Answering your rudest questions! // Vlogmas 2019 Day 18

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  • @moonell
    @moonell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1679

    I'm really happy you found your Claudia. Now where do I get one of those

    • @heatherspill5817
      @heatherspill5817 4 ปีที่แล้ว +128

      They're a rare breed, we all search for a Claudia. I too am looking for my own Claudia.

    • @moonell
      @moonell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +95

      @@heatherspill5817 Cool, wanna look together? We can host self-pity parties for all the Claudialess

    • @heatherspill5817
      @heatherspill5817 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      @@moonell we will compile a list of places to search for a Claudia...

    • @moonell
      @moonell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      @@heatherspill5817
      n.1: at the dentists

    • @georgygirl64uk
      @georgygirl64uk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +86

      Maybe you're each other's Claudia? 😊

  • @catrinabush1530
    @catrinabush1530 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1021

    "yeah with the disability of like humongous petticoats" 💀🤣 I was not expecting that level of shade from Claud but so appreciated! Watched it three times!!! 🤣

    • @kirstybean5277
      @kirstybean5277 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Catrina Bush so true😂😂😂

    • @amysthe-wise-one8493
      @amysthe-wise-one8493 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      So cheeky and so lovely.

    • @MissRnH
      @MissRnH 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      8:21 for reference!

  • @hannahgross9923
    @hannahgross9923 4 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    The thing claudia was talking about with accidentally swapping letters when you're speaking is called a Spoonerism!!!!

    • @MissRnH
      @MissRnH 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think it's actually called "malapropism" (mixing up two similar words like tomato and potato). Spoonerism is mixing up the beginning sounds in two words.

    • @ForwardEarth
      @ForwardEarth 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@MissRnH What Claudia described was a spoonerism. She said she swaps letters from one word to the next. That's nothing like a malapropism.

    • @potato-rp2bf
      @potato-rp2bf 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      MissRnH You’re both right. Hannah was talking about spoonerisms, you added in malapropisms.

    • @jirahjashmiermacalino7556
      @jirahjashmiermacalino7556 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh.....why do I only know of this now? Huh, I guess there is actually a name for mixing your words, I do it alot

  • @elizabethfreed472
    @elizabethfreed472 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    The whole part about Claudia not infantalizing Jessica was really helpful! Everything Claudia said about like how it's taking care of a parent. It's about treating the person -- thinking of them -- as an adult, even when they need your help.
    You two are so sweet and cute, and have such a healthy relationship, that it gives me hope to have my own lesbian happy ever after despite my chronic illness and disability!

  • @nicholettemichelle7945
    @nicholettemichelle7945 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so very much for having your channel. it’s people like you who publicly discussed the disorder like eds and pots that make people like me who secretly suffer from it feel a lot better existing in this world. Thank you for sharing you give me hope that I’ll find that special one as well.

  • @mistdragon6690
    @mistdragon6690 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love how even though you're looking at her lips so you can lip read it still looks really endearing and romantic

  • @kittehgo
    @kittehgo 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Randomly stumbled across this vid, and when you mentiond being blind on (in?) one eye. I immediately thought "she would really rock an eye patch" :)

  • @gabsburn
    @gabsburn 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey Jessica! Advice on birth control: I’ve been shuffling between different birth controls since I was 16 (I’m 20). I’ve been told that it’s probably endometriosis that causes my problems (intense cramps and pain). Just this week the doctor switched me to a progestin pill that should stop them completely! Maybe your doctor could prescribe something similar?

  • @no.1appastan
    @no.1appastan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I keep thinking your wife is Claire from Fleabag, but she's got phoebe Wallace-bridge's (main character) voice

  • @rebekahwood62
    @rebekahwood62 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1724

    “Your disability that is humongous petty coats” 😂😂😂

    • @LittleAmyHe
      @LittleAmyHe 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      I wear petticoats too (though I prefer hoop skirts) and I felt that attack deep in my bones XD

    • @TravelinJenB
      @TravelinJenB 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      That one had me rolling 🤣🤣🤣

    • @LifeLostSoul
      @LifeLostSoul 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      My favorite part is how 100% true this is!!
      I'm pretty sure petticoats tie rompers for the most different thing to be wearing in a restroom.
      *Cosplay I'm not putting in the running because cosplay is a competition to design an outfit that is the least ideal to use the restroom. Plus super complicated cosplay is normally only warn a handful of times a years.

    • @luciaayaso2260
      @luciaayaso2260 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Y'all are gonna think I'm an ass but idc. What is a petty coat actually? I could look it up but I'm not sure it would be the "real" answer still.

    • @Autistic_Pixie
      @Autistic_Pixie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@luciaayaso2260 a petticoat is an undergarment, they’re a very vintage thing women would wear under their skirts

  • @miriamkorver1443
    @miriamkorver1443 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1052

    The "why are you in a wheelchair if you can walk" question is similar to "why do you drive a bike/car if you can walk". Because you can't walk *that distance* (aside from other reasons of course).

    • @emmynoether9540
      @emmynoether9540 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      +

    • @mmtruooao8377
      @mmtruooao8377 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      I think this is an understandable confusion since a lot of people associate wheelchairs with having no ability to walk at all due to media (in TV and books i've never seen a character who uses a wheelchair unless they've been like paralyzed from birth or they're drugged in a hospital)

    • @lizsun261
      @lizsun261 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      "why do you use oven mitts when you could grab the pan with your bare hands?" (totaly stole that off twitter lol)

    • @ragamuffin1588
      @ragamuffin1588 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      +

    • @megaibfernape3612
      @megaibfernape3612 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      What about the question why do you have a bike if you can't walk?

  • @jessicaoutofthecloset
    @jessicaoutofthecloset  4 ปีที่แล้ว +477

    **CAPTIONS CURRENTLY SYNCING**
    Thank you so much for watching and asking the questions 😉xxxx

    • @kokopuppy57342
      @kokopuppy57342 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Jessica Kellgren-Fozard another question I thought of when you were talking about migraines and side effects. Do you have access to the new medication for migraines? There are 3 types and you inject them once a month. They are a special kind of antibody they have little to no side effects for most people! I don’t know if it’s available outside of the US yet but I was thinking of you when I heard about it.

    • @LS-yj7be
      @LS-yj7be 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I would love to know where you shop for such fabulous vintage-style clothes. You have such a terrific wardrobe that I'm sure they aren't all actual vintage dresses. But somehow I can't imagine either of you sewing them yourselves. (Because of time and energy restrictions rather than lack of ability or skill!)

    • @josietheponey9202
      @josietheponey9202 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      When should the captions be available? Your update was 3 hours ago and the captions still aren't showing up for me

    • @boooooooooooooyou
      @boooooooooooooyou 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank YOU.

    • @TheSillyCanadian1
      @TheSillyCanadian1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Your dedication to making sure the captions are good is amazing because like I do that for a living and I don't care how good the technology is, it's always a bit tedious.

  • @aubreymaiers9175
    @aubreymaiers9175 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1405

    My sister had Neurofibromatosis and people used to constantly whisper, stare, and point. Kids would stare and my sister always said, "I'd feel better if you asked about how I look instead of assuming or being afraid".
    She died in 2017 but she was a big believer in "ask if you're uncertain, don't assume or bully. No question is dumb or rude if the question comes from a place of seeking knowledge and understanding."

    • @shalacarter6658
      @shalacarter6658 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Blessings to you .

    • @aubreymaiers9175
      @aubreymaiers9175 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      @@shalacarter6658 thank you lovely. The holidays are always the hardest. I also miscarried my first son in December so this time of year particularly is tough.

    • @crisnemitz1606
      @crisnemitz1606 4 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      @@aubreymaiers9175 I miscarried in December as well. It was my 2nd miscarriage. I believe we will get to hold our littlest angels one day! 🙏

    • @aubreymaiers9175
      @aubreymaiers9175 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@crisnemitz1606 I agree. Hope your holiday season has happiness amongst any sadness you feel.

    • @jude297
      @jude297 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Blessed be. I lost a dear aunt to cancer the week before Christmas and this is always a hard season

  • @ZoeMikelStites
    @ZoeMikelStites 4 ปีที่แล้ว +758

    Claudia: "We're a married couple, we can kiss! What were you thinking about?"
    Jess: "Nothing O_O"
    XD So wholesome

  • @cocobone5127
    @cocobone5127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +510

    I always reply to what’s wrong with you with do you want the history in chronological order, alphabetical or by what effects me most

    • @sgough4315
      @sgough4315 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      I always run out of room when filling out forms even using initials. I end up scribbling down the edge.

    • @shalacarter6658
      @shalacarter6658 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Me, too! "Do you want that list chronological or alphabetical? (or by the most annoying)

    • @shalacarter6658
      @shalacarter6658 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@sgough4315 Oh, yes! Try to fit a list of meds in those tiny boxes. And forms that just ask numbers? I fill in all of the blank parts!

    • @sgough4315
      @sgough4315 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@@shalacarter6658 yes I forgot about the lists of medications - how many a day & what strength ? And the number questions ! Aaah !

    • @cocobone5127
      @cocobone5127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      s gough yep like before my surgery we had to do one of those forms but we just asked for a second peice of paper aha

  • @aliceg5327
    @aliceg5327 4 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    Claud's voice IS more monotone than the average I would say, indeed! But contrary to her qualifying it as boring, I find it very soothing.

    • @KindCountsDeb3773
      @KindCountsDeb3773 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yes, it has a calming effect and I listen intently. I love her voice and Jessica's. Not that they needed me to. lol

    • @Alice-gr1kb
      @Alice-gr1kb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      yeah it’s so nice to listen to her voice

  • @juditb196
    @juditb196 4 ปีที่แล้ว +816

    So you're telling me Claudia's cheekbones look like this without makeup?? Gosh, I'm so jealous.
    P.s. These vlogmas videos are seriously blessings, you guys have the kind of relationship I've always dreamed of 🥺

    • @jmonta21
      @jmonta21 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Bubble Joo Claudia is so naturally gorgeous. I’m so jealous

    • @BeautybyRonja101
      @BeautybyRonja101 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Bubble Joo I know 😫😫 just got out of a abusive lesbian relationship..just want something like there’s 🥺

  • @lucypeters9476
    @lucypeters9476 4 ปีที่แล้ว +243

    "were you just getting girls to touch you?" 😂😂
    That's a big mood

    • @galaxykitten6849
      @galaxykitten6849 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The read more won’t open for me :(
      Edit: typo

  • @hannahwitton
    @hannahwitton 4 ปีที่แล้ว +218

    wooo thanks for the plug you legends!! also, I may have to copy this video idea :P

  • @majiaqua6670
    @majiaqua6670 4 ปีที่แล้ว +482

    December has been a really stressful month, But knowing that you’re going to have a video every day has been helping me be productive. Thank you so much for being such a beautiful positive force, I hope you have an amazing holiday season!💕💕💕

    • @jessicaoutofthecloset
      @jessicaoutofthecloset  4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      Sending you lots of love to get you through ❤️

    • @majiaqua6670
      @majiaqua6670 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      You just made my day ❤️ thank you so much! 💕💕

    • @aliciaweiss326
      @aliciaweiss326 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yes, my thought exactly, Majentah! A beast of a month by I still feel incredibly spoiled to have a new Jessica and Claudia fix every day!

    • @mothermovementa
      @mothermovementa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@jessicaoutofthecloset She's an angel😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @Yandolito
    @Yandolito 4 ปีที่แล้ว +570

    Oh my... 😂 😂 😂 I just imagined how tactile braille with lips would work out and about when Jess is always wearing lipstick - there would be traces of her all over Brighton😂😂😂💄

    • @deswen777
      @deswen777 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yes exactly

    • @kaptainkayje
      @kaptainkayje 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Random person - 'What does this braille read?'
      Jessica was here...

    • @gudkush420
      @gudkush420 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      She'd also be getting sick more often because... germs

  • @jasminefigures9899
    @jasminefigures9899 4 ปีที่แล้ว +687

    Can we please make a distinction bw asking an influencer online, who is an advocate and educator these rude questions and having an answer and asking a stranger in real life. Asking rude questions to Jessica is fine. Demanding someone in the street or someone you kind of know through work these questions isn't great, and if they don't want to talk about it they aren't being closed minded they just don't want to talk to an ass hole about private matters. Please don't use the fact that she said she will be open minded, will answer these questions and is happy to answer questions, as a way to prove that anyone who doesn't answer calmly and in detail the way you want them to about extremely sensitive info is being bad and closed minded. It is not the job of strangers to educate you, it is part of advocates and educators job, and your job is to not be needlessly cruel to strangers, look it up online later.
    I recently had someone say I didn't have a right to mad that a complete stranger w/out any permission grabbed my tit bc they wanted to know how well binders had worked, and it is was my job to educate them in detail. And I know that so many people will take her saying that she likes answering questions as a way to educate and be open minded, and apply it to everyone, so if anyone doesn't answer questions, or say it isn't their job to educate is bad. I'm not saying that jessica is bad for saying it, I just know that someone will take it that way, and I gotta nip that in the bud.

    • @jessicaoutofthecloset
      @jessicaoutofthecloset  4 ปีที่แล้ว +328

      You are completely right. I’m happy to answer questions and make videos on topics the general public are interested in because it’s my job and a HUGE part of that job is doing it so that other people don’t have to. I’m happy to be the online resource that people use to find out the answers to their difficult questions. No one has the right to ask invasive questions of someone without the person first asserting their openness to such.
      Thank you for highlighting this and apologies if I didn’t make it clear enough in the video ♥️

    • @emmynoether9540
      @emmynoether9540 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +

    • @RoflsaurousRex09
      @RoflsaurousRex09 4 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      I hope you punched that person. I'm not for violence, but when someone touches someone else in a place like that without permission, I feel like punching is the right kind of self defense. No one should EVER touch someone else without their full permission! Self defense is for everyone, old, young, Male, female, disabled, and able bodied.

    • @mmtruooao8377
      @mmtruooao8377 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      This is a big trans mood. It can be honestly terrifying when people randomly ask about like... genitals, your sex life, sexuality, surgery, hormones, doctors, especially if they don't know you, but even with friends it would be extremely awkward (and probably friendship-ending) to be put in that situation.

    • @punky19761
      @punky19761 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      High five up top. 🙌🏽

  • @telkins3388
    @telkins3388 4 ปีที่แล้ว +420

    "Why do you dress like that?"
    ....only mildly disappointed that petticoats breaking falls wasn't part of the reason. (because they SO DO)

    • @shalacarter6658
      @shalacarter6658 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yeah, that was in a different video! :)

    • @tealkerberus748
      @tealkerberus748 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      They're also incredibly handy on the farm. Anything from something to wipe my hands on, to being able to take an underskirt off to use to get a better grip with emergency midwifery situations - multiple layers of skirts are wonderful.

  • @kate5176
    @kate5176 4 ปีที่แล้ว +184

    I think the rudest thing Ive been asked when people find out there's something wrong with me is "Your boyfriend is so active why on earth is he dating you!?

    • @shelbymachado8712
      @shelbymachado8712 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Wow. Fuck those people. Dinguses.

    • @doralilikovacs2898
      @doralilikovacs2898 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      I hate those questions so badly!!! my boyfriend has a chronic illness and he got asked by hy ex boss, how someone so criple manages to date someone like me 🤦😡😠 he acted if it was a joke but honestly even if it was, it is so awful, it makes me cry honestly

    • @purpleduracell
      @purpleduracell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      WOW

    • @Rachel-fi4sc
      @Rachel-fi4sc 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Same! My partner is super active and I have a minor disability, and it's mostly that I can't believe he can love me despite having to wait for me to catch up so often.

    • @doralilikovacs2898
      @doralilikovacs2898 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Rachel-fi4sc never listen to them ever 💛 your partner just as lucky to be with you 😊

  • @ashleykorpela4366
    @ashleykorpela4366 4 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    I started watching this video almost 3 hours ago, but because of all the references to other videos I kept getting sidetracked lol. So i ended up (happily) watching about 6 or 7 of your other videos as I watched this one! Enjoyed all of them!

  • @TheSillyCanadian1
    @TheSillyCanadian1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +768

    *grabs popcorn and settles in for the absolute fuckery*

    • @marshmallow5064
      @marshmallow5064 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      *frickery* *

    • @chrissyzcreationz
      @chrissyzcreationz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      can we be best friends??? I literally thought the same thing!! haha

  • @JustBeeCharmer
    @JustBeeCharmer 4 ปีที่แล้ว +135

    *Family friendly, family friendly* oh I'm dying 😂😂

  • @히끼히끼-v8e
    @히끼히끼-v8e 4 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    Your videos really helped me understand how to adapt myself to my gf's illnesses! Thank you so much, for the positivity, for the wlw goals, for the gayness and for the information! I hope you continue to inform us a lot in 2020!

  • @synteis
    @synteis 4 ปีที่แล้ว +150

    The non-family friends moments in this really made me smile.

  • @katiek.982
    @katiek.982 4 ปีที่แล้ว +119

    I fully thought tomatoes were potatoes until halfway through elementary school so I GET IT, CLAUDIA

    • @aprilscott4379
      @aprilscott4379 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      My daughter (3 y/o) has such a difficulty with this. She currently calls both tampatoes

    • @askialuna7717
      @askialuna7717 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I understand that too, I always mix up cauliflower and broccoli

    • @letterborneVods
      @letterborneVods 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      April Scott that’s funny 😅 you should write it down so she can laugh about this when she’s older

    • @natalielloyd9200
      @natalielloyd9200 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I have what my hubby calls 5-a-day-dyslexia 😆 I have real problems with fruit and veg names! I get dates, grapes and olives mixed up...tomatoes & potatoes...peaches, plums, nectarines, tangerines...basically most fruit and veg apart from apples and bananas! Like I KNOW what they are I just get the words wrong!

    • @alysonshorthouse8858
      @alysonshorthouse8858 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I get yellow and red mixed up. I can look at a red binder and say its yellow and vice versa. Im not colour blind or anything but I just say the wrong word

  • @KikiLynnie
    @KikiLynnie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Not to be rude, but people can be so rude sometimes. 😂
    In all seriousness, Claudia is that gorgeous and she’s not wearing makeup? I am jealous as hell! And I love the way you dress Jessica! It’s not my style, but it suits you! Everyone has their own style and that’s a beautiful thing. 😊

  • @Mobile_Dom
    @Mobile_Dom 4 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    "yeah, the disability of giant peticoats" Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn, Claud going for the throat here :P

  • @morganday6280
    @morganday6280 4 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    To Claudia's point that "as a child you must ask why am I sick all the time?" Only speaking from my personal experience I feel like as a kid I didn't really realise that I was sick more than other people. The only colds I've ever had last at least a month, frequently all winter long, and included bronchitis and strep throat. It wasn't until I was around 10 that I realised that wasn't "normal." It felt similar to how some kids could run faster, or others were good at drawing, some kids wouldn't get sick as often.

  • @jesyheller199
    @jesyheller199 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Woah woah wait you have EDS? Was your MCTD dx changed to EDS? I also have EDS(#3) and started watching your channel during your Malaysia trips and was AMAZED at how manageable you made traveling look while having a connective tissue issue. I kind of saw you as my disability cousin from across the pond, but were disability twinsies!!!!! (I too am a vintage loving, lgbt, red haired Jessica)

  • @thepoppyvalentine
    @thepoppyvalentine 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Jessica's other disability: "THOSE HUGE PETTICOATS!"

  • @cinda2030
    @cinda2030 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I was recently diagnosed with fibromyalgia a few days ago and I've just been binge watching Jess and Claud to remind myself that even with a chronic illness, I can still live a happy and fulfilling life

    • @LS-sg8rb
      @LS-sg8rb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You really can. I have fibro, and trigger point injections and a nightly muscle relaxant have given me back my life. (Enough so that I wondered if I was better, but this pandemic taught me that no, just well managed.)

  • @gigidodson
    @gigidodson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +180

    I have a cronic disease. I have zero immune system. 70% of your immune system is in your intestines, and ive had 60% of mine surgically removed.
    I have crohn's disease which is an autoimmune disease so im prone to ALL autoimmune diseases. Ive developed rheumatoid arthritis and several others. And all have become allergic to every "used" medication theyve tried.
    I look "normal" but im far from. Even my family are whats wrong with you. Why dont you do this? Or that? Or the other?
    I get so tired of it.
    So God bless you. Cronic illness is something you cant see. But its still there.

    • @shalacarter6658
      @shalacarter6658 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Amen, Gigi! Crohn's is a terrible disease. And not having an immune system sucks. My younger son has an auto-immune disease.
      Sometimes, I think we should get tats on our foreheads to answer the most annoying questions. We can just point.

    • @gigidodson
      @gigidodson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@shalacarter6658 ❤

    • @tealcookies8967
      @tealcookies8967 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Auto-immune buddies

    • @crohnsieasmr1912
      @crohnsieasmr1912 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Also have crohn's! It's terrible.

    • @GrayShadowOfNight
      @GrayShadowOfNight 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      God I hate how I kept explaining myself to my parent, but she keeps .... Forgetting? That I am not able to do certain things... Or need more sleep and rest and that even just getting groceries exhausts me.
      I'm glad I'm living on my own where I can do things at my own pace
      But being labeled as lazy again and again feels so unfair
      My 100% is someone else's 20%... That makes me always give my all, but there's just zero awareness from the other side

  • @chrisgodden30
    @chrisgodden30 4 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    Claudia's look of bliss every time Jessica strokes her hair 😍😂😂😂

  • @hopegold883
    @hopegold883 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Vlogmas is dangerous. I seem to have gotten into the habit of watching Jess first thing every morning. Wake up. Meditate. Feel depressed. Jessica’s Vlogmas!!
    What will I do when it’s over? 😳

    • @tejaswoman
      @tejaswoman ปีที่แล้ว

      Watch your favorite ones again? 😉

  • @MouldyMilkshake
    @MouldyMilkshake 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    My uncle is 44 and has cerebral palsy and is in a wheelchair and sooo many people baby him. He also has been asked how long he’s got left as if he’s dying??? (He can’t speak so either my nanna, granda or one of his carers have to correct the person)

    • @shalacarter6658
      @shalacarter6658 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Wowwwwwwwwww! I have family members with CP and also friends. It's different for each person, which makes it a difficult problem to explain.

    • @MissRnH
      @MissRnH 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Woah, people actually have the audacity to ask that?! I'd be livid!

  • @katharinajohnson2761
    @katharinajohnson2761 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    The way you look at Claudia so intensely while lipreading (I think) is so beautiful. I hope the people I love look at me that way too :)
    Also, I've always thought Claudia's voice is lovely and quite soothing.

  • @soleilmarshall8865
    @soleilmarshall8865 4 ปีที่แล้ว +148

    You two are so cute, it makes me so hopeful for when i have a wife someday 😭❤️

    • @NYLazyme
      @NYLazyme 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Same, hang in there fellow stranger/citizen of the internet, someone will come and you'll love them and they'll love you as well 👍

  • @darrellmalory5418
    @darrellmalory5418 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Primolut N isn't a birth control but it is period control, it stops the lining of your uterus from forming so you don't bleed. It's been amazing for controling my period related hEDS symptoms.

    • @bradandmawm3630
      @bradandmawm3630 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I take this (norethindrone is the generic name) as well and it's changed my life

    • @LifeLostSoul
      @LifeLostSoul 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nvm first my comment...
      According to Google it's used as a birth control, literally one I have been on before. Brand name Nora-Be is the one I was on. It's also more commonly known as the mini pill.
      The way this birth control works is not by stopping ovulation.
      It only stops ovulation in about half of the people taking it.
      "Norethindrone (a form of progestin) is a hormone that prevents pregnancy by making vaginal fluid thicker to help prevent sperm from reaching an egg (fertilization) and changing the lining of the uterus (womb) to prevent attachment of a fertilized egg."
      www.webmd.com/drugs/2/drug-64333/nora-be-oral/details
      This is a pill that is a really good option for people who can't take both control that has estrogen. Like a lot of people with menstrual migraines estrogen will make those migraines just so much worst. It also just seems to have less side effects.

  • @sweettangerines8182
    @sweettangerines8182 4 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    You guys inspired me to get up and have a shower and sort myself out. And tomorrow I'm determined to get out of the house with my little boy and go to the shop or the park or something. Thank you. X

    • @shalacarter6658
      @shalacarter6658 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You go!

    • @sweettangerines8182
      @sweettangerines8182 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@shalacarter6658 thanks ❤️ I know it doesn't sound like much

    • @emmynoether9540
      @emmynoether9540 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@sweettangerines8182 I can relate. For some of us those things are achievements and we are allowed to be proud. So here, I am proud of you. :)

    • @tejaswoman
      @tejaswoman ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@sweettangerines8182believe me, I'm lying here watching this having not gotten dressed in a couple of days and not having washed my face or hair in longer than that. For some of us, whether our challenges are physical or mental or emotional or a combination of all of the above, each bit of effort merits applause. Here's yours 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @Nirmadify
    @Nirmadify 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Claudia doesn't need make-up, which is totally unfair, she is totally gorgeous as is 🙂 not flirting just stating the obvious

  • @stjarna3109
    @stjarna3109 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Claudia is such an amazing and beautiful soul. Everyone needs Claudia in their live . Sending you both much ( love

  • @Carol-Bell
    @Carol-Bell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    You two are so funny together! My favorite part is that you are best friends and mutually admire and respect each other. And I think it’s rude and disrespectful to ask anything about intimate or personal things (like sex or going to the toilet), and I’m impressed at how gracious you were about answering those questions. It’s nobody’s business.

    • @HOHNancy
      @HOHNancy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I noticed that too...I agree with you. 🙂

  • @probablymoons
    @probablymoons 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    the part about talking into Jessicas shoulder made my heart melt tho

  • @passiveghosts9767
    @passiveghosts9767 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Jessica: Family Friendly!
    Claudia: I was, what was you talking about?
    Jessica: :>

  • @tann8815
    @tann8815 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    "It doesn't feel like that to me" brings it home as someone with chronic disability it always feels like you aren't doing enough so you push yourself to hard

  • @LillyAlara
    @LillyAlara 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I have so needed to hear you talk about some of the more personal bits of your disabilities Jess, it's so isolating to think you're the only one dealing with certain issues. Especially when, clearly you're not the only one, but it feels that way some days no matter how much you tell yourself that you're not alone in this. Thanks so much for all you do!

  • @alysonshorthouse8858
    @alysonshorthouse8858 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Watching this video AFTER the pregnancy announcement and Jess's video about their struggle to get pregnant was a little heartbreaking and uplifting at the same time. Love you both so much x

  • @anyaebao8997
    @anyaebao8997 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    I wish you and Molly Burke would do a collab someday that must be so fun and interesting!

    • @chapplepeach29
      @chapplepeach29 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I was thinking that when I watched this video!!!!!

  • @KindCountsDeb3773
    @KindCountsDeb3773 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    At 17:47 When Claudia compliments Jessica, Jessica takes it in, seriously, no laughs, just a calm thank you. OH, and for others : A dummy is a pacifier. Your welcome. lol

    • @tejaswoman
      @tejaswoman ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh, thank you. I thought they meant the alternative name for a ventriloquist wooden figure. Have to add that to my mental list of vocabulary that's different on each side of the pond.

    • @KindCountsDeb3773
      @KindCountsDeb3773 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are right!@@tejaswoman

  • @dylnpickl846
    @dylnpickl846 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Claudia not understanding the question on infantilization warmed my heart more than anything could have. What a star human, honestly. Just A+.

  • @Aleksa_Milicevic
    @Aleksa_Milicevic 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Vlogmas 2019 Day 19: Discontinued Hair 😅

  • @aprildawnsunshine4326
    @aprildawnsunshine4326 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I had to pause at the petticoats joke because I was laughing too hard! Lol! Now I'm thinking about my difficulties with either spanx or a corset or girdle etc. on and yup when I wear petticoats it's a huge issue going to the bathroom! 😂😂😂💜🥄💜

  • @kittynekocat
    @kittynekocat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +100

    With the "infantilising" question, I think it probablh helps that mentally Jessica is still the same as any other adult. My Mum had an early onset form of dementia called FTD that changed her personality and it did change the mother daughter dynamic quite a bit

    • @1901180108
      @1901180108 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      I get what you're trying to say here, but I just want to add that adults with developmental or cognitive disabilities are definitely still adults and should definitely still be treated as adults.

    • @tealkerberus748
      @tealkerberus748 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Sarah cross reference to the vids about Quakerism. Children shouldn't be treated as people commonly treat children either.

    • @mmtruooao8377
      @mmtruooao8377 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I think there is quite a bit of bias that a lot of people have to look down on disabled people and if you come from that mindset it can genuinely take a bit of work to challenge that belief to ensure you approach everyone with respect

    • @Rachel-fi4sc
      @Rachel-fi4sc 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Semi unrelated, but have you heard of the play Plagues and Tangles?

    • @nutzer118
      @nutzer118 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      When I was a teenager, I used to help out at a nursing home and spent a lot of time with people with dementia and I was extremely unsure about how to treat them, because obviously they were older than me and I wanted to treat them with respect, but some of them had the comprehension of children. I‘m definitely not an expert, but for me the main difference was that elderly people with dementia aren‘t able to learn and remember new things like children.

  • @MissRnH
    @MissRnH 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    About the question at 10:49: I remember Jessica mentioning this in an older video... When Jessica was 18 (I believe), she was sad about a breakup. Her father took her to a Collectif clothing shop (a rather pricy vintage clothing store), and told her she could pick any two outfits/items that she likes and he would buy it for her. It was there that Jessica realized she has always loved the vintage style and it is what she feels her best in.

    • @tejaswoman
      @tejaswoman ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh! Now all of a sudden I have the most marvelous idea for a crossover between favorite TH-camrs - Andrea's Fashion Galaxy did a video once where she went to a charity shop in an upscale area, can't think of the name of it nor can I remember whether it was in a part of London or outside of London - and she got some amazing designer stuff for much, much, much more reasonable prices. I wonder if there would be any way for her and Jessica to team up to go to an area like that, with Andrea looking for current clothes and Jessica looking for vintage. (Obviously there are some limitations to this notion with regard to where each of them lives, respectively, in relationship to where the vintage shop area is where would be. But still it could be just delightful.)

  • @KaaSerpent
    @KaaSerpent 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Seriously, before the 'voice' question, I was thinking how much I like Claudia's voice. I think she has a very nice voice.

  • @AwesomeOpenSource
    @AwesomeOpenSource 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    "Because it makes me happy." Best answer ever. Well done.

  • @luqicharmz
    @luqicharmz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Getting an IUD has been a life changer. It was the last option we tried before considering a hysterectomy.

  • @chelseamesl5224
    @chelseamesl5224 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Anyone else just love Claud 🥰❤️😍

  • @calliope720
    @calliope720 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I'm so glad you answered the question about using a wheelchair when you can walk some! My partner uses a wheelchair because he has cerebral palsy, but he can "walk" quite a bit, though only on his knees. His legs do not extend all the way and are locked at a nearly 90 degree angle at the knee, so his knees are very callused like feet and he never uses the wheelchair at home or in other people's homes - only in public. It often freaks people out who aren't expecting it when he descends to the floor and starts shuffling around after they've only known him to use the chair. Disabilities can look like anything! All people learn the best and most efficient ways to survive and navigate the world around them! Sometimes wheelchairs are useful for very specific situations only. :)

  • @sarablack2118
    @sarablack2118 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I've never watched your videos before, but your Frequently Asked Questions video was on my recommend so now I've been binge watching your channel and I just need you to know that you are possibly the most lovely person I've ever seen. You're so sweet, your voice is beautiful, and I love your personality! You are a brilliant human being!

  • @vidincrisis
    @vidincrisis 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    You two should start a podcast! You have the most soothing voices

  • @DarnieWarnie
    @DarnieWarnie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I always miss out on asking these things as I never see them....one day I'll get there!

  • @emmajane4989
    @emmajane4989 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I taught my boyfriend how to say hello lovely people today💕

  • @notadev1590
    @notadev1590 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm a bit late here but on the point of [not] infantalising your partner, I think it also stems from the societal view that needing help, in general, somehow makes you less than.
    Everybody requires help and relies on others in many ways, even if we refuse to admit it sometimes. Needing help isn't an excuse to deny someone's humanity and autonomy, and an attitude like that is entirely reductive.

  • @MachkasterOnTheRoof
    @MachkasterOnTheRoof 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    You two are absolutely adorable! 😂 Claudia especially. I wish she was my friend. She is so genuine.

  • @shalacarter6658
    @shalacarter6658 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Braille is difficult. They start you out with training your fingers. I agree with Jessica. Check out to see if you can read Braille the next time you see some.

    • @ivetterodriguez1994
      @ivetterodriguez1994 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was born with low vision and I was taught braille from when I was 6 up to when I was 8. I can only recall that "a" and capitalization is a dot, that I mixed up b and c a lot, that the letter v looked like a backward L, Oh and that i and e are two diagonal dots. And I can only remember how to type an o on a braille typewriter. Anyway, they eventually gave up teaching me because I would look at the braille when I should only be feeling it. Now I just use large print font size 18.

  • @rebeccaude4412
    @rebeccaude4412 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You two crack me up😂! You sound like my husband & I, where we make jabs at each other & are just playing around, yet others think we are being mean to each other! Sometimes I wonder..."Are people so used to seeing drama & arguments on television, they have forgotten to pay attention to others body language & only focus on the words"? If we are laughing so hard that we’re trying to catch our breath...there is probably not an issue there🤷🏼‍♀️! It makes me sad that there are people who see every action as negative, I always wonder if they see things that way
    b/c their home life is a negative place instead of a warm, happy & safe place. Hopefully they find joy in something, it doesn’t have to be a big deal! You two bantering & laughing makes my heart warm, what is better than seeing or hearing people who love each other enjoying each other’s company? Sending my love 🤗💜🦋😘🐾🐾

  • @rainepenny7900
    @rainepenny7900 4 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    I can’t stop staring at the tendon in Jessica’s neck I personally think that is the most attractive thing ever

  • @katierushworth5984
    @katierushworth5984 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I get the words thing. I often get orange and green mixed up... thats a weird one. ( i thought it was part of my dyslexia)

    • @sbjade9812
      @sbjade9812 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I get orange and green mixed up too ! Also lowercase b and d, tho I don’t have dyslexia....

    • @sugaredoleander409
      @sugaredoleander409 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      yes, same here, especially colours. i've also said lamp when i meant ceiling, stuff just vaguely in the same category gets switched sometimes. weirdly enough, i don't have dyslexia, i speak several languages, so otherwise everything seems to be "normal", i just tend to swap words quite a bit. i was quite sure i was alone in that

    • @sugaredoleander409
      @sugaredoleander409 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      actually, come to think of it, i also get lowercase b and d mixed up, not in the latin alphabet but cyrillic. б and д. they're not even similar-looking in cyrillic?? brains are weird.

    • @nobodyyo
      @nobodyyo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I forget words and there spelling a lot, for example I've called a pharmacy medicine people because I can't remember the word

  • @elizabethbailey1305
    @elizabethbailey1305 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I want this quality of a relationship. Wow, y’all are so sweet

  • @hadar2805
    @hadar2805 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    How does Jessica read her lips? They look so unclear. It’s a superpower

  • @wriggleby
    @wriggleby 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    They're so perfect for each other and they're both so gorgeous oml

  • @-augar2471
    @-augar2471 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    When you get asked "what's wrong with you?", don't you sometimes want to say "What makes you think something's wrong with me?"? I personally get really tired of that question. "Do you mind if I ask what's wrong with you?" Sometimes I say "Yes I do" and keep walking.

  • @sarahjo5570
    @sarahjo5570 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I'm having a very slow paced but productive day and your videos always make me feel less alone about not always having the energy to like gogogogogogogo you know? And they make me smile because you two are so fun

  • @thelizardthatkatyaburnt4743
    @thelizardthatkatyaburnt4743 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    "well we can kiss we're a married couple"
    "oh yes- of course... sorry"
    "what else were you talking about"
    "n-nothing"
    "oh"
    *both looks straight at the camera*

  • @JoslinL
    @JoslinL 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    This is absolutely hilarious!

  • @Yandolito
    @Yandolito 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Again! You and Claudia are so good together. And hilarious people 🤣❤️

  • @veros.9318
    @veros.9318 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    My ex infantalised me and i hated it so much!!! I was after a surgery and in pain. I didn't want 50 kisses on my cheek... He was very confused and helpless...

    • @ChickenOfAwesome
      @ChickenOfAwesome 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      It's really tough being on the other side of it. It's taken my other half a year to train me to give her space when she's in pain and not to smother her - it's just my natural inclination to cuddle her when she's feeling awful. Still, we have to be willing to change our behaviour sometimes for the ones we love, so it sounds like your ex wasn't up to that challenge!

  • @compulsive_jaywalker1861
    @compulsive_jaywalker1861 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I wish you guys knew how much you inspire me, your relationship is beautiful 💖💖💖

  • @marogers01
    @marogers01 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Have you ever been tested for a spinal fluid leak? A lot of people with EDS have spinal fluid leaks. That could explain your migraines. (Sorry to tack on another potential illness!)

    • @shalacarter6658
      @shalacarter6658 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yes, she had a test at some point and her spinal fluid leaked and messed up some of her brain. there is a video (or ten) about it.

    • @goodandgreen
      @goodandgreen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      There are different kinds of leaks, I think you two are not talking about the same thing. Jessica only recently found out about having EDS and she has not shared about testing for a chronic leak due to connective tissue issues. She has posted about a hospital procedure gone wrong in her past. Please let’s be civil

  • @elizabethandrade6395
    @elizabethandrade6395 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I absolutely love your videos!!
    And you are right it is all about finding the right person. When I am down on myself because I had a bad day and didn't get what I wanted to done because I simply couldn't. My husband always reminds me to make allowances for my bad days and not be so hard on myself.

  • @ymoriel
    @ymoriel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You two are soo cute and wonderful.. I feel the Love in the air ❤️❤️❤️

  • @basicvampire5834
    @basicvampire5834 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Great daily Jessica content leading up Christmas. It's especially making things easier for my first Christmas after my uncle's death.
    (Sorry if that's really depressing, but I'm just so thankful for Jessica's content.)

  • @avasmommy040608
    @avasmommy040608 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Hi! I’m new and just want to say you both are so adorable together ❤️

  • @hellokristi
    @hellokristi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The two of you are actual magic!
    Jessica, I would love to see you wearing fabulous vintage-looking glasses with impact resistant lenses to protect your healthy eye! 🤓👓

  • @Andresfin
    @Andresfin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So because of my EDS and MG I have become afraid to go to the eye doctor because every time I go it gets worse and worse like this past month I went to get my eyes checked because I need a new glasses and it took so long she kept getting frustrated because she couldn't get my eyes to 20/20. Now I have another specialist I have to see. 🤦 Really hate being sick. Love the video you both make me feel better about being a someone with a chronic illness or two 😂

  • @DarkestDeeds
    @DarkestDeeds 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You might like henna branded hair products if you always use red! It gives the most natural beautiful and lasting red. It also has natural highlights since it coats your hair strands kind of like putting a clear colored plastic over a light.

    • @emmynoether9540
      @emmynoether9540 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I learned that you can't mix henna and chemical hair dye. So you have to wait to let the hair grow out to switch. That would be impractical for Jessicas long hair.

    • @DarkestDeeds
      @DarkestDeeds 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@emmynoether9540 Not necessarily. You need to do a test patch test and see how it reacts. Usually the problem comes from putting regular dye over henna. Fresh dye is also more likely to react.

  • @Sue-pn7mq
    @Sue-pn7mq 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I do the same thing with my clothes, I have my own bold style and love sparkly makeup. Usually it’s that people see first instead of the health issues I have.

  • @waltermachnicz5490
    @waltermachnicz5490 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My brothers and I have CMT, Charcot-Marie-Tooth Disease, discovered by French doctors.
    My mother took five years to find the one doctor east of Mississippi or in country that recognized it. No cure, no treatment, variable oncet, variable prognosis.
    Actually a genetic disorder not disease.
    I hate the blank look when I say I have CMT and the difficulty explaining.
    Love your open honesty and courage.

    • @waltermachnicz5490
      @waltermachnicz5490 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      The way you dress makes me happy too! As good as personality!

  • @ellietozer5016
    @ellietozer5016 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Ah this video sounds like it will be a good one lol!

  • @that_idiot_helios
    @that_idiot_helios 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "With the disability of humongous petticoats" 😂😂😂love that

  • @lilkatdevil
    @lilkatdevil 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love your partnership! I have a semi seminar one to my husband, and it’s great to see that in other couples! Teamwork!

  • @jessicacarron8117
    @jessicacarron8117 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I belong to a Jessica club. (There’s only a few of us lol) You are lovely and absolutely a top notch Jessica.
    We like to dress up in beautiful dresses (cast off bridesmaid, prom, wedding or other fancy dresses) and have tea parties. We discuss the state of things (the world or our lives depending on how things are going)
    You’d fit right in.
    Thank you for being such a wonderful, open, honest, bright soul. I love your style. I am so very happy we share the name

  • @tabiandro
    @tabiandro 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The petticoat disability made me laugh so hard! I love those little moments between you two ❤️. So adorable and pure. Take care-happy holidays 🎄🥳

  • @diabolicaldebbie
    @diabolicaldebbie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm new to watching your videos. I accidentally stumbled across it and I was glad I discovered your TH-cam channel. Jessica, dont ever change. You're perfect just the way you are. A natural beauty with a vintage look, graceful, elegant and intelligent. 🤗💖Love sent from Sydney, Australia