Let's see people brag about how long theyve worn something. Like me! I've worn the same top for a week. It's actually reversible so technically it's 2 tops lol
It's so bizarre right now, but what you can do is search for the wholesome, even if it's something small. Take this as an example: my bf was delivering pizzas and he went to a house and there was a note clearly written by a child which read:" thanks for bringing me my food. Have a KitKat!" That just shows there is hope for humanity. Stay strong and keep your mental health in order, and know that this is only temporary.
It’s bizarre to chronically ill people who socially distance on their own to suddenly not being alone in social distancing, too! My cousins weirded out from everyone being home lmao
Honestly, as someone marginalised on several fronts and who grapples with mental illness - I really feel like bloggers should be allowed to NOT have to deal with the virus in their every post. Some people just don't have the bandwidth to deal with it - and, as you say, the spaces created outside the current crisis are good resting spots.
I'm from Rijeka, Croatia and we have a facebook group called "I love the city that flows" ("Rijeka" means "river" in Croatian, therefore, our city "flows". Also we get a LOT of rain so the slogan has two meanings; of course the original slogan is in Croatian too). Anyways, the group was so overflown by Corona posts that the admin decide to have a 10 day ban on any Corona-themed post or comment unless it's an emergency (for example, someone asking for help with groceries). It was super nice from him as the whole thing was getting tiring.
Yeah I feel the same. I'm in a Star Trek: Deep Space Nine group that has had a ban on virus related content (based on their longstanding ban on any topics not directly related to the TV show) and it's been so nice to see those posts on my Facebook feed.
I’m autistic, and here’s how I structure my to-do lists to work WITH my cognitive rigidity instead of against it. It’s designed to keep me from pushing myself too hard, or getting too upset if I don’t get through my whole to-do list. Probably also useful for anyone fighting a desire to be hyper-productive when stuck inside. List #1: stuff I MUST finish today. I try to keep this list short by working on my procrastination habit, but resting/self-care always go here so I can’t justify skipping them List #2: stuff I would LIKE to accomplish today but can afford to put off, listed in order of deadline. I often make tentative to-do’s a week at a time, and when I do that I can also plan when to do tasks in the event that I have to push them back (example: if I know Monday’s to-do list is pretty long and Wednesday’s is shorter, I can plan to push things I don’t finish on Monday to Wednesday) List #3: stretch goals. Things I’m not at all obligated to do, but will give an extra dose of accomplishment if I get through my to-do list and have more leftover time and energy than I predicted (for example, re-organizing my desk).
Adrienne Jernigan thats really kind of you to say :) I’m also going to school to be a clinical psychologist, so this kind of brain-hack is kinda my Thing lol
Same! It really works for me because it helps me prioritise. That way I don't get distracted and spend all day doing something low priority then feel guilty about forgetting the important things.
@@maxwellhart3741 having personal experience with this as you do this gives you a massive lead in being understanding and compassionate in your chosen field. Hats off to you!
I don't know if I'm being paranoid about vitamin D deficiency, but I would add: get some sunlight! Spend a few minutes in direct sunlight every other day. Feeling the warmth on my skin and a light breeze works wonders for my mood.
I'm right there with you - I can't get out much even when the lockdown isn't in place due to my health, but I make an effort as the days get brighter to sit in the garden with my tea and take a breather while I soak in as much light as I can :)
I have a hamock i normly use when we go camping and i have just about managed to hang it on my balconey so i can read in there for and hour in the afternoon s
I'm more of a homebody than the rest of my family, and I find having my family home more is driving me insane. It interrupts my routine because they take care of things I normally would and there is overall more clutter to clean up.
EveesCastle me too! I love my family to the ends of the earth, but my goodness I can’t wait for them to get out. I cant wait for isolation to be over so I can be alone again 😅
As someone with severe social anxiety and agoraphobia (and is working on it woo!) I'm also a stay at home pro my main fear is losing the progress I've made so speaking with people helps me a lot.
Same here. Haven't related so much to a comment for a while. Severe social anxiety and mayor depression, I've been social distancing for 4 years now, so this is kind of my normal, natural state of being. But I'm struggling a lot because I really don't want to lose the progress I've made so far. So I usually offer myself to do groceries for my family so I don't go back to hermit mode again.
I definitely appreciate it when bloggers/vloggers/other content creators give me a chance to think of something other than the pandemic. Living in a pandemic is challenging enough as it is, so dealing with a few additional personal crises is even less fun than it would normally be. I'm definitely all for the "tips on how to cope" and "I'm here to give you something else to think about" content right now.
As a chronically ill author, this is basically my life! It always worries me that people seem to get the impression that I'm just effortlessly fine, when in fact I've worked really hard on all this stuff for years and years.
Just shows how much your work is paying off, that's great! You made the effort and maybe they will now understand it better, after having to cope with being homebound.
Yesterday it rained so I opened the windows in my room. When it would rain real hard, I would just sit, close my eyes and listen. It felt so good to melt into the soft sound of rain all around me. 10/10 would recommend.
I needed this honestly, because whilst I am chronically ill and disabled, so I spend a lot of time at home, it's harder to do right now because I live with my parents and brother due to having no other option (yay, the economy is great), and honestly being around them this much is stressing me out, even though I love my family. Also, I know Jessica always looks great but honestly right now that is a stunning look, I am living for her hair, that looks like it took so much work and I appreciate it 💕
It's the same way for me! I always thought that having time to be completely away from people was just an emotional maintenance thing, but now I'm realizing it was a vital part of my life. I love my family, but being around them constantly with zero breaks for the past month has been really draining. I'm really glad I'm not the only one
Chronically (mostly mentally) ill, and quite used to not talking to people at a daily basis, and usually doesn't mind spending days without leaving my flat. Was put in forced isolation awaiting for my test results coming in, and I broke a mirror, ate most of my sleeping meds and drank a bottle of wine. Being forced to sit 36 hours inside by law was like being back at coercion again, except total lack of healthcare workers I could annoy. Really grateful the results came back negative, and it turns out I'm just allergic. I do hope most people handle it better than me.
I love that dress! It reminds me of spring, which whilst it is on our doorstep, we can't enjoy as much as we may like. All in all, I love it and it looks amazing on you!
The "stand outside your door" one reminds me of when I worked in this cafe and they'd have me doing 10 hour shifts regularly and every now and again when it was quiet I'd just step outside the door for a sec and just stand there, and it made me feel infinitely more like a person again
I’m also in the “this is really no different from my normal life” boat. I’m definitely not good at following these guidelines though, even though I know I should. But, I’m still feeling better regardless- I think because unlike others, my life hasn’t been turned upside down. It’s the one time I feel better equipped to handle a situation than other people. I sometimes feel a little guilty that my mental health is actually doing better right now than it was before (especially when I know that so many millions of people have lost their jobs, and people are sick or dying). But the fact is, my mood is better. So much so that I’ve actually gotten a bit of sewing done.
I've been doing this for almost 7 years now and it's tuff but also extremely important. Interestingly only figured out how about 3weeks ago. Liquid ZZZzzzQuil . 💜😛
Hi, have you tried " I love hue" it's a really calming and satisfying but not competitive ' game' and you get a grate sense of achievement from it. Thanks for keeping us all entertained and sane, ish. Stay safe everyone .
I'm great at being alone at home and leaving the house rarely being chronically ill. I'm surprised by how much I'm affected by everyone else also isolating themselves. I live alone and not touching anyone for 3 weeks is really messing with my mind.
I also rarely leave the house due to chronic illness so most of my life hasn’t changed but it’s still a very weird time. I live with my husband so I’m lucky to have that contact but I miss the interaction with my carers way more than I thought I would. Are you able to video call friends/family? That’s been helping my sanity.
I'm pretty much like you too...but I have been so happy to see my random grocery delivery ppl and have 3 seconds of idle chit chat through the screen in the front door that you'd think I was Charlie Sheen eyeballing a line of hookers after a week in the desert lol. I know...horrible metaphor, but sadly...presently pretty accurate.
Honestly yeah. I've found the same thing. I think it's because I'm used to having people there when I am able to go out, but now I actually can't leave and see people even on the rare occasions when I'm physically able so it feels more isolating.
I read that a thing you can do if you miss touch is to close your eyes, cover your face/cheeks with your hands and breath deeply a few times. Also self massaging shoulders and necks ist awesome or self massaging your feet. Just because you'll mostly feel better afterwards. Everyone abuses their necks and shoulders with bad posture and feet are usually neglected anyways.
My girlfriend is in a wheelchair and has a dog and a cat. Maybe you can foster a companion animal? If it weren't for my cat cuddling me all night, I don't know what I'd do. I don't like living alone. My anxiety medicines aren't working. Then, I think, at least I'm not pregnant or have little kids to try and make happy!
You simply make my day Jessica! Whether it’s a good day or bad day: you remind me that I’m a grown woman & I need to plan my day accordingly. (I turn 40 tomorrow, FORTY🙈! Where does time go🤷🏼♀️)?!?! Anyway, these are wonderful ideas, some I had never considered! The highlight of most of my days has been opening the French Doors that lead out to our patio & backyard. I keep the screen closed to keep out unwelcome creepy-crawly things 🙅🏼♀️, lol. This allows me to hear the birds sing, the squirrels arguing over acorns, (they can be mean little things)! However, the best part of it all, is hearing the peals of pure innocent laughter coming from our neighbor’s two little boys (who are 3 & 5yrs old) making up games, doing scavenger hunts their amazing mom sets up for them, or telling me the story of their adventure for the day! It is impossible to be in a bad mood when those little monkeys are up to something 🙉🙈🙊! Hugs, love & prayers for all of you! 🤗💜🦋🙏🏻😘🐾🐾
Happy Birthday! Hope you find a way to make the day special. 40 isn't so bad, it feels like your world is ending at 39years and 364 days and then you wake up the day after and go 'what was I so worried about?' I found being 40 kind of gave me a freedom to make my own goals not ones I felt I should have.
As a person with an auto immune disease, who lives with my parents who are both quite hardy and in their seventies, I usually only leave the house for monthly infusion appointments and doctor's visits. I think that "social distancing pro" sounds much better than "painfully introverted person who doesn't really like people". Thanks, Jessica!
"Chuck everything into a box...." Glances under the bed and in the closet at the various boxes that have stuff I should go through because I've done this for ages... I feel like Jessica sees into my soul 💕
Thank you for the kind words, Jessica, we all need them right now! I hate and fear being helpless, and To make myself feel less helpless, I'm making masks, here in San Fran, for the first responders, nurses, and family etc. (quilter, costumer), and i've been hanging out here at home for five weeks. Binge watching Netflix while I sew a little while, then go lay down, or get some coffee, or check on the soup I'm making. Sigh. Being home ill, then hoping not to get much sicker with a virus, is really difficult to deal with. Wish you had a mailing address, I'd like to send you and Claudia some masks! Colorful! possibly sparkly! hugs, and gentle with yourself.
I worked from home for years before all this happened, so when we got a shelter-in-place order in my city I thought it would be easy for me. It isn't. I didn't realize how much I was leaving the house outside of work hours to run errands, have dinner with friends, grab a drink with friends, hike, go to the river and swim, go to the springs... So many outdoor things with so many other people, though I spent most of each day alone. I miss that human interaction and freedom of movement terribly, especially since I'm isolating alone for the duration. These are great tips!
A good way to feel positive about your productivity is to have a folder or notebook in which you write everything you do in a day. Messaged cell provider ✅ Checked mail ✅ Paid electric bill ✅ Wrote 5 pages of report ✅ etc. By the end of the day you have a list of accomplishments to feel good about, and help you see why you weren’t able to do the 17 things written in your agenda. (and yes, use check marks, smileys, gold stars or other nice stickers - these little rewards for getting stuff done is really cheering). You’ll be amazed at all the things you do but don’t acknowledge because they’re not on the agenda 😁😁😁. You did great 👍🤗🌈
I love coloring phone games for when I'm fatigued. They give the satisfaction of making something pretty without the physical movement/frustration of messing up!
as a blogger, I actually don't mention the virus in my blog other than the one post about quickly returning home from an extended road trip and having to adjust to self isolating. The rest of my blog posts are about my adventures with carpentry, woodworking and sewing and occasionally cooking. I actually love find other vlogs, blogs or posts that deal with anything other than the current pandemic and social upheaval in the States and Canada. Thank you Jessica, really love your channel.
Ugh I really needed to hear being realistic with yourself. I always end up being disappointed and beating myself up when I feel like I didn't do enough. I've been diagnosed with 5 mental illnesses, and a couple I'm still learning about. ITS OKAY TO DO THE BEST I CAN. Everyone is struggling. Forgive yourself.
I agree with this. In a brilliant video by How to ADHD she mentioned that the hallway/break function is called 'transition time', and without transition time it is very difficutl for neurodivergent people to adjust to new tasks (but everyone needs transition time, just ND people need it more)
I have been isolating in Spain for more than a month now and working from home. All I can say is that you must keep your normal routine, wake up at the same hour, eat, wash yourself and dress up; also go to sleep at a normal hour out your schedule is going to wreck up and you don’t want it. I can’t leave the house at all because the government is being so restrictive and I’ve got autoinmune problems, but I’m doing a bit of exercise every afternoon to keep my body fit and stretch a lot because I am being sat more than usual. We all have now enough time to read, watch that show you wanted to, read some books, learn that delicious recipe and play videogames if you want to, it’s going to be ok!
Thank you for making this video, I have been mostly housebound for 9 years and it's so good to see a video about staying inside from someone who isn't 'healthy' I mean, it's good that they are finally accepting that staying at home also effects our mental health, but a lot of it includes ableist messages. As for making content that isn't about coronavirus I am all for it. I'm so glad most Sims players are continuing to post as allows me to enjoy something completely unrelated to the current crisis.
I loved number 13! I'm from Italy and my city is in a complete lockdown since the last week of february, so...I used to make lists and lists and lists that never worked while previously I was able to accomplish any task written on that piece of paper....now I just stopped because the feeling of not being productve was putting me of and to be honest I feel like I do more without worrying too much about what I should or must do that day, so definetly stop writing kept me sane 😊
As a fellow list maker, I heartily agree with your list-related suggestions. To add, I've found that on days when it seems like nothing on the list has been done because other things came up (in my job, I get interrupted frequently to serve others), if I add those unexpected/new things to the list, then I get to check them off as completed, which ensures I get to have that happy feeling of checking off items plus the amended list shows me that things were, in fact, accomplished. The unexpected doesn't feel so off-track, then. Also, I advance what wasn't done on today's list to the next day's list, and spend that time reassuring myself that these tasks will eventually be done.
Your videos are my micro lifts. Seriously I have thoroughly loved Lockdown, complete control of my social engagement without having to meet people apart from my wife, I still had my annual birthday phone call from my brother.
These are coronavirus tips, but now I'm finding them useful for a time of war, when people have left and are forced to work remotely, or sometimes we sit at home behind two walls during air alarm. Thank you!
SUCH good advice at 3:22! I made this mistake the first week of being at home and haven't been able to stick even remotely to the ridiculously unrealistic schedule I made for myself. A list you can check off item by item is sooo much more satisfying!
I know this is like a really trivial thing, but I'm so glad the seagulls opposite my bedroom window are hatching cause it's so nice to just watch these tiny birds doing stuff and pretend I can be outside
You are 100% right about the schedule part. As a somewhat of a schedule-freak that I am, over years I've learnt that I can't really ever predict how much time something is going to take me. (Which then usually ends in feeling crappy because some task required much longer time than I expected). So yeah, I have to laugh it off when people tell me I should keep an hour-to-hour time schedule. I definitely agree with you on that part! Also, regarding the blogging question, I'm a firm believer that everyone should be entitled to post content that is not neccessarily related to the current situation in the world. There are those of us who don't like to be bombarded by countless articles about the virus all the time, and need a bit of escapism there and there. In the end, I think that all of us need a bit of an escape right now (or at any time, really). So yes, I don't really see a point in writing articles about covid just for the sake of being "with the times" and up-to-date. If it isn't something helpful and informational, why fill the blogosphere with articles which will just raise the panic? Of course, everyone is entitled to their own, but it's crucial to have at least one place, even in the internet, to escape and enjoy beautiful and creative, if not frivolous things such as fashion, pictures of pretty landscapes etc. We all need a little break, sometimes. 😊
I started only checking current Corona news every two days and honestly it's the best thing for me right now. I will still get very important news, either my mom or someone else will share them with me or I will see them on my time line on one of the social medias I'm on but I'm not actively seeking them out. Honestly when every other day is not fully true, those times in between are getting longer and longer and I'm thriving. Me obsessing over it will not make that virus disappear. I also try to go out for a short walk once or twice a year. I'm of course staying away from people while doing it.
Hah, I'm also missing my bi-weekly car ride to the supermarket! Even being 95% housebound for years, that tiny bit of freedom once every couple of weeks makes a big difference. I can understand why people who are used to leaving the house at least once a day are finding it really hard. I think the other side of it for people that are used to being at home alone all the time, can find it really tough to suddenly have family/partner there all the time. I know my routine has been thrown right out the window since my partner has been home. It's not that I'm not enjoying him being there, it's just made it really hard to do all the little things I need to do in my day to keep my physical and mental health in order. I normally have a very strict sleep/health care/eating/work/rest etc routine and the last three weeks have been a blur of late nights, computer games and facetiming friends and family. I'm craving some normality now!
You are not alone - I too need to go to the loo about 7 to 10 times a day (sometimes every hour, indeed). Thank you for your lovely tips; very validating. I incorporated nearly all of these when I first retired. Structure but not deadlines. I set an alarm for 45 - 50 minutes and then I get up from sitting (handwork or reading or computer games) and: clean or tidy something, do a stretch, do an exercise, stand or walk for 10 minutes. Before I'm allowed to sit back down, and start over again on the handwork, the book, or the game. Walk once a day for at least 20 minutes but try to aim for 2 miles. And the getting dressed to "start the day" and changing to "end the day" - great markers. All very helpful to me. Love ya!
I feel that it's okay to not mention what we are currently going through in every aspect of media. Whether it's blog posts or YT videos or articles - it's healthy to give the mind a break, as you suggested. Escapism can be a stress relief. If someone writes or posts something that does not address or mention the current state of affairs, but is interesting or thought provoking, or silly & fun ... it's fine. We put too much upon ourselves already. A nice respite is always welcomed. And who knows, one may discover new people and experiences. I for one finally joined Instagram ( I know what took me so long ). But because of where the world is at, I opened myself to a new adventure. And I am so glad I did. I've connected with people whom I never would've known otherwise. Plus, it has sparked my creativity. I know it may seem difficult, but even in uncertain & scary times, you can allow yourself to feel grateful for an opportunity that brightens your day and life. Thank you for the video, Jessica! You have helped me so much. Your words, your content, this community - you have made such an impact on my life. For that, I will forever be ... grateful. Continue to stay safe and take care! Lovely as always! 👍🤟💝
My teacher assigned us to read 1984 last week and I'm like ma'am this isn't helping my anxiety. This video helped alleviate some of that stress, thank you!
Honestly, ever since this virus hits globally, I just check the news for updates on statistics and laws n regulations being implemented for an hour or so daily. I do not check on social media for news or talk about it. There's a lot of panicking, fear and negative things online. Those are the least things I need in my life during social distancing. So watching your channel and others make my day more fun and easier to pass without losing my mind! 😉Take care of yourself and your wife, Jessica 😊
Having a routine really helps, as well as limiting my time reading or watching the news, it's too easy to fall into the ambient gloom. There is a life outside the pandemic, like making an uplifting chocolate cake without eggs. Gorcery shopping has become a little more challenging as I have to juggle with shop opening hours, working from home and scheduled team meetings online, and my bad allergy days when I am coughing, but no worries, it's just asthma !
This is so helpful as someone who is massively social, but also shielding and trying to complete my final year of university at the same time! I have got into the habit of not getting dressed, or changing into "slobbing about clothes" rather than the 40s/50s stuff which I also wear normally. I need to get back to making sure I look nice so I feel nice! Thanks Jessica! :D
You are the exact person to tell us how to cope with this distancing! It does make my day more enjoyable washing-up and putting on clean clothes ! It's easy to stay in your pj. all day but that's not for me.🇱🇷🌈💗😎
A lot of the early coping mechanisms (such as get dressed, make lists, keep a sleep schedule, etc) are also coping mechanisms I have learned from being a mentally ill person who lives in a pretty rural area with no public transit and can't drive because panic attacks have so far made passing a driver's test impossible. It's basically the wall I've built between me and having a huge breakdown and sometimes, my commitment to getting up and dressed and ready at the same time every day is the only thing keeping me going.
Girl, every video I fall in love with your perfect outfits and different hairdos! T.T They are majestic and I barely feel in the mood to brush my hair and wear clothes different from sassy goth t-shirts and leggings! But I do admit I'm wearing much more eyeshadow now that I have to wear a mask on my nose and mouth every time I leave for a needed errand. I salute you for your dedication.
I’ve completely ignored any news. I know to stay inside, and until something changes I can’t cope with hearing about people dying. Whenever my dad starts telling me everything he’s read I’ve resorted to singing horrible histories songs at him till he stops. It’s working well so far actually.
I only found your channel recently and wish I had found this video at the start of the pandemic. I moved to a new city and started a new job just before the first lockdown and basically started my job working from home. I only recently have begun going back into the office. These tips are super helpful for me regardless of the pandemic, but really highlight why my mental health has degraded so much over the past year in particular, as I didn't follow even half of these. Here's to new knowledge and starting better habits moving forward!!!
We are clearly best friends. Putting stuff in a box and hiding it is one of my go to methods. I like getting out of the house and going on a bear hunt (looking for teddy bears in people's windows) For breaks or little boosts I like using my phone as a timer, otherwise I rush through my "break" so if I set myself a 10 min timer I know I can relax even if I finish my chocolate or that game level, it really helps me to calm myself as my brain tends to panic if I feel like I'm not making progress
I love the part about scheduling and tasks cus I’ve been trying to do what my more healthy peers have been doing such as having set times to work. I haven’t been able to do that and I’ve been getting stuck for hours on end. I kinda needed that validation today. Thank you for that
Your patience and optimism is a gift to us all. I have been unable to keep from feeling pure rage when attempting to give these sorts of tips to the able bodied (or otherwise unfamiliar with houseboundedness). These are great reminders for me as well.
I legit laughed at 1:05, for those of you who have been living extremely healthy lives up until now...I feel like social isolation has been my norm since moving home in 2019. Colorado had public transportation and now Im in a comparatively inaccessible state. I have had roadblocks to getting my drivers license including depression, epilepsy, and finally by the time I was getting close to taking the test, the pandemic shut down the dmv. Trying not to feel internalized ableism around the fact Im turning 25 in may and dont have a drivers license and have never had a job.
So similar to my daughters experience. She is 22 , could not take her test and I did try to remind her that it gave her more time to practice driving. (I don't know if that even helps her but she rarely attempts to try much, I assume it took a great deal of effort to want to test her anxietygets the best of her) I hope you dont lose momentum. 😉Stay safe , from California.
Got my license at 16, then lost it at 17 for 2yrs due to epilepsy popping up out of nowhere...finally got driving privileges back ,went away to college where I knew no one, epilepsy flared....lost ability to drive for another 2yrs. You haven't LIVED til you've been the freshman college student away from home and unable to drive. Don't beat yourself up. Things happen when they are meant to...it took me til the age of 30 before I even had an inkling of what I was doing in life. Concentrate on things that make you happy or hold your interest and find a way to make money at it.
@@_galaxydrifter_ you will find your groove when you are meant to hun. Just hang in there. It took me a long time to really realize that, ya know, for some of us, our "timelines" for certain things in life are simply not meant to be the same as everyone else's. For me, personally, everything that many ppl expect earlier on in life normally...simply took me longer. Don't throw your hands up in frustration, as is easy to do, just keep chugging along chipping away towards your goals. Make those goals REALISTIC for you and whatever circumstances you're dealing with...but have those goals and don't let anyone tell ya no. I cannot tell you how much wasted time and struggle I put myself through trying to have a life similar to "everyone else". When you learn to let go of trying to fit some mold you start making one of your own...and life gets much more simpler and less frustrating. Some of us aren't meant to be ordinary doll...so do your extraordinary as only you can. It's really easy to get in your own way trying to live up to standards that you're not meant to...it does NOT mean that you are meant to fail in life. A different life doesn't have to be a bad one or an unsuccessful one either. Best of luck to you Kayden!
@@lucylulusuperguru3487 Thank you! My family was discussing birthdays this morning. I dont know if Im imagining it but I could feel the disgust from my dad that Im turning 25 and am still living with and dependent on them.. but maybe Im extrapolating too much from one expletive because of past conversations around that. Followed by unsolicited advice from my mother, whos a bookerkeeper, that I learn bookkeeping because I may be able to find a way to make income through it online even though my background is conservation biology. I started Rev a couple months ago but my dad dragged me down because Im not earning enough to pay for insurance or pay off my loans.
You’re amazing. Listening to Covid 24/7 is NOT healthy and did begin to bring me down a lot! There is a difference between being informed and just overwhelmed... I am choosing a break from Covid. Thanks and I love your style!
For the TH-camrs, I find an acknowledgement of what's happening and then the regular video that was filmed beforehand really helpful. It feels like they are saying 'hey, this exists and here's some other positive content to build you up and distract if you need'
Fresh air does wonders for your brain. I have been working on projects at home. I am also getting some cleaning done. I still shower and dress every day even though I am working from home. I still curl my hair as well. I keep in touch with friends online. I still care for my elderly mother. I watch You Tube and learn new craft projects. I am still going crazy.
Such great tips, thank you! In the midst of all this I got several blood clots in my lungs (not covid-19 related, just boring old bad birth control pills). And for a usually superactive person it has been really hard to accept that, right now, I can't walk up stairs. For me the most valuble escape has been my plants 🌱
Thank you Jessica. I needed this reminder today. Like you I have always had to be careful so as not to agrivate my autoimmune, but still went out twice a week in colder weather and more in warmer weather. So now all that has stopped except once a month food shopping. I also lost track how long it has been. Hugs.
You remind me of the post ww2 women, who roled up their sleeves, kept wit and humor and rebuildt the coutry! And let me be clear: With my word choice "role up the sleeves" I specifically meean the work you do with your channel! ;-) There are yes. "special people!" What makes them special is not the accidental state of their health, or the luck or misfortune portioned out to them. It is their ability to make the world a better place, from wherever they are! You set a magnificent example to folow! Love Thomas
the only thing im desperately missing at the moment is my favourite ramen place. im practically in withdrawal. lol, im glad im pretty used to being housebound so im not going mad. also my best friends were already on twitter ayyyy. my favourite thing to do is get on my phone, go to a03 and find a 500k story to spend the next 4 or so hours reading. or i'll craft and put on a twitch stream of someone else crafting (my fav person is a cosplayer! fawnina!) i watch soooo many documentaries as well, my top fav is alphaGo on deepmind's yt channel. keeping active since my dance classes were cancelled has been those '10 minute cardio dance' workouts. my fav conditioning workout is the 'sweaty betty ballet bootcamp enCORE' the one thing i do NOT watch is the news. nope i get enough news on my twitter feed i dont need to see asshole politicians talking about things they dont actually understand.
Jessica, Thank You for this list of things one can do while in isolation. My biggest issue is getting dressed everyday. Most of the week is flip flopped between wearing one of my maxi dresses, or staying in my jammies. Even when I do get dressed, I feel half dressed because I do not have any makeup. I got this great idea to dispose of all of my makeup that was expired and replace it with new. It seemed to be the right thing to do at the time. However, I disposed of all of it at the same time. Argh. I am on a fixed income. This means that I only have a very small amount available after paying the bills. I have to decide weather I should use what little buffer for my prescription copays or makeup. Usually I hope to have enough for both but it is not realistic. So I get dressed most days brush my hair and put it in a bun. Sorry to have had this turn into a 'woe is me' post. It is not my intention to have done so. On the bright side, my dresses hide my foot and ankle braces as well as my ever there black lace up sneakers. I will try to try some of the other suggestions. I am hoping that getting back to my previous activities that do not include going out. I cannot believe that I cannot wait to actually go to my Dr's appointments, just to be outside again😉 be well. Stay upbeat.
Recent subscriber, I enjoy watching your vintage videos. I too live with chronic illnesses. I found the rv life in United States has helped me. I can get out and hike on my good days and still try to keep distance from other who can make me sicker 🤒. This video gave good advice. Keep up the good work.
I've recently recovered from the virus, and now I've been outside on the trampoline with my sister and we baked a cake with our mom, we're having fun :)
@@sleepypsori7747 Thank you, being ill was hard, but I can imagine it wasn't nearly as bad as those who ended up in hospital with it, so it could have been worse
I’ve been trying to get dressed to feel more productive and also I have managed to do 4 units from my online qualification that’s connected to my work which is a bonus.
In California, I am chronically ill so drive my wife to the store and read in the car while she grocery shops. It gets me out of the house and makes her feel less alone when she goes to the store because I used to do all the shopping.
32 days and counting, I could just feel that I was heading into a funk. I found this video, and I'm feeling better. Several things rung true, so thanks for all that you do!! 😊
I always love your videos, but this one was particularly helpful. Although I’ve always been an overachieving introvert, I was forced to self-isolate and work from home in 2016 due to chronic illness. It was great at the beginning, but my perspective began to skew after a while and brain rot and wonky thinking really did me in for a while. Your tips are on the money and I really appreciate the reminders and new ideas! And, btw, you are the most charmingly lovely lady on the Internet. Keep those videos coming! ❤️
Thank you for all the helpful advice! I didn't want to watch this video yesterday night because I couldn't deal with anything quarantine/Coronavirus, but this morning I woke up with all new energy.
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She's really the best person to tell us how to do this, isn't she?
I like having a good balance between seeing things not connected to the virus and thing connected to anything and everything else.
She says things with humorous sarcasm that is truly the best. And her delivery is amazing!
"get dressed"
*looks down at the onesie I've been wearing for the past 2 days* yeah that might be a good idea
Let's see people brag about how long theyve worn something. Like me! I've worn the same top for a week. It's actually reversible so technically it's 2 tops lol
Does it count as getting dressed if I change my pyjama every day?
@@TomlinfiglioLuigi She says this in the video! Yes! it does!
Uh...you're in good company!
Only 2 days? You’re doing well lol
It’s nice that we’re all together in this. I get nervous, and then I realise everyone is. It’s weird, and comforting.
It's so bizarre right now, but what you can do is search for the wholesome, even if it's something small. Take this as an example: my bf was delivering pizzas and he went to a house and there was a note clearly written by a child which read:" thanks for bringing me my food. Have a KitKat!" That just shows there is hope for humanity. Stay strong and keep your mental health in order, and know that this is only temporary.
Nailed it.
It’s bizarre to chronically ill people who socially distance on their own to suddenly not being alone in social distancing, too! My cousins weirded out from everyone being home lmao
Yeah, I get what you mean. It may suck for everyone, but there's solidarity in it, too.
Honestly, as someone marginalised on several fronts and who grapples with mental illness - I really feel like bloggers should be allowed to NOT have to deal with the virus in their every post. Some people just don't have the bandwidth to deal with it - and, as you say, the spaces created outside the current crisis are good resting spots.
I'm from Rijeka, Croatia and we have a facebook group called "I love the city that flows" ("Rijeka" means "river" in Croatian, therefore, our city "flows". Also we get a LOT of rain so the slogan has two meanings; of course the original slogan is in Croatian too). Anyways, the group was so overflown by Corona posts that the admin decide to have a 10 day ban on any Corona-themed post or comment unless it's an emergency (for example, someone asking for help with groceries). It was super nice from him as the whole thing was getting tiring.
Yeah I feel the same. I'm in a Star Trek: Deep Space Nine group that has had a ban on virus related content (based on their longstanding ban on any topics not directly related to the TV show) and it's been so nice to see those posts on my Facebook feed.
No, why WOULD anyone have to post about the virus in EVERY post?! I'm tired of the virus just thinking about it.
Joshua Choo yes!!
Man we stan a self-isolation queen!
"touch a plant"
*makes eye contact with my cacti*
😂
Honestly me right now
Pat it’s pot maybe? If not never fear, it’s practicing social distancing,
eye contact????????
@@grappleberrycorn yes
I’m autistic, and here’s how I structure my to-do lists to work WITH my cognitive rigidity instead of against it. It’s designed to keep me from pushing myself too hard, or getting too upset if I don’t get through my whole to-do list. Probably also useful for anyone fighting a desire to be hyper-productive when stuck inside.
List #1: stuff I MUST finish today. I try to keep this list short by working on my procrastination habit, but resting/self-care always go here so I can’t justify skipping them
List #2: stuff I would LIKE to accomplish today but can afford to put off, listed in order of deadline. I often make tentative to-do’s a week at a time, and when I do that I can also plan when to do tasks in the event that I have to push them back (example: if I know Monday’s to-do list is pretty long and Wednesday’s is shorter, I can plan to push things I don’t finish on Monday to Wednesday)
List #3: stretch goals. Things I’m not at all obligated to do, but will give an extra dose of accomplishment if I get through my to-do list and have more leftover time and energy than I predicted (for example, re-organizing my desk).
This furthers my theory that everyone on the spectrum is simply differently brilliant.
Adrienne Jernigan thats really kind of you to say :)
I’m also going to school to be a clinical psychologist, so this kind of brain-hack is kinda my Thing lol
Same! It really works for me because it helps me prioritise. That way I don't get distracted and spend all day doing something low priority then feel guilty about forgetting the important things.
Same. Also same with having to make proper resting/self care a priority task.
@@maxwellhart3741 having personal experience with this as you do this gives you a massive lead in being understanding and compassionate in your chosen field. Hats off to you!
I don't know if I'm being paranoid about vitamin D deficiency, but I would add: get some sunlight! Spend a few minutes in direct sunlight every other day. Feeling the warmth on my skin and a light breeze works wonders for my mood.
I'm right there with you - I can't get out much even when the lockdown isn't in place due to my health, but I make an effort as the days get brighter to sit in the garden with my tea and take a breather while I soak in as much light as I can :)
We had strong sunshine yesterday here in Seattle, rare as hens teeth. I soaked it up like an hypothermic lizard.
@@florindalucero3236 Just had to comment to tell you how much I love your phrasing
I have a hamock i normly use when we go camping and i have just about managed to hang it on my balconey so i can read in there for and hour in the afternoon s
@@florindalucero3236 "hypothermic lizard" 😎 awesome!👍
I'm more of a homebody than the rest of my family, and I find having my family home more is driving me insane.
It interrupts my routine because they take care of things I normally would and there is overall more clutter to clean up.
EveesCastle me too! I love my family to the ends of the earth, but my goodness I can’t wait for them to get out. I cant wait for isolation to be over so I can be alone again 😅
Yes! My grandma is a big extrovert, and her craziness at not being able to go out is driving me crazy
The Sims 4 is on sale for $5 until April 21st. Just sayin'
Colette Lee ooo good point
Where can you find this?
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i spent 20 pounds on that, also that is the queens birthday
As someone with severe social anxiety and agoraphobia (and is working on it woo!) I'm also a stay at home pro my main fear is losing the progress I've made so speaking with people helps me a lot.
Same here. Haven't related so much to a comment for a while. Severe social anxiety and mayor depression, I've been social distancing for 4 years now, so this is kind of my normal, natural state of being. But I'm struggling a lot because I really don't want to lose the progress I've made so far. So I usually offer myself to do groceries for my family so I don't go back to hermit mode again.
Hey, you're like me!
Oh bother! I hadn't thought of that.
I so relate!
J: you’ve been stuck in your house a while and are starting to feel like throttling..
Me: the kids
J: .. a cushion.
Me: .......... yeh. Cushion.
Amy S .....yeah,cushion.😐
😂😂
By golly, your handwriting is as gorgeous as I expected.
I definitely appreciate it when bloggers/vloggers/other content creators give me a chance to think of something other than the pandemic. Living in a pandemic is challenging enough as it is, so dealing with a few additional personal crises is even less fun than it would normally be. I'm definitely all for the "tips on how to cope" and "I'm here to give you something else to think about" content right now.
As a chronically ill author, this is basically my life! It always worries me that people seem to get the impression that I'm just effortlessly fine, when in fact I've worked really hard on all this stuff for years and years.
Just shows how much your work is paying off, that's great!
You made the effort and maybe they will now understand it better, after having to cope with being homebound.
I love the no times tip. Working at home is hard. And going by time has never worked for me.
Yesterday it rained so I opened the windows in my room. When it would rain real hard, I would just sit, close my eyes and listen. It felt so good to melt into the soft sound of rain all around me. 10/10 would recommend.
I love opening windows when it rains. Just have to rush to close them when it starts raining into my room 😂
So refreshing to see a Spoonie helping out the normals. We do have a lot to give.
A massive YES to people providing content that has nothing to do with the virus.
"touch a plant" 😂 best advice of all time 😂
I needed this honestly, because whilst I am chronically ill and disabled, so I spend a lot of time at home, it's harder to do right now because I live with my parents and brother due to having no other option (yay, the economy is great), and honestly being around them this much is stressing me out, even though I love my family.
Also, I know Jessica always looks great but honestly right now that is a stunning look, I am living for her hair, that looks like it took so much work and I appreciate it 💕
It's the same way for me! I always thought that having time to be completely away from people was just an emotional maintenance thing, but now I'm realizing it was a vital part of my life. I love my family, but being around them constantly with zero breaks for the past month has been really draining. I'm really glad I'm not the only one
@@genner-vincenthodgson5177 I'm also glad I'm not the only one 😅
Chronically (mostly mentally) ill, and quite used to not talking to people at a daily basis, and usually doesn't mind spending days without leaving my flat. Was put in forced isolation awaiting for my test results coming in, and I broke a mirror, ate most of my sleeping meds and drank a bottle of wine. Being forced to sit 36 hours inside by law was like being back at coercion again, except total lack of healthcare workers I could annoy. Really grateful the results came back negative, and it turns out I'm just allergic.
I do hope most people handle it better than me.
I love that dress! It reminds me of spring, which whilst it is on our doorstep, we can't enjoy as much as we may like. All in all, I love it and it looks amazing on you!
The "stand outside your door" one reminds me of when I worked in this cafe and they'd have me doing 10 hour shifts regularly and every now and again when it was quiet I'd just step outside the door for a sec and just stand there, and it made me feel infinitely more like a person again
I’m also in the “this is really no different from my normal life” boat. I’m definitely not good at following these guidelines though, even though I know I should. But, I’m still feeling better regardless- I think because unlike others, my life hasn’t been turned upside down. It’s the one time I feel better equipped to handle a situation than other people. I sometimes feel a little guilty that my mental health is actually doing better right now than it was before (especially when I know that so many millions of people have lost their jobs, and people are sick or dying). But the fact is, my mood is better. So much so that I’ve actually gotten a bit of sewing done.
sewing for the win!
Jessica the quarantine queen
Rachel Gill QuaranQueen
Could we actually use this? Lmao
I'm almost aimless.
Feeling tired of doing nothing..
But I'm glad I saw you here😊
Now, feeling alive again😅.
"Make sure that you wake up and go to sleep at healthy times"
Yaaaaa......ummmmm... that's gonna be a problem...
I've been doing this for almost 7 years now and it's tuff but also extremely important. Interestingly only figured out how about 3weeks ago. Liquid ZZZzzzQuil . 💜😛
Varija Nateshkumar Whatever times are healthy for *you!* Doesn’t have to be the same schedule as anyone else.
@@virgquest I don't know what times are healthy for me. Hahaha ❤️
Can we all just appreciate how smooth the intro was??
Hi, have you tried " I love hue" it's a really calming and satisfying but not competitive ' game' and you get a grate sense of achievement from it. Thanks for keeping us all entertained and sane, ish. Stay safe everyone .
I'm great at being alone at home and leaving the house rarely being chronically ill. I'm surprised by how much I'm affected by everyone else also isolating themselves. I live alone and not touching anyone for 3 weeks is really messing with my mind.
I also rarely leave the house due to chronic illness so most of my life hasn’t changed but it’s still a very weird time. I live with my husband so I’m lucky to have that contact but I miss the interaction with my carers way more than I thought I would. Are you able to video call friends/family? That’s been helping my sanity.
I'm pretty much like you too...but I have been so happy to see my random grocery delivery ppl and have 3 seconds of idle chit chat through the screen in the front door that you'd think I was Charlie Sheen eyeballing a line of hookers after a week in the desert lol. I know...horrible metaphor, but sadly...presently pretty accurate.
Honestly yeah. I've found the same thing. I think it's because I'm used to having people there when I am able to go out, but now I actually can't leave and see people even on the rare occasions when I'm physically able so it feels more isolating.
I read that a thing you can do if you miss touch is to close your eyes, cover your face/cheeks with your hands and breath deeply a few times.
Also self massaging shoulders and necks ist awesome or self massaging your feet.
Just because you'll mostly feel better afterwards. Everyone abuses their necks and shoulders with bad posture and feet are usually neglected anyways.
My girlfriend is in a wheelchair and has a dog and a cat. Maybe you can foster a companion animal? If it weren't for my cat cuddling me all night, I don't know what I'd do. I don't like living alone. My anxiety medicines aren't working. Then, I think, at least I'm not pregnant or have little kids to try and make happy!
As someone who's newly on disability I've been struggling with isolation but thanks I needed this because I'm gonna be doing this for the next year. 💐
From one Adrienne to another, you can do this...you'll get through just fine...just gotta muddle along and make the best of it that you can. :)
You simply make my day Jessica! Whether it’s a good day or bad day: you remind me that I’m a grown woman & I need to plan my day accordingly. (I turn 40 tomorrow, FORTY🙈! Where does time go🤷🏼♀️)?!?! Anyway, these are wonderful ideas, some I had never considered! The highlight of most of my days has been opening the French Doors that lead out to our patio & backyard. I keep the screen closed to keep out unwelcome creepy-crawly things 🙅🏼♀️, lol. This allows me to hear the birds sing, the squirrels arguing over acorns, (they can be mean little things)! However, the best part of it all, is hearing the peals of pure innocent laughter coming from our neighbor’s two little boys (who are 3 & 5yrs old) making up games, doing scavenger hunts their amazing mom sets up for them, or telling me the story of their adventure for the day! It is impossible to be in a bad mood when those little monkeys are up to something 🙉🙈🙊! Hugs, love & prayers for all of you! 🤗💜🦋🙏🏻😘🐾🐾
Happy Birthday! Hope you find a way to make the day special.
40 isn't so bad, it feels like your world is ending at 39years and 364 days and then you wake up the day after and go 'what was I so worried about?' I found being 40 kind of gave me a freedom to make my own goals not ones I felt I should have.
As a person with an auto immune disease, who lives with my parents who are both quite hardy and in their seventies, I usually only leave the house for monthly infusion appointments and doctor's visits. I think that "social distancing pro" sounds much better than "painfully introverted person who doesn't really like people". Thanks, Jessica!
"Chuck everything into a box...."
Glances under the bed and in the closet at the various boxes that have stuff I should go through because I've done this for ages... I feel like Jessica sees into my soul 💕
Pearls, white gloves, and barbells is the exercise motivation I’ve needed all my life!
Also, baby panda videos bring me joy!
I bought a vintage nightdress on Etsy from the 1950s to boost my mood
Thank you for the kind words, Jessica, we all need them right now! I hate and fear being helpless, and To make myself feel less helpless, I'm making masks, here in San Fran, for the first responders, nurses, and family etc. (quilter, costumer), and i've been hanging out here at home for five weeks. Binge watching Netflix while I sew a little while, then go lay down, or get some coffee, or check on the soup I'm making. Sigh. Being home ill, then hoping not to get much sicker with a virus, is really difficult to deal with. Wish you had a mailing address, I'd like to send you and Claudia some masks! Colorful! possibly sparkly! hugs, and gentle with yourself.
I worked from home for years before all this happened, so when we got a shelter-in-place order in my city I thought it would be easy for me. It isn't. I didn't realize how much I was leaving the house outside of work hours to run errands, have dinner with friends, grab a drink with friends, hike, go to the river and swim, go to the springs... So many outdoor things with so many other people, though I spent most of each day alone. I miss that human interaction and freedom of movement terribly, especially since I'm isolating alone for the duration. These are great tips!
A good way to feel positive about your productivity is to have a folder or notebook in which you write everything you do in a day. Messaged cell provider ✅ Checked mail ✅ Paid electric bill ✅ Wrote 5 pages of report ✅ etc. By the end of the day you have a list of accomplishments to feel good about, and help you see why you weren’t able to do the 17 things written in your agenda. (and yes, use check marks, smileys, gold stars or other nice stickers - these little rewards for getting stuff done is really cheering). You’ll be amazed at all the things you do but don’t acknowledge because they’re not on the agenda 😁😁😁. You did great 👍🤗🌈
"Fancy Lady Penelope" is my new favorite Jessica-ism
ADORE this video :) x
I love coloring phone games for when I'm fatigued. They give the satisfaction of making something pretty without the physical movement/frustration of messing up!
as a blogger, I actually don't mention the virus in my blog other than the one post about quickly returning home from an extended road trip and having to adjust to self isolating. The rest of my blog posts are about my adventures with carpentry, woodworking and sewing and occasionally cooking. I actually love find other vlogs, blogs or posts that deal with anything other than the current pandemic and social upheaval in the States and Canada. Thank you Jessica, really love your channel.
Cushion Throttling is a time honored tradition in my household. It is the #1 sanity maintenance activity for us.
Lazy : not good for you in the long run. Me : check.
Ugh I really needed to hear being realistic with yourself. I always end up being disappointed and beating myself up when I feel like I didn't do enough. I've been diagnosed with 5 mental illnesses, and a couple I'm still learning about. ITS OKAY TO DO THE BEST I CAN. Everyone is struggling. Forgive yourself.
I agree with this. In a brilliant video by How to ADHD she mentioned that the hallway/break function is called 'transition time', and without transition time it is very difficutl for neurodivergent people to adjust to new tasks (but everyone needs transition time, just ND people need it more)
I have been isolating in Spain for more than a month now and working from home. All I can say is that you must keep your normal routine, wake up at the same hour, eat, wash yourself and dress up; also go to sleep at a normal hour out your schedule is going to wreck up and you don’t want it. I can’t leave the house at all because the government is being so restrictive and I’ve got autoinmune problems, but I’m doing a bit of exercise every afternoon to keep my body fit and stretch a lot because I am being sat more than usual. We all have now enough time to read, watch that show you wanted to, read some books, learn that delicious recipe and play videogames if you want to, it’s going to be ok!
Thank you for making this video, I have been mostly housebound for 9 years and it's so good to see a video about staying inside from someone who isn't 'healthy' I mean, it's good that they are finally accepting that staying at home also effects our mental health, but a lot of it includes ableist messages.
As for making content that isn't about coronavirus I am all for it. I'm so glad most Sims players are continuing to post as allows me to enjoy something completely unrelated to the current crisis.
I loved number 13! I'm from Italy and my city is in a complete lockdown since the last week of february, so...I used to make lists and lists and lists that never worked while previously I was able to accomplish any task written on that piece of paper....now I just stopped because the feeling of not being productve was putting me of and to be honest I feel like I do more without worrying too much about what I should or must do that day, so definetly stop writing kept me sane 😊
Some times a tadar list is a nicer way around a tadar list is a list of things you have don rather then things you need to do
@@ronistitch6510 thank you for the tip! I will try and for sure it will raise my mood!
As a fellow list maker, I heartily agree with your list-related suggestions. To add, I've found that on days when it seems like nothing on the list has been done because other things came up (in my job, I get interrupted frequently to serve others), if I add those unexpected/new things to the list, then I get to check them off as completed, which ensures I get to have that happy feeling of checking off items plus the amended list shows me that things were, in fact, accomplished. The unexpected doesn't feel so off-track, then. Also, I advance what wasn't done on today's list to the next day's list, and spend that time reassuring myself that these tasks will eventually be done.
Your videos are my micro lifts. Seriously I have thoroughly loved Lockdown, complete control of my social engagement without having to meet people apart from my wife, I still had my annual birthday phone call from my brother.
These are coronavirus tips, but now I'm finding them useful for a time of war, when people have left and are forced to work remotely, or sometimes we sit at home behind two walls during air alarm. Thank you!
SUCH good advice at 3:22! I made this mistake the first week of being at home and haven't been able to stick even remotely to the ridiculously unrealistic schedule I made for myself. A list you can check off item by item is sooo much more satisfying!
I know this is like a really trivial thing, but I'm so glad the seagulls opposite my bedroom window are hatching cause it's so nice to just watch these tiny birds doing stuff and pretend I can be outside
You are 100% right about the schedule part. As a somewhat of a schedule-freak that I am, over years I've learnt that I can't really ever predict how much time something is going to take me. (Which then usually ends in feeling crappy because some task required much longer time than I expected). So yeah, I have to laugh it off when people tell me I should keep an hour-to-hour time schedule. I definitely agree with you on that part!
Also, regarding the blogging question, I'm a firm believer that everyone should be entitled to post content that is not neccessarily related to the current situation in the world. There are those of us who don't like to be bombarded by countless articles about the virus all the time, and need a bit of escapism there and there. In the end, I think that all of us need a bit of an escape right now (or at any time, really). So yes, I don't really see a point in writing articles about covid just for the sake of being "with the times" and up-to-date. If it isn't something helpful and informational, why fill the blogosphere with articles which will just raise the panic? Of course, everyone is entitled to their own, but it's crucial to have at least one place, even in the internet, to escape and enjoy beautiful and creative, if not frivolous things such as fashion, pictures of pretty landscapes etc. We all need a little break, sometimes. 😊
I started only checking current Corona news every two days and honestly it's the best thing for me right now. I will still get very important news, either my mom or someone else will share them with me or I will see them on my time line on one of the social medias I'm on but I'm not actively seeking them out. Honestly when every other day is not fully true, those times in between are getting longer and longer and I'm thriving.
Me obsessing over it will not make that virus disappear.
I also try to go out for a short walk once or twice a year. I'm of course staying away from people while doing it.
Hah, I'm also missing my bi-weekly car ride to the supermarket! Even being 95% housebound for years, that tiny bit of freedom once every couple of weeks makes a big difference. I can understand why people who are used to leaving the house at least once a day are finding it really hard.
I think the other side of it for people that are used to being at home alone all the time, can find it really tough to suddenly have family/partner there all the time. I know my routine has been thrown right out the window since my partner has been home. It's not that I'm not enjoying him being there, it's just made it really hard to do all the little things I need to do in my day to keep my physical and mental health in order. I normally have a very strict sleep/health care/eating/work/rest etc routine and the last three weeks have been a blur of late nights, computer games and facetiming friends and family. I'm craving some normality now!
Who else wants to see Jessica and Molly Burke do a collab?
Oh definitely. I'd love to see Molly try on vintage clothes or have a 50s makeup routine. That would be great!
Omgerd yes
You are not alone - I too need to go to the loo about 7 to 10 times a day (sometimes every hour, indeed). Thank you for your lovely tips; very validating. I incorporated nearly all of these when I first retired. Structure but not deadlines. I set an alarm for 45 - 50 minutes and then I get up from sitting (handwork or reading or computer games) and: clean or tidy something, do a stretch, do an exercise, stand or walk for 10 minutes. Before I'm allowed to sit back down, and start over again on the handwork, the book, or the game. Walk once a day for at least 20 minutes but try to aim for 2 miles. And the getting dressed to "start the day" and changing to "end the day" - great markers. All very helpful to me. Love ya!
I feel that it's okay to not mention what we are currently going through in every aspect of media. Whether it's blog posts or YT videos or articles - it's healthy to give the mind a break, as you suggested.
Escapism can be a stress relief. If someone writes or posts something that does not address or mention the current state of affairs, but is interesting or thought provoking, or silly & fun ... it's fine. We put too much upon ourselves already. A nice respite is always welcomed. And who knows, one may discover new people and experiences. I for one finally joined Instagram ( I know what took me so long ). But because of where the world is at, I opened myself to a new adventure. And I am so glad I did. I've connected with people whom I never would've known otherwise. Plus, it has sparked my creativity. I know it may seem difficult, but even in uncertain & scary times, you can allow yourself to feel grateful for an opportunity that brightens your day and life.
Thank you for the video, Jessica! You have helped me so much. Your words, your content, this community - you have made such an impact on my life. For that, I will forever be ... grateful.
Continue to stay safe and take care!
Lovely as always! 👍🤟💝
My teacher assigned us to read 1984 last week and I'm like ma'am this isn't helping my anxiety. This video helped alleviate some of that stress, thank you!
Honestly, ever since this virus hits globally, I just check the news for updates on statistics and laws n regulations being implemented for an hour or so daily. I do not check on social media for news or talk about it. There's a lot of panicking, fear and negative things online. Those are the least things I need in my life during social distancing. So watching your channel and others make my day more fun and easier to pass without losing my mind! 😉Take care of yourself and your wife, Jessica 😊
Having a routine really helps, as well as limiting my time reading or watching the news, it's too easy to fall into the ambient gloom. There is a life outside the pandemic, like making an uplifting chocolate cake without eggs. Gorcery shopping has become a little more challenging as I have to juggle with shop opening hours, working from home and scheduled team meetings online, and my bad allergy days when I am coughing, but no worries, it's just asthma !
This is so helpful as someone who is massively social, but also shielding and trying to complete my final year of university at the same time! I have got into the habit of not getting dressed, or changing into "slobbing about clothes" rather than the 40s/50s stuff which I also wear normally. I need to get back to making sure I look nice so I feel nice! Thanks Jessica! :D
You are the exact person to tell us how to cope with this distancing! It does make my day more enjoyable washing-up and putting on clean clothes ! It's easy to stay in your pj. all day but that's not for me.🇱🇷🌈💗😎
Depression hits me especially hard in these days. I really needed that, thank you so much
A lot of the early coping mechanisms (such as get dressed, make lists, keep a sleep schedule, etc) are also coping mechanisms I have learned from being a mentally ill person who lives in a pretty rural area with no public transit and can't drive because panic attacks have so far made passing a driver's test impossible. It's basically the wall I've built between me and having a huge breakdown and sometimes, my commitment to getting up and dressed and ready at the same time every day is the only thing keeping me going.
Girl, every video I fall in love with your perfect outfits and different hairdos! T.T They are majestic and I barely feel in the mood to brush my hair and wear clothes different from sassy goth t-shirts and leggings! But I do admit I'm wearing much more eyeshadow now that I have to wear a mask on my nose and mouth every time I leave for a needed errand. I salute you for your dedication.
I’ve completely ignored any news. I know to stay inside, and until something changes I can’t cope with hearing about people dying. Whenever my dad starts telling me everything he’s read I’ve resorted to singing horrible histories songs at him till he stops. It’s working well so far actually.
I only found your channel recently and wish I had found this video at the start of the pandemic. I moved to a new city and started a new job just before the first lockdown and basically started my job working from home. I only recently have begun going back into the office. These tips are super helpful for me regardless of the pandemic, but really highlight why my mental health has degraded so much over the past year in particular, as I didn't follow even half of these. Here's to new knowledge and starting better habits moving forward!!!
“It’s making us want to throttle a cushion” love it
We are clearly best friends.
Putting stuff in a box and hiding it is one of my go to methods.
I like getting out of the house and going on a bear hunt (looking for teddy bears in people's windows)
For breaks or little boosts I like using my phone as a timer, otherwise I rush through my "break" so if I set myself a 10 min timer I know I can relax even if I finish my chocolate or that game level, it really helps me to calm myself as my brain tends to panic if I feel like I'm not making progress
It's 4 pm and I haven't washed my face since last night. I'm gonna go do that now.
Trinity Soria Today I have sunscreen, yes I went ‘outside’ to pick up a food parcel from my sons school, I should remove that... Yesterday; Same 🙂
I love the part about scheduling and tasks cus I’ve been trying to do what my more healthy peers have been doing such as having set times to work. I haven’t been able to do that and I’ve been getting stuck for hours on end. I kinda needed that validation today. Thank you for that
Your patience and optimism is a gift to us all. I have been unable to keep from feeling pure rage when attempting to give these sorts of tips to the able bodied (or otherwise unfamiliar with houseboundedness). These are great reminders for me as well.
Jessica saving my sanity once again! 👏♥️
I legit laughed at 1:05, for those of you who have been living extremely healthy lives up until now...I feel like social isolation has been my norm since moving home in 2019. Colorado had public transportation and now Im in a comparatively inaccessible state. I have had roadblocks to getting my drivers license including depression, epilepsy, and finally by the time I was getting close to taking the test, the pandemic shut down the dmv. Trying not to feel internalized ableism around the fact Im turning 25 in may and dont have a drivers license and have never had a job.
So similar to my daughters experience. She is 22 , could not take her test and I did try to remind her that it gave her more time to practice driving. (I don't know if that even helps her but she rarely attempts to try much, I assume it took a great deal of effort to want to test her anxietygets the best of her)
I hope you dont lose momentum. 😉Stay safe , from California.
Got my license at 16, then lost it at 17 for 2yrs due to epilepsy popping up out of nowhere...finally got driving privileges back ,went away to college where I knew no one, epilepsy flared....lost ability to drive for another 2yrs. You haven't LIVED til you've been the freshman college student away from home and unable to drive. Don't beat yourself up. Things happen when they are meant to...it took me til the age of 30 before I even had an inkling of what I was doing in life. Concentrate on things that make you happy or hold your interest and find a way to make money at it.
@@lucylulusuperguru3487 Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective; I appreciate it!
@@_galaxydrifter_ you will find your groove when you are meant to hun. Just hang in there. It took me a long time to really realize that, ya know, for some of us, our "timelines" for certain things in life are simply not meant to be the same as everyone else's. For me, personally, everything that many ppl expect earlier on in life normally...simply took me longer. Don't throw your hands up in frustration, as is easy to do, just keep chugging along chipping away towards your goals. Make those goals REALISTIC for you and whatever circumstances you're dealing with...but have those goals and don't let anyone tell ya no. I cannot tell you how much wasted time and struggle I put myself through trying to have a life similar to "everyone else". When you learn to let go of trying to fit some mold you start making one of your own...and life gets much more simpler and less frustrating. Some of us aren't meant to be ordinary doll...so do your extraordinary as only you can. It's really easy to get in your own way trying to live up to standards that you're not meant to...it does NOT mean that you are meant to fail in life. A different life doesn't have to be a bad one or an unsuccessful one either. Best of luck to you Kayden!
@@lucylulusuperguru3487 Thank you! My family was discussing birthdays this morning. I dont know if Im imagining it but I could feel the disgust from my dad that Im turning 25 and am still living with and dependent on them.. but maybe Im extrapolating too much from one expletive because of past conversations around that. Followed by unsolicited advice from my mother, whos a bookerkeeper, that I learn bookkeeping because I may be able to find a way to make income through it online even though my background is conservation biology. I started Rev a couple months ago but my dad dragged me down because Im not earning enough to pay for insurance or pay off my loans.
You’re amazing. Listening to Covid 24/7 is NOT healthy and did begin to bring me down a lot! There is a difference between being informed and just overwhelmed... I am choosing a break from Covid. Thanks and I love your style!
I am a healthy person but I love having an excuse to stay at home. Yay.
Lydia Chong same
Quarantine has made my depression so much worse. I can barely get out of bed now but I’m going to try and follow these videos
For the TH-camrs, I find an acknowledgement of what's happening and then the regular video that was filmed beforehand really helpful. It feels like they are saying 'hey, this exists and here's some other positive content to build you up and distract if you need'
Fresh air does wonders for your brain. I have been working on projects at home. I am also getting some cleaning done. I still shower and dress every day even though I am working from home. I still curl my hair as well. I keep in touch with friends online. I still care for my elderly mother. I watch You Tube and learn new craft projects. I am still going crazy.
This is also great advice for those who suffer from episodic depression. This list is pretty much my self-care check list while I'm in a episode. 🥴
Such great tips, thank you! In the midst of all this I got several blood clots in my lungs (not covid-19 related, just boring old bad birth control pills). And for a usually superactive person it has been really hard to accept that, right now, I can't walk up stairs. For me the most valuble escape has been my plants 🌱
Thank you Jessica. I needed this reminder today. Like you I have always had to be careful so as not to agrivate my autoimmune, but still went out twice a week in colder weather and more in warmer weather. So now all that has stopped except once a month food shopping. I also lost track how long it has been. Hugs.
You remind me of the post ww2 women, who roled up their sleeves, kept wit and humor and rebuildt the coutry! And let me be clear: With my word choice "role up the sleeves" I specifically meean the work you do with your channel! ;-) There are yes. "special people!" What makes them special is not the accidental state of their health, or the luck or misfortune portioned out to them. It is their ability to make the world a better place, from wherever they are! You set a magnificent example to folow! Love Thomas
the only thing im desperately missing at the moment is my favourite ramen place. im practically in withdrawal. lol, im glad im pretty used to being housebound so im not going mad. also my best friends were already on twitter ayyyy.
my favourite thing to do is get on my phone, go to a03 and find a 500k story to spend the next 4 or so hours reading. or i'll craft and put on a twitch stream of someone else crafting (my fav person is a cosplayer! fawnina!)
i watch soooo many documentaries as well, my top fav is alphaGo on deepmind's yt channel. keeping active since my dance classes were cancelled has been those '10 minute cardio dance' workouts. my fav conditioning workout is the 'sweaty betty ballet bootcamp enCORE' the one thing i do NOT watch is the news. nope i get enough news on my twitter feed i dont need to see asshole politicians talking about things they dont actually understand.
You lost me at reading a 500k fic on 4 hours! Speed reading queen!
Jessica, Thank You for this list of things one can do while in isolation. My biggest issue is getting dressed everyday. Most of the week is flip flopped between wearing one of my maxi dresses, or staying in my jammies. Even when I do get dressed, I feel half dressed because I do not have any makeup. I got this great idea to dispose of all of my makeup that was expired and replace it with new. It seemed to be the right thing to do at the time. However, I disposed of all of it at the same time. Argh. I am on a fixed income. This means that I only have a very small amount available after paying the bills. I have to decide weather I should use what little buffer for my prescription copays or makeup. Usually I hope to have enough for both but it is not realistic. So I get dressed most days brush my hair and put it in a bun. Sorry to have had this turn into a 'woe is me' post. It is not my intention to have done so. On the bright side, my dresses hide my foot and ankle braces as well as my ever there black lace up sneakers. I will try to try some of the other suggestions. I am hoping that getting back to my previous activities that do not include going out. I cannot believe that I cannot wait to actually go to my Dr's appointments, just to be outside again😉 be well. Stay upbeat.
Recent subscriber, I enjoy watching your vintage videos. I too live with chronic illnesses. I found the rv life in United States has helped me. I can get out and hike on my good days and still try to keep distance from other who can make me sicker 🤒. This video gave good advice. Keep up the good work.
I've recently recovered from the virus, and now I've been outside on the trampoline with my sister and we baked a cake with our mom, we're having fun :)
Your strong buddy
Stay safe and have a great day or whatever it is
Glad your having fun enjoy your cake
@@sleepypsori7747 Thank you, being ill was hard, but I can imagine it wasn't nearly as bad as those who ended up in hospital with it, so it could have been worse
I’ve been trying to get dressed to feel more productive and also I have managed to do 4 units from my online qualification that’s connected to my work which is a bonus.
Thanks, I have severe depression so this is actually really helpful for life in general ❤️
In California, I am chronically ill so drive my wife to the store and read in the car while she grocery shops. It gets me out of the house and makes her feel less alone when she goes to the store because I used to do all the shopping.
Thank you so much Jessica!
If there’s one person I trust with giving me advice on this subject, it’s probably you!
32 days and counting, I could just feel that I was heading into a funk. I found this video, and I'm feeling better. Several things rung true, so thanks for all that you do!! 😊
This is exactly what I needed thank u xxx
I always love your videos, but this one was particularly helpful. Although I’ve always been an overachieving introvert, I was forced to self-isolate and work from home in 2016 due to chronic illness. It was great at the beginning, but my perspective began to skew after a while and brain rot and wonky thinking really did me in for a while. Your tips are on the money and I really appreciate the reminders and new ideas! And, btw, you are the most charmingly lovely lady on the Internet. Keep those videos coming! ❤️
Thank you for all the helpful advice! I didn't want to watch this video yesterday night because I couldn't deal with anything quarantine/Coronavirus, but this morning I woke up with all new energy.
Your dress is adorable!