a better one for me. I hope other nurses or medical professionals can learn from that. There is other jobs and opportunities. Find something that works best for you.
-As I've learned a lot more about medicine I am not as jaded. There are wonderful things in medicine. There is ways we truly can impact patients.
-Nursing can be a great job. I still have a desire to make a bigger impact and this desire has sort of plagued me. The route isn't entirely clear -The multitude of questions remain: become MD, NP, or find a different way to impact others health like coaching or business. Regardless, I am very confident that I will find it in time when the time is right. I continue to learn, grow, and just try my best to use my skills to help others.
- Keep going. it will get better.
Thanks for the kind comments, STAY HARD LETS GOOOO BABY.
Love your mentality - Congrats and best of luck on your journey, nursing or not! ❤
I just saw this and concur, u will find your joy:
the moment you sit down, patients think you are playing a video game on the computer
😂
You are so right, the minute you sit down to chart they think you should be up doing something
@@TammiMorrisonhahaha you guys are right.
Patients are difficult and mentally sick sometimes
The thing is most nurses don’t understand that patient needs come before paperwork
@@RorrumaoTell that to the hospitals who require us to do mountains of charting every shift
I've been a BSN-RN for 7 years. I left bedside nursing in med/surg after 3 years -- because one night, a young "baby" nurse, only 22, came and asked me to do a stroke assessment on her. I laughed, realized she was serious, and did as she asked. Her left hand grip was weak, she could barely push with her left leg against pressure, smile was asymmetrical. I told the charge RN, then called the resident to the floor. The charge said casually: "Ah, you're being dramatic. She's 22, not an AARP member. She's just tired. And we don't have coverage to send her off the floor, everyone has 7 patients." I pointed out that if SHE would just take over the young nurse's patient load, then we could cover her and she could go to the ER to be checked out. But the charge was "exhausted" because she'd worked 10 shifts in a row, and refused to let her go until the resident also said he was alarmed by her symptoms and told her to go to the ER right away. By the time she did, she had to be pushed in a wheelchair because she couldn't walk. She was evaluated and found to be actively experiencing a CVA. A cardiac cath was done, revealing a patent foramen ovale. She was also on the pill, which already increases stroke risk, and coupled with the patent FO, her heart had been spitting small clots and one lodged in her brain. She'd complained to the charge of a severe headache and numbness/weakness on her left side for HOURS --- since 7 PM. She came to me for the stroke assessment at 1:30 AM. Far past the window for TPA to be started in time to avoid permanent damage. She was left with residual numbness/weakness in her left hand/arm, a slight limp, and she can't lift her leg to even cross her legs anymore. AT 22 G*DDAMN YEARS OLD. She was DOWN THE HALL from every single thing she needed to prevent this, but no one gives a sh*t about nurses!!! We are expendable. We're not people, we don't have feelings or illnesses or needs. THAT is why we're all peacing out of this hellish trap of a profession... Nobody looks out for us. We're shamed and belittled for asking for help, for saying we're burned out or depressed or sick. Ridiculed for saying the workload is too heavy, or the patients are too high-acuity for our scope of practice, or we're under mental strain. Told by a CHARGE NURSE that symptoms are all in our heads, and that even if something is wrong, we CAN'T leave the floor because there's no one to take over our patients, even if we're having a damn stroke! It is barbaric, toxic, and abusive. When I was pregnant with my son, I had recurring nightmares that I'd go into early labor while on the floor... and be told, while standing in a puddle of amniotic fluid and having contractions, that "we don't have anyone to cover you, so you can't leave the floor." Then I would end up having my baby in the middle of a hospital hallway floor, with an annoyed float nurse in my face, rudely demanding report from me while I held my newborn baby. Nursing has literally been hell on earth for me, and I feel like it's the worst mistake I've made in my entire life. I loved it for a couple of years, but the good moments are so rare and so far-between that it just isn't enough. Nothing is worth your life, your health, or your sanity. I've struggled with depression since I was a child, but I've never been suicidal until I became a nurse. I'm sick to death of seeing other nurses and management make fun of colleagues and subordinates for struggling, telling them to "toughen up" or "that's just nursing, get over it." People won't understand the damage this attitude has done to the profession until the mass exodus becomes a major crisis everywhere --- especially in the U.S., where the baby boom generation is aging into long-term care and requiring chronic hospital stays and nursing home admissions. That's about to be 25% of the U.S. population with NO nurses to take care of any of them. That's when the fun will really begin.
That is horrible. In tears right now. This is why I support the no job is worth your happiness/health/mental state movement.
@@lls1142 Absolutely. My poor kids have a depressed, empty shell for a mom, because it's so draining I have nothing left for them when I come home. I'm VERY close to leaving full-time nursing and getting some type of factory job, and just supplementing with agency PRN shifts if we need extra money. It's just not worth it anymore, but I've got 3 kids to support, so I have to keep going until I have a good replacement. I wish I could've left a long time ago. 💔
@@kimuralove1096 I hear you on that. I'm new in the field and kind of regret leaving the "back of the house" position I had as a laundry aid in the nursing home. but I just couldn't live off of that pay. I was doing it for six years while contemplating whether or not to return to school to be a nurse. and I got to admit looking from the outside it didn't seem like the nurse did anything but pass meds and sit at the computer but now I know what really goes on out on the floor. I've always wanted to work in the labor and delivery but I even hear bad things about that and now I'm just not sure how long I will last in the field. I'm thinking about alternative/holistic medicine now if I can apply nursing to that. But first I want to master my skills. Good luck finding your replacement!
At least you had a doc in the house. It is sick that you try to do things the right way. She could have excused herself to the bathroom and gone down to ER and saved herself, but she didn't. That is sick and cruel. I am so sorry that happened to her and to you and everyone there. My charge nurse had a heartattack and was in our CCU for a long time. Things like this happen. The noc supervisor who had my job in LTC just didn't come in one night. They found her dead in her home. No one told me that story for quite a long time. I only stayed there 5 years but it aged me 10. Again, so very sorry.
What state did all this occur?
I can't blame anyone for quitting the medical field.
@Cece Princess lmao ofc ur a dietician
It's rough. After a while, it takes its tole on you. You're burnt out both physically and mentally. Documentation is like 90% of what brings about that stress. If you REALLY care about your patients, it can be so hard to see them die because you eventually develop a relationship with them
Been in the field 11 horrible years and I’m ready to leave it and not look back. It’s slave work and mistreatment
Radiology is a better field really, Iam n x-ray technician and i love my job.
Im a nursing student and want to quit already😆
I quit nursing and became a Truck driver. It was the best decision I ever made for my mental health. It’s such an amazing feeling to travel to different states and just get paid for it.
I would like to ask was it that hard to be an Rn I'm interested in it but I want to know
Are from Michigan, because I know a that quit and became a truck driver.
I wish I was a man and become a truck driver. It's like my dream job no kidding. But it's not a woman's job. But anyway, I wish you the best, I'm sure you enjoy those trips so much
@@Mayrita77 eh... of course you can be.
@@Mayrita77 people say the same thing about male nurses
I'm a nightshift nurse, I'm burned out, my health has tanked, I cannot recover on my days off. EVERYTHING you said was spot on, You have put into words things what I cannot explain even to my spouse and closet friend. I just withdraw and isolate from people that I love and people who love me b/c I am physically and mentally exhausted and just "talking" about it feels like one more thing I cannot do.
I'm a night shift RN as well and feel your pain. I've been a nurse for 10+ years now and so burnt out. I'm currently doing travel at a crazy busy hospital in DC. I wish there was a community or group of nurses to connect with and vent. I wish you the best of luck:-))
Ditto
Night Shift nurse here too. I NEVER have energy for anything. I’m sinking into depression more and more. This whole pandemic has been a huge stress. I literally have no motivation to be with my family or to do the things I loved doing. I’m eating like shit, sleeping like shit, I never have time for anything. I’m about to lose my shit . I never thought I’d hate this profession so much. I was so excited to “make a difference” when I graduated nursing school. I’m so freaking over this now. Only 5 years in and I’ve lost my soul
Oh my goodness I can't believe that am reading this today because I feel just the same and with no one to vent to. Am planning on my exit soon. I think my health and happiness is more worth
Night shift GN here, working a couple months now, and I am reconsidering this route... in my short months of working , I have experienced so much.. and if I allowed to be tossed to and from... I would be burnt out. Working the night shift is great, however, the recovery be painful most times. This is not good for my overall health... I need sleep. Might I mention I am a mum of five.
Only NURSES understand what you are talking about... From one Nurse to Another...I SALUTE YOU!
YES!
Yes, only nurses understand what we been through, it feels like a job tie your life down and feels like a zombie with no life.
I’m a Medical Assistant as well as an STNA and I’ve worked front lines ever since covid hit even caught it from work so I know the feeling as well
Not only nurses....everyone in the medical field
I am with you 👍🏾
My advice for RNs: don’t work in a hospital. Work in clinics, dialysis, surgery centers, IT. Nursing doesn’t burn you out. Hospitals do.
Lots of options for sure !
thank you! I came in to nursing cause i want to work with children, i have a lot of relatives and friends who are nurses and doctors, i will see their advice on how the current status of hospitals are like for RNs and LVNs
thank you thank you!
i want to see if i could go straight to medical technician if it's a hospital or if i can skip a hospital straight out of graduation
Done it all, except L&D. It's not just the hospitals. The whole career has gone downhill in the 26 years I've been a nurse. I retire in just over a year. I plan on driving my kid's school bus part time.
@@JayFriedrichsright!!!
All facility shift work will burn you out.
The Healthcare system in one word is BROKEN! 36 years in nursing - covered, bedside, education, and management. I salute you!
Amen. Me as well.
If you forget to document one thing or if the person who took care of that patient didn't pass on the message to you, the doctors WILL reach out to your chief nursing officer and you're screwed
I can’t hold a job. It seems the CNOs must screen nurses by abusing them. If I eat 💩, I can hold my job with the knowledge my manager hates my guts and I will be the first to go if we run short of hours.
😮and it continues to stay broken and getting worse!!!! I work as Licensed Nurse Assistant and tested to get into Nursing school BSN RN and every shift I go to just makes me realize NO I AM NOT here to heal anyone but myself!!!!! Therefore I have decided NOT to become a nurse thanks to everyone here sharing truth 😊
@@danielolortegui8422 Is this from experience?
In thirty years of being a BSN, RN, I know one thing to be true.
You can either be a great nurse, or you can have a healthy, happy, good home life.
You can't have both.
I do ❤️❤️❤️
I remember in one of my psyc classes that my professor who is a psychologist of 30+ years said how nurses & cops have the most messed up dysfunctional marriages, home life, and children with behavior issues. As a therapist, this stereotype he said in class based off his professional experience has been true from what I've seen thus far counseling adult clients or teens. And the single ones are on antidepressants/Xanax and have awful dating social lives.
@@anitaknight3915 you stand corrected I am on antidepressants and adderall diagnosed at 38 y.o. But I’ve been a nurse 13 years. I remember in my psych class majority of our class had psych background/ or family history and traumatic childhood. It was unbelievable all different races. They say that most people come to be nurses because of past trauma. I think we like to punish ourselves
@@raeRenae1 I agree!!! I think many of us healers in the helping professions come from dysfunctional traumatic backgrounds and that's why we are so empathetic, caring, and compassionate. We are caretakers who want to give what we didn't receive. We have sensitive nurturing personalities that lead toward burnout over giving patterns where we become taken advantage of by wounded and self absorbed individuals.
@@raeRenae1 Yes, I agree with that! Something in us makes us want to constantly be in the middle of it and take it all on for the sake of "advocating" for our patients. It can kill you. But if you try to block part of it out, you feel like you're not doing your job.
Jay. You are absolutely right. I am a doctor for 20 years and I am thinking about retiring early for the exact same reasons. You just described the true status of the current health system. Simply it is broken. I command you for your courage to realize and describe the reasons to quit. I believe you speak for so many people who work in health care.
Thank you! Retire early and save yourself from stress my friend
Amen
On point! For sure!!
hi doc
As an LPN, I am considering walking away all together. It’s too much all together. Especially when your really care about your patients. And yes you hit the nail on the head-NEVER APPRECIATED…..AND ITS JUST BIG BUSINESS TO THEM! Continued blessings to you Jay and Mohamed on your next journey. 🙏🏽
I quit, as well. Can't take it no more. I didn't have a new job when I handed in my resignation letter. But I can't take it no more. They don't even let me clear my annual leave because "we're too short staffed". I still don't have a new job and am contemplating leaving the industry. It's getting from bad to worse. It's all about money now. There's no compassion and I absolutely hate the bullying.
Hope you got a job now. I’m currently going into 3 months after leaving my job due to bad management and lazy coworkers. Whatever I was doing to help and make the place better, It’s like putting a bandaid on a big ulcer. I’m thinking ahead of management, many of the older staff will retire and quit very soon and yet, they are just sitting there in interviews and denying them employment just because the nurse asked for a few bucks higher pay than they would like. So now they are short staffed but hires agency nurses which mostly are crap workers. So they can spend 2x your pay on an agency but they can’t give you a better yearly raise. Management doesn’t make sense.
So, how are you paying your bills…?🤷🏼♂️🤷🏼♂️
I understand you completely! I should have quit nursing sooner! Right now i am a dental assistant!! I absolutely love it. I got my life back and it's a great opportunity for nurses. Try it. It's not completely out of our realm of expertise. Less money of course but guys, you get to sleep peacefully every night...
I quit being a nurse about 4 years ago. Since then I lost my home I've been unemployed and have had to move from apartment to apartment finding cheaper places to live and move from job to job. I couldn't be happier. Thank God I'm not a nurse anymore!
What were the bigger reason you quit???.
Assuming the money didn't matter.
Are you kidding with this?!? 🤨
Your situation isn't funny but I lol'd this because it's so true that it's such a relief to not be a nurse. I hope you find the right situation for you❤.
What?
All THE reasons why I left nursing in 2019. I’m now a clinical research associate, working from home and making a significant amount more for a much better job. I’m so much happier and in a much better place mentally.
Nursing is broken, nursing is NOT what it used to be, and hospitals are terrible to nurses.
I will never look back.
I want that job!
@@JayFriedrichs It's a pretty good gig! If you want any advice on how to go this route, I'd be happy to help out!
@@katherinestrotman1162 yes!
@@katherinestrotman1162 I would love info too!! I am currently working on my pre requisites into nursing. I want to get into aesthetic nursing more than anything. If you know the process to get in now before I have my degree I would love to connect!
I worked with CSA’s as a research scientist! What company are you with?
14 years as an RN now at the bedside and I’m done put a fork in me. Morally injured, ptsd, doing the work of RN, tech, social work, etc etc. Too much stress! I found you by searching I hate nursing.
I feel you. I worked at a general ICU for 1 year and 8 months. It’s so hard to handle certain patient populations, you’re right that it wears on you. I am a travel nurse now, I still feel empty after work because of the conditions/broken system. I’m taking some time off after this one because the money isn’t worth my mental health.
can you please explain what you mean the money isnt worth the mental health? all of my nurse clients say this making $8k a week and saying not worth it. I'm currently first semester in nursing school
Hi Hannah. I am currently doing pre requisites for nursing. Can you please tell us more about the compensation being no worthy? Thank you
Hey guys. Yes I can elaborate. Yes I get paid thousands a week but when I say it’s not worth it it’s because my mental health is suffering. When you go to work and are given way more to handle than humanly possible, don’t sit down, don’t eat/drink, and get talked down to by doctors; it truly makes you wonder if the money is worth being miserable all of the time. On top of this, nurses are allowed to be physically and verbally abused by patients and family members. Administration does not care. You are risking your license every day because when that workload is too much you’re bound to make a mistake. In short, the system sets you up for failure and yes money is good but at the expense of being unhappy and anxious 24/7?
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@@Romita68able I can’t do it for money . That’s wrong but our knowledge and the stress liability and hours we put in aren’t equivalent to the pay we receive often. So I suggest you go into with a means to advocate for yourself and desire to change the system as opposed to becoming apart of the broken down mess that it has become. Learn some law on your way and stay informed.
I was an RN at the skilled nursing facilities for about 4 years and the stress is so overwhelming that I called it quit and now I’m a Dasher for Doordash and can’t be happier!! Only bad thing about food delivery driver job is taxes/ rapid wear& tear on your car/ gasoline, and that’s all, but freedom and stressfreeare priceless.
Who knew a single youtube video could change my outlook in life and has answered so many questions on pondering about my future....and don't worry. This is a very good thing. Glad your honest.
I relate to this 100%. I'm a "new" nurse in the ER, spoke to my colleagues about how they've stuck it out, especially with nightshift, and got imposter syndrome because it didn't seem to bother others as much as it bothered me. Everyone just kinda had that "I gotta do what I gotta do to earn a salary" mentality. But I was fucked deep down, existential crisis because I love trauma, but the conditions were so horrible, you felt like you could give your all and still not make a difference - felt super depleted after shifts and like you, couldn't do anything on days off because I felt like I needed forever to recover before the next shift. Thank you for your insight - at least now I know it's not normal and other people feel the same way.
You wouldn't have imposter syndrome if you have doubts that you should have. You being in a new environment demonstrates that your doubts were completely reasonable. It's not just doubt, it's doubt after accomplishment and achievement in a given scenario.
@@jonjameson6606 maybe impostor syndrome was the wrong term to use.. I was not feeling doubt because of my skills and abilities - I'm a good nurse. I felt doubt because it seemed like I was suffering while the staff around me did not really think (or show) that they were suffering. I felt my patients were being let down, even if I was doing my best and getting to as many patients as I humanly could - the staff around me just went about their day, and did not seem to give thought to the many patients that we could not get to (during our shift) because of impossible staff to patient ratios, lack of stock, and such problems.
@@scorpz_ right on. I didn't mean any disrespect by it if it came off that way. My first instinct is to give you advice but I'm not a nurse. I'm planning on nursing after i get back to walking. Lost a leg in an accident. I can definitely relate. I was a mechanic and getting over run with work you can either get everything done sloppily or get only some of it down right. Anyways, I'm just saying, looking at your profession at the time you're doing it it's absolutely understandable that you'd be psychologically overwhelmed, add in the fact that you had just moved to the ER and it sounds downright terrifying especially when your colleagues made it sound as if they just walked in and knew what they were doing right away. I really hope it worked out for you, whether that meant staying in the ER or leaving.
Awwww The ER is tough and if your in a busy one, turning patient after patient, you can easily feel like that. I worked the floor and then did ER which I liked but I missed connecting with my patients. I never had proper time to teach them diet tricks or small tips to help them with their diagnosis. I recently left that trauma hospital for a smaller one one and went to COVID. I am so much happier because I have a little bit (not much, 6 pts) to educate them about how to get better, PT encouragement, and diet tips. Maybe try PCU, it’s usually 4 pts and you may have more time to help and connect with them.
I'm not in Healthcare, but I have a government job and they're increasingly trying to run us like a corporation. You can't run a government agency like a corporation. We're treated like robots. I barely sleep between Sunday night to Thursday night because the anxiety I feel about what's in store for the next day. In my position, especially with everything that's happened since last year we also get a lot of abuse from the public we have to interact with. They can abuse us verbally but we can't react without repercussions. It makes me even sadder because it wasn't always like this. So I see the toxicity and the ever decreasing employee morale. I love the work and helping people it's just all the other things you and he mentioned. I felt every word except he's a nurse and I'm govt employee. I can't even mention where I work. Lol people think we make so much money but why are employees putting in an extra 20 hours OT weekly? I need the money but I mentally can't do it. So I survive on my basic salary because OT isn't always guaranteed and then you have to go back to surviving on your base pay. I also don't have a lot of options because I didn't go to college. I basically started out of high school, however I do have a tremendous skill set from doing this occupation. I could go to another agency, but they're all pretty much the same. I've been working there more than half my life and I'll have the years in anywhere between now and the next 5, but I won't be old enough to receive my pension w/or penalty and quite a few years before I'll be eligible for SS if it's even still available at that point. I apologize for the long comment and I can't believe the similarities we're all experiencing. Take care and hold on❤
Once upon a time I was considering becoming a nurse, that's not longer the case. I'm happy that I did a lot of research into what it's like being a nurse, it prevented me going down that track. Although the career sounds very much in line with what I'm interested in and I feel like I'd be a great nurse, but the careers has too many apparent problems. It's a broken career. I commend anyone that is a nurse, very under appreciated!
I feel that!!! So true
Its a very broken field. You made a wise decision.
I am feeling the same way, I was recently accepted into nursing school and I am no longer thrilled about having to work 12 hour shits inside a depressing building. I am thinking of going into law enforcement.
@@rockNrolla661 Best decision ever. U won't regret it.
Wish I did more research, I ate up the idealized version of nursing and now I’m stuck. I’m the main breadwinner and there’s nothing else I can do with this degree. 💔
Hey Jay, I can relate to so much you have said. I’ve been a nurse for about a year now. Started off as a new grad during COVID in a very acute med tele where we hardly ever had any break relief, CNAs on the floor, and had to do labs ourselves. Worked 12 hr shifts and commuted an hour away. Working there was so overwhelming that I would get anxious the day before my shift so I wouldn’t even enjoy my day off. Eventually I got really burnt out and started feeling depressed for the first time in my life. I even started questioning why I became a nurse. I finally decided to quit and I’ve been at my new job for two weeks now. I hope this is the change I’m looking for in terms of my career and mentally. Hopefully your decision is the change you are looking for too, wishing you the best!
What’s your new job?
These are the exact reasons as a nursing student I do not want to work in the bedside. Great video Jay, keep it up man!
but u need to. every new nurse do
@@denzelb1333 not necessarily lol my sister never worked bedside
@@imbored2693 well thats the basics of nursing. Thats where you learn a lot.
@@Blake34593 not working there anymore. You shut up and cry about yourself too. Lmao
@@denzelb1333 u said every new nurse needs it I’m letting you know they don’t lmfao
I worked as a medsurg RN, I know what you are talking about. When I told my friends I work 12 hrs and no break, I wake up at 5 and don’t get to eat lunch until 3pm, they don’t believe me. They don’t believe this kind of job exists. But for all you talked about in this video, I have personally experienced them and I know what you are talking about and how it feels.
I rarely ever get a break and if I do someone calls me off if bc there was a fall or some other thing.
I’m literally laying in bed just received a text to pick up a shift. I can’t do it I’m prn and rarely pick up. Besides I just found out my hemoglobin 9 and my iron saturation practically non existent. Nursing is killing me slowly, time to nurse myself!
Time to nurse myself! Love this
I never pick up extra shifts!! I need my time off!! My job stop calling me. And if they do I don't answer.
@@andreshipp6212 Ik wym I’m going tonight and been off weeks. I’m laying in bed until it’s time to get ready lol. Preserving my energy lol
LOL
take time for yourself! hang in there😊
As a future doctor, it is with a devastated heart to witness the degradation of the healthcare industry. Thank you for serving the healthcare industry!
It is a nightmare! 😢
I quit teaching for this same reason. Stress literally kills you physically and mentally, and no amount of money is worth thoroughly martyring yourself.
We all deserves to be happy! I quit my my job as a registered nurse last two years ago after almost 16 years in the field. It was not an easy decision, but life is too short to dread going to work everyday. No amount of money can buy real happiness Lol 😁but friends I'm not asking you to resign from your job or abandon your business but be wise!!
I don't really like my job but I love what it provides for me and my family. This pandemic has people rethinking working
You're right ma'am were you a bedside nurse and how did you plan yourself before quitting
@@gracedaniels6172 While I was still in service I planned towards early retirement, making about 2k weekly from my retirement investment portfolio trying so much to build more side hustles and extra income
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I’m so glad I saw this video. I was CNA for 3 years to see if nursing was for me. I love doing patient care but the 12/16 hrs did wear and tear to my body. At the hospital I was working they stayed over working us. 12 patients to one aid. Sometimes 15 or the whole hall because we short staffed. My anxiety used to kick in so bad before I went to work. Hell, sometimes I used to call out so I could just sleep. I always wanted to be a nurse but I just feel like as if it’s not worth it. My peace and sanity is worth everything.
No job is worth your peace, mental health or sanity!! CNAs are so overworked, underpaid, and unappreciated. I quit being a cna in a nursing home and withdrew from the beginning of nursing school courses for those same reasons because my health and peace were more important. Given what the medical field has continued to deteriorate and get worse reassures me I made the right decision!
Feeling appreciated is not asking for too much. It is okay to want to be appreciated as we are human and seek appreciation from many aspects of our lives. I truly hope you understand that it is not asking for a lot and that you realize that you deserve to be appreciated. Best of luck
I hear you about nightshift smh. I was begging to get to days. Worked nights for 10 months in an SICU at a level one trauma center. Management thought i was playing about having to leave unless they could move me to days asap-until i sent an email one day that i had accepted a day-shift position in the obs. unit at the same hospital. My body could not take another moment of night shift. I physically could not take it, and I’m glad I left.
Months? Been doing nights for yrs...
One thing about the Night Shift is that you don't have to see Nurse Managers, Doctors are Patient family members; also Night Shift nurses tend to work more closely together. There's more team work mentality on the Night Shift. Nights might be a little hard on the body, especially in the beginning, but if you establish a routine, you can get used to Nights and it's not so bad, plus you make more money on the Night Shift. Just not to deal with Management, Doctors and Family members, makes the Night Shift worth it.
I retired from dialysis nursing in 2010 and I honestly can't imagine being a nurse today! The health-care system was going downhill, doctors becoming too specialized, no one is caring for the "whole patient", the nurse who could doesn't have time.
FNP 13 years working with inner city indigent. RN since 2003. I’m so tapped out right now. …. 😴 exhausted. I’m working on an exit plan. Thinking 🤔 about wal mart door greeting 😂 cuz they always are happy. JK but I get up every morning and pray really REALLY REALLY hard for help to get through this shift this day & to be the best version of myself to help others. Then I kill it at the gym for 1-1.5 hours starting at 5 am. I don’t miss cuz this routine keeps me grounded. Oh I always try to keep my expenses to a minimum… just in case I do end up working at Wal Mart🙂
One of the managers asked me this morning how everything was going and I just looked at her! I’ve only been here for 8 months and I’m over it! I’m a pill pusher and back charter! I can’t be a nurse cuz I don’t have the time to do so! I start with 5 end up with 6 and most times the admit comes at shift change fresh from the PACU! All the patients want is pain pills and they set alarms. I can’t eat! Can’t pee! No tech 90% of the time! I’m over nursing!
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All of this is why I left RN school. Even though I planned to finish once I got my house refinanced so I would have leftover money to go to school and not have to work full-time, I don’t want to. I love patient care as a CNA but I am so burnt out on health care and I don’t want to be chained to a computer all day. Healthcare workers get assaulted and threatened all the time and the pandemic has made my job in hospice so much more stressful. I am seriously thinking of changing fields.
It took a lot of courage to do what you did. As a nurse, I had to quit to save myself from extreme stress, anxiety and depression. Thank you for sharing your reasons for quitting nursing!
I’m still a nurse, but I did quit that job/ and the hospital for all those reasons you mentioned. I’m glad you did what was best for you
I won't ever go back to floor nursing... EVER! In the cath lab im treated so freaking great. Free Catered lunch everyday. 8hr or 10hr shifts, weekends and holidays off and you get to basically bring people back to life Haha! Definitely rewarding and lots of fun. I don't ever feel like I'm actually doing a job, it's that much fun!
Sign me up! Sounds awesome
That initially really broke my heart. Always enjoy your vids. Knowing you have something in the works makes me feel better. I knew you weren't happy. My hope is that you find hope & happiness with your next endeavor. I have faith in you. Jeff, RN.
I feel you. After working as a night nurse for 38 years, I decided to get out. That was in 2020. I've decided not to renew my license this year since I'll be 65 in a couple months. Kudos to those sticking it out. Unless you've been in the trenches, you don't get it. Good luck to the younger generation who is getting out.
12 hour graveyards were brutal buddy. Totally agree 👍 I hope you regain your spark :) Totally support you J
Thank you my friend. Seeking vitality
Been doing 12 hour nights for the majority of my career...over 14 years.. it really wears on you. Honestly I don't know how much longer I can do it.
1 year into Nursing. I don't know what should I do next. I am already suffering.
Feel the same here :(
1000000000000000% agree. You described my exact feelings to a T. I even had the same experience as you with not being able to explain what specifically about work was so stressful. I remember my mom asking me why I felt so stressed and I couldn't even verbalize what it was, I truly could not find the right words to describe it. My first new grad job I didn't even finish my preceptorship because I could tell I was not going to be able to stick it out for too much longer. Every single nurse on the floor was voicing how much they hated their job, and how badly they wanted to quit. It was a pedi med-surge floor. I fell into a deep depression, developed anxiety, and as a result of that my GI system went crazy and I couldn't eat anything. Lost a bunch of weight rapidly. I couldn't even get myself to do anything at all on my days off because I was so stressed out about work. What made it harder was the fact that to my family, all I had to do was work 3 days. Piece of cake right? Four days off sounds like a dream! But the truth is no one in my life understood what I was going through. I decided that my health meant way more to me than a job, so I sent in a resignation letter and never looked back. The sad part about it was that I was so incredibly embarrassed about the entire situation that I lied to half of my family about everything. I couldn't tell them I had quit my job so I just acted as if I still worked there, told them I had switched to nights and everything. If they asked how work was I would tell them it was good and then change the conversation. After about 6 months I decided that I needed to try again. I applied for a job at a hospital in my city that is known to have safe ratios, and happy staff. I am starting next week and am feeling super hopeful about this opportunity, everyone I know who works for the unit says they absolutely love it and can't see themselves ever leaving. Crossing my fingers that I can feel the same way that they do!
Good for you to have the courage to put your health first 👏. No job is worth your mental health and well being. Healthcare workers forget to take care of themselves.
Amen!!!! You will enjoy this new position and it will be a good fit for you! I've had similar experiences as you and it's crazy! I could feel I was quickly fading away in all aspects due to this career.
How has it been?
Appreciate your information! I know alot of new nurses see the money (depending where they are) and don't understand why nurses leave. You can make great money, but please invest that money so you do have the option to leave/change jobs and not be forced to work in many of these broken systems. You will be so much happier for it.
I agree with you!!! Left nursing and have never thought about going back!!!! Best decision I ever made!!!
You did the right thing. It never changes. I graduated from nursing school in 1985 when we were practicing primary care nursing. We did everything without nurse’s aides. One-by-one our backs were destroyed. I quit also. Your path is very normal. Good luck with your future career endeavors!
The no breaks for 12 hours & going without food reminds me of the way I worked in restaurants for years. Nursing is much harder of course, not really comparable at all other than the running around like crazy unable to get a break.
I retired after 32 years of nursing in hospitals. I loved the work but it took a serious toll on my life and health. Stomach cancer, divorce, autoimmune disease and finally a nervous breakdown. But, at 67 I am still alive and healing, proud that I lived a life on the front lines of health care. I saved many lives but had to put up with all sorts of abuse from administrators. It is so sad that nurses are treated so poorly. . But, I always had a job and now have retirement . Hey, you have to work hard in life to reap the benefits. In my next life I hope to be an artist.
Never to late to enjoy art ❤
I feel you. I'm planning to resign next year. I love my job but no one seems appreciative what I'm doing for their company. I'm sad but I have to quit to save my mental health. please pray for me.
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I nursed 21 years as an LPN. The last 2 years of my career was brutal! I’m now an Anglican Priest, and I couldn’t be happier. I’ve said many times that I can’t believe I actually get paid to do this awesome work 🙏💕
Good for you getting out! I know it’s not easy.
That is awesome. I am an LPN now 30 years and getting out of it as we speak. Just went on call and next step is out of there. Anglican Priest? How did that come about? So interesting. I just finished my degree in Metatphysics and working on my Masters and PHD, thinking of looking into being a chaplain.
@@TammiMorrison I joined the Anglican communion about 2-ish years prior to resigning from nursing. The call to ordination came about quite strikingly during an ordinary Sunday service. That was in 2011. In 2015 I went to seminary and discerned, and discerned, and discerned… with the help of a discernment team, of course 😊 I graduated with my MDiv in 2018, did a CPE internship in 2019 and 2020, and in 2021 I was ordained. A long, hard, yet very fulfilling road to a vocation that I absolutely love! Bright blessings as you continue in your studies and possible chaplaincy work 😊 🙏💕❤️
@@stephaniewood9968 thank you for the encouragement. I’m glad you found something u adore💜
After over 20 years in health care, a CNA then RN, I see a change. Folks such as yourself are putting their (our) health first. Over about the last 8 years, meditation, yoga, 12 step programs and meds are in full effect. Wasn't enough. Scary PVCs, panic attacks and IBS took over. It might be forever, it might not, but I switched to a non health care remote job and my body and mind love me for it. More will be removed!
I have been an ER nurse for 15+ years. I quit my job in August due to complete burn out. I am planning on doing a travel assignment in very near future but watching this video really hit home to me. My anxiety level was so out of control on my days off all I did was sleep. Very depressing. 🤦♀️
Hello Nickchick, how are you? We can be friends if you don’t mind
for me it was team no sleep, terrible.
Hey Jay, I took this as a sign and decide to make the same decision. I relate 100% with you!!!!
Congrats!!! Get something better for you (:
Valuable life lessons. Follow your heart, trust your gut! Smart man! You will find your niche, nursing embraces human life. We need more Nurses to speak up, Thank you!
I can relate. 12 hours shift with no breaks and still leave an hour late. Body aches all over standing all day.
Everything you say is true. I am at a nursing home 6 mths & being bullied & nothing one does is good enough.
Great video. I am 3 years into my nursing career and am finally ready to leave. You vocalized so well how I feel and experience my job.
❤ thank you for your honesty. Nursing is very tuff. I love your honesty about the patients and everything. 😊
I've been a nurse for almost all of my working life. I've worked big city hospitals and little publicly owned rural hospitals. You are dead on. Good for you walking away from this mess. I'm looking for a way out myself and I am close to retirement age, not that I have much retirement to show for all these years. The system is broken. Its a lose lose situation. Best wishes to you. You will find or create a much better way to share your skills and talents.
Tottaly feel you on this entire video with one exception . With regards to people "not wanting to get better" My sister didnt become an addict until later in life . She was able to cope with being molested and abused as a child until she had a children and then it hit her. I HATE the addiction and THE people who fall prey to it however its a complex and intricate situation . Culture , generational trauma , living in a world and country that is VILE and EVIL along with myriad's of other variables. every one isnt strong to handle and cope and YES! I'm huge for accountability across the board . "PEOPLE DONT WANT TO CHNAGE " I beg to differ. No one wakes up or leaves the womb wanting to harm themselves . Systems , institutions and government structures all impact how we navigate this world .
Appreciate the honesty. I've been thinking about the culture a lot myself as I rotate during my clinicals. There's also no seniority in the medical field. You don't get promoted up to a point where you have a better lifestyle
Kinza, you raise a good point! Seems like everyone is always grinding without great return.
Come to california!
Nope I work long term care with 29 years experience. Just found out I make 50 cents more then a new graduate.....yep
Kinza come to the philippines. you will be greatly rewarded
I feel this
Jay, I am a male RN. I have been in this profession for 3O yrs. I was in your exact situation as a new graduate nurse. I came very close to leaving the nursing profession. The best advise I can offer you is don't throw away all of your training. I found bedside nursing in the hospital to be the most stressful worst possible working conditions out there. Initially I left that position and went into home health care. It had its share of stress but nothing like bedside nursing. Eventually I found an out patient clinic position that was very stress free and fulfilling. And finally I went into case management where I had no direct patient care but instead used all my knowledge to navigate patients through our crazy health care system. Wishing you much success as your professional life journey continues! 💙
Totally ! My view has changed a lot since this video, was just a bad job tbh. Nursing has been a lot better since I quit it
So proud of you!🙌🏼 walk away while you can.
Jay, your comments are truthful . I found my career to be the same way . I sweat it out through24 years jumping from one job to another and only staying for 2 years . It was grueling work in hospital . The only places I found some relief and felt like I could help was psychiatric and CD alcohol. I'm presently working private duty nursing with only one patient which is very rewarding .what I ended up with is joints that don't work right from over usage. Occupational hazard!
I'm currently a nursing student halfway through the program and I just saw this video in my feed and thought "I wonder what was his turning point" and at first I thought I had made a mistake and hit the wrong video because I wasn't expecting to be greeted by Alan Watt's voice right at the beginning and I listen to Alan Watts almost every day. Hell, I would say he is one of the reasons I'm questioning my decision right now about what I'm doing because I think I know what I want, and I think I know what will make me happy, but how do I really know what I TRULY want? When I hear you talk and the things you say, you remind me of myself and I don't want to be in the same place I am right now in one year pretending something changed. I'm glad you made this video.
Those are good and deep thoughts!!! taco monster!
I still get anxious Sunday evening because that’s when my first shift of the week began. I quit that job a year ago and still feel that way
Dang! I know that feeling. I just went on call at my job bc I can and I did! So grateful! Next step is resign!
I quit nursing after twenty years to the day, burnt out , with complex PTSD , and generally unhealthy in every aspect.
I have since started off my own landscaping business and the changes have been unbelievable, I feel like I am finally healing.
No toxicity in my life,One of the strangest thing I noticed is how much more I’m appreciated for fixing up someone’s yard compared to actually saving someone’s life. Nurses are so undervalued by the general public but also by management and government.
Hopefully with this mass exodus the general population will finally value a nurse true worth.
Omg I can’t even begin to tell you how on point this is about the patient population and how much it drains you when you know these people you’re trying to ‘help’ don’t give a shit and are just going to end up coming straight back in to hospital.
Hit the nail on the head. The system is BROKEN
I became a school bus driver after being a medical assistant and it’s the BEST THING that’s happened to me. I am a travel MA now, so when school is out I still work in the field. And let me tell you my anxiety and depression is coming back. School needs to open back up again soon.
Bro.. you took all the words out of my mouth!! Good for you for putting you first! Your always so motivational! Good luck! We’re gonna miss you!
I'm a male nurse and have been in long term care for 11 years so far. I'm thinking about doing like 2 shifts a week for nursing and seeing if I can find some other job I can do a couple days a week just because I'm to the point I am tired of the mental abuse/negative attitudes of the patients/residents and the families. I'm probably one of the nicest people you could talk to yet I just feel I am always stepped on by people. I also just feel like the profession is so broken. People come in for rehab and insurance only wants to pay a certain # of days so they need to be magically cured and ready to go home or insurance cuts them off. In my state, there are laws that you cannot restrain a patient in a nursing home or use alarms to prevent falls yet you have lawyer commercials telling people to sue the nursing home. The pill pushing gets old and some of the medicines people are make no sense. Why is a patient on Miralax and a stool softener yet on a medication like Welchol to help with loose stools? Why are patients taking Entresto for their heart yet it lowers their BP so they get put on a Beta stimulant like Midodrine to raise their BP which might also affect the heart?
Negative attitude of patience SHOULD NOT be mentioned by you here. This is what nursing profession is about - to nurse people back to health, and sick ppl are not going to make you happy.
Floor units are the worst. ICU was a cakewalk in comparison. Quit 13 years ago after 23 years and I still have nightmares. No joke, nightmares that wake me up.
A nurse here . I said that. It’s always what you do wrong. And the constant change of order and assignment is unbelievable
Jay, this is the first time I have ever seen your channel. Somehow TH-cam decided to show me this. I love this video for several reasons: you tell it as it is. I've not worked in health care but I know that it takes a special kind of person to do it, and I don't have what it takes. What I REALLY agree with you on is that the system is broken. I was in the hospital last December for 5 and a half days with pneumonia. I made a full recovery but I could not BELIEVE the food I was served. NOTHING but processed carbs and sugar. Every lunch and dinner included a dessert.
The system doesn't treat the disease (mostly), it treats the symptoms. Now for pneumonia, yes, the antibiotics worked, but what you say about how the system works-I don't know how you did it and there is a LOT of school to this.
I also like the different shot of you in different clothes-you put a lot of thought into this video and people may forget this is you talking to a camera with no one else around. BRAVO! and may your next job be much better for you,
The overmedication I see everyday in my job is astounding
1000 % agree with you. The system’s broken. I want to quit after 26 years of being a nurse this what I get?! The PTSD, ANXIETY, DEPRESSION work-related.
I salute you for standing up on what’s best and right for your life and health in general! You’re an eye opener and inspiration.
Everyone says just keep pushing I know this all too well being in the military. I’m finally clearing out next week and I’m so glad because I myself have not felt healthy since being in it actually broke me in many ways physically and mentally. So I’ve decided to move forward onto a new path something that will fulfill me.
Big facts. The processed slop fed to patients is doing more harm than good.
This whole video hit home. 100% hit the nail on the head. I just quit my job as a RN of 10+ years. In my entire career and all the units I worked (med surg, ICU, CVICU, ambulatory) we were never fully staffed. Always short staffed. So draining. Yes I totally agree with patients not wanting to get better. They take a toll on you. Medicine is so broken and not what I thought it was/ what it should be. I want to help people get better, not feed a diabetic a breakfast of juice, oatmeal and a banana and watch them get frustrated their sugar is sky high. I could go on.
that's how I felt I'm a Male nurse working night shift before I was an Anesthesia tech and PCT also a MA. total of 7 years as a tech and 5 years as a Nurse and it was always the same. Quit and went back to school I'm now a Software Engineer it was hard, but my life is totally different, and I also feel appreciated at work, the company flew us out for vacation, the CEO said 'you are my assets for the company therefore we take care of you so you can take care of us.
Damn, who do you work for now. That's great. How much did you have to learn to catch up with everyone else in the field? Thank you for answering
Any concern about AI taking computer jobs?
@@mayaclay not at all I been using AI to help me with stuff I get stuck on it had actually made my job easier in a way I can use AI to finish projects faster.
@@nickschneider8211 you learn as you go honestly there’s so much to learn about that you learn so much when your actually working and I work a
Im in public safety for a hospital and I get more action there than I did at the jail I used to work at. Patients are extremely disrespectful to the nurses and violent. We have patients assaulting staff every week and sometimes daily. I don't think I could be an RN, you guys have to follow so many policies and stupidity from the Hospital too.
Thanks for your work! Its greatly appreciated. I was nursing house supervisor last year for a small hospital, and public safety was a terrific asset and teammate.
You ever taze someone at the hospital? Also do you like your job?
@@Bilbus7 No i havent! I personally dont carry any tools. There are about 5-10 staff including public safety and Nursing assistants who help us restraint patients. We get things under control within a couple of minutes. I actually love my job because of my colleagues. Otherwise, it's not that great.
Just gave my 30 days notice resignation. This career is abusive. The level of anxiety I have knowing I have to go back to work is too high and not worth,y mental health. Thanks for the video
Haha I remember the “goodie bags” offered by uppers in suits on the way in to work during nursing week! Was so aggravating! Have a donut as you walk into a horrible shift!!! Great video!! I left nursing in 2019 due to becoming an NP. Next month I’m leaving my NP job.
Free donuts, free pizza; who wouldn't love this job!?
@Karina Oliveira As a Healthcare provider, you work for a system that is run by individuals. The system and its practices is largely determined by big organizations (such as CDC, AMA, etc) which is restricting. I no longer wished to work in a way that was going against my values. I do not believe that medical bullying is the way to practice medicine either. There is a lot to be said here! I think the best route for an NP is to open your own practice, but you need at least a bit of experience. Hope this helps!:)
I became a NP also and that position has it's own stressors also. Nursing is just not a good profession anymore.
I want to quit so bad. My nursing job has affected my mental health so much that I have considered unaliving myself. It’s not normal to think about driving off the road to avoid going in. It’s terrible, and it’s not worth it. We are replaceable cheap labor for the hospital to profit off of and to use as a scapegoat.
Those of us that worked this pandemic and continue to totally understand. This burnout is like nothing before. And the constantly working short staffed.
You had me at the Alan Watts intro.
I agree with everything you said which is why it's going to sound crazy to say that I'm actually 40 and in my 2nd semester of nursing school. I have a prior degree, but just couldn't figure out what career would make me happy. I figured I could be a travel nurse and fulfill an assignment and then kick rocks and go live awhile before an assignment... The med field is an outdated system and I don't agree with a lot of it. Wish me luck.
On International Day of Nursing I called Domino's and asked if we could have free pizza, and they were so amazing!! They sent us a few pizzas. Awesome Company that appreciates Nurses!!!
I've been a nurse for 15 years. Recently I've been struggling with the decision to retire from the medical field completely. Recently I've been mandated to 16 hour shifts very often. I can count on 1 hand how many times I've been able take a break. I'm trying to take more time for self care but the last 2 years that's been almost impossible.
Bro is spitting nothing but facts. Respect to you.
I've been working as a nurse for 3 months. My unit is laid back but I just feel like a pill pusher. Most of the patients will never improve and it's so mentally draining. Not to mention the hours - flipping between 12hr days and nights constantly. I see the way healthcare is right now, and where it's headed and I can't be part of it any longer. My hospital will be forcing me out soon anyway.
What a sham?! They drilled into us to show up and work no matter what. I went to work to care for others with sick children at home that needed me. Once I got off the elevator on my floor to report to work and had a gushing miscarriage right there. I applaud you young nurses for making yourselves a priority. You inspire me!!! ❤️🩹
I feel you....I been working 12 16 hr shifts no break. It's been so bad i ended up in the hospital. I felt the same everytime i thought about work. Omg so I'm not the only one feeling this way
The fact that you listen to Alan Watts is awesome.
So true..sometimes I have 24 hour shifts .barely have a break to drink some water
Yes your life is important. Glad you did what was best for you. There other ways to work and serve. I pray you find your niche 😊
Bro, I felt that in my soul. I hope you are in a much better place now.
Hey, fellow recent grad RN here from Canada.
Hate to admit but after working medsurg for the last 2 years, everything in this video resonates with me so much 🙃
And holy f, don’t even get me started on those “frequent flyer” patients who keep coming back because they refuse to make changes for the sake of their health!!
Anyways, props for choosing yourself over your job. I’ve just made the same decision too. Currently in the process of finding a new position in hopes of feeling less like a sack of dung all the time.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with all of us. I just watched a couple of your other vids and your deadpan humour is truly *chefs kiss*
You just earned yourself another sub 👌🏼
Good luck in your job search Sophia! Hopefully you find something better for you 😁
@@JayFriedrichs Cheers to that!! Best of luck to you on your journey as well 👏🏼
You hit it on the head. It's discouraging very discouraging... I'm going back to the bedside and I hope it gives me the same joy in the very beginning of nursing gave me.
I wish I could put my arms around you. I just retired after 47 years of MICU bedside nursing . The job I left has crushed so many good people. Take time for yourself and remember you can still be a nurse and do other things. You have found what you don't want or need. Before you give up on nursing look at its many other faces. Hospitals are not for everyone. You can teach write speak and address what you have endured. There are jobs in sales, private practice, travel. Find the hustle that you love. Hospitals can be toxic. There are people who set you up for failure. I have so many times advised people to walk away and find what they really want to do and find the setting that appreciates their innate skills. Prayers.
Thanks for sharing Jay. This is my 40th year of nursing and I’m waiting for the one thing that pushes me to retire. It won’t be long now. I’ve had so many different nursing jobs over the years trying to find one that didn’t suck the life out of me. It’s not you, it’s the system, so take care of yourself first and foremost. Thank you for your dedication to doing nursing right. If we keep making the broken system work it will never get fixed.
Why wait for something bad to happen. Get out if you want to and can.
I'm in awe of your 40 years in nursing (How?). When your finally retire, I hope you enjoy every minute. You definitely earned it.
Dude, I can relate with this on so many levels